'Men Do Not Cry' by Beverly Martin
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This poem by Beverley Martin is a beautiful and emotive reminder that it's ok for men to cry. Sharing this video will help to break the stigma around crying and show that emotions are natural, no matter what gender you are.
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Music: 'Event Horizon' by Max Richter • Event Horizon
Narrated by Tom Wright.
'Men Do Not Cry' by Beverly Martin www.bevsoulhaven.com/post/men...
Men do not cry
This is what boys were told
By heroes and teachers
And men who’d grown old
Men do not cry
It will make you look weak
Said mothers and fathers
Not a tear must you leak
Boys play with footballs
With guns and toy cars
Go camping and fishing
Sleep under the stars
Boys must be warriors
Must be tough and be strong
Like their fathers before them
Must never do wrong
For many a boy
These rules were so tough
Not every young boy
Wants to play rough
Some want to dance
Some want to sing
Back then being different
Was not a good thing
Boys must join clubs
Become a good scout
For some boys this was hell
Quite a few I don’t doubt
Boys must be sporty
Be fast when they run
Be fierce when they box
Make it look like great fun
For some boys it’s easy
To be all these things
For the boys that struggle
The pain of it stings
When boys get older
When they grow into men
The pressure of life
Gets much bigger again
Get a job
Pay the bills
Put the food on the table
Get married
Have kids
Be strong and be stable
Men do not cry
They remember this well
From parents and leaders
This untruth they did sell
But for men who were boys
Boys told men do not cry
To unlearn these words
Is like learning a lie
Men do not cry
Carved deep in the soul
Of a man once a boy
Just playing a role
Men do not cry
Says the voice in his head
As a tear hits his pillow
While laying in bed
Men do not cry
The story so old
When he was young
It was all he was told
Time, it has passed
In the blink of an eye
Men do not cry
He now knows is a lie
For the man once a boy
Boy told men do not cry
Met a girl with a heart
Who made his soul fly
She broke all the rules
With her free-roaming spirit
They laughed and they cried
They took life and they lived it
Years have gone by
He’s a father now too
That man once a boy
He now knows what is true
Men do not cry
He never will say
He can’t say the words he heard
Day after day
As he watches his wife
While she comforts their son
The longing he feels
Like the wound of a gun
As his son sobs his heart out
And tears fall like rain,
Men do not cry
No, not ever again
When the child falls over
Or cuts his knee
He cries and he cries
His soul, it is free
He plays on his bike
He plays in the sand
He’s often been seen
With a doll in his hand
What does it matter
Why must men not cry
Asks the man once a boy
boy told Men do not cry
To this, there’s no answer
No truth to be told
Men should cry proudly
With pride, break that mould
As his son gets older
So much he has learned
About life and emotions
How respect must be earned
To lead with authority
Lead with love and not fear
To hold loved ones close
To know what is dear
As he looks back on life
At his wife and his son
His heart filled with joy
He feels like he has won
Now the man once a boy
Boy told men do not cry
With them both by his side
On the day he would die
The words he will leave
That he wants to be heard
Is men can cry freely
To not cry is absurd
Set your soul free
Let your heart overflow
Let your sons play with dolls
Just allow them to grow
This lifetime is short
Like a beautiful dream
Make love, laugh and cry
Nothing is what it seems.
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I have watched this multiple times , it’s absolutely stunning. Thank you for all the effort gone into this and thank you Beverly for your magical words .
Men cry in silence
@brysenlee1
2 жыл бұрын
I've tried only in my room not in public or in front of my family
@ritastrakosha7733
2 жыл бұрын
I dont cry im a man
@aliasno.4andover644
Жыл бұрын
@@ritastrakosha7733 What man's name is Rita?
@bigboi2888
Жыл бұрын
@@aliasno.4andover644 lmaoooo ik
@vpatil1986
Күн бұрын
That's US
I'm 18 y.o. and i guess the last time I cried was like a year ago, yeah in front of everyone, but i cry at night sometimes thinking about the future, about my family, about the surprises i have planned for my father, my grandfather, mom and grandmother. I cry because what if anyone will die before me, how I'll live, who will hug me when I'll cry again. My father is a gentlemen, he's the one who changed the way we used to live. For all men, we all know the lessons that our father gave us, i want to show him that I'm above his expectations, not now but one day I will be, and i hope every person reading this will make his dad proud.
@bernardonepomuceno6988
2 жыл бұрын
The thing I wanted the most was to have a father I wanted him to give me hugs tell me everything is gonna be ok I wanted him to teach me everything I needed to learn alone the world is a sad place if we don’t leave it better than when we came to it it won’t get better, but still I wanted a father to say he is proud of me and to tell me if I did something wrong so I could make it better or maybe just someone to hug
@imcryinginmyroom
2 жыл бұрын
@@bernardonepomuceno6988 Well, situations are not always in our favour, so make sure you will be that father.
@PoliticalDiscourse
2 жыл бұрын
Hahaha you're a man and you cried in front of everyone. How embarrassing
@brysenlee1
2 жыл бұрын
the last time I cried was 3 years ago when I was 15 when I was angry or hurting but now as I'm turning 18 this year I can't cry anymore
@eoghandridl1007
Жыл бұрын
There's nothing wrong with a man crying your stronger for it 💪
I remember at my grandfathers funeral going to the bathroom and hitting myself in the head trying not to cry and “ embarrass” myself.
It's a new idea that men don't cry. Perhaps from around 1800. Before that they cried. Often loudly. Some situations required them to show deep emotions.
I agree. Men are the stronghold of society. We have to be strong because we serve others. Whatever suffering that comes, we may look sad but no tears may flow. We cry only at funerals.
No words to describe how beautifully it showed the emotions of us
@fmjacket4259
3 ай бұрын
Bro the woman who wrote this hasn’t got a clue what the male experience is like. She just wanted to pity you and you took it.
I cried a few years ago after many years of my eyes being dry and that was when I was told I was loved that I didn’t need to hide my real feeling that I’m a human that I am cherished. I felt guilty for showing my emotions it felt embarrassing but most importantly it felt right. It’s ok to cry.
@afellowmanofculture4165
2 жыл бұрын
Havnt cried in over like 7 years.. until now lmao
@lukeskywalker12322
2 жыл бұрын
It isn’t, it‘s just weak!
@omicron7735
2 жыл бұрын
@@lukeskywalker12322 at least you are not hiding your stupidity
This is one of the MOST POWERFUL POEMS I HAVE EVER HEARD.
I pray that anyone that struggles that God may strengthen you in your battle I genuinely feel sad to see anyone that is going through pain May you feel loved and cared for by God and the people in your life .
I wish I could think of the words to describe how powerful this is. Congratulations and I hope this is shared far and wide.
i try my best to hold back the tears because whenever i'm in a emotional state, people looked at me as if I was a little cry-baby
@josethebeast8709
2 жыл бұрын
Then their damn fools
Don’t get it twisted men. Tears do not equal effeminate - it shows strength and compassion. It shows you are so secure in your manhood that you see mo risk in being vulnerable to pain and joy. It makes you human
@imcryinginmyroom
Жыл бұрын
I'm superhuman 😶🌫️
@michaelc.5809
10 ай бұрын
Real
@fmjacket4259
2 ай бұрын
No. It means you have no self control and you let your feelings dictate your actions.
@englishkiwi3051
Ай бұрын
@fmjacket4259 no it means you are not afraid to be vulnerable and defy what society says or toxic men like you.
@fmjacket4259
Ай бұрын
@@englishkiwi3051 All it shows is how easy you are to break. The more you cry, the less control you have of your emotions.
Absolutely beautiful.. powerful, so emotional .
Men don't cry. They don't cry in front of others to make sure others don't feel unsafe. Men cry silently. If a man crys loudly in front of people it means he is broken and it takes a lot to break a man.
@arunabhaghosh2104
Жыл бұрын
TRUE
@thedrinkinggamemaker9749
Жыл бұрын
We cry inside
@arobinson4850
Жыл бұрын
Disagree, a man who cry’s is not broken he’s normal
@ironlungslc9529
3 ай бұрын
No the only time i cried in front of someone is when i had a mental breakdown. Never done that since i was a very young boy@@arobinson4850
Thank you for this, I still don't have the ability to cry, its built up inside me and I can't let it out
Love your voice on this Tom, it's beautiful ♥️
Absolutely love this! Tom has such a powerful but delicate voice ❤️
@TomUcadia
2 жыл бұрын
Where abouts in the world are you mate
@JustBenForsyth
2 жыл бұрын
@@TomUcadia I’m in Australia 🇦🇺. Adelaide. Just moved here in June!
Stunning! Absolutely stunning!
@BevSoulHaven
3 жыл бұрын
For all the views so far, the support and the kind comments I must say thank you. Lots of gratitude and love, Bev 💚🙏🏼💚
Such a beautiful moving piece ❤️
Amazing video I have always told my son's men & boys can cry it does not make them weak. To bottle things up makes things a lot worse .
@gbamike7085
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly. You are weak when you cry as a man
@misterbean4125
2 жыл бұрын
@@gbamike7085 you are weak if you cry. Men control emotions.
@aakashkashyap4103
2 жыл бұрын
@@Visitormassacre nothing childish boy
@lukeskywalker12322
2 жыл бұрын
Shame on you, dirty feminist!
Tears on a man's face it is weakness leaving leaving the body. A man should not be weak
Men dont cry, they just die inside 😞, Happy woman's day by the way. 🎉🎉
Men cry because of this video, I don't know why I am crying 😭
@fadi9156
2 жыл бұрын
Huh week boi
It takes a lot of pain to break
More ppl need to see this. Seriously. Every single person in the world needs to hear these words.
@fmjacket4259
3 ай бұрын
These words are empty and mean nothing but pity.
This is SO Beautiful. I cried. lol
I still can't cry . like my hand will slap my face literally without control .
Beautiful message portrayed through words and visuals.
That hit hard.
Thank u for this …love from India…🙏
Beautiful 😭
Made me 😢
Love that voice :)
Even the king of kings Jesus Christ in the cross cry I read one time from the Bible quote that anybody that does not cry is not human.
@micahbodha6129
Жыл бұрын
Which book of the bible did you read that?
Crying is the call of a man to stand strong
Im in pain
@dude9318
12 күн бұрын
Why? I pray God helps you brother
Real men do cry, just in moderation. Letting out emotion can be good and so can holding it in but not too much. Society teaches us men do not cry at all and it's sad to see society teaching this lie. Only perfect people cannot cry and perfect people do not exist.
Men dont cry
🤗
If don't cry your not human
Men cry alone
Men don't cry. I don't feel comfortable emasculating myself like that. I want to be tough and strong.
@kabirsardana1282
2 ай бұрын
Being tough and strong does not mean you don’t have emotions. And shedding a tear does not emasculate you.
Men do not cry is the base of Toxic Masculinity
@fmjacket4259
3 ай бұрын
Sounds like you just wanna see masculine men fail because they hurt your ego.
@user-gd8ib3hv7e
7 күн бұрын
There is no such thing as toxic masculinity. There are only toxic people in the world. Toxic masculinity is a lie that people spread to make men weak. There is no such thing. Just toxic people
Op- only pain
😭
Some Do.
What a sick society we developed. I mean, surely - men are the stronghold. and we are supposed to be. and we are. but men also do need to relief. sometimes. every once in a while, when something really bad happens, we need to be allowed to shed a tear and not fear loosing the respect of our woman. this is so f*ed up
There is a time to cry and a time not to cry. A man knows when it it's an appropriate time.
urban man cry.
Men should not cry, go smoke and be strong
@fadi9156
2 жыл бұрын
Yess.
@fvclips9681
2 жыл бұрын
I hope this is sarcasm
Men cry into pillows
Men do not cry bc that is not there default reaction to extreme emotion they need to control it and think of a logical reaction
@SalmonFeet
7 ай бұрын
We aren’t perfect super soldiers, with perfect mental fortitude
I felt nothing hearing this poem. It isn’t helping men, the woman who wrote it is just pitying us and demanding we let her feel sorry for us. Here’s one thing men definitely don’t do, take that pity from people who don’t care about them. And on top of that, this poem is just outright wrong.