The cousin that asked for a $1,000 and then quickly paid it back is awesome

@cubed_gd

Жыл бұрын

Yup

@LiterallyJustAxel

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely

@nathalieaoi

Жыл бұрын

My uncle has a good job and lot of money. I always ask them for a loan when its really needed, they set up a contract with a monthly payment. I always pay them back. And I always ask kindly. Not once have they been upset with me. Sometimes life is hard. And i'm so glad that cousin was kind to ask, not demand. And pay it back as soon as he could. He'll achieve great things if he stays polite. Dispite everything his family does

@brok56

Жыл бұрын

A breath of fresh air in this mob of holiday beggars.

@razorwolf2758

Жыл бұрын

Yes, that’s how you are supposed to do it

When you come into money, the biggest mistake is to tell family and friends. If they know you have money, people come out of the woodwork with a hand out

@kawiianimekitty7472

2 жыл бұрын

Especially if they're broke themselves. For years my mom convinced me to let her use my hard earned money to buy cigarettes, Pot, and gas. Couldnt save up any money because of it.

@BOAZX1000

2 жыл бұрын

yep when you get money don't tell everybody you know because people who don't like will become your "best friend" and will ask you for money but in the story 800,000$ per kid and 8 kids that is just to much

@red-handed4862

2 жыл бұрын

@@BOAZX1000 6.4 m. 100k would be hefty in itself

@anonymoushunter9808

2 жыл бұрын

Only keep it to ur own family (girlfriend/ boyfriend and kids)

@AgentK-im8ke

2 жыл бұрын

@@kawiianimekitty7472 why did you let here do that?

OP is literally an angel in human form. She literally took care of 90% of the financial burdens of her closest relatives and even then got treated horribly.

@scg02

2 ай бұрын

take my like, this is too true

@Theweirdoooooooo

Ай бұрын

So true

They are totally not the jerk. The family was being lazy, demanding, and abusive. Special compliments to her husband for being an absolute chad the whole time 👍🏻

@cayy8124

3 ай бұрын

True

@Moonlight1000.

3 ай бұрын

Chad

@buttonsfan

2 ай бұрын

Also the husband's dad and anyone else rational. Even the kids of the entitled Sister-in-law knew better, except for the youngest but hopefully they'll also become more mature than their mother with time.

@WaterCrane

2 ай бұрын

I think the main words is "greedy"... horribly, horribly greedy. And entitled. Wow, and when they did an intervention if you can even call it that and resorted to violence...

You drew the line, they crossed it, there are consequences. She did nothing wrong

@lumberluc

2 жыл бұрын

@Michael Jewell Uh... dude? You okay?

@ifinallycamebackwiththemil5876

2 жыл бұрын

@@lumberluc hes not

@denzel1717

2 жыл бұрын

@@lumberluc Listen to the whole video so you know how he feels watch the previous video the entitled mother so probably think twice before you type this comment

@lumberluc

2 жыл бұрын

@@denzel1717 ??? I'm sorry, did I miss something vastly important to your views?

@kyuu12345

2 жыл бұрын

@Bruh Moment yeah true could happen

the fact her family tried to physically threaten her to pay them was absolutely disgusting. They didn't bat two eyes when they were in dire help but LITERALLY the second they heard that she had money they came running for the hills and when she refused they tried to brute force the money out of her. Talk about a bullshit family

@Ali-bm5mt

2 жыл бұрын

yeah if i had a familar with money and needed money i would have made a legal contract and paid them back when i had the money the other people where just idiots

@minzblatt

2 жыл бұрын

Don't think this is a singular incident. That shitty behavior runs broadly in human society. Expect people in your close circles as well. The moment they think someone in a similar position is getting an unwarranted "advantage" over them, their greed kicks in and all of a sudden you become the evil judge that's "punishing" them by omitting their "share" for no apparently good reason. The inner dialogue becomes louder and louder and at one point it bursts out and they unashamedly demand what they deem is justice. That's the messed up psyche of us humans.

@thecommentguy9380

2 жыл бұрын

Greed, it's in our nature

@MadaoAcire05

2 жыл бұрын

This is why always draw a line no matter what. She already done too much for them and yet they still want more. The more you give the more they want. And when it was the time you need them they won't help you. I just think she's too nice she already paid a lot of money, it's ok to sponsor your nieces to go to school but paying their mortgage? That's too nice of you. Sponsoring their children is already enough. If you keep it like that they might become lazy and only rely on you to pay anything they be like" oh i want to go vacation, pay for us". And if you said no to them you'll become the bad guy.

@FrstSpctr88

2 жыл бұрын

Atleast some in everyone's range of relatives contains shitheads...

As the son of these parents who pay for a lot of their siblings stuff, I totally get where this woman is coming from. The worst part is that after a while they don’t even have gratitude for the things you’ve done for them and even expect it to the point it’s no longer a question but a demand. I don’t understand the psychology behind why people become so ungrateful and clueless after a while but just recently my mom got into an argument with her mom because she got mad at my mom for not paying some stuff for my uncle, and she said things like “You guys have money so why don’t you just help him out?” Ironically no other siblings ever help my grandmother or struggling uncle out, it’s always my mom paying for medical treatments and pulling them out of debt, she even gave them a blueberry farm as a gift that she no longer wanted to deal with, but it’s never enough apparently. We have another uncle who’s a doctor and he treats everyone like sht, never gives anyone money and never visits my grandma. Yet recently that she’s been mad at my mom she’s been complaining about my mom while saying she’s grateful to my doctor uncle even though he’s never actually intervened or helped anyone. My mom had to learn the hard way that people don’t care about your help or good deeds, she stopped giving everyone money, and took away the cars she lent my struggling uncle (which btw were in horrible condition, he didn’t take any sort of care for her cars). Right now they’re pissed at her for setting up boundaries, yet are completely enamoured by other relatives who never help or visit them.

@dotanuki3371

3 ай бұрын

There's a very terse expression in my native language, that somewhat awkwardly translates to "A lot wants more". What it means is that if you go above and beyond with generosity, it will only be seen as a baseline, and you'll be expected to cough up more. We have another expression too, "Ingratitude is the world's reward."

@LexusFox

3 ай бұрын

@@dotanuki3371 That is a very wise expression and I definitely think it’s true!

This story is a perfect encapsulation of why money can ruin a family, not say that it can ruin all families, but just goes to show that money is such a powerful and corruptive force that is not to be treaded lightly. I've always said that if I win the lottery or have a huge sum of money given to me, I will not tell a signal soul cause situations like this

This person did A LOT for their family. More than enough. I'm surprised to see people pay this much for extended family.

@neal3443

Жыл бұрын

N that’s how as n lot of ppl go broke taking care of ungrateful ppl

@zippymax1

Жыл бұрын

Giving $1 to one person is more than enough. No one is entitled to a dime. But most people enjoy giving good things to those they love. That should be the only determining factor: the whim of the rich woman. Any family member who shows a shred of entitlement should be explicitly cut off from a dime and publically rebuked. That will put an end to any prob from others.

@jimmyslimmy824

Жыл бұрын

@@neal3443 Yeah, but she is still making money through investments. So she'll be fine as long as she don't go ANY FURTHER

@petero2693

Жыл бұрын

Tax ramifications you cant just give monies away see tax laws...

@bjrollick5262

Жыл бұрын

I hear this a lot but personally didn’t happen to me. Granted the money I came into is less than some people’s yearly salary, but my wife and I would have had to both work 3 years to make that much money. Not 1 family member or friend asked for money. I’ll be honest I won my money at a casino but it was 6 figures. I heard people commenting weeks later because I called my dad right when it happened. They were saying how stupid we were for telling friends and what not. I see it this way, if you can’t mention to friends and family 5hat something good happened to you, maybe you have trash friends and family you need to stop talking to.

Her husband was amazingly supportive, I wish more people like him existed

@abdula16

Жыл бұрын

It’s about her. She’s didn’t change. That why.

@amrishpatel3501

Жыл бұрын

Kudos to her husband for being supportive & also defending her when it counted. :)

@kingyosh3183

Жыл бұрын

He should be. I think it was mostly his husband's relatives making trouble.

@epy0nkaru

Жыл бұрын

Not to be a pessimist, but she is his meal ticket so he has to back her 😂😂

@itzjustren

Жыл бұрын

me too.

You are Not the jerk. When you give to people like this they will always come back for more.

Family isn’t always an Excuse. -A very Wise person

Do not pay for them anymore. Anything that happens once, like harassment, win WILL continue. You are in no way wrong, and very brave for standing your ground.

@wolfpriesty13

2 жыл бұрын

The kids didn't do anything wrong i agree she did nothing wrong but kids are also innocent

@revanruler6404

2 жыл бұрын

@@wolfpriesty13 you've clearly never been bullied at school, kids can be monsters

@nurzhanualiev2841

2 жыл бұрын

@@revanruler6404 agreed

@wolfpriesty13

Жыл бұрын

@@revanruler6404 i had to quit school because of being bullied the school wouldn't punish them because they were considered special and got the school more money never assume someone hasn't gone through it i suffer a lot of mental demons from what happened to me during school but yeah don't assume something about someone you don't know

@revanruler6404

Жыл бұрын

@@wolfpriesty13 Then maybe don't say objectively wrong things, sorry i upset you but as someone who was also bullied hearing someone say all children are perfect and innocent is annoying. you hsould know yourself that children can be monsters

This story is a perfect example of why I'd pretend to disappear in the view of my "peer group" and family in the event that I ever win the lottery or get into a well-paying job, since I know they'd crawl to me and basically demand that I pay back debts they invoked long after taking care of me. Family stops being family once they know they can exploit you and it makes me sad.

@1412-kaito

11 ай бұрын

Yes, I think she should had taken advantage of covid, and said that money was tough or she lost her job or was re-assigned, to get out of position of having 'too much' money.

@Park-Kim_VMin

11 ай бұрын

Exactly yes!

@bobblaster9097

9 ай бұрын

I mean I agree to an extent but there’s no way I wouldn’t be paying off my immediate family’s debts they’ve all done a lot for me and if I’m rich rich it’s the least I can do. Fuck the estranged family tho if I haven’t seen you in several years you can get bent

@Christian-ut7gm

9 ай бұрын

​@@1412-kaito😊. 😊😊😊😊

@salixmoon8145

9 ай бұрын

The worst part is that most lotteries require you to be publicly announced as the winner to collect, so no avoiding

That sounds like a good husband he didn’t even classify the OP’s money as his and hers he just classified it as her’s, truly amazing 17:46

this is the kind of person i want to be, one of the supportive members, that will allways be by ur side no matter what.

The fact that the aunt and uncle wanted 4.8 million dollars in college funds alone is shocking. That's not even including how much the holiday home they were also demanding cost-

@bougornobrovanni2479

Жыл бұрын

Crap if I had 4.8 million dollars I’d fucking retire and the dude wants it for collage funds Jesus christ

@flyboombasher2858

11 ай бұрын

Yeah. Those aunts and uncles asked for about 5.5 million from the op

@Riptide866

11 ай бұрын

This was the biggest shock actually, since most colleges are between 20-40k a year or if you do technical 5-10k a year. She saved 5 years of funds for them 200k would be the most at any point. The aunt and uncle asking for 4 times that amount is just ridiculous.

@anarkki0223

11 ай бұрын

If I 4.8 mil naybe i can invest more

@WaterspoutsOfTheDeep

11 ай бұрын

This is all made up fiction, you realize that right...

I had a similar experience. When I told them all my money was gone. It was the only way I could break the greed. I never heard from anyone again. Only one member asked if i needed help, That was the only person I respected and helped them out during hard times after it all went quiet.

@55Quirll

11 ай бұрын

That's how you know who your true friends and family are, they will be there for you even during your bad times.

@victormurphy1075

10 ай бұрын

U should be a cop so u can surprise karen

@edwinpeterson9983

9 ай бұрын

Reminds me of the story about a guy's uncle. His uncle suddenly announced he's bankrupted and broke. Only the guy asked back if his uncle needs help The uncle just went "nah. I'm fine and dandy. I just don't want any leaches hang around me"

@LMCorvinus

7 ай бұрын

winnings and funerals bring out the greed in some families faster than golem would go after his precious... it's absolutely disgusting and how often this happens makes me so sad. I'll end up inheriting a bit once my parents pass but I would immediately give that up if I could trade it for more guaranteed years with them spending time with their grandchildren. I don't want the money, I want them here longer and so do my kids. my mother is like over 20 years into being a kidney transplant recipient, so since covid started she can't visit as much or be as close to the kids for her health and they've sent me and my 2 kids on a few small trips to make up for the inability to visit as often, and I wish like hell I could trade that for them being able to come around more often instead. having money is nice, but having a great family that's actually a good support system is way better

This is ridiculous, OP is so generous and the family’s demands are crazy, but not only that, she has done so much for them and a lot of them are being so rude. Good on the people who weren’t crazy and were very grateful.

Wow, that husband’s family was something else

1) based upon how much money they gave out and people were demanding I think “a lot of money” is an understatement 😅 2) these are the most entitled, infuriating people I have ever heard of. If a family member came up to me and paid for my mortgage and Childs college I would treat them better than Jesus i swear. I would kiss the very ground they walked upon.

@minzblatt

2 жыл бұрын

That's the fascinating thing about humans though. It is God that gave us all of the glory that's also part of this present called life but we still manage to be ungrateful, expect more or question why we aren't getting the same deal as those that got spoon fed with golden tablewear. Some will be content with the little they are handed, many won't be satisfied even with fortunes.

@brodriguez11000

2 жыл бұрын

@@minzblatt We are blessed with what we can handle. Money has been known to change people and not always for the better. So why bless people with something that'll make them worse.

@1mol831

2 жыл бұрын

If she was the richest woman in the world then maybe she won't feel it (75 billion), OP is clearly not this woman, probably not even close 1 billion. She is very generous and I won't help with family unless I have USD$1 billion (2022 Jan) in my bank account.

@Sephiroth144

2 жыл бұрын

I mean, I'm not sure Jesus got treated all that well =p Leastways, not at the end.

@datemumeta23

2 жыл бұрын

@@minzblatt it seems like humans as a spiecies always try to better their circumstances, and often this comes in the form of complaining to others. there is nothing necissarily wrong with this, however it becomes an issue if you can't express gratitude and satisfaction in equal amounts.

OP should probably look into hiring private security for herself and her family given the way the that one uncle acted.

@robertk1701

2 жыл бұрын

Be like "the money I was considering giving to your kids is going towards paying people to protect me from you instead."

@TitaniumTronic

Жыл бұрын

Yeah but can we talk about that though? What greedy ass motherfuckers would get violent to someone cause she wont give them money?? Tf, she already did more than enough crap for them, and that's literally what they do? Makes me feel sick

@J.R8765

Жыл бұрын

I'm lart way through and I just read this, what the fu-!?

@savantchoudhary7811

Жыл бұрын

What is op?

@robertk1701

Жыл бұрын

@@savantchoudhary7811 Original Poster

I’m sorry but in part 2 did the extended family really ask for 800k for each of their 6 kids, and a vacation home? Because I think that pretty absurd to ask for 4.8 million with no intent of paying any of it back

This is why you don’t tell your family you have money.

Crazy how she doesn’t even mind spending that much on family lots of millionaires don’t even do that

@holdenballantyne8046

2 жыл бұрын

Facts, but now we know why they dont give money, so others don’t expect some too

@yadvendrakulkarni4698

2 жыл бұрын

i cringe so hard when people pay that much for relatives and etc,because instead of appreciating they just see you as bank accounts later on

@thecommentguy9380

2 жыл бұрын

Millionaires are millionaires because they know how to save and spend

@samfish90212

2 жыл бұрын

My father used to make $130k a year back in the 90s and it was hell for him because his family was always asking for a handout. The same family that couldn't be bothered to help when he was homeless.

@thecommentguy9380

2 жыл бұрын

@@samfish90212 this is why men should never tell anyone their income

This woman is way to nice I can’t even believe her family did that to her she deserves better and I’m glad her husband was on her side

@davisholman8149

11 ай бұрын

Yea - she owes those people NOTHING. She has already done more than 99% of people would do. When she said that many hearing her story would be wondering why she doesn’t just give out more money…. NO WAY!😳 How on earth can people be that selfish - the money is yours!🤑

@Angela-ur5yf

10 ай бұрын

Yea this woman is litterly a saint 0,0

@animejanai4657

10 ай бұрын

Self-entitlement is a part of many segments of society now.

@Hr1s7i

8 ай бұрын

I'm about 94.87% sure that we'll be hearing about her divorce endeavours if her husband was not on her side :D

@userofsharingan

8 ай бұрын

@@davisholman8149took me awhile to realize she did onlyfans as work

Does everyone just love how they make the sister inlaw sounds like dobby the house elf 😂

this is what some people would say: _greed will get you NOWHERE!_

I would pay for a house for my mom. beyond that everyone can take a hike. in no way shape or form is anyone guilting me into a damn thing.

@818boy

2 жыл бұрын

Ditto sir!!!

@adventureland550

Жыл бұрын

Amen, I'd help mine out with bills in any way I could despite not making enough. I live with her at the moment since it's hard to save up when things are so expensive these days. I'm already working on books to sell indepently online to earn something on the side and occassionally help her with groceries.

@ALLaboutGAMINGxCHAOSxHOLLOWx

Жыл бұрын

yup! same. My mom would be pampered till the day she passed but everyone else can get fucked, there is always someone out there who clames they need it more...

@q12aw50

Жыл бұрын

Depending on how rich I would be, I could understand giving niece of nephews and your own children college funds.

@zqwill1079

Жыл бұрын

I agree but I think if she deserves it you go to do it with your thoughts then do it that is how I’d say it

So she technically gave 500,000 in college funds or more and paid for a whole vacation and that sister in law still wanted more 😂

@shadowknight1121

Жыл бұрын

Greed is a powerful sin. Why settle for some when you could have more.

@animejanai4657

Жыл бұрын

That's because people in generate either hate or are very jealous of wealthy people. So it's no wonder the successful wealthy couple got a lot of flack. Look at how the democrats harnessed the hate of the wealthy for election gains. It's no surprise that all these family members were jealous and wanted some money.

@Bruhman_15

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like my brother when he wants ice cream from the ice cream truck

@gamerndl

Жыл бұрын

yes

@mandomineblox5543

Жыл бұрын

sounds like a moucher to me

So many entitled people need to learn the rules of life. 1. Life is hard 2. Life is not fair 3. You are entitled to nothing 4. Be happy if you have anything 5. Everything you have can be taken away

I just came back to this kind of content after about 3 years and listening again its really nice its calming and it makes you think really.

She’s not the jerk at all. She sacrificed so much and worked so hard for that money and instead of keeping all that money to her and her husband and children, she decided to pay their mortgages and collage money. Demanding for more money after that and going as far as to strike her is insane. She is certainly not the jerk

@1mol831

2 жыл бұрын

If she is one of the top 100 richest women in the world (who has far more than 1 billion in net worth), then probably go ahead and demand some money, but she still has the right to not give any. But I don't think OP is one of the top 100 richest women in the world, she could clearly state that she is unable to fund her extended family, how could you fund someone without 1 billion in your bank account? She sounds overly generous.

@pforgottonsoul

2 жыл бұрын

@@1mol831 as the story went on it seemed like the problem is she is too nice.

@1mol831

2 жыл бұрын

@@pforgottonsoul indeed, save some for yourself, if you couldn’t buy a yacht, what money do you have to spare?

@Captaintrippz

2 жыл бұрын

I could understand asking for money for a life saving surgery, but vakay? No, no one should ever feel pressed to pay for someone else's leisure time. OP has already gone so far above the standard, just proof, if you give em an inch...

@bernard799

2 жыл бұрын

And this is what I fear if my dad actually won the lottery...

I got more and more furious with this story, she paided from college funds, mortage, holidays, down payments, financial aids, and they still have the audacity to berate her with calls and hate messages, intrude into her house and physically, emotionally, mentally abuse her, if I was her, I'd demand every penny back, disown all of them and cut contact for atleast a few years. Honestly, her husband was really great about the situation, helping, defending and breaking relationships with his family is tough, I honestly really think she should sue all of them.

@PenguinEditing79

Жыл бұрын

Don't hold back lol

@FredRated1967

11 ай бұрын

Oh, you should hear the updates past what was read here. It goes from the sublime to the absurd.

@marcuswanha9723

11 ай бұрын

@@FredRated1967 you know what to search or where to find the other updates?

@covercalls88

11 ай бұрын

Don't get so worked up as I take them as stories to make for some interesting content and comments.

@animejanai4657

10 ай бұрын

Her relatives just wanted Equity from someone that refused to Pay Their Fair Share in supporting people who don't have all that wealth.

Bro if a family threatens you with violence for a fucking vacation, they ain’t family chef

I've always told people if I ever get money, the first thing you ask for you're going to get; and you'll never see a dime of anything else so you better get what you need first.

This lady goes through so much just for money and she still so nice to them PLUS that family seems very large, and she showed massive dominance by punching that uncle

@bassdropkeyyys

Жыл бұрын

never happend this whole story is so funny though but yea never happened lol

@navysealinguardiantank2679

Жыл бұрын

@@bassdropkeyyys proof and grammar

@bassdropkeyyys

Жыл бұрын

@@navysealinguardiantank2679 my grammar was fine

@neelakantannittoor77

Жыл бұрын

When money comes family gets bigger

@hayleydarling4605

11 ай бұрын

@@bassdropkeyyys she did work really hard to get money for herself and the family did seem large her cousin has 8 kids and she did Punch the uncle at the end.

after all the family started crying for money, i would’ve just said that everyone bled me dry and now i have to sell my home and ask for money just to see who actually gives it.

@panda9315

Жыл бұрын

genius, I bet only the cousins would step up

@wolfy5478

Жыл бұрын

Ur name funny I like it hehehe

@jerichojones2722

Жыл бұрын

this is such a lesson in karma. op said that she was once in a tough position herself and asked the family for money, and only 3 out of 9 people she asked gave her money, the rest pretty much telling her "not my problem". and you know for a fact that those 3 people that gave her money, will receive whatever help they need for the rest of their lives.

For the first story you are definitely not the jerk. You were incredibly generous and kind to your family and shouldn’t be forced into paying for trips of others who don’t deserve it and don’t respect you, you did the right thing.

Your first mistake was opening your wallet. No good deed goes unpunished. Family and money do not mix.

The opposite happened in my family. My brother insisted I get most of the inheritance. He had a good job and I was busy taking care of our mom. He even made sure I had things I needed for 3 months after our mom passed.

@tonygroves5526

11 ай бұрын

Your brother is a good man. Very rare nowadays.

@_CallMeMilo_

2 ай бұрын

You have a great brother

She is not a jerk, she was the one who even thought about setting aside money for her nephews and nieces and just demanding someone else to pay for such an expensive vacation and along with multiple college fees containing more then $100,000 is just ridiculous. Along with the fact that were still in the pandemic this is a lot of money wasted that could be used to help the family out

@cubed_gd

Жыл бұрын

And we are about to be in another epidemic Monkeypox

@FEARTHEACE444

Жыл бұрын

And they STILL ASKED FOR A 35K VACATION SO CASUALLY

@Triclips

Жыл бұрын

Agre😊

@kidslikes4881

Жыл бұрын

She legit asked for 35k

@Orca_Alt

Жыл бұрын

Those extended family members who begged and threatened for the money are literal leeches and douchebags

not a jerk at all for not paying for their vacation. I've grown up in a middle income family, but in terms of vacations we just go camping out in the middle of nowhere or on the coast, since we lived in a coastal state. All it would cost were just enough for semi-decent food, gas for a small portable gas stove thing, and gas for the vehicle to get there. That was it. If they really wanted to go on a vacation, they could've just done that to be honest. Camping in the middle of the woods or near a coast (if you have access to one) is nice. Not fancy or whatever, but it's not meant to be. It's about the experience and the time spent with your family/friends that makes a vacation worth it in the first place. Clearly, these people missed the memo. - I personally would rather go camping in an extremely uncomfortable place with family/friends as opposed to going to somewhere super fancy without any. Also, the cheaper the better.

Every person who was at the house for the last conflict needs a restraining order slapped on them. Also, your money, your decision. Period.

As someone who struggles speaking up for themselves, I couldn't be more proud of her for putting her foot down.

@bluestarvideos1055

Жыл бұрын

You are very Gulible my guy.

@alexbrady7845

Жыл бұрын

learn how to say no mf stop getting walked on

@GuyOnHypixel

Жыл бұрын

@ BlueStarVideos you are a kid

@selwynowen6213

Жыл бұрын

If you give in to one person, who knows how many others would want you to do it for them

@lookintothelightcarolanne4699

Жыл бұрын

@@selwynowen6213exactly why so many wealthy folk don’t help their extended family…

"It's like the more money we come across the more problems we see." 100% not a jerk. You get what you earned. Period. That is why there are workers and there are entrepreneurs.

@Gamerad360

2 жыл бұрын

Old Chinese Proverb "More money more problems."

When OP said 35k for that family trip I made my girlfriend laugh so dang hard because I said in the deepest voice she had ever heard from me “I could buy a car with that shit”

My father's best lesson to me was to never tell people, even family and friends, how much I make. The best outcome is I'll be seen as tacky or prideful. The most likely outcome would be everyone comes looking for a handout.

the fact that anyone thinks that you even owed them the college tuition or mortgage is crazy you owe them nothing the fact that they even asked for more is crazy

@mariano5253

2 жыл бұрын

if they pay for your university if you owe them if you do it yourself it's different

Just because OP has the money doesnt mean her family or in laws deserve it. She's better off without them.

You absolutely are NOT the jerk. Stay strong and don't give them a dime. Also yeah I'd spend the money on my immediate family, My spouse, Our parents, Our children. That's it.

I don't think any *rational* person could call OP a jerk. She didn't 'divide the family over not giving out her money.' Money isn't even the issue here it's greed and entitlement. OP was more than generous with her savings and she's the only person genuinely entitled to the money.

OMG, I can't get over how entitled they felt about OP's money!! I came from a lower middle class family and was an electircian througout most of my life until I had an accident that left me disabled. We struggled to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. One thing was I had a small home built (only about 1000 square feet) on 2 acres of land and only owed less then a year on it when my younger brother graciously paid off the rest of our loan. We did not expect this and was greatly relieved when he did this for us and we still greatly appreciate what he did for us. He has worked hard for his money all his life and has a good job in a highly competitive market. He tells us things like he could have retired comfortably a decade ago but we have no clue how much he is worth and frankly it is none of our business. He has taken some awesome vacations and sent us pictures from the places he has been around the world and we are happy for him because his job is so demanding that he needs to have time to get away from it and just relax. He once paid for us to go on an adventure with him and it was an awesome experience. He did it out of the goodness of his heart and we love him dearly even if he didn't do things like that for us. It makes me sick to here people demanding money from realatives just because they have it like they should be entitled to it. IF they give you a gift appreciate it and don't think you should deserve anything else because unless you earn it, you don't!

@gamemaster4558

2 жыл бұрын

Damn an essay

@icywolf6892

2 жыл бұрын

@@gamemaster4558 of gratitude and appreciation :D

@LightningCreatorSamYT

2 жыл бұрын

This was a very good essay, lol, this story is very heart warming and you are right, no family should ever be DEMANDING money or even going so far to use violence for it.

@dudein9785

2 жыл бұрын

This is the respect everyone should practice when it comes to monetary subjects. The money we earn is our money, and we have to respect our boundaries and other's too, I really enjoy helping people that know how to deal with situations like these

I heard this story like 7 months ago and It's still mind blowing to me that someone would ask for 35 k from somebody else and then say " we deserve it " you deserve someone else's money ? How ? How exactly do you deserve 35k of someone else's money ?

@AshGaming6420

Жыл бұрын

That’s my whole question about this whole story

@jenot7164

Жыл бұрын

I would understand if she needed it for an expensive medical treatment. And then payed it back in small amounts each month without interest.

@TikkyNoSurname

9 ай бұрын

Well, sorry, but isn't that the same thing as when you see a video in which someone rich buys something idiotically expensive that they wouldn't need to buy at that price and people in the comments are like: "The anger I feel when I see that. I scrape by with my student loans and look at that mother of four who has 50 bucks to make it through the week." But just because someone has money it has no bearing on any of the people in the comments. If they want to spend their money lavishly or have it resting in bank account, it doesn't fucking matter. Just because they don't spend 30 dollars on a bottle of water (which they are free to do, as it is THEIR money), doesn't mean that money is missing from YOUR table. But for some reason, humanity has degraded in a way that everything has to cater to us. So it doesn't surprise me, that, in the realms of family relationship, people just expect that they deserve that money.

@Dont_Tread_on_Me448

8 ай бұрын

​@@TikkyNoSurname jealousy and hatred is rampant these days , it's absolutely disgusting

@kmon1324

4 ай бұрын

Because the SIL has two well-known plagues known to mankind called envy and entitlement... and it spreads too.

They paid them 1000s of dollars, bad mouthed them, and then were surprised they wouldn’t further pay for THEIR vacation.

Girl I hope that you stood your ground. People who don't appreciate you, don't deserve what you do for them

How could anyone be mad ??? She's literally like one of the best people I've heard of she did everything for them I wish I even had family

This person has just earned my full respect for speaking her mind and doing it respectfully

It's insane how family can be when someone or people in the family have lots of money. Good for OP for refusing to just give it away. *No one* is *"entitled"* to anything. *No one* *"deserves"* that money.

Holy shite, my grandparents HELPED me pay for uni, and I WAS SOBBING because I was so happy. What is wrong with people.

“Am I the jerk?” Anyone who says yes deserves to go to hell.

@ps92809

2 жыл бұрын

wow

@panzer.kampfwagen

2 жыл бұрын

yes

@hebercluff1665

2 жыл бұрын

"ye-" Oh. He's gone already.

@panzer.kampfwagen

2 жыл бұрын

@@hebercluff1665 nope i live within the minds whoever sees this reply

@elfumidoreviscaratoroflung

2 жыл бұрын

Remember givers have a limit while takers don’t

I'm 32 and already know how scummy my "family" can be behind that "good-and-nice-person-we-are-all-loving-supporting-family" faces. AND I'M NOT EVEN MIDDLE CLASS Good thing I'm considered the "poor bastard", so nobody will ask for me when I dissapear.

@elrianarseid7398

2 жыл бұрын

17 here, and you know what? Since I'm 9, my 'family' truly hate me for attention I'm getting because I'm different. They really thought my grandparents inheritance will be all given to me. And just same as you, considered as 'poor bastard' they won't come unless something truly urgent or just want to spit my face.

@JavoCover

Жыл бұрын

@@elrianarseid7398 I always show up poor dressed when meeting them, even though I'm in a good time of my life. When I repair my car the clothes are better. 😆

@elrianarseid7398

Жыл бұрын

@@JavoCover no joke, I'd rather look like that just for them to look down on me lol

This person is NOT the jerk, if I had that money I’ll give some to my close friends but I CERTAINLY WILL NOT give ALL of it to a person who treats me similar to less than nothing.

Such audacity! It's true that family should "help"each other. When they really need one. it means life and death situation not for luxury!! Violent is so wrong too. They can ask for your help but have no rights to make demands. Stay strong!

Whenever someone has money when they didn’t, that’s when the wolves come out. OP is not the jerk. She did as much as she felt comfortable with and to be honest, did more than I would’ve. I am a kind person and I would help people if they need it, but I am not knowledgeable about money enough to plan that out.

The cousin asking for 1,000 for a house and then immediately paid half of it back has more respect then the whole rest of the family

Love how the husband backs her up and claims its her money and she decides instead of making the money his

@Lockfire1

7 ай бұрын

I get that, and she’s 100% not the jerk, but something about the “my money” thing rubs me the wrong way. Don’t get me wrong if I had a rich spouse I wouldn’t just start pretending it’s all my money I have full access to whenever, don’t know how to explain it just feels off. Maybe it’s starting from the bottom together vs marrying into money.

I know this exact situation when my father passed away and left me everything, enough for myself children grandchildren,Etc, to live comfortable for the rest of our lives, and on… but my family didn’t like that and sued me… I destroyed them in court and long story short, I blocked them from our lives. No loss, they showed their true colours when the chips were down, and old dogs never learn new tricks. I had to put restraining orders on a few of my relatives, once the word got around I wasn’t bothered anymore. You cant give them a dime because it’ll never stop and it will wreck your life. This lady would be better off without them in her life, by the sounds of it. Definitely not a jerk, in hind sight being to kind has got her into some bad places.

@xiii0722

Жыл бұрын

@Rapdile very good point

I just find it hard to believe an entire family feels that untitled to someone else’s wealth. I have plenty of family who are quite well off, but I know for sure that i’m not entitled to a penny and would never ask them for anything unless I were desperate. Then I’m sure they would help.

@ShrimpFry_Cute

Жыл бұрын

Idk about Americans or other countries but, my family usually doesn't beg nor do something stupid to ask for thier money, we think about the other family member's stress and situation, even if they're rich and they could buy the world, my family wouldn't want to depend on that wealth. Even if we are poor and just getting by day to day, and borrowing money and paying it back, we would never ever want to depend on other's hardwork, blood and sacrifices. Though most of my cousins live with a Karen that they hate and I hate alot, they are respectful, but most elders are just Screaming and thinking they're above all the others though, they come to my house then *STEP THIER FILTHY FEET ON MY DOG'S HEAD* which I curse about alot. But they respect my parents and the elders, just not the kids too much. Sincerely -Me a 13 year old.

@0westdude

Жыл бұрын

I know my extended family on my mother's and father's side would be like this of anyone got money

@ShrimpFry_Cute

Жыл бұрын

@@0westdude it is reasonable but, going infront of thier house and protesting is kind of unreasonable...

@NoGoatsNoGlory.

Жыл бұрын

@@ShrimpFry_Cute your are 13? If this is true then I highly recommend you check out hamza's channel because there are many people who find it later in life and wish they had when they were 13. You seem to have a good head on you. I am the same way. His channel is about learning about how to improve your life to be the best version out there. There are many KZreadrs like this but I have found that hamza is the most life-changing one. I suggest you scroll down to his videos from 3 months ago and find one you like. This could change your life forever. If you don't care and don't even think about using the channel, then I urge you to at least remember this motto. To do the hard work especially when you don't feel like it. Sincerely -Me a 14 year old

@GuyOnHypixel

Жыл бұрын

@ no goats, no glory welp I’ll check the channel out then. -Me, a 15 year old

Girl did more than she need to And sister in law kept being greedy for someone's money Personally i wouldn't give 35k dollars as a gift even i have billion dollars to someone badmouthing me and around her she did what every person would do so she wasn't the jerk

Family almost always take advantage of family. And then try to blame it on you when you finally put a stop to things.

Holy this story was chaotic. I’m very proactive at how OP dealt with her sister-in-law and how supportive OP’s husband was

The OP (Original Poster) was very generous and it is very sad that she has gone through all of this with these ungrateful family members.

OP should consult her lawyer about sending those members of the family a cease and desist letter, or legal action will be taken. Restraining orders, especially against the Uncle who got violent. They can't go near her or any of her properties so they don't try anything with the family renting her holiday home. And for those who have received benefits and are now demanding more, it could result in OP rescinding any college funds that are yet to be used. They need to understand that they are not entitled to a single penny, and the only person who decides what to do with that money is OP. I do wonder how that arrangement with the Vacation Home works? Do they stay with them or does that family have to vacate while OP is there?

I never understand why just because you're "family" means you automatically deserve anything.

No way in hell is she the jerk. She has done *WAY* too much for them and yet receive a complete negativity and demanding of large amount of cash for them. In all honesty, I would at least start slowly cutting strings, and tell my closest and trustworthy relative or my spouse. Even if it may look bad, distancing your family from the negative side of the family tree is sometimes helpful, it kinda forces the negative family to look apon their actions and hopefully make them rethink and try to repair that string you slowly cutted.

@wolfy5478

Жыл бұрын

Bro u wrote a whole paragraph I almost had a stroke looking at this

@wolfy5478

Жыл бұрын

I still agree

@not-so-obvious_autism777

Жыл бұрын

Yeah true sometimes you need to burn a broken bridge in order to repair it ✊🏽

I swear to God you are a very good person. I can't believe what your family is doing. I wish you well and hope to get richer. I want to say I love you for what I did to your family who helped you. Sorry for the spelling errors, English is not my native language

@9Dark8

2 жыл бұрын

Btw I don't think this is his story. I believe it's a reddit story

@flame6290

2 жыл бұрын

@@9Dark8 your pretty slow aren't you?

@9Dark8

2 жыл бұрын

@@flame6290 explain pls? You can't just say your slow without explaining y I'm slow.

@berzerkerthesavage8806

2 жыл бұрын

@@9Dark8 yo my guy don't pay attention to that loser, obviously they're having issues and want attention so don't give them any if they're gonna act like a child (which it probably is)

@Trollzom

2 жыл бұрын

@@9Dark8 he can't explain cause he knows your correct

Honest mad respect for standing your ground. The mvp in this are your husband and the rebel kids and the one who made the recording. People worst sides come out when it comes to money especially during covid times there are and were a lot of uncertainties. But its just sad and depressing to hear this. Are you a jerk? God fucking no. In my eyes you did everything correct and im sorry to hear that because of this nonsence that there is a rift now and it sucks even more their family. You are not a jerk, you are a legend and also thought me something from it, i am very grateful to you.

it's YOUR money not THEIR money. simple as anything you offer to them should be seen as a pure GIFT

Not a jerk sounds like she was as respectful as possible and had every right to say no and even consulted her partner (who's family it was) for advice. She did super kind things. No good dead goes unpunished sadly.

@chuckgarner2853

Жыл бұрын

My friend's last name is lee

Everyone except the extended family and the sister/brother/mother in law are absolutely amazing people, the Husband is supportive, the children are grateful for the OP, and even the father in law is probably disappointed in what his daughter is doing. (Also that one guy who borrowed money and payed it back quick yeah he is the perfect example of a responsible person)

TLDR: OP is correct and money does not equal family. This stuff is sickening. Family is not something that is decided by money. OP had every right to do what she did. I personally have an aunt and uncle who, while not rich, are definitely upper middle class. Once after my sophomore year, they had even allowed me to join them and their kids on a trip around Europe. It was by far the best vacation I have had. Plus my little cousins, who are all nearly 10 year younger than I was, where a blast to be around and never came off as snotty and entitled. I mention this because not once have I ever heard of something like this happen in my family. No one has ever blown up my aunt and uncle for outrageous things, and my own parents have always taught my that love is the only requirement for family.

Not a jerk btw, I totally respect OP's stance since this is typically how it goes. for the last story, I've already alienated most of the scum in my family and cutted them off in it's entirety. There's only five family members I'd do something nice for, for my uncle I'd buy back the family farmland that stayed in our family for 8 generations from the bank and allow him to live on it. For my mom, should my business wants come to fruition, a free rented yacht cruise for about maybe 2 weeks. (not some megayacht, they come in smaller classifications). My dad and stepmom would recieve a small yacht for recreation. (my dream business is building yachts that can be used in winter months just as easily and comfortably as summer). My brother would get his house mortgage paid off and a promise to help him through any troubles that comes his way. Since the rest of my family never made attempts to stay close to me or let alone show they care, they can go pound sand. What? I'm a guy with ideas I just need to keep turning into a guy with ideas that knows how to implement them.

The ultimate type of parents “keeping your money safe” when you’re a kid

@gilleslesire4983

Жыл бұрын

Putting it in seperate funds is the best way to avoid such a situation. Which is what OP did.

I don't care if it staged, it's just interesting tn listen to a story so well made

@tekajikuyalkrul5111

2 жыл бұрын

Oh I've witnessed this in my family many times

@tharifdzulfiqar789

2 жыл бұрын

Even if its staged, someone facing this problems

@hebercluff1665

2 жыл бұрын

This is a common problem with very rich families. I found out later one of my friends came from a VERY rich family. He never liked people to know that about him

Here’s the reason why you should be nice to the people that are nice to you, and only those who are nice to you

The cockroaches come out when someone gets paid

I don't understand why they said, "they deserved it". As a family, this is not a valid reason to ask a rich member to pay for everything. Everyone has to work hard and earn their own money. So be grateful when all your mortgages and college funds are paid for out of goodwill.

@1mol831

2 жыл бұрын

If I have 1 trillion dollars, I would be willing to pay for everything, I think this woman has no more than 10 million based on her behavior, she doesn't live in a mansion, nor does she own a jet. Why would she even consider helping out her extended family when she can't buy yachts or jets?

bro, I would file a restraining order against every person there, I really hope that family sees this video and possibly can finally see how STUPID they were

@Anindyatejo

2 жыл бұрын

Based on the OP experience, I doubt they would. They probably said that the OP is the wrong one and they are the right one.

@garlandpierce6148

2 жыл бұрын

and that just goes to show how stupid our justice system can be

@jonathancole5179

2 жыл бұрын

@@garlandpierce6148 The police were on OP's side.

This is why you don’t tell anyone in your family. And if you decide to help some, have them sign a contract, or legal documentation under threat of suing to not tell anyone they got money from you.

for the story about the family who paid the funds for collage "when you come into money that you earned by your own hands, you have the rights on how to use that cash, you earned that money through hard work so you are in charge on who/what that money will be used for" but for relatives to do that to you since you were 'wealthy' is uncalled for and is disrespectful but the part of helping out family members with for example the house loan that is kindness and respectful but to me i do have the rule of 'if you ask me for cash just be sure to pay it back to me"

You did way more than most peoples wildest dreams. The fact the family feels they can threaten and bully you in to spending a fortune on them is ridiculous. It would be like paying a blackmailer money, they would just keep coming back asking for more and more every time they wanted something else. You definitely did the right thing and a lot more politely than I would have been.

honestly the OP is such a good person. She is. GOOD person through and through because many people would keep the benefit to their children and not tell a soul outside their own family unit and be the rich aunt by themselves. The OP tried to distribute the wealth in the best way possible but still was meet with this. the fact that she got slapped by the uncle - I CANT.

@pforgottonsoul

2 жыл бұрын

it's sad but this is exactly the reason most people keep it to themselves, money brings out the worst in people.

@JotaroKujo-fr7uo

2 жыл бұрын

What’s OP mean

@sebastian8f306

2 жыл бұрын

@@JotaroKujo-fr7uo original poster I'm pretty sure

Cops: we're called made fines for breaking social distance rules and the expectation that charges might be pressed against them

disown them all. Physical harm is above and beyond. Remember you choose who you consider close family.

OP sounds like a literally saint, and the shit that happened to her she did not deserve. And I hope she files restraining orders to everyone involved in cornering her at her own house.

Ok, so I can understand if the sister-in-law decided to use her voucher to help pay for the trip, or even saved up so that her family could go. However, she didn't and cause a giant fight that caused so much drama that honestly wasn't worth it. Also, the whole "puppy-dog eyes" trick indicates that she is incredibly manipulative, and the parents and her husband should've delt with this sooner. The op isn't the asshole and the rest of the family did a really good job calling the sister-in-law out

@sougotokiwa8439

2 жыл бұрын

Sister in law can go to hell.

Story 1 : Op you are a saint, college funds for distant family, paying off mortgages and vacation for parents you are going above and beyond you are not the jerk by any means

As a general rule: you owe taking care of your spouse and kids - but no one else! An argument can be made for taking care of your parents as well. But you DO NOT have to take care of anyone else. Anything else you give to anyone is a gift out of your generosity as you see fit. If you choose to give it all to charity or burn it in the backyard that is entirely your decision - not anyone elses.

I couldn't imagine being treated like this. Just disown them all, family isn't as important as people think it is.

@ErkiDM1997

2 жыл бұрын

Facts, still they are family but after such a shitshow. You would be better of with a few very good friends.