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@judgenotlestyebejudge

9 күн бұрын

By the Wes, this is what happens when you marry eight times out of ten, a woman that’s preferably older over the age of 30+ with all due respect. They’re set in their ways (aka won’t compromise or can be molded. Hence the term bride and groom), and they’re definitely not changing for anyone. Thank God, you didn’t have kids!

When you hear just the guy’s side of the story, you’re only getting half of what really happened.

@WheresWes

12 күн бұрын

Always 3 sides to every story

@krjayhawk

12 күн бұрын

@@WheresWes As it is said: “the one who protests the most…”

@wil_L

12 күн бұрын

He pointed out facts and had evidence to back up what he said

@krjayhawk

12 күн бұрын

@@wil_L Statements are not facts, and are easily crafted to favor one’s own position. The only evidence is a recording…but it’s played completely out of context. Why is this?….was the man actually mad at Wes’ supposed contact with a minor…or something else? Why did her family go to such lengths to clear their name….did something more sinister happen that Wes has kept hidden? No one really knows at this point as only one side has spoken.

@judgenotlestyebejudge

9 күн бұрын

I remember when this dude started his channel and was saying how much Columbia was so much better and everything. Now look, the truth finally comes out and just like many KZreadrs and people online in general, all that glitter is not gold and a lot of people are just Fugazi and phony.lmao

Here's my 2c for what it's worth: She didn't make unreasonable demands. In your video you state these problems: 1. She didn't want you going to bars/clubs 2. She didn't want you going to other churches 3. She didn't want you talking to other girls 4. She didn't want to leave her role in the Church to give you attention 5. Threats 6. Her and her family didn't want to learn other culture/language My objective take: 1. Who would want their spouse going to bars/clubs? 2. Church is an organization. Comparing it to the corporate world - if you were a leader in an organization would you want your spouse supporting the competitor? Appears to be a slap in the face. 3. Would you want your spouse talking/making friends with the opposite sex at the gym? 4. Is it fair to ask someone to give up their passion for someone else's neediness? 5. I get the threat thing. No need for that. Also, the intrusion isn't cool. 6. Unreasonable to expect this if you're a foreigner living in someone else's country. If you met her in the US it would make more sense. At the end of the day all this was told to you upfront. Perhaps you didn't take them seriously when they set expectations? The one thing that could play heavily in your favor would be her virginity. If she wasn't a virgin the strong religious values argument loses its weight. If she was then her positions carry more weight.

@chinobonito30

13 күн бұрын

Still not sure what happened seems like problems are easy

@RameshKumar-zw1ch

12 күн бұрын

Once Wes said “Being Catholic in Colombia doesn’t mean virgin before marriage “. This is just a day before his marriage. You should watch that video if it is available? It is very complicated story than we can handle if you are an Asian first generation parent in the west . Wes is a very honest person, never hides anything that’s the reason that I have been watching all his videos. Most of the Indian kids lies and pretends that they like their culture and customs. Actually they do this to get financial support for all their life from poor Asian parents who never enjoy their life in the west. They sacrifice all their life for their pretending kids and grandchildren. They believe they do this for higher cost for their children and grandchildren.

@manuelcorrea2365

8 күн бұрын

So basically, points 1 to 3 go in her favor whereas points 4 to 6 go in his. There's another one he doesn't mention here but that he discussed in a previous video and it is that she didn't like him to smoke weed and to be honest, I agree with her on that one. What he said in his defense is that she used to spend most of her time at work or at church so he ended up bored at home and that's why he used to to smoke and play video games as he was restricted to go out too. I definitely feel that she prioritized her church over her marriage and she wasn't willing to give up things of her life style once she married but that same thing about not giving up parts of the lifestyle once they married also applies to him.

@WheresWes

6 күн бұрын

nah it wasn't all told to me upfront. In the beginning it was about how much Jesus accepted me but as soon as I got married, now it's about how the church will control my life. Unreasonable expectations were placed on me when the same expectations didn't apply to other leaders or people that attended the church. It's the hypocrisy that I could not agree with.

There’s two sides of the story what were you doing wrong? Marriage is between 2 people you had to be something wrong also don’t paint your ex wife as the only one who messed up

@dillavery2696

13 күн бұрын

No, Colombian women are really that toxic. But with Intense love bombing in the beginning. You don't have to do anything wrong for a narcissist to discard you eventually.

@WheresWes

6 күн бұрын

I explained it more thoroughly in the video I made just about the divorce. We both made mistakes for sure but only one of us crossed the line, so I stand by my decision. I don't think she is a bad person though, nor have I ever said she was on my channel.

My best advice to folks who are going to Colombia is to never consider having long term engagements with Colombians. That means, no marriage and definitely no business ventures. You will get burned hard.

@evanmcclure67

11 күн бұрын

Not all Colombians are out to get you. There's good and bad everywhere.

Wes it's all part of the ride. Hope you can see the silver lining in all the bad things that have happened and are to possibly come. Good luck bud.

Dang...you went THROUGH it! Llife lessons are hard but also very interesting when your're in the thick of things. Onwards and updwards!

I respect you for sharing us your vulnerability on KZread. I’m glad you visited Latin America and lived there for a moment. Good that you settled down in Europe. I don’t blame you to leave Colombia. For my safety I’ll just tell you I’m in the country of Caldas and you being in Manizales. Even though Manizales is that safest city in Colombia it still has its cons

Wow that's a crazy story!

Enjoy your life!

Great Vid. Thanks for sharing your story @whereswes

House? you guys rented?

😂🤦🏻‍♂️ “Before you say it’s my fault” man that’s such a Latin America thing us folks to need to stop that

Wes, very nice heart-felt video where you opened up and cleansed your soul. You seem to be a genuinely good man, who has suffered some pain bcos of the circumstances you’ve found yourself in. Only my opinion, but speaking in general terms, Poland may not be the healing medicine you need right now. The people have been hardened by the former communist regime, and if they didn’t live through it, they were raised by parents who did. You may be more compatible with an Asian or Latin American girl bcos of their warmth that is inherent in their culture. This is not designed to take a cheap shot at the Polish people. They are good people, but bcos of their history they are not initially warm and you have to work very hard to gain a friend. Over to you!

@magdawieckowska6053

13 күн бұрын

@LunaMiel186 communism fell over 30 years ago, times and people have changed. And I would say that the younger generation, Wes' generation, has no problems establishing relationships with foreigners. Besides, it is a very individual matter. Anyway, I hope that no matter where, Wes will finally find peace and love. That's what I wish for you Wes!

Watching this video, makes me think of the Peruvian gf , also a nightmare. Be very careful to South American girls , don’t be numbed by their faces

...sorry to hear the rent story you mentioned....i learned Never tell anyone when your leaving!...why..because they will pull a fast one on you...women as well! As for girls saying their pregnant.....id be rich if i got paid when a girl in Colombia said that! Dont bother with that...they are Alwaysss with another local dude who dont want them and put the blame on the other guy!...the sucker

Damn dude! You've been through it brother. I'm sorry all that happened to you. I've had tons of similar experiences travelling the world. I hope I run into you sometime and we can grab a drink or food. I'm from the States but I moved to Argentina to switch it up but now I'm on my way to Bangkok (not a sex tourist) for a potential job with this AI company. If you're ever in SE Asia holler at me!

I'd say the Latin people are warmer towards people of other race than Europeans. Too bad ypubleft Colombia. Such a beautiful place.

@dillavery2696

13 күн бұрын

I dated a Colombian too. Similar to a Bible Belt U.S. Southernor That warmth is all fake. Europeans are generally better people on the inside.

@gsanand86

12 күн бұрын

In my experience, Colombians are only superficially nice, and once you get peak inside of them, you see lack of character and good values among other negative traits.

@bamby3751

8 күн бұрын

@@dillavery2696 I feel sorry for guys like you who can not be with the woman of your race, culture, or country and are around the world tasting who is better only because you need to feel in your mother's womb again.

when God loves someone He puts him in some sort of trials That would enlighten his heart. That he gets more wisdom And start ditching out this life Life is around 70 years. Compared to the hereafter is infinity.. So A few years of trials is not that a big deal compared to infinity God give you 2 eyes And 2 trillions of neurons in your brain Before the creation of earth 18 billion years before that He saw every single emotion in ur heart He knows what s the best for u and for ur future He connected the dots That ur brain couldn't fathom how to connect Islam is a good religion also But people don't understand the deep meaning of the verses

But how your ex could change herself sooo hard and quick??

What's up, Wes, Always remember what happened to you. that's the reason i don't show girls in medellin that i have something with them in my videos. I had to delete like 3 videos with the same girl. She thould me erase my video, and i did.

do you have children?

@WheresWes

6 күн бұрын

no, thankfully.

Go to Colombia ! Colombia is the best !

@Liamcooper90

13 күн бұрын

Why would he go to that dangerous country back? He got already burnt there!

@getonwithit.2847

13 күн бұрын

No it's not. Lol. There's only so much you can do. After 4 days you will be bored out of your mind

To be honest with you man, as a Colombian myself and seeing how my fellow Colombians decided to shoot themselves in their feet by voting for Gustavo Petro; it is good that you left Colombia... if it was already insecure back then when you went there, you can imagine how insecure it is now with all the economical recession that this far left wing government has brought in with its bad decisions and the alliances it has made with Venezuela... Also, your ex wife didn't seem to have the character to leave the country so even if things had worked out between you two, I don't think she would have been willing to move countries with you even if Colombia is a sinking ship at the moment.

I lived in Medellin Colombia for 8 months in 2021. I could'nt wait to get out of that violent sh*t hole. Having traveled to many countries throughout the world I have never felt more unsafe than I did while in Medellin Colombia.

@colombianconnection6607

13 күн бұрын

You obviously haven’t been 2 Detroit

@user-dk3up2nl1m

13 күн бұрын

Wait....why did u feel that way? I spent 2 yrs in Colombia due to covid...and had the Greatest time of my life! Every night i had dates and drank every day!

@anthonygarvia3147

13 күн бұрын

yeah i never felt safe in Colombia at all....not even just from criminals but from the government/cops too! if colombian women were ugly they'd get 0 tourists LOL

I think your ex-wife is a coward. She wouldn't turn against someone belonging to her own community/church even for her husband out of fear of being criticised and to maintain her reputation. She was really submissive to her church as if she had no will power or own opinions and values outside of it. This church looks more like a sect too me than a regular/catholic church.

@manuelcorrea2365

9 күн бұрын

Well, if you hear the threatening message that the church pastor sent to him in full, you can notice that the pastor refers to Wes' ex wife as his "daughter" and he also points out that he has all the passwords of her social networks so he can access to all of her information so you can imagine the level of conditioning she must have.

Props for being for vulnerable online. I could never

so raw and honest. thank you

I have subscribed a long time but stopped watching until now. I always felt you're smart and talented but was quick to judge and lacked a since of maturity as I did at your age and many others as well. It seems as often the case when we go through a difficult time, as we all do, we come out broken or stronger. I am happy you took the latter. God Bless you and good luck on the re-launch as I reengage. Thank you!

A divorce without children is the best " vaccine " a person can have . As a viewer I feel like an unpaid therapist !

Consider yourself lucky and it a blessing Most of us men in United States were married for many years and then destroyed by the court system.

Hey Wes so glad you explained some of things you went through in Colombia. I was wondering why you were bashing Colombia but now I understand you better. Give yourself time don’t rush into anything. Let your 💔 mend first so you can be happy in your next relationship😊. Wishing you the best I will be following along on your adventures.

I dated a Brazilian chick, she was crazy. Woke feminist, promiscuous, drank, smoke and party all the time, into lgbt crowd, suggested open relationship multiple times, mad tattoo and piercings, very insecure, bad relationship with family and father, bad morals, overall a bad character. Now I'm dating a traditional Vietnamese girl, religious (I'm personally not very religious but doesn't bother me) , believes in marriage for life, family oriented, great cook, gentle and kind personality, a total one 180 from that Latina chick. I would not consider seriously dating a Latina and would not recommend another Asian brother to do so, unless she is 100% committed to you and your asian culture, family, as you are their Latino culture.

@gsanand86

12 күн бұрын

Agreed, Latinas are awesome short term partners, but never to be considered for anything that requires long term commitment. There are way better women from other races for that.

@leonsparta8238

12 күн бұрын

U couldn't see the signs because you was new to the culture, there's people like that everywhere. There's good n bad everywhere, u just chose badly, your fault

@mrnarason

11 күн бұрын

@@leonsparta8238 Nope.

Thanks for sharing your story!

Great video, Wes! I was wondering if you saw David from Life With David when he was in Poland. If I'm not mistaken, I think you two are friends or acquaintances.

@WheresWes

13 күн бұрын

Yup we met up I posted it on the community tab

@nelgster

13 күн бұрын

@@WheresWes That's great! I just went and saw the photo.

@RameshKumar-zw1ch

12 күн бұрын

I had the same question in my mind when I watch both of your videos in Poland.

That explains a lot...

Thanks!

Your lucky you didn’t get deleted lol Columbia 😂

@WheresWes

12 күн бұрын

Fr

The death threats sound insane. It's crazy how a community can turn on you because you are an outsider. Dealing with Latin family sounds like a pain in the ass if you girl isn't 100% on your side. I'm glad you are out of that situation Wes.

@gsanand86

12 күн бұрын

Most of them are on the side of their families, and you will always be an outsider to them no matter how much money and resources you blow on them.

Sorry i befriend many vietnamese girls over the past decade, married many off. Married one myself, built a house in Nha Trang.

@JAYY_JAYY

13 күн бұрын

Is it true Vietnamese women are the best in the world ?

@sagepirotess6312

13 күн бұрын

@@JAYY_JAYY as someone who has worked all over Asia, yea,l. Naturally beautiful yes, cosmic beauty korea or Japan may win. But Vietnam has mixed blood. So women have breast, not flat. And overall skinny.

@WheresWes

13 күн бұрын

Yeah that was my observation too

I’m moving to Europe in 3 weeks

@jejudo3000

12 күн бұрын

Europe ia the best mate!

I've gained valuable insights from your stories and wish you all the best in your endeavors. You are an incredibly intelligent individual, though I believe having a supportive partner that you can trust and respected could further enrich your life. I started watching your videos long time ago and i have the same experiences here in the USA as yours; today, i am in a relationship with a Colombian woman, but as i see it she is the opposite than your ex; very respectful and very professional independent woman

This was such a good honest video. The only thing I think in the marriage you didn't understand what it meant to be part of a G12 Colombian church. Born again third world Christians are hard core, the church is your life and most of your time is spent with your church brothers and sisters. Maybe they didn't explain it to you properly the expectations. I still miss my church but I had to leave because I couldn't keep denying that I was gay to myself. Unless you were asking your wife for butt sex or something clearly immoral (like to stop going to church) your wife was supposed to submit to you, if she didn't then she was wrong. I hope you maintain your faith though Wes

Someone got finessed Women are good actors

@gsanand86

12 күн бұрын

They are the best in the business

wow this is nuts, just come back to US listen to family, settle down get married and get stable job

@I_Need_Travel-mw3st

12 күн бұрын

Horrible advice 😂 Why would he give up his freedom to go to an expensive country with high divorce rates?

Hey Wes, are you ready to drop your belief con dios? Have your opinions changed any over the past couple of years?

@WheresWes

13 күн бұрын

It has changed and continues to evolve. I'm in the search of the answer and am thinking deeply about it

@sagepirotess6312

13 күн бұрын

Wtf is a condies? Not English

@lukeda21pisrack

13 күн бұрын

Its jesus man! Christians are just messed up because we are the ones constantly being meesed with by evil. ​@WheresWes

@nelgster

13 күн бұрын

@@sagepirotess6312 ...belief in god...