after 10 years if a person don’t want to be my friend I would be over it.

@sharonbrown5755

Жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏 it wouldn't trouble me one bit,a would have move on longtime ago

@wellness1786

Жыл бұрын

Right!!! What the bloody hell? Too grown for this.

@itty.bittypretty2019

Жыл бұрын

Bro frlll it’s been 4 yrs with my ex best friend and I don’t at yr 2 😂

@teetawn9454

Жыл бұрын

same

@evejkay6749

Жыл бұрын

By end of year one I'd be done....for good

After 10 years. It’s time to lay that friendship to rest.

@nikkiquinn1886

Жыл бұрын

A year for me😂 hell maybe 6 months

@moditorres7647

Жыл бұрын

@@nikkiquinn1886 for real they was temporary friends lol

@AMurphySharp

Жыл бұрын

There is no friendship

@LifeAskmarie

Жыл бұрын

Right my so call friend was jealous of me saying that she don’t want to be my friend no more cuz I more far away the real reason was that it was over a boy because he liked me in she got mad

@rogers5622

Жыл бұрын

Right . She putting too much on this 🙄🤣

I had a friend of 20 years that started acting funny on me... Needless to say, I wish her well. That ship has sailed

@flblackbutterfly1

Жыл бұрын

For me it was 30 years. And I should have let it go a lot earlier. It may be painful in the beginning, but you can live without people.

@AS-eq2qm

Жыл бұрын

I had a best friend for 27 years. It took me 5 years to fully get over it. Only time we talk now is through text during the holidays

@deshawnbrown986

Жыл бұрын

Same! Bon voyage

@bmore8338

9 ай бұрын

Right

@diamondbeetpaul.9537

9 ай бұрын

I know friendship these days.😂

Never beg for someone to be your friend. Just keep it moving.

@Wyzdom1974

6 ай бұрын

Real Talk 💯

@carolinekamya2339

6 ай бұрын

facts!

@blessedlady7815

6 ай бұрын

She’s jealous. Sis keep the door closed…….

They wasn't even 'real' friends. A work friend usually ends when someone leave that job

@TheRealEvvonne

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!!

@Hollygdorsey1

Жыл бұрын

Not when their children mingle.

@mama2flythesidehustlequeen164

Жыл бұрын

Yep

@MissBiancaRenee

Жыл бұрын

Bingo!

@logicmama_shadibabi

Жыл бұрын

💯

10 years since they've seen each other??? I don't even need to hear anymore. Let that friendship GO

@barbaracarley3601

Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💯

@heathab...._-_

Жыл бұрын

RIGHT! homegirl just want to be on TV

@selfmaderish4690

Жыл бұрын

Facts lol anything after a year I’m good off you

@SarahRamsingh

Жыл бұрын

I thought they stopped talking 2 weeks ago from the headline lol. This is manufactured drama.

@jaeeluv

Жыл бұрын

💯🥴

I mean, once your friend gets married, you can’t constantly ask her to go clubbing or hanging out all the time. You have to respect their marriage. I get it. All my friends are married and I’m still single so I always just wait for them to have the time to hang out and our friendship is still going strong!

@jozey555

6 ай бұрын

no fr someone getting married is def never an excuse to end a friendship. the wife was just making a bunch of excuses , she clearly started feelin herself when she landed the pro baller and left her friend in the dust

@alwaysright9099

6 ай бұрын

That part !!

@keein73550

5 ай бұрын

Understood… but everyone is not the same…. Even if you are married.. I’m pretty sure that you can still make the time to check on and hangout with your friend… being married is not a good - great reason why you can’t hang out with a friend that genuinely loves and cares about you like a brother or sister. Also I don’t mean this in a negative attitude.

@user-vl5tv2pe1j

5 ай бұрын

I totally agree. I honestly don't see nothing wrong with what she did

@AirShay

4 ай бұрын

This the comment right here! All of it. Lol I ain’t gonna lie, I miss my friends who are married and engaged now, but they should be allowed to live their lives.

💔 People do switch up when they get into relationships or get married. Some people use friends as placeholders until they level up. I feel sorry for the friend but it's a lesson many of us have to learn. Don't beg nobody to be in your life.

@tiana2906

6 ай бұрын

Exactly 💯

Whether it’s a friendship or intimate relationship, when someone leaves you… LET THEM WALK.

@TalkCafeTV

Жыл бұрын

That part!

@schawnettarobinson8584

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤❤

@jingledianon7008

Жыл бұрын

Agree..

@tavarellmartens626

Жыл бұрын

This!!

@chayogasperi9783

7 ай бұрын

Mic dropped .

It’s the audience playing both sides clapping at everything for me 😭

@maureenmango7829

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@monicajohnson4323

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@Hollygdorsey1

Жыл бұрын

😅😅

@souldeep9272

Жыл бұрын

Lol because they both make valid points 😂

@chantelasol5881

Жыл бұрын

Lol THIS. Tbh it's kind of why I like Karamo. Talkshows so often pit people against each other, reducing things to good v bad. In truth relationships are complicated, and sometimes it's just a case of not acknowledging and hearing. Which we're all guilty of.

10 years??!! I would have NEVER cared that much 😂

When you’re married, there are boundaries, real friends adjust..

@lacyladi9951

7 ай бұрын

Exactly. I can't even picture being upset by a friend who's married and doesn't want to do single activities. It's just an unreasonable expectation fr

@BRI2020-d8x

6 ай бұрын

@@lacyladi9951married people should just try and have more married friends

@lacyladi9951

6 ай бұрын

@sabrinasmith1182 I'm not married but I have a steady person. My bestie who's male has been married 18yrs and his wife is absolutely lovely. She has never gotten in the way, been offended, that's her man. I respect her and love her equally we go on dates, we can be alone with trust. That's just normal to us but I really can't imagine overstepping. Even saying gotten in the way is like 🤢 I moved so he could grow and came back when they were solid and we have built a great foundation for lifelong friends. People crazy out here. Or maybe it's me.

@journiee2me518

6 ай бұрын

@@BRI2020-d8xMarried people who only surround themselves with other married people be the main ones crying when their married friends dump them once they get divorced. Basing your friendships off marital status is a foolish move.

@BRI2020-d8x

6 ай бұрын

@@journiee2me518 hmm 🤔

She JUST DOESN’T WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND ANYMORE!!!! Move on!!!! Don’t force people to be around you!!!

@magicworld3242

Жыл бұрын

This woman is jealous her friend got married and moved on. She's not happy for her ex-friend's happiness.

@marciawade9101

Жыл бұрын

​@@magicworld3242 Yep.

@theophaniai9292

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree 💯

@UmmYasmin91

Жыл бұрын

@@magicworld3242 facts!!! Super jealous!

@btallie

Жыл бұрын

That’s what I pick up. I don’t think it has anything to do with her being married. She just doesn’t want to be her friend. Simple.

They can hug all they want but lady in the brown is over that friendship 🎯

@tamekaroyal3220

Жыл бұрын

Hunni moved on if she ghosted you 10 years obviously clearly it's a reason why the young lady in brown cut ties I'm on the lady in brown side

@jojosaylor8996

Жыл бұрын

I don't blame her

@qvirusmonkey

Жыл бұрын

I'm over it too, because sis in the black has some issues.

@indigenousqueen8182

Жыл бұрын

The lady in black won't let her talk and voice your opinions

@nicoleraheem1195

Жыл бұрын

​@@qvirusmonkey Exactly 😅 She's too catty and dismissive

There’s a difference between setting boundaries and distancing yourself. When boundaries are set it’s communicated. She set boundaries within herself and moved how she wanted to without explanation. That was very clear in this 🤦🏾‍♀️

@Turtle12o992

6 ай бұрын

Mmm this was the best comment so deep

She got a real man to take care of and she don’t want to lose him periodt ❤

@latonyafunches9991

25 күн бұрын

And when she was going through it at her lowest her friend was there to pick her up FOR THAT new man. And now her friend is tossed to the side bc she don’t wanna “lose” him if she can’t hang out and actually be a friend to her that ain’t no “good” man.

The friend needs to know that when one gets married their priorities change! Partying and clubbing is no longer a thing for her.

@quetta561

Жыл бұрын

U still ain got to ghost a friend try to have a convo with them RESPECTFULLY . U can tell the other friend think she’s better than the other one bc she married a ball player

@Cutiepie50021

Жыл бұрын

I mean a birthday party for the kids is different. And she found time to do those things fit her other friebds

@dr.dawnew

Жыл бұрын

Facts!!

@fazekatrinaroberts3911

Жыл бұрын

@@quetta561 bingo!!!!

@jasmindrace

Жыл бұрын

Facts! Married people have different priorities. I wouldn’t want someone banging on about how I don’t want to go to the club. I would ignore her too. Can’t we go to lunch or just hang? A friend should support her marriage!

This is the classic example of a single person not understanding marriage. Married people who want to stay married can’t act “single”.

@jangyamfi935

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely true!

@lucreziavilante5993

Жыл бұрын

Bianca is a snob and snubbed her friend

@krisjackson6567

Жыл бұрын

As a single woman I agree!!

@blackownblackcontrolattheb490

Жыл бұрын

PREACH, she's a hanger on, petty and jealous hater!

@evanglistfoss-kq6fp

Жыл бұрын

I don't think she's a hater. She felt rejected because they were very close. I have two cousins who are sisters and act like that.

Karamo be making ish up to make guests feel better. The married friend wasnt really missing her. She found peace.

You cannot force friendships, when it's over take up your heart, wish them well and move on!

Ngl. I prejudged the friend who “leveled up” but after hearing her talk, I side with her. The old friend didn’t respect boundaries and was messy with her words. Folks who are in a growing season don’t always want to drink and party. This is why it’s important to hear both sides of a fractured relationship.

@arealdopemom7218

Жыл бұрын

I did too.

@LoveAngel333

Жыл бұрын

Exactly her friend is mad annoying nobody wants to hear all that smart talk and condescending about my choices and my life. Go ask your man all that is too much I would have stop hanging with her too. She too old not to understand things change it’s not always about you.

@LotsofLisa

Жыл бұрын

Same

@atlantasfaithsmom

Жыл бұрын

Disagree. That lady in brown has a horrible attitude.

@zazlar4228

Жыл бұрын

@@LoveAngel333 exactly … it isn’t always about you, friendships do go through gaps or fade away because people are going through life experiences and circumstances. I’m in a space where I’m very introverted because of recent experiences. Just need the alone time but I still stay in touch and acknowledge my friends, just not as physically present.

It's been a decade. Grieve it, bury it and move on.

You can’t make someone be your friend. Respect the friendship for what it was when it was. Be your own friend, respect yourself and the wishes of your former friend. The conversation on display shows why homegirl in the brown kept her distance. Good job on the host for helping the woman in the black to see one of the issues.

Love how Karamo compliments how beautiful his guests look when they come out on stage.

The friendship is OVA.

@chiantibliss5846

Жыл бұрын

They were never friends, they were acquaintances or associates.

@natnat0576

Жыл бұрын

@@chiantibliss5846 right they were never friends!

@MeThatGirl01

Жыл бұрын

Ova 😂Ova Ova 😝😭

@doubled5927

Жыл бұрын

Never started

@Texas_ice

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

when you find someone serious your life does change i’m glad she took her relationship seriously

@rosahacketts1668

Жыл бұрын

And it is always women dumping their friend - you never see a man do it. Women are glutton for punishment.

@Fazrrrr

Жыл бұрын

👏 she sounds jealous and seems to like people beneath her . Girl bye 😒

@Thatgirlny06

Жыл бұрын

U can still talk to your friends 😂

@jamiesmith4848

10 ай бұрын

@@Thatgirlny06that mf part!!!

@jayefennel1668

6 ай бұрын

Right!

I befriended an older woman who used to shade me like that about my husband. She would make silly comments like "you can't do nothing" your husband this...and your husband that from a Judemental point of view. All the while she's as single as a blade of grass. I would pick up vibes of jealousy and her wanting my undivided attention.. it started to get really weird. She started to not have boundaries like this older woman. Needless to say I cut the cord on that relationship.

@Gtdmilon514

8 ай бұрын

A lot of those older women are secretly lesbians and want more than friendship.

@Salma-yo6ns

5 ай бұрын

Single as a blade of grass 😂😂

@annastasia248

3 ай бұрын

​@@Salma-yo6nsI caught that

She really doesnt have to give an explanation of her boundaries. She said NO and that is a complete sentence. The friend didn't respect her, her marriage, and felt like she owed her something. Plus, the communication is poor and its more hurt speaking than love. Sometimes marriages do end friendships. Facts of life.

@brecamilla5451

9 ай бұрын

you give an explanation to your FRIEND. but i do agree she did not respect her boundaries

@iamtracywilson

9 ай бұрын

@@brecamilla5451 your FRIEND will also respect NO full stop. Anything else is entitlement because she doesn't owe any furthrr explanation. NO explains itself. It's Because I said NO. You saying NO is the only explanation a FRIEND SISTER OR ANYBODY NEEDS. You are enough and so is your NO.

@brecamilla5451

9 ай бұрын

@@iamtracywilson you do owe further explanation, it’s curtesy bc that’s your friend. you don’t have to but it is nice…. y’all mad weird like this is literally basic shi. if u see ya friend confused on why you can’t, a simple explanation would do some good within the friendship

@brecamilla5451

9 ай бұрын

@@iamtracywilson but i can see how u are when u said “owe” her something. you definitely owe your loved ones common courtesy and understanding. but again she should’ve understood her boundaries as well.

@iamtracywilson

9 ай бұрын

@@brecamilla5451 the word is OWE... courtesy if you want to but you dont have to! This is basic, so either you get it or you dont. This is why some people stay confused looking for an explanation.. 🤣 you may never get one besides their no.. doesnt mean they dont love you if they dont tell you more than that. That is something your mind put as an expectation for them to do.. everyone does not live in expectations so this helps people stay in control and out of confusion. NO is the explanation. Anything else is human emotion and rational to justify the NO which can stand on its own. COURTESY is just that.. people can say no and give no further reason and still love you. Hope that makes sense.

She's crazy AF. NO ONE IS REQUIRED TO STAY FRIENDS WITH YOU!

She ain’t hurt, she’s jealous, and like the old folks used to say misery loves company

@Unknown-vy3do

Жыл бұрын

she isn't, it just hurts when someone changes like that and skips you

@Cjoyce-pj4px

Жыл бұрын

No she's not !... she just missed their friendship....& she not miserable...the gurl in the brown is a royal bitch... period!

@ExceptionalLex

Жыл бұрын

I sensed jealousy as well. She seems to want her to stay in the same exact spot in life

@rashardstallworth9240

Жыл бұрын

@@Unknown-vy3do Everyone changes, it called maturity. Why would a married woman be out clubbing and hanging with her single friends? Also, she said she disinvited her from her childs party because the friend wanted to come over and try to check her husband. The friend is jealous and miserable.

@rashardstallworth9240

Жыл бұрын

@@ExceptionalLex Facts, we all have to grow, and keep moving forward.

Alot of women drop friends when they get in a relationship. Let them go. And when that relationship breaks down and they try to pick up that friendship again ignore them.

She called her on the show after 10 years to say “talk to the hand and girl bye?”. Some people (women especially) like to have a ‘poor friend’. They help them to keep them around. They feel uncomfortable when the friend starts to do better because they may lose them. Instead they should be happy for them and wish them well.

@LuckyyLEVEN

Ай бұрын

Talk to the hand was so childish . She still gives immature

She got married. She changed for her husband as she should and she can still be your friend. That's all.

@pixelking_871

Жыл бұрын

That doesn't mean she ghost her friend you know u got hoes that do that fake ass shit don't play that lady you done met some fake ass people

@Change2be1

Жыл бұрын

the lady that got married look more like her daughter their age seem so far apart.

@pixelking_871

Жыл бұрын

@@Change2be1 yea I do see that

@reginaharrigan7454

Жыл бұрын

Why did she change for him why

@kayanna5810

Жыл бұрын

@@reginaharrigan7454to impress her man 😅

She OUTGREW her. Elevation requires separation. She now has the mindset of a wife and mother. Being the wife of a successful man (successful or not) you have to let go of anyone who bring unnecessary drama and negativity. After 10 years she still haven’t matured, lack effective communication skills and the ability to control her emotions. She need extensive therapy before she can be anyone’s friend. She needs to learn to love herself first. She’s jealous that her ex-friend is happy and found a husband. If she put that same energy into herself then just maybe she can find happiness too. Gurl leave her where she’s at and continue to enjoy your peace!

@JG_SmileSOBright

Жыл бұрын

Best comment! I agree 100%

@BREASHONTELL

Жыл бұрын

Right I think she’s jealous and is using not wanting to hang out with her as a excuse☹️

@thesun-N-moon8885

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! The lady in the tan dress as matured past her. She was done with her when she threw up her hand and said “talk to the hand”. I wouldn’t be able to take an adult seriously with that behavior either. One has chosen to mature and have a family. The other is still in the “let’s get this party started” mindset. They have outgrown each other. I wouldn’t let anyone try to destroy my marriage and success either. We are not the same. Lady in the black needs to find her own people. Lady in the tan is not at that immature mindset anymore…..

@crqdea6654

Жыл бұрын

🎯

@tamekaroyal3220

Жыл бұрын

Exactly this woman clearly toxic and unhappy

I had a friend like this who blamed me for everything that happened in our friendship since childhood, yet she never took any responsibility for anything that she did.

She outgrew the relationship simple! When you level up in life unfortunately everyone can’t come with you.

Married women can’t do what single women do and I don’t think she understands that

@questionresearch8721

Жыл бұрын

Understandable.

@sokaymunnacorley8174

Жыл бұрын

And she’s too old not to know that ! I just think she’s a clingy friend

@MzCandyApple5683

Жыл бұрын

That’s true but going out with a friend isn’t the end of the world. Especially if you dating a pro they always out in the club.

@sokaymunnacorley8174

Жыл бұрын

@@MzCandyApple5683 True some people just don’t think they should do certain things anymore . And I’m sure she didn’t want to be bumping into her husband looking thirsty in clubs

@pixelking_871

Жыл бұрын

And she was trying to be a friend her so whatever yall say

I feel like after this reconciliation still this friendship is going nowhere

@malissakpadeh8951

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😣😣😣😣

@iamtracywilson

Жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@Beyourfavoriteself

Жыл бұрын

Forreal

"Ur personality hasn't changed" "What am i gonna do, morph in to another person?" Loved it

Sometimes it happens people move on . Sometimes friendships don’t last

It’s the body language for me.. Their friendship has clearly changed. From the way the married friend reacted from the beginning. It was very cold.

@JK-wp4nl

Жыл бұрын

It's been 10 years. I don't understand why she even brought her on the show at this point.

@jasmineiam

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. She knows her friend is right about how she did her and instead of just admitting it, she tryna put it all on the other lady.

@jasmineiam

Жыл бұрын

@@JK-wp4nl because she wanted to resolve and unsolved issue for herself….

@vb593

Жыл бұрын

​@@jasmineiam smh that's ridiculous. There's better ways to resolve issues than this like therapy

@hischild7070

Жыл бұрын

Though the dynamics of the friendship rightfully changed after marriage, it is pretty obvious the tan dress has an uppitiness about her. She likely has a "new circle" of friends which puts her in a new social league. Ms. Black Dress should develop maturity and pride and move on with her life. She doesn't need to beg friendship from tan dress.

She went from trying to explain why she said “ ask your husband’s permission” to saying she never said it. Honey it’s giving obsessed just a bit. Carmita is clearly older than her and should understand exploring new relationships and communication. But then again not everybody knows/ understands these things so it is what it is. But ten years later is wild

@tasaiix8827

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@Marieeee125

Жыл бұрын

Exactly, when I saw the photo of them both I was thinking the woman in the black looks older! I thought it was obsession tooo

You can’t take it personally. Just gotta wish her the best.

10 YEARS! Miss ma’am let her go on with her life…

Some people need to love themselves instead of depending on others.

Hmmmm, I don't know about that friendship. They haven't seen each other in 10 years - maybe just let it go.

I had a friend like this. Secretly believe it or not she can't stand the loyalty given that she can't offer. She didn't lose a friend she lost a spiritual enemy.

I think they are just on two different levels in their lives. They have out grown each other.

I’m sorry…Carmetha is full of it. When Bianca brings up she would say “can you ask your husband for permission?” She said “yeah, you know why I said that…” @7:35. Then when Bianca mentioned it again, Carmetha said “I ain’t never said that, girl bye” @9:45. She trying to call someone out for not changing when she CLEARLY ain’t changed. Bianca need to keep pushing with her life & let that friendship stay back in 2013

A real friend don’t bring up what they did for u all the time.. if a real friend do something for you they’ll do it from the heart just off the love they don’t throw it in your face when things don’t go they way

@julianmartin5551

Жыл бұрын

She’s just speaking from a place of hurt because her friend just abandoned her once she met a baller and elevated.

@soniaharrison1016

Жыл бұрын

​@@julianmartin5551 everything is for a season.

@FaithandNova

Жыл бұрын

@@soniaharrison1016it is but it’s hurtful when the children also bond with each other. When you really love each other as friends and it’s sincere it will last thru your lifetime

@NaturallyKoilyKuteness78

Жыл бұрын

While that is true, people shouldn't go around using people neither but nobody wants to talk about though.

This lady is like old enough to be her mom. I had an older lady cling on to me like this from work. Would constantly tell me how beautiful I was etc. constant calls etc. I didn’t view her as a friend, more like a mom figure. But when I stopped answering her calls when I switched jobs she was hitting me up constantly asking me why I don’t talk to her anymore. I have a great heart and I connected with her off of the strength that I could tell that she really had a liking for me.

I just lost a friend right before I got married. She started showing jealousy right before I got married. I grieve the friendship, but she wanted me to be more of a therapist than a friend and it was weighing down on me and my husband didn’t like that.

I feel like I'm in wonderland with Alice. If some of you think the chick in black is an example of a good friend, good luck with having any serious romantic relationships. I didn't hear they were BEST friends. They were WORK friends. One got married and had a kid. She CLEARLY said she didn't stop speaking to her bc she got married. She stopped speaking to her bc after she told her she didn't want to club and party every conversation became snide comments about her relationship and her not "having permission" to do things. She got tired of having the same conversation and the chick not respecting her boundaries. The chick in black went from saying she knew why she said that to denying she said it. A blind man can see she's toxic and wants attention. Ten years later and you're still looking for attention?! I wouldn't have even come on the show to defend myself against this crap.

@taryndoiron3971

Жыл бұрын

No. She already had a kid. The woman in black took the other chick under her wing. She said they were just work friends at first but then ended up becoming best friends. Their daughters were even close. The girl met a successful man and she started acting funny. Not even inviting the other woman's daughter to her little girls birthday party. To me that was the pettiest of all! To me, the chick in the tan dress had an attitude as soon as she walked out.

@knowbeonekanobe5672

Жыл бұрын

This is spot on. Those who are not married trying to dictate what this married woman is doing with her husband. She got chose and moved on.

@LA009Lab

Жыл бұрын

The chick is black has serious problems. I would run

@Ms.FullPotential

Жыл бұрын

Exactly!!

@thesun-N-moon8885

Жыл бұрын

@@taryndoiron3971 she said she uninvited her from the birthday party because she wouldn’t respect her boundaries! She got tired of her snide remarks. The lady in the tan dress was over her as soon as the lady in the black said “talk to the hand”… I wouldn’t be able to take a grown woman seriously if she did such childish behavior either. The lady in black must be single and still living in the mentality of “let’s get this party started” at 40 years old!! 😂 Some people mature and want more out of life than “let’s get this party started” especially after marriage and kids. They are no longer on the same level of maturity. I would leave her behind as well. We are not headed in the same direction of success. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Never go where you are not wanted. The lady in the black outfit needs to get some self esteem and move on. There will be someone out there who appreciates her friendship. It's important she works on being happy friends or no friends. Life is for living 💖

I was once the “betrayed” friend and took me a looooong time to accept that the friendship was over. I thought she’d come around and all I needed to do was to give her space as her life had taken a different direction. Lo and behold, I found myself waiting forever! I never got an explanation as to what happened & I pretty much never saw her again (she wouldn’t repond to my messages). I became resentful and bitter because of how much of a loyal and good friend I had been to her for her to cast me out like it was nothing. My acceptance and healing began when I forgave her and myself; I let go of the friendship and the idea that we would someday reconcile and I prayed about it. My next major friendship breakup didn’t take me as long to process and let go of because I had already learnt my lessons from the previous one. I’m still learning and won’t stop being a good friend; but now it comes with boundaries and balance so that I never have to feel like the next person owed me anything for my loyalty. It’s hard and it’s painful. But we live and we pray and we grow from these experiences. I donor regret any of them and the seasons they we shared.

If you’re married and your situation changes and you don’t want to hang out in clubs , if she don’t understand that you should part ways

The audience wishy washy asl 😂😂😂 be clapping at anything

@bmarie1001

Жыл бұрын

That's cuz the producers make em do it

@ud558

Жыл бұрын

😂

@imdivaxo1

Жыл бұрын

Definitely do😂

@geanetta1986

Жыл бұрын

Lol they looking at the sign that say “ CLAP” lol

@konnahjones1369

Жыл бұрын

@@geanetta1986 hell naw 😂😂😂😂

She Does Not Have To Be Her Friend! I Think That Old Lady Is Trouble, And Would Cause Her Trouble With Her Husband!😒😒😒

This was a good episode. Through there healing it allowed me to identify my feelings with an estrange friendship I’ve had recently.

She married a NFL player and her lifestyle went from struggle to the good life and she was thrown into a different world and that circle consumed her life. She probably started to hang in places where the money resides and she didn’t want to bring her chunky, average friend around her new group of rich friends. She started hanging with women that fit the mold of her new life but she tried to blame it on getting married which is bs because I bet the new women she befriended receives quality time, brunch dates and bottle service at the hot nightclubs. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@datruth470

6 ай бұрын

This!

@kendra-ti5763

6 ай бұрын

Exactly, it’s as clear as day

@Aduninyc

5 ай бұрын

BINGOOOOO SEEN IT SO MANY TIMES

She found a good man and don’t want to lose it

@mobolajioluwole4746

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@Hollygdorsey1

Жыл бұрын

Operating out of fear doesn’t keep him either.

@okaygworl

Жыл бұрын

@@Hollygdorsey1 Maybe you’re right that she’s operating out of fear or she could just be focused on her family.

@arieljefferson9528

Жыл бұрын

@@okaygworl exactly like she said it’s about respect like it she asked him not to do something he wouldn’t out of respect not fear

@heathab...._-_

Жыл бұрын

EXACTLY it's hard to find a guy who will take you with a small child

My childhood bestie up till high school was my ACE! We dressed a like, dated other best friends, everything. She got married at 19 and I couldn't pay her to come by or have our kids to play when we was in our 20's... I let it go... fast forward, I was like 35 and her sister begged me and a couple of her other good friends to come to her bday party because she was divorced... now she's married again, haven't seen her since... still love her but I would never rush to be by her side since I know she don't fool with ppl when she got a man...

@lifeinadhd

Жыл бұрын

Thats a diff type of friend than the one we saw up here

Always good to hear both sides of a story because after both. I side with the married friend.

First time watching or hearing about this show. We really need more of these topics discussed. This was so good!

She can not do single things, but she can remain your friend

@karenperry9628

Жыл бұрын

So a lunch date with a friend would ruin her marriage 😏

@ctilly5859

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like her friend wasn't respecting her boundaries so the friendship had to end. It happens. All relationships aren't meant to last forever

@FaithandNova

Жыл бұрын

@@karenperry9628exactly she upgraded her life and didn’t need her anymore

@Persephonie22

Жыл бұрын

That is so true. I just don't understand why people can't always understand that.

@Lola.185

Жыл бұрын

Not if that 'friend' is becoming a toxic and negative force in your life, then it's time to cut them loose! It's s clear the woman in Black is toxic. She just wants to argue and fight.

I felt a borderline obsession. I get the demeanor the girl in the brown dress had but let not act like we didn't just witness that lady have a bipolar episode she laughed cried got mad came back and did it all over again. She might be a good friend but they live in two different worlds and if she can't get it together I wouldn't blame the girl in the brown for just leaving that situation. She lives differently now

@selfesteemqueen

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. She really came in here and claimed to miss someone and then aggressively flipped out on her when she came out. I’d ditch her, too! She’s jealous and it’s crazy!

@GangstaBoo7

Жыл бұрын

I am definitely feeling the obsession vibes

@arnetrahughes2277

Жыл бұрын

Psycho!

@randomthings4813

Жыл бұрын

@@selfesteemqueen I also think it’s jealousy

@marciawade9101

Жыл бұрын

Yep. Homegirl REALLY showed her ass and THAT may be why the other girl wanted nothing more to do with her.

I don't think this unmarried woman truly understands. When you get married, your priorities change. And for her to sit there and say she understands, I think she really does not. I just had a similar talk like this with my grown son and how people felt like I changed when I got married. They blamed my husband because I wasn't smoking or partying any longer. Sometimes in order for you to grow you have to prune somethings out of your life and people just do not get that. In the end people will always have something to say. Always. And.. What grown ass woman says,"talk to the hand?"

This is full of ego, misunderstanding's and disrespect. It's crystal clear they naturally just grew apart and there time was up.

I been in this situation but at some point you got to let it go . Not everyone is meant to your friend for a lifetime

@kiaj.d.5855

Жыл бұрын

Chile! I’ve been on both sides. Life goes on.

@schawnettarobinson8584

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤

@schawnettarobinson8584

Жыл бұрын

I wish everyone well.

One of my friends told me that I am like the only friend she has left because when she started having children, I was the only one who understood (although I have none of my own) that she doesn’t have the same amount of time she used to have to hang out and be on the phone, and therefore allowed her to reach out when she was ready. The others became upset with her. 🤦🏾‍♀️

@ddoubleu170

Жыл бұрын

I always think those people who can’t remain your friend are crazy.😂

@Mara.B

10 ай бұрын

I experienced the same thing as your friend out of 20 friends you have 1 or 2 real friends

True friendship is understanding and it is possible to go a long time without talking to that friend and still be friends when you see each other again like you haven't miss a step but you have to allow people to grow and respect their growth

It was the opposite for me. I cherish my friendships but everytime I upgraded my life I lost a friend. Bought house, lost a friend, got married lost a friend. I never switched up on them but finally had to realize hoes be jealous. They only loved me when I was doing bad with them. Ppl dont want to see you do better for yourself when they're not doing the same.

She is trying to be a good wife and not lose that NFL money 😂like why would she be out all the time and lose him. Plus she has a new life.

This is typical of many women. People will use you as a friend until a better opportunity as a man comes. The lady in the brown dress was getting annoyed, didn’t need her advice anymore, & ghosted her. This lady needs to let it go. Friendship takes work and time and are important. The lady who wants the friendship is passive aggressive.

@laurainglis7485

Жыл бұрын

This comment!!! Truth

@user-ho3iz3ig3v

Жыл бұрын

Not necessarily true. Not all friendships are meant to last forever.. she moved on..karWHATSHERNAME Should have done the same

@honeyjohnson8536

Жыл бұрын

@@user-ho3iz3ig3vexactly

@gelleh.5456

Жыл бұрын

Not true . What if she just didn’t want to club anymore? Priorities change.

@cheriee3840

Жыл бұрын

The lady in black needs to work on her discernment and recognize a fake friend and user when she sees one.

Her husband comes first and her kids😂

Why would anyone BEG for friendship????? When she came out ‘justifying’, that was your answer that she NO LONGER want your friendship!!! ‘I apologize for you feeling this way…what can I & WE do to fix our friendship?’

Now that they know ‘why’ they should move on as acquaintances. It’s been a decade. That friendship won’t be the same.

Never help a friend who didn’t asked for nothing … cause that’s exactly what they would tell you once they’re back on their thing 🤷🏿‍♀️ « I didn’t ASK YOU FOR NOTHING »

@kendraali

Жыл бұрын

This is low-key deep af. In your mind- dang i helped you when I didn't even have to. In their mind, You doing stuff I didn't even asked you to do!

@daniellej7914

Жыл бұрын

True

@mariowatson5376

6 ай бұрын

Isn’t thank you enough?

SMH, I stop being friends with a friend I knew for 16 years. Her energy and my energy didn’t match anymore!!!

When you love someone you don't lose time for that person never so she didn't want that friendship

I see a lot of comments like “she want to be at home with her husband” but if her husband is a pro in the league he is away a lot. So it’s not adding up. Then she’s hanging with her elite friends….sounds like a bad friend to me. She moved up and left her ass in the dust.

@nicholebrown8617

Жыл бұрын

That’s what I’m thinking shes hanging with her “elite” friends now and thinks she’s too good for her.

@MzCandyApple5683

Жыл бұрын

@@nicholebrown8617 💯💯 You can tell by her demeanor she definitely thinks she better in every way than her. Which is why they don’t need to rekindle! That’s no friend of hers if they in competition in her head!

@karenperry9628

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@melanieanderson8357

Жыл бұрын

@@karenperry9628 LOL at your name!!!

@JK-wp4nl

Жыл бұрын

Nobody wants to talk to someone who's complaining every time you speak to them. If I say I can't (or don't want to) go out and you start badgering me about why I don't want to go, what you did for me, and what I owe you I'm just going to stop speaking to you also.

If everybody that came with you can't go with you was a person. Bianca just elevated.

@gapeach4102

Жыл бұрын

That's exactly what I said everybody can't go with you when you go up.

@quetta561

Жыл бұрын

Elevated bc she married a MAN WITH MONEY. He leave her she’ll be running back to her old friends. She had her face up her ass. I honestly felt like she the type to use her way to the top and dispose ppls when she’s done. She looks conniving and she look like that one chick that think everybody wants her life. Having your nose up on the air jus ain the way to walk around

@sympatico79

Жыл бұрын

Even the ones that held you down before u got there?

@racheldbou9762

Жыл бұрын

@@sympatico79 yes if they don’t understand that you can’t do the things you used to at different stages in life. If I had a friend begging me to go to the club I would pull back too. Why can’t we go to brunch or shopping? Things change when you get into a relationship if you respect your partner . You can’t operate as a single person. Her friend didn’t understand that.

@menicemtv

Жыл бұрын

Nah she just being a snob she got sumbody rich and now she wanna hang with the snobs her whole attitude is annoying frfr

She was in a different space than what she was tryin to pull her into. She is married now! The older sister should understand she is enjoying her life with her family.

Not them clapping for the both parties 😂😂

This is weird. As a loner, I could never imagine myself going back and forth with someone because they're not giving me attention. Honestly, I probably wouldn't even notice your absence. No shade, just being real. And I wouldn't be offended once I do notice your absence 100 years later, if at all. I would just think you're living your life, as am I.

@LonnaLocaa

Жыл бұрын

yep

@real1Dai

Жыл бұрын

Lmfaooo whole time like tf

@Vrgogoddess

11 ай бұрын

Forreal though 😂😅😅

10yrs...let it go, move on, wish each other well & keep it movin, separately. 💯 🌻🙏🏽

this is why you answer your own questions because if a person wanted to they would. she gave no reason, all excuses and her whole energy could really care less about it. after years of waiting for that just leads to more disappointment. sometimes silence or no action is an answer in itself!

Everyone changes when they get married or in a relationship. You end up spending more time with your boo and don’t want to club and stuff. A real friend would respect boundaries. She sounds like a bitter lonely person. It doesn’t sound like she ghosted her but sounds like the friend didn’t understand changes. You don’t have to speak to your friends everyday to remain friends.

She a wife now and she wants to be at home with her loving husband and daughter

They way she walked through the chairs instead of walking around 😂

That friendship would be over for me. Life is hard enough without having a "friend" who's so quick to jump down your throat. She needs to learn to communicate better. I was stressed just watching the exchange.

the Audience just sitting on the fence on this one, they for both sides 🙈😂😂

The friend that was left behind isn’t saying everything. If he’s in the NFL she has to keep certain people out of her business because it will end up in the blogs. If she’s bringing this to a show after 10 years gives me the vibe of being messy. She could have called, texted or messaged to let her know she missed her.

@emmasarge4330

6 ай бұрын

Exactly.

Carmetha (sp?) has some issues and could benefit from therapy… I imagine she has issues with most (if not all) of her relationships. She seems emotionally immature and has trouble communicating… a recipe for disaster. I would’ve left her in the wind too if I was trying to elevate my life and she wasn’t growing as a person. I don’t see this friendship going anywhere, but I wish them both well ❤

@nychellewhite

Жыл бұрын

Literally tooooo old seek help.

@soniaharrison1016

Жыл бұрын

It is time to move on and it's okay, everything is just for a season. You are both leading different lives with different priorities so wish each other well and move on to living YOUR best life because time marches on

@jenniferniedentohl3640

Жыл бұрын

Carmetha is rude talking bout talk to the hand, the nerve of her and if a friend of mine kept saying asking me to ask my husband if i can go out I would be done with her since she can't respect the marriage, she was trying to have control!!! She needs a husband bad to focus her energy on, she has no one to focus on and the one person that she did focus on became taken and married!!!

@jenniferniedentohl3640

Жыл бұрын

Carmetha has serious attitude issues, she comes across as controlling!! I would have to exit that friendship, no one has time to jump to her every demand especially since when getting married your priorities change and with the way she comes across to her friend with her negative demeanor I would be done too!!! Marriage itself is work and no one has time for that childish behavior!!! She's jealous of her friend,

@invadazim7364

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. She seems to battle rejection

I know how it is letting friendships go. Some people mean everything to some people. And to see people up and change like that and not fight for you and the friendship is though… I hope they’re making up for all the lost time now.

I’m glad he shut her down and checked her toxic behavior.. if she doesn’t change the friendship will never be repaired

I believe that she knows her friend is jealous/envious but doesn't want to vocalize it bc she doesn't want to come off as a vain snob. Also she doesn't want to really hurt her friends feelings bc she leveled up with her marriage. The lady has class and her friend doesn't. Maybe if ol girl would act like she has some sense maybe she would be welcomed into her new world.

@nikkiquinn1886

Жыл бұрын

I agree! I can see that!

@BREASHONTELL

Жыл бұрын

I sense jealousy too 😮

@atlantasfaithsmom

Жыл бұрын

Y'all on this thread sure DON'T know how to recognize "class" or, obviously, the lack thereof. Lol! Just because she married a man with money and has nice things does NOT change her or her insecurities of losing all that. I can tell by how she talks and acts. Class???? Yeah right.... Ok. Lol

@RyeMOE

Жыл бұрын

@@atlantasfaithsmom Let's just say class was the wrong word...ol girl still doesn't act like she has some sense. The reality is the new wife is part of a whole new world. She has to now act like she has some sense and so does the company she keep. LoL and to be honest its not even about that... I can hang with who I want to when I want to. Period. Don't get me wrong, sisterhood and friendship are important but so does getting and keeping ur self together for ur marriage and ur own mental. And guess 😄😂 what, I'm sure that wife is tired of being around ppl she doesn't know yet instead of creating a welcoming environment the friends takes her friend/new wife on show to gripe about her getting married. It's too much...if so we don't need to be friends.

@atlantasfaithsmom

Жыл бұрын

@@RyeMOE She wasn't so much griping about her getting married. Clearly, it was moreso about ignoring her AFTER she got married. Only selfish, coldhearted, unsympathetic people wouldn't be able to understand that.... until and unless it happens to them, maybe. I'm a giving, selfless, sensitive friend, and I would be upset and offended too.

This is a prime example of People who will hang, chill, be friends with you only because they need/want someone to hang out with. They don't have many or any friends and you are just a boredom buster for them. A true friend will always want you in their life.

@mariowatson5376

6 ай бұрын

People change, it’s nothing person. The longer it takes you to realize, the longer you will suffer.

It’s kinda giving Jackie vs Malaysia vibes from Basketball Wives but I’m here for itt 😂 I love seeing the healing unfold ❤

If you did something for me and you are going to remind me all my life, thats a no. This girl just needs to respect her friend being married now.