It's amazing how much more interesting youtube is than tv or even netflix.

@kima2567

5 жыл бұрын

I have since learnt this and am not gonna unlearn!

@RG-hf4et

5 жыл бұрын

I hardly ever watch tv. I am always on youtube.

@hallelujah88

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I thought I was being cultivated, but honestly I learn and grow so much! And am entertained when needed :)

@hopem.9979

4 жыл бұрын

Totally agree

@ranjeetbahadur

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with you

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice. Shame on me. My ex cheated on me for three months with a woman who turned him down years earlier. At the same time he was cheating he was talking to me about getting engaged, where we would get married, etc. When I discovered the affair I confronted him and the other person. I gave him a second chance on the basis that neither party would ever communicate with the other again. Both agreed. A year later I found out they were still in contact with one another, so I ended the relationship immediately. Ironically they are not together now. It's one thing to give someone a second chance, but don't ever allow them a third chance to take advantage of you. Life is short. Walk away.

@edunlap6594

4 жыл бұрын

Lesson: When your partner cheats never ever give a second chance. They were laughing about it together behind your back.

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567

4 жыл бұрын

We don't know that. Try not to rub salt in the wound

@shespawntwin1

4 жыл бұрын

@@danielkelvin1036 if you believe someone is unfaithful, not just once, but a constant thought, you should end it. If you want to hack your partners accounts, etc - You have a problem. The fact is, if they are cheating- you were paranoid the whole time even with proof. If they weren't, you were paranoid the whole time and distrustful. If one's reactioning is to hack and scam, then you shouldn't be with them, or anyone, because of mistrust ( founded or not). Not to say if there is cheating someone should stay. That is your choice. If you feel like you can't, then don't. This woman, esther, is talking about people who want to stay together despite an infidelity. I've had someone cheat, and I moved on. I was able to deal. Many can not. This is ok.

@elizabethmartinez2048

4 жыл бұрын

@Gibson Trevor Oh I am sorry that happened. It hurts. I have always been cheated on. I have never cheated on someone. I was even tempted by another man but I said I will not do it. It is my integrity. later I find out that my boyfriend doesn't even love me. He just wants a body. Ugh it hurts. this after I forgave him for a cheating on me in 2014 and I quickly dumped him. Shame on me I guess but dam it hurts because I was willing to open my heart again. Next time I will open my heart to another but not this guy. Good luck on your healing process and open your heart again. There are to many people in this world. Love, Light, and healing to you.

@leeboriack8054

4 жыл бұрын

Beatrice, I feel your pain, been there. When meeting new people I encourage to show their true colors and do not expect them to change. Either it's a fit or not or just a short term relationship.

INFIDELITY is a symptom of a CORE ISSUE - Therefore, is NOT the betrayed partner's job or responsibility to FIX the cheater's CORE ISSUE!

@canadianaja8030

3 жыл бұрын

It is the responsibility of the betrayed partner to dump that cheater as fast as possible. NEVER be second best, run and never look back. Affairs can never be forgiven because the trust can never be restored. The affair will be always in the betrayed partner's mind, they may deny it but it's deep in there. Even years later it's back there in the mind.

My ex cheated on me. Being cheated on, betrayed, is the most painful thing one should endure in his/her life... Now i have chosen to move on and recover myself. We can do this guys ❤️

@nickolazcarters

Жыл бұрын

Me too 😭😭😭 how did you do it ?

@standground7956

Жыл бұрын

*You should forgive a cheater and move on remembering the good times (regardless of length of relationship). You should never confront a cheater showing anger, frustration and upset because it’s meaningless; It’s only an ego stroke for them. Cheaters don’t care what you think, how you feel or how it affects you, that’s why they don’t consult with you before starting something with someone else. Cheaters pretend remorseful when their caught, some will provide an Oscar worthy performance. Ending a relationship with a cheater is the most unselfish thing you could ever do for someone else. It allows them to opportunity to have a clear conscience, get with others guilt free without all the misleading and sneaking around. Forgiveness does not mean you have to stay. It’s important to understand this in order to move on.*

@CatsAreNiceMeow

Жыл бұрын

I hope you left the jerk!

@randomperson8913

Жыл бұрын

This lady speaking here makes it sound like it's no big deal. I do agree with you tho, it is the most painful thing

@randomperson8913

Жыл бұрын

@@standground7956 what good times? Really, I think you mean the fake times.

I love Ester, however there is one obvious issue here- She says the people she sees in her office are not repeat cheaters, and I believe her. However repeat cheaters tend not to seek therapy. Typically those with a narcissistic orientation tend not to seek therapy. Cheaters who aren't working on themselves or relationships may well repeat and may be more likely to do so.

@mljrotag6343

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, some self selection here.

@aquartz8922

3 жыл бұрын

A narcissist will go to therapy to prove he or she is not a narcissist. They are strong manipulators.

@mauriciolarrosa6908

3 жыл бұрын

Do you Know my ex Olga Abaskalova ? Lol

@mauriciolarrosa6908

3 жыл бұрын

That’s completely true what you said and I can confirm this ,my ex being doing this I guess to her ex boyfriend on vacataion travel and now me ...she even travel to the other side of the world to cheat..that’s really is a classy cheater

@marimetr4261

3 жыл бұрын

I believe if a person who was cheating thinking they have the right to cheat because they make themselves good reasons why they should continue cheating. I had a guy at work who said my wife is useless she sick so that's the reason why I cheating to satisfy my own needs. It was interesting why he thought that way he just made a excuse because she was working full-time job taking care of the kids cooking cleaning and taking care of his and her parents but he still was calling her useless but she was actually over working herself and she was too blind to see that he should help her doing some of those things but he did not care if she was working a lot he wanted her to work even more so he will have free time to cheating on her and still putting her down and argue with her later on like she is useless because she was not satisfying his sexual need which she could not satisfy because she could not be a different woman every night for him to make it more fun, existing and interesting for him.

I’m honestly rejecting guys who cheated even once on their exes. Because that’s a red flag to me

@zizi9028

3 жыл бұрын

YES! Me too! 🥺

@mr.selfdestruct9616

3 жыл бұрын

usually it’s the narcissistic and manipulative cheater who’s proud of their actions and confident in their abilities to get you to overlook that about them...

@hannahscott6604

3 жыл бұрын

@@duxmealux281 I met one who did

@Daniel-tx2vt

3 жыл бұрын

As you should.

@CrystalDatingCoach

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. What he did to her...he will do to you.

When you say someone was a good husband, son, brother......but cheated once. The problem with that statement is that when he cheated, it involved many bad behaviors like lying, sneaking, phone calls, excuses, planned dishonesty, using marital money.......so it is hard to say those amoral behaviors are ok.

@RedBull528

3 жыл бұрын

Well for me it was some back and forth texting that was flirty and went on for like an hour-ish at most but then I felt really shitty about it... then came clean... then got dumped. I want nothing more than to improve as a person now so that this never happens again, I just wish I had thought things through before I decided that a little momentary flirting would ever be worth losing out on the best relationship in my life. I don’t even know if I necessarily want her to give me a second chance. I know how hard it would be for her. But it does suck.

@blueseptember2174

2 жыл бұрын

@@RedBull528 okay, I need to understand. If the relationship was so amazing then why even do the momentary flirting?

@jaylynortiz9304

Жыл бұрын

@@blueseptember2174 because people are also individuals outside of their relationships and sometimes cheating has nothing to do with the relationship but has to do more with the individual and things they are going through and needing but don’t realize or express in a healthy way. It’s a destructive decision certainly but it’s also human, and no one is above being in a place where we make poor and harmful choices.

@blueseptember2174

Жыл бұрын

@@jaylynortiz9304 I think for some people maybe. My mind can't comprehend it because it seems so illogical. In my mind you don't mess with a good thing. Why self sabotage in an already hard world?

@jaylynortiz9304

Жыл бұрын

@@blueseptember2174 The act of cheating is illogical in a sense but it can be understood not always through reason and rationale but through empathy and understanding the psychological factors. There’s different circumstances and influences that can lead people to land into these decisions knowingly or unknowingly. It can not be understood one way universally or objectively. I’ve cheated in a relationship where I was abused and controlled and it was my way of putting a nail in the coffin because every time I tried to leave he wouldn’t allow it. It was also the first time I felt desired. That partner groomed me since 14 years old and wasn’t genuinely interested in me. On the other hand I was just cheated on with my current relationship and this was hard to process because we had a happy relationship in which we loved and respected one another. The issue here was a break down in our relationship in where my partner was feeling neglected and became frustrated trying to communicate that yet seeing no change and when attention from someone else happened to come along the mind began to justify to him why he could do that and why it was deserved. He found out that it was not worth it or what he wanted. He felt regret and remorse. When I cheated on my ex I didn’t feel much remorse, I felt bad about doing something deemed as wrong and for seeing that it was hurtful to him, but looking back I don’t regret it. My boyfriend now however regrets that this is a scar on our relationship that we are choosing to heal and move forward together but because we do love each other and see this is still a relationship we want, the poor decisions he made were mistakes that have huge consequences that will take time to heal and rebuild. It was a wake up call for the both of us. Of course I wish it never happened, and so does he but nonetheless it has and I had a choice to make as did he on what to do in the aftermath of such a devastating discovery. I totally would be justified in walking away from this relationship, and it’s not for everyone to chose to forgive and stay with a partner who cheated because it’s so personal and depends on what you can handle and feels safe, and then it depends on after examining all of the facts of you still somehow find goodness in your partner or in the relationship that you want to restore and transform or if that’s actually just distorted everything for you and you no longer find that you want to continue. Everyone has to make that choice themselves and there’s mo way of knowing how you will feel or react until you are in that position.

The trust bond is shattered. I tried to forgive but couldnt forget & it became all consuming 24/7 picturing the two of them together. It took YEARS for that image to fade away. The pain was non stop for a very long time. I won't go through that ever again. I'd rather be alone the rest of my life.

@Steffi5376

5 жыл бұрын

Are you two still together?

@RG-hf4et

5 жыл бұрын

Steffi A No. I am older. This happened 30 years ago. We dated for 2 years. I was feeling very good about our relationship when he abruptly ended it with no explanation. I suspected something happened with a new, younger coworker but couldn't prove it. He vehemently denied everything. I was crushed. Two months later, he reappeared begging to get back together. In the next few weeks, I found out everything from the woman. The mental & physical anguish was the worst imaginable pain I have ever gone through in my life. We went our separate ways & he died about 4 years later. It still took me years to get to a somewhat better place. Since then, I have learned to walk away from anyone who shows the first sign of acting inappropiately on any level. I have zero tolerance for bs. What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.

@Steffi5376

5 жыл бұрын

G R Thank you so much for sharing that with me and I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I myself have had my fair share with cheaters and I'm glad I never let myself get too involved and saw what they were before letting myself get too invested. It hurt a lot though, been almost a month and I'm not over it yet but I'm healing. Yes you are right, we shouldn't give damns about people who do not respect us in the first place, they do not deserve it. Stay strong! 💪

@RG-hf4et

5 жыл бұрын

Steffi A Thank you for your kind words. And I'm sorry to hear what you are going through right now. I learned the hard way not give more than your partner does. Make sure they keep investing in you. Just like a tennis match, both have to involved. Anything less = not enough interest on their part = time to move on. Better to be happily alone with your dog or cat than with being with someone playing with your heart & mind. All my best to you. You stay strong, too!💪💪💪《hugs》

@Steffi5376

5 жыл бұрын

G R Thank you, and same to you (:

This is SO good and a perspective that is rarely ever highlighted in our society. As someone who has been through cheating with their spouse, I can’t express how complex the situation truly is. It’s not as black and white as “the minute they cheat, I’m gone”. All thing have to be weighed and considered and a beautiful fruit can be born from forgiveness and change. Thank you Esther for offering a perspective that’s essentially unheard of in our current society. It’s helped to breathe life into my life. I hope this comment and video helps someone else who’s gone through this as well.

@alexmurd7

Жыл бұрын

Thank you! ❤️

@kachushankosha7776

Жыл бұрын

Thankyou for this feedback.

@TheSail2222

8 ай бұрын

Yes, so very true. Extremely complicated!!

@bretak74

8 ай бұрын

“As someone who has been through cheating with their spouse”: It’s interesting how you minimize responsibility for the cheater’s actions by presenting it as something that just happened to you both.

@ChakFan69

8 ай бұрын

Yeah, sounds like a cheater who wanted a justification for their terrible choices@@bretak74

They may never cheat again. But the mentality that allowed them so deeply betray a loved one will always be there.

If a person can't communicate he/she is unhappy in a relationship, then they will continue that pattern of stuckness till self realization , we can't make other people realize their errors etc, so once a cheater always a cheater can be true if the person does not realize their behaviour. Also ppl do make mistakes etc but would you want to hurt someone you love by infidelity? It only means you love yourself more that you decided to get your needs met without considering discussion with your partner . Such ppl shouldn't be in relationships because relationships need work , love ,patience etc .you should just love your mirror reflection

@KlaudiaGanancial

3 жыл бұрын

Truly

@silvanaatkinson3117

3 жыл бұрын

Y

@rabiajafferi1346

3 жыл бұрын

If you love someone you don’t cheat on them. Simple Simon!!!

I totally agree with Esther, I believe "Once a cheater, always a cheater" applies to narcissists only. Those guys don't seek therapy because in their minds "there is nothing wrong with them". The guys who cheats and seeks therapy to fix himself is not the narcissistic type.

@anjalychetty4991

2 жыл бұрын

Soo true

@sterlingarcher8441

Жыл бұрын

You do know women cheat at a rate of 70-80% and men cheat at 37%. Women also divorce at 80% rate compared to men . Men cheat because of options with no desire to lose his wife. Women are actively looking for a back up plan and cheat to leave.

@osmanisildak2448

Жыл бұрын

once a narcissist always a narcissist? hmmm true

@freshliving4199

Жыл бұрын

@@cc1658 A guy who sleeps with you before marriage shows no self control. He’s most likely going to cheat. Did you expect anything less?

@joebriggs5253

Жыл бұрын

Nah all cheaters are narcs and self centered.

Generally, you should not expect a person to change. People tend to not change, and previous behavior is the best predictor for future behavior. Something about that person made it so that they chose to cheat. It is a reflection of who they are on some level, whether that be a communication problem, a commitment problem, an impulse problem, etc. Never stay with someone on the basis that they will change. Also, let me add, cheating is a succession of many choices in a row. It wasn't one mistake. It was the mistake of flirting, of continuing to flirt, of continuous suggestive contact, and choice of a sexual touch, which then led to the choice of a kiss, and then further choices which led to sex. These are all in themselves unfaithful choices. Imagine the amount of individual references of behavior this cheater has made. The amount of stand-alone choices. This shows some fundamental issue with the person. And once again, do you want to base the continuation of a relationship on them changing, or on you being able to change them?

@RedBull528

3 жыл бұрын

Some people consider flirting once cheating even if nothing physical happened.

@debbiemiller529

2 жыл бұрын

Agree

@robn2171

2 жыл бұрын

Someone has been watching too much Dr. Phil.

@flaviovms

2 жыл бұрын

exactly

@heartribbonhairband

2 жыл бұрын

Solar you explained it perfectly! It's a multitude of decisions being made and that why it is so bad. To call cheating an accident is completely dismissive and downplaying what they did. That is also why I believe it is inherently an action of disrespect.

Studies show that once a cheater the probability of doing the same is 3 times more probable...and the sample of therapy clients is skewed already. Those who don't regret won't go there...

@mentak2593

4 жыл бұрын

In my own family I have seen an example of someone who cheated once and regretted it, and never cheated again in 40 years. I am sure many people are serial cheaters but sometimes it doesn't hurt to try if the cheating person puts in the work and it doesn't happen repeatedly.

I don’t want to forgive someone that chooses there sexual needs over our family, commitment, and trust.

@destinychild4659

3 жыл бұрын

You don´t have to. It´s totally your choice!

@KeyonnaD

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed!!!

@AbhinavChoudharyOfficial

2 жыл бұрын

you shouldn't. she is saying it because her whole profession depends on this. she will be out of job if cheaters didn't come to her for reconciliation. there is no point living with cheater and wasting more of your time

@debbiemiller529

2 жыл бұрын

True

@ninhbac04

2 жыл бұрын

Until it’s happened to you, it’s easy to say “I won’t” it’s not easy letting go of someone that you’ve trusted and built a relationship with

I was married for over 40yrs and in the end he cheated. With a nurse from work last Christmas I didn't think he was the type too cheat But it just goes too show you never realy know what a person is going too do. if anyone wants too cheat they will. We are going through a divorce now. I feel for all woman and men who are going through this terrible trauma. I will forgive but never forget.

@Abdulmajid-wp8jt

4 жыл бұрын

stay blessed 4ever ameen

@sandraaffun7622

4 жыл бұрын

I would never throw away 40yrs for 1 mistake. I will fight tooth and nail for us to recover from his mistake. I've been married 17years now.

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567

4 жыл бұрын

Everyone is different

@Abdulmajid-wp8jt

4 жыл бұрын

Yes everyone is different Loretta because everyone is writing there own story you r your writer stay blessed 4ever amen

@joec1212

4 жыл бұрын

@@sandraaffun7622 it all depends on how remorseful the cheater was. If it was multiple times etc etc. You'll be way more sad if he does it again and you spend 17 more years with him.

The No. 1 reason we cheat is because we become selfish. We think only of ourselves. The adrenaline of meeting in secrecy. The excitement of doing new things with someone new. The rush of getting caught, the fact that what the other doesn't know will not hurt them. It's not until one day we put ourselves in the other's place. Then, we start seeing the betrayal of loyalty to one. The pain of disillusion from the love once given. The lies that question every "I love you". No one deserves to be cheated on. Be responsible, be mature. If you are not truly happy or comfortable in your relationship, than leave. You are not leaving the other alone. You are freeing the other from finding what we all want. True happiness. I saw the pain in my wife and my children. The people on this earth I vowed to love and protect. I've seen them upset many times before. But that day I saw the great pain in them. Great pain only comes from great love. Is that not what we are all after? Final note to questioning being together. If BOTH couples TRULY except to WANT to make it work, than yes. Guaranteed. If you both tried and failed. One lied to the other.

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4 жыл бұрын

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@JesusGonzalez-mj5fn

4 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏🏼

@TJ-mw6bb

3 жыл бұрын

I agree, it is selfishness to cheat. And it will always come out, one way or another. The other person will sense something and the relationship will change. Why can't people be honest?

Esther is just so deep, nuanced, and "on it"! A breath of fresh air in our puritanical black and white American way of looking at things and looking for easy categories when life often isn't like that.

I would never be able to get over any act of cheating from a partner to ever be able to make it work again. No matter how much I loved them. The trust is shattered beyond repair.

@RG-hf4et

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I would rather have someone I love break up with me, be truthful and say I don't want to be in this relationship any more (for what ever reason-the reason doesn't matter) than to find out they cheated behind my back, lied, etc.....Sure, I would be hurt, maybe devastated but not to the point of how I would feel if someone cheated, lied over & over, etc....

@maylynbayani

3 жыл бұрын

True. Paranoia will always be part of the relationship and I just dont want that stress. I would have rather loved and lost than to stay with someone i cannot even trust

@TheEmmakathryn

2 жыл бұрын

The whole point of Esther's work is that it doesn't have to be. There are ways to heal from the betrayal. Not always, but it's not always the end of the relationship - it may just be the beginning of a necessary change within it.

@mostlyme910

2 жыл бұрын

LilJon12, note the use of ever, never, the finality in your words? I empathize with your hurt, but if you carry those into new relationships, it will replay the same story. Not being preachy, it's happened to me several times then I learnt this about myself.

@skydragon23101979

2 жыл бұрын

@@mostlyme910 I don’t know about you but every time I use absolutes in my dictionary usually Life would force me to eat my words later on.

She mentioned that cheating is a poor way of communicating. So true. I have three family members who had husbands who were poor communicators. All cheated.

@danielgreenwald4517

5 жыл бұрын

Koko Kosila No. To you, esther, and all who said that, cheating is not a poor way of communicating, it’s not a WAY of communicating at all. No one should use that as an “attempt” to communicate, no excuses for cheaters. Why aren’t there consequences for cheating???? You cheat you suffer. There’s only one solution for cheating, don’t do it

@lotuskoko

5 жыл бұрын

@@danielgreenwald4517 Do you have some kind of psychology background? Some expertise in the field of relationships? Cause Esther sure has quite a bit. You have a victim mentality by the way you articulate yourself, so I'm guessing not. In fairness to you, I don't have any professional experience in psychology (relationships or otherwise). But I don't live life using should've, could've, would've, either... looking to find fault with everyone else but myself. And btw, it doesn't take a degree to figure out that there are two ways of communicating - verbal and non. Do not look to me for your salvation - The Buddha.

@danielgreenwald4517

5 жыл бұрын

Koko Kosila I don’t have formal education in the field of psychology but so are 99% who’ve been hit by an assault of any sort. Does that mean they don’t have a right to demand and deserve justice? That their perpetrators shouldn’t pay for what they’ve done? Of course not. Victim mentality is that if someone sneezed in your direction you feel like a major victim. If someone assaulted you, you are a victim. A cheater is someone assaulting you. Have you have been attacked? It sounds like you may have and are dealing with it differently than I, which is fine, every one to get hit with something copes with it her or his way. Did you get justice for what happened to you? By me things will feel a lot more right, once my cheater pays the price for her cheating. And no, non verbal communication is not communication unless you know it got through. People are not mind readers, it’s basic in relationships that every couple needs to have open communication, it’s a foundation. Somethings bothering me, I should say it. And I can’t hide behind not being uncomfortable or not knowing how, it’s my SPOUSE. If I’m not comfortable with her then who am I comfortable with!!!! I can’t use that as an excuse for her having to read my mind

@ginl1981

5 жыл бұрын

@@lotuskoko that's right, you don't have professional experience in psychology, nor do you speak for whoever this hack of a doctor is. She sounds like someone enabling cheaters by patting them on the head and telling them that cheating is just part of their personality! Have you ever been on the receiving end of the cheating or do you just do it yourself? I've been both. I had an affair on my husband. We separated when I wanted to sleep with the other guy because I wanted to explore my feelings with him, but the whole time I was being seduced by this other man who was not my husband, he was courting someone else and sharing the same words with her he was sharing with me. And it's not like it was an impulse on his part. He could have stopped it if he was feeling really bad about it, but you know, he didn't tell his first wife when we first met and were fucking around online so I doubt he told his current wife about us fucking around and the supposed love affair we had. I also doubt he'd tell her about any of the other mistresses he has stashed else where because I'm pretty sure he did and still does. That's not someone who has a hard time communicating, that's someone who has a hard time keeping his lies straight. That's a sociopath.

@ginl1981

5 жыл бұрын

@@danielgreenwald4517 you're so right.

"That defines them as people who chose a rather lousy way to communicate certain things that they need a better language to communicate." So important. That opens the possibility of growth and healing for a couple. Destroying relationships because people don't know how to deal with what is happening in a truly mature way just perpetuates hurt and pain. Dealing with hurt and pain in a way that leads to growth and greater closeness is rare but worth it.

@voyance4elle

4 жыл бұрын

So true!!

@wanderlust9075

Жыл бұрын

true

@verajaynepalmer

Ай бұрын

I personally don't like shit sandwiches. Why do you?

Very few people will never cheat again within the same relatonship. I am sure it is possible, but really rare . I feel like I would rather separate from them myself. I can just imagine always wondering if they are thinking about it, missing it etc. Not to mention, walking on eggshells trying to keep them happy so they do not want to make that choice again .

@makeitcount2985

4 жыл бұрын

I agree with you. Once they cheat I know I can't trust them again.

@jerrybutler8917

4 жыл бұрын

Hell Yes !

@DeekayRaGod

2 жыл бұрын

😭😭

I have been married to my husband for 22 years and around 10 years ago I found out on Facebook that he was cheating. He continued to cheat on me with more than one women and over a few years of it happening , I cheated as well. I worked through it with him and it was incredibly hard and took a long time, some counseling and some real honest inner work but now we are sooo in love and balanced and into each other like never before. Why did I stay in the first place? I really love everything about him, how he loves me, even then, who he is and how he thinks all turn me on. I couldn't imagine my life without him. I was devastated when I found out, but it ended up being the best thing to ever happen in our relationship.

@geoffreydafliso5897

Жыл бұрын

You also cheated? You lowered yourself

@ThaboMalapile

4 ай бұрын

​@@saliberisha1000don't say happy cheaters please 😂😂😂😂😂🙏

Ms Perel.. you are a better person than I am. If you lie to me and live a double life in my presence, I am out. My own self esteem will not allow me to be disrespected in such a way. If the spouse is dissatisfied, then end it and go away.

@monsterstream4420

Ай бұрын

I'd like to respond to your comment... I believe that we can forgive and move on. We are capable. But just because we can forgive does not mean that it is ok to proceed in that direction and keep the relationship together. If you are a strong enough person, you can walk away from the individual who cheated and the relationship to demonstrate a point... to demonstrate your values and your principles. To demonstrate that you require appreciation and respect. Sometimes, maybe even many times the individual who cheated needs to be taught a lesson that he or she will never forget. It doesn't matter if he or she repents after you have departed the relationship, its about sending a message. Sending a message doesn't mean we're not capable of love or not capable of forgiveness or reconciliation. You are showing that other person and the people around you that you know your worth and you are publicly putting that worth on display for people to witness. I dated a woman who cheated on me. She didn't need to confess, i just knew. And i walked away from her. It hurt me to walk away because i really wanted to be with her, but i needed to send a message that i am to be respected and appreciated. I know what is best for me. I have no problem starting over. And i have no problem being single for a while until i meet someone else. Its ok to move on...we get over it and we mature even more. Dont do what Esther Perel would do. Do what you think is best for your life.

I cheated on my HS gf on the first year of college. This was 17 years ago. I have NEVER cheated since and I'll put my money that I'll never cheat again. I got cheated by my second gf and it was very devastating. But after the trauma was gone (took years) , I realized how much more committed I was to never put someone I love through that again. But don't be naive, keep good communication and avoid dangerous situations.

Love You and your way of thinking People eat (cheat) because they are hungry, hunger could be emotional, psychological or physical.

I think you are truly amazing! Everyone can learn something from you. Thankyou for making this available to us all, I personally appreciate it immensely.

Most times the partner whose been cheated on will not be able to trust the partner who cheated ever again and so there is no point in continuing with the relationship. The cuckolded partner experiences extreme pain and rejection and that is not something that is easy to repair added to the constant stress of the daily distrust.

@wanjiruwoman6503

4 жыл бұрын

So if you cheat it's just better for you guys to breakup?

@makeitcount2985

4 жыл бұрын

@@wanjiruwoman6503 if you can't trust the person again how can you be in a relationship with them!? 🙄

@wanjiruwoman6503

4 жыл бұрын

Okay so I cheated but my partner don't trust me no more I really want to make it up to him ...but it's not working at all

@makeitcount2985

4 жыл бұрын

@@wanjiruwoman6503 once trust is damaged often the partner who was cheated on will never be able to trust you again, there is nothing you can do to really make it up, how do you take away emotional pain, betrayal, disgust etc. Your relationship has been changed by your betrayal and it will never be the same again! 🙄

@quizatzhaderach3046

4 жыл бұрын

@@wanjiruwoman6503 sorry.you can and should try(f for nothing else than just for his self worth because i can guaranty you he doesn't feel like a man)but be prepared for the end of it.all you can do is be there for him,apologize to him a lot and specific apologies not that generic crap and try to make him feel like most desirable male on earth.it is difficult but if you do love him you'll try.just don't do more damage because you have no idea how devastating this can be for the future relationships he might be in..

Been there, and because of that Done that. The best thing to do is ending it. Nothing will ever be the same in the relationship. Great video and advice.. 👍🙏✌

The best advice I've heard in dealing with cheaters: if you feel like staying with someone who has cheated on you, will change your core spirit, it's best to leave. How do you know it will change you? If you become someone who is constantly anxious, uncomfortable, untrusting of your partner.

You are so insightful and your lectures and books are the place to go for me when I feel the need to understand more relationships. I sincerely hope someday you start teaching therapists and some of your scholars come to Bulgaria to work. I am in dire need of a good therapist who is searching for the truth and not repeating the dogmatic things they learned in school.

OMG Esther...you always give ta new side of point of view and common believe. It is always refreshing to watch your channel.

But there's a possibility that people who are serial cheaters are less likely to seek professional help because they are not seeing it as a problem. Hence, lowing down the percentage of serial cheaters in data collected in the clinical context.

I loved that answer!! You have to look at any situation as a case by case basis, because the totality of circumstances will always vary.

@piotrekmajkowski5422

2 жыл бұрын

That's relativisation. Everything vary. The problem is that the border was crossed. Next time it will be easier for that person. Your comment is like you were cheating or.. take sb back after cheating (becouse of fear or wellbeeing). I made my decision. I will not give sb another bullet to kill me when he/she already killed sb else.

An eye opening view of fidelity issue in a relationship. Thank you for posting this!

Oh. Wow. The last few ending statements are so powerful and refreshing and reassuring. Really brings healing...

I love how she approaches things, very honest and objective.

Cheating is a symptom of pure selfishness - a soul sickness, mental sickness, sometimes an addiction that's impossible to break without some type of help - "moral psychology" if you will - almost never remedied by the unaided will alone...

I just love you so much! What a truly inspiring woman you are! I’m already 33 years old but I want to say this with some humor: “when I grow up, I want to be like Esther Perel” :)

@CecilDSouza

5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. You are so right. Not a single note of hesitation in her speech.

@truthteller9522

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

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Cheated alot as a young teenager like 3-4 times. At 19 I've definitely matured enough. I stopped doing drugs and went to therapy so i can work on myself. Apologized to those I hurt and I'm currently in a healthy relationship. People can change it just takes work and accountability.

The problem is cheating doesn't just happen...you're well aware of it happening every step of the way when you meet your new love interest. You even thought about what your partner might think and still go ahead with it...

The issue is much more complex than approached and discussed here. 💓

You're the wisest. Can't wait for the next season of Where Should We Begin

That was incredibly compassionate. I don’t believe in giving someone a feee pass but it is good to value family. It’s easy to throw people away and I love that she encourages forgiveness.

Yes!!! Trusting what I see what I feel! Thank you Esther ❤️

Personally, i dont think i can commence a relationship with someone who cheated. Because what i can forgive and what i can forget are not always the same.

You need to give the person for your own well being because you will define your life just as must as you define there's forgiveness is the key to moving forward out of a traumatic situation,Esther is awesome

Amen! Don't let a Man or Woman Dumped you Twice. A one nite stand CAN be forgivable. But a Cheater is Professional liar. When he was with her...He constantly lied to you. Unforgivable.

As a lady that has gone through some share of emotional and psychological abuse from a narcissist i have learnt to run away when I see any traits of dishonesty and selfishness but sometimes you can’t really know until it happens and I discovered a way to find out before I become a victim again , I was cheated on and betrayed by my partner and blamed myself who his promiscuous behavior until I hacked his device and read through his chat and social media account before I discovered I was being played by someone I gave my totality to , really we have to be wise and know who to give our undying love and respect to, I have more information in my comment section

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I believe that if someone cheats after 15+ years of a solid relationship, forgiveness should be strongly accepted. If less than 3 years - pull the plug!

@amonzart2379

2 жыл бұрын

If 15 years didn´t mean anything when a cheater decided to deceive, Why should I consider get him/her back instead of move on and getting somenone better then? too much work just for fixing something got damaged so easly.

@standground7956

Жыл бұрын

*You should forgive a cheater and move on remembering the good times (regardless of length of relationship). Don’t hold a grudge or be mean spirited towards because they preferred to be with someone else and mislead you. One time is more than enough because cheaters think you deserve to be cheated on and made a conscious decision to betray you. You should never confront a cheater showing anger, frustration and upset because it’s meaningless; It’s only an ego stroke and laughing material for them. Cheaters don’t care what you think, how you feel or how their cheating affects you. Cheaters pretend to be remorseful when they’re caught, some will provide an Oscar worthy performance while crying saying they regret their actions. Ending a relationship with a cheater is the most unselfish thing you could ever do for someone else. It allows them to opportunity to have a clear conscience, get with others guilt free without all the misleading and sneaking around. Forgiveness does not mean you have to stay in the relationship. People can change, just let them change after you cut ties with them that way their a better version of themselves for their next relationship.* Am I wrong?

I completely agree with your assessment Esther. People change if they are given room to do so.

WOW, you are so intelligent and fascinating and intense. Your knowledge and understanding of our human behaviour are great. Wish I could have gotten your advice when it happened to me a couple of times in life. I think I will grove as a human being if I listen to you,

Once a cheater ,always a cheater 100 percent correct.

Why she gotta seduce us with her beautiful accent, mind and sassy hair right here in front of my dinner? The nerve!

@lolaispure4296

5 жыл бұрын

Candice Marquette Lol

@refreshingAnd

5 жыл бұрын

Ha ha ha!!! 😄

@fliplaw

5 жыл бұрын

lol you know what you were getting into when you clicked this video haha

@amaniahmed5481

5 жыл бұрын

😂

@prnzali2010

5 жыл бұрын

Lolol

Great topic and perspective!

Praise the Lord for this message. I feel like the world looks at me as a weak loser for granting forgiveness, choosing to not break apart my family of two young children, and fighting the TOUGH fight of restoration. They think I have no self worth when really I am far stronger than them because of the hard sacrifices I’ve made. All I can say is I wouldn’t want to be in a foxhole with most of society by my side. I am a man of faith and I’ll tell you…Jesus forgave me of all of my sins and I’m trying to be like Him. It wasn’t an easy life for Him and it’s not for the betrayed spouses out there. Also, when I took my vows, I said “For better OR WORSE”. Now I’m making the worse into something better. Thanks for this message.

@CHICKENLIFE336

5 ай бұрын

Couldn’t agree more about the strength it takes to heal and rebuild, walking away seems so much easier. How far are you into your journey with this?

Wow, this deservers more than an applause. This is a nobel prize winning speech. Outstanding.

Esther i really am addicted to your videos, you give a sense of hope. Thank you for your content.

Thanks Ester very relevant topic

Thanks for this video!!!!

For me, it's not even a question of recidivism because it doesn't matter if the unfaithful partner never cheats again. A self-actualized cheater can try their "new and improved" way to communicate their dissatisfaction with someone else. Therapy would only serve to discover what caused the disaster, in order not to repeat it in the next relationship.

She's right. Had i watched this at the time of the incident i would have had a few choice words to say but with 5 years distance and a better marriage now i can say she is right and what she says rings true from the lengthy discussions my husband and i have had over the years since we have come to the point of talking rationally about events.

@simonjh465

5 жыл бұрын

And those discussions can be really, really tough, cant they? They shake the foundations and you have to hang on sometimes. But talking honestly is the only way- for BOTH parties.

@ela_seo

Жыл бұрын

If I may ask, how has the relationship evolved in the meantime? Is it still good, better, or has it ended? Do you regret staying or are you happy you did?

you are so beautiful, but your mind is even more beautiful. thank you, Esther. I was able to release a lot of pain with this video.

Oh my god ,u have so much of insight ,I am sure so many people around the world must be relating to u

Man this is so hard. Going through this currently but it is helpful to know that things happen in relationships. They just do. Good or bad. Though it sucks when it does happen in good relationships cause I could never think of cheating. Agh. Stay strong peeps, I’m with ya!

@antoinelyons5323

2 жыл бұрын

Hope you heal and get therapy

@michelle-h

2 жыл бұрын

@@antoinelyons5323 thank you!!! :)))

@kirstinstrand6292

2 жыл бұрын

I never cheated, either. Even when I wanted! Find a Therapist with a minimum of 15 to 20 years. Good Luck. Life is a challenge for people who have empathy.

@michelle-h

2 жыл бұрын

@@kirstinstrand6292 Thanks so much. I needed to hear this. Me too. It’s really not even “tempting” to me. I’ll never understand, but you’re right. Empaths have it hard, don’t we? The world is way too hard to live in for us. Sending hugs!

@michelle-h

Жыл бұрын

@@Michael-bf1dt hey Michael! Thanks so much for saying this. It really made my day a bit more(: Have a wonderful and happy day🌹

Trusting your intuition is the most difficult

U open my eyes maam thnq so much Now I can take a good decision I have searched so many videos in this topic but u showed a positive path for me maam thnq

Brilliant lady.... listen everyone, don't even need to hear to the end.... Go Esther.... I love you in the right way

Whatever. You aren't "not a murderer" because you didn't murder someone for 10, 20, 30 years. You did it once and that's all that matters. It says a lot about your character. Once a cheater, always a cheater. It's not that hard not to lie and cheat. If you don't want the relationship, break up. Don't cheat.

@lovetrustandpixiedust

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Even if you only cheated once, cheating still takes some effort - the sneaky text messages, the secret plans - all while looking your partner in the eye and lying. I'll never be able to trust my partner again even if he promises he will never do it again.

@raebaby4600

3 жыл бұрын

They are "not a murderer" if they've gone for so long without killing and don't feel the need to do so anymore. Yes theres a chance it could happen again but thats how it is with literally everything. People can work on themselves and change over time. Yall saying that no matter what they'll still be trash (basically what you're saying) just makes them feel trapped like even if they work on themselves they'll never be able to be a good monogamous partner. It makes it even more difficult to work on it and yourself since you're just constantly being told you're going to fail. People recover from cheating and don't do it again. For you to say they don't just shows your ignorance about this and the other POV.

@batsholetsitrust9983

3 жыл бұрын

People change,anyone can change.Some people weren't trained or had examples of what a good man or woman is for them to emulate.. so what you emulate so well and find so easy to be isnt necessarily someone else's reality ...people have wounds ,issues from their upbringings.That they need to work out in therapy and need healing and re parenting,training.When you know better you do better with a healthy mind..healed and not from a bitter ,hurt, distorted view. Even you have things you're probably struggling to overcome,quit ,have your own short comings..do they define you ?absolutely not...not every cheat will always be a cheat. Because where theres a will theres a way.

@mandadinarayana4909

2 жыл бұрын

Men should know their value u don't want a women who doesn't respect u ...

@raebaby4600

2 жыл бұрын

@@mandadinarayana4909 is not always a respect issue

Generally a person who has a history of one behaviour is likely to repeat it. Ofc you can have different degrees of the problem and if adressed the person can change. This is how courts view criminal behaviour.

@MikeyBee-

5 жыл бұрын

Sometimes Reviews and thinking out loud. Courts are wrong ALOT of times

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@lumyb9064

4 жыл бұрын

That's true. Old habits die hard. Not to mention the logistics behind it all, if your partner makes sure 90% of your desires are met and you are willing to cheat and trade the 90% for the 10%, it shows narcissism, selfishness, stupidity, lack of self control and mainly some inner issues and compulsory behavior. Of course not all cheaters are stupid to willingly give up 90% for 10%, but they wish the 100% the best of both worlds, which is unrelistic, as humanity is limited biologically from ever achieving 100%, we are limited from feeling happy most of the time and only get tiny precious moments to satisfy and enlighten us and make our hard work worth it. Whoever doesn't realize this is on one way street to utter misery for himself and others.

@Julia36D

4 жыл бұрын

Criminal behaviour and cheating on your partner are two very different things. To be frank, I’ve known people who cheated and I honestly couldn’t blame them. Did I think that they should have left the relationship they were in? Yes. But could I fully understand why they did what they did given how their partner at the time was treating them? 100% yes.

@lumyb9064

4 жыл бұрын

@@Julia36D It's not criminal behavior, but it's essentially breaking the foundation of trust on which most marriages are built and with that, everything looses meaning and falls apart. The simple fact that people attempt to normalize cheating, makes the whole idea of marriage and vows a joke, because at the smallest inconvenience they will go cheat and it's most often an excuse to renounce the responsibilities the current partnership places on them and to restart that honey moon phase that every beginning of relationship and marriage has. It's an act of cowardice, immaturity and entitlement and the reason why many people have trust issues even before getting married. As someone that has seen one of my own friends and my ex-boyfriend's female friends touch him on his thighs, near the private areas and even telling him they are better than me and could have him at any times, i realized there are many people in this world that have no boundaries or dignity, so my entire trust hanged on my boyfriend's integrity and honesty, because i would never consume my time and life acting like a detective or forbidding social interactions with other women. However infidelity is advertised as perfectly natural for the males around me (all my male friends say: all men cheat) and things like taking your marriage seriously and spending more time at home than with the buddies out drinking are seen as "being whipped", which is why i will never be able to take a man's vows of commitment seriously, which at this point makes marriage worthless for me and with it also relationships and with this also most interactions with men. What people commonly don't realize are the social repercussions of trying to excuse infidelity, of witnessing many marriages fall apart because of it, alongside the current male narrative about how they are biologically inclined to polyamory, on people like me that do take such vows seriously, even if it means i will have to invest, compromise and sacrifice more than i would want to and the results are showing tbh, with declining marriage rates and increased divorces, even in countries with very different divorce and child-support policies than USA.

fantastic advice! gives me confidence about situation i am in

@lancedukel3436

2 жыл бұрын

Trust that cheaters suck. I prefer not to eat a shit sandwich, just sayin.

From 1:10 to 1:30 hits home for me. It explains my husband. I'd love for me and my husband to get counseling with Ms. Perel I know she could help us.

Esther, it seems to me like, when it comes to clarity in matters of relationships, your clarity seems to range from the most complex to the simplest... I feel it but I too want to experience and know it in my conscious mind like you do, that clarity. So that I can have a wonderful relationship when I get married. Thank you from India.

If they crossed a line that they did not know they would cross, then how do they know they would not cross a similar line if the circumstances were similar? Because it comes down to character, you are the type of person that will cheat or you are the type that won't.

@patrik5123

5 жыл бұрын

What a brilliantly cynical comment. So unless someone is infallible, they don't have "character"?

@blimeygirl4357

5 жыл бұрын

If you are judgmental you will never be able to understand why anything happens.

@57andstillkicking

5 жыл бұрын

Chris Sanchez Do not judge. If they crossed a line they did not know they would cross, the same could happen to you.

@lorettanericcio-bohlman567

4 жыл бұрын

Cross that line and keep on walking

@Daniel-tx2vt

3 жыл бұрын

@@patrik5123 oh so you have to be infallible not to cheat?

Always such *remarkable perspectives* and insights. ♥️

@readingsbycara

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Esther. 🙏 💜 💚

amazing; thank you Esther!

Why do I continue in a marriage that has caused me and my children so much pain over three decades of affairs, the lies and the heart breaking emotion of living with someone who professes to love us yet discarded us for one nite stands The terrible effect its had on me and my children and family life has been terrible. I truly thought keeping the family together was for the best, the childrens mental health and mine have been effected awfully and all for what. For us the cheating never stopped.

@matinaki1644

4 ай бұрын

That woman gives a free pass to unacceptable behavior. She must have had a cheating spouse, accepted his transgressions to save face and started making speeches on "forgiveness" to make money. Don't listen to her. Your gut and mind know better. Do what's best for you, not what some Esther says.

This general theme and method of refreshing a relationship is a singularly powerful concept that with the right perspective can really help people look at things as brand new. I really like the way she works to help people see that with this upfront and basic, honest approach. You can tell how well practiced and effective she is as a healer.

Every time I watch Ester I regain my faith in humankind

i would never profess to be able control what somebody "did to me"...which i don't necessarily think is the case with cheaters...but i can certainly control how i choose to deal with it.

In many cases, I don't believe people are bad, but people make bad choices. Agree with you there Esther. Narcissists tend to believe that they are "above the law" and can do whatever they want.

@jaimemarchese11

5 жыл бұрын

You make an excellent point and something I have been talking about for a week. As a person who made a bad choice, we have that reputation about ourselves that people judge us and make us seem like bad human beings. But are we? NO WAY! Good human beings can make bad choices. It's human nature. In fact, what do we have to gain if we don't make make poor decisions? Nothing... PS...I'm not a fan of narcissist for that fact! :-)

@MrQuagmire26

5 жыл бұрын

@@jaimemarchese11 Totally agree. Life puts us through challenges, and we're all just mortal human beings. Not a single one of us are flawless. No fan either. Used to be in a relationship with one. She made my life hell, and it took me 4 years to get rid of her.

What you say, Esther, is so true in my experience. I betrayed the trust of my wife before deciding to end the marriage and move on with someone else. Eventually, I had a small number of serious relationships where I confided (and accepted the blame) about my past with my new partner. What I wanted to convey is that I learned about cheating from the inside out, and now was fully committed to never allowing conditions for this to happen again. In other words, owning my past as a way to start with a clean slate. One partner was too insecure (due to having been betrayed by too many men) to accept my "rehabilitation," but the others came to appreciate my openness and trust my fidelity with little hesitation. All is well.

@quchi7232

3 жыл бұрын

You are a good man.

@blueseptember2174

2 жыл бұрын

Do you ever wish you had still been with your original wife?

@ronlight7013

2 жыл бұрын

@@blueseptember2174 In a word, no. My decision to leave was based on substantive relationship issues, so leaving the marriage was a rational (though hurtful!) response to the fraying of our relationship.

@lancedukel3436

2 жыл бұрын

@@ronlight7013 aww so you're a special unicorn.

such a different and intelligent view point. It our todays world having an affair is looked as an unforgiving crime but Ester very nicely showcases us how to go deep into the issue rather than just experiencing it on the periphery. Yes people cheat but circumstances define why he /she cheated??, I don't say cheating is good or should be practiced or taken lightly, it surely hurts, but we don't need to judge a person on just this one aspect of his/her life. there is a much deeper insight to it.

Very well spoken.

cheating is lying........humans will lie whenever it suits their ego. the question is how will the lie take shape? not why? because lie we can, lie we will. the truth is always the deep secret.

Ive endured 3 years of getting cheated on randomly with randoms...we had to delete all our social media AGAIN just to get peace..n idk how long itl last. Im starting to hate him after 9 years of being together. I think i already do. Even tho i say i love him...

@mentak2593

4 жыл бұрын

Ugh, that's terrible. I couldn't stay in that situation. Once almost killed me.

This was exceptionally wise. Thank you dear Esther ❤

Can i trust what I am sensing, can I trust my intuition. Learn to See what you see and to interpret what you see differently and if you feel certain thing again this time you know. And you make your decision. To express dissatisfaction, choose lousy ways to express, where Get stuck, Get out. Change relationship, or end.

To cheat is a bad verb to describe What really is going on. It is about love, passion, responsibility and... hurt. An affair is also to flirty, it isn't a boudoir either... R.E.S.P.E.C.T for Every one envolved, please.

@simonjh465

5 жыл бұрын

'Cheat' is an extremely powerful word and a 'master status'- it blames, it fixes, it stains, it justifies, it comforts in hurt, it bonds in fear and loss. What is does not do is repair, heal, accept, open; it does not allow for courage, growth, magnificence, respect, intimacy, movement towards a better place with yourself and any other who can journey with you. This requires a different vocabulary, but it may take a superhuman effort to begin talking it.

I’m in love with Esther!

Esther perel, you are a joy to all your followers 😊😊😊😊.

You are wonderful and inspiring woman

Loved this so much💓🌹Thank you Esther 🌱🌈⛅

I am a man who has cheated. Did it made me better. No. It feels like an invisible cage that intrap you. I don't have a desire to cheat. So now I am single. Perfection is such a hard thing to optain.

@msrenukamardi9712

3 жыл бұрын

Invisible cage ✅

@raebaby4600

3 жыл бұрын

Does it hurt when people say once a cheater always a cheater? It hurts me bc it made me feel like there was no point in even trying to change (I didnt work on myself and im good now btw) and that no matter what I'll always be that way.... was just wondering if this was your experience as well?

@tonileolion9702

2 жыл бұрын

Wow ur statement is very interesting!

@tonileolion9702

2 жыл бұрын

@@raebaby4600 do u know the actual reasons why u cheated? Was there anyone that u didn’t cheat on ? I’m just really curious I never knew it was like that hard to not be loyal and faithful but it seems like it is which is scary

Thanks for the video! Good advice.

You’re so right brilliant lady 👌

I dont really agree with her. When my husband and I got married we were both very clear with each other that we are there for each other but infidelity is a deal breaker, no excuses. If u want to have sex with someone else then off with u (and dont come back). It's a conscious choice your spouse or someone else. Not only does infidelity cause emotional damage but also exposes the spouse to STDs which are rampant these days, regardless of how careful people are.

What a wonderful and wise woman you are. Keep making all of this great content!

@oscarwilliamson1264

4 жыл бұрын

Anastasiya Enchanted ,you're so sweet and I will be glad to know you more

Thank You Esther ! 🌟

To all who are about to cheat or thinking about it: Don't Do It ! I used to cheated once on my ex and I feel so horrible days by days ever since, years pass now and I still never dare to cheat again Trust me, it not only destroy your partner but also yourself as well. You will come to regret it later and you'll find a hard time forgiving yourself. If you want to have fun, please just don't get into a relationship