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@dr.tonielffaucet5988

Жыл бұрын

Ahem cuzinz, Exactly

@gudmunduragustsson5872

Жыл бұрын

I can't believe I hadn't Subscribed to you yet. I'm an avid listener and watcher.

@l.s.gordon6867

Жыл бұрын

But I've fallen in love once and I was to marry..now it haunts me as a nightmare

@stcyr3000

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Thank you Thank you. If you don't mind I would like to use this video in my teachings. You should be on @Afterskool People truly need to hear this message!

@ramonpuello2357

Жыл бұрын

Hi there. I would like to share something very important. It's called depersonalization and derealization. Please research it.

Jung says “Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”

@kookykoruc1827

Жыл бұрын

Last part hits close to home.

@steph7960

Жыл бұрын

I have never been so isolated...through choice. But I recall feeling painful loneliness, at its worst, when I was surrounded with a room full of friends. Always felt I was on the outside looking in, never quite part of this world. When I was younger I viewed this as a terrible flaw, now I perceive it as something to be cherished. I often find those lone wolves are the ones I wish to look deep in the eyes and enjoy a real, wonderful conversation with, not small talk scewed by group thought and gossip. I can't see myself ever being any other way, and I simply don't mind. I dread perceiving being part of a group in the future where I sound and behave like everyone else.

@noahbrown4388

Жыл бұрын

@Steph79 Same here Steph!

@whateverbabe

Жыл бұрын

I relate so much to this quote, I left Islam recently and I feel so lonely and isolated it's like living with zombies and I gotta hide my brain otherwise they eat it. The punishment of apostasy is b-heading so I have to live a double-life pretend I'm a Muslim so I kinda put my life on a hold for years waiting to travel and be completely myself.

@steph7960

Жыл бұрын

@@whateverbabe so sorry for what you re going through friend. Sending prayers and love.

“Everyone, deep in their hearts, is waiting for the end of the world to come.” - Haruki Murakami

@steph7960

Жыл бұрын

So true.

@gandfgandf5826

Жыл бұрын

Yes, people love that doomsday stuff. "These are the end times", said someone, every day, since the year dot.

@SugarTide935

Жыл бұрын

@@gandfgandf5826 I don’t think the quote has anything to do with “Doomsday”… there is a deeper meaning there, but clearly you missed it, so why bother…

@gandfgandf5826

Жыл бұрын

@@SugarTide935 why bother indeed.

@louisaellingham602

Жыл бұрын

This is a translation and out of context, but I am not waiting (deep in my heart) for the end of the world. If we understood that this world is Divine hands, we would know there is nothing to worry about. Of course, there might be an "ecological end" in some sense; but we, as spiritual beings, are simply having a human Earthly experience. We are immortal souls.

I'm currently delaying gratification by keeping my ambitions a secret until I have something to show for it. "Disappearing" to minimize distractions and check my values has shown me that it's very easy to be lonely and that your companions will let you slip away. The absence of social stimulation causes an overwhelming emptiness. That emptiness can be filled with challenge and productivity. You can use the fact that it's easy to disappear to improve yourself and work towards setting yourself up for a satisfying mindset. When you reenter the social world you will know more than you did prior, and the perspective you gain will keep you from taking certain things for granted.

@Self-helper415

Жыл бұрын

I enjoyed reading your perspective. Very helpful

@familiarisfelinus4087

Жыл бұрын

Very wise, i find myself on a similar path in regards to helping my mind and body.

@giovannii7519

Жыл бұрын

Yep, I resonate with this comment very much in this stage of my life. I have been delaying gratification for some time now, and it honestly feels so satisfying and gives you a sense of accomplishment. i have also been studying and learning for 4-5 hours every single day for 1+ month now and just like you said, it does get lonely but I am improving myself in every single way , so I still think it is a huge win for your own mental health to disappear once in a while and just lose yourself in your passion.

@Grefareal

Жыл бұрын

Early gratification from telling others your ambition and plan can make us less motivated because we already get a bit of it, keeping it secret to others will help us keep stay motivated longer.

@MrKillswitch88

Жыл бұрын

The problems of this in society is by design as well what is driven by the demographics as far as the personality types out there that more or less are the meta where meaningful connections are increasingly rare despite the social circles being wider but shallower than ever.

I have experienced loneliness, emptiness, and anxiety throughout my life. Always felt like I don't fit in this world for some reason. Glad I found this channel!

@braxtonagee412

Жыл бұрын

Right there with you, buddy. Trying to embrace isolation because I sure as hell can't find my tribe.

@v1num

Жыл бұрын

I feel you. Have felt the same for most of my life. So if it brings any comfort; know you're not alone.

@tedcrilly46

Жыл бұрын

single thoughts or things i might see in media can ruin entire weeks for me. then i have to carry them through the work week. working on trivialities while wanting to run screaming and drug myself to oblivion. then i get a bad rep for being miserable.

@tedcrilly46

Жыл бұрын

i don't know whether my coworkers are just too stupid to question the madness of this world, or if theyre somehow way stronger spiritually, or if theyre just madder, or have accepted that there's nothing beyond the 9-5.

@Jayden-3

Жыл бұрын

@@tedcrilly46 It's the last two

I find happiness when i play games walk alone in the rain.. I dont want to be around people anymore.

Every time I listen to Eternalised I feel a little bit sad, a little bit comforted and a little bit wiser. Beautiful content, as always. :)

@Yoshuggutha

Жыл бұрын

I had my therapy session today, plus watching this and now I feel exactly how you described.

@DevonExplorer

Жыл бұрын

@@Yoshuggutha :)

@Milk-wm3uu

10 ай бұрын

But your not wiser 🤣🤣 you still in the same place you haven't progressed

@likklej_online4783

7 ай бұрын

@@Milk-wm3uuayyy man don’t laugh boa everyone needs to be humbled one day.

@likklej_online4783

7 ай бұрын

See it as an awaken of your getting new abilities because that’s what it really is your not prepared to hear like so but your brain is baring it because you need that assurance

For years I thought it was a bad thing to be alone then I realized that It is better to be lonely than to constantly look at what fault the other person finds in you day after day.

@Novastar.SaberCombat

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. For 30+ years, I have dated at least 60+ women. Not a SINGLE ONE OF THEM could (eventually) accept me for what I was. Instead, they'd built up some invisible *image* of what they IMAGINED I was, and projected it onto me until they were unable to continue thar narcissistic (and insane) illusion. At that point, they all pretty much went berserk, and I was forced to confront them about it. They HATED it. Facing their narcissism meant that the messenger (myself) needed to be attacked and destroyed. There is obviously no solution to this for the majority of humanity. #killthemessenger

@BDB78

Жыл бұрын

I’ve lived most of my life this way. But at times I can’t help but think what faults others find in my way of life. It’s a transient notion, whenever it comes, but it comes nonetheless.

@jamisonbernhardt3310

11 ай бұрын

Oh ya.

Shoutout to all the deep thinkers 💭

I'm currently experiencing this... I feel like I'm a stranger to this world. I don't know what to do here. Much like you've said, there are the common expectations, things we should do. I find myself lost, I don't know what I want. Without that there's nothing to strive for, I'm just here doing what everyone expects of me... It's painful. I'm aware of why I'm this way and nothing I hear or do seems to change that. It's irritating, it makes me bitter. I find myself wishing I wasn't aware. I don't think I'll change, no matter how I distract myself, I inevitably return to this state of being. Feeling alone and lost, and I've got to say this feeling, it's maddening.

@prd2792

Жыл бұрын

Yes. I feel the same. I have always done what was expected of me and it feels like by doing what the rest of the world is doing, you are “safe” from judgement, but deep inside I know that what I am doing is just playing a role. I am just a random clown in the circus, but when I look at other “clowns”, they seem to be happy with their role. This makes me feel like there is something wrong with me and that I am wasting my time here, instead of following the sheep blindly.

@r7etro

Жыл бұрын

Both of u captured completely how I feel.

@xantalk6498

2 ай бұрын

Feeling this way, any solution to it?

@redfacebaby9952

20 күн бұрын

Jesus is the answer

I feel like losing my soul piece by piece from depression over the years. I find solace in reading books and living in my own head.

In our society, people confuse sadness with peace. It is not sad to be alone, it is not sad to think about our existence, it is just the most important thing to do.

@Napoleonwilson1973

Жыл бұрын

Solitude is a real blessing though

Life isn't perfect and as children we're made to see the world that way and as we get older it becomes uncomfortably clear we're all on our own. The human condition is a real asshole. It's no wonder so many people are screwed up. We have this image or definition of wanting our lives to be perfect in general as human beings and to have normalcy or some sense of it because it gives a feeling of protection and routine. The reality is that we're born and then thrown into the equivalent of a giant blender or a sea of sharks and left to eventually struggle and figure this whole mess out on our own, hopefully with friends and family to help us on the journey. The human mind has the ability to eat it's host alive very slowly and if you feed the monster and give into it, as most of us do, we end up with anxiety, depression etc. We become disassociated from ourselves and the world around us. All I can really say is I'm thankful for my therapist and my time in I.O.P and learning how to tackle this stuff on my own and having outlets like this channel to learn more. I relate very much to everything discussed here and I hope everyone else here can learn to understand that there can be hope, no matter how dark that hole is that you dug yourself into and you can get yourself out if you put in the work but only if YOU want to help yourself. Nobody else can do it for you or give you definitive answers. After dealing with this stuff for so many years, I can tell you that it really is a scenario of do or die and nobody but YOU can control it.

@mahendrakent3177

Жыл бұрын

Well said. You have captured the human trauma and confusion very well. Good luck with your journey on this painful planet which feels like a mental institution to me.

@Yoshuggutha

Жыл бұрын

@@mahendrakent3177 thanks, same to you. I feel not much different than you do, honestly, lol.

@louisaellingham602

Жыл бұрын

No! We are not alone--we have spiritual guides helping us. We don't believe this because at this time we live in a world that is based on materialism and science. We think empirically (that is we want proof for everything--if we don't see it, we don't believe it.) But there is another way of seeing life. We were created, not an accident of evolution and if you read people who have had Near Death Experiences, you will realize that we come here to Earth with a purpose and we will return to another dimension (after death) where we are loved unconditionally. You paint a bleak picture of life and it is true that the world is in turmoil these days. But there is hope for all of us if we would only see we are here for a reason. Look for the beauty and joy in life and try to love others.

@cibriis1710

Жыл бұрын

@@louisaellingham602 but maybe both are true - life is pointless - but connected

@louisaellingham602

Жыл бұрын

@@cibriis1710 No! NO life is NOT pointless. We plan our lives and come here for a reason...then we forget. We need to search our hearts for the *REASON* we came here! Then our lives will have meaning and purpose. May you find your purpose!!

My father would tell me “son you’re sleeping your life away.” (Very disapprovingly mind you) My reasoning for sleeping my life away is because I just don’t find this modern societal construct as something worth being conscious for. It seems as if people have lost a sense of family and Union that seemed to prevail so much in the past.

@Novastar.SaberCombat

Жыл бұрын

Unless your father has been preparing for his soul's journey beyond the dark veil (and I'm NOT speaking of religion in any sense of the word)... it is, in fact, *he* who is sleeping his temporal existence away--yet unknowingly. Reflection is key. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

@braxtonglass7195

Жыл бұрын

That is a good quote and I thank you for your input. That was a only a few years ago but I have started since then digging out of that rut I was in and have tried getting into a more logical problem solving role. I was more of a dweller in those days. I will say, thinking on the grand scheme of things, it is such a big mountain of a problem. How does one average man bring back a sense of family in a present day focused on the individual? I understand I could take my family (if I’m ever blessed enough to have one of my own) under my wing and form a strong bond with them, but even then that wouldn’t make a dent in a nation wide problem. It really is a tough knot. I am also realizing I have to much time to think.

@brentloy131

Жыл бұрын

Could you imagine the community and fellowship and bonding you would have with your neighbors after a solid week of hunting food for all the tribe AND fighting off predators that wanted us as their meal

@mrknarf4438

Жыл бұрын

Then seek a family, seek nature, seek community, join a sport club, a hobby lobby, a fighting gym. If you don't like your environment, change it: there's countless realities within this society. Go out and find a place you belong, don't sleep your only life away.

@jesperkjaer8268

11 ай бұрын

That's not a surprising response. Your father adjusted to conformity and wants everybody to do the same. That's not a critique of your father - societal pressure to conform is very strong. There's a theory that George Romero's first "Night of the living dead" was a critique of the current society in the sense that "the zombies" are already here - it's us. We all have a choice - do we want to act or react.

"Their activism is a way of running from themselves" - excellent and appropriate observation at 22:37.

I just want to sleep and never wake up

@josherickson3961

Жыл бұрын

Same

@nicolec8884

Жыл бұрын

me too

@Yoshuggutha

Жыл бұрын

That's never the answer. I know it's extremely difficult, but you have to look deeper within yourself. Therapy has helped me immensely. I used to feel the same way you guys do. I can't lie and tell you it doesn't take a lot of work and power of will. Nor will I tell you I'm "cured" because there's no such thing. Life is NOT perfect or anything remotely close.

@steph7960

Жыл бұрын

Feel connection and understanding knowing that many feel the same as yourself. It feels like our world is going through some global consciousness crisis, but something deep inside tells me this is all happening for a reason? A destruction of consciousness in preparation for a renewal of sorts. Doesn't make it any easier going through it. Been battling depression for over 20 years...but I believe we, especially those suffering the most, were brought here at this moment for a reason. A spiritual lesson of sorts. Please keep the faith.

@gandfgandf5826

Жыл бұрын

I love sleep, and would choose it over anything waking life has to offer. It's all noise.

'freedom leads to anxiety', now that's something to think about.

@Novastar.SaberCombat

Жыл бұрын

But it only leads to anxiety if the MIND isn't truly free. So, if an individual finds an overwhelming amount of anxiety whilst attempting to become free... then, it's an ILLUSION. They aren't "free" at all. The prison is psychological instead of physical. Reflection is key. Look deep within, but understand that more than the mere physical aspect is required for true enlightenment. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

@FatherFigure3

Ай бұрын

Shanga shanga

“Whoever will be free must make himself free. Freedom is no fairy gift to fall into a man's lap. What is freedom? To have the will to be responsible for one's self.” - Max Stirner

@dkesq1

Жыл бұрын

👏👏

@angecynthia347

Жыл бұрын

I am a woman and I have had to pass through this for my freedom...I Am sitting in my freedom tho

To you reading this right now; I want you to know that you’re not alone in this. Many others are going through very similar circumstances and feel this way too. Take Solace in knowing that we will all go this together, in spirit, with each other.

@XThirdEyeX

Жыл бұрын

I am excruciatingly painfully alone in my situation at my age. I have searched and searched everywhere, I have yet to find just ONE other person/story ANYWHERE in even remotely similar lifelong lonely torment at my age...I sincerely wish I could...it would be so very nice to finally know I'm not alone. 😖💔

@Joseph-td1xw

11 ай бұрын

U have a kindred spirit in me. I think we are different but feel very much the same at times. If it feels right to u. Call me ur brother. I always feel like I am an only child who lost his only twin brother long ago before we ever really got our chance to shine. family is very important to me...more so as I age... especially as the ones I love most grow farther from me. Anyways.... I don't know ur name. But I hope u can feel this, and know it's true... I love you, for real. I always will. No matter what. This world and the earth and all other things will die and crumble and blow away without a trace... But real true love will not ever wane. Take this with u and u will me er be alone or empty. Real love never dies or disappears, it's forever. Even if u doubt it or forget it's there. It will never stop. I love you, for real. Forever.

@Milk-wm3uu

10 ай бұрын

KZread comment its an opinion so those sad ppl alone still

@fatpickledick5278

9 ай бұрын

@@Milk-wm3uuIf you need someone to talk to we’re here for you, you sound like you might’ve been having a bad day

I feel your philosophy is getting more and more wholly. You seamlessly link particular concepts, key words, ideas in a very compact speech. I assume your joy is up to the moon for having your art to this level. I am proud to see this channel growing so much in numbers and the person behind it in spiritual depth.

@RealityEnjoyer

Жыл бұрын

I agree, he's my favorite philosopher here on KZread for that very reason!

I think it is true that anxiety results from not knowing what to do, but it also comes from knowing precisely what needs to be done, yet realizing (or thinking) there is no way to do it. I would say that creates hopeless anxiety, which is greater, I think. Anyway, this video means a lot to me. Thanks so much for it.

@seanwooten6410

Жыл бұрын

P.S.I was an identical twin (my brother has passed). And we fought from day one. My mother said we fought in her womb. It's not the standard story of twin boys, but this video gives me a possible explanation for the first time in my 55 years. I think, in fact I know, we both wanted our own identity, no matter how much others wanted to see us as the same, like clones. They wanted us to think the same, act the same, dress the same, and even have magical psychic twin powers. We, both of us, hated that. Again, thanks so very much. This is a wow moment for me.

@HOurWrld999

Жыл бұрын

Thought I’d the root for all of our confusion obviously

@seanwooten6410

Жыл бұрын

@@HOurWrld999 ?

@Riven0x

Жыл бұрын

In my case there is a way, but it's gonna be hell to maintain. In short: doing the right thing and leading an honest life.

@courtneytubbs8956

10 ай бұрын

I love you Sean Wooten...

The lack of desire for the things of this world has made me a pariah and an outcast to others and myself.

This is apt for me right now. I'm late 30's. I had a very rich social life in the middle of the city but was one of the many who fled in 2020 during the riots. I went from friends dropping by after work and spontaneous parties to moving to a close suburb and right away I noticed a massive drop-off in plans and seeing my friends (which adds to my theory that Americans are lonely because of the way we choose to design our towns). I got priced out of my rental very quickly and had to move one more suburb away (So from a 10 minute drive to a 15 minute drive from the city). I never see my friends now. The ones I've had for 20 years. They cancel, are "too busy", are "sick" or make plans to go out of town when I plan to host people here. I also just broke up with a girl who my family and friends didn't like at all since we were not working out. I thought that would help, but no. Still hardly anyone around. The first fracturing was the friends who's parents helped them buy houses in the 2010's- they didn't want to be around the friends who were planning to keep renting and would jabber on nonstop about their property values and look down at the rest of us a lot. Then it was the homeowner friends who got married. They separated themselves and cut me off, especially when I got laid off when COVID hit. No help, no nothing. And I used to help them get jobs when they were struggling years ago! I live closer to family now, but since I just rent (a really nice) apartment, they don't like to visit much. Like it's below them. It's very quiet now- I cook a lot, work from home, own a small business, like to read and watch documentaries and hit the gym. But I'm visualizing my future and I'm bored just thinking about it. You can't count on anyone to stick around. Everyone is obsessed with money and status- it's so gross- we used to say we would never turn into our parents. And I still haven't. But everyone else has and now I'm cut out. And I'm a super social guy (though I need alone time to recharge). I'm just trying not to drink every evening (failing at that but I don't drink TOO much) and nearly cut out weed since it's giving me anxiety now. This is an existential crisis that I have not had before. Like does everyone else just sit around doing these same few activities until they die? I don't think I want a relationship but damn- I might have to have one just to have something to do!

@jodisherland5335

Жыл бұрын

Although consciously you have a good self esteem subconsciously you feel inadequate and your manifesting your unçonsious beliefs that are detrimental to what you consciously want. I'm not judging you when I say this but I was alarmed when you broke up with a person because your friends and family didn't like her at all. (Because I two were having problems.) This is alarming because people that judge your partner and feel free to share with you their dislike for your partner do not respect you as your own person. As you discovered they were willing to give you their opinions. But what happened when you acted on the opinions of others? You completely betrayed yourself in favor of what friends and family felt and when you were alone those people didn't bother to come around. The person who was with you though...the person who was willing to hang with you...that person's opinion of you wich was one of love and interest was discounted. I'm going to take a guess and tell you that you do not feel success without approval from others. This is dangerous because although you may not realize it you are disrespecting your inner being. You might benefit from looking into individuation. Lots of people don't individuate because of society expecting women with small children to work. If you do parts work and individuation I think you will gain a strong sense of autonomy and will become self validating. Relationships are very good opportunities to address our personal weaknesses. If we take the relationship and it's conflicts and use it to judge our partner we do not get the benet of this valuable experience. When we understand that each conflict in our relationship is an opportunity to work on ourself. Not to point out our partners flaws and assure our inner fear of not being good enough by focusing on the faults of others When I'm triggered by anyone now I stop myself from assuming I dislike that person and that they are bad. So I make myself view them with empathy as another human and give a silent thanks for the opportiluniity to face my conflict. I them begin my introspection and I search inside of myself to find what it is I am not accepting in me that I'm seeing reflected from outside of me. Everytime it's because they have a trait I couldn't have and had to deny. Loud. Assertive. Opinionated. Impatient. Judgemental. Extroverted. Excited. All kinds of things that I wasn't allowed to be when I was a small child in a very abusive dangerous environment. For fifty years all these parts of myself were like hostages that couldn't speak seen or be heard. Like being buried alive. Once I began to view the people who made me uncomfortable with kindness and became more sympathetic and acceptance, I began to feel connected to myself. I stopped needing external connections to feel validated. My opinions of myself became my priority. A month after practicing this I lost the fifty plus years of alienated loneliness and the incredible pain that comes with it disappeared. I've been working on myself for two years now and I'm able to feel gratitude and I feel successful. Not in the way we typically measure success. I feel successful in facing myself and doing the hard work to find myself....I hadn't been aware I was missing myself for almost my entire life. You'll be okay. I did all my work with KZread videos in a homeless shelter after being in the street for six years. Be hot a nice apartment now but the years in the street that built my confidence and made me strong and brave enough to be authentic with myself. Liking oneself without doubt is worth more than anything else I've ever struggled for.

@jjberg83

Жыл бұрын

@@jodisherland5335 Thank you for what you wrote. I should have been more clear though. The partner I broke up with disrespected me a lot in front of friends and family (and this is why they warned me about her). I was always on eggshells and we fought all the time. She changed me from a happy-go-lucky guy into someone with chronic stress. It was good to break that relationship off. But your words did not go to waste. I actually HAVE broken off good relationships in the past due to social pressure. And yes, those friends do not come around anymore. I regret every day having let more than one amazing girl go. And it's very hard these days to find anyone remotely like them. I will look into individuation. Thanks!

@dunsbroccoli2588

Жыл бұрын

Watch Adam Curtis

@jodisherland5335

Жыл бұрын

@@jjberg83 your welcome! Let me assure u about something....8 years ago I lost EVERYONE. and I thought I had really fucked up....when we think of special people we took for granted and now they are gone....damn hard times. And I thought this would be a huge regret and nothing that I would over come. I realize now....I needed to lose EVERYONE n Everything. Because it's the only way I ever would have found myself. What was a tragedy I would never ever get over became the road for me to actually being able to develop healthy relationships .in other words I'm a helaing codependent people pleaser! If u know anything about that disorder it's covert narssism. It's a miserable state of painful alienation that never goes away but when in a relationship of dysfunction it doesn't feels as empty as it does solo. Now I can be with myself. I don't need anyone or anything. I'm very accepting of myself and I'm able to live without a constant feeling of not fitting in. Don't worry too much about regrets ...life has a funny way of surprising u no matter how it feels and looks at times. Another thing is...we don't know much about life....I do know that exclusion is a practice used to cause people shame. Shame occurs when we break away from ourself in our psyche we split maybe for a persona idk....but be mindful that ut not being mind fucked by anyone. Or everyone. The key to avoid damage from cruelty is to really focus on urself for EVERYTHING. try not to yearn for anyone's company and try not to think about anyone else too much so that u don't give away ur energy. Experiment with what happens if u get happy and focus on u and watch a comedy and laugh and feel fulfilled. See if u get a call or a visit. I'm guessing u will. Your not alone in dealing with these things. I look at every experience as a school lesson now. Like...I didn't get abused by a narcissist. I learned how to live and accept myself. At the end of the day we make the narrative up for our experiences. I ALWAYS make it in my own favor LOL... I hope u find relief soon. Loneliness is a very difficult feeling. Reach out anytime u like. I'm always around on my phone sharing observations and trying to learn whatever I can :)

@kaanozturk623

Жыл бұрын

@jjberg83 you sound like a smart person dont let this world make you think otherwise. As someone who has struggled in his surroundings just to realize it at all the age of almost 30 i can assure you that nearly every human is in battle in his mind. Stay focused and consciously keep on living this repeat everyday life and try to enjoy regardless

hell cannot be much worse than current existence.

Wow, this makes me glad to be an introvert. My motivation comes from being alone therefore my boredom is cured when by myself. Matter of fact, I'm either bored or stressed around most other people, especially when there's more than 3 of us. Aloneness = happiness 🥰

@kendalson7100

Жыл бұрын

I think it was Oscar Wilde who said "Hell is other people."

@davidmaddaford930

Жыл бұрын

@@kendalson7100 I have heard it attributed to Jean-Paul Sartre.

@tonyamartin1425

Жыл бұрын

nope you are a weirdo

@Yoshuggutha

Жыл бұрын

I'm the same way. I took a 2 hour walk in the woods yesterday and felt amazing afterwards. Humans are fucking exhausting and boring, lol.

@ms.greywolf8228

Жыл бұрын

I like being close to people I actually can be myself with. Beyond that, I prefer to stay at home, doing whatever can wash away the hours, be it for personal growth or not. But I do feel that craving, that hunger for feeling part of something; of course, easier said than done, the struggle is a great excuse to take a seat and write about it. By this point, my characters linger above a fine edge of choice: to love life, or to hate it. Both aspects face their decision in different ways, but both arrive at the same conclusion: that loneliness out of being pushed into a hole too deep to be reached by anyone else, is a torture; to descend and appreciate the echo of the ocean below, is to take a step into divinity. Whatever the method, it must come from love, in search of peace.

I am honestly fascinated how such a large part of the population lacks any personal identity hence the strong dependence on others for identity and the group labels to the point of being a cliche where it is sometimes comical while other times tragic. As for the boredom that is a problem for some common personality types that are sensory driven thus requiring a lot more stimulation than others so they have to stay busy otherwise it is back into the abyss while for others they usually have enough interests and hobbies to get by so their experiences with boredom is different.

@Yoshuggutha

Жыл бұрын

Humans are weird creatures. We're almost unlucky that we're sentient animals. If I had the choice, I'd choose to be any other species on the planet.

@jeepnj2502

Жыл бұрын

All of the structures and roles that gave people functional identities beyond "worker drone" are being crushed, intentionally. No family, no religion, no parenthood, no nation, super-racialized identities for some and anti-racial identities for others. It is specifically identities that could be unifying and grounding that are forbidden. Youre free to be a mentally unstable degenerate, thats it.

@CBT5777

Жыл бұрын

What's your identity?

@Bandybear

Жыл бұрын

Only boring people get bored.

@CBT5777

Жыл бұрын

@@Bandybear Have you ever been bored?

For me, being with more people is very lonely and empty. Small groups of friends and family is more than enough and solitude is very powerful especially in productive times.

Ever since I was a kid I planned new ventures and adventures and found ways to make them happen. Always alone, never asking opinions or help. Perhaps that's why they were never enduring. But I have done more things and been more places than anyone else I've known. Now, at 66 I have no more ambition and everything seems impossible. As with the rest of my life, I am completely alone. Aloneness doesn't bother me but being without plans makes me feel like I am another person. Little enjoyment and no happiness. Just sadness for what is gone.

I swear this man just keeps pumping out existential banger after banger

I think he overcomplicates this (for me personally at least). I’ve noticed in meditation that I will get bored and rather than be bored I AUTOMATICALLY seek anxiety and even depression because it’s preferable to boredom. This was a big realization for me. Helps a lot.

I'm so grateful for you and your channel! I'm going through a very tough "dark night of the soul" following a very difficult ayahuasca ceremony and your channel is really helping me get through it with some sense of direction and meaning! Thank you endlessly!

@ninjaturd-el1857

Жыл бұрын

Do you know of legit places for an ayahuasca ceremony?

@bellam.5671

11 ай бұрын

@@ninjaturd-el1857 my father is a shaman, he does them in cali and Colombia.

@ryanw2126

11 ай бұрын

I feel for you deeply I have experienced a many exestiential crisis from DMT as well as mushrooms. It's hard to reintegrate with the modern system we live with the things shown to you

@pepelefrog1121

9 ай бұрын

"Liberal socialism" Shorter title.

When I am alone for a long time, then I start to accept loneliness.

@Novastar.SaberCombat

Жыл бұрын

Wavelengths, resonance, frequencies, and Reflection are all key. Look deep within, but understand that more than the mere physical aspects of these are required for true enlightenment. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

I love when Eternalised drops a new gem of knowledge!

These videos give me a wonderful sense of connection, despite addressing philosophy around loneliness, purpose and suffering. It feels good to know that ones feelings are human, to know that one is actually real.

man's search for himself is such a good read, definently worth your time

Sometimes I’ve had crippling anxiety but I learned that thru self improvement like exercising and meditating or learning psychology that I feel better and anxiety happens less

Holy shit the definition of anxiety of not knowing which direction to go down but feeling fear from all sides is dead on.

I think this is true. It took a great deal of pain to learn that I can't just ignore myself.

@CBT5777

Жыл бұрын

There is no self.

@elinope4745

Жыл бұрын

@@CBT5777 in some grand sense of humanity as a whole, sure. On the subjective level there is ONLY self and you can't be certain that your senses aren't a lie. Thus the universe is you. Both ways of seeing it are equally true

@CBT5777

Жыл бұрын

@@elinope4745 My brain is a thought generator. "I" (the self) don't have any control over it. It seems like i have no free will. But then again what does it mean to be truly free?

@elinope4745

Жыл бұрын

@@CBT5777 I don't believe in free will in a strict sense.

@elinope4745

Жыл бұрын

@@CBT5777 your senses are interpreted by your thought generator. This is easy to be aware of by studying illusions. Understanding sensory illusions helps you understand your own cognitive illusions giving you a deeper level of choice. Controlling your outside environment, sleep and exercise also enables a deeper level of choice and will change the thoughts that your thought generator generates. Novel experiences also slow down your perception of time and add to life.

Finally, I can explain what anxiety feels like and truthfully

Life has kicked me around, but ironically I've been doing a lot of the kicking, self-destruction has always been part of me, now I'm 63 and absolutely isolated with a lot of help from covid, it's hard sometimes but my soul pushes on, that's what God wants me to do. Thank you God, for every second i have left.

you are always putting those thoughts in my mind, and now i'm about to make a "leap of faith" in order to search for myself

Gloriously sad.

I can't wait for the end

Very good work. Thanks

Your content is pure gold

When the world needed you!! ❤️

Absolute gems of knowledge

Thanks for this ❤❤❤

I am grateful for this message.

I often have thoughts on so many topics that you cover, im glad to have found someone that enjoys exploring the human psych like me. Whenever i strike a convo up on these im always met with blank stares or confusion.

@mahum6652

Жыл бұрын

fr same but people are always so interested in indulging in useless gossip

Thanks!

your work is unbelievable. thank you.

so very beautifully put🦋 thank you🤍

This channel is one of the best things I''ve seen in 13 years of youtube

@aworology3027

Жыл бұрын

Look into Academy of Ideas if you haven't yet. His work is similar to this and of the same quality too. Two of my favorite channels on KZread.

@KSCdd

Жыл бұрын

@@aworology3027 I have, thx for the recommendation though

Cant wait to watch this later in the day!

Cant wait to dig in!!

This is so beautiful, thank you so much for this

soren kierkegaard understood life

Just had this conversation today with my shrink. I've been visited by this emptiness very often since last year.Almost in my 40's, living in a different country for the last 5 years... Life as an immigrant reduces a lot the chances of real, meaningful connections while makes our connection with friends in our home country weaker. For the very first time in my life, loneliness is becoming a real concern. I've never had any issues dating women or making friends, even without being the most socially active kind of person. I've changed a lot and, although being way more active and attending different kind of environments where I could potentially make new friends, the connections are always super shallow and limited to small talk. I've been questioning the goals Ive established with the moving and it's hard to picture myself living this situation another 5 or plus years. Life has been working out fine regarding all its other aspects, but I feel I may need to sacrifice what I've achieved so far in order to keep my sanity. Let's see...

Wonderful piece thank you for all of your works 🖤

I’m so happy I found your channel

Yet again… what a great video my friend! Love your content❤🎉

I just want to say a massive thank you to you Eternalised for this profound and insightful content that you create. The format of your videos are so simple yet so effective and beautiful with the gorgeous artwork and complementary music with your enlightening utterances, it makes for a relaxing and engaging experience truly 🙌 I have learnt a lot and come to a more articulate understanding of things from watching your videos so thank you. 🙌🙌

Fascinating as always, must seen for everyone.

wonderful video - thanks for this.

Whoever you are, your channel is most impressive. You have my respect.

Probably the most eye 👁 opening Video about the human condition on YouTUBE in the 21st century. Dope content

fantastic video!

Your Work is amazing. Thanks

This hits home and its good to see im not just grasping in the dark. It gives me more clarity in the evolution i have had over the years. I have had 3 major incidents starting at 19 that have lead me to be confronted with myself. The last one has blossomed into tapping into the creative side of myself in which i had stiffled. It had been choked by the conformity or society, religion, and even other parts of myself. Meditation was a very scary, but neccissary pathway to my current phase of shooting greens and i finally feel the silent scream is no longer deafening.

@Novastar.SaberCombat

Жыл бұрын

Reflection is key. Look deep within, but understand that more than the mere physical aspect of it is required for true enlightenment. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

Emptines has almost never plagued me. I enjoy being alone, not lonely. However sometimes even with my mind being at ease, left alone with my thoughts…I feel empty. I cannot blame anything, there is nothing I can find that created such emptiness. As such I was mistaken, I desired others accompany. I was extremely desperate, interactions that are insignificant to me suddenly feel like what I live for. And while it numb the emptiness temporarily..I was never truly feeling full filled.

Superb work and profoundly helpful, thank you.

Amazing work

Quite a damn coincidence it feels.. The journal I wrote when this was posted was concerned with all of this - this is exact to how I feel, and all I’m stuck in. I read The Hollowmen last week. I quoted it in something else I wrote today. And I thought to myself earlier today about similar identity aspect’s of twins. Anyway - 11/10 video. Insanely relevant to me, and helpful. I’ll come back to this a lot, no doubt. Edit: I also reread The Brothers Karamazov last month. That and T.S Elliot aren’t far back in my playlist.. I mean these thing’s are commonly brought up in this type of discussion - still, fucked.

I felt existential anxiety at around 3. IV had it all my life, I got on herion at age 15 because I didn't understand my own mind or thinking and it scared me deeply, I spent time in mental hospitals and juvenile prisons and adult prisons till I taught myself to read and write in prison. I believe I am the most lonely and because I was with a woman I loved for 16 years then I fell in love again for 5 years and so my first 40 years I was with my lovers and friends and I still felt like I had to leave everything no leave people, people I either love a lot or is rather not know you. It's all or nothing. Have you ever felt so lost, so exiled from others that you hurt yrslf and end up in a coma from self inflicted. I lost my mind and heart, now I don't feel alone anymore. I like being alone. I have not even had a hug or touched another human in 4 years. Living alone can be awesome and the antithesis. I used to be so deeply sick and lost, I remember I had intrusive thoughts of chopping off my foot or leg. I went so fast that I allmost died so many times, something has called and ordered that I stay and be ok. I have been doing something I did as a young man and I'm doing now In my 40s. Look at what I do it's bizarre, but it helps me like medicine. I put up videos of what I'm doing, and I look at it in a deeper

@MariamArt_

11 ай бұрын

Holy smokes by reading your comment. I feel for you Bob. Now you know why you act the way you did was a result of a lack of purpose and passion. Look I ain’t some psychiatrist or specialist. Your case has something to do with the people in your failing to provide you with purpose and passion to help fuel your willpower. I don’t know if you can imagine what ima about to tell ya, At birth we are all born with a blank slate and indifferent to the outside world. We are observant and ignorant at birth. Through human experiences we go through this thing of social programming and rewiring the way our biology and neurology works through environment, knowledge of the world, familial relationships and kinships between strangers (friends). We are all byproducts of internal force and lack of meaning due to us doubting ourselves in our sleep, dreams and in reality. Which leads to soul crushing self-deprecating thoughts and inner monologues inside our minds. (Shit!, I know this seems like a whole entire paragraph to read, you don’t have to read but to summarize what all of this message I’m trying to tell you, so I can let you know, that your a beautiful person who previously was lost due to lack of connection, confidence and meaning in your life. ) From a random person on the KZread comment section, please don’t give up on finding your purpose and meaning in this life we all go through. Just keep trying to avoid anyone trying to force toxic positivity into you. Have a realistic perspective and just feel a sense of neutrality towards everything in life and the people you talk to or hang out with. Or if your a loner like me, just quietly observing people living their lives and gets the most fun and joy out of it. ❤Take care of yourself and you a worth of purpose in your life, so good night, good morning or good afternoon. Whenever country you are in the world. Peace out to my fellow hoomans and peoples 🙇🏿‍♀️

such a great content, thanks.

Will have to come back and watch this again. Your voice lulled me to sleep.

This video has really been an eye-opener, thank you ❤

This is one o the most important, and well articulated video's on the entirety of KZread. Thank you endlessly.

babe wake up eternalised uploaded a new video

How dare you upload such a relevant video?! 🤣👍🏽

Beautifully done. Instructive. The art was fabulous.

I am thoroughly enjoying this video. Thank you.

My 7-year relationship ended half a year ago. It was the greatest love of my life. I still yearn every day for her return. We lived together for the majority of that time. But I also know that at my core I've always been a comfortable introvert. I experienced a vibrant social party phase in my 20s and it does not sound appealing at all anymore. I struggle in the vast majority of social scenarios being on the spectrum. I lost myself in my relationship and became entirely codependent on my partner. Slowly but surely I am rediscovering my passions on my own and discovering for the first time what my life can look like when I am fully comfortable with myself.

@veronicajohnson9995

Жыл бұрын

maybe join or start a book club? meetup is great for things like that. that might sound trivial, but it sounds like you have a lot of interesting thoughts and insight to share. other people in your area might resonate with it or have things to add. just remember that you’re not alone in the way you feel, that others have felt this way before you and came out of it stronger, and that life is precious. looking into absurdism really helped me get through a dark couple years in my life. anyways, i wish you all the best!

@marvinlang3777

Жыл бұрын

Dont miss her. If she was the one she would still be there. (Ik this is easier said than done, coming out of a relationsship myself) what really helped me is seeing it as giving something back i have received. I also feel as if nature forces things to end if they hinder our development

Hmm. I grew up with terrible friends. I don't know if I'll ever really have close friends again. I love chatting and laughing, but my experiences keep me at a distance. 🤔

@linahol6067

Жыл бұрын

Same

@Godovereverything8

Жыл бұрын

Meet new people and create boundaries. No need to drown in the idea that “you’re lonely”. Just meet new people and stand your own ground.

Thank you for Upload :)

This channel is great! Thank you for adding subtitles that I can translate into my language!

My man! Your exploration of Selfhood and the individuation path towards mature Self expression at 13:23 is excellent! Morals, ethics and self-awareness - could there be a more juicy combination for us to aspire to? Thank you, another quality video.

Loneliness is an emotion. Aloneness is a physical condition, but both are based on our own perception. Depending on how evolved you are as a human being, you will realize that maybe you can be lonely, but you can never be alone. There is sentience and presence everywhere. Ultimately, both conditions can be overcome with a new perspective and perception.

Thank you for your videos ,definitely my find of the year, the channel itself. I hope you're constantly aware of how much of a difference you're making. Sincerely and appreciatively from myself.

I needed this thank you

To me what is important is reframing the perception of aloneness - you could say being alone helps you to self-reflect and grow. If there is one thing about death that is certain, it’s that you do it alone.

@Novastar.SaberCombat

Жыл бұрын

Precisely. Death is the only true test of an individual soul's resilience. Reflection is key. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)

This was a wonderful insightful exposition on mankind’s existential battle with loneliness, emptiness and anxiety. Advancing the concept of true freedom as the panacea for all of our psychological ills. As if living out our potentialities to the fullest is the ultimate end in itself. But obviously, this illusive dream has been achieved by so few of us because it doesn’t exist. Our fate ends in a pathetic, absurd, nihilism, with only the occasional feelings of euphoria in our meagre attempts at experiencing life to the fullest in each fleeting moment. Climaxing in an imperceptible, amaranthine void. \¥/

@adanflores2044

Жыл бұрын

Can you go more in depth about why you believe this?

This is Gold! Ive always been OK being alone . Peace

I was literally searching your vids a month or so ago to find something on Rollo May! Loved Man’s Search For Himself

My dominant value might be that life will get better, I'll find meaning, or companionship. I'll end up qualified and enjoy what I do. I have none of these, it's been a long time, things are getting worst, recession is here, country is run by scumbags. I'm pretty shit at my trade despite being smart, just not learning. The thought of continuing to live like this sends my anxiety skyrocketing, I spiral and barely avoid another suicide attempt.

The hardest part about mental illness is accepting the fact that this was brought upon myself by powers beyond my control. When I was diagnosed with Autism at the age of 2, I was ordered to take medicine with ended up giving me a false personality. When I entered Middle School, I was forcefully ostracized and pigeonholed against my will, labeled incapable of doing great things and acting next to normal all because of my diagnosis. All these special ed classes and social skills camps ever taught us how to do was act like an Autist, they'd teach us what we already learned years ago. We were basically conditioned to be codependent on the opinions of others, to sit and think about what we done while neglecting our mental development, and punish us whenever we'd try to advocate for ourselves. In short, I was set up to fail in my youth, and I was never taught to think for myself until I became 17. In the meantime, I was bullied relentlessly by my peers for my Autism in high school. These bullies weren't the dumb brutes that Hollywood portrays them to be, they were masters of psychological warfare. They gaslighted me, using my Autism as a scapegoat to blame me for their own issues and make my life miserable. It got so bad, they sexually assaulted me in the showers, and blackmailed my only friend to betray me. The adults did nothing, no matter how much I cried out to them for help. Fortunately, my parents, being the kind souls they were, sent me to wilderness therapy to recover. Sure enough, I did. And after two years in therapy, I was soon college bound. But even afterwards, I was shunned by my own peers even as an adult because I was forced to take medicine that made me half asleep. Lockdown was like living in solitary confinement for me, as I was part of a housing program that shut down and offered no therapeutic assistance during those times. I was quite literally tortured by my own thoughts and cyberbullied for the suicide of my childhood friend online. Even at age 24, I feel mentally underdeveloped thanks to the horrid lack of support.

@alan6

Жыл бұрын

Hope you're ok

@agentvic1565

Жыл бұрын

I don’t really have much advice for you except let it go. Pain is all around us and I know it’s easier to have someone to blame ( as they are). But you’re older now, you’re in control, never forget that. Slowly and surely you’ll move past it. Believe in yourself the same way you needed someone to believe in you. ✅

@stevo999

7 ай бұрын

hey man i don’t know you at all personally but just wanna say hang in there man life can be unfair i understand what your feelings there’s things out of our control but try not to let them eat at you so much just remember as long as your alive you have the chance to be happy love ya man

@hawkeyenextgen7117

7 ай бұрын

Sometimes I can't help but feel angry at the fact that people deliberately hindered me from growing up like I wanted to. How can I let it go if people wont let me be an adult?@@agentvic1565

Your channel is invaluable my dear boy.

one of my favorite channel

I have lost total faith in humanity...only fakes and snakes are left.. morality and integrity are dead......

@filthyrat2181

8 ай бұрын

It's not true just cut off all the douchebags from your life that are troubling you, and social media is extremely toxic and bad for your mental health. Deleted my social media accounts years ago best thing I ever did

@HarryPotter-gw6qk

3 ай бұрын

​@@filthyrat2181i removed social media a month ago, and I have to be honest, i have never been so happy in my life in a long time, i feel free and not tired anymore, i want to do stuff and i dont feel these feelings of melancholy the same way