The ironic thing is they don't want someone cheating on them but they have no problem, no guilt or remorse when they cheat on you.

@jenniferstryker3419

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!!! Always always accusing and...well we'll well! Look here! Like wtf???

@Sara2016a

Жыл бұрын

Sometimes I think that they are not jealous or anything, only if someone cheats them, it hurts their ego. Just my opinion, I could be wrong.

@ciaralee9760

Жыл бұрын

That's for sure !

@Dealingwithlife119

Жыл бұрын

Exactly I caught my narcissistic spouse cheating on me with paid sex, replied I can’t tolerate you having sex with other person. I mean where from this feeling of superiority come from!

@josephcarpenter9817

Жыл бұрын

You hit the nail on the head.

Soul-destroying. Everything was always my fault. It started off as emotional abuse, then very quickly escalated to physical. I never believed that it could escalate with him. I was often told that it eventually would. I naively put that down to 'people being dramatic'. He would hit/shove my head, kick me, grab my neck, push me and drag me around the room. I can assure you - it does lead to physical violence. If you allow someone to treat you this way, it will escalate. This is just a stepping stone. They have no boundaries and no remorse. I wish I had listened to those who had warned me before. I was often told that I was weak. Stupid. A freak. Disgusting. A disgrace. An embarrassment. A piece of shit. A bad human being. That I didn't belong in this world. He told me that he wished I would find someone else, who would 'screw me over big time'. He also wished that I would end up being alone and miserable...because that is what I deserved for treating HIM so badly. He would never take responsibility for anything. He worked 2 days a week. I worked full-time. I cooked, cleaned, did the washing etc. He would watch TV and play video games. If I was to ask for the slightest bit of help, it would turn into a full blown argument. If the TV, his cell phone or anything entertainment related wouldn't work properly, he would explode in a full blown rage. TV remote being propelled across the room, arm chairs being flipped over, cursing continuously. It would terrify me. I was walking on eggshells. I felt that at any moment he could explode for any trivial reason. I was always told to do better. He would call me useless and stupid whenever I did something that didn't meet his standards. I used to ask him to stop because it hurt me. He would always respond with "once you do better, the criticism will stop." I worked so hard to improve everything I did - cooking, cleaning, my clothes, my make up, my hair, doing the chores quickly, running errands, taking care of his son, paying the bills, being the best girlfriend I could be. And guess what? The criticism didn't stop. He told me that I deserved what I got. I deserved the violence because I made him so angry. And because it was my fault that I made him so angry, the violence was acceptable. In a lot of domestic abuse articles, you will see the phrase "I wouldn't have hit you if you didn't do....". If I had a $ for every single time he used that line, I would be a millionaire. He would accuse me of being the abuser. He showed no empathy. I fractured my arm whilst moving house. He entered the room, I asked for his help, and he said "you are so dramatic. I f'ing hate you when you are like that." And then he left the room. He did not ask once if I was okay. I often read that a lot of abusive partners apologise and promise to never behave that way again. In my case, he NEVER apologised. And genuinely, I mean never. I would beg for an apology...and even then, he would refuse. I used to beg him to apologise for all of the hurtful things he said and did to me. He never did. He used to threaten to leave at any opportunity. He would threaten me too. What is my situation now? I discovered that he was cheating on me. And I can honestly say, I truly believe that that moment was my saving grace. I knew i should have left a long time ago. Many people asked me why I didn't leave sooner. Because i was scared. He had convinced me that I was useless and worthless. But when i found proof that he was cheating, I knew that that was the golden ticket. It was time for me to love myself. And if you find yourself in the same situation, I beg of you to find the strength to leave. The love you have been looking for has been inside of you all along. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at barryinvestigation@gmail. com, where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........

@jolegl

23 күн бұрын

I tryed tgat email address and it doesnt work.

@spuiwu-js

19 күн бұрын

@@jolegl check again.

@R.E.STAR24

18 күн бұрын

Sounds like we had the same POS as our bfs... I went through l same thing. I hope you're doing better ❤

@cryptolizardhehimithishers6729

17 күн бұрын

What happened to you in incredibly sad. So sorry you went though that

Narcississ have: "A lack of empathy and a lack of self reflective capacity. " boom. So true!

@Allioop_1

Ай бұрын

Indeed… mine cheated and said “I’m married to you, I don’t want to talk about it anymore.” I can’t even describe how screwed up that was for me.

My narcissistic ex always said how he hates cheaters and liars and how he would never do something like that. And I used to believe his every word. So when I found out I was so shocked. But that actually gave me strength to leave him, so I’m grateful he did, now I’m finally free

@jayemacnificent3320

10 ай бұрын

Stay strong

@CG-wl3cq

10 ай бұрын

my narc ex was like this too. When we met, he had all these sad stories about being cheated on by so many of his previous girlfriends and how much he hates cheaters and liars. He had the crazy ex girlfriend stories -- all of them were crazy, mentally unstable cheaters. He fooled me so completely with those stories. Over time, he started slipping up and finally admitted they never cheated but he thought they had or were going to, so he cheated as a preemptive strike. I realized he was going to cheat on me under that same justification. He was already accusing me every single day, screaming at me in parking lots of grocery stores because he was sure I wanted to bang the teenage boy running the checkout in the store. He even suggested I might cheat on him with my father or my nephews. I found out after the relationship ended that he was sexting other women and had an eHarmony profile that he was signed into on MY computer!

@senges6751

10 ай бұрын

Mine used to say he won't cheat cos of his conscience. Well he cheated.

@beeman7711

10 ай бұрын

That is EXACTLY what my ex wife would always say (so much that it made me suspicious)... "I HATE liars and cheaters with a passion!". Her method was to start a fight over nothing, break up, go sleep with someone, then come back to work things out, this way she could say "I didn't cheat! We weren't together at the time!" if she was ever found out. She did that to every ex of her's, she feels entitled and completely justified.

@Vanessaarielle

9 ай бұрын

Same. Use to talk about how horrible his cheating friends were for cheating on their wives. I was so shocked.

Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I hired a private detective Barryinvestigation@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!

@KanikaNewsome-pj6jb

8 күн бұрын

❤🙏🏾

If a narcissist is happy, there's a reason. I found myself learning this the hard way.

@abvgjchc9371

3 ай бұрын

What do you mean with that ?

@lvplguy7778

3 ай бұрын

they're happy when they have their cake and can eat it too (you let them live out their fantasy life and you shut up and pretend your relationship life with them is good) @@abvgjchc9371

@matinaki1644

3 ай бұрын

​@@abvgjchc9371 they are happy when there is new supply (person or something else).

@flowerchild3312

3 ай бұрын

​@@abvgjchc9371They have new supply

@sangpeters

2 ай бұрын

They have a supply and validation from somewhere

Yes, he cheated on me. And he blamed me for it. "If only you would shut up everything would be fine." So I shut up. But I became a person I couldn't recognize - the trust was gone and I was like a detective spying on him. After the breakup, I looked back and couldn't recognize that person - it wasn't me, I became someone I wasn't, someone I didn't like. It took a toll on my mental health, definitely. Now I know that when the trust is gone, the relationship is over.

@LC-gu2sc

7 ай бұрын

Absolutely, my thoughts exactly. No trust, no relationship

@elviracoetzee9048

6 ай бұрын

So true I had to live with it for 23 yrs

@o2phone737

6 ай бұрын

AMEN

@daisyrelaxedsounds

5 ай бұрын

Hope everyone was able to get through it to become them best self 🙏

@mikejohnson5157

5 ай бұрын

Yes, she was caught red handed, but "it was my fault." Now she 😮denies it ever happened. If i mention it, it's abuse.

Even if they aren't "cheating" they are sneaking around. Keeping relationships secret from partner (the bad mommy trying to cramp their style).

@alexanderthegreat3106

9 ай бұрын

I agree they also emotionally cheat and they have a wandering eye , eyeing up whom they would cheat with or like to cheat with , these people are nothing more than snakes.

@jordansjul

8 ай бұрын

This. 💯 this.

@hannahhughes4801

5 ай бұрын

Yes they are, sly bastards

@user-co5yp2jr8n

Ай бұрын

Eww, lol. They are such little shi# boys

If they don't cheat sexually, they do emotionally, even if it's just a triangulation move.

@framboise5326

Жыл бұрын

THIS

@h.e9871

Жыл бұрын

WORD

@skylar6818

Жыл бұрын

My ex said there is no such thing as emotional cheating

@swim610

Жыл бұрын

100%

@deehyatt5173

Жыл бұрын

The triangulation is the worst !! With the ones he is exchanging nudes with to the ones he actually slept with.. 8 of them that I FOUND 😢so sickening

Sexlessness. Sharing a bed with someone who doesn’t acknowledge you are a sexual being hurts so much. I was in a sexless marriage for years. Being a woman with a high libido, I felt inadequate. Worst I feel invisible. The man who was “supposed” to want me, just didn’t. We talked about it many times, more than I can recall now. It was always me. I wanted too much - once a week was too much for him. I didn’t initiate - he was always complaining of headaches, stomaches, always stressed, always tired. I was too sexual - when being subtle doesn’t work, what is next? Explicitly saying I wanted sex. Oh but then it was not appropriate. Conversations would end up with him saying he didn’t feel desired or I made him feel emasculated because he didn’t want sex as much as I did. Yeah, it was always me. I could never win. While we were dating we would have a decent amount of sex, it was good. The first huge red flag was not having sex in our honeymoon - which I ignored. It rapidly decrease to once a week, then every other week. Years gone by it was months in between, by the time we divorced it was over a year with no sex. I cried myself to sleep more times that I can count. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. Was I that undesirable? Was I repulsive? After those conversations, I just stopped trying, initiating, mentioning sex. We were still loving - holding hands, hugging, kissing - but sex was off the table. He then cheated on me. Swore he had sex only 4 times in a year (or more) long affair. It didn’t matter. For years my self worth was damaged by him, years of low self esteem, years of feeling less of a woman, the marriage that was more than over, waiting in hospice, really ended. Funny how things are, I asked him for a divorce, he manipulated me into staying, next day his infidelity came to light. I was out as soon as I could. Best thing of my life. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when he or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator digitalinvestigate@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me...

@michellemorgan6741

4 ай бұрын

Went thru it 17 years and been gone for 3 years and I’m just now starting to live again

@user-sw6vt5fr2s

4 ай бұрын

Mine did the exact same thing. Once he started cheating I used online resources to track down where he was going and who he was with. He then started cheating on his girlfriend. What a slime. He wants a successful upstanding mate and a skank on the side. NEVER take a cheater back they won’t stop. I confronted him and ended the relationship. Women who know their the side peice are just as bad if not worse. Just enjoy knowing karma is a bitch. Hope you find a wonderful man you deserve!!!

@nunyabidnazz2311

4 ай бұрын

Ladies, I don’t have anyone to speak to about this. So I’m gone talk to y’all. My Husband hadn’t even attempted to touch me for over a year. When he began his new job with his female boss, I noticed huge changes in his behavior towards me. It was like he was picking fights with me constantly. He’d be up at 10-11pm “answering emails,” and “doing his job.” 🤦🏾‍♀️ That late at night? Then, for the first time, his phone is on vibrate. 🤔 Now he’s having issues at work & the way he speaks about his boss & the music he’s listening to as he has pity parties in the living room, basically scream that he’s in love with his boss and hurting over it not working out. Very strange. Then all of a sudden, he wanted to “get back to being us.” So of course, we had sex and the entire weekend we basically locked ourselves in the bedroom. It was nice, but I couldn’t help but notice, he lasted a long time. You know what I mean ladies, we hadn’t had sex for over a year and he lasts long?! Before, when we had gone a month without sex, he couldn’t last more than a minute bc it had been so long. Idk, but I have a strong gut feeling that he’s having an affair. I just don’t know. It’s all good, as long as I never bring up my feelings. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@joanofarcxxi

4 ай бұрын

@@nunyabidnazz2311 I am so sorry you are going through that. But why are you still with that slime? Sweetheart, please prepare yourself to leave. Make a plan and follow it. Don't tell him, just do it. He already showed you how much he disrespects you, he showed you who he is. Don't forgive infidelity. Don't offer a second chance, unless he is willing to go to couples therapy and you discuss things and there is progress. If you FELL something is off, of course it is. Your intuition is telling you the truth you don't want to believe. I am so sorry. But you can do it. Preserve your dignity and sanity. I pray for you.

@jijilynnituma7122

4 ай бұрын

I been there too same boat. Its the way the control and manipulate there partner.

Unfortunately, infidelity tends to go hand in hand with narcissism. Especially, somatic narcissism. Narcissists believe EVERYTHING they need is external, including self-worth, self-esteem, validation, etc. Those things are what make up our inner world and we are supposed to develop and cultivate them within/on our own. Narcissists DEPEND on people to supply those things for them. Because we cannot (nor, are we supposed to) supply every want/need of a partner, narcissists are always on the lookout for "better supply". They will always gravitate toward anyone they feel can meet the needs/wants their spouse isn't (and can't). Narcissists are unstable and they cannot soothe themselves. They cannot meet their own needs and their needs/wants are constantly changing. Narcissists are black holes. They are human abyss' of unmet needs/wants. Even if you gave them everything, they'd still want MORE... All while giving NOTHING in return. Narcissists are also pathologically bored. They do not experience boredom the way normal adults do. They're like children. Once they become bored, they tend to throw their toys (people) in a corner to collect dust. Then, they search for new ones... Untilllll, they realize that their newest toy isn't as fun. Or, it doesn't function as well as the old toy did. Then, they'll go digging in the corner to find that old toy (the reason their relationships tend to be off and on). People are objects meant to keep them occupied and entertained. The newer the toy, the better/more exciting it is. However, EVERYONE will inevitably lose their shine with the narcissist. You must accept their reality and realize that it's NOT ABOUT YOU and it never was. This is also the point when it becomes crucial to sit your ego on the curb. Your ego will want to fight to be seen. Your ego will want to fight to prove you're enough. Your ego will feel it's "worthy" of the narcissist and fight to "keep" them... But, again: IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU. Most narcissists are extremely irresponsible. Many of them marry to secure stability. Or, to have someone they can count on to help with bills to free up their resources. It also ensures they'll have somewhere safe to land when they fall - because they always f*** up... Do yourself a favor and pull that rug of security out from under them and save YOURSELF. Narcissists do not have a moral compass. They do not respect the union of marriage. It'll always be a one-sided arrangement with you being the giver that's making their life easier and them being the taker that's making your life harder. We deserve the same love, attention, support and understanding that we give our spouses. You will never get it from someone suffering with NPD. Moreover, if you feel sure that your husband might never cheat on you, you might have to rethink. Most wives in marriages are shocked when they find out their husband cheating, and it happens more with people who never thought they would cheat. This is why you have to take the tiniest suspicion carefully. If your husband is cheating on you, the best and probably the only guaranteed way to catch him is to spy on their phones. However, spying on a phone is not something you can do without any external help unless you have the James bond level of spy skills. In such case you will need an expert phone spyier Metaspyhub@gmail. com for the purpose,,,

@Oneiros123

8 ай бұрын

But spying is illegal no??

@user-el4ls5cw3e

7 ай бұрын

I’m balling my eyes out ,you’re right it makes me want to cry more. It hurts so bad to know, he has never loved me, after 30 years. I’m broken

@aude341

7 ай бұрын

You describe very precisely this disorder and this type of personality!

@barbaraschultz1442

7 ай бұрын

Winnie, you’re spot on with everything being driven externally with a narcissist. Extrinsically as opposed to intrinsically. This is the same external reward system kids grow up with today! Bribery! M&M’s, cookies, bike, car etc. Kids do the assignment, get validated. Then Kids grow up, and expect validation and seek attention. What happens to the kids who don’t get the cookie for brushing their teeth… perhaps learn you know intrinsically when you’ve done a good job.

@LC-gu2sc

7 ай бұрын

Your analysis was spot on. My husband is that person. Very tiring.

I live in a society where most men feel that they are entitled to cheat. Its sickening 😪

@tatttoon

2 ай бұрын

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Жыл бұрын

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Жыл бұрын

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Жыл бұрын

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8 ай бұрын

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Married 30 years and been cheated on for 30 years. They don't change...but you do.

Mine not only cheated, he left me in the middle of cancer treatment and secretly married someone else without even saying goodbye. Looking back, I see just how duplicitous he has always been, but this behavior traumatized me. It took me over a year to even process what had happened and your videos helped me get through. So thank you. Feeling like you're not alone, crazy or that there is nothing wrong with you is essential to even begin to move on.

@stephanie3848

8 ай бұрын

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7 ай бұрын

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@iramsavir5631

7 ай бұрын

My story 100%. He moved in the coworker he was having an affair with into our home and asked me to move out, right after mastectomy. Cold-hearted, empty vessel of a man. 😢 The sorrow and heartbreak is devastating and has taken a toll because he waited when I was at my worst trying to recover from my illness to do his worst. No empathy whatsoever.

@ramseygouda

6 ай бұрын

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@kingslymeseventruly

6 ай бұрын

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Жыл бұрын

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@danif2604

6 ай бұрын

Yessss! They cheated often. I caught him cheating with a prostitute. Who ironically he ran to and she is the new supply. He waits in the parking lot of whatever’s hotel they are staying, while she has sex with her “tricks”. And he still has sex with her afterward. When I caught him all he text when he ran. Was I can’t live with the pain &. Consequences of my infidelity/actions. He lost his full time job. So this hooker that he is now in a crazy, chaotic relationship with 12:09 is not happy that he is not financially sound. He said to me I have poured so much positivity into and all you can think about is the negative. He has absolutely no empathy. I more then DONE with this lunatic!!!

Covert narcissist sustaining an emotional texting liaison with his ex gf behind my back even though she was “crazy”. Texting her our photos to taunt her which served to make her jealous and provide supply for his ego. Got into his phone which I decided to check since I suspected something was off. Dumped him immediately and went no contact. But it’s not easy moving forward. In therapy and I am myself a therapist.

@TheTRADMOM

9 ай бұрын

The worst part of the process is the discovery I’ve spent more hours than I spend in a workday trying to keep up with all the side relationships and life that he seemed to curate even tho he always claims to have no time

@emmarae4322

7 ай бұрын

I feel you. I found out he was texting and calling his ex, most likely sleeping with her too. I know he was sleeping with since he became cold and distant. 18 months and he never cut ties with while telling me he did. His behavior changed when we moved back to the same city she lived in. I also called a recurring phone number and she called me a b*tch not even knowing it was me on the other end…called ID?

When I first met my husband he presented himself as a true Mr. Nice Guy, sweet, honest, emotionally stable and faithful man. But everything turned out to be different, he cheated on me when our daughter was just a baby, I got a VD, which indicated he did not use protection either. Where was that wholesome guy that was supposed to have high moral values ? Amazingly, he always said he had not done anything and that he didn't understand why that happened to me, talking about gaslighting. I remember I said, sure I got it from hugging the cat. It devasted me because I had never been around, I was a virgin when I met him, it was something that should had never happened to me.

@coriettapadilla9977

7 ай бұрын

@nz630 Same thing with my husband. He would always say he would never cheat and would even tell my younger nephews that real men don't do that. He really played the role. Well right after our son was home from the hospital from being born he started to get weird. He would tell his sister he felt so much pressure, and things were rocky. I was never under that impression because he was such a wonderful man to me. I literally thought we were growing our family. Then he never came home one night. He was supposed to be with his friend up the street. Not the case. He was screwing his coworker who was trying to get with anyone who would have her. A month later I became so sick and started peeing blood. He didn't even go to the hospital with me. I had an STI. I was so sick I was shaking, fever and vomiting. All by myself. He was mad at me and said it wasn't him. Yeah okay. I just had a baby who was I seeing. It has been such a lousy couple of years. My mistake was taking him back. He wasn't even heartfelt about asking me back. I should have known then but I wanted my marriage to work because I loved him and I took my marriage seriously. I am trying my hardest to get out now. It's been so difficult. But I don't feel much for him anymore. Just going through the motions.

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4 ай бұрын

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Жыл бұрын

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Жыл бұрын

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Жыл бұрын

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Yes. The Narcissist in my life cheated on me numerous times- and he also cheated on his mistress. He told me that never once did he think about how any of it would effect me or our children. He’s also very impulsive. He’s a master of manipulating and mirroring; he lies as easily as most people breath. He was emotionally and mentally abused toward me and our children. He has since been diagnosed as a sex addict. He told me he never viewed any of his partners as anything more than an object- even though he promises everyone the world to get what he wants. He plays many characters to fill the role of the person he’s targeting.

@Alloniya

Жыл бұрын

This is their loved excuse “she was just an object, she didn’t meant anything “ 😂 lol I don’t care, you no longer meant anything 😂

@amandajohnson-williams7718

6 ай бұрын

Very well put!! 👏

@camisnyder3460

5 ай бұрын

Sounds exactly like my husband.

Sometimes people cheat beacause they know you are too good for them

@tati-anaroseee4316

3 ай бұрын

Not an excuse, if they're too good for you then make yourself better until they aren't

@dennishood8287

Ай бұрын

Very true, especially shows up when they leave you for a loser

@angiebrown6524

Ай бұрын

i said when you are too good for them, a narc is never too good for anyone.

Honestly, owning it and not trying to hide it is a partially why I watch you. It's the honorable thing to do and it make the rest of jobs much more believe when you are call out of the spots like that, so thank you *Future Imperative Corps* for recovering my account.

@angelafriona7752

Жыл бұрын

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Жыл бұрын

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@angelclark2193

Жыл бұрын

Finally I have access to my spouse device and I can remotely monitor all his phone activities without him even knowing anything and it's been 3 months🥲😪 , he cheated and left me no choice I'm glad I found *Future imperative corp*s who made all these possible, thanks for keeping to the non-disclosure agreement and for getting it done

Him cheating made it HARDER for me because it triggered my abandonment wound so badly that all I could think about was keeping him so the other woman couldn't have him. He would cut them off, "be good" for a while and do it again. And of course it was always somehow my fault

@Lunareclipse9

2 ай бұрын

Omg sounds like my ex relationship to a "T". I was so messed up in that relationship I didn't know if I was coming or going. He screwed me up mentally and emotionally for a very long time. Would say well if you didn't do this that wouldn't have happened. They are Soo Evil.

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@harrietpullen6591

Жыл бұрын

My daughter is now in that age where we really need to start giving her more attention, specially with so many dangers on the internet. Recommendations about *Coherent Recovery* has been extremely helpful. I got the access swiftly without any interruption and it was done undetectably , thanks 🙏🙏

@user-pg8uh7zr8s

9 ай бұрын

You guys realise this is a bot

When my ex would start texting and going after another woman, he’d blame it on me just being jealous. I’m not sure why he committed to bring in a monogamous relationship with me when he had no intention or ability to actually do this. Oh, wait… yes, I do! He’s a narcissist

@JGraham-hx8gm

8 ай бұрын

I know, right? My X asked me why I was so jealous when I asked him who he was texting. Or, he would ask, "Why are you so insecure," When I would ask questions about other women. Heave forbid you fall prey and in love with a damn monster.

@camisnyder3460

5 ай бұрын

lol!!!!! I got one just like that?! Wtf?! Why stay married?!! Go sleep w all the trash you want!!!!!

I think after being married for years you realize the lack of depth and abuse and pull away emotionally from your spouse !! They cheat , but sad thing is they will never experience the true love and admiration between two people who truely love each other!

When my ex ( after 15 years of marriage) wanted to come back after 3 month discard, I asked “ what about your cheating?” He first tried explaining that he had a medical disease that he couldn’t say no to sexual offers. He then went to Plan B “ what kind of lousy nurse are you, these women need love and you don’t even care”. This was 30 years ago; of course I didn’t reconnect.

@VaidehiFoodFiesta

8 ай бұрын

Oh my god

I believe they probably are always looking to talk to, hang-out with, seeking other people - whether it gets sexual or not depends on the vulnerability of the new person...

@justrosy5

11 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, I think you're right about that. These narcs have no boundaries, and the only thing that slows them down are the enforced boundaries of others. The most galling one who crossed my path was the one who cut a Bible verse in half, so instead of "Against love, there is no law, " he just went around saying, in Bible believing circles, "There is no law" and then built an entire, really bizarre theology around that. The problem was, some of what he said made sense, and that was mixed in with all the gaslighting nonsense. It was all a matter of perspective and metaphysical discussion. Discernment "from on high" was of no real use. This guy was a master manipulator of the highest order. I've sometimes thought about looking him up to find out if he's landed his butt in jail yet, but I've decided, ultimately, that it doesn't matter. Even if not, he has likely already burned every bridge that mattered and is just bed-surfing from one woman to the next.

@TheTRADMOM

9 ай бұрын

I literally tell my kids father if I had a list of go to whores on the side like he keeps I’d constantly be trying to leave too. It’s crazy they feel no remorse or feeling for the family they leave suffering in the wake of their constant infidelity

after my experience, I really believe that ALL narcissists cheat. My narc cheated for validation and constant attention that he needed that I wasn't able to give him. I think he felt entitled and that he deserved it from as many supplies as he could manage, to which he didnt manage well at all

Not all heroes wear capes. Dr Ramani you're a real lifesaver.

You are absolutely correct! You CAN tell the difference between being cheated on by a narcissist and a non-narcissist. I had the distinct pleasure of experiencing both, but when it happened with the non he was very contrite and apologetic and we went to therapy and it didn't happen again. With the narcissist, there was zero apology, no therapy, and it happened five more times.

@LC-gu2sc

7 ай бұрын

Absolutely, they demonstrate a cycle. Horrible to be them, they self destruct and uou have to slow it. Save yourself.

@LC-gu2sc

7 ай бұрын

You have to allow it.

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@mariannestone9746

Жыл бұрын

To reach out to them... Just look up their name and connect to their page. Look their name up on google only so you get to see their platform.

@harrietpullen6591

Жыл бұрын

My daughter is now in that age where we really need to start giving her more attention, specially with so many dangers on the internet. Recommendations about *Coherent Recovery* has been extremely helpful. I got the access swiftly without any interruption and it was done undetectably , thanks 🙏🙏

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@harrietpullen6591

Жыл бұрын

My daughter is now in that age where we really need to start giving her more attention, specially with so many dangers on the internet. Recommendations about *Coherent Recovery* has been extremely helpful. I got the access swiftly without any interruption and it was done undetectably , thanks 🙏🙏

Omg i was married to that for 12 years.Divorced now.He discarded me.He told me i did not pay enough attention to him.I could write a book on the stuff he did.

@sherrieadams5773

Жыл бұрын

I’m sorry you went through that

@ChrissyxXx

Жыл бұрын

You were lucky..narcissists don't usually let go of their scapegoat

@ChrissyxXx

Жыл бұрын

Not all cheats are narcissists..but all narcissists, will cheat

@ladyvirgo9514

Жыл бұрын

Same here, 12 year marriage that wasn't even real

Yes, he was unfaithful and cheated on many levels and he never cared how it hurt me. He just kept doing it over and over very insidious!

@lillatinabby

Ай бұрын

Same here

He treated me and beat me like a dog for 18 yrs.. i finally got tangible evidence and got a restraining order. I thought the hardest part would be to walk away... it's actually the intense fight and vindictive revenge that comes after that... its been 5 months and i just started the divorce process yesterday. I am so grateful to see how strong I am to say "No More!" We have kids, and yes parental alienation is painful.. but I need to fight for my life in order to set my children free from a future of abuse.

Not going to lie, but we are actually really proud to have an employee like you as part of our team. The job is done so gracefully and neatly. Very well done, dear *Future Imperative Corps* . First of all. Thank you for making the work environment so friendly and taking your responsibility seriously and completing the work gracefully! You deserve so much.

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Жыл бұрын

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Жыл бұрын

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Жыл бұрын

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My ex cheated on me. When I found out, things were already over for me. The worst betrayal was that our long term friends took his side and did not beleive me. They discarded me and when we happened to connect one time, she had to tell me all about my ex's new girlfriend. I just feel sorry for anyone associated with them now. Our friendship was a lie.

“ my “ narc is often projecting that I am cheating or will cheat. I think it’s projection and in a way unconsciously telling me who she is.

@danno5805

Ай бұрын

I finally found a man on here lol imo this page is full of women protecting 😂

I think the most disgusting thing for me when it came to my ex and his cheating is that when he finally admitted he was seeing someone else (after a year and a half of me already knowing), he wanted me to empathize with him as he mourned the loss of the other woman. I had to feel bad for HIM because he lost a source of supply. I think back on that memory and it makes me feel physically ill in my stomach. And two weeks after his "confession," he was back on the dating apps.

I literally convinced myself my communal narcissist husband wouldn’t cheat! 26yrs later I finally realized he was the whole time. Even when confronted he denied it of course & started textbook gaslighting me. Because of education from Dr Ramani & a few others I now know how blind I was. I’m currently working on getting healthy & out of this toxic relationship. Praying for Gods guidance.

@LC-gu2sc

7 ай бұрын

Give yourself time. Your not alone. They are evil, self centered indiv. Run baby run. Take care of you. It's mental, they have to ruin everything.

@Leehartzell

6 ай бұрын

Same. And then once he was arrested for DV I got a slap of reality when I saw his phone and found and spoke with some of them and saw his Google maps and downloads and all of it at once 😢

@heathercashwell1003

5 ай бұрын

Yes same story here. 27 yrs. I asked the Lord to make him tell me and after entire marriage of gaslighting me about my occasional red flag questions suspicions when confronted he always had a deflection even if they were carelessly told to me and no genuine remorse I’m sure he did cry at some point as he said to me dry eyed. He is a master at convincing himself that he has a right. Well terrified that his image being ruined that threat brings great anger here I go leaving him Jordon Peterson said something like it’s opening a box of chaos in the place of order. Ruins. (Separate) I still don’t want to. 😢 I’m well educated on what goes with that step. So hard. I wish us both the best. Thanks for sharing

You have described my husband to a tee. He is a serial cheater and probably a covert narcissist. He’s so hard to live with - I am not going to be with him forever. He had a beautiful façade up at one time- but now I know.

We see the red flags, we put our heads in the sand. There are many signs

When I was young and dating, I always warned a partner if they ever cheated, I would not be able to forgive them, even if I might want to. I know myself. When trust has been broken once I will never trust them again.

@shoebansari4131

6 ай бұрын

Same with me ... don't give another chance to cheater

The biggest problem in this subject is, most of the videos (and comments) are about narcissistic, cheating husbands. But for those of us men suffering with narcissistic, cheating wives, it's isolating. Remember, folks: women can be narcissists and cheaters, too! And it's just as deeply traumatic as the more traditional story of the male narcissist.

@jimvenne1117

2 ай бұрын

I'm going through this with my abusive girlfriend as of today will be booted out.i want no contact.

@critiqueoflife

2 ай бұрын

Absolutely. Although men are more often called/diagnosed as narcissistic, this may very well reflect the values of our society, which traditionally celebrates, and elevates, the character of women. Women's behavior is presumed to be innocent and benevolent, and is seen as such. Expectancy. The actual situation is unknowable.

This is why I'm staying out of relationships for life & for good

We teach our intimate partners how they treat us by sticking to zero tolerance for unacceptable behavior. When we trade our authenticity for our attachment need, we abandon ourselves and our self esteem erodes. The person we must be most loyal to is ourselves.

@lynnebucher6537

Жыл бұрын

Beautifully written and so true.

@deborahburns473

Жыл бұрын

Anonymous...so very true!

@emmajane646

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for that. I realised this morning is the reason so many boyfriends dumped me is because I made it clear that they would have a hard time pulling one over me. They would usually move onto a person who was a more willing doormat so they could easily cheat on them without hearing any complaints.

@windysmith7367

Жыл бұрын

That’s why it usually ends when you start setting boundaries or making suggestions to improve things. They can do no wrong and never want you to address their behavior even in the context of “we”. Because of their disorder they truly don’t have empathy and their self centeredness, lack of self reflection, will never allow you to have a healthy relationship with them.

@KamelaSSpivey

5 ай бұрын

All these things about narcissists are true - they do horrible things!! It seems like our society has an overabundance of them in it, and that may make this thought irrational, but it seems if someone is diagnosed as a narcissist, it should almost put them into a bracket like that of a criminal!! Why can't something be done to prevent narcissists from being able to BE AROUND the rest of the folks in the world? I do realize this thought and or request is somewhat crazy, because there are SO MANY narcissists these days. Also that all narcissists may not be criminals, but they DO rob people of the quality of life that they should be able to pursue!! They wreak havoc on all around them, whether it is realized or not. They lie, steal and cheat to satisfy themselves and have no concern for other's feelings or boundaries or even property; they are nasty underneath even if looking like the perfect gentleman on the exterior - deceitful and cunning. And they do not stop. They leave a path of destruction and a trail of pain & suffering. It seems they all need to be hauled off to a mental institution to first of all SEE if there is hope for them to behave within the guidelines of appropriate behaviour, and the ones that are truly hopeless can be in a different sector for extreme therapy, guidance and rehabilitation. I just feel like there has to be SOMETHING that can be done about the toxic people that narcissists ARE!!! It would be nice to say prisons are those places, but I'm willing to bet that many are too slick to be caught up in legal problems, though not ALL. Also, that while nasty, all may not BE actual criminals, just like ALL the people in prisons probably aren't guilty of their accused crimes. It just seems as though there could be a way to separate narcissists from those of us who want to actually treat others the way they want to be treated - to be respectful to others as well as respected, to live an honest and productive life and teach others to do the same, as well as learn life's lessons on the way.

E X A C T L Y my ex. You're right- the times he was in a good mood and being really nice to me was because he enjoyed duping me and new he was building me up for a massive discard that would devastate me. He fully calculated this and enjoyed watching me destroyed and suffering.

This hurts me so bad. This is what I been going through for the last 5 years!!! And I have 2 year old twin boys with her. I started educating myself on this because I haven't done nothing wrong. I been loyal, I work, take care of our home and have a big heart but she so cold to me. She got caught cheating twice and barely found out she did it the third time and was trying to do it again. I'm really hurt! Thus is a horrible feeling because I really try to be a family man.

@LC-gu2sc

7 ай бұрын

Get out. The cheating will cont. You know things are not right. Run, heal, your worth it.

@orrainecephas844

6 ай бұрын

Smh I feel you

@danzada7769

6 ай бұрын

So sad. Thesetype of people need to be locked up.

@kingslymeseventruly

6 ай бұрын

You deserve to be happy, I’m so sorry, please prepare to live your best life away from her, God bless you

@loglady33

5 ай бұрын

You can be family man with someone else, with her you only destroy yourself

My ex narc cheated on me with a girl and now wants to cheat on the same girl (who became his gf in the meantime) with me !!! He keeps sending me all kind of messages (you're the love of my life kind of things) even though he is blocked. Out of anger for what he is doing, I send a message to his girlfriend telling her that I would be glad if she accepts to talk to me. She didn't answer to me. He told me that they spoke about it and that whatever I have to say she doesn't want to know... I really don't know what lies he told her about me !

My narcissist cheated all the time! And he would often threaten our relationship by saying there was someone who has expressed interest in him and wanted to know him more. Just so that i would get jittery around him. Love is not like this at all. Love is making the other feels secure at all times.

@heathercampbell6893

Жыл бұрын

Oh yuccchhh...those intimations that there could always be someone better for him, really, really nasty stuff.

@sharipeterson1126

Жыл бұрын

My nex-husband would throw his arms wide open, as if he were hugging 10 women at once, and constantly said, "ALL women love and adore me!!!!" Of course, I new it wasn't true, but he tried so hard to triangulate me with "all women", and I knew he was bragging again.

@windysmith7367

Жыл бұрын

That’s awful Margaret. I am sorry you had to endure that.

@margaretlim9193

Жыл бұрын

You know what, this guy actually impersonated a lady friend who would call me out of the blue, after a bitter quarrel, and raved praises unto him, saying how great he is a person, to others as well. And that he's an excellent catch. It was much later i realised all these persona were nine other than he himself acting out.

@maslizamuhammad5275

Жыл бұрын

Ohhhhhh God..my EX the COVERT NARC..is the KINGGGGGG OF FLIRTINGGGGGGG..and talked about CHEATINGGGGGG..it happened behind my backkkkk of course..i ve DISCARDED and UNMASKED him rightttt at the endddd..and WALKED awayyyyyy after 3 years of a very TOXICCCCCCCC RELATIONSHIP..happy healingggg to all SURVIVORS..😊😊😊😊😊

Yes because they get bored easily. Need that new supply who has no idea whats going on.

My narc bf cheated on me and the way I found out was tricking him into thinking I wanted to open up the relationship. Made me sick to my stomach. It hurt ALOT

Thank you for posting this. My narcissistic ex cheated on me with his coworker and I had a gut feeling it was happening, but he gaslighted me into thinking I was crazy. I now look back in hindsight and realize that right around the time he started cheating, he was starting fights with me all the time over the stupidest things, so that he could justify his cheating by acting like we were so unhappy and fighting all the time. Little did I know that he was purposely creating the unhappiness. I spent years thinking it was my fault and that I did something to make us unhappy, and tried to fix things that were not broken. Not that I was perfect; I definitely had things to work on and we really weren't meant to be together anyways. But he could've just said that. He didn't have to make me think I was crazy and create all this chaos just to justify his choices. Narcissists cannot just move onto the next person; they have to make sure they make that transition as painful as possible for the partner they're leaving.

@cavgrey8

Жыл бұрын

They leave a trail of scorched earth.

@FaCeSays

Жыл бұрын

Exactly…I don’t get why though.

@sharipeterson1126

Жыл бұрын

They love to create chaos in order for you to get upset. Don't fall for it. They want to call the cops and charge YOU for domestic violence when they're the abusive one. So stay calm and let them roar and act up. Take videos of their behavior when they don't know you're doing it. Record them threatening you and be sure to lock your phone so the narc cannot erase those files.

@sweetielady7710

Жыл бұрын

@@sharipeterson1126 very true.. well said!! I agree about recording behavior, but I also have seen situations where it could go either way. I’ve seen many instances in which narcs push people to their breaking point and just record that moment so they can make themselves look like victims. But you’re right that narcs do crave chaos and any documentation of proof will ultimately be helpful in the long run.

@sharipeterson1126

Жыл бұрын

@Sweetie Lady the reason I mention recording their behavior is so their victims can use it when trying to get a restraining order. Also, narcs betray their financial bad deeds a lot of times during fits of anger, so if you're able to record them letting something slip, you're that much better. One narcissist told the judge, while I was trying to get a restraining order, that he had lied. That was all the judge needed to tell him he's a pathological liar and he didn't believe a word he'd said. He gave me the restraining order.

I was so shamed at the weekend marriage retreat we tried. Yes, there were some people there that were dealing with one time affairs, no narcissistic issues in the marriage. But we were there after he finally did get caught, after 20 years of cheating with 25 different affairs! The dynamic was so wrong. One elder told me that I need to change my perspective, forgive and forget! I became so physically ill in the following years while I tried to fix it. But he continued, I left. I still get pangs of shame and guilt and it has been 20 years since the divorce. I have learned so much, wish Dr R had been around then!! That retreat just gave him justification for sexual addiction and narcissism. Sick!!

@soldatintelectual6544

3 ай бұрын

Wait So you were with him for 20 years and now another 20 years since you broke up?

Vulnerable narcs start cheating online. It's the gateway for the antisocial narc. One thing leads to another, and then they ask you if they can go "pick up their friend from the airport"and "show them around town." 🤮

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@mariannestone9746

Жыл бұрын

To reach out to them... Just look up their name and connect to their page. Look their name up on google only so you get to see their platform.

@harrietpullen6591

Жыл бұрын

My daughter is now in that age where we really need to start giving her more attention, specially with so many dangers on the internet. Recommendations about *Coherent Recovery* has been extremely helpful. I got the access swiftly without any interruption and it was done undetectably , thanks 🙏🙏

My ex husband was a Malignant Narcissist, he would gaslight me when I would confront him about messages I would find from a particular woman on his social media account.Long story short he ended up marrying her and having 2 kids with her. The woman even knew about me

@libertyporta

8 ай бұрын

I will never understand how a woman can do that to another woman! It is an awful way to be, and a disappointment for the whole female race!!

@ebee24

Ай бұрын

Yup, my ex did the same. Had a baby with her and called me that same day to tell me "I really hope you know this doesn't change anything between us." And proceeded to want to have sex over the phone.

During my happy 23 yr marriage, I NEVER EVER believed he would cheat. Signs were there, people hinted to me, but I said they were crazy or jealous of our incredible relationship. I wasn't just confident, I was smug! When I found out he cheated some way every single day of our marriage, my sense of reality shattered. Now I can't trust my reality, or any reality. I see happy couples and think their realities could be a lie like mine and they don't even know it.

@brad6742

Жыл бұрын

Hate to say it, but you were deep in the feminist simp narrative, he saw that and played along because there was no other choice. If he's a good guy, it was likely morally fueled by the hypocrisy. Women, up until recently, have default/assumed that all men they are not with physically are simps, it's gone so far that women started to truly believe their husbands are simps as well and that this is the status quo of our society, whereas evolution tells a different story...

@pa2359

Жыл бұрын

25 yrs and same story

@cardamomfairy8274

Жыл бұрын

Looks like your discovery of infidelity is recent. You will come back to baseline and will start trusting people again once time heals all your wounds.

@aprilchow-chee5281

Жыл бұрын

@@cardamomfairy8274 this is not true for everyone

@kareneggleston8755

Жыл бұрын

24 years and my foundation has been completely ripped out from under me. I don’t even trust myself to know what is real and true at this point! So I find myself mistrusting everyone in my life

My narc mother bragged to me about her prolific affairs. I've always felt that this was a form of competition for her. Keeping her secrets put me in a horrible position with my dad, brother, and extended social circle.

@camisnyder3460

5 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry -praying right now God protects you from Narcissists.

It’s all so painful! I don’t know how I will ever recover… I am trying to get away… afraid! Thanks for talking about it! So many people have no idea and everyone really thinks he is the best person ever! Makes me sick!

@dwaynemcinnes5914

Жыл бұрын

I just got away. I hope that you are ok. Maybe you could help me in my recovery..any ideas luv?

Cheaters usually end up either being cheated on or in an unhappy relationship where their partner controls them.

I'm a 64-year-old man who's still dealing with the toxic effects of a narcissistic mother and a cheating narcissist I had a relationship with over 30 years ago. The romance was with a married woman (now deceased). It was my first serious sexual relationship and a template of sorts was formed in my brain. Of course, the time came when I received the "Dear John" letter. This came while she had begun a sexual relationship with another man. The romance began with what I've learned is called "love bombing." She flattered me at every turn and pleased me sexually. For someone like me, a young man with zero self-confidence, this was a brief golden age where anything seemed possible. She convinced me I needed to attain higher education in order to be a better earner when the day came she would be leaving her husband (a high earner). So, I stupidly went back to school, starting at a CC, transferring to the Ivy League and then on to law school. And she pulled the rug out from under me. I'm fortunate to have found a good, caring woman to whom I will be married a dozen years next month. She has been supportive in my efforts to heal. What I've written here is not to encourage sympathy but instead to demonstrate how destructive narcissism can be. I wish you all healing...

Yup! Cheaters are mostly narcs. Narcs are risk takers and feel they deserve rewards

My husband of 34 years was a cheater that could not stop. He furthered the trauma by trying to get me arrested and portrayed me as mentally unstable. It’s been 10 years now and the last 5 have been great. I’m so thankful I finally got away!

Not all narcissists cheat, but I do think that most cheaters are narcissists. Infidelity is an inherently narcissistic and abusive act.

@mrvocal21

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely, its an extremely callous thing to do

@timefilm

Жыл бұрын

The only time they don't cheat is when they don't get any takers

@lillybethford1915

Жыл бұрын

I agree👍 to a certain point. ALL narcissists cheat, physical…emotional or both. Particularly covert narcissist, they’re so sneaky, a well-seasoned investigator may have a difficult time discovering the lies they hide. I think in order to deal with the issue, many victims delude themselves into believing differently. They view cheating as an entitlement and if they’re not cheating ‘at this moment’, the opportunity hasn’t presented itself..YET.

@SteveSavage79

Жыл бұрын

Well said.

@elkebanhart7045

Жыл бұрын

Yess 👍🥴

This topic makes me physically sick based on my past with narcissists. Never again!! It's not worth your energy or your precious life.

Left a narcissistic partner 3 months ago. He was hiding texts and phone calls to an ex girlfriend. Lied about who was calling, etc. This, along with all the other lies I had documented, was enough for me. When addressed, he invalidated my feelings and then gaslighted me, and finally ended with him raging and verbally abusing me claiming I didn’t trust him. It was traumatizing. That was it for me ….I walked away.

@fleecejohnson6939

Жыл бұрын

That's what gets me... they do untrustworthy stuff like cheat and get caught and than say you don't trust me? Imagine if our president was aiding our enemy in war and than mad bc we didn't trust him.... that's another way to look at it

@windysmith7367

Жыл бұрын

@@fleecejohnson6939 so true. He couldn’t see all that he had done to cause the distrust. Unbelievable! This woman was calling at 10:00 at night, he denied who was calling, then went to contacts to show me her abbreviated name and phone number like that proved something. I hit send message and all these messages begin to populate. I couldn’t see them well (didn’t have my glasses on) but I saw several $$$ amounts so I believe he was giving her money. He quickly took the phone, scrolled through and THEN recalled who it was claiming SHE called him asking for help on selling her parents property (he is not a realtor). Assured me there was nothing sexual going on and said, “I am here with you.” Story/reason didn’t even make sense. A year prior he told me they dated 15 years ago on and off for 3 years and she was unstable (alcoholic, pills and a gambler) so he ended it. He had blocked her and never wanted anything to do with her. When I brought this discrepancy up he would not address it?? Just claimed he was friends with all his ex girlfriends which was new to me. The fact she was calling late at night leads me to believe they had been talking late at night and texting which is still cheating in my mind because it’s being done in secret. We didn’t live together. I think he was grooming her for a back up. Still very hurt and upset over the whole thing but I know I needed to see who he was. He thought I would believe his lies and just claim I was insecure and buy it. 4 months no contact. I blocked him right after this. Only one Hoover 5 days after this (he left some items on my porch). I am sure he was thinking I would reach out. I did not.

@AS-on1fz

Жыл бұрын

Sounds we dated the same guy lol, they suck!!! He did the exact same thing, exactly the same to me. It's been a torture.

@windysmith7367

Жыл бұрын

@@AS-on1fz it does suck. I felt very deceived. Stay strong and remain no contact.

@Irishflicka

Жыл бұрын

Glad that u were able to walk away! Went through something similar, then everything unraveled and found out so much

Mines a covert narcissist. And he’s spent all his time since I found out subtlety implying I was to blame, gaslighting me that he didn’t actually cheat and having amnesia it seems. Interesting thing is for years he accused me of possibly cheating!! While I’m taking care of our kids 24/7 like I’d ever have time to do that and I never would, never did…even when he’s been abusing me for years. I still wouldn’t do that. God sees all. Thank you for your videos so I can learn and get a grip on reality while I figure out how to get out of this mess I’m in.

@KamelaSSpivey

5 ай бұрын

You CAN do it, though! Being aware of it is the first step. Just commit to doing it to better yourself & prevent your children from seeing, sensing things you do not want them to repeat - they are sponges, you know! Don't end up in legal entanglements like I have done; now I can't even focus on healing so much but instead have to focus on maintaining my freedom to even explain the truth of the entire situation!! I believe my case is rare, but I'm interested to find out if other legal and or criminal cases have been all because of a narcissist and their actions. I intend to find out & hopefully get the help I need!!

Although bad behavior from others hurts, it can actually be a good thing; It makes it easier to walk away, It's like, "Thank you for showing me who you really are". In the future you will view the abuse as a positive thing; It helped get you out of the fantasy.

@carolynrichards9124

Жыл бұрын

When I found out my ex cheated on me, I actually felt relieved. I finally knew for sure what was really going on, and it made it so much easier to leave.

@melissawhite4620

Жыл бұрын

David - THIS! Once the spell was broken, I was able to well and truly cut off the relationship like the rotten limb it was. No doubting my decision. No looking back. When the mask comes off, you really realize it’s no loss at all. Only a loss of the pain, fear, and paranoia making us insane. What a favor from our abusers.

@TR-nv3if

Жыл бұрын

When mine starts acting very normal, kind, etc.. it stresses me as usually the behaviors turn bad again. I don’t trust the good times anymore. Yes, I secretly hope he acts bad as it is a motivator for me to leave. ( I don’t incite or bait him into bad behavior, but I calmly wait as I know the mask will slip again)

@emmajane646

Жыл бұрын

@@TR-nv3if don't wait just leave now. It will never get better, only get worse and you will waste more time with a cheater. What are you waiting for?

@danielfont713

Жыл бұрын

My narc pulled me back in about 10 times over the course of 8 years. I finally cut the relationship off the with the last time I found out he was cheating. It’s been 8 weeks of no contact on my end and no contact on his end. I think he’s finally done bothering me

Yup, mine has a cheat cycle, just happened again for last time…

Yes, thank you for clearing this up. A cheater cheats because it’s about them. They feel they deserve… it’s selfish. It’s about them.

Yes my narcissistic husband has been doing this & keeping me literally trapped in life & in his house. It’s been 26 years, I finally woke up & realized about him over 10 months ago, his manipulation game is good, he’s got everyone manipulated against me including my kids!! He’s so sick & disgusting!! I quit having sex with him 2 years ago when he was having affairs with my best friend at that time, there’s been other women too, he allows me to stay in a bedroom in his house, he’s literally got me trapped with pretty much nothing! I’m physically sick from the long term abuse, he blames everything on me, I cannot get out, I’ve tried getting help from free legal services, domestic violence hotline, abused women help services & nope, nobody can help me, I have been trying for 10 months 😭😭 I’m trapped like a hostage, I cannot make a move out of here without him & his family & all the friends I have had to cut off communication with because he has them all manipulated against me too I have nowhere to go but the streets to die & he knows that 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭All I can do is cry all the time & pray to God ♥️🙏🏻♥️

@donnasimmons2241

5 ай бұрын

You keep praying. God is with you and will find you a way out.

Yes! My narcissistic abuser carried on several complete relationships for almost a decade. I'd be discarded (I didn't know anything about anything until I started writing everything down and recognized that there was a very distinct pattern, a cycle. Every 7 to 10 days for 8 years, he'd pick a bogus fight, ghost me, and then when he was done making his rounds, he'd hit me up as if nothing ever happened. I, being a codependent with abandonment issues, was left bewildered, crushed, often spending days curled up on the bathroom floor crying and completely broken. In the summer of 2021, he was gone for 3 months, missing my birthday, and I lost 30 pounds.. unable to eat, to sleep, or even function in my day to day life. I'd been accustomed to the weekends, or a week but months...I completely could not deal. I began keeping a journal of all the abusive tactics he'd use to keep me broken, to keep me wanting him to come bk and make all the overwhelming pain go away. After Dr. Ramani taught me every single aspect of narcissist and narcissistic abuse. I became strong...realizing that it wasn't me, I wasn't stupid, I wasn't the moronic idiot he'd proclaimed that I was. He had taken a once extremely self confident, self secure, strong woman and belittled, devalued, and gaslit into to thinking that I was the most egregious person to have ever walked the face of the earth. That I had mental issues, that my memory was horrible, that I was hearing things and making up scenarios in my head that he just couldn't take anymore...those were his excuses for abandoning me... The future faking was intense, the love bombing was extreme, the devaluing was destructive and the continuous discarding was utterly unbearable...until I stood up and finally used my voice to explain to this person that I wasn't going to take his abuse...emotional, psychological, verbal, and yes...physical abuse anymore. I called him out on alllll his bs (I know I wasn't supposed to to but I needed him to know that I wasn't the idiot here...the idiot here was the absurdly mentality deficient A-hole who believed his own made up lies about me, discarded the only MF-er who had ever had his back in every situation, and who honestly believed that I would not find out about these other women (and men) he was having sex with on our bed and that I would just take it.. accept it and continue to allow that horrific behavior to continue while sticking around. It's been 12 weeks.. I cry every day, but I journal every memory of even the slightest hint of abuse, neglect, and overall mistreatment of me. This has saved me and my sanity. He called me yesterday and proclaimed very loudly that I was the reason we did not work out. He's right. Im the one who gained the knowledge of what was happening, gained the strength to walk away, and ultimately.. got the F outta that hell that I has been living in for 8 very long, sad, lonely years. I don't know who I am yet, but I've an idea that I'm pretty amazing, and I plan to live out my life in an amazingly, informed manner. Ty Dr Ramani. I believed u truly saved my life... and gave me bk the power that he had stolen from me.

@emmajane646

Жыл бұрын

I am sorry you went through that. If you find you need another man in your life, please make sure it is Jesus Christ. Take it from me, He will NEVER leave you or deceive you!

@Toadhouse2003

Жыл бұрын

😭😭😭😭 That’s horrific! I’m glad you are getting better and moving on. May God give you strength, always.

@sharipeterson1126

Жыл бұрын

Jill Cannon you finally got it right! I'm so relieved he's out of your life!!!!

@luciwallen3055

Жыл бұрын

I feel your pain. Be grateful it wasn't longer than 8 years - you are a survivor and though it will be (is hard), you will find the peace and happiness you deserve.

@nolantanaka565

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like the mother of my 4 kids….

I learned that the narc I was in love with had several other women, a serial cheater and liar on steroids! Later learned he had a reputation for having many women; and, a few times, I saw him intensely watching men. I am devastated and terrified.

My ex was a covert narcissist and I found condoms in his work helmet, he then insulted me with a gaslighting lie about something that never even happened and that he was "giving them out"😢

I was married for 17 years & my ex-wife did cheat on me 3 times, then years later I met another woman & dated her for almost 7 years & she did the same thing to me, I never knew what a Narcissist's was until I started watching podcast like these, all of you nailed it 110% of these types of people, keep up the great job on your podcasts, I watch you once a week or so & learn so much about them 👍😊

@poet4727

3 ай бұрын

They are attracted to empaths. You might be one.

yes they all do. Took me about 55 years to figure that out.

You are making me so happy in this chapter. I am addicted to your videos and I say the bad word, BUT I need to focus other life related activities to preserve the rest of my sanity. You are a blessing to this world with this channel. Thank you.

Already here in therapy cant get any better than this. I am handling this cycle so well than last years and learning so much. Thanks much

It’s so heartbreaking. And the irrational becomes rational in their minds. Wow. This information is so true and helpful l

I am gay and my ex was a covert narcissist or I believe him to be. I realize he had numerous affairs even with his "friends". Sometimes they actually hint at who they may have cheated on you with. But the reality is that there are more than you could imagine. I have found they also typically have a partner in crime who has similar sociopathic traits who they may cheat with or covers for them. Those "doesnt make sense" moments become "ah, thats what that meant" moments. I find myself constantly ruminating over those.

@anneliesvanpoucke8731

Жыл бұрын

they leak truth indeed, for whatever reason (still not sure why that is), hang in there, it's worth it!

@lets.get.intoit.

Жыл бұрын

YES!! Same omg

@mrleomich

Жыл бұрын

My ex-wife of 14yrs cheated with 9 men in a period I could put I put together over 11 of those years. The last one she was emotionally involved with, and that was when I realized something was wrong. Of course, I was beyond oblivious to all the 8 cheat occurrences prior. I was crushed, and in spite of the last 4 years of divorce, a few other relationships, therapy, and all the suffering I endured, I hate to admit I still idealize the fantasy, and the false-self images I lived with for so long. Leave, do not look back, forget the sick narc.

@anneliesvanpoucke8731

Жыл бұрын

@@mrleomich My mother cheated on my father with numerous men and even flaunted it at times, as a child I was made complicious, they are now "celebrating" 50 yrs of marriage (thinking one of us 3 daughters even remotely are interested in celebrating that...Be proud you got away..My father is shell of himself, a robot...lost his whole life catering to her antics..So, good for you and the kids hopefully if you fot any! I would be proud of you as a daughter. I once asked my dad (after she had disappeared once again, always very dramatic) : why don't you just let her go, leave, be happy, have a life...He told me (he's very religious) : I wed her for better and for worse and there is lot of "worse", but one shall not separate what god put together (or somethng like that, it's a bible verse)..Sad, very sad...everyone deserves so much better! Let go of those falsehoods, and be happy, for you!

@anneliesvanpoucke8731

Жыл бұрын

oh, and my father is not my bio father of course, our local GP was, as from my smaller brother, who sadly passed away shortly after birth, and (no surprise there) remains to appear the only child my mother ever truly wanted ("appears" that is..). She is a vile woman..And trust me, we are perceived as a well to do well educated family... Oh, the secrets, they can never get enough of them..it's their game..Up and until this very day at 75 yrs old..

The father of my kids doesn't even said sorry. He said " when you looking for something, you will found it!" literally.... what a guy! no more thanks God! Thank you so much Dr Ramani blessings and peace to everyone ✨🙏✨

Cheating, lying and hiding is a real high for them. He said it's just a bit of fun 😂 Well I worked out he can his fun and he can live happily ever after. I just left and it feels so good.

I discovered my narcissistic wife cheated on me in 2016. I was devestated to my core and was not prepared to leave her. Im planning my exit

@user-hv3je5ng3v

13 күн бұрын

Have you made your way out?

Several months ago my answer would have been “no, they don’t all cheat, mine didn’t”, however another woman has informed me that the months he claimed to be in therapy, by therapy he really meant that once a week he was having an affair with her. SO glad he’s out of my life!

@Glitter504

Жыл бұрын

Oh lord ! So sorry ❤glad you got out!!!

@windysmith7367

Жыл бұрын

It’s true…they don’t all cheat but this personality disorder lends itself to cheating because of the high need for validation. it’s all about their insecurities and need for validation. It’s not about you or the other person. That’s why they all try to stay friends with their exes.

You absolutely NAILED it!!!! I could identify or relate to every single thing you said!

Thanks for breaking things down you’re explaining it way better than most of these people on KZread.

The narcissist I was with did cheat. Sadly there was absolutely no reason to cheat. We both had a high sexual appetite. I was absolutely floored when I found out he was cheating. He was going to sex clubs, meeting up on one night stand etc, etc, etc. It horrified me to come to realize what he could have exposed me to … luckily I am clean. I loved myself enough to walk away. Be safe out there … there is light at the end of the tunnel.

@trudyferguson3993

Жыл бұрын

@Lisa Kaye Hawkins me too.

@ezra4518

Жыл бұрын

Same

@palapalak.8907

Жыл бұрын

​@angelbadazz_bartender4155 Mentally sick. You can't figure out setial Killers either.

@cc1k435

Жыл бұрын

​@Angel Badazz_Bartender There's having a high sex drive, but then there's addiction. 💔

Tried to desperately get your help 5 years ago while I went thru this- you could actually use my experiences to help ppl. I'm here and still living- made it thru

Hi....I want to thank you for being out there...I feel like i was one of the blessed ones to have found you and your videos. Me and the Narc in my life had an awesome summer vacation..3 days after we got back i asked him to leave...he was so caught off guard. He moved out after trying to push my buttons. I moved out of my own home until he was gone . He says he is still in shock and doesnt understand what he done wrong...he was seeing another when he was still sweet talking me...good thing i never said i was his girlfriend..that would have been more devistating. Thank you again...feeling blessed seeing your videos at the start of this friendship/relationship.

My current relationship is just another narcissistic interaction. My first was a relationship with a covert sexual narcissist. She was seducing her coworkers and leaving work with her hip out of joint so she was hunched over when she walked out of the shop to her waiting car intact with her current boyfriend who has no clue of what she is doing. Everyone at her work knew or participated in her infidelity. Why is the committed person in the relationship the last to know. No one will tell the commited person that their partner has been having sex with her coworkers. This is why I have blasted my experience all over the Internet. The pain of knowing that I have been cheated on for the last few years has taken it's toll on my self esteem. Every one of these narcissistic animals are preditors and need to be punished and made responsible for their actions against their fellow human beings

They know we know they are cheating or telling lies. Tolerate from you will make them think they are in control of your relationship. Abandon them will makes them feel like you have ruined their entire life and will act extremly weird, even pretend to be extremly vulnerable.--expericence from abandon my Nacrcissism parent once and for all.

Thank you Dr. Ramani. You are helping me to get stronger so I can move on. You completely described my relationship. He is a serial cheater and really only cares about himself. When I catch him he puts the blame on me for not being enough.

Absolutely spot on, Dr. Ramani! Thank you for your clarity! This helped me so much! Narcissism must be identified and addressed. I now know what I need to do.

When I listen to you speak about your experiences with narcissistic patients it feels like your directly telling me face 2 face really adds an extra coding of understanding on the topic

Simply brilliant!! Being married to one is heart breaking and dehumanising for a man I can tell you!