Love Is Not Enough with couples therapist Shawn McBride | A Bit of Optimism

Relationships are hard. No matter how much we like, respect, or love someone, conflict seems inevitable.
But even as we fight and disagree, we can also learn the skills we need to resolve our problems. For over two decades, Shawn McBride has helped thousands of couples do the work to strengthen their relationships. And he has tons of practical advice.
Shawn sat down with me to discuss the three biggest problems couples face, why I'm a huge fan of his Instagram, and how love can keep relationships afloat, but it's often not enough.
This...is A Bit of Optimism.
For more on Shawn and his work, check out:
www.couplescounselingcenter.org/
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Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together.
Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do.
Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including Start With Why, Leaders Eat Last, Together is Better, and The Infinite Game.
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Leaders Eat Last: simonsinek.com/books/leaders-...
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  • @lifetools-help8017
    @lifetools-help801728 күн бұрын

    I agree with Shawn 100%. My husband and I have learned the Heavenly Blessings that have and continue to come as he gives me the love, respect, communication, understanding, validation and so on, that I need. I have joy in expressing and admiring his many wonderful talents, characteristics, wisdom, communication skills, nuturing and loving nature and so on. In more words, we are each other's biggest cheerleaders, best friends, trustworthy, kind and honest. Excellent video!

  • @sarahalexander9243
    @sarahalexander9243Ай бұрын

    Simon my absolute favorite part of your podcast is when you bring out the common thread that ties your guest's favorite childhood memory and their favourite accomplishment in their area of work. Your ability to tease it apart and find that bottomline is SO cool. This guest said "Simon you are so wise"!! I echo that to you... Simon you are SO wise!!

  • @cartoonskpop3075
    @cartoonskpop3075Ай бұрын

    Saying sorry is such a "basic" thing but this talk made me realise just how much I got worse in it since the time I was a kid. And I realised my problem for apologising was the acceptance that I just did what I did, the fact I just hurt someone I so deeply cared about and that it was my fault, that I thought I was in a right, but there is noone in the right or everyone in the right when it comes to fighting. Because I myself did not want to realise what I just did I was reluctant to apologise and became much more defendant of my actions instead of simply humbling myself down.

  • @unityonenessify
    @unityonenessifyАй бұрын

    Thanks Simon for hosting this speaker. Wonderful!

  • @maurizionepi3331
    @maurizionepi3331Ай бұрын

    This conversation it’s one of the best pieces that I ever heard, it so enriched and hopefull that made me cry

  • @impactmakerstribe

    @impactmakerstribe

    Ай бұрын

    Wisdom at its best , great conversation

  • @visualsstudios
    @visualsstudiosАй бұрын

    Shawn and Simon, thank you for this powerful conversation!

  • @impactmakerstribe
    @impactmakerstribeАй бұрын

    Love can bring people together but to stay together , it's helpful to share similar goals and values.

  • @gnxk1854
    @gnxk1854Ай бұрын

    Thank you for bringing this kind of conversation.

  • @carline1489
    @carline1489Ай бұрын

    I keep in mind connecting emotionally before correcting

  • @olgamurguia4476
    @olgamurguia4476Ай бұрын

    Gracias Simon por presentarnos a Shawn. Hermosa conversación entre dos personas geniales ❤

  • @naglaaabdraboh5788
    @naglaaabdraboh5788Ай бұрын

    Thanks a lot for both of you ❤ Simon is and always my inspiration

  • @rideronthestorm4294
    @rideronthestorm4294Ай бұрын

    What a valuable 50 minutes of my life!!!

  • @LeadershipA187
    @LeadershipA187Ай бұрын

    We love you simon..

  • @rodrigoandrade1657
    @rodrigoandrade1657Ай бұрын

    Man, that was awesome!

  • @user-lx9rq3mp2q
    @user-lx9rq3mp2qАй бұрын

    Amazing..

  • @venoalbazy77
    @venoalbazy77Ай бұрын

    Simon to the rescue, we hear but not always listen ❤ nonetheless, great video 😊❤️

  • @evasccl7846
    @evasccl7846Ай бұрын

    Certainly, the "love" form as the world portrays and sings about... is NOT enough in any way, shape or form!

  • @Livingguestbook
    @LivingguestbookАй бұрын

    Simon this absolutely crushes me. That would you put a clip like this out there is so confusing to me. This man is saying “sorry you didn’t know you were to blame that your spouse cheated.” Coming from someone who devoted so much time and energy to making my spouse feel special only to be discarded and undervalued sets me back years. I am crushed that you would air this without talking about the other side. Sometimes cheaters are cheaters.

  • @BigMek667

    @BigMek667

    Ай бұрын

    I'm sorry this happened to you. You should watch it again. The argument is much more complex than that. He roots it deep in childhood trauma, that you, as a spouse, simply cannot solve alone if your partner doesnt work too.

  • @harmonylifewithjess1593
    @harmonylifewithjess1593Ай бұрын

    Congrats on the 2mill here 😉👍

  • @foramchandarana6478
    @foramchandarana6478Ай бұрын

    Simon throwing his WHY question at 43:00, 45:00, what is it about this couple? Pick one story! Early childhood memory

  • @user-rq1ly6pf5b
    @user-rq1ly6pf5bАй бұрын

    What happened to your arm Simon.... I pray fast recovery with God's blessings !!! ❤️

  • @OlgaSunny-pl2sg
    @OlgaSunny-pl2sgАй бұрын

    I often hear this phrase that woman want to talk it is incorrect in my case maybe I am weird. I like to be silent I feel people’s energy and that is sufficient for me. I can be with my loved ones and we would not be talking just drinking coffee baking it doesn’t always entail communication. We just spend time together and enjoy each other’s company. I think it also had to do what astrological sign you were born under.

  • @kevinbissinger

    @kevinbissinger

    Ай бұрын

    54 comments on this channel says otherwise. Seems like you want to talk a lot but you hate the stereotypes. Gender is just a construct, fighting against it is just as damning to your sense of self as fighting for it.

  • @OlgaSunny-pl2sg

    @OlgaSunny-pl2sg

    Ай бұрын

    I wish that was the case but we all reflect based on our experiences.

  • @Gorf1234

    @Gorf1234

    Ай бұрын

    Isn't the "women want to talk" a generalisation? A woman might want to talk two hours, they might want to talk less, they might not want to talk, they might want their _partner_ to talk (whatever their partner's gender). The lesson that I saw here was that each party needs to understand the other person's needs and accommodate them, rather than try to "fix" them so they coincide with own needs.

  • @OlgaSunny-pl2sg

    @OlgaSunny-pl2sg

    Ай бұрын

    @@Gorf1234 I don’t know if this is cultural or simple a human nature but I disagree.

  • @Gorf1234

    @Gorf1234

    Ай бұрын

    @@OlgaSunny-pl2sg Disagree with what? That people are different?

  • @blondieyogagirl
    @blondieyogagirlАй бұрын

    Hi Simon, if you are I interested by this kind of subject, I highly recommend you to check on Thais Gibson. She is mastering attachment styles and relationship. She is amazing and makes you have s’il many breakthroughs ❤

  • @colouredIncognito
    @colouredIncognitoАй бұрын

    We started a relationship with me cheating on my ex partner from an abusive relationship. I have no clue how to make it up to her, how to show how much i regret, and how much i am into her.😢

  • @brain_respect_and_freedom
    @brain_respect_and_freedomАй бұрын

    👍

  • @GarrettAvery108
    @GarrettAvery108Ай бұрын

    Did someone catch the R in SMART?

  • @tarinabrits2598

    @tarinabrits2598

    21 күн бұрын

    Reading your partners emotions

  • @jmac6973
    @jmac6973Ай бұрын

    instead of apologizing, my wife tells me "I know I know, its always my fault." its infuriating. rarely there is a real apology. if there is one, its usually, "well sorry!" coupled with an excuse

  • @JayJay-bp5bw
    @JayJay-bp5bwАй бұрын

    What's your take on Polygamy?

  • @vatsalbhatt1111
    @vatsalbhatt1111Ай бұрын

    Bro looks like Chris Gayle😅

  • @haetube0
    @haetube0Ай бұрын

    아마 해일로 인간들 반이 다 작살났을 때쯤 사랑을 깨닫게 됌. 그냥 나쁜 놈들 징역살이나 하면 좋겠음.

  • @Timberbeartrail
    @TimberbeartrailАй бұрын

    What happened to Simon’s arm? He’s got a standup job there isn’t any agility course that he runs lol what happened Simon what’s going on?

  • @jadonbaldwin8365

    @jadonbaldwin8365

    Ай бұрын

    Plenty of people break bones when they’re not at their “job”…

  • @alenaadamkova7617
    @alenaadamkova7617Ай бұрын

    John Gray: "Estrogen makes women emotional, and during stress the female brain notices the problems 10 times more...she feels an urgency to alarm everybody about it. Testoserone makes men much more calm and focused on tasks, therefore hormone testosterone is about problem-solving." Women need probably doing a yoga or Qi-gong to feel grounded so she will not disturb the amn when focusing on his jobs. I was wondering "the alarm state" of mind" probably comes from ancient times when woman tried to keep her new born baby safe and alive, and the brain was probably in the scarecity reaction of subconscious mind program, so she would alarm everybody, please help, my child has a flu, or some bacteria etc so maybe the estrogen hormone craeted such a chaotic state of mind over the generations, I wonder if its genetic thing. Other wise why would the estrogen create such chaos in her mind,10 times more during the stress situation, if its purpose wouldn´t be the alarm system of the mind...please come save the baby from the flu or some virus etc? And men are technical geniuses usually so they realise immediatelly what the baby needs, she knows it too in other ways, but she isnt as technical as men are, when it comes to crisis. So these two hormones probably have its purpose, but we should learn to manage it.

  • @kevinbissinger

    @kevinbissinger

    Ай бұрын

    Both sexes have testosterone and estrogen. They're not gendered hormones, they're just hormones.