Jesus, the people saying that the son was trying to make her feel bad at the funeral are paranoid lunatics. He's giving context as to why he was playing tag, not trying to pull her heartstrings.

@Thanatossssx

9 ай бұрын

fr, imagine literally being shut down at YOUR OWN fathers funeral for trying to cheer up ur half siblings like ??????

@Mikron20

9 ай бұрын

The mom instantly assumed he was there for money not cause...he loved? his father? Clearly men can't love so he had to be after money right? He wanted to get to know his family.

@ulyx9804

8 ай бұрын

He is also only 18 years old and from another country. I understand having doubts and wanting to verify, his that is step one before vilifying the poor sod.

This OP is a terrible person. The son was being a genuinely sweet guy and she kept suspecting him and chastising him because she's seething about her dead husband. smh

@randomusername3873

10 ай бұрын

How dare this woman not be confortable with this random guy around her kids, what a monster

@princessstarpeach9161

10 ай бұрын

​Op the monster along with her sister and mother.

@TheFalklands

10 ай бұрын

Ah yes lets let a random guy in your home because he claims something with no proof

@holyroman6541

10 ай бұрын

@@TheFalklands I assume you missed the multiple parts in the story where he had alot of proof then?

@AdriaSynthesis

10 ай бұрын

​@@holyroman6541it doesnt fit the "woman always right even when proven wrong" ideology, so yes. They ignored all that.

He’s grieving worse than her. Losing both parents and op is treating him like he’s a nobody. That shit makes me so angry

@magnetboy

10 ай бұрын

@djkj_. She lost her husband and found out that he has told lies to her. if anyone is the jerk it’s the husband

@justSunny7

10 ай бұрын

He was a complete stranger to her lol. Ofc she treated him like he's nobody.

@yourfavouriteace

10 ай бұрын

still doesnt make it right lmao. @@justSunny7

@TheFalklands

10 ай бұрын

He has no proof he is his son, he is making op seem as the bad person and is 100% a scammer, you all take his side without any proof, just because he said something doesent mean its true.

@djkj_

10 ай бұрын

@@TheFalklands it was literally said by op “I was the jerk”

I feel bad for this woman and the big revelation that her husband is a liar, however she is the as*hole. She is taking out her feelings about her husband on this poor kid. I too would step/fall back as the son if my "step mom" is treating me like this.

@randomusername3873

10 ай бұрын

You show up at a random family house that you never met, put their lives upside down with some big revelation, and expect them to treat you like family? What insanity is this?

@eternal6179

10 ай бұрын

Thr brother was wrong, but it's crazy to keep your actual child from your family and wrong to keep a brother from his sisters.

@BasicName617

10 ай бұрын

totally agree, shes just taking her anger out on the poor kid, she just met him, and as the sister said, she judged him too quickly without getting to know him.

@猫大将

10 ай бұрын

And the fact that he had pictures showing him as a child at various ages spending time with her husband, yet she still though he was lying. Did she think it was more likely that her husband was meeting up with a random kid for years? Ridiculous.

@猫大将

10 ай бұрын

@@eternal6179 How was he wrong? All he did was try to spend time with his family. The woman was quite literally ripping her daughters away from the closest thing they had to a father figure, right after their father died. Then after finding out the truth, she calls him a stranger while also saying that she refuses to spend time with him. She's obviously deranged. And keep in mind this her perspective, this is the view that's supposed to make her look as best as possible.

This woman sucks dude, of course I understand how she’d be suspicious of him. But like she is being overwhelmingly assholish to an 18 year old boy. He’s lost both his parents, it’s not his fault he wasn’t aware of the fact that he has sisters. The mom is being so disrespectful and selfish in this case.

@magnetboy

10 ай бұрын

But it’s not her fault that she was being protective of her children it’s in the mothers nature and just because the kid lost both parents doesn’t entitled to so much empathy someone lost a husband as well. this is someone you choose to spend your life with that you choose to love unlike a parent where you are given them and not Choose them

@alekk3687

10 ай бұрын

@@magnetboy I think she definitely started to get insanely paranoid, but her protectiveness of her girls is not an issue to me. I know the husband's son is grieving too, but holding a lie that big for so long? It'd drive you insane instantly. So many lies. Also, I don't understand why she's expected to just keel over and treat him like immediate family when he is quite literally a stranger. I don't see why blood relations mean anything either. I think she got too far into her own head with the scammer stuff, but I think she'd rightfully be very scared, hurt and unsure of SO many things. It'd be natural to see the very lie kept from you as something antagonistic and a threat to what you have left.

@MofoNsh

10 ай бұрын

​@@magnetboy11:20

@calinvlad858

8 ай бұрын

​@@MofoNsh, twelve years of raising a kid and still says that… How can anyone have any empathy for that woman after that?

While I understand and sympathize with her situation she is undoubtedly the ahole. It seems like the boy only wanted to interact with the little family he had left and he was accused of being a scammer, it doesn’t even seem like she apologized for that either if he’s still afraid of her. It doesn’t seem like he wants her to be a parent figure to him, so I don’t know why she’s going on about that.

@dagroseren

10 ай бұрын

I think the card she gave after the second visit might have helped immensely for the son, and because of that, this is something they can work through.

@po8883

10 ай бұрын

@dagroseren Definitely! I do think they'll get through this, but it'll also take time. Time for her to grieve, heal, and accept and time for him to forgive and heal from this as well. I wish nothing but the best for both of them.

@Maninawig

7 ай бұрын

Agreed. The more he tried, the more hostile she became. She also mentioned not putting much emphasis on cultural ties, but also kept mentioning it as a reason why they have nothing in common - thus putting weight and importance to the subject.

she perceived his initial actions as malicious because she had already decided (unconsciously) that he would have bad intentions.

The 9year old being jealous of another person getting her older brother's attention could possibly be a problem in the future. Man that story felt like a rollercoaster. Lol

2 mins in and i cannot believe how she already twists everything he does and says

OP, you have some mental issues. He's a child just wanting to know his family

I feel bad for everyone involved. I do see why OP is feeling conflicted and I do think she isn’t being fair, but honestly the husband was the one that caused this situation with being a liar

@habrakhamage

10 ай бұрын

You're right but like why the hell wouldnt she let them meet the brother.

@versuzzero5335

10 ай бұрын

The problem started when she got pregnant. He somehow knew she would do abortion if she knew the existence of a son. I'm assuming they weren't married yet when she got pregnant, so it made sense he still haven't given her all the details of his life. So, if he didn't lie, the daughters never would've existed in the first place. I'm again assuming, that that is the main reason why she is being mentally unstable. She knew she would've aborted if the guy confessed about the secret son, and the thought of that not having her daughters existed, she must've loved her daughters. It's like a paradox, hating the husband for keeping it a secret, but she probably loves her daughters, so if her husband confessed when she got pregnant, she wouldn't have her daughters now. That's most probably what's messing with her head.

@chessieray1465

10 ай бұрын

​@@habrakhamageShe's grieving and vulnerable. She's right to have her suspicions, but since she was so out of it, she couldn't recompose herself to consider getting all the proof first. Unfortunately the relationship between her and the son now is really fractured.

@nr1fan4all

10 ай бұрын

@@chessieray1465 I also think the kid was a bit too much, entering the family feet first, first interaction buttering up to the kids and badly wording himself when talking with the mom, if he would have taken it a bit slower, not raised to many flags probably their interactions would have been better, or without pushing to bond with the kids he might never had been allowed to meet them again so idk if what he did was right or wrong.

I'm going to guess what the husband was thinking. He gets a call one day from his ex or her family saying she's dying or dead. Tells him he has a son. He freaks out cause he's married and makes an impulsive lie and keeps it secret. The problem with impulsive lies is that it's made without thought or consideration of others. Now he has to lie to cover up a lie continuously until nothing is true.

I’m two minutes in and this woman is so vile I can’t keep watching

@danishdragon8107

10 ай бұрын

You should, it gets better

@Victor-gr4mz

10 ай бұрын

​@@danishdragon8107finished it, she's still an asshole, but played all the sympathy cards.

@virgilhawkins7368

6 ай бұрын

I had a hard time making it through this one. It's crazy that that the 18 year old boy that lost both his parents comes across as the mature one in this story.

this woman is absurd 💀

This mom is jealous of her husband's child

@princessstarpeach9161

10 ай бұрын

Right that boy lost his father, am going to say it I wish this boy father didn't married op.

@payphoneforslo

10 ай бұрын

@@princessstarpeach9161 fr she selishly talking bout her pain but doesnt understand the kid just lost his dad

@madias1884

10 ай бұрын

Truee

@euphoric_skeleton

10 ай бұрын

dawg he is a stranger to her and her kids

@Charlie-yt2iy

10 ай бұрын

@euphoric_skeleton it was mentioned the boy knew the dad, so they have both shared a loss

The boy has a right to have a relationship with his siblings. They’re his family. Like wtf.

@dollface2907

9 ай бұрын

While I agree he went at this the way wrong way, should of waited and let the mum slowly introduce him to the family not dropping a bomb after the dads death

Just let the siblings get to know each other it’s not his fault that the dad him a secret.if you’re unsure get a dna test.

She’s reading Into it way too much. That young man just wants to know his half sisters. But he shouldn’t have inserted himself in their lives that fast

I was with op till we got to the part where she said " I wouldn't have chosen this life I would have gotten an abortion and walked away" jez I wonder why he never told you???

@btshoeforlife9534

10 ай бұрын

That literally would’ve been her choice to make though it doesn’t make her an ahole if she didn’t wanna be in a position like that. Her husband took that choice away from her. I totally understand why she’s so upset. Her taking her anger out on the boy makes her an ahole, not that statement.

@randomusername3873

10 ай бұрын

​@@fuzzythegreat1or she wouldn't have children with a deadbeat father and a liar Maybe

@moxee33

10 ай бұрын

@@fuzzythegreat1 so now I'm curious ...what would you do if you were transported back in time and had a chance to do whatever you wanted to Hitler as a baby? Lets assume you can't change who he will become if he is allowed to grow up. The only option is to do nothing or unalive him. 😵

I’m glad that the dude gets to spend time with his half siblings but man, that mom was wack and I’m glad her sister seem to have some common sense to get to know him first. All and all: OP does not seem like the best person to be around but not a bad person.

@HasanK337

10 ай бұрын

hello fellow yee man

@bigpulgalokes

9 ай бұрын

She literally just met this stranger who wants to have private time with her kids. Y’all are so stupid

Homie is alone and wants to interact with what family he has left but gets stonewalled wow

Christ, this one where i feel bad for everyone except the OP, definitely a person id never want to meet.

With this as the wife’s reaction, I understand why she was never told about the son…

She forgot to put the AITA part in her post

I feel bad for OP that she had to learn this way that her husband had been lying this entire time. I can't imagine how that must feel to know that your husband was hiding such a big secret. However, the way she reacted was no so great. I understand not wanting him around her children without supervision even if he is their brother, since he is a stranger. However, she jumped to crazy ass conclusions (and those comments telling her it may be a scam didn't help). Upon learning that, she should have had a DNA test right away instead of going off like that. I don't blame OP for her initial feelings, having just lost your husband and having his son show up on your doorstep not knowing he had one. She should have gotten therapy right away, not only to find ways to grieve her husband, but also to deal with the situation. She took out her anger on the son which is unacceptable. He is not to blame, it is the husband's fault for lying like that.

@holyboiamethin2790

10 ай бұрын

I do think OP is a complete asshole for what she did, and I don't blame the son for being afraid of her. She went about this in all the wrong ways and ended up hurting everyone in the process.

@justSunny7

10 ай бұрын

Because everyone knows how to expertly handle having your whole world turn upside down, right?

@C.G.Gaster

10 ай бұрын

​@@justSunny7I mean, criticism exists for a reason. It's to tell you to fix the thing if it's a valid criticism.

@shortangel333

10 ай бұрын

She should have just told him to leave straight away.

The amount of times she says "it irked me" when this guy seems to be giving fairly reasonable responses to her questions is ridiculous

As someone who grew up till the age of 12 not knowing I had two different sisters from two different mom's i was angry and confused.

@Amelia-vk4jt

10 ай бұрын

Same I found out I had two more siblings when I was 12 lol made me open my eyes even more to my mum's bs

I understand why the mom would be mad at the husband but being mad at the child who never got to see his father and his just there to see his siblings and attend his father's funeral is terrible I understand being scared and being confused on why your husband had another child that you didn't know about but that's not the kids fault is completely the dad's fault

This is a situation where from different angles, it may seem that she is/isn't the jerk. Yes she technically is the jerk for handling this the way she did, letting her doubts make her jump to conclusions without clearing her head, but the brother did promise things without the mothers permission. If OP handled this better, like having a private discussion (maybe with her sister or mother/any trusted relative to monitor) and explain her apprehension and set boundaries and rules in place to make sure everyone is comfortable. I personally am still split on whether the OP is a jerk or not, but the mother is grieving still, and the stituation is very unique. It seems both parties are in the wrong here.

Do you want money? No! Well it has to be about the money for sure now because he said no in a condescending way!

First time american People see a true English Gentleman Think he a scammer aigh.

OP actions were understandable. Imagine you got a random person from a country that is an ocean away claiming to be your husband's son out of the blue when your husband just passed away. And obviously she wouldn't think straight because her husband just died and person claims that he is your husband's son. She will obviously go through a lot of emotions and her judgement will be clouded. Also, this is obviously something not normal, it's not everyday you get a guy claiming that they are your late partner's child, it could be a scam or the person can do worse. The fact that IF the husband son is not genuine and is actually a scammer and scammed the op many of you will think she it is partially her fault for letting it happened and shouldn't've let her guard down. Think about someone current situation before making a judgement based on what will you do.

BRO, the reason youre thinking of OTHER PEOPLE is because this isnt about you. jesus fucking christ this one sent me for a loop.

I totally understand the op, that Guy came out of the blue of course you are reluctant to accept him

A horrible situation for both. I’m glad they could at least be comfortable with each other’s presence. Julius Mulius.

She doesn’t care about him having a son she worried about the money

Her anger is misplaced the child did nothing wrong

This woman seems terrible. Always seeing the worst in people. Damn

op should consult a therapist and let the kid meet his siblings

Hmm. Son bringing his girlfriend to the latest visit was a misstep. But he's just a kid himself, still learning good judgement

@SakuroAlex

10 ай бұрын

Why? She is his partner. She's very big part of his life. Maybe he should have waited a little longer, but I don't think it's a big misstep.

@Vikashar

10 ай бұрын

@@SakuroAlex "He should have waited longer" That's my point. The mother was already nervous about him. He should have at least asked her first. Learning they have a long lost brother is a big change for little kids. They should have more time to get used to him and for the whole family to become comfortable with him. The girlfriend is part of HIS life, but not theirs. She can become part, but I personally think it is best for that to be taken slowly. Also, they're not married or engaged. What if the little girls become attached to her and they break up? That's hard on kids.

“I bet he’s after money.” (Still gets pissed when he definitively says “No.”) Women, everybody! Edit: Also, that comment about him being ‘manipulative.’ “He could have easily said ‘No I don’t want your money,’ instead he said ‘No I couldn’t take your money.’ See the difference?” No, I don’t. Please enlighten me. 🙄

@Carcosa_Rutsah8564

10 ай бұрын

Well you see, the difference is… … You get it? Jk, in all seriousness, she probably interpreted it as “I couldn’t take your money, but you can still give it me” Basically he’s implying he’s there for money, which still just as stupid

"I heard stories about what other family members and trusted people could do to ur child"... the worst excuse ever, considering that she has no problem with other friends and familymembers being alone with her kids

The thing about is she always scared about the money he would ask, telling a lot about her personality.. either way, her husband never lied about his son, simply didn't told her because it wasn't her problem/concern.

I felt bad at first, but already at only 2 minutes in, it just seems like she’s finding things to not like him about. I know its hard to digest a secret kid your husband never told you about. It’s also ok to maybe not want a relationship with him. It’s also ok to just genuinely not like people. But: Sounds like you’re the manipulator. You didn’t even get to know the guy yet, and you’re assuming all these things about him for what? We get if you’re overwhelmed. But if that were the case then you should’ve communicated and been like “Hey I just need some space at the moment. You seem like a nice kid but I’m still trying to digest his death.” I’m sure he’d understand. He probably just wants a relationship with his father’s family as that’s a part of what little he has left. Don’t try to put him in a bad light on the internet because of your insecurities. Edit: the only part I agree with is that he probably should’ve asked permission to take the girls out. Definitely would’ve been easier to handle if you didn’t let the girls bond with him. I still do believe you were too harsh on him.

I’m not even four minutes into this and I hate OP. What a selfish person.

Imagine if OP’s kids find this post and see their mom said she would’ve killed them if she knew her husband had a son like holy shit what a horrible mother

OP is a horrible person.

THEY ARE SIBLINGS. This isn’t just some random dude that came along. He’s their brother. -_- that wants to know his sisters.

The kinds of secrets that come out when someone passes away is crazy something

She was right to be skeptical. Protecting your children comes first.

You need to raise the question as to why the husband didn’t feel safe with telling the OP that he had a son in the UK. Probably because she has a insanely ill thought process

@holyboiamethin2790

10 ай бұрын

Or because he's an asshole who likes to keep secrets even if it hurts other people

@charlame917

10 ай бұрын

or you need to ask did his son know? maybe the son feels the exact same way OP does but she's too unempathetic to realise

@celian.6577

10 ай бұрын

The husband's son was already born long before she met her husband. Husband should have told her from the beginning, even before knowing her well enough to fear her thought process, that he was already a father.

@randomusername3873

10 ай бұрын

Because he is a lying piece of sht and probably cheating the entire time "There's a reason he didn't tell her" is just disgusting If you can't even tell your partner you have a kid you shouldn't even be with them

@cellsentinel239

10 ай бұрын

@@celian.6577 yeah agreed some things need to be addressed before moving further but perhaps the guy just didn’t felt like she was the appropriate person to tell this to but loved her so kept it a secret anyways ?

Shes bitter as hell, everything irks her

"Wasn't my intention" :DD Sure

Jesus i felt sorry for OP, but after i heard that story i was like fvck that cxnt

OP is a jealous C word

She hate the dead husband but she going to take the money

@Classof-wf5jw

10 ай бұрын

Well, yeah. That was a stupid statement 🫤

@prideguy3233

9 ай бұрын

Pride doesn't pay the bills

That feeling when op is sub human

If I was the kid I'll go after money after being treated like this with a lawsuit bc it wasn't what I wanted but since that's all you think of me without a chance then cool show me the Money

Wow, I get this was a shock, but OP reacted like a massive B.

Okay im honestly cofused why is she considering the husband not telling her about the guy such a big betrayal? He didnt cheat on her hes old enough where she her selfs admits it was before they were together. So im just wondering why she feels so slighted.

@holyboiamethin2790

10 ай бұрын

It's a big betrayal because the husband should have let her know he had a child. Why go out of his way to lie for so long? He denied his daughters from having a relationship with their brother for so long because he kept it secret. He even lied to his son about having a wife and two daughters. Who does that?

@jessy1982

10 ай бұрын

@@holyboiamethin2790Also lying about the money withdrawals and what he did on his business trips. Just the constant natural lying for so many years makes you wonder what else he lied about if it was so easy for him.

@celian.6577

10 ай бұрын

Are you a man? If you fell in love with a lady, married her and had two kids with her, only to learn after her death that she kept hidden from you the fact that she had a kid when she was younger and put him up for adoption years ago. Then you realize that, throughout all these years, she occasionally checked on him and spent significant amounts of money for him as she lied to you about going on business trips. Wouldn't you feel slighted? Would you feel that your wife handled the situation in a perfectly normal way? That she didn't disrespect you in any way by lying to you for years about her hidden son? Would you just let that boy into your life suddenly, and trust him alone with your young daughters?

@monaco0042

10 ай бұрын

​​@@celian.6577I am a man an honestly no I wouldn't feel slighted. The reason why I wouldn't feel that way is because at the end of the day this child and her relationship ship to that child has nothing to do with me he was conceived before our relationship was even a thing. She didn't cheat on me so there's no reason to be mad at her for that. On top of the fact I didn't have to deal with the kid in any way except for recently. So honestly if I was In this same situation I really wouldn't be mad at wife. Surprised definitely but not mad.

@celian.6577

10 ай бұрын

@@monaco0042 Your wife can lie to you for over a decade about having a son that she knows about and visits, and you wouldn't feel slighted? I'm sorry, but you're kind of a doormat. That's blatant disrespect and deceit. You need to raise your standards.

I am glad I am not alone in thinking the OP is a AH and the drama. I hope they stub their toe.

Julius mulius Btw thx for including the comments, posts on other subs and asking for updates

Julius movies

OP is insane

I mean I kinda understand OP, her husband lied, died, and his kid kept making promises to her daughters without discussing them with her, with little to no regards of how she would feel, which in my opinion was a little low of him but i'm glad things have worked out by the end

@celian.6577

10 ай бұрын

@@fuzzythegreat1 He's not a kid, he's 18. A legal adult. I've seen plenty of stories about 16-to-19-year-old teens trying to reach out to their estranged father's family and all of them knew better than to suddenly barge into their father's new family unannounced without giving them the time to process things out, take it slow and get used to the new situation. And all of these older teenagers kindly let their stepmothers and half-siblings take the time they needed to come to terms with everything, out of empathy and understanding that it is quite a trauma to have your life flipped upside down like this. There's been poor communication and very little empathy on both sides of the conflict, here.

@celian.6577

10 ай бұрын

@@fuzzythegreat1 C'mon, you're not pulling on anyone's heartstrings by making it seem like he's some poor innocent baby kid who has no idea what he's doing whatsoever and is just learning proper social skills. People don't suddenly start to learn social skills the moment they turn 18. They're supposed to learn them throughout childhood, and society has deemed that 18 is the age where most people should have fully mastered those social skills and are ready to navigate the world as fully-matured adults. He can vote, drive, marry, have a job, join the army, father children, and be convicted for a crime and stand trial like an adult. It's none of our business if he decides to date a 25, 30, 40 or 50-year-old if he wants to either. He's a free man who can make his own life choices and nobody can legally forbid him to. You know who's too young to make their own choices in this story? OP's little girls! And it was OP's right and duty as their mother to decide who can have access to the children and who cannot, to break the news about them having a brother whenever she was ready (which certainly wasn't in the middle of the father's funeral), and to take things slowly to avoid any trauma on the girls' part, especially given that one of them seemingly has special needs (the younger sister is already overly-attached to the point that she is jealous of her brother's girlfriend, there's definitely a lot of trauma to deal with in this whole ordeal). The son had no right to force himself into their family dynamic and in these little girls' lives so quickly without having their mother's permission, and he definitely should have known better. It's not a matter of gender either, I have no idea why you're trying to spin the narrative that way. No adult, regardless of what's in their pants, should suddenly insert themselves in a child's life without discussing it with the parents first. And teenagers learn about it young. You're supposed to always tell children to ask for the parents' approval if they want to engage with a much younger kid, just like you'd ask for the owner's approval before petting a dog you don't know. That's basic etiquette that all children are taught and all teenagers master. OP also should have known better and set firm boundaries as soon as she knew that the boy would attend the funeral. "You can absolutely attend your father's funeral but we'll have to wait for a better moment to introduce you to my daughters and explain the situation to our relatives, because it's a lot for me to process, I need you to give me some space before dealing with all of this, and a funeral isn't the time and place" would have been enough. Hence why I'm calling out a total lack of communication and empathy on both sides.

In the end I'm grateful OP accepted the stepson. Maybe the new gf is more than OP bargained for but this was between OP and stepson and he's a victim too.

Julius Mulius and damn, that has to be a hard situation

Hate how she said she got pregnant with her eldest, but would have killed the baby if she'd known he had a son. Like wtf You've gotten to know this beautiful child and you, in a heartbeat, say you would have snuffed out her life if you found out about the son??? You would have killed this baby without a second thought in a selfish "welp I gotta run away from this man who had a previous life" rage. Her way of talking about life is just egregious.

@parriscrouch3638

10 ай бұрын

Not everyone is pro life buddy

@scarofherobrine

10 ай бұрын

@@parriscrouch3638 that is true… but it just sounds callous :/ I feel like even non pro-life-ers wouldn’t say they’d get rid of their kids after seeing them grow… idk

@zagboyar

10 ай бұрын

@@parriscrouch3638there’s a difference between being pro life and literally saying you would’ve aborted your daughter that’s probably sitting one room over from you on Reddit of all places. That’d be a really fucked up thing to see your mom say if those kids ever stumbled on that post.

@parriscrouch3638

10 ай бұрын

@@scarofherobrine I think she was very much dramatizing and talking in hypotheticals, she didn't actually want to get rid of her kids or not have them be born she just felt betrayed by the husband

@scarofherobrine

10 ай бұрын

@@parriscrouch3638 that is one perspective… I’m hoping that’s the case

DNA test

Your the bad guy. He just wants to get to know his sisters.

OP gotta bad wig, i just know it

The husbands the Jerk in the story but a big problem the son did was introducing himself as their half brother he should’ve waited for the mum to explain it to her children separate

Why don't you guys never put a link to the Reddit thread? It's only fair.

OP: are you after my money? Kid: I’m not after your money. You need it for your kids. OP: He’s after my money. Lol like even without a DNA test, get a birth certificate first. Sucks for the kid. The daughter are probably his only relatives left and the OP was keeping the daughters from a strager,probably rightfully so, but the overall situation sucks.

Julius mulius

Julius Mulius? Wtf!

How are you literally able to assume the absolute worst of every WORD this 18 yo says in the absence of any and all evidence that his intentions are bad? Well OP is going through a lot so I'll give a pass but I'm just sitting here thinking about the neglected boy who saw his first chance at having an actual family get crushed.

Ok the op is some kind of manic

First of all refering to him as the boy is horrible second of all you are taking out your anger on that poor child and he doesn't deserve it third of all from what I've seen in that story he was being nothing but kind and you saw him as suspicious because your husband kept him a secret from you it's not his fault he was kept secret or that he was born so why are you resenting him he didn't do anything wrong the least you could do is try and be civil with him

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Julius Mulius. Almost dropped this one cuz OPs attitude towards her husbands son really pissed me off, but I'm glad I stuck around. Turns out she isnt really an AH, just skeptical and protective of her kids. Guess I can understand that.

I could have saved a lot of time. If she went ahead and said this in the first place 11:20

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I dont like the OP, the boy dindt do anything wrong

This woman is selfish and useless.

I get ops distrust and not wanting him alone with her kids. Thats fine, he is a stranger after all. I get her being mad at her husbands lies. I dont get her out if the blue accusing him of money and trying to make her feel bad.. He did something to make her kid less sad at the funeral, and while she was right to ask him to stop, i disliked the fact that she made that assumption. Yeah cause someone explaining what helped them through their horrible event is trying to mamr you feel bad. Op needs to sef try therapy or something cause this is a very traumatizing event and it seems like shes falling off. She needs something, but getting mad at the son isnt it.

Op got sevear trust issues or whatever, like bro, stop being gigi contra and maybe try to beleive him

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The OP is unhinged. No wonder the step-brother is scared of her. She is prejudiced as well, interpreting his actions in the harshest manner possible, then covering up that bias by claiming cultural differences. OP's side of events are highly suspect as they try to paint her in the best possible light after she reveals her borderline racist attitude. It would be interesting to get the long lost half-sons point of view IN HIS WORDS, not hers.

I'm on her side. Dude gives me the creeps. If I were the dude I would only have any contact with the kids under the mothers supervision. Wouldn't be going out of my way to get them alone with me. What the hell.

@kendallbyrd966

10 ай бұрын

The dudes just 18, young people tend to not think about anything other than the immediate thing their about to do. He could have handled it better, but I dont think anything bad was going through his mind.

@Fellovidual

10 ай бұрын

there was no part in the post where she specifically said he was pushing to be alone with the girls just the she didn't trust them alone.

after hearing it all, i still really dislike the OP :)) just my opinion

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OP didn't want to split that life Insurance money and started spazzing

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