I went to junior high with Molly and she was the real deal. She really loved & wore pink every day. 💕

The fact that her mom validated her is probably why she's one of the success stories. I'm glad her mom has enough empathy to admit that what her daughter went through was difficult. The world needs more parents like her.

I am an old woman, and a teacher. Please follow your instincts about not wanting your kids on screen time. They don't know how to not want that, but believe me, they WANT us to pull them away and do things with them in the "real" world. My students delight in the silly handmade games I bring in for them, where we have to interact with each other. They so so need this.

@sl4983

2 жыл бұрын

Aww that is beautiful, thank you

@carolynnscoffield440

2 жыл бұрын

Thankyou for your wise knowledgeable comments on this!

@Crystal-ge9gh

2 жыл бұрын

I truly believe this! Thank you for speaking out from your place of wisdom and experience!

@firelily77

2 жыл бұрын

You're so right ma'am.

@kirstenfell3970

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely!! ♡

Great episode. Mayim did the same thing that Molly did for her generation. Blossom was an example of many people that needed to see themselves represented.

She looks so good! Natural too. So good to witness someone aging gracefully.

@rethablair6902

Жыл бұрын

I love Molly even nowadays😌

Even at 42, single and never married, i still feel the pain of being picked last in my childhood. I have a wonderful life now. I'm so thankful your daughter is so strong to go against the grain on the soccer field!

@emh8861

2 жыл бұрын

It was embarrassing to be picked last . But I didn’t think it was painful. 🤷🏽‍♀️

@michaela080austin

2 жыл бұрын

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@michaela080austin

2 жыл бұрын

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@vaskylark

9 ай бұрын

I was really tall so I'd get picked first for basketball and volleyball because I had a mean serve, but for everything else I was dead last along with another tall girl who was even skinnier than me who we traded off being last. It happened for several years and honestly I just ended up hating gym class and all the mean girls who overlooked me and every one of my friends. We all despised them. BTW I am only one year younger than Molly Ringwald, so I remember that time vividly and it was my fave movie (16 Candles first then Breakfast Club).

@vaskylark

9 ай бұрын

@RevGirl9 It was a popularity contest. I was also pretty good at sports, even ran track but we were picked last so many times I just stopped trying or caring.

"When you're pointing at someone else; remember, three fingers are pointing back at you." GOLDEN ADVICE! Thank you, MAYIM.

So happy Molly was strong enough to walk away from the Hollywood creep show!! I pray she gets the strength to write a book on the struggles and injustices she faced as a young female in Hollywood. Speaking out is so powerful! Showing other females they are not alone. If we stay silent the abuse will continue!

Molly was my muse in the ‘80s. This is my first podcast that I’ve seen with Mayim. Such a great interview. I’ll be back.

@boops1192

2 жыл бұрын

I’m a full-on adult, well over 25 (a couple times now lol). I’m listening to this while my brain plays out this adult fantasy where I’m in the same room with them as one of their friends just having a little Chitty-chat chat time. 🥰. You should join us for tea sometime 😂

@whatheavensaid

Жыл бұрын

Molly and Mayim, you are such powerful and brilliant women! 💖🙏🏻💖 Molly, I've been a fan since The Breakfast Club. You are amazing in ALL of your work. "The Brat Pack" actors are so talented!!, even though the films are clearly sexist and racist. Each cast is magical. 💖💖💖

I described a panic attack to my therapist as "being totally convinced that reality is in the process of killing you....any second." I didn't know that a human being could feel that level of terror. Oh, and you can't breathe for some reason. Great interview! Both of you are so insightful!

Personally, I don't think we should go back and criticize movies through a modern lens. Yes, they can be cringey and make us uncomfortable, but they are also capture that moment in time. What we felt was acceptable. Generational differences, I've heard it called, and I like that because it's not judgmental. Someday people will probably find things objectionable in the movies being made today because societal mores continue to change.

Joan Cusak was in 16 Candles, too. She was the student with the scoliosis brace.

@Jeremiah13tears

2 жыл бұрын

Gosh I love me some Joan Cusak. I love actresses with quirks her and Juliet Lewis were my thing. Lol 😆

My ex husband was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder and he was like a bomb that went off in our lives. "Co-parenting" is a nightmare when the other parent lacks empathy, and all protective parental instincts. I used to envy single moms who were raising their kids on their own. From my vantage point, both of you come from enviable situations. Good for you and your kids!

@Lovely17777

2 жыл бұрын

How did he get diagnosed that is a miracle as those people do not think they have any problems!

@kellywebb2246

2 жыл бұрын

Sympathize. Our mother is a horrid narcissist. It's rough.

I'm so glad Molly pointed out the thing about men having expectations and pressure to look a certain way now. I was thinking the exact same thing. It's everywhere and applies to everyone now. Social media has made it so much worse.

Loved Molly's soccer team story. Wish I could have heard a bit more of Molly herself tbh.

She looks so good!!! I remember seeing her in Breakfast club then Secret Life such a class act!! ❤️

The story Molly told about her daughter and being picked last is an example of how something bad can always have a good light to it and turn around. Had she not been picked last, she may not have gone early, which in turn gave her a positive experience. She was also able to choose her team based on experience and her empathy and that won them the game. There is nothing else like self validation.

@jillfortune1790

11 ай бұрын

Also, she being heard by her mother. Allowed her to process and find a solution.

I love you Mayim but I am totally geeking out that you had Molly Ringwald on today. I was born in '76. Grew up watching her movies. I too, am a redhead who felt like the underdog...all the time. I still watch her movies today. I am so happy she's doing so well xoxo Take care

Mayim, when you talk about Blossom, the theme song (and you dancing to it) gets stuck in my head! "In my opinionation, the sun is gonna surely shine" 🎶💖

The breakfast club was amazing. Every character sounded like the voices in my head

@debibelden906

2 жыл бұрын

My favorite

I still love those John Hughes movies and I'm old

Mayim doing her thesis on OCD made my day, as someone that has it, it made me happy, just the fact people talk about it and bring light and studies on it makes me really glad people like you exists, thank you❤

Please please pkease get John Cusack on the breakdown!!! I think it would be amazing

Life gave me a gift of chatting with Molly back when she was in Raleigh for a show. Fantastic convo about neighborhoods in Paris and her daughter (now 18!!! holy wow) who was still a little kiddo. We had ZERO talk about show biz and I was floored by what a wonderful human she is! Mayim you’re a wonderful human too, and thank you for the time and passion you put into your show here!

@NoteFromSELF

2 жыл бұрын

*Mayim

I am of the Molly Ringwall generation. This interview gave me chills!!! Thank you 🙏 so much Molly!! You were the best actress on Facts of Life. It should have been your show!!!

@NoteFromSELF

2 жыл бұрын

*Ringwald

@su-rv2uq

2 жыл бұрын

I think Nancy McKeon was the best.

@whatheavensaid

Жыл бұрын

Molly and Mayim, you are such powerful and brilliant women! 💖🙏🏻💖 Molly, I've been a fan since The Breakfast Club. You are amazing in ALL of your work. "The Brat Pack" actors are so talented!!, even though the films are clearly sexist and racist. Each cast is magical. 💖💖💖

Glorious episode. Wow. Highlights for me: the story about getting picked last for teams. As a kid, I had a then-unknown and -undetected let neurological difference which was finally diagnosed when I was about 60 y.o. An invisible one. Among other things, I was always picked last for teams. ALWAYS. Even after the girl who was visibly divergent. For years, week after week in gym class, if we were doing a team activity. I’m pretty shocked that this is still going on. The shame never leaves you. Thanks to Jonathan for that “Feeling is believing.” That’s so awesome.

@su-rv2uq

2 жыл бұрын

I remember in fifth grade or so, the girls were in the classroom and picking teams for a game. As people were called, they would get up from their desks and go to their team. Not only was I last, the only one still at my desk, the two teams FOUGHT over who would have to take me, and the teacher just stood there and allowed it. I am in my 60s and still remember what that felt like, and every time after that.

@brigitteleafbarnes1441

2 жыл бұрын

@@su-rv2uq Me too :(

@ronronniemeyers

2 жыл бұрын

@@su-rv2uq Oh wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you. I decided to try out for song leader in my little school in 9th grade. Song leaders were far from the popular cheerleaders so I thought I could make the team. They were going to have 12 girls so I thought I stood a really good chance of making the team. 13 girls tried out and 12 of them made the team and only one didn't. I can feel your pain but in the long run these are the things that give us character and shows us what we're made of, right?

@2degucitas

2 жыл бұрын

@@ronronniemeyers That's what we tell ourselves to cheer us up. It sucks. Period.

Absorbing too much pain of others: the true condemn of the too sensitive/empathetic persons as me. It’s difficult to set boundaries when you’re aware & connected to others emotions/suffering in “detriment” of oneself. Thanks Jonathan for asking this. And thank you Mayim for the knowledge you gave us. And the tip here. I’m still trying and learning. Looking for “my basket”! May I ask you to do a full episode about how to cope with too much sensitivity in empathetic persons with some proffessional in the matter? It’s a true side effect of Mental Health issues? Or a trigger to Mental Helth issues itself instead? Great episode! As always! Thank you Mayim and Jonathan! 🙏🏼

@robyngravesaltoom

2 жыл бұрын

I was 41 and had seen several counselors and therapists over the years, always telling them how I felt since my childhood like other peoples emotions were “shooting out at me”- and that was the first time a counselor acknowledged that it was not something that everyone experienced and gave it a name. Empaths desperately need to be given the tools to manage this and set healthy boundaries. It’s refreshing to hear a brilliant woman explain how she copes with it!

@mjtc866

Жыл бұрын

😮😅 😢ok😢😅kk😅😢😅ki😅😅😅

Yelling and cussing at your kids that we are having family fun is the most relatable thing I've ever heard here LOL

Charles M Schulz, the creator of Peanuts, was too shy and insecure to go to art school. So he submitted his work by mail. He said he feared criticism ans rejection. I, for one, was very comforted by that brave revelation. It's normal to avoid the pain of rejection. Sometimes you have to slip into life by the side door, wait in the back, behind the crowd, and then work up the courage to try.

Love how Molly's daughter pick a winning team by picking first players who usually get picked last. It would have been great even if they lost but so cool that they won.

@catherinesvbialosh7260

2 жыл бұрын

When Molly told her daughters story it put me in tears…Molly and Mayim are two great souls and have put children on this earth with their amazing resilience, intelligence and beauty inside and out xox

@Diostillrocks

2 жыл бұрын

Molly's daughter sounds a lot like what Molly's character of Molly was in the Facts of Life.

@Kristinapedia

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, because us "losers" who were picked last were picked last because we were ugly or shy or didn't wear the "popular" clothes... AND WE WERE GOOD!

@zefallafez

Жыл бұрын

People are picking people they're friends with or know best first and not necessarily the best. I was not picked last even though I was always a couple grades shorter than my actual grade level.

Screen time- we do not have phones when we eat. I am a single mother ( widow) of a 17 year old. We look each other in the face and have a conversation daily. She does not game. I think I am lucky in that sense. We have been through a lot of trauma together, so I think that adds to the need to talk to each other,

Excellent interview!! Yes many children have been abused in Hollyweird but let's hope these two ladies had honest, loving parents who didn't sell out their daughters.💯

Molly Ringwald is one of my favourite actresses. She is fantastic and she’s very worldly

Good episode. I'm 43 and my son started Kindergarten this year, he is on the spectrum and has an IEP. One of the central points for his IEP is delayed speech, he knows all these words/letters/numbers but he's just not vocal about it. It was surprising to me that each kid uses and gets sent home with a school iPad, with various activities and such on it. In addition he has a separate ipad for speech assistance, with words and such on it to help him communicate. So now he has two ipads from school, and the family ipad. Technology definitely is integrating more into society. It's definitely something we will be looking at moving forward as he gets older to more readily restrict electronic device usage at certain times. What I have noticed is that the devices are just another toy/piece of equipment to him; I mean he will be watching a video/playing a game on the ipad then stop and go play with blocks, or fan out cards from the periodic table of elements set or magnets of the solar system. The technology isn't the be all and end all of his time, it's just there. Hopefully that makes sense.

Awwwwww, Molly looks so wonderful! So beautiful and I recognized her voice! Thank you Mayim for the "show"! And Mayim, you are such the coolest, most wonderful inspiration to women, especially young people. I love YOU!

First time of caught your podcast and you spoke directly to my soul! It is wonderful to hear how a fellow empath manages the constant barrage of emotions from everyone around you. I’ve had a vast respect for you for many years - now, beautiful Mayim, you’re a hero to me. Truly a rare and shining example of a talented actress who didn’t let Hollywood destroy the beauty within you!

Molly is the best! I never had a female or male role model. So listening to Molly and remembering what of an amazing actor she is really encourages never to give up on acting. Thank you Molly for demonstrating everything it makes a huge difference. Keep being you. Don't change anything! You're amazing!

This is a great podcast. I was an aspiring, or hopeful, professional child. Being in French Canada, there wasn't too much I could do to foster this. Listening to Mayim and Molly makes me grateful that my parents shut it down. I teach Theater now at a big university, and I guess the little bits of work I did when younger balances life out :) Thanks for great insights!

She seems so well adjusted! Love your show! Molly is a treasure, so glad she is doing so well. I was 20 when breakfast club came out so I remember her other movies and how big she was in the 80's.

This is so good! We all deal with hard life issues growing up. It is so important to learn resilience and the only way I know to become resilient is to be in situations that require it.

I love Molly Ringwald so much! Learned a lot from this. Thank you!

Omg! That having a child pick there team brought back a flood of memories. I was like the last 2 standing there and it felt so embarrassing

so excited for this! Molly Ringwald is such an interesting person.

The problem I find with most people today that want to put the ideology and the woke movement and apply it to things that were made 30 and 40 years ago is the world was different. People weren't offended by everything, people weren't hypersensitive and candy asses. I watched sixteen candles last night which just brought me to this interview. The scene she's describing with the character of Jake Ryan bartering the girlfriend, not at one time did I think of that as rape. Not at one time did I think of that as sex trafficking. The movie is so light-hearted that I think you still have to keep perspective in this woke culture and understand that it was a different time. Molly Ringwald herself uses the word fag, She doesn't seem upset about that when she calls Andrew Michael Hall a homophobic slur? Ultimately you can't cancel people for what they did 30-40 years ago if society deemed it okay That's my feeling. I remember as a child my grandfather hating Asian people because he was in world war II. They attacked Pearl harbor, not many Americans liked Asian people. Is that okay no but at the time was it understandable and acceptable Yes. Too many people want to change the past because it doesn't conform to what they believe today or they want to just erase it but it's there to educate us and to remind us where we've been and where we need to be. I think inclusion is great I think progress is wonderful but Molly ringwald slamming sixteen candles as a way to save face seems very hypocritical and makes me like her less.

I was a child musician starting piano at 4. Alot of this resonated with my experience of being on the stage in the spotlight. I am still trying to process alot of my experiences ...thank you for your breakdown.

For the record both of you ladies deserve nothing but the best.

The story of the auditions for commercials is still so relevant. Those audition directions are so awkward. Thank you for sharing.

I've been meditating while listening to Sanskrit rhythmic chanting for years. My favorite is Deva Premal and her partner Miten. Its very soothing. Search on KZread for gayatri mantra around the world. She is chanting the gayatri mantra in locations all around the world. You can see she's in her own present and is not bothered by any commotion around her.

This Molly Episode was SO impressive to me. I found THIS one hit all my favorite characteristics you possess. Love genuine talk!

When I was 16, back in the 80's, I did some hair modelling. The stylist that I was working for asked me if I could come into the salon on the Sunday, when it was closed, to do some practice work. I arrive at the salon and I notice that he's acting a little odd... and then he asks me to go around to the color area of the salon and get myself a seat. I walk around the corner and Molly Ringwald is sitting there getting her hair coloured !!!!! Let me just say that I was a HUGE fan of Molly. Like, big time. I LOVED her movies. I could recite the Breakfast Club by heart. And did. And she's sitting right there! The stylist I was modelling for KNEW I was a big fan and he wanted to surprise me. He certainly did! She was in town filming a movie and needed to match a hairpiece that she wore in the film. At one point, she asked me if I had any makeup with me as she came there without any on and needed a little bit... I handed her what little I had with me... thinking.. holy hell, Molly freaking Ringwald is using my makeup??! LOL! It was so surreal for me. She was so sweet and normal and there was zero pretence, no ego. It was such an awesome surprise that I will never forget. :)

Yes! Gardening is a wonderful form of meditation.

Molly is such a nice likeable person. I’m happy for her.

This episode is so good and really spoke to the issue and mystery of resilience. Having it, building it and how vital it is in determining the course of your life . The increase in suicide, particularly in young people , is the tragic example of what happens when you don’t have it. Great interview, Mayim …

Thanks so much to Molly and Mayim for sharing! Thanks also for all of the great TV & movies you've given us. Also, thanks for making "different" feel real and even cool! Inspiring!

Thanks for having molly on I loved her in the breakfast club and in pretty in pink 🤗😃💝

Molly is an OG...OOOG She is amazing and to this day when I see a movie that she is in I make a point to watch it. She will always be an American ICON

I found this conversation fascinating. The discussion surrounding therapy really resonated with me as I too had a therapist that I connected with and can hear some of the things that I learned 30 years ago still impact me today. I admire and look up to both you and Molly (even though I am a few years older than Molly and ten older than you). Her movies are timeless and yes, I even found Blossom entertaining when I was able to watch it.

I like the example Jonathan gave of the bowl between two people. I’ve found myself overwhelmed by others’ hurts and sadness.

Mayim Bialik you are so awesome. Thank you for creating the Breakdown.

The end of this installment provided me with an unanticipated Lightbulb Moment! Johnathan and Mayim's answer to the question from Robin P. described something I've been experiencing and only now do I understand what's been happening for me - feeling overwhelmed by another person's energy as Too Much which upsets me so that I want to disengage. Seriously, I just thought the other person was too loud and annoying (even though I love them). Now I might be able to mitigate the issue by visualizing The Bowl or something bigger like A Moat, a holding space in between! I'll need to give this method a try, because...if I can get it to work, WOW that would help So Much!

Hi Mayim! After you mentioned Juliette Lewis and seeing her recent show yellow jackets where she’s fresh out of rehab- I planted seeds on her FB & insta to go on your show😜🤘🏼 (who knows if she’ll ever see it, but worth a shot) Would love to see you interview her!!

@2degucitas

2 жыл бұрын

Hope it takes root

Yes! I just got on the bus for a 1.5 hour drive and will listen to this. Yeeessss

I just love this podcast! I could listen to it all day everyday.

Her honest interpretation of the problem areas in John Hughes' work was interesting. The understanding that his depiction of the world came from the small, privileged, monied suburban bubble in which he lived, yet it resonated with people outside of that world. The reason I think it resonated with people outside of his bubble was due to those people having been told that bubble was the dream. So, it resonated on an aspirational level rather than a relational level. As if to say, "in a perfect world, I'd be on the inside of the bubble as well, therefore none of those negatives would apply to me." While it doesn't excuse some of the problematic aspects of his work, it helps to explain why those aspects were overlooked -- at the time.

@mirfir

2 жыл бұрын

universal themes...

@cali6950

2 жыл бұрын

Spot on!

@jenniferwellman5311

2 жыл бұрын

Interesting, because I never looked at it that way until she brought it up, and she’s right, that was the kind of life that I was used to living in.

@grimlock1211

Жыл бұрын

Wow. You're privileged enough to be offended rather than die of starvation or live in a war torn country with gangsters policing and fleecing the public. You're all so brave.

@Bthe312

18 күн бұрын

​@@grimlock1211Being privileged isn't the same as being brave.

Love Molly! So proud of your success in growing up, being grounded and so real. Love you even more after this interview! 🥰

Love your show and interviews, Mayim! Thank you. ☺️

I graduated HS in 1983, and really enjoyed her movies! Especially Breakfast Club! We could all relate! ♥️

@honorsilverthorne7227

Жыл бұрын

Me too 😁

And, wonderful to hear you both! Molly, I grew up on your work, and Mayim, my husband and I adore you on Big Bang Theory. Thank you to both of you for your gifts and art, and for this heartfelt, honest conversation.

Redhead and freckles. Both attributes are fantastic. Together, they're out of this world.

Felt like I was hanging out with these 2 women from my past, the good times. Loved it!🌼💚 I understand the empath thing. I have to stop sms ask myself if it's something I need to do, want to do, the other wants me to do, or something I shouldn't be doing, to figure out why I am about to do it or if I need to back off from it. 🙂

Wow. Unexpected source for great parenting advice but so appreciated. Thanks to you both for a great discussion.

What a lovely daughter you have Molly - what a great story. The gift of sitting with your child and acknowledging there discomfort.

Wow! Eye opening. Things do look different when you’re a parent and grandparent. But I loved those movies so much.

Yay! What a fantastic surprise to see Molly Ringwald! Great episode.

Thank you Molly for all you did. You’re amazing. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

This was such a great interview! I was born in 1974 and 16 Candles was also my favorite movie in 8th grade. I did see the article and thought about what messages my 12 year old self received via the movie, especially the Caroline story.

I did extra work on Townies. Jenna Elfman and Lauren Graham were (wannabe) divas. Molly Ringwald was cool. The producers announced the show was cancelled. Lauren Graham said, "How am I going to make my BMW payment?" I had some good conversations with Conchata Ferrell on that show.

My favorite movie with Molly Ringwald is the breakfast club i didn't know she was going through all this anxiety while she was a teenager

I love your podcasts Mayim. You are a terrific interviewer who really drives at the heart of your guests.

May very well be my favorite episode 💚 Thank you for sharing, and thank you for helping me feel less alien on this crazy planet

Do you have a video or can you make a video on this empath deal? What y'all have said resonates SO much with me from how I've felt since my childhood. Thank you!

We raised our kids to be as different as they arre. I cannot understand parents saying how different life is for kids now. I am HAPPY they are living a more honest life.

I love Molly Ringwald. So nice to see and hear from her.

Yay! Another video just for us!

I had panic attacks when I was in college. Once I was riding the train home and freaked out so much I had to get off the train in a weird part of town and wait there for the next one to come.

Wait! What!! Mayim has a freaking channel!!! Thank you!!!!

Good for her sending her and family some love from the southwest.

Oh and you are amazing ms Bialik. You are a bit younger than me, but I admire you greatly. What a terrific service you are doing on your great show.

Incredible to know that a smart beautiful and successful woman like MB felt not confident or insecure or different when younger. Something young girls have to listen to and learn from your example: that regardless how insecure you feel, you can be so successful as you are

This flew by for me, totally engaged from start to finish - could also relate to the post-interview chat very specifically. Thanks for this! Now off to IG to Follow you!

You're great. Thanks for all the quality content :)

I got compared to Molly constantly when I was a teenager in the 80’s and 90’s. My mom had me in community theater from a very young age, and she only WISHED I was Molly or you. 🙃 I’m so glad we never moved to California, because I was so shy and got my feelings hurt so often. Now I’m tripping because I didn’t know Molly had three teenagers or twins. I have an older teen and 13yr old twins. That’s kinda Rad.

I am just seeing this tonight. Thank you.

Molly looks FANTASTIC!

Also I was so surprised about people going to parties at people's houses and trashing them. I had heard about people being teens and imitating trashing houses based on what they saw in Sixteen Candles.

I'm not a parent but I loved listening to this podcast, I can only imagine how challenging it is to be a parent.

Great conversation! I have always loved molly Ringwald

I'll always be a huge fan! I will still watch those movies a million times. So cool she has all those achievements other than those movies. She's amazing person

I totally love to meditate as I garden but living in BC Canada it is so hard when there are only 100 days growing season! Love seeing Molly Ringwald! Thank you Mayim and Jonathan for bringing all this information to us.

@2degucitas

2 жыл бұрын

Indoor garden room?

Hey mayam just wanna say your videos make my day