Press Subscribe subprimals. Then take your hand off your penis and watch the full episode with Derek here - kzread.info/dash/bejne/m6Gty8WLc8i5ito.html

@saywhatyousay93

Жыл бұрын

"subprimals" watch the cliff buddy

@Ultramutante

Жыл бұрын

No! Your not my dad!

@REALVINERGY

Жыл бұрын

can't I do both simultaneously

@HunterFranqui

Жыл бұрын

Legendary pinned comment.

@rubenkrupper5259

Жыл бұрын

@@REALVINERGY you made water come out of my nose

No-Porn is infinitely more important than No-Fap. People ought to make that more clear.

@Joyboy0101

Жыл бұрын

@musclesimp keep spammin that dopamind button rat

@synchronium24

Жыл бұрын

@@user-ku7kf3ix5u based take

@sniperpronerfmods9811

Жыл бұрын

Haha you touch your self like a gay boy

@bengus2069

Жыл бұрын

Yes, many will notice that after quitting they hardly feel like fapping at all in comparison.

@curtharakaly4620

Жыл бұрын

@@mickethegoblin7167 please explain? How are they linked? You can jerk off without watching porn...and likewise you can watch porn without jerking off. As a 32 year old male I watched my "fair share", to put it lightly haha, of porn when I was younger. Albeit mainly vhs and dvd because we didn't have smartphones. But even then I didn't always need porn to fap. Also using intrinsically here doesn't make much sense unless the only way to fap was through porn. The definition of intrinsic is ; belonging naturally; essential. In what why are they essential to each other or belong naturally? I have watched porn maybe 3 times in the past 4 years, mainly to see what can and doesn't arouse me, yet fap every once in awhile, maybe 4-6 months in between, when I feel it's needed. But to say they are intrinsically linked just isn't true. Human's and animals even, have been masturbating for thousands of years before the advent of porn was even a thought.

Even if nofap had zero positive effects on its own, the amount of discipline and willpower necessary to do it, is gonna spill over and improve all other areas of your life.

@The-Strong-One

Жыл бұрын

Yup. The more you practice training the "off" centers of your brain the more strongly you can use it with anything that require a "No" to do.

@confusingcomic9682

Жыл бұрын

Read about the easypeasy method and forever distance yourself from the nofap movement, your future self will thank me one day :)

@illwillsquared

Жыл бұрын

lmao weak minded thing to say

@The-Strong-One

Жыл бұрын

@@illwillsquared oh yes, discipline is weak minded but not being able to control your urges arent. Youre mediocre

@blacklyfe5543

Жыл бұрын

I disagree no fap is a hoax

After many many failed attempts to quit porn, I'm 46 days in going strong. I'm happy I finally no longer feel addicted to it and the difference in energy and motivation to do stuff is definetly not negligible.

@emsax

Жыл бұрын

Great job brother, keep being addiction free 💪

@KodiakWG

Жыл бұрын

You got this brother

@oliveratgaming

Жыл бұрын

Stay strong day 90 is when you finally healed but you always have those bad days that make it tempting. I relapsed after 2 years and the regret always out weighs that nut

@wilsonwong8176

Жыл бұрын

Don't even count the days, just know you're strong and not even thinking about that shit anymore

@hughwheaton2705

Жыл бұрын

The porn is the significant part. It makes your whole psychology and biology off-balance. Edit: porn just generally disgusts me now. It doesn't do anything for me.

When im on NoFap, small things like talking to someone, going for a walk, or other casualties feel so more rewarding, pleasant and fun. For me its like a drug that makes every small interaction in my life better and im overall happier.

@phattjohnson

Жыл бұрын

Yeah it's amazing how much more open and willing society is to have you amongst it when you don't have your dick in your hand at the time!

@davidr1719

Жыл бұрын

I’m not being funny but the main concern that I have with nofap is that if you meet a girl you will bust in 1 pump if that’s the first bit of action you get in weeks. Do you guys account for that or??

@bullymaguire5348

Жыл бұрын

@@davidr1719 i mean yhea when you don't fap for a long time you cum faster To solve that just fap a few hours before the action or the day before

@saniknight8710

Жыл бұрын

@@davidr1719 it’s actually the opposite bro, if you beat your meat too much it makes it harder to bust or even enjoy sex

@henrybp797

Жыл бұрын

@@davidr1719 just nut before you hit but with masturbate without porn

Giving up porn is like being an alcoholic, but you always have beer in the fridge and yet you must only drink water.

@SmoltingWassie

Жыл бұрын

Except alcoholics can actually die from going cold turkey, to give up porn you just need a morsel of self discipline and not open up a private browser and hit up the hub.

@NaijaCINE

Жыл бұрын

@@SmoltingWassie You have no idea what you're talking about.

@albin6126

Жыл бұрын

Stay away from all sexual stimulus clean up mind. Its great i guarantee you a better life. Have you ever felt pleasure always is not good search for happinesss life become 10x better

@peripheralparadox4218

Жыл бұрын

@@albin6126 I’m inclined to agree with you. But I live in Byron Bay. I see a perfect set of tits every 10 seconds. Can’t escape the stimulus.

@albin6126

Жыл бұрын

@@peripheralparadox4218 mm its hard but there is a price to pay for everything you want to achieve in life i wish and pray you will get over all these and have a quality life. You can train yourself to look away from woman and train to look at their face but you need some strong motivation for me that motivation is christ you need to find your own motivation I feel privilaged to be born in India eventhough i am not rich i have the surrounding to live a healthy life

It's not just porn, it's everything. Food, drugs, television; we're living in a world where getting dopamine is as easy pressing a button whereas our ancestors had to exert effort in order to achieve the same release.

@hayden4279

3 ай бұрын

Anyone who is fascinated by this comment, READ DOPAMINE NATION - Andrew huberman highly recommends and so do I, it helped me more then anything.

I love the fact that Derek talks about having sex as an “energy expenditure”

@norkci8090

Жыл бұрын

well, good cardio

@zeppkfw

Жыл бұрын

Technically and logically he is right

@stephenhughes5156

Жыл бұрын

Well yeh you're gunna burn way more calories having sex and using your whole body, especially if you're going for 30+ mins. Compare that to using your band for 3 mins lol.

@xArsVivendi

Жыл бұрын

your body does that aswell, which is why you won‘t have any sex drive at all, when you are dieting for extended amounts of time.

@feels6233

Жыл бұрын

It is. Physically but also all the psych bs u have to go through

Personally, nofap just gives me motivation to talk to women. I'm usually not confident enough to talk to girls but nofap motivated me to do that.

@BenR99

Жыл бұрын

I get that after a day of no bust

@thishandleistaken1011

Жыл бұрын

@@BenR99 "A DAY OF NO BUST" LMFAOOKOOOO

@thishandleistaken1011

Жыл бұрын

HAHAHAHA

@matthewsharkey5685

Жыл бұрын

It's all a complete placebo affect. The fact that you believe you get confidence to talk tongirls because of no fap is idiotic to say the least. You always had the confidence, but your looking for some bull shit reason, and no fap is complete bull shit.

@SuperJimmie21

Жыл бұрын

@Matthew Sharkey clearly you can't read. I never said nofap gave me confidence to talk to women. When I use to fap I didn't have the desire to talk to women. The fear was there before that. When I stop doing it, I forced myself to talk yo women so I could be intimate with them. I never said anything about nofap gave me confidence, dumbass.

I have had several no fap streaks of as long as 10 months, no porn, no edging, no sexting nothing. In my personal experience whenever I am busting continuously my quality of life highly declines, I get tired easily, I am unable to finish my workouts, I lack the motivation to do anything, its like busting a nut sucks the life out of me. Although when I am on no fap, its like I am an entirely different person, more energy throughout the day, easily completing my work outs, the female attraction I receive while on no fap is unbelievable. So I do not care what 1 study says about fapping, I do not even usually comment on youtube videos and I highly respect Derek and Chris have been watching them for years but, fapping or porn is not beneficial in any way.

@keaganhunter5365

Жыл бұрын

Maybe no fap is just a placebo effect

@thejoe7682

Жыл бұрын

@@keaganhunter5365 If it is a placebo effect, then even better. Instead of calling it "placebo effect" I would call it "the power of belief". I would not underestimate the power of belief.

@deepak-oe4nj

Жыл бұрын

good bro.

@Kryptik33

Жыл бұрын

This is actually my experience too. When I don’t fap I have way more energy, higher testosterone levels. Also as you mentioned, girls are more attracted to me.

@fenrir9632

Жыл бұрын

@@Kryptik33 HAHAHAHAHAHA

Married with one child, 27. 367 days nofap, no porn. Better husband, better father, better person overall. Focus and discipline much easier to target towards objectives. Never going back to the easy dopamine hits!

@simonbrown1486

Жыл бұрын

Praying for you mate. Keep disciplined!

@Alan-lb8ef

Жыл бұрын

Don't you want to give in and have a good fap now and then and feel like you have earned it?

@qquantumpi

Жыл бұрын

@@Alan-lb8ef nope. Don't get me wrong, it's not like I have zero urges. It's just that I find it more rewarding to quell the urges than to give into to them. If I'm feeling sexual, I'll look towards my wife. She feels much more wanted and feels much more secure that my sensuality is solely hers. In my opinion, that's an ode to the traditional idea of what marriage should entail. To which I agree with now more than ever seeing how porn nearly ended my marriage.

@AsaadKhan

Жыл бұрын

Are there 367 days In a year? Huh. I was taught In school there were 365. I guess going to school was a waste of time.

@jamestucker4800

Жыл бұрын

@@AsaadKhan He never said a year bro, he only said 367 days streak

Nofap is about learning to not be a slave to your passions

@eoinbrennan3949

Жыл бұрын

"He who conquers himself is greater than he who conquers the city"

@coreymichael1880

Жыл бұрын

@@eoinbrennan3949 👏

@MR12AMAZING

Жыл бұрын

Not to be a slave to your desires.

@bryan5327

Жыл бұрын

​@@eoinbrennan3949 yep, from Proverbs 16:32

@vizualwarrior129

11 ай бұрын

Not passions, vices and desires.

The numbers of marriages that porn has damaged is completely understated. It’s so dangerous for the reasons you described. The addiction happened to me, greatly affected my marriage and my wife’s confidence. I had her block all access to any sort of porn site through all my devices and now we pay family lock subscription service to keep me off of it. 2 years later, our marriage has never been better.

@maklame3318

Жыл бұрын

lol any addiction can do that. Why not account for the billions of people who fap and have relationships ?

@tacticaldachshund2734

Жыл бұрын

Been married 10 years and still going strong. Still fap.

@dodgethe762

10 ай бұрын

I'll never understand addiction in general but especially porn addiction. The moment i recognize something is unhealthy for me it becomes disgusting to me and I literally could not force myself to consume it even if i wanted to. It's almost actually a problem for me because i find myself not wanting to eat food at all if i don't have access to food that i don't deem healthy.

@lifeforgod07

10 ай бұрын

@@dodgethe762 that’s absolutely a blessing

@brunocp87

9 ай бұрын

​@@dodgethe762so is it healthier to starve than to eat what you deem non healthy ? That's textbook orthorexia right there

Porn addiction is real and incredibly destructive I'm trying to literally undo about 20 years of conditioning my brain from it It's hard as hell I don't see a ton of immediate benefits. But it's because it's going to take time. Conversely however I can see every single problem that porn has created for me I'm tired of it. Thanks for talking about this

@salihdurkut

Жыл бұрын

read this book my friend. easypeasymethod.org/easypeasy.pdf

@Rai_Koroshiya

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, pour your energies into something else and find a community you resonate with.

@adamdavis1737

Жыл бұрын

@@Rai_Koroshiya thanks. I've been making a lot of changes and progress with it. It was just that last elephant in the room I finally had to acknowledge on a multi-year path at this point of personal development

@Cheximus

Жыл бұрын

@@adamdavis1737 same man. Cam girls are my problem.

@Ztuber564

Жыл бұрын

What was the problems for you?

I've been struggling with porn for the past few months and have been trying to quit and when I try nofap for long periods of time I notice that I feel more confident in myself, don't feel as depressed, don't feel a sense of unspoken shame and distance from my friends and family. But this is just my experience with nofap.

@markm0000

Жыл бұрын

Keep trying don’t give up.

@saywhatyousay93

Жыл бұрын

Answer the call of your conscience

@paulfroelich1024

Жыл бұрын

Similar experience, best wishes.

@MeinungMann

Жыл бұрын

I'm on my 56th day and I feel terrible. Not saying that those two are somehow correlated. I would even go so far as to say that with porn I would probably feel even worse

@swillz1416

Жыл бұрын

@@MeinungMann I try my best to distract myself, push ups, running, stuff like that and also try to set small goals for yourself, try to learn something new, read a book stuff like that. And yeah some days are harder than others, I've relapsed alot.

Not busting makes me bust in my sleep all the time, to the point it gets anoying. So I have to bust like once a week to prevent it😂

@london507

Жыл бұрын

Bro this is so funny bust bust bust lol

@dibsdibs3495

Жыл бұрын

I don’t even think I’ve ever had a wet dream before just because I haven’t gone more than a few days without doing it since I started.

@mattc236

Жыл бұрын

@@dibsdibs3495 Feels great. First time I did i saw a bbc buff guy getting at it with a blonde white girl outside an apartment door.

@strength4147

Жыл бұрын

Wet dreams are so annoying, it always makes you wake up and you feel like you pissed in the bed... And you have to change your clean underwear again or worse, change the whole bed sheets lol

@torizo8763

Жыл бұрын

Just lick it yourself

Dropping porn has really helped be in the moment and more mentally present with my wife. Dropping masturbation as well, took it to a whole new level of connection and pleasure. If you are in a relationship in which you may have to wait several weeks or months between, I could see it being more difficult and maybe have less benefits. But if you are having sex 1-2 times a week, it definitely makes it way better to hold off and save everything for that next interaction with your woman.

@CCitis

4 ай бұрын

Thanks brother. I am trying to quit. I’m married. Your post is motivating.

NoFap opened the door for me to the world of personal development. It wasn’t that on its own, but that doorway was Life changing.

@johnhenry4844

Жыл бұрын

Probably the most online thing I have ever read 😂

@mikeochoa8234

Жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@omarcomming722

Жыл бұрын

Cringe as hell

@dimitrishow_D

Жыл бұрын

I do constantFap

@DrPhil-kx3ci

Жыл бұрын

No Fap is great if you are dead

This is no bullshit. I did it for 94 days. It was really hard in the beginning and my mind was all over the place. However, at the end I felt very different. I'm not talking about "superpowers" like some people claim, but I did feel way more confident and surer of myself. It was almost like I just felt I was going to win at life, almost like nothing could bring me down. But then I fell off and went right back to my old ways, lol. However, that brief period of time felt like nothing I had experienced before.

@thegamer4802842042131

Жыл бұрын

@dejuren it damages your androgen receptors. Look up more about it. If someone is addicted to porn, masturbation is something to be avoided. Really be scared of a 20% more risk of prostate cancer bruh

@scott8934

11 ай бұрын

@dejuren EXACTLY. I tried the same and I tell you what I felt exactly the goddamn same. I think Derek is right where it’s only as beneficial as it was previously detrimental.

@je-sus-6910

10 ай бұрын

@@dejuren1367you don’t increase your risk buddy. It just decreases your risk if you decide too. Otherwise it’s baseline risk depending on genetic orientation.

@dddux

9 ай бұрын

I wonder if you experienced that Testosterone Peak after a week? Testosterone is a natural motivational drug, so more testosterone should be able to change you enough to feel like a different person, just like on MDMA or pot, or coke etc.

@Kev27RS

8 ай бұрын

@@scott8934What did you try? 1 month?

as a young dude struggling with this stuff he is 100% right. if i want my life to be better in the long run its not the way

Great vid. I took from it that it’s the commitment and following through something whether it’s no fapping, no porn, no cigarettes, writing daily, etc that’s the key. The feeling of grabbing the wheel from our id and steering our car.

I’m dying with how many times they say “fap” likes it’s a medical term.

This is definitely great points, Derrick always giving good advice. I see “ don’t fap because its weird”, then Derrick comes with the facts about dopamine and shi

This was a mature even minded science based discussion on the topic. Good job.

Since I got puberty I have never retain semen for over a week. Now I am 30 and it’s the first time that I am single and staying at h home and following no fap for over two months. I have got remarkably disciplined, and a lot of motivation to do stuff and plan life.

Nofap helped me up my Bench Press Max by 40 lbs. Then when I added in Eyes moving laterally and Ice Baths, I got my pro card(I didnt even go to an event, they just mailed me the Pro Card) and was offered a position as the CEO of Brazzzzers entertainment.

@soniamilan35

Жыл бұрын

LOL

@tatamartino9486

Жыл бұрын

@Sneef 🤣🤣🤣 he’s a dork lol , I wack off once a week , and my strength still improving

Finally a nuanced perspective on the topic, I fully agree with MPMD

I’ve decided to take the no far journey. I’ll never look back. Talking to woman is easier then ever,I’m significantly higher in energy & the discipline of controlling those urges is unmatched. Completely life changing.

@SuperFUNKMASTERG

Жыл бұрын

Do u think there's a correlation between men's testosterone levels being lower in this era and the accessibility of porn?

@sundanser

Жыл бұрын

@@SuperFUNKMASTERG theyre barely correlated, and even if they were testosterone levels dont matter as much people think they do, unless there was an actual medical issue and you were hypogonadal obviously.

@SuperFUNKMASTERG

Жыл бұрын

@@sundanser so having low testosterone is good for males? Also Watching hard-core porn is good?

@sundanser

Жыл бұрын

@@SuperFUNKMASTERG did i say that?

@loveme77527

8 ай бұрын

It is super intriguing to a woman when a man can control his sexual urges... That is a high value man!

Bruce k. Alexander did a cool study about addiction when it comes to rats and environment. If you haven't read it, you should check it out. It details the social and existential needs behind addiction and substance use. This probably translates to dopamine and celibacy (wether it's a choice or not, even if it's preferential). Interesting to say the least, think everyone can learn something from it.

NoFap is one of those things where you have to experience it yourself to know the answer.

@sukeroku1

Жыл бұрын

You have to experience the addiction. A non addict won't be able to tell the difference and see the benefits of nofap

@raM03010

Жыл бұрын

@@sukeroku1 true. I decided to do no nut November just for the hell of it. I’ve never been a porn watcher I think it’s stupid to see it. And I didn’t feel any different I did feel like i didn’t want to have sex. Like he said my body got adjusted. It’s only for the porn addicts that need to get out and find someone

@kylekraemer7409

Жыл бұрын

If you know you know

@badart3204

Жыл бұрын

Did it for two months and noticed little difference other than I eventually stopped getting hard. I assume it’s just a use it or lose it thing

@maklame3318

Жыл бұрын

@@sukeroku1 THIS. So many coomers.

There's more than just hormone levels , it's about honing your will/ focus, there's alot of kinda far out there books about this but I'd definitely reccomend Samuel Aun Weor

I appreciate this guy laying it out there as real as I’ve heard anyone explain this issue. I see so much self-pity, shame, and confusion in this NoFap realm. Quitting porn has more to do with not becoming unmotivated or apathetic about your circumstance rather than shaming oneself into some monk-like state where you’re all about restraint and never about the end goal, finding a relationship and a healthy sex-life.

@pacoesquerdojuarez8017

4 ай бұрын

This is the comment I was looking for. I feel Nofap community (not all but most of them) change one issue for another. The main goal should be reconnect us with our mind and body to create a healthy lifestile no being sickly counting days or ignoring our natural needs like sex (with a partner). Even masturbation without an abuse and using your imagination can be okay.

@rh_BOSS

22 күн бұрын

A significant portion of nofap community is mentally unwell and is mistaking a symptom (maladaptive strategy of mood regulation through compulsive masturbation) for the cause (various underlying mental health issues). Their general view of the topic of sexual fantasies and masturbation as well as their approach to the problematic aspects of excessive masturbation is indicative of exactly that. It is never about a healthy balance in one's sex life, it is always some all or nothing hypercompensation-like approach, where you shouldn't even look at swimsuit calendars or else all your efforts in the so called "rebooting" will go in vain. This strategy very attractive to people with certain mental health issues, but unfortunately it very rarely works.

There is absolutely NO question that nofap creates a discipline within yourself, which can then transfer into other areas of your life. I have more energy, I feel stronger, High libido, feel more sure of myself and focused/motivated just to name a few.

I think this conversation is spot on. Gentlemen!

I don’t think I ever watched porn during a relationship. That sexual need was obviously met. But whenever I’ve been single and not in the dating realm, I’ve always noticed how easily addicting it can be. And I have become very addicted at times to it. Currently kinda struggling with it but I just needa get back on to the dating sphere again even if it’s just for casual sex. I think I struggle with a sex addiction more than anything or just have a pretty high sex drive and libido. But yes, it is definitely needed for people who don’t do anything and just watch porn all day and are antisocial hermits that don’t do interact with people in social scenarios.

After 25 days of being on no fap, I’m proud of myself. This terrible addiction drained my energy and I sometimes felt weak in the gym, also I would get break outs in my skin at times. After 7 days of no fap I have energy and strength all the time, and my skin looks clearer and nicer. Even if it had no benefits its still do it, realizing so much dopamine is not good for your brain

@Thechosen0010

Жыл бұрын

@@trevrockrock16 appreciate it

@josephyepez877

Жыл бұрын

Help please haha

@MR12AMAZING

Жыл бұрын

Hopefully you've continued your journey and you're around the 19 day mark now. Keep going and never think about going back. Don't lose all the progress you've made just for a few seconds of pleasure.

@Thechosen0010

Жыл бұрын

@@MR12AMAZING I’m actually on day 43 now, and appreciate it 🙏 yeah I’ll never fap again it’s not worth it

@youdontexist.

Жыл бұрын

How about now? 😀

My best ever year in life was 2019 when I started no fap and went on a long streak for like six months. I remember just being more organized,cleaner,Attractive and actually smarter as well,that was my final year in undergrad and I was the smartest I ever been I remember I relapsed late in the year and just lost it all again. I know it works but I think it takes time to rewire your brain might be a few months for someone or longer for someone else.

Personally, The main benefit of Noporn or Nofap is simply having the ability to control such a powerful temptation. That applies for any temptation or vice. Our ability to moderate our vices in a healthy and positive manner will always produce the best outcomes.

Stay strong Gents; Stay focused.

I’ve done over 2 months. Other things happen that nobody tells you. Your body will release on its own. Your mind will wander but will be more focused. It depends on your state of mind, lifestyle, and testosterone levels. Similar to fasting, it depends on how experienced you are, how much fat you have, and how much tolerance you have. It’s worth doing for 2 weeks at a time but not more than that.

@Kev27RS

8 ай бұрын

Going for over 2 weeks is definitely beneficial!

@ethersecure2432

7 ай бұрын

So 2 weeks on, 2 weeks off?

@a_lethe_ion

5 ай бұрын

Ejaculating at least twice a week is a way to reduce the risk of testicular cancer - just bc your body destroys unused semen, that process produces some chemicals that can be over a long time increase cancer risk. People seem to struggle with the concept of doing things in moderation lol

Great insight

Man I took your advice and so I headed to the local pub and told the hottie barwoman "hey I am on a no-fap no-porn thing for 30 days and I was wondering if you could help me out with this experiment" she laughed and then from nowhere this huge bouncer guy appeared and carried me outside.

For those who are on nofap and relapse. Don’t worry, be happy you tried and did well. In the moment you might feel bad but you don’t something not everyone can do ❤❤❤❤

@chuckiegravesfield3170

Жыл бұрын

gay

@jenghiskhan69

8 ай бұрын

How about now 🙂

@amalronaldo

7 ай бұрын

​@@paulb3243"don't let perfect be the enemy of good" nice one mate

@carstenbredahlgjelsten8331

4 ай бұрын

@@paulb3243No, exactly. Be good to yourself and love yourself. Always.

@carstenbredahlgjelsten8331

4 ай бұрын

Greetings from Copenhagen, Denmark🇩🇰

Everything i will say is my experience and it does not always represent every individual trying the nofap journey, i am on 90+ days nofap, i dont care if its a placebo or not but nofap makes you redpilled by default. Before nofap i was always thirsty for sex, i was desperate for girls and i was acting as they were the prize, my 2 serious relationships got destroyed because of my high libido asking constantly for sex. Now i feel like something clicked, i am more goal oriented and i dont care about finding a relationship , i still like women and i still have sexual urges when i see a beautiful woman but i dont crave for their companionship, i seem more indifferrent towards them and i value myself and my freedom more.

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Good analysis

I used to be very scared of masturbating. I used to think that masturbating would lower my testosterone, make me anxious, and make me lose self-confidence. It did do all of those things, but only because I believed that it would. Reality was, however, it was all in my head. Now that I don't really care anymore, I can not masturbate for a month or do it five times in a day and feel virtually the same. NoFap to me seems like pseudo-science at best.

@samirahmad6906

Жыл бұрын

King

@tomusannonymous

Жыл бұрын

True, I've felt worse on nofap and better without and vice versa. IMO the effects are not reliable, its pretty much just random. and why go to the trouble when you could just do it less often if its a problem.

@drillingig2368

Жыл бұрын

This is me.

@skylinefever

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I ended up like you because I was given a bunch of hellfire and brimstone bullshit when I was a kid. When I was less able to give a shit, and then fap, life actually got better.

I solved my problem by waiting to do it only once a week. Also I stopped watching couples and usage of toys. I am much calmer now.

@Joe-kt7zp

Жыл бұрын

No more butt plugs! Big work, bro!

@markm0000

Жыл бұрын

@@Joe-kt7zp No I didn’t mean that.

@samirahmad6906

Жыл бұрын

@@markm0000 Come over to me

I've been in bondage with pornography and masturbation for about more than 15 yrs. I'm 33 now and I'm on the process of recovery. I cannot take back the time I've lost. I could've been in an authentic relationship and be married but still I am accountable for my choices that compounded over the years. Going back to God really helps. The Lord Jesus Christ will heal us all if we just allow him in our lives.

@nahhboiishiicray3909

8 ай бұрын

the best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is right now, dont worry about the past people get married at 40 even. And god has a path for everyone.

@ZukertortZ

4 ай бұрын

Im 33 too, porn and masturbation over 18 years and i steel do this .dont have girlfriend or wife anyway so porn is thing for me. Lost concentrations and everything feel so boring without porn and models so hot and beautifull

Master of my domain😂one of the best episodes ever

Nofap had horrible effects on my mind and body. Basically everything that people say it does, did the opposite to me. Damn near destroyed my relationship. Noporn however greatly improved my sex life and relationship. Nofap isn't for everyone.

@wolfwoof2000

6 ай бұрын

I'm the same. It was a mind fog, less sleep and even pain around the prostate. Though, I liked the after math experience, I consume less porn and know my body limits better.

@nightmoose

6 ай бұрын

these definitions have gotten really blurry. if people think NoFap means you can't have sex with your partner that's just silly

@AF-ru3kd

6 ай бұрын

@@nightmoose No, it's the consequences of nofap. Not masturbating resulted in niche health problems and made me desperately crave more sex which led me elsewhere. Not everyone in a relationship has matching sex drives. And some people who don't alleviate that need become dysregulated in their behaviour. Especially if you have specific genetic susceptibility and mental illness you're trying to manage. All of which is the case for me, one hundred percent.

Pretty new to no fap. Been taking a Maca extract along with the seed retention so It certainly feels like my test goes up and up. Highly reccomend. Can’t believe I’ve spent so many years of my life prioritizing ejaculation the way I have. I still like to drain the pipes every now and then but it’s not anything I “need” to do anymore. Highly reccomend.

@samusaran7317

Жыл бұрын

It will happen regardless.

It about learning to control instinct gaining control over the desires of the inner animal.

It’s more about discipline and having control over your own body than it’s about a streak or how many days you went. Women like discipline also, and that will carry over to other aspects in your life. Like going to bed amd waking up at a certain time, being on time for work/events, saying you’re going to do something and actually doing it, etc. Those sort of things are attractive. So that’s the benefits of No Fap for me.

Derek’s ability to recall information is insane

@SquidwardGaming7

Жыл бұрын

Bro has a database in his brain

@aclaylambisabirdman6324

Жыл бұрын

He reads!

@benoneill5550

Жыл бұрын

@@Luke_MoonWalker you must be easily impressed. Good memories and photographic memories are two very different things. True photographic memories are extremely, extremely rare.

I’m not an advocate for porn, however, there’s a huge segment of average guys who are totally ignored by most women. Are these guys supposed to just be celibate monks while the more attractive guys are juggling 10 women at a time??? As tough as the dating scene is right now, I think it’s totally understandable why many guys would gravitate to porn instead of entertaining the leftover scraps of the dating market. Again, I’m not saying porn is good, but men need some way to release.

@Jedimasta21

Жыл бұрын

Hey, it's the one comment that is reasonable in a sea of nofap sycophants.

@fred.flintstone4099

Жыл бұрын

The problem is guys like me who cannot just watch porn and fap once a month or once a week. I do it everyday, and it takes up huge amount of time that I could spend doing other stuff. It is a productivity killer.

@ALTheFreeMan

Жыл бұрын

@@fred.flintstone4099 Yeah, it’s extremely addictive, and it’s good that you’re aware of how it affects you.

@ponternal

Жыл бұрын

I feel like a loser when doing nofap because I dont get laid so it legit makes me angry and I start having crazy thoughts. Then I will nut and think how I was trippin. Instead of watching porn now I just jerk off outside in the forest without porn it feels more natural.

@fred.flintstone4099

Жыл бұрын

@@ponternal You not getting laid doesn't determine whether you're a loser or not. There are plenty of losers who get laid, and plenty of non-losers who don't get laid.

Fuck. Everything these dudes talk about is true.. By the grace of God I'm trying to push through this shit. Balance is hard, finding a good women is even harder.

@creedewylie267

Жыл бұрын

As someone that has walked this road. Rely on God and recognize your prayers coming true. Don't worry about being perfect, but strive towards perfection. you got this

@MrDoublez17

Жыл бұрын

Stay hard

@ponternal

Жыл бұрын

Just inject steroids into your body and take 50 different drugs so you can compete with the top 10 percent of men and get a 6/10 gf bro

@ramons7577

Жыл бұрын

You’ll get there bro! You got this already

@dylaneasley6281

Жыл бұрын

@Indrid Cold that’s literally my position right now. I used to be super motivated to try all this self-development stuff, and I had many good experiences. But within the last year I’ve had some pretty shitty ones and it has killed my will to try again

Its also about increasing self discipline. If you can avoid the shady side of the internet, you can motivate yourself to go to the gym even when your not feeling it.

Like many others, I had many failed attempts, but after 80 days I don't feel it's worth giving up the effort it took for a couple of seconds of a dopamine hit.

Honestly I'd love companionship but right now I'm focusing on myself and getting a gf will only be stressful to deal with so I'd rather just hit the button when nature calls and then get back to work/studying for my future. Once I'm established I'll work on getting a gf.

I think it's a bit harsh to just assume that people that use porn are 'hermits'. The last 9 months or so I've been putting myself out there having a fair amount of dates each month but it's not easy to go on several dates with people, spend a ton of money time and effort just for a person to turn around and say they are not interested in me or vice-versa, now apply that by 2-3 people at a time and it adds up

@Enhanced-Atrophy

11 ай бұрын

The thing is you can bust a nut without porn, only when you are really horny. The problem of porn is its addictive nature (you end up fapping just for the dopamine rush) and how it can kill your desire to have a relationship with other people

@kriseightyfive5854

10 ай бұрын

I´ve been where you are, and my advice would be to step back for a little while, especially when it cost you a ton of money. True love shouldn´t cost a damn thing, people have seem to forgotten that. I´m almost 40 divorced and single and dropped dating as a whole, it´s a freaking cesspool out there nowadays. And instead of spending money on (ungrateful) dates, I bought myself a new car and enjoying the crap out of it! Yes being single and all nofab is a struggle I admit, but better to have standards and fail the nofab once in a while, then to date woman with at least a dozen other men on speed dail and feel twice as shitty.

@j0nnyism

10 ай бұрын

Just go on sex dates. Don’t bother wining and dining them to save money and time. That’s what I do. Haven’t done it for a while cos I got bored picking up loads of stds

@loveme77527

8 ай бұрын

Take dates for a walk at the park & a picnic!!! Cheap & way better than some fancy restaurant!! This is coming from a woman... You men don't need to spend crazy money on dates...

I'm 37, I identified 20+ years ago in high school that after masturbation was making physiological changes in my body. Hindering my focus, mood, sense of well being, and athletic performance.

It's about discipline & self control. I'm almost a year free, never felt better💪

Lasted 45 days on no.fap and man it was great going to sleep with out getting high, more energy during the day started reading again, stronger in the gym muscles looked better, confidence in talking to women.

@bradastra6111

Жыл бұрын

That's every weird to me.. You saying is it because of nofap or no porn? No ejaculation for long period of time is dangerous, people can get Ed.

@likemysnopp

Жыл бұрын

Are these fucking ridicolous comments bots or something? Its the same stupid take every fucking time.

@cedriccope178

Жыл бұрын

@@likemysnopp I'm not a bot

@Polycubism

Жыл бұрын

@@bradastra6111 thats not true at all its literally propaganda to keep men weak. Abstaining only makes someone healthier and stronger

@bradastra6111

Жыл бұрын

@@Polycubism what the hell.. Propaganda? Your D is a muscle.. It gets weaker over time if you don't use it, this goes physically and mentally. What makes a man strong isn't nofap but the control over self. Over the desire and pleasure.

I think with a lot of people it's all or nothing. Being a porn/masturbation addict is like any addiction. If you're an alcoholic and can't get though your day without a few drinks, you have an issue. Some of us are just having a glass of wine with dinner every now and then.

NoFap has some tremendous benefits especially if one is on the Autistic spectrum, has OCD or a brain that can easily be "fogged" or get tired easily. Such people will recognize the effects vividly almost by the first week, especially if they did it extensively since early adolescence. That "slow mode" ever-tiredness of the brain will be mostly gone, the sleep quality will dramatically increase, most importantly the anxiety will vanish after a while. Tho neurotypical people might not perceive such dramatic differences but still the self discipline aspect is a huge gem.

@wiz9429

2 ай бұрын

Totally agree. What can be a good ejaculation frequency for a person with OCD or in the autistic spectrum?

Thank you for this important discussion. I am wondering is there an argument to support the idea that “a little bit of porn isn’t harmful”? Is there any research that shows that there are benefits of watching porn? If there isn’t then it seems that porn is unequivocally damaging? Then a “little bit of porn” is like a “little bit of smoking”, while it’s not as adverse as an addiction, it’s still destructive. Shouldn’t we also consider that by watching porn you are changing the way you view & relate to other people, so it’s an action that impacts more then just personal well-being but also your relationship capacity? And if you are engaging in an activity that decreases your ability to connect with others in a loving, compassionate and meaningful way, is it wise to justify to yourself & others to engage in it “a little bit” ?

He's exactly right about how beating off/porn can kill your drive to find a real woman to be involved with.

What people usually dont talk about is how porn addiction is actually a substitute for intimacy. That i think IS a big problem. Other than that.. yeah sure no fap does something, just like masturbating does something., It all depends what you want to achieve. If youre the type of person who will sit around after or even continue masturbating you should probably break the cycle. But if youre able to get up and excercise or do whatever.. what exactly is the point of nofap?

It does work depending on what you expect it to do. Good watch for those interested

for me when i dont fap i feel more happier for a few days. feel more confident but i get urges. and when i relapse my money shot is really far long range then i feel miserable again like why did i just do that. atm im hitting 3-5 day streaks witch is good for me because i used to rub one out often. its an ongoing challenge. most ive done is 7 days.

Balance is key. Obviously nofap isn’t going to make you pick up women, get stronger, or build muscle, or even become attractive, but if it’s an obsession and it’s negatively impacting your life then you need to start nofap.

@arch0049

Жыл бұрын

Facts. People taking things to extremes. People really think they will turn into Hulk or the Rock without it. Hahaha.

@ivan0oze886

Жыл бұрын

A MAN WHO ISN'T SLAVE TO HIS SEXUAL URGES IS A FOCUSED MAN, A FOCUSED MAN IS A DANGEROUS MAN

@sagarrajan7385

Жыл бұрын

​@@ivan0oze886 ok bot

@wrathbeatbox8177

Жыл бұрын

@@arch0049 yea, extremism in ideology or practice isn't going to end up well

@TheOfficiaITristam

Жыл бұрын

I'm on day 69 and I can fly now what do you mean

My libido has always been through the roof. So I tried NoFap for a month as a form of self development. Gotta say, I hated the way it made me feel. It severely lowered my libido, made me apathetic AF, and it gave me a sense of restlessness overall. It didn't make my quality of life better whatsoever. 🤣 I've found 2x per week every 3-4 days to be ideal. The frequency is low enough where it isn't habit forming. But it keeps my libido sky high, and it seems to help testosterone function/overall wellness.

@getmogged23

Жыл бұрын

kinda same for me, sometimes it depends how stressfull life is, but overall everything over one or two weeks sucks for me and makes me feel like Im lowering my test/libido..

@3DHDcat

Жыл бұрын

with born or no born?

@kylekraemer7409

Жыл бұрын

When you answer to God will that be your excuse?

@pavolpatriot

Жыл бұрын

You hit a flatline, have to stick it out once you get through it within 6-12 weeks usually, you'll feel great.

@developingbeef9211

Жыл бұрын

I agree with you about the overall libido and function. I think it makes a lot of sense that your body does more of what you do, and less of what you don't. Most of the body is like that

I do hope this subject becomes more studied and we get some concluding evidence to porn's effects on the human brain. What I find especially interesting is that fighters (MMA, boxing etc.) are sometimes advised to abstain for 2 weeks before a match, at least from what I've heard. Makes me wonder why it's 2 weeks if T spikes at the 1 week mark. Either way there has to be a lot of uncovered area on this front, there's just so much anecdotal evidence for it not to amount to anything imo

once a week, got it! thanks bros

Thank you Chris for doing this interview. Derek is amazing and knows his shit.

@geneharrogate6911

Жыл бұрын

You need to get out more..

on the fasting thing, everyone fasts right? some of us just extend it. Ive been fasting from about midnight til 2-3pm everyday for the past 2 years. Never felt better, ofcourse its important to eat enoug calories and nutrition. As a single male the best thing I've done for my mental isnt quit anything, its about self control and find ways to manage those habits. Microdosing bluegoba mushroom pills and vitamin D3 completely changed my moods and attitude, ontop of working out obviously.

You could say the same thing about not watching TV if you’re not spending time doing one thing, then you have more time to do something else that you consider to be a better use of your energy. This is just managing priorities and time.

I think the issue is that once you do it once, fap and porn, it’s too easy to do it again and again and again. Also if your someone like me who is more concerned with building a business and working out that dating at the moment, all the sexual urges just get in the way. It’s much nicer to just wait, and when you are ready to date you are charged up and way more attractive to a woman.

My addiction started when was young and was definitely very negative for my brain, I didn't completely do 'no fap' but I started by not doing it for a week and then I just set a limit to once every three days but eventually I didn't have the urge to open up that browser at all until once every 5 days or so, only doing it when I felt a big urge to do it lol. So it definitely isn't necessary to cut it out your life all together like some gurus will say but definitely moderation is key, you must be in control of your habits and not let your addictions control you like it did to me when I was young, especially if the addiction is skewing/distorting your world view/view of women.

That thumbnail,I never paid much attention but when I did...bruhhh😄😄👌🏽

Yes, it is liberating deciding/ choosing with the bigger head, like being an actual Rational animal sometime. But this a free world, keep draining yourself as much as you can, especially if inside any available human being.. 🤷‍♂️😎

Tbh so far it's not done anything for me. Like it's been a couple months now and I don't even like physiologically feel different.

I think finding a balance is key for a lot of ppl. If u can go forever without fapping good shit. Most Ik can’t lol I got a once a week schedule. I’m not smashing the dopamine button but holding off for more than that and I’m just walking around bricked tf up all the time. Once a week let’s me keep a normal state of being

@arturvarela9542

Жыл бұрын

"Balance is key". Wiser words have never been said. A lot of incredible advices are cliches, but people don't wanna follow BECAUSE it's a cliche. I live my life by cliches.

@mariushager9983

Жыл бұрын

@@arturvarela9542 yep. a lot of people nowadays resort to black and white thinking. having pizza is not inherently bad. having it every single is though. what i do think everyone should try is less porn. porn in general is just not the greatest. especially if you have addiction like symptoms otherwise you should be fine

@curtharakaly4620

Жыл бұрын

@@mariushager9983 And if you do watch porn, keep it relatively simple. No gangbang bukkakes with 8 girls and 30 guys or anything too over the top. The more you watch porn, the more perverse and next level stuff will be needed to reach the same level of arousal over time, which once your brain gets used to that, plain sex with one woman who looks nothing like the girls from porn just doesn't do it for your brain anymore.

@stephenhughes5156

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. I do think every man should try going an extended period without porn, fapping and even sex at least once in their life. Whether that's 30 days or 90 days, if you can go that long without giving in to that animal instinct, it will awaken a certain self- confidence. I mean if you can go without touching yourself or having sex for that long, you realise how much you are capable. And it goes without question that such a streak can be incredibly healing if you have a porn/sex addiction. But after that, ideally, we should come back to a more balanced (and natural) kind of lifestyle in relation to our sexuality. Ideally that would still mean no porn. It was also ideally mean no masturbation, because why masturbate when you can have sex (which is way more fulfilling).

@doublevision2943

Жыл бұрын

Not making it past a week of no FAP, fine, whatever. But any porn is too much, there's no balancing it. It's brain rot

I heard Dr.Drew say it best… if you want to not masturbate as a man for long periods of time that’s ok but your body is going to eventually “let it go” in the middle of the night while you sleep so you might as well handle the business on your own. Moderation is key and don’t beat yourself up about it.

It feels like just another thing to tie a feeling of accomplishment to. Consecutive days without stroking the dragon. Does it really place above the beasts? I appreciate what Derek said. Too much of anything is not good. ANYTHING.

It's not only about being satisfied and not meeting women. So many women today are not that developed. They're usually more hassle than they are worth. I've been a high income earner and a bartender. Dated all kinds of them. Sift and sort

Derek the man with all the wisdom! I often try NoFap and fail arround week 2-3, because it just feel like its pointless and give up.

@1Mutton1

Жыл бұрын

I agree, I don't think it particularly effectts other parts you your life, in particular the drive to go out and get a real woman.

@PrometheusRiser

Жыл бұрын

The real benefits come in during day 30

@freigeist777

Жыл бұрын

@@PrometheusRiser which is?

@likemysnopp

Жыл бұрын

Because it is.. and are you seriously so damn bored in your life that you have to do a ridicolous challenge like "yeah im not gonna eat for a week cuz eating is bad cuz I get fat when I eat so eat is bad" .. it is very similar logic behind nofap. Oh so you get fat after you eat something.. and you get tired.. but if you dont eat then you are full of energy huh. Wow much brains great think yes yes.

@cristiplopeanu

Жыл бұрын

@@freigeist777 which is being accepted in the "no fap" cult

I was bad off for a little while, cut the garbage and went months, when I finally got a hold of my girl (long distance relationship), it was magical. Nowadays, I just question everything, from flapping to food, "why am I wanting this" and just pass on it if it's not good reason. I struggle more with eating a sweet than beating the meat. Self control is really the most important thing as stated in the video. Temptation is evil. "Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from us evil."

This is so true, shit hella drops off after a week

I am 132 days without fapping. I notice between days 30-60 or 70 that i wasn’t sexually attracted to anyone, i honestly thought something was wrong with me. But i trusted the process and slowly my attraction returned. I am trying to make it to one year, wish me luck!!!

@rocket__man1280

5 ай бұрын

Best of luck man!

So coincidental I stumbled upon this. I do the 1 time per week thing and it’s great. Less depressed, more motivated, less anxious and that testosterone boost at about the 7 day mark is tremendously noticeable especially at the gym.

@brendanschaubfanpage1810

Жыл бұрын

Any more info on the 7 day cycle?

@citydogpack

Жыл бұрын

@@brendanschaubfanpage1810 All the info on it I’ve stumbled upon says pretty much the same they’re saying here although I haven’t looked for info on this specifically. It’s just what has worked for me. I did no fap for much longer and I didn’t feel the benefits outweighed the frustration and distraction of being so damn horny all the time. Once a week, preferably the real thing is best for me personally.

@aahZeiK

Жыл бұрын

I hope in your case like Derek said your not tying porn into the one time you do it per week because your still addicted to it if that’s the case.

@citydogpack

Жыл бұрын

@@aahZeiK no never porn. Women or spank bank

@ekonexus

Жыл бұрын

@@brendanschaubfanpage1810 free testosterone in the blood starts to spike around day 4 is what I recall, and can continue ramping up. Although in my experience there are plateus where it levels and then my heart center starts opening up more whereby my connection and relations with people becomes much purer. With testosterone, there are variables, such as how much may be needed for which you're driving for-- like if you're working out, or really pursuing something.

Multiple years have passed after I overcame porn addiction and stopped faping, at first libido skyrocketed and I relapsed but after a long time of no fap my libido was noticeably reduced.

MASTER of my domain!

You know if your scrolling on to porn way too much. It skews the mind especially for dudes that take that into a relationship and the quality of the intimacy and chisels at your being able to connect to the deeper emotional connection when engaging physically with a woman your serious with. But flapping to your imagination when your in a drought and especially Post Nut Clarity can be your life saver if you were all thirsty over a girl, tapped and realized you be on some BS cause the clarity shows you truly if the juice isn't worth the squeeze at times.

I cannot got without fapping for an extended period of time without feeling like I’m going to pop! If I can limit my time fapping to just once a week, and focus more on quitting porn entirely, that’ll still be LEAGUES ahead of where I’ve been for the past decade.

@fizzyjecado

Жыл бұрын

Same here. It’s willpower for sure… I only fap when I’m stressed. To me it’s more about relief than pleasure.

Master of my domain!

I do a version of nofap. I’m a poly guy, open marriage, so I’ve found I enjoy “saving up” for the next session with my fwb or my wife. It’s 3-4 days without, at most, but it definitely increases my excitement, pleasure, and performance

"LessFap" has helped me lol

It's a beginning of a life of discipline. Also I've found that when I do get to have sex it's 100x better because I don't have all this pornogtaohic imagery in my brain. I feel super focused and engaged with what's in front of me. I can truly appreciate how great the situation is as its happening

@omarcomming722

Жыл бұрын

It's not x100 better unless you were a complete porn addict and a textbook coomer, and it should be definitively specified every time this is discussed that those people are the only ones who should consider nofap or even noporn. Even if you're jerking off to porn 5 times a week or once a day, you should still have no desensitization issues with real sex.

@jsyvret472

Жыл бұрын

@@omarcomming722 nah man I was watching once per day. Not a full blown addict by any means. Its a cumulative effect over time. I'm 27 so once a day for 10 or so years is a lot of porn. I've had an unbelievably positive effect from stopping watching it in regards to my sex life. If you think about it, 100 years ago most guys never saw a naked women till they got married. Now we see hundreds before we're 20. Even if you don't watch porn, that alone will desensitise you. If your watching it daily it 110% has an effect

@Septicshites

Жыл бұрын

yeah cause it happens once a year for ya

@jsyvret472

Жыл бұрын

@@Septicshites or twice

@jefe58

Жыл бұрын

@@jsyvret472 once a day is rookie numbers mate