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LOVE LESSONS FROM KATE MIDDLETON: Why Guys Are Intimidated By You & Go For Plain-Jane Women!

#KateMiddleton snagged #PrinceWilliam, but not because she was the hottest girl in the world. In fact, she's kind of a plain jane--unlike her sister in law #MeghanMarkle! So, I'll tell you why guys are intimidated by you, and why they go for plain-jane women AND how we can "lead with the sweetness" while still being an #alphafemale! #royalfamily
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  • @aryanachoudhury3199
    @aryanachoudhury31995 жыл бұрын

    To me Kate doesn't seem like a plain Jane, she is a like upper classy elegant woman. Remember real confidence is silent. Sometimes the things that shine bright are shallow. Kate follows royal protocol.

  • @suras8984

    @suras8984

    5 жыл бұрын

    She is very (classy) plain jane. A plain jane can still dress up for occasions; doesnt make them any less of a plain jane. Its not like it means your ugly or anything. The point is you dont look at her and think Dayum!! You look at her and think she is girlfriend, wifey and mom material, shes a good girl, low maintenance ect by appearance. She is pretty, but not drop dead gorgeous. And that is not criticism its still a positive thing.

  • @aryanachoudhury3199

    @aryanachoudhury3199

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@suras8984 I guess our opinions vary in drop dead gorgeous. Google Kate's smile, it's better than any make up in the world. Like I said, she is a future queen and follows royal orders. She can't dress in a way she wants. We can't tell what she really is like. So nope, I don't think she is low maintenance

  • @aryanachoudhury3199

    @aryanachoudhury3199

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@suras8984 true, I agree with you

  • @ellabraitman6336

    @ellabraitman6336

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@suras8984 Kate is drop dead gorgeous. Not only that, but she has really rare aristocrathic appearance.

  • @aads1823

    @aads1823

    5 жыл бұрын

    exactly! my style is more like Kate

  • @gabbiewilson9220
    @gabbiewilson92205 жыл бұрын

    I wouldn't call her low maintenance or a plain jane. She wore a full face hours after giving birth. She just follows royal standards because she could be queen one day. So we don't really know anything about her really.

  • @Elwyn_the_Weird

    @Elwyn_the_Weird

    5 жыл бұрын

    I mean - she was being photographed for billions to see - she kind of HAD to wear a full face! She's the future queen consort! But if you see candid photos of her on the weekends, she's very plain!

  • @ivylayne1649
    @ivylayne16495 жыл бұрын

    I guess nowadays a natural beauty that’s elegant and classy is considered a “plain Jane”. Damn.

  • @Mas0808

    @Mas0808

    5 жыл бұрын

    You didn't get it

  • @roxym1949

    @roxym1949

    5 жыл бұрын

    Confidence in your beauty is silent too.😘

  • @chevon1920

    @chevon1920

    5 жыл бұрын

    It's in the eye of the beholder cause I kinda think Kate has a mannish face and shes just not pretty at all but she seems very elegant.

  • @marigoldvincent5080

    @marigoldvincent5080

    5 жыл бұрын

    LMFAO!Anyone who doesn't look like a fake Instagram model is considered plain now.

  • @summerrose4286

    @summerrose4286

    4 жыл бұрын

    Kate is beautiful. Maybe they'd rather have intelligent than hot. Just a thought.

  • @ng38477
    @ng384775 жыл бұрын

    To be fair, we don't know what Kate is really like. It's not like she can do whatever she wants.

  • @amritasian4261

    @amritasian4261

    5 жыл бұрын

    NG don’t be stupid, you don’t really know anybody I bet you don’t even know yourself!

  • @kimmyball4961

    @kimmyball4961

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@ng38477 I hope u r a child and not an adult who should know what u said is not PC at all. Or maybe you are just really ignorant??

  • @cathylake9072

    @cathylake9072

    5 жыл бұрын

    Because Meredi are predictable and they want safe ladies for their wives and children's mother. While they like wild for their sex partners.

  • @oliviae3250
    @oliviae32505 жыл бұрын

    Kate is not a plain Jane she’s just not loud and a superficial diva

  • @monalisasmile6629

    @monalisasmile6629

    5 жыл бұрын

    Loud is something Kate's never been. She's never really had an opinion on anything. But it's not required of her anyway.

  • @nightended

    @nightended

    5 жыл бұрын

    As a royal, Shes not allowed to have a public opinion. None of the royals are

  • @aads1823

    @aads1823

    5 жыл бұрын

    She is classy, I like her

  • @oliviae3250

    @oliviae3250

    5 жыл бұрын

    I’m not saying it’s a bad thing to fix yourself up and get glammed. I do it from time to time but some women display an attitude of entitlement and like to rub it in people’s faces they have it all which is great to be successful and confident. it’s refreshing to be humble about your riches and keep a low radar

  • @angel127_

    @angel127_

    5 жыл бұрын

    J .S you are actually so rude tf... “manjaw”?

  • @stephv1563
    @stephv15635 жыл бұрын

    It's almost as if people connect and fall in love for reasons other than looks and fashion.

  • @c.c6909
    @c.c69095 жыл бұрын

    How the hell is she plain Jane? She's a classic beauty! I think duchess Camilla is better example of plain Jane, she 's always looked average, but she had no problem to catch Prince Charles

  • @GlitteryGossip21

    @GlitteryGossip21

    5 жыл бұрын

    I've read that Camilla was very confident and attractive. They probably have good chemistry. Looks aren't always everything...there are beautiful women with zero charisma. (I'm not a fan of Camilla)

  • @lindseybailes2706

    @lindseybailes2706

    5 жыл бұрын

    I think they connected on a spiritual level and that Diana had issues when it came to her self esteem and it affected a lot of her marriage. There was a huge age difference, it was an arranged marriage (really one of the last dynastic marriages to occur), and he was barred from being able to marry Camilla (plus she was married at the time too).

  • @augustharper15

    @augustharper15

    5 жыл бұрын

    If you watched the entire video, it's obvious that Shallon means that she is very low maintenance and quite. She IS beautiful but has no sex appeal. Shallon said she loves Kate and she seems to be a great wife and mother but she's very simple, mellow and predictable which can get boring.

  • @jackieb.2642

    @jackieb.2642

    5 жыл бұрын

    Torrie Oh trust me Camilla was never attractive at all. Google some old pictures and you’ll see what I mean. She was always ugly.

  • @knowlightknowright

    @knowlightknowright

    5 жыл бұрын

    Camilla looks like a bloody man with a wig you weirdo!!!

  • @Dany-nt6dn
    @Dany-nt6dn4 жыл бұрын

    Kardashians, honestly are plane janes with a lot of surgeries, duchess is sooo beautiful and elegant!

  • @ride9581

    @ride9581

    4 жыл бұрын

    I feel that too

  • @DominiqueJardinMusic
    @DominiqueJardinMusic5 жыл бұрын

    I started following you 2 months ago, but my mindset has totally changed since I started watching your videos. Life has been so much more easier by following certain rules :D thank you for that! :)

  • @meredithr9824
    @meredithr98245 жыл бұрын

    'Meredi' omg, I've never heard my name in the plural. 😂👍

  • @hannahi9355

    @hannahi9355

    5 жыл бұрын

    Lol

  • @rebeccacarraway480

    @rebeccacarraway480

    5 жыл бұрын

    I was thinking Meredithians. Maybe that could be the adjective? 🤣

  • @valencia_t
    @valencia_t5 жыл бұрын

    How is Kate plain? She's so beautiful and elegant.

  • @Rosazuly7

    @Rosazuly7

    5 жыл бұрын

    Exacly..

  • @joettaxoxo

    @joettaxoxo

    5 жыл бұрын

    She not literally a plain Jane obviously she very beautiful, Shallon even said that she is beautiful if you recall, but she means that figuratively she is the “plain Jane” to men as in she is low maintenance.

  • @erickaL4

    @erickaL4

    5 жыл бұрын

    She is secure and safe. She is stunning but she isn't this difficult, brat! Men marry the nice, passive women. They will sleep with the crazy, loud , 'strong' woman but they won't marry them.

  • @sakurakitsune6947

    @sakurakitsune6947

    5 жыл бұрын

    Lency T they call her "plain" because she doesn't dye her hair blonde (crazy yellow/gray artificial colour ofc, not natural blonde) doesn't expose too much skin, doesn't apply gruesome kardashian style makeup.... Oh and her assets aren't as big as watermelon. I think i understand why men prefer "plain Jane" this girls are good looking.

  • @nooshi6698

    @nooshi6698

    4 жыл бұрын

    Sorry but I have to disagree. Kate is beautiful.

  • @masseiy
    @masseiy5 жыл бұрын

    Let’s be honest, would he even be sought after if he wasn’t a prince?

  • @Sempiternal427

    @Sempiternal427

    5 жыл бұрын

    True haha

  • @xoxotous4814

    @xoxotous4814

    5 жыл бұрын

    He was pretty hot back then

  • @monalisasmile6629

    @monalisasmile6629

    5 жыл бұрын

    When news of William's choice of Uni became public knowledge, there was an increase of applicants (female) wanting to enrol at St. Andrew's. Basically a flock of female students were all heading there lol. Which is why Kate, with her mother's help, did the same.

  • @forgotmyun

    @forgotmyun

    5 жыл бұрын

    When he was young, yes. Now not so much.

  • @AlexaLikes

    @AlexaLikes

    5 жыл бұрын

    Up until he started balding, maybe. I though he was cute when he was young, didn't turn out so well. 😒

  • @ronjakh
    @ronjakh5 жыл бұрын

    There's more to people than what meets the eye. Meghan Markle is an actress and has forged this seductive image, done sexy photo shoots etc, that most young-ish actresses do. I look like any other person, nothing special about me from the outside, but I am a freak on the inside and I live with a man who recognizes that and loves me for it :) Point is, Kate has a public persona that she chooses to show the world. We don't know what she's like behind closed doors.

  • @talulahcohen2531

    @talulahcohen2531

    5 жыл бұрын

    well said darling!

  • @GlitteryGossip21
    @GlitteryGossip215 жыл бұрын

    I like Kate because she is good for the royal family and does her job well. Great mother, dresses appropriately, follows protocol. She also had time to be groomed and be tested for the role and her loyalty to Will.

  • @girlloveshemp642
    @girlloveshemp6425 жыл бұрын

    Kate is far from a plain Jane.

  • @vershaylamorieemartinez327

    @vershaylamorieemartinez327

    5 жыл бұрын

    Kate is a classy lady with natural makeup. She’s not flashy an that’s okay.

  • @somebody6777

    @somebody6777

    5 жыл бұрын

    True,she is a lady, something classy and timeless far from the average girl, honestly,you need to own being a lady you can born a woman but lady girl,you have got work to do to become one

  • @maryanne2025

    @maryanne2025

    5 жыл бұрын

    Exactly

  • @monalisasmile6629

    @monalisasmile6629

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@somebody6777 Kate was very different Pre-Royalty. They obviously have to change and conduct themselves in the appropriate manner. But Kate spent most of her Pre-Royalty years, just being Kate! Boozing, partying, socialising, holidaying and shopping. Nothing wrong with any of those things ofcourse, she was young. But that's all she was doing.

  • @somebody6777

    @somebody6777

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@monalisasmile6629 ok,were I am living in a place were we don't have a royal family and stuff like this so I don't really care about the royal aspect but in the end of the day,she is a beauty icon and a fashion icon, saying she is plain is idk weird,even here and we don't really care about the royal family she is an icon yes she did changed to fit the royal family which show us she respecting her new title but she isn't plain

  • @lidia3069
    @lidia30694 жыл бұрын

    "My history belongs to me. My accomplishments belong to me and I share them with people who I feel safe with and that's something they have to earn." Wow. Big thank you for this.

  • @alexandriacaton2054
    @alexandriacaton20545 жыл бұрын

    I don’t think men like dealing with drama. Simple/humble girls normally carry less drama.

  • @TheCc064

    @TheCc064

    4 жыл бұрын

    And men don’t carry drama?? Fucking idiot

  • @MakaylaCole123
    @MakaylaCole1235 жыл бұрын

    I actually asked my bf this a few weeks ago and he said bc women look prettier naturally and more approachable. Sooo makeup and fashion can push some guys away in my opinion BUT it won’t push the right guy a way.

  • @kinndah2519

    @kinndah2519

    3 жыл бұрын

    A real confident man would never blame a woman for looking too beautiful that he couldn't approach her. That just screams insecure.

  • @Belihoney
    @Belihoney5 жыл бұрын

    She is plain as hell in every way possible even by British standards BUT what made me think "hmm okay" was there was video she was doing an appearance at a hospital and the nurses where lined up either side, clapping as she walked down taking photos. There was one moment she basically broke protocol to walk over and hug and have a chat to one of the nurses who was the birth of first son (a small black lady) who looked semi shocked she remembered her lol that moment made her shine to me. I'm a complete sucker for kindness over everything

  • @sophiaatn5339

    @sophiaatn5339

    5 жыл бұрын

    Aw like Princess Diana... also I caught that shade you threw at British people. kikiki

  • @Belihoney

    @Belihoney

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@sophiaatn5339 as a Brit myself... I said what I said loool

  • @SaudadeCB

    @SaudadeCB

    7 ай бұрын

    Are you blind? She is absolutely gorgeous.

  • @javieratrigos9318
    @javieratrigos93184 жыл бұрын

    She is not plain jane lol she is just elegant and beauty!!:)

  • @AndriaBieberDesigns
    @AndriaBieberDesigns4 жыл бұрын

    SHe’s not a plain Jane and she is absolutely gorgeous and she’s perfect for the real family as she does her job and is professional and doesn’t whine.

  • @HG-zm4qg
    @HG-zm4qg5 жыл бұрын

    Their relationships is beautiful to watch. They look and work as a team, and you could tell in their engagment interview they really love and respect each othet. Classy couple

  • @yany3xkkrenii144
    @yany3xkkrenii1445 жыл бұрын

    I had the same problem actually. I don't talk about careers, college or jobs anymore because those are topics that are subconsciously competitive. A relationship isn't a sports team. I talk about bubblebaths, sipping champagne and flipping my hair at the beach. My girly, relaxing hobbies. Stuff they won't hear from their guy friends. It works.

  • @ndidindekwu4574

    @ndidindekwu4574

    5 жыл бұрын

    I agree,I think it's best to wait to form a connection first,before you go into career,money etc,let them know you for you first,most guys are easily intimidated by accomplished or beautiful women

  • @starminoui

    @starminoui

    5 жыл бұрын

    It’s true! I used to talk about sports and video games because I enjoy them, but I constantly go put into the “one of the guys” category. If you act like a guy friend, you get treated like a guy friend. You can still have those interests, but they need to be balanced out with more girly hobbies.

  • @Hollow-ty3qm

    @Hollow-ty3qm

    5 жыл бұрын

    If a guy loses interest in you because you have a career and are successful, then he was a pathetic fuck in the first place. Why would want a guy like that. Better to weed those guys out. The right guy won't have a problem with it

  • @fiftyfiftylifestyle456

    @fiftyfiftylifestyle456

    5 жыл бұрын

    Ha! Great comment. I do all of those things but thought it would be boring to talk about. You are so spot on though. Thanks for sharing xx.

  • @tirtunemdouq
    @tirtunemdouq Жыл бұрын

    She is not a plane Jane, she is naturally classy

  • @xoxoaysh
    @xoxoaysh5 жыл бұрын

    Plain Jane or not, if someone's gonna cheat, they will do so.

  • @hannahi9355
    @hannahi93555 жыл бұрын

    Okay but you have to admit that Kate is on the prettier side of plain.

  • @DeniseBobese

    @DeniseBobese

    5 жыл бұрын

    Right? "Plain" to me isnt exactly attractive. I picture average and boring. Kate's gorgeous. Pretty much the opposite.

  • @starminoui

    @starminoui

    5 жыл бұрын

    I don’t she necessarily meant plain = unattractive. She just isn’t pretty in an over the top way.

  • @DeniseBobese

    @DeniseBobese

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@starminoui shes not allowed to be overtly sexual though. Shes a royal.

  • @mariamalamin99

    @mariamalamin99

    3 жыл бұрын

    @@DeniseBobese she is strikingly seductive, yet folded in such elegant manner that makes her looks decent, and pretty "plain".

  • @balletshoes
    @balletshoes4 жыл бұрын

    Hotness or say sexual attractiveness comes down to what you emanate, it's an aura, it's a vibe, it's how you move. Anybody can be sexy if they tried hard enough. But the beauty that is a completely different planet. It comes down to hard genetics - you either have it or you don't. Beauty is shape, size and colour in that particular order. Your face either has the features or it doesn't.

  • @shardaejoseph6516
    @shardaejoseph65165 жыл бұрын

    The "plain jane" you're talking about is unbridled feminine energy.

  • @morganking3940

    @morganking3940

    5 жыл бұрын

    Thank you 🙌🙌🙌

  • @BeastlyChowder

    @BeastlyChowder

    4 жыл бұрын

    YASSSS

  • @zohatajik2962
    @zohatajik29625 жыл бұрын

    I studied fashion and now I design and wear my designs. My brother once told me the exact same thing that "guys find you strange because of your fashion sense" and I was like f#*k guys I love clothes too much. 😁

  • @DeniseBobese

    @DeniseBobese

    5 жыл бұрын

    Listen, "guys" dont need to be attracted to you anyways. That level of uniqueness deserves somebody equally as unique. You need that ONE, not "guys". At the very least, someone who appreciates your uniqueness. No one should ever have to water themselves down to get a spouse. Women are not required to be every "guys" type. Keep being you girl, I've been dreaming of repurposing used clothes myself.

  • @zohatajik2962

    @zohatajik2962

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@DeniseBobese totally

  • @cns3433
    @cns34335 жыл бұрын

    Uhmm Kate is not plane, she's classy and beautiful af

  • @umranbetuldemirci9092
    @umranbetuldemirci90925 жыл бұрын

    I have always been the girl who tried to please everyone. I changed my personality my opinions etc. After finding you and bing watching your videos I changed. My mindset changed. Thank you ❤

  • @candylove49

    @candylove49

    5 жыл бұрын

    Love yourself

  • @qnizami2339
    @qnizami23395 жыл бұрын

    I understand what you're trying to say and it's a very interesting topic. I remember in proms, I used to be the best dressed and everyone used to gawk at me but I was never asked out, in many other events and gatherings it seemed like guys were too intimidated to talk to me, a couple of guys even said that they consider me way too out of their league. And I always wondered why, because I had the figure, the personality, rhe looks, the smile, the career, the education, the achievements everything so thank you for the video, definitely insightful.

  • @abab9622
    @abab96225 жыл бұрын

    I've always known this lol (esp going up as a tomboy and growing out of that in HS/college). My mindset is still kinda dude-ish lol. GENERALLY- Good* guys are simple, no-drama, no ultimatums, don't making little issues big, flexible, and are straight to the point. Most of these guys are non-glam, non-heavy makeup in their preferences. Be natural, honest, and you.

  • @madamekida
    @madamekida5 жыл бұрын

    She ain’t a plain Jane lol ... she was a model before and is more beautiful than average but she has to wear more conservative clothes for etiquette

  • @kathyg8535

    @kathyg8535

    4 жыл бұрын

    She has never been a model

  • @snowwhitebeautyful

    @snowwhitebeautyful

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@wednesdaysdoll that wasn't a model. Plus, she's too ugly to be one.

  • @kinndah2519

    @kinndah2519

    3 жыл бұрын

    She just did a fun fashion project in college. She was never a professional model.

  • @indiraharahap8338
    @indiraharahap83385 жыл бұрын

    You set up this competitive dynamics..hits the bull eye..everytime i watch your video, its like i've left the dark ages and welcoming my renaissance, lol..thanks alot Shallon

  • @NatashaRaisorGlam
    @NatashaRaisorGlam4 жыл бұрын

    How is Kate a “Plane Jane?” Her suits and jewelry cost more than my life🤦🏾‍♀️ Her family is so wealthy, and her hair and body is perfect. My old boss used to do hair at a Salon in England that does the Royal Families Hair. He thinks Kate Middleton is “hot,” so do most men in England.You did do a great analysis, and I learned something. I just done think Kate is a good example.

  • @snowwhitebeautyful

    @snowwhitebeautyful

    4 жыл бұрын

    They find her hot bc women in England look awful in general, so average looking Kate looks like a godess to them.

  • @TaschaGal
    @TaschaGal5 жыл бұрын

    Omg so true and Guilty. As. Charged. re: leading with your resume! I love this concept of they have to earn access to our achievements. We don’t need to put everything out there on day 1 for them to judge if we’re goon enough. They need to be impressing us, not the other way around! You hit the nail on the head, love all your vids Shallon!!!

  • @lolawho8676
    @lolawho86765 жыл бұрын

    Kate is european and has sophisticated style. In Europe what US ppl call hot we call a bit cheep and kitsch . But ur observations are great :)))

  • @alicemoh9225
    @alicemoh92255 жыл бұрын

    Guys feel intimidated by beautiful, successful and strong women. They have a hard time finding a guy because they earn much more and are so up there.

  • @zuzanazuscinova5209

    @zuzanazuscinova5209

    5 жыл бұрын

    That is not true. They just don't like women who are arrogant. Going around bragging how beautiful, succesful, or whatever you are is a huge turn off. Same with guys, I hate anyone who brags.

  • @glow8063
    @glow80635 жыл бұрын

    Yes that’s exactly right. Men do not want drama in the long run! Btw, Kate Middleton is not a plain Jane at all. I’ve seen her look VERY hot but she seems very private aswell! Meaghan isn’t a classic beauty. She has to put a lot of effort into being ‘hot.’ On a bad day, she actually looks BAD. I find her annoying how she tries to stir the pot and be difficult.

  • @monalisasmile6629

    @monalisasmile6629

    5 жыл бұрын

    The only people who love to stir the pot, are the tabloids and the courtiers of BP! Kate wasn't very 'private' Pre-Royalty. She was always seen out and about! Boozing, partying, socialising etc. Remember, if you compare their wedding day looks. Kate wore a lot more makeup than Meghan did. Although both brides looked beautiful!

  • @margo6297

    @margo6297

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@nellieltuodelschwanck1236 They both are white. Colored (not black) is Meghans mother. Yes Meghan had some African features as her curled hair, but she eradicated ones efficiently. Her plastic surgery was done also with intention to seem more white. But her skin is totally of white race, only slightly brownish. Many white woman especially south European have such skin. So this woman identifies herself with coloured people only in words and only when it is useful for her PR. All her attempts are directed to seem white.

  • @phoenixiguidez531
    @phoenixiguidez5315 жыл бұрын

    "Wear low buns to the bar" I'm cryinggg HAHAHA

  • @PrincessSakuno
    @PrincessSakuno5 жыл бұрын

    ok that's a really weird theory because from what i see at uni, guys are drawn to the most extra girls (lash extensions, nails, gym tights)

  • @sophiaatn5339

    @sophiaatn5339

    5 жыл бұрын

    I think she means to marry and be serious with.

  • @InshasChoice

    @InshasChoice

    5 жыл бұрын

    How many of them are going to commit though? Apparently, Kate Middleton had a wild side to her. But she's so contained and graceful.

  • @dreamwishergirl

    @dreamwishergirl

    5 жыл бұрын

    When I was in college, I saw that too. (Shallon actually did a video called why guys go after basic sorority girls) But usually those guys go after those girls for a hookup, and they are also immature at 18. Now that I’m older I promise you the right guys don’t go after those girls anymore, they want a partner they can settle down with and the predictability Shallon was talking about, not wondering if she’s just all about high maintenance with her spray tan, nails, extensions, heavy makeup, etc. they want more than just looks. There’s actually a girl I know from college who was one of those basic sorority girls and she’s gorgeous and got all the guys in college, but she never matured and still in the college-mindset and she can attract guys because she’s pretty , but once they know she’s basically all looks, can’t keep them.

  • @starminoui

    @starminoui

    5 жыл бұрын

    Guys generally just want to fuck those girls. It seems like guys want to marry women who are “naturally” attractive - “natural” makeup, “natural” hair color, no lash extensions, no fake tan, no obvious plastic surgery, etc. I say “natural” because while men say they prefer no make up and natural hair, they say we look sick without makeup and they hate gray hair lol. Men don’t like fake, they don’t like feeling like they’re being tricked. It’s silly but that’s what I’ve noticed.

  • @Amanda-mm6lt
    @Amanda-mm6lt5 жыл бұрын

    I'm a plain Jane and I'm perfectly OK with it 😂😂😂

  • @robinlynn2503
    @robinlynn25035 жыл бұрын

    This is really funny, because I just had a conversation with several of my male friends about Kate Middleton. the general consensus was that she is somebody who is incredibly beautiful, very hot, classy as all get-out, and she is somebody that they highly respect. I think that men are inherently selfish, and want women to be there for them. They are not really great about being there for their girlfriend or wife. It truly takes a feminist man to be there for a woman. I'm really not sure if men are made that way... If they have it in them.

  • @SheCanSmile
    @SheCanSmile5 жыл бұрын

    You look beautiful Shallon and your voice animations crack me up. I just believe if a guy has a healthy self esteem and high worth he'd be able to love and accept you as a woman. I don't understand why we have to coddle them all the time and their 'feelings' and fragile egos wth. They say they want 'Queens' but actually want maids. They can't even step up to and maintain their own social roles. There is no reason for a man to struggle in this world because they have everything handed to them on a platter in society. NOw we gotta play plainjane to coddle their egos too. Not me. They earn more than women but if they see you looking cute they worry " can i afford her?" !@# PUH-LEASE!!!

  • @frenchvanilla7109

    @frenchvanilla7109

    5 жыл бұрын

    There you go, you get it!!! I agree with everyone's you said, because it's absolutely true 💯

  • @kinndah2519
    @kinndah25193 жыл бұрын

    Classy men don't want women who look desperate. You can have an outgoing personality as long as you remain classy and feminine. Instead of dressing half naked, dress modest but accentuate your figure. Make sure your hair, makeup, and Jewelry brings out the best in you.

  • @Cobaltblueprism
    @Cobaltblueprism5 жыл бұрын

    I think you are off on this one. She's no plain Jane. Kate is more of a classic beauty who has learned to carry herself well to fit in her circumstances.

  • @alicemoh9225
    @alicemoh92255 жыл бұрын

    Kate isn't a plane Jane. Her family is wealthy and she had an amazing upbringing. She looks good to me.

  • @kristenstewart1250
    @kristenstewart12505 жыл бұрын

    Honestly this is why I dress up though. I want to weed out those guys that are looking for some simple woman that will take care of them. There are guys who want the glamazons and are totally down to take care of their woman, and they don’t care if she’s high maintenance. Those are the kinds of guys I’m trying to attract

  • @Looloowa74
    @Looloowa745 жыл бұрын

    You are the first coach who actually explained feminine and masculine energy PRACTICALLY ❤️❤️❤️ thank you my husband calls me the rose with thorns and wishes I could clip them off. Now I get it. Poor guy

  • @laurenlowery5799
    @laurenlowery57994 жыл бұрын

    I would never call Kate a plain Jane. She is lovely, poised, well educated, loves sports, never takes a misstep in the BRF. Kate is a jewel and William is lucky to have her. Have you seen her in her beautiful gowns? She is gorgeous. She looks fantastic in sportswear....anything she puts on. She is a natural beauty. And she is respectful to the RF....she has class.

  • @avawilliams5827
    @avawilliams58275 жыл бұрын

    Kate Middleton is literally gorgeous tf

  • @KarLA-ih4pf
    @KarLA-ih4pf5 жыл бұрын

    Having class and being sophisticated cannot be labelled as being a plain Jane! Kate Middleton is a beautiful woman who carries herself in a dignified way. She does not need to act sexy to grab anybody's attention (her beauty does that for her) and she does not need to be all touchy feely to get a guy to be near her. From what I've seen on the media about her, this woman is classy. She is dignified and carries herself like a true royal.

  • @zuzanazuscinova5209
    @zuzanazuscinova52095 жыл бұрын

    Lol! I'm sorry but this is complete BS. Men don't care about fashion or Instagram stories. How old is this woman? Going to Coachella isn't an achievement, rofl!

  • @nomadicmind6800

    @nomadicmind6800

    4 жыл бұрын

    She's just telling her own thoughts, don't take her seriously.

  • @courtneymariah4362
    @courtneymariah43625 жыл бұрын

    I always thought Kate is so beautiful

  • @MsDianaJean
    @MsDianaJean5 жыл бұрын

    Seriously? Kate is a classic beauty. She’s just not the in your face trashy-sexy of the Kardashians.

  • @misssamba5674
    @misssamba56745 жыл бұрын

    "quiet storm confidence ", says it all . Thank you for this very insightful video .

  • @lalala324
    @lalala3245 жыл бұрын

    The shade in the title 😂 But seriously, I have definitely noticed that a lot of guys go for the "basic", girl-next-door type of chick. Thanks for another great video, Shallon!

  • @marion_t
    @marion_t3 жыл бұрын

    Honestly we NEVER knew & still DONT know how Kate is! She seems so lovely & supporting.

  • @mrsdashwood9700
    @mrsdashwood97004 жыл бұрын

    It's not that Kate is a plain Jane. She's beautiful in a classy kind of way and at the same time normal. Meghan, not so much.

  • @e.a3968
    @e.a39685 жыл бұрын

    Wish this channel existed when I was a teen! I learnt all these lessons the hard way, and I’m still learning. The way Shallon puts her points across they really make sense in a practical way. She’s a feminist, in that she tries to empower women and make us look at things from a different perspective. Growing up I always felt I had to be a certain way, now I’ve completely changed my perspective on what’s it’s like to be a women. I love it! I feel strong and confident.

  • @rebeccak9626
    @rebeccak96265 жыл бұрын

    She isn't "plain" whatsoever - she's refined, and doesn't need to overact for male attention. We call that "a lady". Sorry for the cultural difference!

  • @hannahorellana6177
    @hannahorellana61774 жыл бұрын

    To me kate is nothing like a plain Jane. She is a true role model I believe.

  • @atama203
    @atama2035 жыл бұрын

    Thank you! I needed to hear this. The problem is finding a man who can handle your past or your true nature

  • @Coconut_Stacks
    @Coconut_Stacks5 жыл бұрын

    “What the hell are we all supposed to do? Wear low buns out to the bar?” NO! 💃😆🤣

  • @maryama2552
    @maryama25525 жыл бұрын

    what do you think about william’s cheating rumors ?

  • @masseiy

    @masseiy

    5 жыл бұрын

    maryam A lol what about them?

  • @talulahcohen2531

    @talulahcohen2531

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@masseiy he cheated with Kate's best friend! their neighbor

  • @sassycat6487

    @sassycat6487

    5 жыл бұрын

    He has always cheated on Kate. He even kept breaking up with her when they were dating to go chase other women. She knew what she was signing up for (to be queen)

  • @GlitteryGossip21

    @GlitteryGossip21

    5 жыл бұрын

    The rumour was leaked by a friend of MM and Jessica Mulroney.

  • @lindseybailes2706

    @lindseybailes2706

    5 жыл бұрын

    Honestly it's like the Kennedy's on steroids. Is anyone really surprised?

  • @flowbynathalie3075
    @flowbynathalie30754 жыл бұрын

    I'm eastern European and I agree with what you say and I like how you reason. I wouldn't call Kate "plain Jane", I would refer to her as to a natural beauty that is very elegant and this is where they win and vulgar women lose.

  • @Gacha_Runa
    @Gacha_Runa5 жыл бұрын

    Is Kate a Plain Jane though? Idk shes stunning and classy to me. I just started the video though so I'm listening....

  • @barbarah.6255
    @barbarah.62555 жыл бұрын

    Why is Kate a Plain Jane. She is gorgeous, smart, has an impeccable taste and manners. She is an epitome of classy. We don't know how she acts when she is with people she knows. I am sure she is a very good conversationalist. After all, she charmed a future king! Not being flashy and loud does not equal being Plain Jane! She follows in the footsteps of the Queen!

  • @954dreamer1
    @954dreamer14 жыл бұрын

    Idk to me Kate doesn’t seem plain. She seems refined and classy

  • @teemarie5478
    @teemarie54784 жыл бұрын

    I think the difference between Kate & Meghan is one classy & one isn’t!

  • @oksraisk8848
    @oksraisk88483 жыл бұрын

    I disagree that Katie is plane Jane. I think she’s very beautiful but in a classy way. Also she must act in certain way because she will be the future Queen, she follows the protocol.

  • @LeanzyPeterson
    @LeanzyPeterson5 жыл бұрын

    I'VE. NEVER. RELATED. TO. A. VIDEO. THIS. MUCH.

  • @juanitadaleslusher9338
    @juanitadaleslusher93384 жыл бұрын

    Glad I watched this again. Of course, I spent the morning texting someone I had a crush on, and I may as well have written a paper! I am now remembering what you said about not texting more than he does; and the "confidence is quiet," as so many of your other listeners are pointing out about Kate below. Thank you, Shallon! And thank you, young ladies!

  • @ronniehicks3258
    @ronniehicks32584 жыл бұрын

    I find men more trouble than they're worth. I like bling and style, success and independence. What's wrong with it? It still makes me feel that you have to be something you're not to please a man. I give up. As Wanda Sykes would say "I-ma be me" As a New Yorker, I'm too busy for childish judgmental bullshit. Men can be insensitive and stupid and women sacrifice far too much.

  • @lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559
    @lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr25594 жыл бұрын

    'She's beautiful, but not hot' - then she's not a 'plain Jane'! Plain Janes are neither beautiful nor ugly.

  • @lilij1915

    @lilij1915

    10 ай бұрын

    Exactly. How's she "plain" if she's considered beautiful?

  • @soulsearchtarot
    @soulsearchtarot5 жыл бұрын

    Why is Tinsley Mortimer from RHONY still not married? She's beautiful and sweet. Why is her guy leading her on for 2 years now??

  • @soulsearchtarot

    @soulsearchtarot

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@shallonlester haha OMG ! She is stunted for sure but she seems like the sweet basic girl that would go along with whatever a guy wants

  • @jajacap9750
    @jajacap97504 жыл бұрын

    The Future King And Queen🥰❤️

  • @joannachimonides3644
    @joannachimonides36443 жыл бұрын

    Plain Jane is not a sex object. She looks classy and she has his respect, she seems safe bet and normal. Kate is chic and a wife material, good quality men don't like trashy and tacky chavy trends, better wear khaky and minimal make up, Meghan is more glam but she doesnt look cheap💕

  • @cynthiapereira8403
    @cynthiapereira84034 жыл бұрын

    In what world is Kate Middleton a plain Jane?

  • @Tomes23

    @Tomes23

    4 жыл бұрын

    Cynthia Pereira she’s got a great body. Her legs are to die for.

  • @koriribarsosio4174
    @koriribarsosio41745 жыл бұрын

    Kate is many many this. Plain Jane just ain't one honey

  • @HausOfAdonis

    @HausOfAdonis

    5 жыл бұрын

    koriri sawar sort of

  • @arianaraquel1958

    @arianaraquel1958

    5 жыл бұрын

    Depends... for my latin American culture she is not even cute.

  • @natasshalobanova
    @natasshalobanova5 жыл бұрын

    Just be yourself and the right person will be with you

  • @mariapapagiannidi5331
    @mariapapagiannidi53314 жыл бұрын

    Don't forget that what initially hooked William is when Kate wore that totally see-through dress she wore on the runway at their school's fashion show. They were friends before that, of course, but that made him see her as a woman, rather than as just a friend.

  • @wyabey5745
    @wyabey57454 жыл бұрын

    I think Kate is understated. That's not a plain jane. I think we are so used to seeing the kylie and gaga's of the world and anyone opposite to that is plain.

  • @rightofcenter2967
    @rightofcenter29675 жыл бұрын

    Kate Middleton and Megan Markle literally have the same body type lol. Thin beautiful women, with zero curves. They just seem to have completely different personalities.

  • @jedidjab4346

    @jedidjab4346

    5 жыл бұрын

    Right of Center nope lol

  • @rbguerreiro2466

    @rbguerreiro2466

    5 жыл бұрын

    Kate Middleton is a straight up and down, and Meghan is an apple. They are both thin, but they do not have the same body type.

  • @etaylor8028

    @etaylor8028

    4 жыл бұрын

    Not at all. RB Guerreiro put it perfectly. Meghan is an apple shape and Kate is a rectangle. You're right that they're both very thin, but Meghan has no waist and very skinny legs (hence why she's always wearing wrap dresses). She has that body type where any weight she puts on goes straight to her stomach. Kate is more balanced up and down. Look at pictures of her 10 years ago before she was super skinny, and you can see her body fat is distribution. She has a bit of a waist and puts more fat on her legs.

  • @omgitzelle
    @omgitzelle5 жыл бұрын

    I feel you’re a bit off on this one. Will famously got a crush on Kate when he saw her in a fashion show wearing a transparent dress. And during their break up, Kate really glammed it up and was seen having fun all over town. I do think you’re right that she’s sweet and drama free but the fact that she can catch his eye in a revealing dress and not wait around for him during their break up is what hooked him. And she’s definitely not plain Jane at all. She’s always been in crazy good shape, legs for days, hair goals and just over all super pretty.

  • @AmarisKrisla
    @AmarisKrisla4 жыл бұрын

    Kate Middleton isn't a Plain Jane, she is a Royal and has protocols to follow, she is expected to act in certain ways. She can't just dress and act like MM. What do you expect her to do? She has a purpose to be in the BRF. She is the Queen in waiting. She is beautiful, natural and elegant. She dressees beautifully and never sets a foot wrong. Beauty is a subjective matter but most people will agree that Kate Middleton isn't a Plain Jane. IMO, Gwyneth Paltrow is the definition of a Plain Jane but she has a good figure 😄.

  • @hariav1963
    @hariav19635 жыл бұрын

    Kate isn't certainly a plane jane .. william is in this couple .

  • @aads1823
    @aads18235 жыл бұрын

    I would take Miss Kate Middleton over Miss Meghan Markle to raise my children any day of the week. I would not even trust Meghan to take care after my pet goldfish. God knows what kind of values she would instill in my poor fishy

  • @janellemargot4376

    @janellemargot4376

    5 жыл бұрын

    😂😂

  • @jamesmkerrow3246
    @jamesmkerrow32465 жыл бұрын

    You are incredible I LOVE ALL YOUR VIDEOS!!! So happy for your success, my first KZread comment in 7 years!!

  • @avarosalia4309
    @avarosalia43095 жыл бұрын

    I've always had the mindset of dressing very lowkey while on a date since I find that by dressing down the person focuses more on you instead of what are you wearing.

  • @kristen2276
    @kristen22764 жыл бұрын

    Kate is beautiful, elegant, classy, and real. Not pumped full of fillers and Botox. She loves being a wife and a mom. She is not a plain Jane.

  • @valeriemalone2729
    @valeriemalone27295 жыл бұрын

    Kate is beautiful wtf

  • @carolinrimer8453

    @carolinrimer8453

    5 жыл бұрын

    She literally says that Kate’s beautiful at least 5 times within the first minutes

  • @monalisasmile6629
    @monalisasmile66295 жыл бұрын

    Kate actually showed a lot more personality BEFORE she married into Royalty. She was no shrinking violet! There were times, she was fun and daring and not not-so-shy at all! It seems, since she became a Royal, eight years ago, she adopted the persona of being shy, timid, reserved, regal, classy, elegant etc etc. No choice of course. But Pre-Royalty, she was 'mooning' the male students at Marlborough college, everytime they passed by her dorm room window. She was attending Club Fever and launch parties for vibrators, wearing cute pink bunny ears. She was friends with Emma Sayle - her friend from Downe House Public school and former rowing partner, who founded Killing Kittens - a exclusive club, which organises sex parties for wealthy clients. She famously modelled a see-through slip dress with black underwear beneath at St. Andrew's. She was constantly snapped smashed out of her skull, falling in and out of a cab, wearing skimpy outfits and usually flashed various body parts. She'd get so paralytically drunk on uni night outs, that she had to be carried back to her room by William's friends because she couldn’t walk. That old Kate was far more interesting...

  • @Twocryingkittens
    @Twocryingkittens5 жыл бұрын

    Of course an American would perceive elegance and royal protocol as “plain jane”

  • @dolsiemercado3140
    @dolsiemercado31405 жыл бұрын

    I do not know if she is a plain Jane. Her clothes are expensive. She does not shop at discount stores.

  • @meows_and_woof
    @meows_and_woof4 жыл бұрын

    He went for plane Jane because he knew he won’t age well🤣 Now she looks out of his league

  • @Adriana-tu2gt
    @Adriana-tu2gt5 жыл бұрын

    I find Kate a hell of a lot more attractive than Meghan

  • @arnelabih1845
    @arnelabih18455 жыл бұрын

    INCORRECT NYC isn't like that I lived worked up there my family live up there. I think once again your using your own personal story. I personally think you need to TRAVEL and see it for yourself and get educated and well experienced and stop being so negative and dramatic. Have a blessed year and stop being all about "money" teach ladies how to be in a healthy relationships and marriages.

  • @clarajoao3359
    @clarajoao33595 жыл бұрын

    My main problem with men is them being too intimidated by me. I tried so hard in the past to make them feel safe etc etc but that’s such BS in my opinion. I can’t spend another relationship 24/7 worried about looking less strong and independent than what I am, nor I can dedicate all my precious time too them just because they are too insecure. It doesn’t matter what you do or how much you prove you love them, they will always be insecure. I need Someone with enough self esteem to be with me. I want a partner that walks by my side, not a “boy” to take care of. I don’t wanna be my partner’s 2nd mom!!

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