This is amazing. For a very long time I’ve felt completely alone dealing with this topic, and to see guys that not only understand these feelings but also experienced them and learned to cope with them is truly freeing. Thank you very much for this content. I wish more guys could reach it.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Lucas, it's a big reason I wanted to have this discussion in the first place. Please share this podcast with anyone who you think would benefit. We aren't all alone out there.

Such a fun and important topic! Most of us do it, so it is very important to talk openly about it, like grown ups and without taboos. Cheers, xoxo.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

If adults had modelled open, healthy, taboo-less conversations about masturbation, it would have saved me from a lot of shame in my adolescent years. Thanks for watching, Gabe!

The best discussion on this subject matter and the place it has in peoples’ lives that I have ever heard. And I’ve heard a lot of it. Thank you guys for your fine collaboration.

An excellent discussion and educational. Much positive energy to consider. Thank both of you for your input and excellent advice regarding masturbation! I will be following your vlog as this was initial discovery of your channel.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Great! Glad to have you here :) Thanks for joining us

A wonderful discussion between you both. GMGD is easily my favourite podcast, wishing you both the best.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Awww thank you! So glad you're loving the show. Thanks for the love ❤

Thanks for this. I've struggled with watching my partner masturbate much more often alone than during sex with me, but this talk helped me understand that it's okay for him to have his own fantasies or his own timeline that is different than when he's with me. I completely agree not to rely on porn - it's desensitizing. I think it's great to use your own brain power to fantasize as much as possible, including remembering experiences that have already happened, as was mentioned. It does work.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Glad that you found it helpful, Patrick. My imagination runs wild, and it can be really fun. Sometimes I'll start with porn, but then let my imagination take over. Thanks for sharing your comments with us 😊

@philiphills4623

Жыл бұрын

​@Keith Sullivan my old man

@Bob-ml1mv

6 ай бұрын

@@WellismoCoaching just my imagination mostly

I can edge for hours and hours and it feels just amazing 🤩

A brilliant, lucid, enlightening and liberating discussion between the two of you. What an important topic to explore. On a more personal note, your channel helps me to grow in self-understanding and joy. Thank you.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Christopher! Both Craig and I love talking about sex and relationships so we always have lots of fun here. Glad you find it helpful ! Thanks for watching 🙏🏼

Thank you for creating this episode...fab topic!

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Nando! It's be a long time cumming... (sorry couldn't resist!😅) Glad you enjoyed.

When i was in my teens, I used to masturbate up to 4 - 5 times a day. Energy levels (among other things) as a teenager were far greater than say as a man in his 50s or 60s (I just turned 60 and go through phases of masturbating once a day for about 4-5 days, then taking a break). The urge is less now, but using my sexual imagination by choice really helps to get in the mood.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Sounds very similar to my frequency. I use imagination more now, like I used to back in my teens. It's so much more fun to create situations where I'm the "director" of my own fantasy

@reecezirlott9058

Жыл бұрын

I'm a 62 year old... and I've been masturbating since way before I actually had sperm/ejaculate.... I was an only child... but had older male cousins stay with my family during summers when I was 7, 8, 9 years old... they taught me the pleasures of masturbation. I've been masturbating at least once a day (even while in relationships) since I can remember. Now that I am in my 60's, I thought that I was 'weird' or ???? Glad to find that other 'older' men do this as well.

@johnholden3907

Жыл бұрын

​@@reecezirlott9058good on ya

@ulicesortega3271

11 ай бұрын

@@reecezirlott9058 I love your story I also started before i has ny first ejaculation and since then I am 41 it feels great

@Patrick.Brackett.

3 ай бұрын

😊​@@reecezirlott9058

Thank you for this thoughtful discussion. I really learned a lot.

@GayMenGoingDeeper

3 ай бұрын

You're very welcome! We're glad you found the discussion valuable. Welcome to our podcast.😊

Having grown up in a conservative, low educated, religious town the most if not only damage inflicted upon me during puberty was the horrendous guilt and shame laid on me by the church. It was torture. Yet, I still did it roughly every day, trying hard not to. Sometimes I managed to go a day, but then the next day that thang hanging down there just had more power over me than anything else. I didn't get over all that until I was in my early 20s.

@dontran998

Жыл бұрын

Same here I did feel guilty each time I masturbated

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Check out this episode as well: kzread.info/dash/bejne/pmxts7uHZMnJoaw.html

the problem is not masturbation but the pornography which makes sex unrealistic and people go around thinking that's how it should be.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

💯 Much of porn amplifies unrealistic standards about body types, performance, etc. HOWEVER, I will also say from my own research ( 😉) there's also porn out there that reflects more "realistic" (whatever that is for you) body types, types of sex, etc. We just gotta do a little extra effort to find it.

@jackmason4029

Жыл бұрын

@@WellismoCoaching Not really. It ain't hard to find the most wonderful disgusting practices on line. Tell me 2ha5 you want And I will find it for you 8n two minutes. Better yet, ask a 12 year old kid which are the best places to find kinky stuff. 11 is the typical age for kids to discover the wonder's of pornography. I was about that age, but had to use my imagination to spot the wall above me. Sadly, real guys have never provided the thrill that I can get from my old friend, my right fist. Covid shutdowns were the perfect times to practice edging. I'm proudly not religious, but "who" gave us that ability to entertain ourselves? Who installed our plumbing in his own image? Way to go entity, burp that thing!

@dabigd1860

Жыл бұрын

@Michael @ Wellismo Coaching EXACTLY. I think people GIVE P0RN TOO MUCH POWER nowadays. Like it's always the default excuse for everything that ails human relationships interactions and s8x. I don't it's necessarily a fair or comprehensive excuse or reasoning. People are losing their "people skills" and socialization skills due to all of those other forms of social media and technology. Those are poisoning our social interactions is much more. Changing Gender roles and expectations have also compromised relationships. Even changing family structures as well.

That's why I'm here. I hope they discuss the health benefits of extreme edging.

Thank you so much for this! I admit that I was too embarrassed to listen to this episode when it first came out. I'm glad I finally did. I loved the ten reasons to masturbate as well as the tips you shared about how to do it well. I especially appreciate that a subsequent conversation is about having difficult conversations!

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

It's such a stigmatized topic, I just HAD to do an episode about it.

@carolwestley4557

Жыл бұрын

​@@WellismoCoaching😅 I'm ki I'm in❤

@geoffnewall4117

11 ай бұрын

@nicholastv5543in

This is a very interesting topic indeed. There's no shame, whether you're single or already in a relationship or marriage. As long as people practice responsibly without hurting themselves or other people, all is fine. I do wonder what your thoughts are on "Edging" ?, which has really caught on as a more advanced, but highly addictive form of masturbation. Would make for an interesting video in future.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Edging is the practice of bringing yourself to the brink (or "edge") of ejaculation, but then to stop for a few seconds or minutes until the climax cools down a bit- then start again. Basically it's about delaying the orgasm. There are many reasons people may do this such as orgasm control, prolonging ejaculation, or simply because it feels good. It would make for a nice "part 2" if we ever decided to re-visit this one. Thanks for the suggestion!

@jackmason4029

Жыл бұрын

An edging video? Sounds like an Andy Warhol event.

Hey Guys thanks for your podcast! My impression as an active 67 year old gay man is people at any age are scared of their sexuality! Hugs Keith xxx

@ulicesortega3271

11 ай бұрын

your absolutely right 🤝🏻🛌🏼✊🏻💦💦

@Bob-ml1mv

6 ай бұрын

When I first started I couldn’t stop now down to two days in a row Wearing loose boxers help.?.

Thank you SO much for a much needed topic, on a personal level. I needed reassurance about approaching self pleasure and rediscovering how to take time to enjoy myself and how I can reap the benefits of self pleasure. Once again, thank you!

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Жыл бұрын

We’re glad you found value in the episode 😊

Thank You so much for post this very EDUCATIONAL podcast video!! SPECIALLY!! When I notice in many networks, have many videos of religious nuts trying so hard to demonize/criminalize masturbation, spreading fallacies and fear, saying masturbation is evil activity. Making you get way from God. Not masturbating feels better you preserve more energy for yourself, respecting God laws and for the procreation. Masturbation watching porn is the WORSE thing you can do ever in your life and bla bla bla!! I watched the whole video. I learned a lot good and interesting things. And I love in it!! I'm following both guys now at Instagram, Congratulations!! Thank you both, for Educating people saving them for the ignorance. Greetings from Huntington Beach the Brazilian Jazz Singer. 😀👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the support. We agree that there's definitely a way to enjoy all these things without it becoming "BAD" for you. Thanks for the love!

@PericlesEmmanuel

Жыл бұрын

@@WellismoCoaching You're Welcome!!

Thank you

What are they wearing below the camera ?

I would go with the romantic approach, send flowers, chocolate and a bottle of T (joking) and create a starting point...something new or something you both prefer or something different. I would sooner say, be with the moment: each moment and second is different and most expect a positive response when moving along and through the act vs the neutral or the incognizant that might question the moment.

This just occurred to me, listening to your scenarios (around 15.20), and that is that when you speak of work, you only address a kind of white-collar, meeting-oriented work. Your discussion seems to exclude the blue-collar or laboring occupations that many people will be in, or even the professions that have people on their feet and physically active most of the work day. That's just an observation and I wonder if you are aware of that or if it matters. Is it a matter of your target audience? I'm enjoying your thoughts on this topic and am learning a lot. I think there is a self-image question with masturbation based on moral questions or doubts about the nature of some fantasies, and there are probably age-related issues also tied to image.

I may be a naughty, but this talk is getting me boned up, lol

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

There's no shame in that. Arousal is a wonderful thing. Glad you are enjoying the show ❤

@Sethrocksalot

Жыл бұрын

I guess I'm naughty too 😂

@believer5917

Жыл бұрын

I’m hard as a rock listening to this.

@Carlos-rp5ei

Жыл бұрын

Hand massage,thats it!

@pauldeangelis7481

Жыл бұрын

Sebastian, we’re all naughty… yo

I came across this podcast by accident on a bus trip home from visiting my family and (It was ar 330 in the morning) decided to watch it. I'll start off with, I LOVE MY PENIS! I oove the feeling of masterbating. One thing I'm glad you takked about was the affects it can have on a relationship. My ex and I had a totally ooen relationship. We both feel that it is impossible for you to be everything to your partner sexualty. So when you constrain their desires with monogamy, you are setting yourselves up to have one of you ch eww at on the other. We were completely open and honest about who we slept with and has no sexrets. Because of that, sex was never an issue in the relationship. We both enjoyed having sex and talking about the adventures we would have. Sometimes we even acted them out. We had an amazing sex life because sex was never an issue between us.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

That's amazing! Thanks for sharing your story 🌈🍆

I do think there is a limit...because you are burning calories, you must rest (despite of restlessness, so yah, the US has a masterbation soap, joking) and winters in harsh climates are severe. Consequently, nutrition is very important and access to diverse foods otherwise you run into issues like anemia. Take your vitamins, eat well, don't over work your body, clear the pipes and allow your body to rest, them jewels like diamonds need a lot of rest too. Notice that those that workout most masterbate less...not sure that's true but it does sound like working out too is made for relaxing and one is less on the edge. So yes, do maintain a workout routine, a facial routine and take care of you first. Masturbating has nothing to do with cheating it has more to do with self-awareness and safety, checking everything is working normal. Hormones are not blind, they're all over your body. Have you heard that expression, Men are Jane and women are Tarzan. Now we need the Mary Jane Shrine..perhaps in the middle of Hollywood or Tulum.

@jackmason4029

Жыл бұрын

I have never heard about Jane before, but in show business they say "All actress are more than woman, all actors are less than men." That reminds me of that old musical Footsteps on the Ceiling. Now that's entertainment.

Thanks for all this information. I have performance anxiety when with my partner

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

I am working on an episode about that in the future. Stay tuned.

Great discussion guys!! 👍👍 I've always wondered if gay guys are more comfortable with masturbation, because it can be a big part of our sex lives with partners. But obviously not.... looks like guilt, doubt or shame can exist everywhere. Me: I've never felt the negatives. To me I've only ever seen masturbation as super fun, amazingly sensual, naturally exciting and totally fulfilling that puts me in touch with my body. For example I love being able to just witness and observe how my breathing changes as I get more aroused and closer to the point of no return. Or how I can surprise myself during some quiet time with moans and other noises or words.... It's awesome. Masturbation for me is best summed up by the jingle. Once you pop.... the fun don't stop! 😉👍

Woody Allen was right. it's sex with somebody I love.😁

Merci!

What happens if you don't masturbate and sexual interest has declined over the past 2 years?

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Жыл бұрын

Are you going through a big transition in your life? How are you stress levels? Have you had your testosterone checked?

@jackmason4029

Жыл бұрын

Don't masturbate? Your balls turn blue.

Well, 50-minute length is too much for me to sit and listen to all of discussions. Best to break it into the separate topics...

I do it twice a day.

Charming❤❤❤

Shucks i need sex therapy😖 I'll share one factoid, totally mechanical: After ejaculation, the prostate is depleted. It takes 3 days to restock the seminal fluid. Some recommend waiting 3 days for a more vigorous climax. As anyone learns from operating a turkey baster, we get a more vigorous squirt when the bulb is full. If it's partially full, the muscles have to work harder to achieve a comparable squirt. Repetitive overuse might not be a problem in youth. Long run could lead to burn out. Not that i adhere to that! The compulsion is too strong. Insomnia is my primary incentive

sex pleasure is a human right.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

100%🎉

@ulicesortega3271

11 ай бұрын

Definetely

at 73 years old is three times a week too much?

@Bob-ml1mv

6 ай бұрын

@mstrsims2 what about 58years old.?.

Masturbation on the whole always get negative views all because it's never a conversation being brought up among friends or just as a simple way of expressing ourselves as sexual beings,many times some look at u strange wen I mention the word masturbate,whatever means u choose to pleasure yourself is entirely up to u,we are in the age of technologies and new ideas,it's time to throw out the old taboo of discussing sex.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

And yet the vast majority of us do it.... It seems natural to talk about something we all do.

I love it, I do it whenever I want it 😂

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

As you should!

My bf masturbates every morning. He does it in the shower. I tried to help or surprise him and jump in the shower to give a helping hand but he never enjoyed that. It used to kinda bother me, I thought I was doing something wrong but he just simply enjoyed his alone time in the morning! He gets up early for work {i hate getting up early} he works out then showers, so im not even awake usually when he masturbates. We also have sex often so it isnt slowing him down in libido. Bcuz we have sex so much I dont need to masturbate. Hardly ever. We have talked about my lack of masturbation a few times. Since we are having sex so often I just dont need to, id rub myself raw lol Weve ben together 8 years, Im 38 he is 45. So we have learned what each other enjoys and gets off to. I dont think you brought up testosterone levels and their role in libido but weve had our hormone levels checked and we are both on the high end of the spectrum. It can dip as we age...

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

I'll be putting together an episode on that topic in the coming months so stay tuned!

@veemurk2304

Жыл бұрын

This is also important! I finally talked to my physician and asked to have my hormone levels checked, mostly due to low energy constantly and weight gain. Turns out my testosterone levels were HALF of the acceptable low end of the chart!!

@src3360

Жыл бұрын

@@veemurk2304 So glad you got checked! Many MDs don't talk about "andropause" with men but our levels naturally decline with age, for various reasons. My bf is an MD and he has to jump thru hoops with insurance to cover labs and other testing. Are you feeling better and losing weight since you started? What is your T at now? Are you doing weekly shots or a pellet?

@veemurk2304

Жыл бұрын

@src3360 I'm glad I did too. It's only been roughly 4wks with injections q 14 days. Seems to help, but my body is definitely still adjusting and I have lost some weight nothing significant but it's a progression. I lucked out my insurance covered it!

First off, I think that Craig is really cute. Second, do both of you guys practice what you preach. As a senior (80), I do this practice at least once a day. Me and porn scenes are very familiar with each other.

@ericfreshcorn3590

8 ай бұрын

Hi Will You Be My Sugar Daddy?

Fanks

I'm boned up ❤❤❤❤

You younger generations really worry too much about everything. If you're body is willing and you have an opportune moment by all means have at it. If your skin is coming off your dick and your hand is bleeding you've gone too far. But from all the statistics out there you'll probably never have a partner so enjoy it while you can. When you get older you will find you'll probably want it more than your body will allow so again enjoy it while you can.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for that reminder!

@cityguyusa

Жыл бұрын

@@WellismoCoaching You're very welcome. Afterall if you get rid of all the work/corp crap we're forced to do what else is there?

I came out Sept '99 and I have not dated at all because I am ugly and I don't like myself however I am a hopeless romantic and I don't one night stand and I live in a small town. I am hopeless 😞

@GayMenGoingDeeper

Жыл бұрын

Sending you a hug and some extra love Kenneth. What your feeling sounds really hard and you deserve to feel better than that ❤️

@glennsepulveda4856

Жыл бұрын

Painting keeps the horny bugs at bay..🤔

@dougr.2245

Жыл бұрын

There's someone out there for everyone. Don't give up. Try online & make a well thought out profile. One guy's ugly is someone else's manly & hot.

@carlorizzo827

Жыл бұрын

That's poignant. I have massive sex issues, my body has malfunctions, and emotional probs as well. I don't "pair bond". But i live in a big city. I found relief with sex workers, found some healing. I learned i was "sexual anorexic". Brrr.....

@ulicesortega3271

11 ай бұрын

@@carlorizzo827 hello

Was raised in conservative church. Was taught it violated the 6th commandment! Stopped being religious .

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Conservative-minded religions have a way of shaming the very thing that makes us human. And I won't even get into the hypocrisy of it all.

So 3% is lying. I’m in the 28% group 😊

@gordonrollason3622

Жыл бұрын

😅

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Haha it's all self-disclosed.... so maybe?

12:48 how would one reverse this conditioning?... Asking for a friend.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Practice other techniques. Try different content if you're only using the same one repeatedly. Or challenge yourself to use your imagination instead. Think up wild fantasies in your mind or even recall some of your sexiest moments and use your imagination to relive it. Your brain wants to do what is easy, so you'll have to override that programming if you want to diversify your portfolio.

@EankiEtAl

Жыл бұрын

@@WellismoCoaching yes, well said!

No such thing as too much

@ulicesortega3271

11 ай бұрын

Exactaly

Is foreskin a plus to masterbation?

Ask Jeffrey Toobin?

There is no too much. life is short.

Why is it so easier for gay men to talk about masterbation like it's a normalcy to talk about it, but when it comes to straight men its like a taboo subject for them to talk about masterbation among themselves?

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

Right? I have found that strange. My guess is there's a discomfort about talking about it because they'll think it's "gay". I think straight women are much better about talking about their sexuality.

20 / DAY :)

Majku vam vasu!

You left out that it increases your sperm flow.

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

I didn't know that! Thanks for sharing

Being a professional I think it inappropriate the faul language used in this broadcast. Swearwords should not be used it lowers your level of seriousness in my opinion, not very serious.too gay

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

I'm extremely gay 🏳‍🌈 Not sorry about it.

It is a sin !!!

@Scar-jg4bn

Жыл бұрын

No it's not you weirdo.

@dougr.2245

Жыл бұрын

"Judge not lest you yourself be judged!" Pride is the sin that sent Lucifer to Hell. Don't be so self righteous & prideful.

@ingelindenau1712

Жыл бұрын

In Romeo and Juliet masturbation is a theme,too. Romeo does it sitting under a tree.

What can make it take a long to reach orgasm when masturbation? Sometimes it can take 30 mins to an hour for me to masturbate. Is that too long or unsafe?

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

"Too long" is subjective. Masturbation does not have a time limit and you don't even have to ejaculate to "finish". You could masturbate for hours if you like, in different ways.

@darrellsmith9001

Жыл бұрын

@@WellismoCoaching thanks then that means that there is probably nothing wrong with me physically. I was thinking there was

@dougr.2245

Жыл бұрын

Darrell, I worry about this too. Sometimes i can go for an hour before fullfillment.

@dabigd1860

Жыл бұрын

@Doug R. I wish it took me as long. I am a 2 minute brother. Never takes me that long to get there. Totally screws me up when i do have a partner

@johnholden3907

Жыл бұрын

​@@dabigd1860take a long time to carese yourself and when the urge starts just realaxe your mind

Can you do something with masturbation to INCREASE sensitivity?

@WellismoCoaching

Жыл бұрын

The way that you masturbate can contribute to penile sensitivity. This would be a good question for your doctor.

@smokelovelife3669

3 ай бұрын

Give your penis a long break. 1 month. The longer you do it,the more sensitized it gets. I also think that having an active imagination (without touching yourself) increases the sensitivity too.

And how do you know that the computer genetated overviews, supposedly pulling out the important info, is accurate? How do you know that something hasn't been missed? Just like Windows 10, 11 or xx if you don't verify the functionality chronically you won't know. How many "forums" are out there trying to resolve MS coding problems and yet you all think AI is going to get it right. Good luck with that. Just have it pronounce geographic titles of countries, streets, etc and then try to get it to explain why stu and other odd combinations of letters that don't make words stilli appear in newspaper headlines. How about the problem of saying ˈau̇(-ə)r and how it is going to translate what it hears verses what your intent is. Ever have SIRI OR Alexa get confused when you say, "Alexa turn the bedroom light blue". Does it mean you are using "bedroom light" as the device or do you want the device to turn the bulb color "light blue"? Will AI be able to resolve this? Unlikely. Do we change our pronounciation to solve the computer problem? Because it seems the only option based on the number of people following suit is causing people to mispronounce words and talking more like the computer because they don't know any better. That still leaves the problem of homonyms.