Sorry for the reupload! For some reason people couldnt hear the audio on the last one!

@Empmortakaten

8 ай бұрын

Was wondering what was going on with the last video. Watched it all the way through and then it bugged out. Refreshed the page and it said it was deleted. Was super confused.

@Tariffs

8 ай бұрын

Is there a reason why you don't post the link to the thread in the video description?

@alexcastillo4741

8 ай бұрын

​@@Tariffscuz it's fake

I guarantee you that the mother cheated on the dad before they got married.

@legiontepes3474

8 ай бұрын

100%

@2_simple

8 ай бұрын

don't know how the dad doesn't see the red flag and how she reacted though kinda normal seems wrong because she instilled this into they minds and maybe she realized (if she did cheat) that it was wrong even before marriage

@potatoes8414

8 ай бұрын

Maybe dad isnt dad at all

@newturtle3

8 ай бұрын

Yup birds of a feather and like mother like daughter

@DraGon1229

8 ай бұрын

Yep so called "hoe phase"

Be "devoutly christian" > have sex before marriage > the sex is with someone else while you're dating > think getting married is forgiveness > husband finds out and is mad > surprised pikachu face

@paggles4495

8 ай бұрын

Can't make this shit up.

@mgntstr

7 ай бұрын

some peoples flavor of Christian truly beggars belief

@tbnrwolff3354

5 ай бұрын

Some people blame God because they're idiots and can't stand the fact that we were given Free Will and people are pieces of s*** or their pieces of s*** people use religion as an excuse to beg for money or some other selfish s*** and people like that really pissed me off because I'm Christian you ain't going to catch me asking for money using religion to do so I'm aware we were giving free will I ain't going to blame God for mistakes of human beings or myself because I'm aware I have flaws and I'm not a total selfish piece of s*** even though I act like it if you blame God you're the problem not him you made a mistake and now you're blaming someone else for it I hate people who use religion like that who decide well there's only one person to blame and it must be god no it's you ​ you made a mistake and you paid the price for it but in the case of cheaters they don't make mistakes they make choices everyone calls cheating a mistake when they get caught her some b******* it's not a mistake you choose to do it it's like five point a gun at someone's head and shoot them that wasn't no mistake now was it I willingly pull the trigger and killed someone right and guess what happens when you kill people you go to jail so if I did that I would have to pay the price obviously I'm not going to blame God for that I probably could have used a better example but I'm an idiot so I can't really think of anything@@mgntstr

@Afrogirrl

2 ай бұрын

Hate when people expect Christians to be golden human beings when at the end of the day we r still human beings. But what wife did was horrible

@ronanregan1478

2 ай бұрын

​@Afrogirrl No one expects Christians to be perfect, we expect them to NOT contradict their own beliefs or cherry pick shit

Dude is being manipulated by a pro. Keeps having 'panic attacks' when things aren't going her way.

@magnus19g8xc9

8 ай бұрын

Not just manipulated, but proved he’s a simp and a pushover.

@shellow4143

8 ай бұрын

​@@magnus19g8xc9Virgin talking lmao

@ANAMEHASNOTBEENTAKE

8 ай бұрын

Love how confident everybody on the internet is about people they’ve never met.

@Bloom_HD

8 ай бұрын

​@@ANAMEHASNOTBEENTAKEcheating is all I need to know to judge someone I never met

@mr.pothosswag8396

8 ай бұрын

@@ANAMEHASNOTBEENTAKE I just spent 20 minutes listening to an A.I. recital of his life with his wife. I'd argue that I know enough to make my own conclusions.

He literally answered the deal breaker question. "Would I have married her, if I knew back then" "No" and still forgave her. I have no words lmao

@Yepitsmedude

7 ай бұрын

Nothing wrong with forgiving her. However, the issue is he acted emotionally instead of logically

@acesolo8688

7 ай бұрын

@@Yepitsmedudeur right nothin wrong with forgiving her takin her back is the problem

@rmidifferent8906

6 ай бұрын

​@@acesolo8688 Why? Because he decided to mend the relationship and not just throw it away?

@acesolo8688

6 ай бұрын

@@rmidifferent8906 yes cheating is something you shouldn’t take a person back for h shouldn’t hate them but you shouldn’t stay with them either and if you do decide to stay it’s because your weak willed/minded and don’t have self respect

@MrMonnTM

6 ай бұрын

@@rmidifferent8906 I'm with @acesolo8688, when you forgive cheaters you not only subject yourself to painful and grueling years but you also set a standard for cheaters and give them inspiration that everything can be mended. I remember a story about a man in his mid 50's telling a story when his wife cheated and ruined everything for a really stupid thing, while they were in their 30's or around 25 or so, his wife worked at the hospital she met with a young janitor at the time. I don't remember exactly what he did to seduce her but she was a dumb hoe, he degraded her and used in disrespectful ways (it wasn't a fetish play it's like when totally hates the guys of a woman and simply sadistically get's off from doing brutally without inflicting physical damage) . Basically later on intentions of that janitor were revealed, he dared with his colleague that he can bang more married women than him and she was the winning ticket aka 3rd one. When she learned about that she felt like a useless slab of meat, humiliated beyond her believe and etc. Later one OP tells a story how to her dying breath (she died in her 50's due to colon cancer) she was trying fix their relationship (he forgave her) BUT he had triggers which either created panic attacks or moments of rage, DURING WHOLE FUCKING 20 YEARS he had them in years they subsided, last time he had one it was 3 years ago. Now a question, is it worth forgiving and taking back someone? As i understood she was in shambles and had to do a lot of things to mend everything (they also had kids at the time of her affair), he was constantly having those triggers due to her close proximity. Above stated is your "happy ending" which in my opinion was life of needles pain for both the assailant and the victim. Cheating is forgotten more easily when people break up and meet someone more deserving, cheaters if they actually have conscience suffer a bit longer while the one who were cheated on recover faster since they replace all the good memories with bad ones and a new partner comes into their life who brings more joy compared to horrible ex job. For cheaters on the other hand if they led a good life it's the opposite they start to remember their ex as someone good rather than bad and they have a more thorny path and if not helped by professional's this could last until death.

Imagine feeling like you are in the wrong for threatening divorce on someone who cheated on you multiple times, his it for 4 years, said it wasn't an issue and danced with the guy in front of you...

@alejandroc7357

8 ай бұрын

Right?? He feels guilty for the look on her face after giving her divorce papers. He needs to imagine what her face looked like when the other guy was balls deep in her. Maybe that will knock some sense into him

@s.l.r.9407

8 ай бұрын

He decided to forgive her, so that move was shitty on his part. Him being the victim doesn't mean he is incapable of being shitty. I can understand what he did, but I cannot condone it.

@yoshiei2238

8 ай бұрын

@@s.l.r.9407I think it is a good part to agree on consequences, if set parameters are not met. Having the papers just symbolizes on what youve agreed on. I mean consequences are not real if you dont pursue them right. And in this situation, where she didnt feel any remorse or guilt after cheating its good, she this time can forsee the consequences of her own doing. Her having a panick attack from that is of course considerable but If I would ever wanted to set foot in a realtionship like this again, I would think its good to set your grounding correct this time. At least then everybody knows and can understand the rules you are dealing with. So normaly I would agree with you but given the context I think its quite fair and you just need to deal with it (as her).

@cmamom76

7 ай бұрын

And then getting mad you for having the audacity to be upset smdh she's gaslighting him so badly and he's being her doormat smdh

@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami

4 ай бұрын

Then you find out you're a victkm of top tier manipulation

I remember reading the news that there was this elderly couple in their 90s that have been married for about 70+ years. The husband found out recently that his wife cheated on him 13 years into their marriage but it was only that one time that she claimed she said. The husband is getting a divorce and he rather die alone than be married to her. The lesson is never cheat because it doesn’t matter how long you been together or if it only happened once, you betrayed your vows for a fling.

@elseggs6504

7 ай бұрын

Its not only about breaking your vow (seriously, toddlers break fewer promises at this point), if youre whoring around like that, youre proving that you are a liar and cant be trusted. If youre truly her everything, it shouldnt even come up to your mind when youre drugged into Oblivion so if that was a blatant lie, what else was she dishonest about? Does she have another partner? Is she still seeing someone? All things you can never be certain of again. Which is why cuckolds like OP need to grow a fucking spine and toss that harlot to the bin asap

@denizkenger52

6 ай бұрын

I remember seeing that lol. She kept the AP’s letters tbh, and he came upon it. Keeping love letters from AP for around 40 years makes it even worse imo.

@mt8956

6 күн бұрын

@@denizkenger52that’s fucked up

I have been 100% faithful apart from the multiple infidelities. Such a beautiful line. Worthy of an award for most pointless things to say.

@tytoalba605

8 ай бұрын

Right i haveint cheated after our vows , is more a yet then a never again.

@lalalovengun

8 ай бұрын

Her attitude in the beginning was the *real* her!! She deserves the divorce papers. It’s all about her ego and image for her and not facing the consequences of her actions…

@soubermed2175

7 ай бұрын

its like the argument of a thieve who tell the judge that he is a good citizen/abaide by the law and all except when he robe banks on fridays

@lalalovengun

6 ай бұрын

@@presterjohn9088 she never really respected him, but demands the privileges of trust and respect from HIM!! Such a narcissist she is. Once trust is broken, how can a relationship survive?? 😏

@presterjohn9088

6 ай бұрын

@@lalalovengun i agree. Once you lose trust, especially concerning infidelity, it's almost impossible to get it back.

I’m still pissed off at how SHE humiliated HIM in the wedding and then gaslit HIM for… [drum roll]… BEING UPSET AT BEING HUMILIATED!! Talking about he’s misbehaving in how he shook her side piece’s hand and escaping to contain his anger. IF THAT’S not self discipline on his part, I don’t know what is. She knows she has it good with this guy with her attitude of “he wants me more than I want him…” entitled selfish c***! As a feminist, I get sick of misandrist treatment of men for having their sense of self respect being undermined!😡😡🤬

@cmamom76

7 ай бұрын

Ok enough with feminist Bs that's irrelevant not why she's like this smdh she's a narcissist to a T she is a disgusting human being for cheating and then taking no accountability what so ever and then gaslighting him I wish he would leave her she doesnt deserve a good man like that

@alexsyn2531

7 ай бұрын

Yeah she truly is disgusting, gaslighting and manipulation, having panic attacks or acting them out essentially playing the victim for her wrongdoing. Playing the distressed damsel when he came with a draft for the divorce making him feel bad. He is truly blind though. I really hoped he would see through this, let’s just hope she keeps to him from now (which I really don’t think she will)

@kossettereaditte7552

5 ай бұрын

Hey man she thre a Hail Mary and it won her the game in the end lol

And the wife never learned negative consequences. She never felt bad about cheating and only told him because she thought he would find out himself. She wasn’t remorseful or cared at all until she thought he would divorce her. Just because the panic attack was real doesn’t mean it’s not manipulation. Plenty of people literally learn that if they faint, or they have a panic attack or whatever that they can get out of any situation, or that they could get the attention that they want.

@ZZ-pf7hq

8 ай бұрын

I mean the wife got like several anxiety attacks that's worth er vising. Our brains is very powerful from learning over intense negative experiences. It's a different issue if the guy should forgive her or not, but I do think the wife will not cheat again cuz she will remember these feelings.

@lalalovengun

8 ай бұрын

@@ZZ-pf7hqthere are a few who cheat and learned their lesson and never cheat again. The rest are too narcissistic that they feel entitled to cheat regardless of how it makes their SO feel. The wife strikes me as the latter because of her character, especially after minimizing and gaslighting him for being upset!! That deserved divorce right there. And if she demonizes him for the divorce papers, that further proves my point that she will cheat again, using that divorce move as an excuse for “being in a bad place in our relationship” 🙄🤦🏿‍♀️

@newturtle3

8 ай бұрын

​​@@lalalovengunyeah because they kicked the hornets nest and realized they barely made it inside with a few stings. 100% though cheaters can and will continue if not caught. Its a deeply rooted in their nature.

@morganablackwater2017

7 ай бұрын

You lost me when you started with that crap about using panic attacks as manipulation... You are a disgrace

Let me get this straight; SHE cheated and then suddenly is all about HER needs and HER pain? Wow. Op is bowing to her based on her -effective- emotional outbursts. It's like done kind of emotional abuse. And you should never tell yourself "Oh but it's been years. We have so much time invested in this relationship'. Nope.

@lodunost

7 ай бұрын

He got played constantly. Comes out looking like a fool and wasting more of his life.

@craftyoctober

7 ай бұрын

@@lodunost real facts.

@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami

4 ай бұрын

​@@lodunostand our time as well, ciz this story is a waste of time

This can't be real, any psychiatrist that places blame in such an obvious way is not a psychiatrist that people should go to for help. It creates an obvious imbalance in the relationship because of the reinforcement from an authority figure, and what he did was not worthy of that escalation from the person who is supposed to be supporting them both.

@Lommysalami

8 ай бұрын

Quacks attract quacks, personally don’t trust half the industry after studying psych for 2 years and changing majors. Half these people are just as busted as their patients

@igotmyapplejuice7094

8 ай бұрын

Sadly some do this despite their professional experience, they let their own personal feelings dictate the picking of sides instead of being a neutral voice.

@thegamerdudeabides

8 ай бұрын

@@igotmyapplejuice7094or, what typically happens is the therapist is fully on the side of the woman.

@voidroad

8 ай бұрын

some are just sexist. always blaming the dude.

@Jeff-fo3ck

7 ай бұрын

They said counseling, probably one of his wife's church's religious leaders who is not fit to give counseling LMAO

She made you watch as she danced with the man she cheated on you with, and you took her back? Honestly I hope OP finds it in him to end his marriage. Soon enough maybe he can hold her hand as she’s getting plowed by him again too. He should end a lot more than his marriage for being such an embarrassment, but at the very least congrats to his wife for being able to keep her dog on such a short leash. Not easy to find a man willing to overlook being a whore, but every pot finds a lid

@baileyharrison8277

8 ай бұрын

How do you manage to grow up to be so bitter Jesus Christ touch grass I beg

@abiolaibiyemi1355

8 ай бұрын

The disrespect at the wedding was the worst part of the story. I’d be gone immediately

@notting2640

8 ай бұрын

@@baileyharrison8277found OP’s wife 😂 go touch your AP’s hand

@baileyharrison8277

8 ай бұрын

@@notting2640 never once tried to defend OP’s wife in any way or support OP’s decision? Doesn’t change the fact that if you seriously get wound up by this Reddit story of all things to suggest Op should lull himself because of what he chose you really need to go outside more because it’s kinda embarrassing

@mr.pothosswag8396

8 ай бұрын

@@baileyharrison8277 He's signing himself up for a Shit life by staying with a cheater that consistently has panic attacks whenever divorce is brought up.

Dude got gaslit. If she really didn't think it was a bad thing, she wouldn't have warned him

@deathberry33

8 ай бұрын

She understood that it was wrong that's why she hid it before they got married, but thought that once they were married all is forgiven, back to square one as they say. Stupid mindset for sure. It would have been okay if they weren't going out, but it was a year before they got engaged, meaning they were in a committed relationships at the time.

@MR.MOUSTACHE.3D

8 ай бұрын

@@deathberry33 yeah i agree with you, but after all the reddit storys where the commenters correct him always get more views, likes and comments than the ones where op is a chad

I just have a hard time understanding how marriage is the "Finished Line" and that anything that happened to that no longer counts because "It does not betray the vows of holy matrimony" what kind of delusion is that?

@nasieOrthodox

8 ай бұрын

as a christian that makes no sense, adultery is adultery within and outside of marriage so idk what kind of delusional shit shes on lol

@sasi5841

8 ай бұрын

Lol, she had sex multiple times before marriage, with a different man no less. I am pretty sure that's a sin. She doesn't seem to understand religion very well

@lastraven8575

8 ай бұрын

It's the same as cheating during the talking stage because they haven't "made it official" guys are talking to girls setting up a relationship and they are going out getting railed every weekend but because it wasn't specifically dating yet they say it doesn't count

@weenerbuttholeee33

8 ай бұрын

christians are awful people pretending to be good people in the name of God 💖 i see why the catholics executed the protestants

@Burritofan

8 ай бұрын

It’s a really bizarre “planet marriage” (great line) idea.

I had to laugh at the "consequences". She cheated on you without remorse and you're going to... court her all over again to show her you're ready to divorce her? That makes about as much sense as giving money to a bank robber as retribution for their crimes.

TL;DR: Wife says to husband to not worry about "That Guy". Husband does basic math and realized Wife cheated. Wife does mental breakdown because she believed cheating before marriage doesn't count. Husband choses to stay in the marriage due to her sincerity.

This dude is not in the situation where you can repair the marriage. Her head isnt right when it comes to relationships

@dddaaa6965

8 ай бұрын

The “panic attacks” that only seem to happen when he’s standing up for himself are so funny, especially because she didn’t say she had them out of fear or remorse, but because she will be the first person to have a divorce in her family

@CurliFox

7 ай бұрын

@@dddaaa6965 Yes that was a red flag for me. She wants to "keep up appearances," and is willing to throw her man under the bridge to do so.

Man gets cuckolded, humiliated, and hurt but still loves his wife. Honestly i feel bad he's young as well he has plenty of time to start over. The wife does not deserve the second chance.

@DantesInferno96

5 ай бұрын

This is an average redditor

@SiriusBMermaid

24 күн бұрын

I guess he likes the feeling of being humiliated. It probably turns him on and he isn't telling anyone.

How does he manage to wake every single day without a spine bro?

im gonna be honest, if the "love of my life" cheated on me years earlier and tell after we get married? im divorcing

@cs8712

7 ай бұрын

yeah i cant live with being a simp, it's over for me dawg

@scaredpaul540

7 ай бұрын

because you have shiny spine, OP on the other hand just a lot of empty words and excuses why to stay with cheater...

Cheating should always end the relationship. Either A: the cheating partner cheats again (duh), or B: no matter what happens, any sense of discomfort will trigger the accusation of cheating or guilt shaming of the cheating incident. The thought of your partner cheating will always linger, putting up a barrier that'll never go away no matter how many times you've forgiven your partner

@nowfear

8 ай бұрын

Exactly this, cheating breaks trust of the other so hard that it can not and will not heal ever again

It sounds like she wants to make things work because she doesn't want to be the first one in the family to be divorced and she doesn't want that shame. She still sounds like a selfish person

"My heart is still in love with her" That's because your heart is still used to her. That's how people work, we often stay with or in shitty situations because we're used to it. But honestly now after everything, she doesn't sound mentally stable enough for a relationship of any sort. Leaving would be best for them both.

@Derzull2468

8 ай бұрын

Tell me you don't believe in marriage without telling me.

@thegamerdudeabides

8 ай бұрын

@@Derzull2468 it was not a marriage. Marriages are not built on lies. She did not uphold her part of the relationship by being faithful, loyal, and honest. and this was before they were married. If she could honestly believe that marriage is some sort of sacrament that washes away pre-marital sins then there is no telling the number of things she could have done that seems "normal" to her and not that big a deal. The fact that he stated multiple times that she never once said she felt guilty about it says volumes. In a one sided situation like that, the man owed her no loyalty, nothing. The person you replied to is spot on. That having been said, I applaud the man for making a decision he is happy with and sticking with it. I would not have been able to stay myself. I 100% would have spent any time with her in the future constantly wondering what else she lied about because she thought it was normal.

@firerosenight6937

8 ай бұрын

@@Derzull2468 not when its built on lies, because then the marriage itself is a lie.

@Gojiradogzillagodzilla

8 ай бұрын

@@Derzull2468 Tell us you have 0 self worth and self love without telling us. She cheated on him multiple times, didnt even feel guilty and diminished his feelings, she may change but we all know their trust and relationship will never be the same.

@Derzull2468

8 ай бұрын

@@Gojiradogzillagodzilla Ok, my bad for not being verbose enough in my comment. She's a weirdo with the way she thought that anything before marriage magically disappears. She cheated, no excuses. I was specifically responding to "she doesn't sound mentally stable enough for a relationship of any sort.". I don't agree at all that being destroyed by the possibility of divorce is a sign a mental instability. OP suggest marriage is no big deal. If it's no big deal then it's the "modern" view of marriage, which is not marriage at all.

The counselor gets the side-eye from me. The papers weren't a bad idea. Hell, it's a constant reminder to keep things in check. She didn't give a damn about your feelings when it happened, despite her sister's protests and BIL's enabling; but now the karma and gravity of the mess has hit her knockout style. Now she will have it in her mind that she severely messed up and needs to prove her worth in the relationship going forward. Stick to your boundaries and here's to you OP ✌️

@LadyBern

8 ай бұрын

Counselor was right. Op had employed the carrot or stick method and brought out the stick when the carrot was working just fine. He says he meant well and was giving her a choice in the matter when she had been working towards repairing the marriage so that wasn't giving her an option that was showing her he could sign at any moment despite her efforts. That was for him and him only, and that's fine but he had to admit that it wasn't in her best interest. Let's put it a different way, your job tells you if you improve and do all of the right things you'll get a nice fat raise and or bonus at your year end review. So you do it, show up on time hell you show up early and stay late, work hard, learn new jobs so that you can do more, do everything. But your boss dangles the fact that despite you giving 120% you can still be fired. It's manipulative.

@AnActualCadaver

8 ай бұрын

@@LadyBern What you’re describing is not the same as what happened. This isn’t an Employer-Employee dynamic, it’s Husband and Wife. The inherent power dynamic with a boss and worker is there but not with someone who’s supposed to be their spouse. It’s not manipulation, it’s a boundary.

@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami

4 ай бұрын

​@@LadyBernthis is different she isn't working for a "profit" like you do at a corporate job, she's working to mend something she destroyed lmfao

@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami

4 ай бұрын

​@@LadyBern"how dare she have consequences for her her actions oh my. God😱"

People with that type of mentality are the reasons why the divorce rate is high, children are messed up in the head, and why most men don’t want to bother in the dating/marriage scene

Hope he dont be surprised when she cheats again.

@scaredpaul540

7 ай бұрын

he will find some excuses for her, dont worry...simps will be simps

When someone shows you who they are, you have to believe them.

It looks like her mum was absolutely right. She has had to face no consequences for her cheating.

This guy is coping SO HARD. 😂 I can't believe what I'm hearing 😂

I really don't think any relationship is salvageable when cheating is discovered by the spouse or admitted years after the fact. At that point not only did you cheat, which is bad enough but imo still salvageable, but you also lied to your partner for months if not years. And that I don't think any relationship can truly recover from. Whenever something happens in the future that raises even the tiniest sliver of doubt the years of lying (by omission) come up in the back of the mind. People make mistakes and so I think there is a very brief time window between a cheating incident (mind you one incident, not an entire affair) and a deliberate choice to betray your partner in the worst way possible. OP's wife chose the second option and the price she'll pay is a marriage that will be a shadow of what it once was. The trust is broken and much like ceramic it can't be put back together without seams.

@ryder8646

8 ай бұрын

Have to agree that years of serious lying is impossible to salvage, someone who lies to you for a long period of time clearly doesn't value your trust whatsoever. Something about cheating being a "mistake" sits wrong with me though, gives me the vibe of "Oops, I slipped on a banana peel and fell dick first into that lady!" I think what people often call "mistakes" are more like moments where they willingly, consciously--and often gleefully--traded instant gratification for long term problems. It requires a whole chain of deliberate choices to end up sleeping with somebody, each of which offers an opportunity to bail out and I think that your grace period suggestion a little too arbitrary for me. I'd argue it can only be a mistake if you were truly unaware that cheating was a violation of trust. Similar to how buying a car you can't afford is really only a mistake if you somehow didn't know you couldn't afford it. Different strokes for different folks, of course.

There is a difference between been inlove and been desperate for love,so this simp is nothing but desperate for love

This dude at the end thinks he is the only one who has gone through this situation like no one could tell that he should or shouldn't divorce her.

09:28 "okay, this is where I'm going to piss off everybody" Man's wasn't lying. The moment i heard what he did i called him an idiot out loud 😅

Well, let’s hope that she’s actually serious about changing and taking all the steps to fix this problem and let’s hope this dude isn’t dense enough to be fooled again. Though he shouldn’t be surprised if she does.

@ianmoritzplatapino3684

8 ай бұрын

After everything that happened he took her back and willingly is walking the doormat path aka reconciliation, whatever happens to him from then on is on him for being the classic spineless simp charming white knight doormat

@i-MacGyveR_-

8 ай бұрын

@@ianmoritzplatapino3684Agreed. The husband is dumb af for letting that slide. Cheating should be an automatic “We’re done.”

@blight4519

8 ай бұрын

Sounds like every time consequences come her way she goes to the ER no one is that fragile. My bet she's still lying like she was taught by her mother.

@ColinTherac117

7 ай бұрын

@@blight4519 I disagree on her not being fragile. That is entirely understandable, even if not deserving of pity or mercy. When she realized that she has been thinking entirely wrong and realized that she has committed an unspeakable evil (cheating on her husband vs the lesser 'forgivable act' of cheating on a non-committed boyfriend) that she never thought you would or could do (in her mind because the obvious logic equivalent of 1+1 equaling 2 failing to compute until the reality smacked her in the face with those divorce papers). She hates herself in the extreme for something she cannot take back. That is definitely enough to break her entire psychological ego. OP would be well within his rights to demand a divorce, and she knows it as well. She knows she has zero legs to stand on. She is utterly powerless with her entire life in another person's hands - and that person has every reason to hate her if they so decide. Together all that can have a similar amount of psychological pressure not much different from a person on death row walking to the hanging rope. Especially since she had had zero emotional guards up for the situation.

@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami

4 ай бұрын

She 100% will just wait😂

why do people ask for advice if they do the literal opposite of the advice given

19:06 why? Why does she get control of whether you stay together or not? I cant feel bad for these poor bastards anymore they do it to themselves.

@woodside4life

7 ай бұрын

Agreed. He completely lost me.

@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami

4 ай бұрын

Fr like wtf cheaters don't get a say

I wish there are classes that guys can take to learn how to control their emotions and not run back to the very person that hurt them. If they ever have kids, he is going to be a bad example. I hope she dumps him in the future as he doesn't seem to posses that quality in him to do so and is easily manipulatable.

"I was a manipulative asshole" "I put her through hell" Dude... you are BRAINWASHED! It's her that is those things Have some self respect and values man Or let her stomp over you for the rest of your days She is afraid that she'll be the first one to get divorced in her family - that's why she doesn't want the divorce - she just doesn't want to take all the well earned shame and guilt on her shoulders and to be painted as a sack of sh*t that she is... SHE WANTS TO DUMP IT ALL ON YOU USING PITY! Love is an emotion... Emotions come and go Values stay firmly with you... And you should stick to them Please pin this comment so the man sees it

Every update makes my blood boil more and more...

He said it himself. A shame to all manhood and disrespect to all cheating victims. This just shows why some people get away with being trash human beings and its because people around them have no spine. Hope he doesnt end miserable in 10 or 20 years hoping he couldve changed his entire life course by having the family pearls to have some self respect and love.

@ColinTherac117

7 ай бұрын

We can only hope that OP's unjustified faith in his cheating wife is repaid. The cheating wife will need to spend every day for the rest of her life making it up to OP. We know most stories like this end badly with the victim spouse being hurt again. I hope that isn't what happens to OP.

@scaredpaul540

7 ай бұрын

​@@ColinTherac117statistically speaking she will cheat again

Your heart may tell otherwise but it's best to run and run fast. A true manipulator at heart will not work in your favor

The fact that he stayed demonstrated exactly why she cheated in the first place. He is an emasculated simp and brought this upon himself.

The way he kept repeating she's been the perfect wife besides the cheating really sounds like he's trying to convince himself more than he's trying to convince everybody else.

@ColinTherac117

7 ай бұрын

Which is the way it should be. At the end of the day, he is the one who will have to live with how he decides to react to being hurt and betrayed in an unforgivable way.

The only issue I see is it feels like the anxiety is forcing him into reconciliation it may not be consciously manipulative but any time the guy talks about it she has an attack. The guys walking on eggshells around a bomb with a hair trigger and that's no way to solve this. I hope the therapist fixes the issues outside of the main problem

You can see that the guy is pretty dumb just by the beggining of everything, but the end just solidifies it. Now he will be paranoid and scared that she will be cheating on him, and she will never tell him again if things like this happen/hapenned again.

In modern dating, the only power men have is the power to walk away, and actually mean it. She’ll walk all over him the rest of his life, just like her mother does for his father in law.

He is going to be a prison guard from now on and he is going to be miserable it's going to breed resentment between the both of them. She's not sorry she done it she's sorry he won't forgive her just like that if ever

It will always is funny to me how even the thought of trying to work through a betrayal is so alien to internet people. Yes, it is mostly a deal breaker and person cheated on has every right to leave, but even then it is still a possibility to try and fix the relationship

@uh4875

5 ай бұрын

A shadow of the relationship and no real lasting consequences for the betrayer. Crazy how people are upset with that, ha. Do you hear yourself?

Every day more women are taught that if they have an anxiety attack or a suicide "attempt" they get out of everything for free. I also don't appreciate having to read about a guy being gaslit by a therapist yet again.

@dddaaa6965

8 ай бұрын

Yeah, his therapist and wife said he came off as manipulative and he agreed, yet not one out of the three people seemed to care to explain how, lol.

@scaredpaul540

7 ай бұрын

this manipulation work on weak betas...if she cheat she's out in my world, no amount of meltdowns or crying will change that

@mgntstr

7 ай бұрын

man made woman feel down about her own actions... I Guess???? lmao that woman and therapist. It's an evil world we live in@@dddaaa6965

@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami

4 ай бұрын

​@@dddaaa6965she was in cahoots with the wife

It's probably for the best that he took her back. That way he has hope of growing up enough by the time they do divorce. If he had left her now, he wouldn't have been wise enough to avoid the next version of this woman. When she shows her true colors again hopefully he will have learnt enough so he can yet be happy with someone else in the future.

Well let's say he is not going to trust her from now on which is gonna affect them alot

simp will always be a simp. He'd better be prepared for cheating right in front of him.

And even as ridiculous as it sounds.... I support his decision. If he belives his marraige is worth saving, good on him!

This guy is god lvl simp. She had panic attack because she could be the first one who will get divorce, she never felt sorry for what she has done but was afraid of consequences of her actions and she will lose everything.

the divorce papers, damm, man really wanted to give her a heart attack 😂

23:17. He wavered from the path of removing this harlot out of his life. So close yet so far.

Another doormat,until she cheats again

She didn't make a mistake. She made decisions to lie and cheat. And she decided that it was no big deal to do so. Bottom line, she was right, and in the end OP did exactly what she expected him to do: Get over it and continue on "Planet Married" like nothing else exists. Only thing he can be sure of at this point is that if he ever cheats he will not be forgiven because the rules that applied for her don't apply for him on his new planet.

The counselor needs to be reported. OP is sadly a doormat .

I'm sorry, but this dude is a walking L. Don't be surprised if and when she cheats again. The worst thing you could ever do to a cheater is forgive them.

As my brother told my ex sister in law, "somethings I can forgive but can't forget." I think it is possible to continue a marriage after infidelity but it is impossible to see your spouse, yourself and your marriage in the same way. I personally would end the relationship. I know myself and I k ow for a fact that I would always remember the pain and anger. I would rather become strangers with memories than to live miserably with someone I could no longer trust.

I know a guy whos wife cheated on him but he didnt leave coz they have 2 8year olds and he didnt wanna pay alimony,child support and shit like that. But what he did in the following 10 years before divorce was he got his kids tested,remodeled storage room into his bedroom with locks and everything,cooked meals only for him and kids,barely had any physical concact with her aside from family gatherings where he kept happy family mask,kissed her only once coz there was some game involved but almost vomited,didnt have sex with her,told her do what you wanna do,ef who you wanna ef coz you aint gonna get it here...etc. In the end he gave her papers,tossed the ring saying never again, day after boys 18th birthdays said have a nice life and left.he informed his boys he gonna travel a little but will return eventually and off he went.he returned about 2 years later bought a new place right next to me and we be chillin since.he had some uninvited guests couple of times,his kids visit when able.

@MR.MOUSTACHE.3D

8 ай бұрын

damn, what did the wife do, just call herself a whore and take the free passes, or did she atleast try to be a better person after???

This is such a depressing story, can't believe he took her back

He's 25. He should divorce as soon as possible and find another girl while hes still young.

Op is asking for trouble staying with her.

There were no repercussions to her actions, the guys an absolute asshat for thinking there were.

Wait till he finds about some other flings she were hiding 😂

She doesn’t love OP. She just doesn’t want to be the black sheep on her side of the family.

Honestly, he somewhat deserves all of this he's such a spineless and indecisive man, seeking internet advice to understand how he should feel about being cheated on.

The ending let’s you know she has complete control over this dude. It’s pretty much a guarantee she’ll cheat again, probably get out of it with another panic attack…

She said she had a panic attack because if they get divorced, she would be the first one to get divorced in her family... basically saying not worried about how he felt or anything at all...

If he is like this I can not care at all. Marry someone means that you have to trust in, at least, this pearson when at your lowest. Now, just how in the world can he trust in her if she doesn't care for his fellings at all?

Nah, cheating = instant divorce imo

Makes you wonder if he was the only one she cheated with.

TL;DR: wife cheats on OP, manipulates him into feeling bad for her, he tries his best to convince himself everything's okay and she won't do it again

Married at 22 is crazy

First name Door, last name Mat 😂

What's with people saying it was a "mistake". Mistakes are accidents, you don't accidentally have sex with someone you willingly had sex with.

all i have to say is once a cheater, always a cheater, she cheated once, she'll do it again

"She commited adultery, lied to my face about it, manipulated me nonstop for weeks and let me get married on a foundation of lies... im taking her back." Theres just no helping some people man, you really cant make this shit up.

Every relationship is built on trust and respect... you can never trust her again and she clearly has no respect for you. That is a line you don't cross and there is no coming back from it. The only thing it can lead to is embarrass yourself and cause more suffering for yourself. Oh, and then the usual suicide attempt/panic attack/hospitalization that is always the hail mary of manipulative people. What a terrible person. Maybe she can become a better person in the future, and have a great relationship, but it will have to be with someone else.

21:14 a devout Christian sleeping with a man outside of her relationship before marriage and cheating is the most backward thing I’ve ever heard.

Lil bro has no spine 😂😂 ahahahahaha any man with self respect would’ve thrown her to the other guy

Him: I know you guys will think I’m an idiot, but I just couldn’t stand seeing her like that so I hugged her. Me looking at how much video is left: idiot

this guy should get "welcome" tattooed across his head because he is a door mat

the therapist calling him a manipulators is strange

She cheats, and all he's worried about is her feelings. They deserve each other.

She cheated in the past...who's to say she won't cheat again? Honestly I would call it quits and end that relationship, but if OP wanted to "get even" I think he could demand a "pass to cheat once". Fair's fair, she made him feel pain, now it's her turn.

@denizkenger52

6 ай бұрын

Exactly what I think, even for a kiss btw. “Today a kiss, tomorrow a bj, …”

Poor guy, stuck with a cheater and coping with stupid lies.. Rip

This man is pathetic. Played like a fiddle, she knew it was wrong and then he bought into the excuse she made because he wants her back. A bunch of lip service nonsense. She could’ve cheated in front of him and he’d have stayed

i know these stories are not real yet im quite amazed that op ignored the fact that she ¨had to change clothes¨ mid wedding after the other man left and just came back with messy clothes, like nothing happened lmao Girl probably reconected with the other guy that same day

My god, it never ceases to amaze me how people like this will take mistreatment, gaslighting, outright disrespect, and then rationalize it all away under the sentence "I still love them". Like holy shit, grow a spine, grow some balls, and actually treat yourself like you are more then just somebody's safety net.

"Living on a married planet, a different place from the rest of us." 😂

@_cup_of_tea

8 ай бұрын

A place where cheating is wiped clean before marriage as if they are virgins LOL

I believe that when she was telling him that, "if he couldn't stop sooking, he should leave the wedding", she was planning on hooking up with the groomsman again.

Also, dude needs a marriage councilor. The kind of questions he's asking himself aren't ones that should be left unanswered.

"It happened before we were married. You know, Pre-Crisis. It's non-canon."

if he had found out before they're getting married, he wouldn't have married her, and that's what she didn't realize and part of the reason he's upset to have had married her

Nobody should ever stay with anyone who cheats. It's literally one of the worst things you can do to yourself.

I can't believe he caved to her emotional meltdowns. Why would even want to be with someone that can get mental breakdowns so easily?