Younger dudes reading this, plz take this advice from an old asshole. If her response to your feelings or concerns is, "what do you want me to do about it?" Leave. It doesn't matter if it's marriage or a 5 month relationship. There is no respect there, and love and respect go hand in hand, and should go both ways.

@AleV69692

9 ай бұрын

Thanks bro, but how old are you?

@merykhan97

9 ай бұрын

I'm a woman and I agree. Word choice is always very telling.

@SleepyTalk

9 ай бұрын

Im 31 and agree with this statement and back it@@AleV69692

@juliearmfield2634

9 ай бұрын

​@@merykhan97yes exactly

@MaryAX

8 ай бұрын

Facts

I was affraid, that OP wouldn't stand up for himself, after basically doing nothing against his Wife and Mark. It's greate to see, that he managed to free himself.

This whole story is about how OP needs to change to make wife happy and how he feels guilty that the wife isn't happy, all while she never cares about his happiness or changing anything about her behaviour. It's so heartbreaking that he feels like he's at fault.

It's not op fault. He was spineless but that's it. The wife chose to not communicate and seek validation and affection from another man. Cheating has never an excuse. She was just a selfish coward. Op deserves better.

@AECH_CH

9 ай бұрын

Yes and no, if you let your wife be alone with a co-worker from the opposite sex for anything else than work, you basically deserve to get cheated on. Sure, you can't control or restrict her, but the moment this happened, he should've filed for divorce.

@tinm9873

9 ай бұрын

agreed.

@Only1199

9 ай бұрын

@@AECH_CH No one but cheaters themselves deserve to be cheated on.

@Rorschachqp

9 ай бұрын

The softness gave her the opening.

@fumothfan9

9 ай бұрын

​@@AECH_CHthat's the test though. If you trust your spouse and if they trust you. The test is literally not to bang anyone else but your SO. Like 80% of the time women fail this

There is no reason whatsoever for someone to spend so much time with a coworker. Like work sure, eating lunch together at work sometimes sure, but soccer games with just them is getting weird and staying at their house is straight insanity especially so late. Like why aren't you spending that time with your spouse?

Poor man, his soul have been exhausted from all the stress and worries. She could have just told him she liked the other guy from the beginning to spare him the worry and guilt of being not good enough.

@toxicgamer644

9 ай бұрын

Afterall it's women☕ we are dealing with.

OP did seem spineless and allowed his ex-wife to do what "makes her happy", that I (a woman) did not think was appropriate/acceptable for a married woman to be doing. A strong relationship should consist of effective communication, respect, and expectations of boundaries. Ex-wife did not respect OP and put someone else before OP. Nothing that the ex-wife did was acceptable. Trash.

@remrem-gx3ml

9 ай бұрын

honestly though its up to him to assert those values, a lot of less sane women would blame him for letting it happen. "why didnt you stop me" you shouldnt be controlling but you are allowed to set boundaries and a lot of guys dont get the difference.

@uHasioorr

9 ай бұрын

@@remrem-gx3ml The only difference is whether those boundaries interfere with what she wants to do or not. If not they are healthy boundaries, if yes he is being controlling.

@remrem-gx3ml

9 ай бұрын

well it depends what you mean by that. like in this instance he could right away say how he feels about her, how she is making him feel and then tell her that he will leave if she keeps behaving this way. he couldnt tell her what to do or threaten her thats controlling. he can however assert his boundaries in what he expects of her as his wife and leave if she cant abide by that or work towards a compromise. in this instance she wasnt willing to work with him at all when he knew there was a problem. maybe thats his fault who knows but the point is a relationship cannot function like that. it takes work on both sides. @@uHasioorr

@SetariM

9 ай бұрын

@@remrem-gx3ml It's very much common sense to not hang out with a co-worker until late at night, or go to soccer games with them. That isn't a boundary that needs to be set by the husband. She's allowed to have her own values, but in this case, her values didn't align with OP's, probably because she felt "bored" with him and needed to stretch her values further to allow herself to "enjoy" another man. Which is despicable, in this case. She'll realize she fucked up but it'll be far too late.

@flamingrage100

9 ай бұрын

@@remrem-gx3mlI mean it just common shaming and shifting the blame tactics those less sane women do. They will always find the fault of the man regardless of the situation.

Giving space almost never works btw. The whole point of a relationship is to reduce the space between you. Once you start increasing that space again, the writing is on the wall.

@thetruesimplegrid

9 ай бұрын

To add to that. Space never really works in any type of relationship be it friendly or romantic. Talk it out slowly, maybe don't talk about it in the moment but find time and do it with a clear mind.

I know the cheating stories are popular but i like that you have been doing a bigger variety of stories recently

The fact that wife claimed "we're just friends, and your jealous. Figure it out," the pouting she did when she couldn't see him, the way it struck her when she the coworkers asked if she's seeing Mark, and the way she was insistant that they didn't do anything PHYSICAL are all signs of shame. Not that she has feelings for OP, but that her actions are going against her sense of morality, and that she's trying to justify it.

I always wish we could see the end result of the cheaters decisions. I know that Mark is going to use and move on from this guys now Ex-Wife and she will realize what a horrible mistake she made at least that's what I hope happened.

@SetariM

9 ай бұрын

That's what happens in every single one of these situations, OP better not take her back that's for sure.

There’s the chad PI guy who found out his fiancés sister was cheating and getting all the proof he could possibly want. And this guy who does absolutely nothing to gain proof and serve papers only when she basically admitted it. He could easily win his case with proof but nope. Not to insult the guy he was a good guy put in a bad situation but I just wish he fought a bit more for himself

@SetariM

9 ай бұрын

Tbh I only found out about using a PI when I started listening to these channels. Never even occurred to be to use a PI to investigate cheating.

My relationship would be ended after the first night when the woman came back from her male friend's house at 2am , just a foolish can think that it's normal .

Man half these relationships just need to end. Like literally when u get the signs leave it man. She doesn't care for you just need to find someone who does.

This OP is something else man holy shit

Finally some different music! This is awesome to see you're not repetitive.

Western marriages are often based on ideals that are doomed to fail... basing marriages of friendship and romance is putting the cart before the horse. Duty, responsibility and building are far more important, and if done right will nurture to that friendship and romance

5 minutes into this story and this guy is a cuck 😂 imagine thinking your wife coming home at midnight or 2am from her male "friend's" house is not breaking boundaries or anything wrong lmao he deserves everything that happened to him

@CanadianGreekhoplite

9 ай бұрын

Yeah man even before that, her constantly texting and basically going on dates with him? like shit man open your eyes.

I need one with op getting cheated on then ex regretting it

@fdd4957

9 ай бұрын

A lot of them regret it. It's just that the OP isn't in the cheater's life anymore when the cheater feels regret.

@SetariM

9 ай бұрын

Might wanna look into rSpace's stories, a lot of his have that in it. It feels so good to hear it when it happens, ugh. Cathartic as fuck lmao

another spineless story 😴

You should add positive stories as well

@jasonnrussell1842

9 ай бұрын

Agreed

@morie8594

9 ай бұрын

Nah, cheating ones are addictive, idgaf tbh.

@xmoney-pb5uo

9 ай бұрын

@@morie8594 Guess this our toxic traits

@peagames2002

9 ай бұрын

I know my friend could share a positive story that she has. Quite unusual but wholesome in a way.

OP is remarkably spineless yet aware. The wife was a b-- through and through

what a doormat , the biggest lie this century is the being called controlling , preserving your relationship is the default

Take her out on a date and bring her flowers and then if she still gives you the dismisses ur feelings then its too late

I just hope the dog will be ok. People like her might do something to it because it would hurt him

I'm so sorry that you felt like that. You are worth more than that. It's not you, it's her things that were causing you to feel that way. I'm so sorry that you could not have your dog, but in time find a shelter and adopt another one. Dogs are great therapy. Prayers that you have healing and God will bless you with someone who will love you for you.

I love theese vids uploads ❤❤ i feel like most stories r sad can U make more hapyyu🎉

This story is painful how much of a doormat this dude is. She already checked out and he just keeps feeling guilty it is an easy decision divorce and cut you're loss.

She says we can talk about it why jump to divorce... He did speak to her multiple times and she brushed it off.

Also, it is sad that OP gave up on his dogs.

phones... always check phones without second guessing

If you suspect she is cheating, you should dump her immediately

The wife wanted to get out of the marriage. Why else would she dive head first into something with someone else?

He should have fought for the dog.

glad he dodged that nuke of a wife and he is healing from it all now, hope u live a nice life and maybe find someone that really does love u for the long run

@TheGar393

9 ай бұрын

He felt the full brunt of the explosion.

I cant believe she took his dog.

This dude needs to grow a pair. His wife is also in the wrong but he needed to put his foot down much earlier

I wouldn't have given up the dog.

gee im @2:20 and ya shes cheating time to dump and move on sorry pal

Just stay single, gentlemen. Theyre not worth it. They all betray you in the end.

I can't believe it, different music

What wrong with OP to much drama. Weak !!!

Everybody that says that OP should’ve been more firm when talking to his Ex ab Mark, I guess you just werent in that situation when you feel like you are losing your signifigant other when you really havent done anything wrong, and that whenever you try to speak ab it you just push your significant other away. In these situations you just feel like the only option is to wait and hope.

@CanadianGreekhoplite

9 ай бұрын

Naah man it's a huge red flag when she is constantly hanging out with one dude and going to his house, if putting your foot down to have self respect ruins the relationship then it was clearly dead already.

@adjcsee4476

9 ай бұрын

The entire situation of him not putting his foot down and showing authority over the situation falls entirely on him. He kept “giving her space” all the time and “wanted her to be happy.” Those are about as beta male vibes anyone can give. He had no backbone and never chose to take the initiative to actually do anything until it was the last minute. If he would have changed his attitude way before it all started going downhill he could’ve changed his situation.

Idk why this was so god damn hard to listen to, it’s like the OP had 5 points to make but dragged the story by repeating these said points 5 more times

Holy hell I'm only 5 min in and this is SO hard to hear......

This guy repeats himself like ah 100 times

OP needs to not be gaslit by society into being okay with clearly disloyal behavior. Its not controlling or being "that guy" when your spouse is spending significant free time with another person of the opposite sex. I get the whole gender segregation of the past is viewed as sexist and antiquated, but there were reasons why the traditional rules existed other than just hating women.

His woman is getting her back blown by other men and the loser wants to have an open and honest conversation about it....

@flamingrage100

9 ай бұрын

Lmao fr

I have never been so angry listening to a story thia guy is so gullible and pathetic,the minute she started texting that single dude with a happy attitude while being shitty towards you immediately look for proof to make a case against her and divorce her, how can someone be so naive I don't get it

Spineless. She is cheating. Your marriage is over. You just need to move on.

That's a sad fucking story

Happy halloween

what's the d word?

@madias1884

9 ай бұрын

Divorce

So i actually think OP isn't blameless either. Wife is responsible for most, but honestly? When the wife at the beginning told him she's been trying, and he hasn't, he himself admits it but says, "I cant change the past" and he touches upon that again at 11:30 Like, yes you two BOTH should've communicated a lot more openly. But he has to own up to the fact that the past being immutable DOESNT change the fact that she tried for a year, he continually was emotionally unavailable, and eventually gave up. And then he was like, "ok but im here now". Yeah but she isnt anymore. He had his window of opportunity, he didnt act in time, and he cant just act like she should magically regain the patience she already burned through for the year. To clarify, i am NOT condoning her cheating, i am NOT saying she isnt at fault, and I am NOT saying she wasnt a spineless coward by trying to normalize an emotional affair. Yes she's at fault, yes she should have communicated more openly at the very beginning--- but he shouldve too, and he's not entirely blameless either. TLDR: They are both terrible at communicating and if they both had been better about it at the very start, none of this crap wouldve happened, but once she was done with their marriage she shouldve straight up told him its over, not pretend it wasnt and start having the EA

This is just troll bait.

New song????

Nvm ...

My god the beginning of this sounds like some of the most beta male acts it’s not even funny. He should have put his foot down right then and there and show some damn backbone.

Congrats on leaving, sorry about the dog

Bruh i hate the ones with no endings or pt 2

Ugh I'm so sick of these beta soft served men.

@Macedonia_is_Greek

9 ай бұрын

I was thinking that it was a lesbian relationship 😅

I'm sorry unpopular opinion this sounds like 1st marriage syndrome. Your wife wanted a party not a marriage. I had a 4 year marriage and now a 20 year marriage i will be in for 20 more years.

Both he and his therapist sound spineless.

@SetariM

9 ай бұрын

His therapist is absolute ass, but then again it wasn't a specialized "relationship therapist" so I'm sure the therapist wanted zero blame in the matter if advice they offered was bad advice.

Bruh...there is not a single set of circumstances in the universe where your wife is out at her straight opposite sex coworkers house alone with him until 2am is ok or even remotely normal. Wtf?

She stole his dog, that's fucking evil.