My father was an angry abusive drunk. So was his dad, and his dad’s dad, and so on. I don’t hate my father for. I feel sorry that he went through that and didn’t know better. I am breaking the cycle with my own children.

@gabrielgboucher6546

Жыл бұрын

Im really happy you broke the cycle. I have been addicted to pretty much anything: Alcohol, opiates, pills, weed, etc. And it destroyed my life , continue on ths right track Sir!

@AdaptiveApeHybrid

Жыл бұрын

That cycle of trauma is fucking real. Best of luck.

@anticoomer

Жыл бұрын

King

@imissvainglory6216

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like my dad. You shouldn't feel sorry for someone who beats their kids. No offense but our dad's are pieces of shit

@AdaptiveApeHybrid

Жыл бұрын

@@imissvainglory6216 everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I find that people who are more ego driven and who believe in free will are much less forgiving than people who are the opposite of that. Both views are valid. Your way of seeing the world is one of many. Have some tact and respect.

I’m a veteran of the Vietnam Nam War . When I arrived home at the airport no body gave a dam about what I’ve through. I was nineteen years old when I got drafted . It was my first time really sent away from home. It was one hell of experience. My friends at home had nothing to do with me when I came home. My only friends are veterans to this day because we all have something in common to matter what branch the are from. Thanks for your vlog and have a Merry Christmas stay save my friend.

@NarcArtTherapy

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry you experienced that. It's shameful.

@cowdogg3085

Жыл бұрын

Sir, it's my honor to say, thank you for your service. 🙏

@Rick-fz7tt

Жыл бұрын

@@cowdogg3085 Thank you . I appreciate that very much. I’m grateful their are still a few people like you around.

@pacempax5236

Жыл бұрын

Thankyou for your service

@Christina-xu1yd

Жыл бұрын

Sir with respect I want to thank you for all that you have done.

This is the most well balanced channel for young people I have found. You’re not over the top with your takes, you’re not driving a flashy car and you’re not selling any e-courses. It’s nice.

@straw_napper2847

Жыл бұрын

The thing i definitely want

@DentSideDee71

Жыл бұрын

The way it should be!

@bluffgawd

Жыл бұрын

Don’t give him any ideas 😂 nah I love this channel too

@iamslav6158

Жыл бұрын

Not trying to induct us into his cult -_-

@Guitar4516

Жыл бұрын

Just say Andrew Tate dude lmao

My daddy was real quiet. Passed away in 2017. He’d married a psychopath. He stayed & stayed. Only now with internet, I figure it all out. I feel so bad for him, because he basically just lived in his bedroom because she’d humiliate him in all kinds of ways. It breaks my heart. I loved him the most, he showed me peace, and the beauty of nature, and provided it all. He got took, and stayed. He didn’t have a clue the reality of the abuses he was in. It’s hurts.

@josephgraves2092

Жыл бұрын

So sad Good men usually take more than they should This Era has demonized all MEN

@danam2584

Жыл бұрын

❤❤

@soonerdave01

Жыл бұрын

My Uncle's first wife fits that description to a "T" only he divorced her (after she tried to stab him, no less) and eventually married my mom's sister. He was also a WWII vet in the European Theatre. Battle of the Bulge Vet. Rarely talked about it, too. I'm now retired from the Air Force and after 25 years of service, all I can say is: military guys, for some reason, pick lousy wives.

@chilloften

Жыл бұрын

@@soonerdave01 Ues my dad was Korean War. He was 81 when he passed on. He always had his papers all organized, bills and everything. Anyway, I feel so quirky these days, because it hurts. He was so quiet. I never asked him much, but he said he was a medic. But it’s not true, my mom found awards for sniper and threw it all away. Anyway, it just wasn’t known back then, these abuses are wrong. We were all dysfunctional and had no clue. It feels horrid, because I know exactly how she had him feeling. He didn’t deserve it, no, not at all. She alienated us, right in our very own home, from him, from his side of the family. I’m sad, I’m hurt.

@jamesreal7987

Жыл бұрын

SORRY

My buddy got shot in the back in 1967 half paralyzed him in both legs, a year later a drunk driver ran him over in his wheel chair took his right arm off. He later raised 2 great kids, had many companies, he was my friend. He was one of the strongest person I knew. Much respect too everyone.

My uncle (my mother's brother) served as a ships surgeon on an aircraft carrier in the Pacific in WW2. He made it home, raised four boys and ran a successful medical practice. Don't know how he did it, because getting him to talk about his war experiences was very, very hard. He was trying his best to forget and carry on. That taught me something about respecting others.

@Mike-dd9vv

Жыл бұрын

@Squirt pussy Assfart hey, quit pointing out that the heads of the CDC, FDA, Wallstreet, and the Banking sector are mainly Jewish people, it means nothing

@LongdistanceRider22

Жыл бұрын

When you talk about things, it brings it back from the past, and you have to relive it ….. my mom talked about her experiences on her deathbed

@kevindecoteau3186

Жыл бұрын

My dad served in the Philippines, came home and for years drowned himself in the bottle until it took his life.

@MrTarzan2day

Жыл бұрын

My grandfather did the same, medic in the pacific, came home and raised 4 boys. This is some good perspective. Thanks Dwayne.

@stephanieyoung3198

Жыл бұрын

@@kevindecoteau3186 😔 God bless you ❤🕊

Fifteen years ago I was sitting at my desk and my 18 year old son came in and sat down. I asked him what he wanted and he told me that he wanted to go into the Airforce and become a medic who jumps out of a hovering helicopter on the battlefield to treat and rescue the wounded. For a moment I couldn't breathe. I felt horror come over me. I remembered my time as a crew chief and door gunner in Vietnam when I was 18 years old. In an instant I recalled raising him from an infant and again, terror filled me. I was speechless and I saw him sitting there looking back at me waiting for a response. As odd as it seemed to me at the time, the only thing that came out of my mouth was, "Do you want to end up like me?" He said no. He went to college instead. Dewayne, I don't know how you ever picked up on this topic or how you know so much about it. You did good here. Thanks.

@lordsesshoumaru8596

Жыл бұрын

sounded by they way he worded it the he is a nam vet, idk but he said they & then we the 2nd time I believe including himself. if so he didn't pick up on the topic, it is his topic. good call with your son, but just don't let what happened in nam be in vain & make sure you son wasn't indoctrinated into communism at college, 15 years ago isn't as bad as today but the seeds were planted that long ago that became the disgrace that is "higher learning" today. $100+k communism participation medals as diploma.

@lordsesshoumaru8596

Жыл бұрын

8:25 he changed they to we and then spoke as if he was there to know the reality of the war games being played. sounds like he was there but is just being really subtle about it.

@AllergicFungus

10 ай бұрын

Joining the marine corps changed my life and made me a good man with many friends. Just because you had a bad experience doesn't mean you have the right to shoot others dreams down. I wanted to be a marine since I was 13, and when I turned 18 I made that happen. Never regretted that decision... Even after 3 combat tours in Afghanistan. We all saw evil, but sometimes evil needs to be dealt with...

@FukcAUsername

9 ай бұрын

He said he has never fought in a war in the video

@gabelincoln3608

6 ай бұрын

He didn’t shoot his dreams down. He asked a question and answered it honestly

Dwayne , my dad wasn't from a lost generation , he was a member of the Greatest Generation. I've wrote to you before about him , he was a real "Cowboy" born in 1918 , lived in Indiana on a farm/ranch and he went through WW2 as a platoon leader (2nd LT) in the Philippines fighting the Japanese. When he came home he got his journeymans license as a machinist , raised a family of 2 sons and 1 daughter. He smoked and drank a little bit but what veteran didn't in that era. He never showed signs of PTSD although he probably had it to some extent being a combat vet. He passed away in 1971 and there's not a day that goes by that I don't think of him and I'm 61 now. He was a great man from the "Greatest Generation".

@DreamyElvis

Жыл бұрын

Beautiful story. Thank you for that. I have several videos about our veterans, all my great uncles served. I used to treat veteranss with PTSD. I grew up around folks born between 1880-1920. I feel lost today. Miss those folks terribly.

@lordsesshoumaru8596

Жыл бұрын

or the reality just never hit him believing in valor. I've heard Japan surrendered 3 days before the atom bombs were dropped, just like I've heard Japan declared war well before pearl harbor & the US detected the attack on radar but let it happen as a reason for public support to enter the war. regardless, saving lives by not deploying in Japan as an excuse to drop atomic bombs is ridiculous, the island could have been surrounded until they surrendered, dropping the bombs was an ungodly experiment by the side your dad desperately wanted to believe was the " good guys"

I often think about all the trauma people experienced through the ages that was never recorded. Up until the last 25 years or so you would've basically had to write a book if you wanted to get your story out. Imagine all the stuff people suffered alone with. Not even having the language or concepts to articulate it. Bad things happened, and that was that. Imagine all the trauma that's been passed down through hundreds of generations. It makes sense why things are the way they are today. But individuals have more power now than ever before to share kindness and compassion. It'll probably still take a while, but I hope I live to see that overcome the pain people are consumed by.

@thatkajunguy8029

Жыл бұрын

@@osakarose5612 lol. That's my favorite saying Merry Christmas to you

@DryCreekWranglerSchool

Жыл бұрын

It was recognized as existing, but nobody ever knew what to do about it until recently. It went completely untreated. I’m just grateful you were not condescending or slightly arrogant in your post. Ignorance may be bliss but arrogance is a boil on the butt of humanity.

@jackjack4412

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. I think if each man kept a personal journal throughout the years, that would've helped to take a load off.

@lordsesshoumaru8596

Жыл бұрын

@@DryCreekWranglerSchool it was coined as shell shock but was probably understood before ww1, because although war brings out the extremes of inhumanity the reality is it's just the breaking point of a person. it's not specific or exclusive to witnessing war, everyone has a threshold limit & the extremes of war can easily exceed it. try being a Christian & knowing the reality of a constant spiritual war that everyone seems oblivious to but is participating in...

@lordsesshoumaru8596

Жыл бұрын

It's a nice sentiment but was addressed in biblical scripture thousands of years ago. all manner of circumstances have happened to someone at some time, so it's never an excuse. you wanna know something F'd up that was recorded, the bronze bull or brazen bull... or how about the roman colosseum. We're told not to worry about tomorrow because today has enough worries of it's own, isn't it foolish to go looking for worries of yesterday..? don't become obsessed with suffering & making it a competition looking for the high scores, it's irrelevant when you already know bad is bad no matter its degree.

Thank you for this video. Generational trauma is not talked about enough. It effects so many people, especially the "Boomer" and other older generations. When there was zero mental health understanding.

@jimmieraper5807

Жыл бұрын

I really appreciate his point how easy it is to group think and label people by generation, color etc. I try to remember always to take the correct mindset people all people are indiduals. I wonder what the odds of a threat of nuclear exchange with former USSR. Transfer over into a trauma that is so intensity present it's hard to quantify what the effects of total Annihilation would do to a whole entire generation and they survived that test and thrived really ,and probably offended many by off the top drivel. I really appreciate all the men and women my fellow citizens who are the best in the world America is a true success no one can deny earlier and current generations are to be respected for there accomplishment . Dwayne is the Pinnacle of cool headed rational careful thought anyone would admire.

@breatheeasily4013

Жыл бұрын

There still isn't. Just people pretending to be nice.

49 year old Vet here. I have been saying this for 20 years and it still leaves me broken hearted every time I walk into the VA and see the continuing casualties. The generational void is vacuous and we continue the madness. Thank you Dwayne. This is a real service. I have my own experiences to reconcile and I still live with Viet Nam when my father cries and screams in his sleep, reliving the horror of what he saw and did EVERY FREAKING NIGHT. I cannot describe the feelings this engenders in me. Pray God we find peace and reconciliation.

@anthonywickett5212

Жыл бұрын

I work as an emt and I do a lot of work for the VA. The VA needs to step up their mental health services.

My grandfather was in the navy during Vietnam and was a gunner during the Cuban missile crisis. His father used to beat the hell out of him and in turn when it was my grandfather's turn he used to smack around my dad and uncles. It was less than what he got as a kid but he still did then when my parents had me my dad swore he would never lay a hand on his children in anger and he never hit me or my brother. Now my old man wasn't perfect by any measure but my family is slowly breaking the cycle of raising damaged children.

Good words of wisdom. We can all and SHOULD put forth the effort to build each other up instead of all this tearing apart that’s happening today!! God bless everybody and god bless America!! 💪💯🇺🇸

@Longneckmexican

Жыл бұрын

Well said Bryan. wish people had the same mentality think of how awesome things would be. Laughs having good ol times and not taking things so serious glad to see there is still good folks out here still god bless have a merry Christmas!

@Namonarayana789

Жыл бұрын

@@Longneckmexican hare Krishna Brother yeah be with God Be strong wisdom is lost from today's society. I'm a hindu from India Same happening in my country also Very sad to see new generation becoming 🐖like animals.

@inextinguishablemoltenblooded

Жыл бұрын

Supreme greetings It all starts with the man in the mirror ! Ready! Fight on!

There are so many facets of this story to be told. I had the pleasure of befriending an old timer a few years back who passed away recently with dementia. He was a big tall strong fella and I can only imagine the strong character and force of nature he was as a young man fighting in Korea. He came home to his wife and children and went on to try to raise them, finding out much later in life that at least one of the children was not his own. He struggled to provide for his family and "do what was Right" to stay and his wife continued to be unfaithful. He stayed until all of the children were raised then divorced and went on to live alone for the last half of his life. I would stop by and have coffee now and then, as this big kindhearted fellow lived close by. I remember how he trembled at times telling me these stories of his life with deep sadness and anger still in his heart well into his 80's. Please spend more time on this subject Dwayne. So many need to hear it. Thanks for all you do on here.

@UnityFromDiversity

Жыл бұрын

Powerful comment.

@Andrew-zr1jt

Жыл бұрын

Wow , thanks for the story

@lordsesshoumaru8596

Жыл бұрын

that's messed up but before I got to the part about a kid not being his, I already had in mind all the fatherless kids left in these wars by troops getting the local women pregnant consenting or not. ppl are terrible monsters & shouldn't be glorified for finding a conscience & morals, that's the standard & expectation remember...

My father is a Marine that fought in Vietnam and was badly wounded. He came home, made a family and raised 6 kids pretty much on his own. It was a crazy life we came up in, but he did the best he could. The respect I have for him is and will always be beyond explainable. He's 76 now and I'm 43 with a family of my own and I owe a lot of who I came to be to him. Strongest man I know.

When I was about 7 or 8 I remember being at a family Thanksgiving party and my uncle woke up back in Vietnam. The most blood curdling screaming you ever heard. That was maybe 18 or 19 years ago. A long time after he was there. Gave me a huge respect for the folks that fight for us. After he calmed down he went outside with my dad and his cousins and was telling stories I wasn't supposed to hear. The man saw and did awful shit. All in the name of country. I couldn't imagine the pain he lives with.

As of Vietnam vet Dwayne thank you thank you for saying the truth my father was a world war II vet he wasn't quite right me as a Vietnam vet I wasn't quite right I'm 75 now and I believe I'm beginning to get a little right I appreciate your thoughts and what you're doing and what you're saying the truth will always set you free and Merry Christmas to you and yours 🐝

@elihujohnson9234

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your service.

You’re spot on Dwayne, I grew with the WW2, Korean and Vietnam veterans. They were my uncles, supervisors and best of all my friends. I inherited my work ethic, compassion and love of family from those men.

My dad came home from WW2 and I was 3. He was a stranger. And we never bonded. It wasn't until much later I found out that there is an entire generation who had a stranger for a dad. I enjoy listening to your thoughtful and compassionate talks, you're a thinker and you make me think more. Thank you.

Man, Duane, if anything ever NEEDED to be said, it was this! This was powerful. Thank you!

100% hit the nail on the head. Europe never really recovered from the loss of human potential from ww1. I say ww1 specifically because all the decent good men where the first ones to sign up for it because they didn't know better.

My great-grandfather was in WW1 and was discharged for what back then they called shell shock. One day he walked into the woods and was never seen again - still has not been found. His son, my grandfather, had bullet wounds in his back from WW2. He would never talk about it, and would sit alone in the dark and drink. He shot himself when my father was 19. The effect of all this on my father was obvious to me as a child. This trauma is generational. Great video on a topic that is too rarely discussed.

@RagnarLothbrok2222

Жыл бұрын

Wow, horribly sad. Thanks for sharing

@sadhu7191

Жыл бұрын

And you??? U having fun life

@elizabethrindfleisch6878

Жыл бұрын

War has consequences on so many levels. Thank you for sharing your generational wounds. Hope you'll be able to pave the way for a scar-free generation.

@inextinguishablemoltenblooded

Жыл бұрын

@@elizabethrindfleisch6878 invincibility to the scars is optimal True diamond mind status An Unbreakable psyche Now that's worth more than gold !!!!

@inextinguishablemoltenblooded

Жыл бұрын

I dare say eclipsing diamond mind status and graduating to an even higher evolution of mental power and capacity

Your channel just randomly popped up in my feed. I’m so glad it did. I love the way you say things and the points you make. You’re a good, genuine person unafraid to boldly and kindly speak Godly truth. It’s so refreshing to see. Thank you

Thank you. I've often reflected on this subject and realize the brokenness each of us face. May God give us the grace and compassion to treat each other better!

I took care of my dad for 20 years In the home and I was glad to do it saved his dignity and his life to let him have a good one he died October tenth and im between jobs he did best he could and I did too

I've honestly never thought about why older generations are how they are. It's not just the people who've been to war, but those raised by people who were sent to war. I really needed to hear this, thank you.

I know this message is for the men…. One thing I want to say is, I agree. My great grandfather fought in WW I and WW II, his son, my grandfather fought in WW II. It’s only by God’s grace they came home alive. The memories though stayed with them, and suffered from terrible nightmares. One thing I remember my mom saying, you don’t ask them to talk to you about what they endured, because they won’t talk about it. It’s something they want to forget. Having compassion for them is so important. Thanks for sharing Dewayne.

Your are absolutely right about having grace, I prefer the term respect. I’m a 22 yr veteran, my dad was a veteran and so was his. Most everyone I know is a vet. And most all of us have seen things and experienced things no one should ever have to. But freedom ain’t and we are men. And just because I went through something’s doesn’t relieve me of my my duties to family, friends and community. We all have our demons. The real question is whether or not we choose to let them make us victims or we choose to move forward

Great respect from Russia, sir. The worst thing is that wars will go on and humanity will never learn from its mistakes.

@tanelpolts7257

10 ай бұрын

That's so funny coming from a country full of warmongers 😂

@jensen4.042

10 ай бұрын

I can't be responsible for a bunch of bloodthirsty freaks. If everything depended on me, I assure you that I would choose to live peacefully and create, rather than engage in murder and destruction.

@m.p.7075

9 ай бұрын

​@@tanelpolts7257FFS that's a damn ignorant comment. WTF do you know about what the average Russian thinks or has to live through. And if you can't see the irony of an American in the 2020s calling any country a warmongering nation you are a damn fool. US actively involved in trying to change around 70 regimes since 45. Regan promising NATO wouldn't expand one inch east in the 80s. Like the man says, show a single bit of grace to your fellow man.

@DoseOfVirality

3 ай бұрын

@@tanelpolts7257bro.. the states is 10X worse. 😂 Blind sheep.

@DoseOfVirality

3 ай бұрын

@@tanelpolts7257are you to blame for the actions of your leaders? Then don’t blame him for being Russian you goof.. we’re all targets.

Amen....as for pipe tobacco, Sutliff Molto dolce....thank you sir, for your wisdom and grace.

Your like a grandpa i never had, i listen to you on some hard days. love from India

I am on Hospice, I am expiring too. I am dying because of a US Navy fund command site with exposed chemicals. Three feet behind me is the bad that I will be laying on when I meet my Heavenly 'Father'. I have two boys that will not have a father. That's what scares me. This video is truly anointed. This video is what I needed. Thank you.

@tommysimpson807

Жыл бұрын

Praying for you. God bless.

@jimmieraper5807

Жыл бұрын

My father served on the Enterprise. I am thankful to you, because this country will have ups and downs but will also have our heroes that left the mark of excellence toe that line we also can be worthy of our past generations sacrifices. God bless you.

@momma370

Жыл бұрын

God be with you and guide you through your transition. I am truly grateful to you for your service but saddened to the core for what our government has done to so many such as yourself. When your time comes, fly proudly with the Angels and protect your family from above. We will continue the battle from here . God Bless 🙏❤

@Jason-xm4ov

Жыл бұрын

@@momma370 ❣

Man! Spot on! Thanks for the understanding. Being a real man isn't popular, but thank God for having heroes to look up to and be our role model I m almost 65 years old and have seen a lot of life. Keep up the good work. You're making a difference. God bless you and yours!

@tommysimpson807

Жыл бұрын

How refreshing is it to see a MAN! Man love this dude.

@TheHappinessOfThePursuit

Жыл бұрын

Yes, men like this saved my life and helped me pull my head out of my ass. There are so few left, most are like women, most boomer men are - they went for the easy booze and food or easy money and their manliness went away so they could ride the lie. They become emotional and therefore easily manipulated. The boys today are completely destroyed and turned into girls, emotional, soft, pathetic. It’s very sad that our tax dollar do this in the schools and the media programs their brains with debauche, filth, violence, and evil, and they grow to love it and think it good. If you tell them it’s wrong, they want to kill you.

Brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for allowing God to work through you.

Empathy….. imagine yourself in the other man’s boots, then imagine walking through the trenches in those boots. This is what this world is lacking. Everyone is spending so much time trying to make their voice heard, they spend no time trying to listen to what the other persons is saying and really trying to understand it and feel what they are feeling. Love your videos! Please keep speaking your truth so we all my learn by it.

I truly believe that anyone, at any given time, can find strength to stop the wheel of pain. We never know the consequence of our actions, so we never know how much a simple "how are you?" might make a huge difference to someone. You are making the world a better place, Dwayne. Thank you for this video!

I've always been one to judge and have absolutely been the one to say "ok boomer" and just write stuff off because of someone's appearance or how they acted without thinking any further. this video has definitely been something to think about in my life. I used to be super into far right politics and racism etc. about 3 years ago. I stopped and have been much happier just not getting involved in any politics or conflicts whatsoever. Recently I've been through some life events that have left me completely broken and unable to function because my depression hit me like a truck and I've got ptsd from it. definitely makes me rethink what I assume of people at a first glance and I realized everybody's got something going on too or has had something happen that really affected them as well.

Man I appreciate your wisdom. It hits home for me, I haven't been allowed to see my daughter for 11yrs because when I got out of the marine corps I was still yelling when I spoke and was directed towards my ex-wife (hindsight I wasn't being mean to her, it was what I did everyday for 4yrs). My current wife of 7yrs can't believe that I would of been that way. For those of you in similar situations, THINGS WILL GET BETTER!! Keep on keeping on, be a man and never give up!!

My Dad was drafted at age 18 for ‘Nam. 101st AB. They had me 20 years after he came back. He was damaged. Not physically. PTSD, a laundry list of mental issues. He was spat upon when he returned, he tells me. He didn’t drink, smoke, or do drugs. He was unable to always control those demons and my Mom & his sons suffered for it. He was a self deletion (for YT reasons I use that term) threat and also a threat to us. He told me when I was 6 that I’d die alone. Always said odd stuff. A child cannot understand these things. When I became a man and of course now had my own laundry list of my own, I prayed hard and forgave him. 1,000lbs of bricks I didn’t know I was carrying fell off of me. Re-established a Father Son bond. Respect at least, as men. We even joke about who is crazier these days. When you see an old man walking down the street, it’s ok to stop and ask if he needs help. He’s seen and been through things you might not be able to imagine. Respect. Agape. “Love one another as your love yourselves.” I’m 6’5 so at the grocery store just about everybody asks me to grab something for them. It makes you feel good to do good. Gets your mind away from the bad thoughts. Hold those doors for people, especially older ones. Help them with their groceries if they need it. I try my best to do these things to break the chain so my boy will grow up knowing how to be a true man. It ain’t easy. Sometimes your mind plagues you. Sometimes my Dad calls and curses for no reason. Then it passes. Better he curse on a phone then do something violent. Then that passes and he’s sorry. He genuinely is…I’ve seen him spin around when hearing fireworks- flashback. I guess I could’ve just said you can’t control everything, but you can try and in trying you’ll become better yourself. God bless you sir for this video. I hope many guys women too see this. Gotta get back to basics. If watching an old lady cross the street to get her mail to make sure she doesn’t fall makes you late for work then so be it. He’s right. Respect is the only way out of this mess online and in real life. I wish anyone that read this far too long comment the absolute best.

4 generations of duty and struggle. We faltered but eventually we all stood and passed on to the next what it was to be a man and a human. Unfortunately, I see little if that for the next generations. Thanks Dwayne

Thank you. My husband was talking about this 3 days prior to coming across this U-Tube post only thing he mentioned that you didn't was ... the Smell of rotting bodies you never forget. Aloha! Mr. D

Thank you for saying this, I served and proudly. "No one really knows" is the truest of the true sayings. Thank you sir 💪🇺🇸💪

dead set, made me cry. you're a bloody good man,

Love from Serbia!!! That line with the trenches was the same one i speak every day to myself and others and I was shocked to hear it hear it from you Sir ! Keep it up, you are doing the Lords work with videos like these! God Bless to all of ya

Thank you for this, I'm 33 and I needed to hear this message of forgiveness and compassion. It's been a real strigglento find an angle to have this understanding lately. My father worked all this life, hard and I feel he carries himself heavy, from the burdens and challenges, and the struggles he sees my brothers and I face alone, because he doesn't understand this world anymore. This made me want to really reach out.

@lordsesshoumaru8596

Жыл бұрын

I'm 42 & my dad would just beat me like an animal to release his stress. when asking for help like a co sign he'd say how he worked & paid for all his things. when paying rent to live in his house he put my things out on the curb for trash because he wanted me to leave, didn't understand things cost more & we get paid less than in his golden age. should let your dad know you appreciate him if you still can... ironically I guess these struggles of being a man are what feminists are saying what was oppression, lol when did men find the time for that recreation ?

You remind me of my dad so much. What a beautiful message. Thanks for sharing ❤

You sir are an amazing with the way you speak, I sure wish I could of had this wisdom when I was younger,but now I'm gonna apply what I can now !! You are just incredible .thankyou🙏💞

My 82 year old dad had nightmares for decades from Vietnam. This past year he finally seemed more calm than I've ever seen him....cause he's loosing his memory.

“Some people meet some mentor along the way, they find what they need and get through it” You sir are that mentor to a lot of people, keep posting your advice us young folks need it! Love from UK

@TheOReport1994

Жыл бұрын

"Some people meet some mentor along the way, they find what they need and get through it” But for others, they themselves have to become the mentor they needed earlier in life, to find that's what they need to get through it.

Well said, once again (and with such deserved emotion.) Thank you Dewayne. “No one’s bad when they’re born, but they can grow up that way. And we really don’t know what they go through each day.”

People under the age of 25 or so probably don’t even understand what grace is. They have been failed by the schools, the “leaders” of this country and their parents. And those parents are probably the first generation that weren’t shipped off to war. Our society is declining unfortunately, but I can appreciate this video and I hope this message gets out there and maybe it’ll make the difference.

This video hit home. Without making this a novel I'd love to tell anyone who'll take the time to read about my grandfather. My mother was 15 when she became pregnant with me. Dad left as soon as he found out... My mom waited 6 months to tell my grandparents out of fear of what they would think. From what she's told me they understandably weren't very happy with her. Regardless they tried to support her. My grandfather expressed he thought I should be given over to an adoption agency, thinking it was the best shot I'd have at a stable life... My grandparents were at a rough point in their marriage, and my mom was 15, what sort of stability would that bring? So I was born, 2 and a half weeks after my mother's 16th birthday, her "belated birthday gift" as she affectionately calls me sometimes. My mom told me the moment I was placed in my grandfather's arms, he broke down crying and said something along the lines of "we are not giving him up". I became my grandpa's little follower around the small hobby farm. Riding on the tractor on his lap... Later mom would find 3 year old me playing with the small farmall tractor toy backing it up and exclaiming "oh Sh*t" over and over again... Grandpa had backed the tractor up a bit too far that day and dented the side of the shed, a few choice words came out and little toddler me picked the not so good ones to add to my small but growing vocabulary... As I grew I eventually joined my uncle on the hay rack, struggling to hoist the bails up but boy was I proud when I finally was able to stack them just like my uncle. Splitting fire wood, feeding the cows and chickens, cleaning up the dinner table after a meal, working on tractors, cars, and things around the farm. That was my childhood. I was always with grandpa, almost like his little duckling. My mom met my stepdad and married when I was 8. But I'd still come out to my grandparents almost every weekend. I loved being out there. Early on I found my "chores" with grandpa maybe not fun, but rewarding. The time I spent with him learning to become a decent man, well I wouldn't trade it for the world. Now, here's we're the video hits home. I'm 25 years old now, got a house, a stable job as a supervisor, a girl I can count on, I've grown up. Over the years as I've matured my grandpa has told me bits and pieces of his life growing up. My grandpa has always been a bit rough around the edges. A tender caring side but sometimes he was quick to anger. I remember him slamming the door and storming out to the garage a few times, and you knew you didn't follow grandpa then. He rarely said I love you, and I only saw the man cry twice... At his mother's funeral and the night I sang my first solo at my church's Christmas service. His father was in Vietnam... He came back a very changed man. He turned to drinking and his already short temper got even shorter. His dad only talked about what he experienced over there once according to grandpa and what he described wasn't very pretty. The drinking became more frequent, grandpa's mom even turned to the bottle after awhile as well. Both parents were angry drunks and my grandpa and his brother being the oldest of 5 children.. would take the brunt of these beatings. As I've looked back with that new perspective I find even more respect for my grandfather. He wasn't perfect, but he did the best he could. He'd leave the room as to not raise a hand against his loved ones. Family was so... so important to him, every night we ate at the dinner table as a family, and every night we'd work together to clean the table and dishes. He didn't say I love you but showed it in everything he did, dropping whatever he was doing to help any of us... He worked as an electrician and the years of climbing up and down ladders has slowly destroyed his hips and ankles... But he never let us see that growing up. He did what he could to put food on the table and tried his best not to make us worry. Grandpa is retired now.. he's getting older, his joints and muscles are slowly starting to fail him. It's hard to watch him silently struggle to do tasks he never had troubles with before. Getting off the ground, climbing onto the tractor... He's getting slower. Years are catching up to him. But for all the years he has shown me nothing but love, I still go out when I can to see him. I silently pick up the slack when needed, I offer help when I can. But I don't draw attention to it, I respect him to much. I don't tell him I've noticed how slow he is to stand up, he knows.. he doesn't need to be reminded, I just offer a hand so he knows the help is there if he needs it. I still love to sit on the porch and talk about life, tractors, cars, the latest recipe he's going to make for dinner... I just love spending time with him. And I hope when I'm finally ready to start my own family I can be a father my son or daughter can look up to, a pillar of support and comfort. I don't know what I'll do when my grandfather passes on, and I hope there's still many years before that comes to be... But I know I'll take a part of him wherever I go, I wouldn't be the man I am today, if I didn't have that man to guide me back then.

@Noncon4mist212

Жыл бұрын

Be strong

@TheDragonSeer

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. You'll be the pillar for your beautiful family one day, never ever doubt that.

@swlb2

11 ай бұрын

@@TheDragonSeer Thank you for taking the time to read! I appreciate the kind words friend

@mikefortune5363

10 ай бұрын

Good read.

@timharrison744

7 ай бұрын

You will go far in life my friend. Thank you for sharing your story. Very close to mine growing up with my grandpa and grandma. I am 63 and lost them many years ago now. Not a day goes by now that I don't think of them.

I am 20 years old and I respect everything you say, the old ways are just so lost but your videos bring me a lot of joy sir.

I appreciate the video, Dewayne. One important thing is that although everyone has a cross to bear - for example, being raised by broken people and ending up broken because of that -, it doesn't excuse, past a certain point and age, replicating bad behaviors. And these are precisely your thoughts, just in my own words, about the 'not excusing' people. Having empathy can help you understand why a man might spout hateful and racist words, for example. And empathy will help you understand why that man's son is likely to do the same someday. But a man isn't really fully grown until he sits down, reflects, studies, and realizes that he was raised wrong and needs to fix it. We all have some fixing up to do inside ourselves, I think.

@Water673

4 ай бұрын

Crien bien a sus hijos porque si ven que haces maldad ellos asi aprenderan, si ven que robas robaran si ven que eres negativo,maligno seran negativos pesimista, y cito unas escrituras, por sus frutos los conocereis,, crien a buenos hombres y mujeres, yo no fui criado lo mejor que se pudo, pero estoy aqui para cambiarlo todo, siento que jesucristo ya esta en mi vida ❤

We can pray for help for any one that needs help. God will help any one that asks!!!!

Dewayne, your voice even echos through Europe. All of us, wherever we are from, need a voice that guides us to the right things. Thank you for the effort you put in for us

Thank God for you!

It’s like listening to my dad talk, I love these videos thank you Sir we need more moments to reflect like this.

@Sh0n0

Жыл бұрын

My dad is garbage and they day he dies I’ll pop a champagne bottle lmao

Every Generation of men ( including myself ) has served dating back to the Civil War to the Iraq and Afghanistan war that I served in. I totally understand what you are saying. I sometimes get totally immersed I'm my work and won't talk to my Wife about what's truly going on in my head. I will start. Thanks for the words!

Very thoughtful video sir. When calling older individuals "boomers", it never crossed my mind that these people have had much harder childhoods than me.

I’ve always had a loving father who always made sure we were raised right. Taught us how to be a responsible accountable man. I’m glad you are putting this content out because I know way to many friends who weren’t taught how to be a man.

Grace requires contemplation, and contemplation requires discipline, and discipline requires self-reflection. Life doesn’t guarantee any of that, but life demands all of those …

@shemusmcshane6219

Жыл бұрын

Well said

It’s true, our generations lack proper thought. I was fortunate enough to meet an elder who was part of the Vietnam war. I consider him like my grandfather, since I never really met my own. The perspective and knowledge you gain just from talking is immense. Truly love talking to older generations. Not only for life insight but their experiences and stories spark me up knowing what their world was like. The more we talk the better we can be.

I am from different country but I can relate to this. My both grandfathers fought in WW2. After the war they did not talk about what happened there and drank heavily in their free time. My father was very distant too and drank too much at his freetime. Now I drink bit too much too but I am very much involved with my kids and interested about their life and spend a lot of time with them. It may take many generations to heal from wartime traumas.

This 18.09 minutes of listening to an intelligent and kind man share his aged and broadened perspective is some of the most well spent time I've experienced on youtube.

As a woman I Thankyou for speaking on this topic. Everyone needs to consider the wisdom you shared here. God bless you for sharing your wisdom.

I was born in the late 70s and it's always been my belief that the whole "thank you for your service" hollow lip service in the streets / face-to-face (and then keep on walking of course) was started by my parents' generation who sh*t SO hard on their own who came back from Vietnam. They soothed their generational guilt but never really addressed it (or were sorry). My father actually tried to join the military in the 70s but was deaf in one ear. I knew a few who were raised by Vietnam vets and yeah, it went on for decades.

Great message filled with compassion. My uncle was a paratrooper in WW2. He was a Screaming Eagle in the 101st airborne and came home a paraplegic after the Battle of the Bulge. He didn't talk about the war. Years after he died I read 'Kurrahee' and was stunned to get a glimpse of what he endured. PBS put us there with some great documentaries like The Civil War and The Great War. You are on point, Dewayne. Explains the generations that should never be forgotten and the demons that haunted them if they were fortunate enough to come back and raise a family with some sense of normalcy. Post-war children had to be greatly affected. Thanks for your insight!

@jharris0341

Жыл бұрын

Respect to your uncle.

@Jules-fh4rf

Жыл бұрын

@@jharris0341 Thank you

@sadhu7191

Жыл бұрын

Most serial killers had traumatic war times fathers

@ed4253

Жыл бұрын

@@sadhu7191 or Mothers who were disconnected, or led a nefarious lifestyle. Studies say lead gasoline exposure played a role.

I am so glad that you made this video! It was fantastic! You are putting words to a very deep wound for many MANY men! This also helps some of us ladies to have more compassion for the male struggles. As a daughter of a military officer is was very difficult for the rest of to see and feel how my father changed after he went through combat. The night terrors, the anger, the very private tears. My father was profoundly changed after combat. Thank you again for your compassionate lesson! 🤗

Blessings, Dwayne. Thank you for taking the time. You are on point! PRESS ON!

Thanks for sharing, Dewayne. No one knows what others have gone through, but they're awful quick to judge us despite that. I took my lumps on deployment in the early 2000's (⛩⛩⛩), like so many men my age, having lost a few buddies and having seen a few more get wounded, usually via IEDs. My grandfather saw some real shit in WW2 as well, though he never talked about it. My father didn't escape his dad's trauma (and thus inflicted it upon my brother and I), and my kids haven't escaped mine. I'm truly trying to deal with my own baggage to make a better life for myself, my kids, and my wife, but every day is a challenge. I'll never go down the path of self-pity, but I'm glad that I at least exist in a time where I have access to mental healthcare and the societal stigma for seeking such care isn't nearly as bad as it once was. I couldn't imagine having zero support beyond drinking buddies or condemning myself to work ridiculous hours. My kids haven't had the easiest time dealing with the repercussions of my own post-traumatic stress, anxiety, etc., which all bloomed to the surface after my time in the sandbox. But I have and continue to try to make myself better, more patient, more compassionate, and less angry at all of the things which surround me for the kids and my wife. I make sure I am involved in their school, their martial arts, their sports, and other activities. I may not always enjoy those things, but I make the effort for their sake. I try to talk to my young children about how awful war is and always will be, and about the camaraderie and pride I maintain after having served with outstanding soldiers, despite our differences and trials. I teach them to think, to use their logic and reasoning, to not rush to judgment, and to consider others' perspectives. Most importantly, I want them to avoid the pitfalls I've encountered, so they can build better lives for themselves and eventually their families. One day at a time, one generation at a time. That's how we make humanity better for all of us.

Great reminder that you never know what someone is going through. Thank you for all your wisdom. It's helping me right now more than I can possibly say.

My grandfather was in the Pacific Theater killing imperial Japanese Soldiers with his bare hands when he was 17. He fought that war mentally and in his sleep for the rest of his life and my dad still has a katana he took from one of his kills. My dad is a “boomer”. He raised 4 children including me, his only son. I’m the youngest. I’m happy to be here

@susanmenegus5543

Жыл бұрын

My grandfather fought against the Japanese in WW2 he was a corporal in the marine corps.

We appreciate you, uncle Dewayne. Much love & respect from Kuwait. 🙏

This one pulled at my heart strings and made me cry. I have so many grandfathers and great uncles that served, and the way you put it just choked me up. I am forever grateful for all of those who sacrificed for us. Wonderful video.

Sincere respect to you, Dwayne, on giving your thoughts on this topic. I am one of those you gave examples of. I served in the USMC in Vietnam and Desert Storm, now !00% disabled service connected paralyzed combat veteran. My Father and his two brothers served during WWII, Father at battle of the bulge, uncle at Iwo Jima, uncle in Italy campaigns. Great Grand uncle in Spanish American War, Great-Great GrandFather with Army of the Potomac, battles of Fredericksburg and Chancellorsville. Generations of our family serving as warriors go back even further according to my genealogy research. We have always looked at serving our country as our duty. It’s just what honorable men do. Yes, i experienced returning home from Vietnam to a country I didn’t know. It was tough, but most i, like most Vietnam vets, went to ground and simply got on with our lives the best we knew how. I have no regrets. I do it all again, 10,000 times. Those who criticize, assign labels to us, are just misguided and uninformed. I pray for them i do not have the power to change history of to change things they way they are today. I simply trust in God and pray. I’m 76 years old now, as my uncle used to say, “rounding third on my way to home.” Thank you, Dwayne, for your wisdom and willingness to share it.

@DryCreekWranglerSchool

Жыл бұрын

Sir, it seems so inadequate for me to say thank you and your family for your service. But from the bottom of my heart, I think you. I have tremendous amount of respect and honor for you and those like you who did what was asked of you, and came back home and carried on. My hats off to you sir.

@scottallen5269

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, for your service. My Dad list his older brother in Vietnam, and it messed him up. He lost his Dad when he was nine, and his brother was his protector. My Dad gave me his brothers Purple Heart when I was young, and I still cherish it. All you guys deserve nothing but respect. Thank you

@maxcorder2211

Жыл бұрын

God Bless You, my Brother. I am a veteran of two tours in Vietnam. I thank you for your service to our beloved country and to our fellow vets, for whom we both devoted our lives in battle. I can only wish you the very best and healing for your wounds. Rest comfortably in the arms of our great physician, Jesus.

@hsaid3263

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your service. And I thank all our military personnel who are active and our vets. People like you are what make America great and it will continue being great. Thank you for allowing us to continue having freedom of liberty. You have my respects

@albisteffen5085

8 ай бұрын

@@DryCreekWranglerSchool with all the respect, but isn't that one of the issues: "to do what one is asked to do" without properly thinking about it? See for example the covid situation, or any war or job related situation etc., when people feel deep within that it is not right, but they do it anyway, because they were asked to do so. Or they are brain washed and believe that this needs to be done. I don't want to attack anyone here and I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but I'm asking myself this question.

What a beautiful sober mind we are listening to!!! 👏🏾💙 I really love how you and your wife chose your words so carefully.

Wise words. God Bless

That was an excellent speech Dwayne! Thank you very much! This video reminded me of how I (as a younger person) am always called a “boomer” or a “nut head” by young peers around me who saw that I enjoyed chatting with older people. I’m always intrigued by the stories of older people (men and women), but never knew why or how to respond to such pathetic insults from my younger peers! Now I have a better perspective of things thanks to this video! Speaking of Lost Generations, I remember chatting with an elderly gentlemen several years ago about his career path. I was surprised to hear that he lost his father in a workplace accident when he was only 5 years old, and had a mother who was mostly absent in his youth (due to work). Back then in the 60s and 70s, he was labelled a retard by his teachers, guidance counsel, classmates and the school principles for being “uneducable”. In other words, nobody could teach him anything and he disliked everyone around him. However, he found an interest in electronics and radio equipment and would spend his free time building radios in his mom basement! Later on, he had a successful career as a radio technician apprentice and chief electronics technician! He only opened up to me because of my kind, easy going, and friendly personality! Everyone else just didn’t care or made quick judgements of him. I was amazed after that experience!

Dewayne sir, you're such a blessing to so many of your viewers. I can only imagine how proud your children as well as Momma are of you. I will be a student of yours in the future, hell, I'm a student of your even now. I live and try to use this common saying as a an ethos: Hard times create strong men., Strong men create good times., Good times create weak men., Weak men create hard times." This resonates quite loudly within my soul and in so many different ways I feel it has been the "implied learning point" within many of your discussions. I truly hope that anyone stumbling across this video listens clearly to the entire thing but actually hears when you state that the way someone is or how someone responds to things despite how they were raised or the experiences or exposures they have had may be a reason and not a justification. I've been eagerly awaiting this next video from you and I cant thank you enough for taking the time to do one. Blessing my friend and Merry Christmas.

We all have to lift each other up no matter what, because we haven’t walked in their shoes. We all need compassion towards one another,. what you are talking about is generational curses That need to be broken by brave souls. Thank you Sir, much respect for your shares! Merry Christmas to you and yours!

Damn it Dwayne you hit it home for me with this one. I'm choking up. Yes I've felt resentment towards the older generations for being incompetent, especially my parents. My dad though he was raised by a drunk father and a very submissive mother. My father isn't the kind of man that you would call a man. He's broken inside somehow. I wasn't raised in a good way, but I did have a home, food on the table and a clean bed to sleep in every night. I don't feel like I was raised right and my parents made fatal mistakes. But both of them are traumatized somehow, and their way of being is normal where I live. I mean a very unhealthy and toxic way of living. In my opinion the way they live creates it's own kind of trauma on the mind. But after a lot of trials in my own life I feel like I'm taking care of myself in the way that I wanted as a child. I mean living a healthy and life regenerating way of life. And like you said it's our job now to raise the next generation the best we can so that maybe we can end this cycle of depression and illness. We have the opportunity now to fix things at least in our own lives one piece at a time. And a part of that is letting go of the past and forgiving the people that we've felt animosity towards because we felt like they haven't been acting up to our standards.

Grace and compassion seem to be rare things these days. God bless you for sharing your wisdom. Greetings from Alabama

As the son of a Vietnam vet, who was in turn the son of a WWII vet, I feel this. Good topic, brother!

One of the most realistic talks I've ever heard. My grandfather was totally disassociated from the society, he did not even work but had 6 children to feed. He did not even care about the family being in poverty. My grandmother on the other hand did whatever she could but my father ran away from home at 15 to search for a job. He started from scratch in a different city learning different languages. But my father is totally loving to us. Yes he had problems in his life but he did not turn out to be broken even after being brought up in such wretched condition 😭😭😭

This is why we need to remember History. The cumulative effects of all the trauma and tribulations of previous generations matter. Makes you wonder how many veterans and families got left to fall between the cracks. Thank you so much for bringing this up

It's interesting how a lack of hardship results in people who lack compassion. Worked once for an old guy who had gone through the depression. He asked me to go and tell one of his tenants he had to get rid of his dog or else he would be evicted, as the dog was terrorizing the other tenants. I asked him why he didn't. He said, his dad had lost his farm, kicked off his land by the banks and left penniless. He was about ten then and so understood what his dad went through. He said after that his dad was a broken man. So he can't even threaten an eviction on someone himself because it reminds him of his dad. His compassion resulted from his hardship and experiencing and seeing others experience suffering. What the last couple generations haven't experienced and so they lack compassion. When one goes to very poor countries, one sees the people are happier, more compassionate, respectful. When they are asked how they can be happy when they suffer so, they say things like, we all suffer and that's life, we know what suffering is and so have something in common..

Too bad we can’t see this in our twenties. We have to live life and get hurt to realize others are hurting too☹️

My father escaped the USSR. The stories he told me about his life and his father’s life were horrid. You can even go back to WW2 and see how relentlessly traumatizing their lives were. My great grandfather never talked about his time in the army or surviving the holocaust. There’s so much strength in your ancestors, so you must respect them.

@ArimaSenne1

Жыл бұрын

probably because the "holocaust" was greatly exaggerated.

@lordsesshoumaru8596

Жыл бұрын

ya but this generation has the internet, smart phones & social media... they think they've ascended to godhood of knowledge & understanding then complain that school didn't teach them how to balance a check book, civilization is doa.

Uplifting talk this morning. Much appreciated. Taking time to understand the "why" behind people's behaviors goes a long way. I have found it almost always boils down to how you put it, that the child didn't have anyone to fill in the hole, to love them and raise them properly.

Thank you sir! Your wisdom and grace are a help and an inspiration to us all. May God bless you and yours in all you set your hands to do

As a female I greatly enjoyed listening to this as you can take much of what you say as a poignant analogy that actually fits many females in my life. Great philosophical speech as usual my friend, you’re a living legend to me.

I think it’s horrific and incredibly sad that governments of the world send young men and women to fight their wars and do this to people who have tried to do it for the sake of ‘their country’. Great video sir!

Thank you, Dwayne. Awesome video brother.👍👍👍

My father came from world war 2 and got married and had 5 children..I remember him telling me what he did and what he saw. He described a horror picture of what he went through. I never spent most time with him as a child because he was always working to support the family. But he instilled in me much value of never giving up and being strong. Later in life as an adult when my father retired I got to spend a lot of time with him.. I'll always value his words and respect for how he did the best he could for the family.. what u said sir is so true about the lost generation and the baby boomers I'm one of them. I'm 66 now and still working. Thank u sir.

Great message today, men have always been disposable throughout history and we have suffered for it.. Merry Christmas to you and your family...

Just another sign of how transformative and awful the Civil War was? The mass casualties prompted 1) the birth of the prosthetics industry, 2) the emergence of germ theory, and 3) the first attempt at diagnosing PTSD, then known as “Soldier’s Heart” because the stress would seem to manifest in arrhythmia and congestive heart failure.

lost my way a couple years ago, 21 now, making it happen slowly but surely, watched your videos on and off for many years, surely going to make it a ritual to watch them more and while working, should make a podcast of these

My background-- Dad was on a boat that arrived in Japan a few days after the bomb. He became a minister. My brother was navy in Vietnam. He loaded shells in the big guns to bombard the land. Never saw land. I returned to Texas to be drafted in mid 73 only to be told it had been canceled three days before my induction. I promise you there were not many that recieved those notices. I certainly appreciate your perspective! I'm a pretty strong right, have all the respect in the world for military and law enforcement. Strong 2nd ammend. Sometimes feel guilty for not going but oh so lucky not to have. My brother and I have not spoken for years. I wish it was different but I somehow understand why he feels that way. Thanks for your continued teachings. They say what I feel. God bless and be safe

@susanmenegus5543

Жыл бұрын

My grandfather was a corporal in the marine corps in WW2 he fought against the Japanese and he was a Lt on the riot squad for the NYPD . My uncle chuck did three tours in Vietnam he was in the army but I was taught to respect authority and the military like you. Sorry for the rant sir 🇺🇲 .

I honestly wish more people would talk about this. Generational trauma is a deep wound lots of people carry. As a 34 year old from central europe with no war veterans in my family, I can't really join the commenters here in addressing that. But I would have a word or three on the war on men. I see so many people all over social media trying to push men into these tiny little pigeon holes. Calling men "weak", "lazy", "feminine" for opening up about their trauma, their stories, their upbringing. Not adhering to "the grind", not pushing themselves to work 12-15 hours per day, leaving behind their social lives or families. In my country, even going to see a therapist is taboo, especially for a man. Staying home for a "maternity leave" is considered weak. Being a good father to your new baby and a good husband who helps his wife in one of the most difficult times of her life, is considered weak. What is this world we live in? I think more of men who will play with her daughter and a dollhouse than a man who will force his son to hold a toy rifle the moment he can sit up straight. Far, far more. If only men - young and old - were allowed to express their feelings, to be themselves, to not have to act manly in front of the world and drown their traumas and struggles in alcohol or other addictions, leading them to pass their traumas on to their children. If only it was acceptable to perhaps not be deemed "a pussy" for not joining the military or being keen on fighting, a war or at a bar. Being a man is SO MUCH MORE than being an ape puffing out his chest whenever possible.

@user-ri4qk1xy3c

Жыл бұрын

You’re describing what is commonly known as ‘toxic masculinity”: