A lot of us had toxic parents without realizing it

@Youalreadyknowthis

18 күн бұрын

Yes! And figured it out way too late.

@megpi72

16 күн бұрын

Exactly! I thought that everyone’s parents were like mine and that it was “normal” because I was so used to this treatment and plus was pretty much isolated from other people. I had no one around me who was healthy that would make me think that everything wasn’t okay.

@glitznal

16 күн бұрын

Yes

@stevelichtwark4259

13 күн бұрын

Me too lucky I was kicked out of home at 15 ,they still managed to manipulate me for money for years until I cut them off

@munchey99508

13 күн бұрын

Absolutely. We were raised not knowing our inherent worth. Sending hugs and well wishes to all you beautiful survivors of toxic abuse from the narcissistic in your life. ❤

Victims are very often overly low boundary and high empathy people. Not as many will give them time of day.

@vaclavraska4377

8 күн бұрын

"yes, indeed", and I'm scared I'll never meet anyone so "amazing " who can compare to her....

After my one, very brief, experience with a narc I told myself I had no business being with someone until I learned to pick a better class of man.

@Ana_Sor4ever

Ай бұрын

Smart move ❤

@voulafisentzidis8830

Ай бұрын

@@Ana_Sor4ever indeed. Although I didn't know about narc behaviours at the time, I trusted my gut instinct. Having since learned a lot, I'm grateful that I was able to go no contact. Although he periodically returns, even almost three decades later, I don't acknowledge or connect. I want peace in life which I won't get with him. It gets easier with time and ultimately brings gladness knowing you're away ftom the madness even if, at the time, it meant something.

@helenmcclay2622

Ай бұрын

Same. Its actually Self-Love Deficit Disorder.

@voulafisentzidis8830

Ай бұрын

@@helenmcclay2622 well done!

@palapalak.8907

29 күн бұрын

Fact. Me too!!!

I had a Wonderful childhood..and was Totally Unprepared for these people. I never knew they existed. I was completely blind and stayed far too long..because of Love and Hope. 😊❤

@1006CountryGirl

18 күн бұрын

25 yrs, I left but took me 7 yrs to heal.

@kathleenwharton2139

18 күн бұрын

@@1006CountryGirl I stayed 32 years and God Saved me! He married another woman. But I am still healing.

@michellekavanagh2053

16 күн бұрын

Me too, my dear.❤

@bonnieromick9397

15 күн бұрын

That makes sense if all you've seen is rude disrespectful actions you think it's par for course or normal behavior when it isn't normal. Yes familiar with abuse needs to change. Yes holding out hope for Narcissistic change is a ridiculous waste of time. Work on you, that's changeable. What you said made sense

@daniellebickerdike5193

15 күн бұрын

I did 17 yrs to long. Nearly killed me.

i think there is also an energetic component, narcissists can absolutely sense it in an empathetic person.

@fumarate1

12 күн бұрын

I also think there is a genetic thing to it as well.

People pleasing... don't want to make anyone feel bad. Spot on! That's me.

@persiamotorman

18 күн бұрын

I think I was literally trained or conditioned by family of origin to tolerate the intolerable and to always try to be kind. If instead, I said to these people what actually needs to be said, it would be "You're self-centered, and completely ill-mannered and break all your fake promises. Get the heck away from me. You will never have anything to offer. Don't let the door hit you on the way out and stop talking about your fake spirituality and fake love. You are completely deluded."

@laureenprice8123

17 күн бұрын

I have the same problem.

@abelsoliz5632

6 күн бұрын

And there is also not liking, and avoiding conflict. (Childhood trauma- parents fighting).

Toxic people are abundant and everywhere.Almost impossible to live and work without having to deal with these sociopaths. Worst, the trend seems to applaud these people instead of showing them s red card - even by the judicial system!

@haitiqueen0119

12 күн бұрын

Well said!!

@MariaJimenez-ye9sn

11 күн бұрын

I agree. That's why we need to be a step ahead of them. Their karma always catches up with them. Just wait and see.

I think they are attracted to my loyalty. I am loyal to my own detriment

I've been on a healing path for about 16 years now. I attracted very toxic friends and relationships all my life, I was told I wasn't good enough as a child also. A month ago I met the lead singer of my favourite band and had the opportunity to get to know him better but I saw the red flag and declined. The next day my daughter inlaw told he he has a girlfriend and I knew I had made the right decision. I don't want to be used and abused anymore no matter who they are I deserve better than crumbs. He would have just used me and if he did leave his girlfriend if he does it to her, he'll do it to me. Im becoming very assertive.

@MariaJimenez-ye9sn

11 күн бұрын

Well done girl. You need to celebrate that!!! Good on you....

@tinkingtinking2134

11 күн бұрын

@@MariaJimenez-ye9sn thankyou. I know I was being protected when the opportunity arouse, straight way I saw it was the way he was looking at me, like I was a lamb chop, I have fallen for that before, especially when you grow up craving attention and to be noticed and loved. The next day after finding out he had a girlfriend and she looks like me to her before him and her pictures now are very different,you can see she is very unwell and I know because I look unwell when I'm in a toxic relationship or around my toxic father. One night with a lead singer would end up being months and months of tears and regret. It's not the first time I've been blocked from a guy , its happened a few times in the last 5 years especially.

@tinkingtinking2134

11 күн бұрын

@@MariaJimenez-ye9sn thankyou. I'm still shocked I did it to be honest but I'm blocked from toxic men, I know im being protected.

@abelsoliz5632

6 күн бұрын

Okay, you don't have to tell us the name of the band, how about just the genre?

@tinkingtinking2134

6 күн бұрын

@@abelsoliz5632 Rock

I have become embroiled with two covert female narcissists in recent times and it has opened my eyes to my own character traits which were formed during a traumatic childhood. This awareness will not suddenly make me a different person but it does help me to understand myself much better. I suppose I should at least be grateful for that.

I grew up in a loving family with mom, dad, 3 brothers and 5 sisters. Went to School and Church. I had a good childhood and had a lot of friends. I dated a Narcissist for 4 weekends and the 5th weekend I broke up with her because she mistreated me one time. I do not allow anyone to mistreat me and I don't mistreat others. I believe the narcissist was in my life to awaken my my knowledge about the disorder. I now have closure and understanding of past coworkers and others that have crossed me life over the years. I am awaken and realize narcissist is there mental disorder so I do not take them so personally.

The more I heal my people pleasing and stand firm in my boundaries and say no the toxic people have been dropping out of my life 😂 I feel so balanced and happy I promised myself in 2019 when I started to heal that by March 2024 my 50 th birthday to heal , and I did 🎉🎉 I wish I had known earlier what it was but I had to go through deep cleaning and healing and pain to get to this point and I’m so humble grateful and free! Anyone reading this don’t give up keep focusing on yourself healing and loving yourself and I promise you won’t regret it ❤

@abelsoliz5632

6 күн бұрын

Wow, I feel for you. To me, 24 weeks seems like a long time.

That's me always been a ppl pleaser, No More,

I encountered one in church leadership and he appeared to be looking for someone vulnerable at the time who was trusting of people. I was the perfect target and it has scarred me somewhat as far as trusting and opening up to people. You have to educate yourself on these types of people because they target certain people for a reason, and the abusive behavior is not seen by most. The target gets the abuse.

@AgernonTheUnfair

17 күн бұрын

Narcissists love religion makes them feel better because they think they are righteous. I hope that you see your experience this way: you are now stronger and I hope you won’t get fooled again

@phoenixrisin2269

12 күн бұрын

They are rampant and hiding in churches. I was recently at a church and the pastor was me, me, I, I, everything. It’s no surprise that most of his congregation was that way. Toxicity is contagious. The characteristics of the kingdom come from the king.

@louisecassidy5991

7 күн бұрын

They do tend to be found in churches.

@datroof2262

5 күн бұрын

Religion & Narcissism are conjoined twins.

It feels like - the harder you try to put some effort into keeping SANITATION under control, folks will squat on you 10x's more often. No matter how you try to keep up with Appearances, folks throw garbage like a moving target.

I didn't have a bad childhood or toxic parents. My trusting, open, empathetic nature triggers those who are screwed up full-blown narcs. They must control and manipulate others, I probably look like an easy or interesting target...but they find out fast they picked the wrong person to tangle with. I'm a sigma empath.

@clownscar

2 күн бұрын

Yes. They don't realize that I already know what they are doing before they do. You can just see with so much clarity the childish mind games they are trying to play. I am like that pedestrian mindset is no match for the likes of me. Run along and try that elsewhere. I don't tolerate it l.

Because it gave birth to me

Sounds accurate as to what I have gone through.. grateful to be awake to the truth.. and the healing has started!

She’s correct. I didn’t have a bad childhood. My Mother and Father had disagreements, argued but genuinely loved each other and were the best parents. (My childhood consisted of validation, support, guidance, attention, correction,etc) However, I had a need to please, wanting a person to feel happy and accepted…. but I was definitely taught to have boundaries. I experienced 3 narcissistic relationships before I knew what I was truly experiencing. I honestly didn’t think cruel people existed in this fashion. Maybe because I had such a sheltered and wonderful childhood. I definitely know what I’m dealing with today. Many Adults with trauma, unhealed and broken childhood experiences that would rather manipulate others, as opposed to seeking counseling and healing from their traumatic childhood.

Some of us are taught Do Not Judge which does not prepare us to handle all the dangerous people in the world. Perhaps do not condemn would be better but dangerous people must be identified and avoided.

Stoic-ism, teaches someone - you can only fix your perception, ( Judgement ) of anything that's out of one's control. Obviously, Toxic Individuals won't change at all costs... Walking away, SILENTLY is perhaps your last option.

@palapalak.8907

29 күн бұрын

Thank u

Wow ! Came as a shock 😮 Thought it was the narcs that had the bad past 😮. I’ve found eventually that a therapist has defo helped and I’m quite happy to remain single whilst on the healing journey 🎉

Oh , yes ! I’ve always wondered why did I end up with a narcissist and all my friends have beautiful marriages??? Thank you 🙏❤️🥹!

@LION-on4gd

11 күн бұрын

We never know what happen in others married couples...and they wont tell..

@louisecassidy5991

7 күн бұрын

All your friends APPEAR to have beautiful marriages. Mmmmm?

And I got one another narcissist🤔after being single 13 years! Thank you God taked out from my life that person !🙏

Like it or not - you do your best... can't fix people.

I realize that I am a target after being a scapegoat in my family and having to walk away and having the narcissistic people in my family, and my exhusband play divide and conquer between myself and my sons. My youngest son eventually saw through his father but my eldest son has yet to see through it. I love both of them. It leaves me without a tribe and the narcissist in my last relationship ised it as fuel to say that there was something wrong with me. He was close to his dysfunctional family that was a closed family system. I was an outsider there. I have met men who have anger towards women and are mysoginistic and heard that it can also play out in narcissistic relationships. The last one use to tell me to shut up and gladly talk to his brothers and other men. He wanted obedience and control over me. I think that since I don't have family, so to speak, I have been an easier target without support and have felt alone in life. I am working on myself. Thank you so much for your message. ❤

Narcissism is forced upon us,i don't accept it,i know my worth and defy them,but that drives narcissists further to harm you just to appease their ego/superiority complex,you can't escape narcissist,you can ignore them entirely,but that will only put you in more uncomfortable situations,narcissistic agenda is everywhere and those practicing it don't care and are oblivious to their seared conscious,they are happy in their ignorance,you can never escape fully,that's a real life fact.good vid,great topic.

Anoushka: you've covered this ground very well here. I hope victims and recovering victims of narc- abusive relationships will listen to your words carefully and use them as a guide to their own recovery. Blessings out to you. Success, too!.

This was very insightful after seeing myself in a relationship with a toxic narcissist. Eventually I will need counseling, but this is very insightful!

The majority of the time i’ve realized people cannot resolve our past childhood traumas. Only we can give that back to ourselves by ourselves! So give it back to yourself with the money you’ve earned. Take yourself out to ice cream. Take yourself to the carnival fair. Take yourself out to dinner. Get yourself a pet & spend time with your pet. Go to therapy.

@virginiasturgeon4084

13 күн бұрын

Yes! The only way I got over the covert narcissist is by healing my inner child who was abused in childhood. I realized I am her adult now and can protect her from abuse. I have decided to treat her with love and let her have good things that she wants. I take her to movies and buy her a hot dog, popcorn and a soda if she wants that. I planned a birthday party for myself and my friends and I had a wonderful time. And many other things I do for her. Until we learn to protect our abused child, we are vulnerable to the narcissist. You are so right!♥️

Absolutely correct. Not what many of us want to acknowledge...but extremely necessary on the path to personal healing and autonomy. Our personal dysfunctions are a gravitational pull for exploiters and sadists...our inner masochistic core rooted within from adverse childhood experiences.... "ACE's". We gravitate to what we accept unknowingly from a hidden "psychological" core.. The "glitch" in our programming!! But there is hope once it is recognised.. Great message Anoushka. ❤

@dougdeepdown

Ай бұрын

And Thanks Anoushka. I was reflecting on that because I didn't say it before. Grandiosity in action. Face slap. So...thankyou Very much. ❤️

what about having a real deep rooted fear of being with someone? When you wake up, spot red flags, no longer accept bad behaviors or boundary violations. when you are happiest alone, not trying to please the unpleasables ones, exhausted from the drama......it is hard work to get there, to heal and it is lonely. Its is much healthier when you can spot the narcs and avoid the repeat, you feel better about yourself, your life, etc but finding healthy people is like looking for a needle in the proverbial haystack. What do you think? Thanks for this very informative, thoughtful video.

Excellent advice in this video....very very true! 👍 Thank you! ❤

If i could relive my last encounter with a narcissist i would not try to help him because i could see we had shared childhood trauma. I would say this guy is very damaged he may even be a narcisst who are unfixable and leave at once. No matter if he was lovebombing me and trying to put me under his spell.

The Homeless Problem - Epidemic - is answered for THIS REASON. You can't walk away from ANYONE, FAST ENOUGH.

I were blessed that I found this subject on Internet and did a lot of study. Found out what was happened in my life where I always supported everybody but did not get anything in return other than negative energy. When I was sucked they left and I needed started at 0 again. But now get the knowledge and lucky I have no problem to be alone

Seeing what is happening is the first step. 😎

Must keep video. Yes I have been attracting Narc:s. After watching several videos "ask Anoushka" I felt I dealt with Narc: No: 3 quicker. I recognised the signs, put boundaries in place, (felt strange) He's gone now. It was worth it to allow myself to respond to him (when his behaviour was acceptable) don't react to bad behaviour.

You have covered a lot of topics and there is so much to learn. Re-listen this is a powerful explanation

The presrnt narcissist found me after leaving another narcissist. I got trapped into another toxic relationship and am working on leaving yhis one❤

This is so spot on😢

Being sucked into becoming fully immersed in a system that normal people are wholly tied and bound to, when you are already compromised, income wise and also have many doubts about in addition to this, acts as a major factor involved in settling for others who are less risky in that sense. The alternative to both of these options, is going it alone and to me, this seems to allow the most freedom and opportunity for real growth, as things stand at this point in time. ☀️

There have always been narcissists around. I think its just bad luck. Most have been neighbours that you had nothing to do with and some are family members. My experiences have been that its life experience and these hollow beings come into our lives and then we "see ya later". With age comes wisdom. I can sense a narc almost immediately now.....its like a dog sniffing out truffles. Look at their EYES and body language with HOW they say things. COverts are tricky, so it takes questions and answers to get to see them for who they are.

Some don't have a choice when it's a step parent, and a childhood friend...... mentally effected me badly. Now, I know I'm mending very well, made distance and ignore them .....zero contact

VERY helpful. Thank you so much!🌹

SPOT ON!!!!!!! Such a helpful video for me ! Thank you so much for the insight

So appreciate all you do ❤

I have been in and out of therapy since I was a little guy, hahaha. Anoushka Marcin is cool AF, _healing hearts & healing minds 24/7_ What a gentle soul she must have. I am certain of it. Thank You... a million thank you's.

Thank you Anoushka your theaching is gold ✌️🙏🌈🌹❤️👋

This gave me a wow oh my God moment

What did I do ? My mistake ? Leaned on my own understanding, sought not wisdom , and I could write a book of mistakes and calamities that occured as a result ! Lol no it wasn't easy on the mind or conscience truth is absolute ! The truth destroyed everything I thought I knew ! I am feeling much better now ! Thank God ! And all of it is Thanks to him !

Great video. Well done.

Spot On.

I got rid of them all.

Ahhhhhhh so that's it! Thanks

Thank you

Great Hair Style! 👍

Your only solution is to quietly and quickly walk away. You cannot change a toxic individual in a toxic environment.

Several studies from across the world have demonstrated that narcissism is, at least partly, genetic-in fact, according to a couple of studies, the risk of inheriting narcissism is over 50% in some cases. Narcissism, like other conditions under the behavioral genetics umbrella, is often studied using twins.Sep 11, 2023 wikipedia

@kathyspaulding5326

18 күн бұрын

This is my opinion, but generational trauma could appear genetic because dysfunctional behaviors pass down with each generation.

I've never wondered why because I have been FORCED to be around/live with them and could not easily escape-RUN due to very limited options. They were mostly creepers, peepers, watchers, and STALKERS. I would have left at ANYTIME if I HAD THE DAMN MONEY.

So having low selfesteem = having low value? So, we are the low hanging fruits for narcissists? I am kinda shocked how can witnessing domestic violence / abuse affected me so much? It wasnt even that bad as some other people could have it but how can one heal what witnessed as child?

@ericjackson-nq4hp

Ай бұрын

None of my business but I stand with you. Inner child discovery is a vital component for many of Anoushka's followers. Anoushka is a child advocate. I dunno, I wish you well, more will be revealed. Sub, follow and hang-out. Every once in awhile, we see learn something profound. Be well. Cheers--

@debrakarr996

24 күн бұрын

It's called CPTSD. Do some research u can fix urself over time. Tim Fletcher on u tube is the one u need to listen to. Crappy Childhood Fairy is a great learning tool trust me. I never knew my childhood done so much damage till I was triggered by romantic relationship. I was digging on what was his problem. Not mine he caused so much drama. He woke my soul for answers. I have hundreds of hours of therapy all for free online from just them two people. U were on a rollercoaster witnessing the trauma that u seen. It all starts with the vagus nerve in our body who ever knew being on rollercoaster as a child has such a effect on each of us. I will never be healed it's all about awareness to keep the triggers at bay kinda. People that trigger u r there to let u know u need work too. It runs deeper then most know. It effects our adult relationships. A lot about me and the way I have been my whole life the mistakes regrets the bad the good it all finally makes sense as to the whys for sure. The dots just keep connecting. Most therapist don't even talk about CPTSD it's only been being talked about for 6 or 7 yrs but the root cause of many mental disorders too. Most r on medicine that is not even needed if they would fix themselves from the inside out. Prayers u find the answers which u seek.

@cup_o_TMarie

19 күн бұрын

I feel you this was my childhood😿 Trauma informed therapy, coaching, books, spirituality (not necessarily religion) all lead to helping you fully come home to yourself & find meaning in life & then we stop looking for it in relationships to others. For people who are healing childhood wounds , it becomes a way of life to stay on the path of light. I keep an open heart along with watertight boundaries & managed expectations. And I thoroughly enjoy my own company. Who we surround ourselves with can make or break our lives. I hope this can help. 🙏🤍🕊️

The word narcissist seems to be used at the drop of a hat theses days .. if a man leaves a toilet seat up he’s a narcissist.. 🙏🏻😮‍💨

@lizh1970

Күн бұрын

The one I met was future faked loved bombed , ghosted hoovered I went to meet him a year later and the bastard started the abuse . They love bomb to hook you then discard or ghost then if you go back that Prince charming you think you got turns into a monster .

I guess i had to see evil. I never wanted to know that much about the human race. There are still good people. There are still good parents. Many people are not alcoholics, drug addicts, narcissist. There are happy children. There is hope.

I love that top on you! It’s beautiful ❤

Didn’t have a choice , had the two worst parents

To make your life a living hell

5:30 Whoo! Damn Hit me hard right from the very first one

'no-surprise' however - I get a Relative that shows up: Un-announced while I'm working at a Temporary Job Agency. Get an Emergency Phone-call. "Get back home, such-and-such didn't flush the Toilet." Before you ask why... that person is asking for Cigarettes.

Wow , beautiful woman❤

If you have resolved your childhood they still fux with u lmao

I gave birth to her. And trying to understand her nearly killed me.

😊 Ì don't think it's about what you experienced as trauma or your young years. I just think there lots of people out there like that, in fact the majority. It comes down to how much you like or are attracted to the person and what you can tolerate etc

@lizh1970

Күн бұрын

Sometimes we can not help being physically attracted to people , but you need to see past that and look at the person and listen

@bluelotus9654

Күн бұрын

@@lizh1970 Ì didn't specifically say physically attracted. Attraction in general is one of the most important things. Also you are more likely to want to spend time with those you don't find repulsive.

I would like to have one on one consultation

*RegenEration

Shitty to hear and resonate with all of it! First step in flipping it though

It's not like narcs "feel the empathy" of their targets, no. They feel the weakness of their targets, and that's a whole other thing. There's no such thing as "empathy". You can be compassionate without being stupid. The weakness of people, be it trauma-related or not, is freely translated as stupidity in this world, and that's a fact. And that's why we need to be aware of ourselves and of others, and not living in our own head-space exclusively.

@lizh1970

Күн бұрын

There is empathy yet some try to say they have an inherent superpower it's the ability to listen and understand what another is going through or been through it also comes from conscience and morality understanding the affect your abuse will have on others , narcassists , sociopaths and psychopaths don't care , they want to manipulate control , use and abuse . They lack conscience they are not authentic and their strategists using calculated moves for their own ends .

👍🏼

❤

3 in a row.........no more men for me, done.

Systemic Social Issues. ( Portland, Oregon - isn't a great place to make a living.) Yet, you get folks that will send a Cease and Desist Document Form from California, already suggesting that you're not a good person - never mind you've done double shifts at a low paying job... they're upset that you couldn't pay for their stuff.

Serious - Oregon State likes to Punish folks as 'intake-care' providers. ( Pacific Northwest.) There's actually a few U.S. states in which - take a few hours, and volia - you're able to earn a dollar, CLEANING UP after someone. -Feels rather unhealthy, and each year some Assessment is done for the Client / Adult Spouse. - wanted to get Part Time Work, away from THAT PERSON to get a level of Independance.

💎💎💎💜

Bollocks 😂 it might be truth in some cases but it’s not the rule. Narcissist target everyone if you resist and recognise them quickly they will try to hurt you regardless. Essentially at work when you stuck with some dynamics and politics. Sure you can keep changing jobs 😂

@DrPhilGoode

21 күн бұрын

Denying and not accepting what has long been proven doesn’t make it not true. Narcissists do not target everyone and it would be counterproductive for them if they did. They stay away from emotionally healthy individuals with healthy boundaries who have a healthy sense of self. Lions don’t target the strongest prey options

@HollyMurphy3

17 күн бұрын

Agreed, this is victim blamey.

Idk anoushka, im healed and they literally still try 😂😂😂😂😂 they are just effing a$$holes

@DrPhilGoode

21 күн бұрын

If you were healed you wouldn’t be watching videos about narcissists. And a narcissist will not “try” unless they have a high percentage chance of success. Just like any successful predator they seek out the weakest to manipulate and control. This isn’t an opinion, it has been proven for quite some time with loads of verifiable data available to support it.

@atlfun08

20 күн бұрын

Exactly. There are so many narcs. I think it’s just about being able to spot it and drop it as fast as possible. Like a game of hot potatoes!

Lip injections?

This is old news. Hundreds of channels give the same advice. Everybody has some people pleasing tendencies. If you don't want to please another person, you don't like them. The real question is, why are there so many narcissistic people out there? And, no, you can't just avoid them. You have to work with them, interact with them in social setting and give them your time, because suprise, suprise, they are your co- workers or customers. You can't avoid them. Knowledge doesn't help here. I can see what someone is like, but that doesn't mean that a better person is right around the corner. It's just the opposite. Being surrounded by toxic people doesn't make me weak. I know who I am. The idea that you find a friend isn't that helpful, either. That's because the private circle is one thing, the public one is another.Having a friend is nice, but what if the circle of friends gets infested with the narcs?

Folks, this is not rocket science, hell it ain't even science. If you have 1 thing to give there's 100 who will take. And they won't be grateful they will be entitled. And now? You owe them. Solution? Isolate. I am on year 7. Gotta say for every downside there are 9.35 upsides.

666 likes how apt😂

When " rabbit " finds a gun - there is a lot of fun.

Show the red flag to any kind of narc abuse once you realise that a narc is at large...get the hell out quickly and save yourself and your life

I've never had a narc in my life. My standards are good men.

@krob-sn7ek

Ай бұрын

they are masters of deception, don't let down your guard

@saradigota7201

20 күн бұрын

Hahaha no one ever said. Yea right, you obvious have some blinders on.