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What scares me away is someone who says they'll do something and doesn't follow through. It tells me I can't trust them.

@shaylajade9937

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, esp when you make plans and they cancel last minute. I hate that!

@asaengman6854

4 жыл бұрын

I dated a guy who was wonderful in every way but he didn't showed up like 4 times or came like 40 minutes to 1 hour late. He told me that he should help me with this or that but never did. I gave him 4 months and after that I stopped dating him. I broke my trust.

@asaengman6854

4 жыл бұрын

He broke my trust.

@marieanne1989

4 жыл бұрын

Edelle Nicholson I was like that ,I never follow through when I said I will call at certain time and I was always too late to get to him ,but I actually liked him a lot but I am just not a phone call person and I am bit bad with time management .. I think that put him off or made him more insecure more than he was and he lost interest. He end up saying he wanted to be with me but not wanting a commitment so I let go off him was too late the damage was done to be trying to fix it . I’m a grown ass woman and I accept my mistakes and I promise not to make the same once again

@carpediem.9

4 жыл бұрын

Edelle Nicholson so true

What scares me away is a guy who starts calling me “baby” after one conversation.

@sarahnavarro1610

4 жыл бұрын

Amy Wall 😂😂😂

@saro0ora687

4 жыл бұрын

Gross !

@ksactress

4 жыл бұрын

Agree

@caribaez5711

4 жыл бұрын

Baby 👀

@caffinnascreations6948

4 жыл бұрын

I don't like being called honey, sweetie, baby, doll, etc. At nearly 60 I don't think I should change!

I told my fiance that i wanted a serious relationship on our first date 😆 and that’s actually what made him deleted his dating app as he said, he admires the fact that i know what i want and he appreciates my honesty. 7 months later he proposed to me with a simple diamond ring that is means a lot to me. Just be yourself, and let man see that

@hilo5901

2 жыл бұрын

THAT is totally sweet! I admire your candor. He must have known what he wanted too! I wasn’t even looking for a relationship then I met a man I became interested in. I am beginning to like him more and more and want a relationship! 😉☺️🥳

@audioelitist3677

2 жыл бұрын

I'm confused why this isn't the top rated comment.

@crystallangan832

2 жыл бұрын

Man my dream is to be married and my past exes knew about it, never proposed to me and my last ex used it against me.

@annaforjesus

Жыл бұрын

This is me in every starting relationship hahaha. It’s keeps the right one around surely 😂

@ednagomes9247

Жыл бұрын

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

What scares/pushes me away.. 1. Comming on too strong. Or being controlling. 2. Pushing for sex when I've said no, or set my boundaries early. 3. Lying 4. Dating other women at the same time ( we ALWAYS find out) 5. Hiding phone 6. Being wishy washy. Not planning dates and always making me go to you. 7. Having too much feminine energy.

@ppumpkin3282

Жыл бұрын

You sound controlling. A big red flag for men.

@michelleGarcia-sk9np

Жыл бұрын

As a woman I agree!

@vita2687

Жыл бұрын

@@michelleGarcia-sk9np me too

@YouMessedUpDude

Жыл бұрын

As a woman, I too agree with this!

@7ackass

Жыл бұрын

Shouldn't have encouraged the raising of so many beta males. Too late and too bad.

Things that scare me away: 1) Narcissist behaviour 2) Motivated by materialistic goals 3) Lack of initiative and does not keep promises 4) Not truly in love with me but in the idea of being in love 5) No respect for my boundaries

@jacqueline8742

4 жыл бұрын

What does it mean to be in love with the idea of being in love and how can I spot that in a guy? Thank you

@peipeilee9532

4 жыл бұрын

@@jacqueline8742There's this guy that I interacted with online via a social interactive game. Talked to him as a friend and then not long after he claims that 'he likes me and wants me to be his gf' without actually meeting me in person yet... seemed like he was desperate to be in love?

@heather5926

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, Pei Pei Lee. On point 👍🏼

@zechariah4663

4 жыл бұрын

I had all of those people pie in my narc ex husband. Free at last, free at last, thank God Almighty I am free at last!!!

@ena__we4205

4 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

1. Playing games 2. Being too aloof 3. Treating him as if he was perfect 4. The attitude of entitlement 5. Emasculating behaviors 6. Instant relationship

@cherry6609

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@alixcriswell9529

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for saving me (us) so much time!

@michellemcmullen7902

2 жыл бұрын

It puts me off when having sex with me is his #1 always first most important thing he wants from me. I am more then a great body. I am soooooo much more then a sexual body. I have my mental body my emotional body my spiritual body. Sex is great!!! Sex with all bodies connectioned together well that's intimacy. Its beautiful to be one in this way.

@MT-oi2ty

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@helenlapdez6499

2 жыл бұрын

Hi, get anyone to love or (SP) attracted to you. And Alo get your Ex back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Wilson,he helped me restore my 5 years relationship. Also Dr Wilson Always keep with his words, I will advise you to seek his help thanks

Only talking about himself and not asking me questions about me. Even when I interject something about me and he instantly turns it back to him .

@sihaandhaha8460

3 жыл бұрын

Run 😂🏃‍♀️

@magdalenasteyn-durand4976

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, totally agrees

@crystalmorrison1539

3 жыл бұрын

Classic narcissist behavior

@sassarific

2 жыл бұрын

THIS

@sundayjames3490

2 жыл бұрын

It's unfear though

The "emasculating behavior" point hit me hard. I am definitely one to just want things done the "right" and "most effective" way, and since my husband is such a sweetheart, I never really considered how he may feel when I do this. From now on, I'll just thank him...and redo it when he goes to work lmao.

@sayingnigromakesyoutubecry2647

2 жыл бұрын

That's not true for me. It feels bad when someone says there is a better way of doing something but at the same time it's better because that's the only way to improve. There is a way to tell things without making others hate you

@angeljackson9507

2 жыл бұрын

Never knew that "innocent advice" was emasculating 😱 thank you

@pryscyllahorn72

2 жыл бұрын

The same here, can agree 💯

@jennyharwood638

2 жыл бұрын

Sure, dont royally insult the guy, but i dont get this...us women just have to play dumb and sit on the couch so he can think he is some kind of bad ass... Meanwhile we dont get to play to any of our strengths? What we spose to do just sit on the couch, and pretend to be happy having no life, and no ability to be hands on and use our brains? Why so we can just sit there and get fat? Are men really that fragile that they cant even behold a competent woman without feeling inferior. That sound like some pussy shit. Now i am not into emasculating men...i believe strongly against it, but i am also not into emasculating myself either. Wtf? If a man cant handle my masculine energy then he needs to fuck off...my opinion. At the same time, i want them to feel self empowered....just not at the expense of my own self empowerment. Cant they feel self empowered without me having to pretend im something that im not? Im not Totally incompetent and totally witless...why should i pretend to be and actually royally devalue myself in the process? And if they cant love me for being who i am and i have to pretend who i am, what the point of even having any kind of relationship?

@jennyharwood638

2 жыл бұрын

On second thought, maybe just focusing on your own projects and applying your own expertise and emersing yourself in your own energy within projects, is enough. while you can still just admire him in whatever project he chooses to involve and invest himself in, and also allow him the space to mess it up so he can learn how to do it him self and feel accomplished, and you still admire him and his ability to problem solve that when he didnt know how, he found a way Sometimes they come up with different ways of doing things, that i had never thought of before, and that were brilliant, because they had the room they needed to solve their problem in their own way. This is great. I like this more. And honestly, if they really dont know, most of the time they'll eventually ask. Lol Feeling thankful🙏

When his words don't match his actions.

@lovelight6973

4 жыл бұрын

True. Short and sweet. I'm so long winded in my post. LOL

@sassarific

4 жыл бұрын

Hello! I let a guy go for this exact reason a few weeks ago 🙋🏻‍♀️

@minidocstv3339

4 жыл бұрын

Right, because actions speak louder than words.

@delilahrai5228

4 жыл бұрын

2 thumbs up!

@ExistNNature

3 жыл бұрын

BINGO!!

I came here *to learn how to scare off men*

@LoveBeliefTruth

4 жыл бұрын

This is a good one! Yeah, I've also been needeing those tricks a lot. Even straight "fuck off" want sometimes work" because the answer is "nice, I really like challanges!".

@Seekyourtruth777

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@t.b.5645

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@goldensprite3373

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣

@rianenelson4852

4 жыл бұрын

Lol 😂 I actually started applauding tht. 😂😂

He needs to fight for me. When things get hard & you are having a conversation about a difficult topic, don't give up or wimp out. Hang in there & put in a heroic effort! This tells me I'm worth it. Giving up too soon is a big disappointment & turnoff.

@BagznBirdz

2 жыл бұрын

Not trying at all is even worse. My ex did this. He f***ed up and hurt me, and when we needed to sort that thing out he just let go of us like it was the only thing he could do.

@debbitrimberger9440

2 жыл бұрын

yuuuup

@mandyabbott5521

2 жыл бұрын

@BagznBirdz that exactly what my ex has always done! I still love him so much it hurts! But not much else tells me more that I don’t matter than that!

@bloodfiredrake7259

2 жыл бұрын

You seem narcissistic. Probably not worth fighting for.

@helenlapdez6499

2 жыл бұрын

Hi, get anyone to love or (SP) attracted to you. And Alo get your Ex back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Wilson,he helped me restore my 5 years relationship. Also Dr Wilson Always keep with his words, I will advise you to seek his help thanks

what scares me away: being called beautiful constantly before they've ever met me in person.

@oliviajones3637

2 жыл бұрын

Love bombing (correct me if I'm wrong) exists and 💯 right lol.

What pushes me away is when they don’t fully express themselves and you have to either wait or guess how they actually feel.

@padmajachaks7279

2 жыл бұрын

Yes...true... very irritating part who is not expressing himself

@TealRoseSara

2 жыл бұрын

Same, especially when I find out that I did something they don’t like and I had no idea

@lucianokenya2483

2 жыл бұрын

I conqure with you

@jaalateare1691

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@marcokuhner2445

Жыл бұрын

The problem is that you’re maybe attracted to emotionally avoidant men (because of anxiety). These character types tend to upset one because they don’t respond and they aren’t upfront. You keep thinking ‘he/she was so nice on the date, so why aren’t they communicating’ and it drives you nuts until you sigh and let go. And then you feel a bit alone again. Instead of getting angry about the people we meet, we should think about setting ourselves up for success. If we attract the wrong people, we need to think how we change our game so that it works in our favor. It helps if you ask 1. What kind of man do you want and 2. How do you attract him 3. How do you become that high value person who attracts the best of men while still being yourself (or the best version of yourself)

When a man becomes cold or silent after a dispute is one thing that will push me away. I prefer instead when a disagreement occurs that he lets me know what bothers him and if he needs time and space I can do that for him. 😌

@one-day-at-a-time9317

4 жыл бұрын

Kiara White I also think that if a man becomes silent or cold after a dispute that is a red flag 🚩 that this is how they will behave or worse later on in a more committed relationship.

@jvstkiki

4 жыл бұрын

That’s the crazy thing we are in a committed relationship.

@jvstkiki

4 жыл бұрын

Happy update lol 😂 We doing better with communication than the last time 💙🥰

@jesseberry7521

4 жыл бұрын

Most men wont share their feelings and thats my biggest turn off if you cant tell me how you are feeling when you are feeling it dont even think about it

@sassarific

4 жыл бұрын

@@jvstkiki yay!

Being aloof and distant (without proper communication) is a huge turn off for me. If he's busy with work or if he needs alone time to deal with something and he lets me know that, I totally get it and I give him space while going about my own life. If he's not responsive and he's cold and doesn't communicate why, it literally drains the desire and affection from me. Makes me feel like he's not into me, or that the relationship is not going anywhere, and usually when he's like that, I start pulling back. I start putting up walls in preparation for a break up or something.

@anggrekbulan100

2 жыл бұрын

This...I feel the same way. I'll quickly build a fortress to anticipate getting brokenhearted.

Lol, I had a guy pull me into the instant relationship. From the vet first date, he kept saying “I made you my girlfriend.” “You’re mine.” He even told me once, “You’re my soulmate. You just don’t know it yet.” And yet, he’s the one that ghosted me as punishment for setting a boundary he couldn’t accept. I haven’t heard from him in 2 weeks. And I’m moving on.

@Eryn_luv

2 жыл бұрын

A similar thing has happened to me

@michelleGarcia-sk9np

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like a love bomber player! They show their intentions and usually it’s a red flag and then Ghosting is Gods protection. Def dodged a bullet

What pushes me away 1.) Lack of communication and/or unclear communication 2.) Being cool with doing EVERYTHING I suggest. Nobody wants a yes man 3.) Not being assertive 4.) Uncompromising 5.) Very sexual way too early 6.) This is really For me because alot of women don't mind. Announcing how many cars you have or where you shop at, to show that you have money. It's a major turnoff for me. This makes me immediately uninterested.

@GoingGreenMom

4 жыл бұрын

Not just you, totally agree with your last one. Show me that you are stable and can pay your bills, not that you spend money you could easily save.

@MegaLadylove2012

4 жыл бұрын

Megan Lindsey You’re a beautiful woman. Idk how you can get past #5 and #6 because for one most men are sexual by nature. And, they can’t seem to help themselves with women they are highly attracted to. Sucks sometimes but yeah. I used to get so frustrated about this as well until I learn to used this to my advantage. It’s the promise of it tht keeps things interesting. #6 most men would over compensate to get with a woman they perceived to be out of their league by talkin about this ish they got Another silly one. Yet, it happens 🤷🏽‍♀️😊

@tf560

4 жыл бұрын

I’m totally with you!

@thorisomolefe2276

4 жыл бұрын

Announcing how many cars you have🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@thorisomolefe2276

4 жыл бұрын

@@GoingGreenMom I know right?

A good way to scare off a lot of men: say that you don’t want sex until marriage. Works too well 🙃

@maidenmarian1

4 жыл бұрын

BOY I KNOW VERY WELL.

@Joseph3391399

4 жыл бұрын

A christian girl here 🙋‍♀️yay!

@TheToledoTrumpton

4 жыл бұрын

Saying no to sex in general should be used sparingly. If a man is giving up his sexual freedom for a monogamous relationship, particularly a high-class male who doesn't have any trouble finding women, saying no to him may boost your ego, but if you are just giving into laziness, then it is a very foolish thing to do. Sex is a really big deal to men. Every time you say no, and it isn't obvious why, you are seriously damaging your relationship, and your sex life, as much as you may want to think that shouldn't be the case.

@TheToledoTrumpton

4 жыл бұрын

@Felix Bruyns It isn't "slimy" for men to want sex, that is perfectly natural. It is slimy for women to supress/lie about their natural desire for sex, in order to manipulate men by withholding sex. And women can still keep their catholic virginity vows, as well as keeping their men sexually happy. And just so you know, your attempt to virtue signal there, came across as "slimy" to most mature, intelligent women. I really do respect women, and they are not fooled by that at all.

@Top5_Pilipinas

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheToledoTrumpton what if the reason for not wanting sex right away is because I want to make sure that the relationship is not just because sex is great? Im a sexual and passionate woman but Im looking for something deeper than just sexual compatibility that I am willing to control my sexual desires to make sure there is mental, emotional and even spiritual (not about religion) chemistry first.

I love it when my date compliments me. Any compliment is great, as long as it's sincere. I also appreciate when there is no pressure to do things together when I am very busy. I like my personal time and need to feel my boundaries are not only respected, but also appreciated and understood. Thanks matt for these respectful and helpful videos. 👍🤗

@helenlapdez6499

2 жыл бұрын

Hi, get anyone to love or (SP) attracted to you. And Alo get your Ex back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Wilson,he helped me restore my 5 years relationship. Also Dr Wilson Always keep with his words, I will advise you to seek his help thanks

@helenlapdez6499

2 жыл бұрын

+2347063620887⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of breakup-.,

@dianneciresi7208

11 ай бұрын

After the narc I dated & befriended, he put me in the friendzone & said his health ( had numerous health issues besides Ptsd from the war) wouldn't allow him to be in a relationship ( cause he knew I wanted to be with him on a romantic level) then I saw he was already in one either someone who I researched ,then that broke off & then had passing fling after the broke up one, kept me on the back burner breadcrumbing, til he had a fallout anger issue on me , long story who then blocked, ghosted & discarded. Then met a few months later online, a tall blone ( who was few " shorter than him ( he was 5'11") who ended up moving in with him after 2 months of dating & says on his FB page is the fiancé, showed a pic of her & another of them together, with her sitting on his Harley chopper, saying this lady won his heart. Go figure . They're in the dopamine , seratonin stage. If she only knew he's still on 5 dating sites, same as mine. Karma's going to get him (both) when the shit hits the fan.. Can't wait to see when that happens. Lol..

@user-qv7vi2ls6j

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this video 🎉

1. Playing games 0:34 2. Being too aloof 1:38 3. Treating him as if he is perfect 2:26 4. The attitude of entitlement 3:36 5. Emasculating behaviour 5:47 6. Instant relationship 8:53

Inconsistencies.. When his words don't match with his actions.. I slowly pull away.

Things that scare me away? He is always right about everything, and my opinion is always wrong.

@zechariah4663

4 жыл бұрын

Him always being right in his opinion and you always being wrong - that's a narcissist run the other way.

@GoingGreenMom

4 жыл бұрын

Totally agree.

@glittering_trash_

4 жыл бұрын

@@zechariah4663 yes I finally figured that my ex husband is one. The behaviours I mentioned are mostly all from him

@zechariah4663

4 жыл бұрын

Kristin, I am so sorry. I was married to one and it took me 16 years to realize it. The healing from that kind of abuse is tough but not impossible. Hold your head up. There are some great KZread videos that address narcissism. Matt has an excellent one as well as Mark Rosenberg. If you search the subject narcissistic abuse or warning signs of dating a narcissist - you'll get some really good information. Praying for you.

@heidibedoya

4 жыл бұрын

The same reason my relationship ended two months ago. 🙄🙄

For me, I don’t like feeling like I have to compete with other women for them. If I know they’re seeing and sleeping with other women while they’re seeing me, it makes me instantly want to run away. Because if they really liked me, they’d put in the same effort and wouldn’t be with other women.

@BonaFideWildLife

Жыл бұрын

💯% You're not second best! No woman should ever be! Edit: I wish all women knew their worth.

@williamrenzo4101

Жыл бұрын

Only players make a woman feel that way. True love doesn't create such space

@akparakpaandrea9827

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

Behaviors that push me away are inconsistent communication, being too clingy/needy, talk and behavior not lining up and most importantly - talking negatively about their ex. If all of your exes are the problem and you don't own culpability in failed relationships then that tells me one thing - you can't grow as a partner and could potentially be a narcissist.

@jessicanicole4229

Жыл бұрын

❤

I hate when men ghost me, or when they make me feel like I am the one while instead they’re dating other girls 🤦🏾‍♀️

@CrystalDatingCoach

3 жыл бұрын

Make them chase you...don't be so available. He can't ghost you...because he's too busy chasing you.

@Tailionis

3 жыл бұрын

@@CrystalDatingCoach don't play games. Just move on

@CrystalDatingCoach

3 жыл бұрын

@@Tailionis Yes. Use Strategies to make him/her like you more...Not to make someone like you.

@CrystalDatingCoach

3 жыл бұрын

@Vick F woman want to be Pursued.

@mssummerrose1

3 жыл бұрын

@Vick F try to find out if there's a reason for that... maybe sth about your lifestyle doesn't sit well with them... ??

What scares me away? Not keeping his word.

@christyantoinette2828

4 жыл бұрын

I just when to that I hate when man doesn't keep his word

@lifesasoundtrack3595

4 жыл бұрын

Shizam!!!!

@cpulido01

3 жыл бұрын

Red flag

@TheGudigirl

2 жыл бұрын

Yeahh i have the same fear

Something that scares me away is almost like the emasculating rule but the opposite. I'm trying to work on something, even something as trivial as a puzzle and he leans over and starts giving me answers. I get annoyed and say, "I appreciate you trying to help me but I like to figure this out by myself." If I ask for help then it's fine but I'm persistent and like to try until I succeed. When someone steps in it makes me feel like they don't think I'm capable. As a women I will admit sometimes I like to feel rescued, like when I can't open something. Another thing that puts me off is a man who never plans our time out. I had been in a relationship where he would suggest we go out, but then leave all the planning to me. I appreciated this sometimes, but a lot of the time I wanted it to be a collaboration and I wanted his opinion about things. I don't want to have the pressure and responsibility of choosing all of our outings.

Leaving a relationship you’re not happy in is much easier than emotionally damaging someone. But selfish people don’t get that

@dewandamaine7023

10 ай бұрын

Yes but the problem is how do we catch a cheating partner

"All men are children, if a woman understands this, she understands everything." - Coco Chanel

@thorisomolefe2276

4 жыл бұрын

I'm a big kid too🙃🙃🙃 I really love the child side of men.

@thorisomolefe2276

4 жыл бұрын

I find it refreshing

@laverne1121

4 жыл бұрын

yes they are. they are immature af no matter how old they are.

@melodiesimilton1447

4 жыл бұрын

So true

@faithm9284

4 жыл бұрын

We are all children. There's a difference between being children (playful) and being childish. The vulnerability of being childlike is not the same as immaturity. Don't perceive Coco meant immaturity because if you know anything about men, you know a man needs to be respected. Coco knew men have to be treated gently, and respectfully as you would nurture a child. That's when you have a real emotionally intimate relationship with a man. Leave your narcissistic misandrist tendencies at the door ladies, your making your lives to difficult.

Scares women away: inconsistency, neediness, inability to respect your principles and views in life, rudeness

@allthingspossible4569

3 жыл бұрын

YES!!!

@FleurEngel

3 жыл бұрын

On point! And may I add the inability to respect... your basic needs..

@Evie170

3 жыл бұрын

And not respecting boundaries.

@themorein-depth8369

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely

@helenlapdez6499

2 жыл бұрын

Hi, get anyone to love or (SP) attracted to you. And Alo get your Ex back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Wilson,he helped me restore my 5 years relationship. Also Dr Wilson Always keep with his words, I will advise you to seek his help thanks

I LOVE complimenting my sweetie. Even when he is having a crappy day I make him calm by simply saying “ be easy honey, all is in order” or “you’re so handsome when you are angry, what can I do to make you ugly?”... this always makes him smile.. all while speaking softly and gently touching his arm or face. It’s amazing how quickly he calms down.and begins to laugh.

These are 100% true! I've seen what happens when people do this stuff in their relationships around me. Very destructive. Great video, thanks for sharing!

Consistency and communication are what I need. Someone who makes me feel safe. If someone doesn't ask if I got home ok when it was storming I tend to think they don't care.

@lewisaron7015

3 жыл бұрын

hey dear, you’re so cute and I would love to be friends with you. Can you text me on WhatsApp for us to get to know each other.

@lewisaron7015

3 жыл бұрын

+18154104037

@afoyepowede5815

2 жыл бұрын

Thats true all you have to do is wait one day the right one will come soon

@melodyberg2339

2 жыл бұрын

Definitely

@nandlabh6349

2 жыл бұрын

True

When a man is stingy, no matter how attractive his other qualities, I loose interest.

@Alessandro92772

4 жыл бұрын

👌👌👌👌👌 me too

@karinadaisyjane1020

4 жыл бұрын

Naghmeh Salek tight ass is 🤢 unless they have an extremely bad financial situation then it’s different

@sarahnavarro1610

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽

@jaya3881

4 жыл бұрын

Same here😂😂

@Romi_ditzydonutsdesigns

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed

As you mentioned near the end...definitely when the commitment moves faster than the connection. And another point you made: Feeling chosen....that is also important for women.

Love what you said. Being grateful, showing gratitude, and humility--thinking of others before you think of yourself. Awesome.

What scares me away? Poor communication, playing games, possessive/controlling, stashing, ghosting which is a kind of game playing.

@krizziefernando5937

4 жыл бұрын

Victoria Sutherland I agree with you, no matter how busy a person, both should find ways to communicate. Specially if long distance relationship 😔

@krizziefernando5937

4 жыл бұрын

Victoria Sutherland I agree with you, no matter how busy a person, both should find ways to communicate. Specially if long distance relationship 😔

@victoriasutherland6026

4 жыл бұрын

@@krizziefernando5937 I don't believe in Long Distance relationships. It's hard enough with work and housekeeping and friends to date local. But many men seem to think that we either have nothing but time for them or that we should be grateful for any time they wish to spend with us. Games instead of communication.

@alisonwingler2113

4 жыл бұрын

Ghosting with no arguments or discussions before,.like I love you today, tomorrow you are nothing, wth.and than when the guy says you pushed him away and says its your fault for him being heartless and you dont know how to play the game! There was no game and I dont know how he went from good to heartless games ..like a slap in the face when you didn't see anyone in front of you..happens quick unexpected and you go into shock mode and I blame myself but it's him, he doesnt communicate, if he doesnt want to be back together with me, then tell me, dont see my messages daily and than radio silence..I guess leaving him alone and maintaining my value, maybe he will talk to me and maybe he won't, he's done this before but hasn't changed, it's a self centered manipulative game, and I'm around when it's convenient for him.Im his fall back girl when things dont work out with someone he left me for, he conveniently gets into a relationship or something with coworkers, or women who work security at his work, its convenient, he get time ,conversation, rides, laughs, attraction and fun with women at work he sees more than me, and than goes and pulls the grass is greener, comparing me, and than he thinks he's got someone better than me, and than gets used, hurt, cheated on...Karma...he hurt me and he got hurt too

@victoriasutherland2617

4 жыл бұрын

@@alisonwingler2113 If he's using you block him. Move on. But if the way you wrote the reply to my comment is how you communicate with him.... well, slow down. Organize your thoughts and try to talk to him rather than spew. But really the best way to shut down someone who uses silence as a dating ploy just needs to be ignored. He will either figure it out or move on. Either way you are better off.

If everyone would just drop their egos life would be much easier 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

@maidenmarian1

4 жыл бұрын

But in a way for us ladies, our egos can protect us. I think we must do things to keep growing and stay safe.

@CosmicHazeTarot1111

4 жыл бұрын

@@maidenmarian1 egos do not protect ego is fear based fear of rejection fear of upsetting egos keep us stuck! Egos are fragile they hinder growth! You protect yourself by knowing yourself inside out and being able to adult and make wise decision even if they hurt or feel uncomfortable by communicating exactly what you want exactly how you feel by showing your vulnerabilities! Egos need to be dropped they are nothing but fear based masks to hide who what and our true feelings xxx

@maidenmarian1

4 жыл бұрын

@@CosmicHazeTarot1111 Interesting Ideas. Happy New Year!! I will consider your thoughts!! Merry Christmas past and Happiest of New years to you and everyone here!!!

@neomehollow1391

4 жыл бұрын

Haha can't drop the ego nun its the first thing that forms us in our youth we would drop our morals (sense if right and wrong) before we dropped our who's (the thing that tells us what we want and what may make us happy this moment) but u probably weren't talking about the ID lol sorry

@maidenmarian1

4 жыл бұрын

@@neomehollow1391 You mean the Super Ego. I don't thing this is what she meant.

Personally, I think that our feeling of wanting to start a relationship straight away with a man, is also often due to the way they have made us feel like very special. Luke, didnt matter if they were at work, or with their kids, they just focussed on US. They were polite, lovely, thoughtful, romantic, they listened to you for real, I mean, they litterally acted like they were just this amazing person who made us feel so safe. So, OF COURSE we think “Wow, seems like this guy’s got it together and knows how to be nice, he’s doing everything right!” But seriously - As soon as sex has happened though - Most of the time, Its like, even if the sex was amazing, their persue is over, they got you and so they don’t care nearly as much as they did before sex. And then all of a sudden, they’re at work, they can’t text. And they are also “with their kids”. They don’t listen to you anymore or try to share life experience. And that’s just so very confusing for us because it makes us feel like, one second we’re this precious treasure, but the next we aren’t. So… the first impression really WAS like the guy wanted to commit or that he “loved us” already, which we find weird. But then as soon as we decide “Wow, ok, maybe I should be all in to then” - That’s when they drop it like its hot. They stop being what they showed us to begin with!! They don’t really wanna text as much. Before, they could find time anytime, ANYTIME. No promblem. After though, everything is an excuse not to continue where us girls thought we were with him. Which feels so demeaning and hypocrite. My point being: Im in no way different before or after sex happens. Ill be just the exact same person. So, what you see is what you get. But with men, its just not like that. The thing to consider, I think, is that maybe what we experienced with them the first week, is what we thought would be their real personality? 🤔 So the drop is so far away of what it was, that we probably just didn’t expect anything to change so suddenly. This extremely respectful person and heart open person IS JUST GONE FOREVER now. No matter how we might make you guys feel like “we wanna start a relationship right away”… I believe its cause we were maybe completely misled. AND, the guy becomes boring, not really there anymore mentally, and asks us to accept HIS schedule only. To me, THAT feels like real entitlement. 🙏🏻

@amiknibbs4506

2 жыл бұрын

Omg this!!!! 100% agree

@MaryPierGuilbault

2 жыл бұрын

@@amiknibbs4506 ❤️

@Ajahming

Жыл бұрын

Some guy loses their attraction towards their girl after the first sex. That's why it is important to wait for it until marriage.

@vuyomzilikazi4229

Жыл бұрын

Great points.

@janataylor6869

Жыл бұрын

Not every guy is like this. If he really wants to be with you, he will put in the work ☺️

These videos are so well made, I love how they are right to the point and do explain in an authentic way, many others feel like kinda manipulative like you talk about in relationships, haha! What really puts me off, is often mirrored in the things you talk about in women. Being too eager in the beginning, touching too much too early, wanting to be close to me before they even know me, constantly wanting an ego boost without giving anything back, taking what a women can give for granted, wanting to hang out at home too much in the beginning (where i often have to play "host"), talking money and politics in the beginning, showing off, lack in ambition (about themselves, not about success), intolerance and lack of understanding about differences in people.

Some behaviors for men which push women away: • Cursing • Acting different when in front of their friends • Asking for intimacy or intimate photos in the early stages of relationship (not letting it flow naturally) • Judging you/your actions • Jealousy (for some women) • Overprotective • One sided thinking, doesn’t consider your feelings, not compromising

@abigailpatridge2948

4 жыл бұрын

Speak for yourself and your circle of friends on the cursing. I can out-cuss my current boyfriend easily, him saying a few choice words just makes me join in ironically or more often ask what's wrong with no judgement at all. The rest is spot on though.

@calicat7855

4 жыл бұрын

This is narcissistic qualities, pretty much text book

@arckocsog253

4 жыл бұрын

Abigail Patridge There are classy people as well, just to let you know.

@amazingsupergirl7125

4 жыл бұрын

Wow this list surprises me. I consider these, except cursing, the basic expected standard.

@lunawolfheart336

4 жыл бұрын

i agree with everything exept the cursing

On a 1st date, this guy tells me that he is so good in bed, former lovers stalk him. Total turn off !! I made sure there was NO 2nd date.

@maidenmarian1

4 жыл бұрын

Very smart girl. What a sad guy. So unaware of how creepy he sounds. It even makes him sound scary. He is really focused!

@npkrn6764

4 жыл бұрын

Ewww! 🙀🤢🤢🤮

@alice_in_wonderland9997

4 жыл бұрын

If it was me, l would climb out of the window

@Top5_Pilipinas

4 жыл бұрын

He is insecure. People who are good in bed dont have to tell anyone they are. It will eventually be proven with performance, actions, not words. I pity him.

@alice_in_wonderland9997

4 жыл бұрын

I agree, if he is actually good in bed ,he doesn’t need to say it. Those guys are usually bad and if they need to voice that, it mean that they are insecure and if your bed xperience is bad with him, he can blame it on you

I LOVE THIS CHANNEL!!!! I support your mission totally! You have no idea the high value information you give me. I listen to you with both eyes wide open as I’m learning and growing. I never had a good example on how to treat man (in South America with all the femininity revolution men are being mistreated so badly...). Thank you so much for your teachings.

@julietellsthetruth4811

2 ай бұрын

It's happening in North America too! The feminists have emasculated half our population, and instead of standing up to it, men have stopped acting like men.

I’m so glad I came across this video. I’m struggling and tip #6 have gave me my answers!!!! Thank you so much ❤️ definitely going to be watching your videos!!

Bringing the topic of sex up right away. It's like they want reassurance that they will get laid before putting any kind of effort. It's kind of juvenile and I immediately dismiss a guy who does that. I mean, duh, we will eventually get there, what's the rush! It's very discouraging.

@hopeislandful

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!!! Ultimate turn off. Bucket any guy who does it they just want sex. A man who really likes you won’t bring up sex before getting to know you.

@faithm9284

4 жыл бұрын

If you really want to be (his) woman of high standards don't ever 'get there' unless you have a ring and wedding plans. Even then it's best to wait until the honeymoon night because going to bed with him before that takes away his motivation to get married to begin with, and you 'tarnish' your own self worth, even in your own heart. The wedding night is nothing special to him either, if you've already had sex. Men want their wedding nights to be special too, so you both get robbed of that special bonding meant for your wedding night. When you have sex with a man, he stops pursuing you in an emotional way that will grow the relationship, because he already has the shallow thing he's wanted. It stunts the growth of the emotional aspect of the relationship with a man. If you wait, it is incredibly wonderful to see how our relationship develops without giving up your power! If sex is the only thing he wants and he leaves because you're not having sex with him, let him go!!! Our culture is upside down created by men for them to have their cake with no consequences, that includes the option of abortion as well. They have no consequences I'm getting a female pregnant. Do not try to be what he wants at the expense of Who You Are and what you need. It's imperative to find out what you need emotionally, to truly know yourself, and then evaluate whether your dates have what it takes to fill those needs to be a possible mate. Not only one or two of them but all of them! It eliminates wasting invested years with the wrong person because it feels comfortable. Don't get into relationships that turn into habit, rather than a meaningful, purposeful and growing one! The moment you continue a relationship that you know in your gut is not right for you, you're moving into the limbo Zone! We adjust and get used to relationships that we know are not in our best self interest, out of a multitude of false fears! You were fine before you met him and you'll be fine when you let him go! Don't ever settle, God has a 'perfect' mate for you. Not 'perfect' but perfect for you, and you only have to ask God for him. Learn from my experience, don't relive it! ♡

@joysinner3415

4 жыл бұрын

I agree totally.

@Inatfromdenmark

4 жыл бұрын

A guy like that I would dump right away. Instant

@mae88b.16

4 жыл бұрын

A very immature guy!!

1) Vanishing 2) Ignoring texts or calls 3) “Jokes” at my or other peoples expense

@patmazzapica5122

4 жыл бұрын

I have a ghoster

@patmazzapica5122

4 жыл бұрын

Rid of him

@jeradblazek677

4 жыл бұрын

Yea, that's shitty behavior either way it's going.

This video by Mat Boggs is so insightful and helpful! It's true that some behaviors can scare men off, and it's important to be aware of them if we want to attract and keep a healthy relationship. I appreciate how Mat explains the reasons behind these behaviors and provides practical tips on how to avoid them. It's not about changing who we are, but rather about becoming more self-aware and developing healthier patterns in our dating life. Thank you for sharing this valuable advice!

I don't like it when a guy brags about himself: "I designed this really great ... " or "I'm so great because I ... ". Don't tell me how great you are, show me in the natural course of doing things-be humble. I know he wants to impress me and have me think he's great, talented, super smart, etc. Then I can tell him: "This is such a great thing you did. I really like this."

Guilty of #5. I’ve been so independent and always doing everything on my own. It’s weird to have someone do things for me because most of my life I’ve done everything on my own 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

@christyantoinette2828

4 жыл бұрын

That is me

@Cool-sc1sj

4 жыл бұрын

That is me too!

@rhondareese3908

4 жыл бұрын

I can do things on my own but if I can get a man do it then I let him.

@jeradblazek677

4 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your awareness about that. Most men WANT to do stuff for you ladies. If he gets the feeling that he's never doing it right or good enough though, he will simply give up trying.

@faithm9284

3 жыл бұрын

@@jeradblazek677 Agree! If he can't make you happy by doing the man things to make you smile, or he is made to feel he's not doing it well enough, he's gone! He wants to feel like a man as much as woman want to feel like a woman. It's pretty basic man/woman dynamics. American woman have been brainwashed to do it all, kids, work, hubby's needs, 'go-for', and they take up the man's 'space' in the relationship. The men get complacent, life gets boring for him and stressful for her. Other cultures get this and still know how to make a man's 'space' without giving up their own ID and 'power'. Matt is great at showing how to do this!

In my view, what scares women away from is his uncertainty in relationship and losing temper with you right away when something happens.

@andrewhaycox

2 жыл бұрын

women feel like they need to test a mans anger and this is abusive and unproductive manipulation.

I've witnessed the imasculating behavior upclose just a week ago from a new female acquaintance i made while picking up my son at school and it's ugly. I feel like if we could all get back to "treat others the way you want to be treated" (regardless of sex) we'd be a whole lot further along and so much happier. You asked what pushes me away, I'd have to say the number one thing that has kept me very single my entire adult life is this... daily drinking and unhealthy eating habits. I long to find a partner that values the one body they have in this life and doesn't abuse it on a daily basis. It always seems to take me a few weeks to realize I've met another man who has a problem with daily drinking. It's sad and I've tried to make peace with being single at this point because of that. I want a partner who will not only live awhile, but their quality of life will be good while they're here.

@Khayran

Жыл бұрын

Simple, marry a Muslim 🙂

@jessicanicole4229

Жыл бұрын

❤

What do you do if you feel like you don't know how to be 'in balance' with yourself? I've lived so long trying to please and make other people happy that when people say 'be authentic' or 'be yourself', I don't know if what I'm feeling is truly what I want or if it's what I think I SHOULD do...

Touching me when I've never indicated that I was interested.

@richardrivas3294

3 жыл бұрын

when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash

When a man gets too relaxed in the relationship it scares me off. Meaning, he takes you out for a while and then it’s let’s stay home. Then staying home becomes the pattern.

@roweme

4 жыл бұрын

Melladee Crisler - "A new broom sweeps well" 😒

@jujuvtx

3 жыл бұрын

Right! But covid is changing this

@ohohnenyeoo2654

3 жыл бұрын

@@jujuvtx true but one could still put in effort. Such as nature dates.

@geronimo5537

3 жыл бұрын

I am fine with going home. But if it is just "netflix & chill" F that fakery.

@Pinkflo363

2 жыл бұрын

Omg yes!!! I hate this so much.

I totally agree with being careful not to use “ immasculating behavior towards a man, you don’t want to make him feel inferior. I also think Everyone is sensitive to even subtle criticism and your partner should be encouraging you as well during these times.

I agree 💯 with your advice. It's not just emasculating behavior; it's undermining the man.

Things men do that scare me away -wanting to get too physical way too soon -showing too much aggression -making me feel rushed to come to his house too soon

@maidenmarian1

4 жыл бұрын

Yes I have been there. They never saw me or heard from me again.

When a guy is really into you, takes you for dinner, precious constant talks and texts, but at the same time makes himself unavailable and mysterious.

@sarah_nya

4 жыл бұрын

The unavailability and being mysterious didn't know it meant that a guy is into a lady.... Very interesting. Thanks for pointing that out😊

@MaXiMoS54

4 жыл бұрын

Idk some women will see you as clingy or desperate if you give too much

@Megan6772

4 жыл бұрын

Fuckboi

@tommyagro444

4 жыл бұрын

I am guilty of this behavior. And I regret it for showing so much interest. He has reservations towards you for some reason. I just couldn't bring myself to trust the woman in my case.

@jeradblazek677

4 жыл бұрын

I've always known women to like mystery in a man because otherwise they feel the relationship is stale and predictable. Your comment confuses me. Well done.

Probably the most helpful video I’ve seen on this subject, thanks !

Love this clear explanation about connection and commitment.

1) Asking too many biographical questions (like doing an interview instead of trying to bond); 2) Talking too much about themselves (especially showing off or stating their opinions as scientific facts); 3) Approaching a woman like a sweet, stupid little thing (being cheesy and inauthentic); 4) Showing disrespect toward any person, especially woman; 5) Talking about anything, just in order to cover up the silence; 6) Complaining about life circumstances, without trying to change anything. As much as I can think of right now. :)

@jenniferhenriksen6801

4 жыл бұрын

Number 3!! For sure. I hate that!

@xantipa84

4 жыл бұрын

@Spooky Spectre Oh in my experience that happens much rarer than the stuff I mentioned. With that kind of guys I rarely have any date :D

@mickeyt3654

4 жыл бұрын

Number 5. For sure. Thought I was the only one who noticed this.

@daniellamoreno3616

4 жыл бұрын

Great topics I was going to touch on this

This was good!!! Thanks.....I hate it when a man: 1.thinks touching and groping is suppose to turn me on, no it's annoying. Sit and talk to me without touching!!! Stupid octopus 2. Thinking a sexual conversation is supposed to do something for me.....yet when we finally get together, you fail in performance.!! Ugh 3. Not maintaining hygiene.....breath trumps everything!! You can wear the same outfit as long as its clean and pressed....BUT ALWAYS MAKE BREATH A #1 PRIORITY FOR A DATE AND RELATIONSHIP!!!

@Pretty60s

3 жыл бұрын

I think I dated him too lol

@richardrivas3294

3 жыл бұрын

when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash

@carmelcapricorn7701

2 жыл бұрын

💯.

@seaofmadness2622

2 жыл бұрын

I believe you Rosalyn! You are so on point especially about breath! Nothing grosser than smelly breath or someone that doesn't shower and wear clean clothes! Greasy hair is a turn off it's not the fifties anymore

@Marialena-vw7ju

2 жыл бұрын

On point!!! 💯

Great video! I especially liked the commitment connection factor - I am a therapist working with women in their marriages / long -term relationships and I have not come across that term before. Connection before commitment sums it up nicely. My husband and I have merged finances as well and I always thank him for dinner even if I am paying half. Thanks for this video.

@emmanelibanga950

10 ай бұрын

Is good to take care of and it's good to love and that is a relationship

I have found an effective way to get around "let me do it" or "you're not doing it right" is to let the person give it a try for a minute and when they start struggling enough that they may be more receptive to feed back you say "I have a suggestion I think will be helpful". And be willing to allow them to go back to doing what they're doing if they say no.

@watitduful

Жыл бұрын

Very good advice and makes sense. Puts the ball in their court and saves you the gray hair and frustration trying to teach someone who doesn’t want to learn.

I think it’s so rude when your out on a date and he’s checking his phone! Bye Bye!

@cessposter

3 жыл бұрын

How ironic.

@mine176p

3 жыл бұрын

His phone and Jeep mean more to him than people

@mistyc.5136

3 жыл бұрын

My senior prom was ruined cause the guy I took was on his phone all night talking to another girl

@CrazyCandy5

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! I hate that.

@whowhatwherewhy1434

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

My now ex used to always try to control how I did everything. Everything had to be done HIS WAY. He was critical and nagging. I'm so over controlling people

@angelicearth78

3 жыл бұрын

My dad is like this and I believe he's a covert narcissist

@merylparks1584

3 жыл бұрын

my ex husband was that way, controlling everything, and it got worse, telling me east to wear, trying to stop me from.dance class, getting rid of my friends. My trust level is bad but working on that now. so when I met someone I see the signs of controlling I'm out.

@lyndacork2821

2 жыл бұрын

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@lyndacork2821

2 жыл бұрын

@@angelicearth78 .

@lyndacork2821

2 жыл бұрын

@@angelicearth78 .

Your advice is much better than many here on KZread. Keep it up!!!

I'm so glad you addressed number 1 because a lot of dating "coaches" tell you to do that and it totally feels like playing games. And it feels fake. It's all so confusing.

@sparecash7199

6 ай бұрын

It’s called literally living your life… if the text comes in and it’s genuinely hours before you can give an honest considered response… then that’s fair, but if you’re sitting there looking at the text on read.. for hours then it’s a game.. It’s only inauthentic if it’s inauthentic!! Example My guy texts me at 4pm Hey baby.. can we meet Tuesday instead?? Then again at 5:30 as I hadn’t responded and it was a text loaded with insecurity.. Text: I’m so sorry to change it around promise I won’t do it again 🙏 I was only able to reply by 10:30pm because my battery had died and I was travelling. I sent a reply Just got in baby with zero 🪫 Yep that plan sounds good for me.. let’s chat tomorrow.. going to bed now sweet dreams looking forward to seeing ya xx 😘 That was authentic.. Vs: Yeah sure.. yeah sure can imply I had seen it and was sitting there fuming 😤 It’s all about communication.. By letting him know I got in late and had no battery.. he then followed up with kisses 😘 smiles 😊 and basically what read as relief 🥲 and continued to text funny memes despite my saying goodnight 😂 As he clearly assumed he pissed me off or annoyed me judging by his follow up text when he hadn’t heard from me.. It’s only a game if you’re playing games… Sure a little sexual tension and delayed gratification on the off chance .. say replying 30 mins to an hour later is also ok.. but don’t play games.. if you’re genuinely living your life, then it’s a dance 🕺🏼 💃🏽 and it feels real. It’s about building connection! Going forward.. after I see him, I will thank him for the date on the night by text and then that’s it… the ball is in HIS court to respond and ask me out again or respond by text to me… It took me years to get to this realisation and it was years of singleness and observing mens behaviour. Ultimately you are not playing games if you are genuinely busy and living and that is attractive.. also do not tell them everything that you are doing. Mystery is good. Let them find out your layers but by bit.. by building connection. Also don’t be too available… this will be evident by you living your life.. but also have occasional availability.. Example.. do not ditch plans with friends and family to see him if you have made plans.. but also do not accept can I see you later today.. If you are busy you are busy.. But if it’s say Wednesday and you’re available genuinely available on Saturday.. then that’s fine!! It’s also ok to say I am already out this evening.. can we plan for another night? This shows that it’s not no.. just not now. Again it’s all about communication.. I’m no guru and I’m only sharing what has worked or is working for me. That being said.. I’m having a relationship without fear of loss and not having any expectations of any outcome. I’m finding out if I like what I like and I’m also prepared fully to walk way! Stay open stay true to yourself.. I hope this helps ❤

My husband said to me "Honey let me slay the dragon!" It was so perfect for me to understand what he was saying.

When I'm dating a man I don't like it when they constantly ask me where are u, what you doing?

@JaelH7

4 жыл бұрын

Uuugh, such a lazy and pointless question. None yo bidness son!

@SoCalGuppy

4 жыл бұрын

I was thinking of, "I cannot talk/text you right now because I am experiencing exploding diarrhea!!" That will shut them up!

@one-day-at-a-time9317

4 жыл бұрын

Spooky Spectre 😄😂🤣

@nicolalblushi9830

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly girlfriend...not good for me too...it somehow makes me lose interest in picking his calls to avoid that qn

@Mandy.S.

4 жыл бұрын

I get this from men randomly messaging me on other social media! That whole "wyd" thing instantly annoys me! I want to be snotty and say "I'm in the bathroom! Can't I use it in private? " 😂 But I don't... I just get highly annoyed. Lol

Amazing video. I enjoyed it immensely, thank you!!

You are so right about the relation between conection and commitment. I haven't seen it that way yet but now that you've said it I totally ( am glad to ) see that yes, when me and my guy got a deeper connection, he got less afraid to commit way more. was beautiful to see, thanks for opening my eyes on that one. What scares me away is when men are talking to me and just smiling the entire time, like you can see how they're undressing me mentally but trying to come off as interested and just nice. It's very awkward for me because it's very obvious and a definite no go

I almost forgot ! "BAD HYGIENE". Dude it's not attractive when you forgot to brush your theeth or cuting your dirty nails before a date 🤢.

@louiseleite3866

4 жыл бұрын

Just coming to see me from home without smelling fresh puts me off 🤮

@jasonbourne1596

4 жыл бұрын

Girls do that too. I never call those girls back.

@alice_in_wonderland9997

4 жыл бұрын

M’y ex would never shower and you can smell him from miles.ohh, l hate men who disguise themselves as someone else in order to please and slowly go back to their true self as the relationship progress. I thought l was dating a clean man until one day l went over to get my books from his apt after not seeing him for one month and he smells a mixte of onion and hair grease

@yaafowaa4149

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@pamcoulter6341

3 жыл бұрын

I went out on a date with a guy who looked like he slept in his clothes. I lasted long enough to order a meal, told him I had to leave and I paid for the meal and left. He rang me again. Must have needed a free dinner or to borrow an iron 🤔🤣

They try to turn you off instead of breaking up. They try to get you to break up with them. Even ghosting is better then dishonesty.

@realbite966

4 жыл бұрын

True!!!

Nice advice. It's very helpful to me and for everybody who are building strong relationships

Thank you Matthew. I am in a new long distance relationship. I've been watching your videos and they really have helped.

@lewisaron7015

3 жыл бұрын

hi dear, you’re so cute and I would love to be friends with you. Can you text me on WhatsApp for us to get to know each other.

A guy I was chatting with told me before I even met him. That he needed some good loving and that he had an insatiable desire. I told him that at this point the desire wasn’t for me and that he was going to have to find someone else to scratch his itch.

@maidenmarian1

4 жыл бұрын

You are very smart. Good for you!

@JJ-yu6og

4 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

When they start talking dirty. Turn off!

I have had to deal with a guy who I went out with a few times, realized he was not someone I wanted to continue dating because he acted so needy so I let him know that I did not want to see him any more. But he did not get the message. He kept showing up at my job, coincidentally be at the grocery store same time I was, repeatedly, drove through my neighborhood then call me to say he had just drove by my house, knew I was home but due to the late hour he did not want to bother me. He lived in another town 30 minutes away until he moved a block away from where I now live. So what scares me off are men coming on too strong, are insecure, and behaving like a stalker when I clearly have told them I am not interested in dating them.

@jasonbryan9056

3 жыл бұрын

Hello how are you doing 😊😊☺️

Complete honesty. Being vague about or lying about whether you are truly single... deal-breaker. Be sure you are free before you start a new relationship.

That was super! Thanks! The behaviors that pushes me away from a man are control issues, possessiveness and invalidating things I say and do. Not keeping promises or not being helpful or thoughtful in small ways are turn-offs.

@Tengobaila3

4 жыл бұрын

That's a sweet compliment. Thanks you, Oscar.

Checking out other women in front of me...😑

@karengoins1946

4 жыл бұрын

Lisa Phillips yes..very disrespectful...how would he feel when a gorgeous Man walks by and you are checking him out?

@CC-vj6dd

4 жыл бұрын

I hear you girl, I hear you! And you know what? I know tons of women who do not mind. To me that one of the biggest turn offs, I just get up and leave if I can.

@Lizestechreviews

4 жыл бұрын

One time I went on a date with this guy I had been dating for a year (my ex at this point) we went to the zoo and it was supposed to be a really bonding experience because he knew I loved animals. To cut it short, I saw this 6/10 girl slightly above average looking so I knew he was going to look so I looked in the reflection of the glass for the lemurs pretending to be looking at them while he was about 2 feet behind me. And what do you know he took that opportunity of thinking I was distracted looking at the lemurs to stare at this girl so much to the point where I’d be creeped out if I were her. So I didn’t hold his hand and walked in front of him the rest of the time and when she passed by us again I told him “there she is go get her number”. It’s just the most annoying thing ever in a guy. I know it’s normal because my dad does it and he’s 59 happily married 37 years never cheated on her obviously. But it’s just SO ANNOYING because you can’t help but think “you must want her” and what he’s thinking when he’s staring at her while your just a side piece in that moment ughhhh that feeling sucks. Even as a model and a generally seen as “hot girl” it SUCKS.

@CC-vj6dd

4 жыл бұрын

@@Lizestechreviews It is annoying! and, to me, highly disrespectful if he is close to 'his' girl. Like I use to say: when they are in groups of just guys (we all kow how guys are when they are together: boys will be boys kind of shit), or alone, look at whatever they want, if they are near me and showed some interest already, that makes me think twice big time! (Do I want to put up with this kind of shit in the future?). Yeah, looking is 'normal' (or society made it normal, or is just accepted because everybody does it and nobody thinks much about it - but just because 100% of the guys do it, it does not make it 'right') but, to me, is the first step to more - yeah, it can be completely 'innocent' (it os not but let's pretend it is), but it can not be innocent at all! How the heck will I know? Yeah, what you told your ex, it's the kind of answer they get from me whenever I catch them doing that. Many of them play offended. I don't care. It even annoys me when it's the other way around: when they are with 'their' women and I catch them doing that. It bothers me a lot because I know didn't ask for it and there we are. And it also bothers me for the woman because I know I wouldn't like it. I find it DISRESPECTFUL and it's like I am being part of it without asking for it! Most of the times I leave or rush to get the heck out of where ever we are, if I can. Just not nice!

@captainswan3079

4 жыл бұрын

Yes !!!! Major turn off

Thank you Matt! Hearing these is unfortunately painful but extremely helpful as well.

ANOTHER great video. This guy is like DJ Khalid, ANOTHER ONE. I recently met a man who for the first time, I can see myself marrying, and these videos are soooo helpful! Thank you for your work!!! KEEP THEM COMING!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

For me it is men that comes on too fast and hard when we first meet. I recently met a guy that is saying and doing everything I've always wanted, but my intuition tells me he is a love addict. Someone that chases that feeling of first falling in love, the butterflies and romance, then gets bored quick when real life settles in. I hope I'm wrong.🤔🤔🤔

@GoingGreenMom

4 жыл бұрын

I think I might be dealing with someone like that.

@giovanna8324

4 жыл бұрын

@Spooky Spectre Yes, this is the risk. Only time and a deep, sincere but not fusional relationship will be the right "test"

@hopeislandful

4 жыл бұрын

This is called Love Bombing. Google it. When a person comes along and starts this instant romance with you. It is nearly always fake.

@Marixpress2

4 жыл бұрын

How did it go?

@Lydz201137

4 жыл бұрын

Omg I can reLATE! I think being friends first is good so you can see if you really like the person for who they are, not just for how they treat you. It makes you think they're just doing all these nice things to win you over cause they like you when really what needs to win you over is you liking who they are. The romantic gestures should come later.

When he tries to show me how much he thinks he knows and how dumb he thinks I am. Basically bullying me into submission...TURN OFF

@lovelight6973

4 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah!

@mgtowarena9636

4 жыл бұрын

Why would you date such a guy that thinks your are dumb?

@maidenmarian1

4 жыл бұрын

There is an example of that here with another poster , a man (Donald Piniach)trying to verbally bully me into submission until I was telling him Blaa blaa blaa. It is mixed into the first boatload of posts...

@mgtowarena9636

4 жыл бұрын

@@maidenmarian1 "Bullying you" implies that you are a victim of some sort of statement that you think is uncomfortable and cannot manage the issue yourself. Women are strong and independent... not victims. Women are police officers, fire fighters, run for president, fight in the UFC, have babies etc... Plus, Im intrigued at how so many women cannot handle a bit of constructive criticism from a dating coach, as if women can do no wrong.

@maidenmarian1

4 жыл бұрын

@@mgtowarena9636 This does not have to do with the maker of the video. There is nothing wrong with him. I would prefer not to continue to discuss the meaning of anything including the word "bullying"with you. I am fine. I did not post for the purpose of debating words and all of this political crap. I don't want to discuss it with you please. I also did not post to defend women and all of that. It does not imply that someone is a victim. I am too busy especially today to go down the rabbit hole, you appear to suggest, thank you. So many words today trigger the same old political crap. This crap started in the early 90's and I am not going to allow words to become something I have to bow to and submit to somewhere due to the idea of political correctness. Back off please. I can easily see and explain, am not a victim and not going to continue. Have a great day. This political highjacking of language has made me irate and now bored. There is so much to talk about but today I have unfortunately no extra time. Thanks.

Mat, you’re always on point!!! Thank you😀🙏🏽

Awesome video. I agree. Thank You.

things that scare me away? when we first meet /get together, and he tries to put me in competition with other women ( y'know gives me the impression there are other women interested etc)..i will just walk away - i dont need to compete :)

@karenevans6751

4 жыл бұрын

@@oscarwilliamson1264 thank you. you are pleasing to the eye also :)

@karenevans6751

4 жыл бұрын

@@oscarwilliamson1264 see above :)

@karenevans6751

4 жыл бұрын

@@oscarwilliamson1264 no ;)

@jimmyr545

3 жыл бұрын

Things don't work out so often, it's totally fair to date more than one person at a time. And how can you expect a guy to already be comitted to you on a 1st date? Plus, women do this all the time.

@richardrivas3294

3 жыл бұрын

when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash

When he says I love you or I care about you but he hardly knows you! He just wants to get laid!

@jilliann.5728

4 жыл бұрын

Sooooo true!!

@freyaegrey

4 жыл бұрын

Actually it’s more likely that he’s a hardcore narcissist. This is a common thing from narcissistic and/or abusive partners (men and women actually).

@natashahunt948

4 жыл бұрын

Faylyn I’m interested in this comment about narcicists jumping the gun on “I love you”. Do you have any more info?

@natashahunt948

4 жыл бұрын

Faylyn I’m interested in this comment about narcicists jumping the gun on “I love you”. Do you have any more info?

@annelorenzray8108

4 жыл бұрын

Intellectualizing love. "I choose to love you." Because he feels falling love implies a victim mentality. I smiled, I shrugged it off and said, "whatever, I love you."

Your videos are real GOOD, you have a right perception of human nature. It's like you are very old, even you are young. I'm glad I reached this channel, it's a pure delight. Thank you for your work.

You are spot on about the emasculating behavior. Thank you for educating women.

What men do to push women away: mansplaining, ignore or pull away, talk to an ex, and lie/omit/or keep details vague.

@allthingspossible4569

3 жыл бұрын

Yep, if he causes me to be in question, I don't trust him and I'm not going to live that way.... again...

@debbitrimberger9440

2 жыл бұрын

oh, you mean be 90% of men in the dating pool? thats why we are all screwed.

@erzascarlet5078

2 жыл бұрын

THIS!! I recently cut off a marriage prospect cuz of this!!!

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2 жыл бұрын

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@helenlapdez6499

2 жыл бұрын

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This is hilarious. A relationship? I can’t even get past the ghosting. Him “ Hey I’m interested” Me “ Shall we meet?” Him 💬

@clariethaboyd2833

4 жыл бұрын

Same here, a whole lot of ghosting. You think things are progressing nicely, you text him and then you don't hear from him again. I haven't had a relationship in years.

@captainswan3079

2 жыл бұрын

Preach 🙌

This is so random, but I got here because I was watching the Victorian Dating Etiquette and wondered what the dating etiquette of today is about as I been happily married for nearly a decade. I almost left a couple of minutes into it when I realized that this video is also helpful for a wife to her husband. Thanks, pretty useful advices. 👌

Super helpful❤️Thank you!

When men talk about their ex constantly....exit stage left!!!

@maidenmarian1

4 жыл бұрын

I went through this and did not even know these were dates. Talking about an ex, tends to cancel out the idea that you are on a date...

@toridmbfan

4 жыл бұрын

Same goes for women 😉

@belmum1689

4 жыл бұрын

@@toridmbfan Your cheeky.

Continuous negativity. Complaining about his life but not doing anything to change it.

@shaylajade9937

4 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

@asaengman6854

4 жыл бұрын

Yes!!! I hate that! Grow up for heaven sake and take care of yourself and your life. It's like them seeking for a new mom. Puh!

@bethgoodwin6304

4 жыл бұрын

My ex husband did this, complain about his family and me all the time. He walked out and found him an older woman, I guess he needed a mom. Every time he called me about the kids, she was in the back ground telling him what to say or communicate for him. Now they are married and live across the united states from his children and grand child. Life is crazy, just wished he would have communicated this to me before I gave him 26 years of my life. Been 8 years now, and all I can do is laugh, and know what he missing out of this grand child.

@MicheleHerrmann

4 жыл бұрын

@@asaengman6854 Yes, my first serious ex was like this. His mom suggested that I get a better paying job while he pretty much was complacent about his debts and unemployment.

@SerotoninStation

4 жыл бұрын

This is the absolute worst.

Yeh, I think that was a problem in my "marriage". He had cerebral palsy so he couldn't or wouldn't do much of any chores around the house. Now, when he was younger he was also at boarding schools so, I felt like I had to ask him/tell him to do just about anything around the house. You need to address this one right away in your relationship. Then, it was like I felt like I was bossy, but then I thought he's an adult. He was overly passive on this issue. He felt he just had to go to work and come home. Don't fall into that trap.