Becoming an adult is realizing that Teri was a victim and her whole family was gaslighting her

@katrinahtims6687

4 ай бұрын

When You Typed This! 🙏🏾

@RapFanatic4ever

4 ай бұрын

I never knew how to feel about that

@ExeErdna

3 ай бұрын

This is true, they used the "light skinned drama" plus "angry black woman" as a smoke screen when really she was 100% right

@pineappleonpizza395

3 ай бұрын

As a kid My sister n i always liked Terri, the family used her hmm

@laurynalana1876

2 ай бұрын

She was definitely a victim, however u don’t have 2 agree with me, but every1 in that family was guilty of something bad. Max & Kenny guilty of betraying Terry, Lem guilty of legal trouble, Bird guilty of running into her ex behind her Lem’s back, Miles & Faith guilty of getting vulnerable & sleeping together, Terry guilty of diminishing her husband‘s dreams & butting in2 lem & Bird‘s business calling Blimp. Mother Joe, guilty of not taking care of herself. Uncle Pete guilty of mistaking his niece 4 his sister

Big Mama was the real villain. If she had been encouraging the family to show Teri some respect all along, their lives would’ve been much more harmonious. Instead she conditioned Teri to swallow disrespect, and she literally sat on a small fortune, while allowing Teri to be financially and emotionally abused by her, her sisters, AND their husbands.

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

Let’s not forget Cousin Faith who Terri took in after Max encouraged her to just to avoid her Karma for stealing Kenny from Terri. For Momma Joe to treat Terri like sh*t she maybe not Papa Joseph’s real daughter as Momma Joe messed around on Papa Joseph with Faith’s father (Momma Joe was Max) while he was in the army. Who knows what Skeletons Mama Joe has for her to say “We all have skeletons” hmm as she was projecting at that moment 🤦🏾‍♂️..

@kasun1752

Жыл бұрын

I agree! Terry like many other like her has not responsibility with their sibling!

@vdotme

Жыл бұрын

Facts. And the commentary on the canteen fight firing gave me the worst enabler vibes ever. Homeboy should have kept his cool and his job. 3 months in he can start applying elsewhere with an employment history - little as it is - it's better than going back to the original failed option.

@heat0252

Жыл бұрын

Indeed!!

@MonnamiePhannPhann

Жыл бұрын

Boom!

How could Terri feel loved by her family? She was nothing but an ATM machine to them. I felt sorry that Terri allowed them to treat her that way.

@PHSDM104

Жыл бұрын

Automatically Terri's Money

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

Yeah Poor Terri, first Her sister steals her man then they get married and start a family. Terri is now left to take in her hoochie mama of a cousin in when the sisters didn’t want her around. Then She helps herself onto Terri’s husband. Yet everyone uses her as a corner Automatically Terri’s money machine without no consideration or understanding of her feelings of love, support and respect 🤦🏾‍♂️..

@Michadoo

Жыл бұрын

She needed to go no contact after law school.

@Exquisitely-A

Жыл бұрын

Right and her sisters betrayal!!! I could never

@MrLionelg33

Жыл бұрын

Because Terri was greedy and selfish for the 💵 that's why.

When re-watching a positive Black family film and you realize how toxic the family was. I wrote a 40 page paper about the terrible gender politics of Soul Food, particularly how Terri was treated, both as a character, and in terms of how the character was supposed to be perceived by audiences. Everyone hated Terri, but she was literally keeping the whole family afloat while Big Mama sat on a hidden pile of cash.

@DeeDaKaang1

Жыл бұрын

40 📄 pages??? For what class?

@tranaelabranche1219

Жыл бұрын

you still have that paper ? lol i’d love to read it

@afroditesis4738

Жыл бұрын

@@tranaelabranche1219 honestly same

@sparklefairy34

Жыл бұрын

@@tranaelabranche1219 I’d like to read it as well tbh😂

@allencollins5666

Жыл бұрын

I Wanna Read It.

Terry legit was the only one with sense...I remember as a kid watching this hating her because all of the women in my house did wasn't until I matured that I realized she was 100% right, she may have been a little arrogant at times but she wasn't wrong in her logic.

@HinataUchiha_22

Жыл бұрын

Same I realized she was right but her delivery was off Nobody gonna listen to someone who talks down to them

@Dreadpoolz3977

Жыл бұрын

@@HinataUchiha_22 Can you blame her? Guarantee she grew up being called white and a coon for wanting to educate herself that defense doesn't come from nowhere, she didn't come outta the wound thinking she was better than everyone...I know this from personal experience because I've dealt with it I was the male Terry of my immediate family and I was the same way when I graduated college because the whole reason for going was to spite them in the first place. In Black households we celebrate the ignorant but shun the intelligent which was my entire point, you get shunned for long you become jagged what do you expect? If they didn't care about their own mom's health and their own what makes you think they treated education differently?

@MelaninCosplay

Жыл бұрын

I agree. I had to become a woman and go through what Teri went through which was helping my mom take care of my sick father and brother until their deaths while I myself is suffering from Lupus and such...I get a little of what she was put through being the rock and the one to be leaned on when I have other siblings that haven't put in any work.

@HinataUchiha_22

Жыл бұрын

@@Dreadpoolz3977 Even if they’re a family Teri is not a charity and she didn’t make that clear outside of her snarky comments that she made while opening her check book which she should have She let them get to comfortable She paid for bird’s wedding, her salon, and her cosmetology degree and I know bird could have done at least one of those herself And I’m pretty sure max lives with big mama who we see had money at the end of the movie so why are they asking Teri for anything if we’re being honest Teri may have been paying the property taxes too I might have to rewatch And on the difference between them I always interpreted the 3 sisters different outlooks on what their parents we’re focusing on at the time when Teri was born they were struggling and pulling themselves up when they had Max they got to be a regular family where the mom stays home and Bird got to see both not just with the parents but with max and Teri since one went with school and the other did family and she did both

@copperredd

Жыл бұрын

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Looking back, big mama was wrong for always sweeping shit under the rug. She’s kind of the root of the problem that’s plaguing this family

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I agree, Momma Joe was the main root of the problems. I wouldn’t be surprised if She had more skeletons in her closet than anybody in that whole family as Ahmad quoted her in always saying everyone has skeletons. Basically saying Is that Terri maybe Faith’s half sister in Momma Joe and Faith’s father having an affair while Papa Joseph was in the war and behind her late sister’s (Faith’s mom) back (Momma Joe was the original Max) which I bet if they make a 2nd sequel to expose that secret and get Terri justice. It makes perfect sense as Faith and Terri are both light skinned while Max and Bird are dark skinned. And the way Momma Joe treats Terri by belittling her (on being on Husband #2) and not thinking of her as also the main strongest in taking care of the whole family including Momma Joe financially with a successful career as an attorney who would make partner with no appreciation from them whatsoever. What about The whole Chaperone rules when Terri dated Kenny and having Max come along and that caused problems into Max stealing Kenny from Terri which is the main reasons why the two sisters don’t get along. Momma Joe told Terri to get over it basically without saying much to Max about her actions while sweeping it under the rug. Not telling the family to pull their own weight into taking care of themselves instead of always going to Terri every-time they get into financial difficulties. All that loop Momma Joe had in her brother’s TV while saying the cash was nothing but a myth which is ridiculous because that loop could of helped pay half her bills or take care of the family in need sometimes instead of always mooching off her own daughter’s success. Then of course always bailing out Cousin Faith when she was young and wild while always making excuses for both her and Max’s behavior in looking the other way. So sad, as Momma Joe was Faith and Max back in her younger days.

@xci_radio2211

Жыл бұрын

That's a SOLID ass point

@Mrs.buildingblackwealth

Жыл бұрын

Right

@braxton9192

Жыл бұрын

That's how it be in a ton of families 🤷🏾‍♂️

@joybalonda7663

Жыл бұрын

It’s always like that man, in all families, the parents and elders are always the root cause to conflict amongst siblings

What they won’t tell you is the “Soul Food “ gave big Momma the diabetes 🤷🏿‍♂️

@simplyjuannie5128

Жыл бұрын

Huey Freeman said it best 🤣🤣🤣

@reneeboyd80

Жыл бұрын

If they were only eating that every Sunday, that would not give you diabetes. It comes from other unhealthy choices and a lack of physical activities.

@PaniniWasteland

Жыл бұрын

That's why I only make soul food three times a year.

@devegas4910

Жыл бұрын

And they had it every damn week!!!

@notaytguru8214

Жыл бұрын

@@PaniniWasteland exactly!

Honestly, that family was trash; The way they treated Terri like a cash cow was despicable. I wish she would have cut all of those losers off, divorce that weak beta husband and lived her life. None of them were appreciative of the things she did for them. And granted Terri wasn’t perfect she did used to throw it back in their faces but at the same time they always looked to her and volunteered her to pay for stuff she didn’t ask to do.

@caramelcosmo71147

Жыл бұрын

Trash is a bit extreme don’t cha think? I’ve known some trash ass families in my day and they are mild in comparison 😭😭😭

@AnekoFoxx

11 ай бұрын

They objectified Terri. Terri was not a human, she was an ATM that they felt entitled to because they’re biologically related. Even before Terri had money, Maxine having an affair with her boyfriend, and later marrying him was inappropriately gross and trifling.

Whoever was writing this had a major class issue - they must have seen the "bougie Black woman" as the enemy, as they are almost always depicted in Black fiction. Doesn't matter what they do or what happens to them, they're always in the wrong. Terri should have cut her losses years ago.

@ms.bubs4fun506

Жыл бұрын

💯

@20stacks11

Жыл бұрын

or maybe they were brilliant because they created a space for the ambiguity on how the audience can interpret terri's character as well as other characters in the story. Hence why the movie gained the attraction that it did.

@dee-dee8718

Жыл бұрын

It's depicted in movies because that's reality. This always happens. There's a Terri in almost every black family

@ImGonnasayit

5 ай бұрын

More people should have class issues. I think it had more to do with her being the lightest with light eyes. Her pretty “privilege” was a burden to her from her family.

@KikiW89

5 ай бұрын

(Let's be real) Most in the Black Community Mothers treat their kids Differently I'm sure I'm this movie If Big Mama had a Son he would also Be a spoiled Brat

I think Max was more forgiving toward Faith because she herself had stole Kenny from Terri so how could she judge?

@jamesgibson3716

Жыл бұрын

LOL...but think about it: did she steal him or did he willingly leave??

@ereka333

Жыл бұрын

@@jamesgibson3716 that was her sisters boo first she was dead wrong

@jamesgibson3716

Жыл бұрын

@@ereka333 She was wrong, but when Terri caught them in the car, it didn't look like Kenny was being raped. He was all into that!!! LOL

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

Yet Max was shadiest one towards Cousin Faith (out the 3 Joseph Sisters) the moment she walked in at Mama Joe’s house. Max rolled eyes while pissed off then telling Terri to take Faith in. Other than Max realizing that she was Faith in taking Terri’s men I bet she was really pissed off when Faith walked in because Karma was starting (after revealing her past on why her and Terri don’t get along) had She had Faith stay in her home. I bet that’s also why she all nice to Faith other than forgiving her because the weight was off Max (Now that Faith was at Terri’s house). Max also being nice to Faith later on that Max blamed Miles fully for messing around with Faith on Terri while looking at Faith as a vulnerable victim when she seduced Miles first🤦🏾‍♂️.

@career5690

Жыл бұрын

@@jamesgibson3716 Both

This movie really spotlighted many of the black American family troupes. Especially how when you do right and go to college and succeed, you become financially responsible for the whole family. Definitely when you are a black female and become successful this happens to you and you are gaslighted when you complian how unfair it is.

@shaunaf2811

Жыл бұрын

Amen

@chocha4438

Жыл бұрын

Honestly, that’s most cultures in the world especially low-income and 3rd world countries.

@career5690

Жыл бұрын

Haitian American family troupes too trust me.

@notaytguru8214

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. I’m expected to buy the entire holiday dinner for the entire family because I “have a good job” If I decline I’m “selfish”

@claytonphillips85

Жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯💯💯💯 as soon as you become the financially successful one in the family here comes everyone with their damn hand out. They look too you to take care of everybody

It’s funny every time Terri pointed out things the family should be doing and what she paid for, all they could say was “worry about your husband.”

@IMissChele9

Жыл бұрын

I think she should have. She should’ve cut the family off, and supported his music and her own interests

@Mrs.buildingblackwealth

Жыл бұрын

Right

@BabyT123B

Жыл бұрын

@@IMissChele9 honestly she really should’ve, even though he did cheat on her. It wouldn’t have happened if she didn’t let other people have a say in her actions, and didn’t let family come between them. If she wouldve supported him more about him instead of supporting her family she would’ve had a healthier marriage. It was already on a thin line because she was becoming the bread winner in her marriage and she didn’t want to support him.

@AnekoFoxx

11 ай бұрын

@@BabyT123BIt would have still happened. Cheating in the character of the person, not the status of the relationship.

@BabyT123B

11 ай бұрын

@@AnekoFoxx it happened because she was neglecting her spouse. Why be in a marriage and focus on everybody but your husband. The marriage couldn’t grow because she wasn’t watering it. She was more loyal to her family than to him.

When that movie came out, I immediately identified with Teri. I was the only financially responsible working one out of my siblings. When Teri said to them ATM stood for "All Teri's money" I started saying that to my family. ATM to them stood for "all Tyra's money." It's very toxic behavior.

The first time I saw Soul Food was as a kid, after watching it as an adult, I see Terry was totally financially abused and emotionally by her family. Her sister stole and married her boyfriend when they were younger, they basically tell her to shut up whenever she mentions what she paid for, they want her to continue to pay for their childhood home without offering to help pay….and the cousin comes in and sleeps with her husband. To be honest Terry would have been within her rights to dip off and leave the entire family after the mother dies and star fresh in another state!

@goodfay

Жыл бұрын

On the show. Kenny and Teri said they barely wanted each other. But still

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

@@goodfay yeah I bet it was all about the betrayal in Max and Kenny not being upfront with Terri about them feeling each other with Terri catching them in act which hurt her the most.

@missietgardendelight6029

Жыл бұрын

Max and Kenny were selfish and greedy.

Now that I think about it; I've never heard them say, "thank you" to Teri once. So they just offered out her services without asking and gaslighted tf out of her, if there was any push back, while doing her foul along the way. If the movie ended with Teri not only divorcing Miles, but taking her money and never seeing that family again, it would have been a much better movie.

@Biboche23

7 ай бұрын

Never thats the paet that shocked me and pissed me off they just yelled at her instead of

@kamillepierce7271

7 ай бұрын

@@Biboche23What shocked me was the fact That the sisters allowed him to be sitting at the table across from Terri. Like her feelings completely don’t matter. Terri feels neglected so she neglected her own husband. Terri feels her feelings don’t matter so it plays a part in her character. Her sister Married her Ex. Throws in her face she can’t cook etc. Terri defense mechanism is to use SCHOOL and MONEY as a one upper. I don’t think she truly felt loved therefore she can’t LOVE. When she does it gets taken away from her. So now she self sabotages her own relationships like her marriage. But besides that Terri is always READY TO PROTECT And HELP. That’s her true character that never got appreciated The feelings of betrayal never got addressed. Since she’s the big sister she has TAKE whatever is thrown at her. This is why she appears cold. And undeserving of sympathy. But i totally sympathize with her❤️

@badgyrl310

Ай бұрын

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

Terri’s childhood sweetheart cheated on her with her own sister and eventually married her. Terri is the breadwinner in her family and had to take care of the entire family. Terri witnessed her husband sleeping with her cousin. Girl, I would be bitter and angry too.

@daniellej7914

7 ай бұрын

High school

So... the whole family gaslit Terri by ignoring her feelings and comments anytime she brought up how she pays for everything. They financially abuse her and are entitled. Big Mama is one of the worst offenders because if you have this big stash of money why is Terri always paying for everything including bills for the house?

@ms.bubs4fun506

Жыл бұрын

Right! Big Mama was waiting till death to flex her stupidly hidden stash of cash. 😂

@Mrs.buildingblackwealth

Жыл бұрын

Right

@samflood5631

3 ай бұрын

That’s because she was too busy cooking whatever food could heighten her cholesterol and her body weight.

The family kept taking from Terri! Taking her men, taking her money, taking her peace of mind! What was left!?

@dionmarbury

11 ай бұрын

Right?!

@marcuscherry6685

8 ай бұрын

Lol

@eamonndeane587

3 ай бұрын

Her hair, I suppose ?

It’s so funny how Terri was the only one with sense and yet SHE got dogged out the most

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

So True especially when she protested against having Sunday Dinner with Momma Joe in a coma . Terri was Huey (Boondocks) at that moment looking after her and everyone’s health as That Soul Food being the main reason why Momma Joe was in a coma to begin with not to mention the lost of her 🦵 other than being diabetic. Max was just waiting for the Dinner show to go on (No consideration of Momma Joe’s sickness) while thinking of the family tradition when she just wanted to call the shouts in the family while putting all the financial burden on Terri to pay for everything.

She should have said no!! Their failures are not her emergencies!

@FlutterMouse

Жыл бұрын

This is definitely a generational thing. My grandmother used to support some no good relatives financially out of some misplaced feelings of obligation. When she eventually died, the relatives showed up SIX MONTHS later talm bout, who was going to give them their cut? Cut of what? They weren't in the will. They were entitled to nothing. They really thought the children and grandchildren were going to pick up where she left off and keep supporting them. People have lives and their own families to support. Y'all grown grown! They left all indignant. Some people are really something else.

@TamESQ

Жыл бұрын

@@FlutterMouse 😂 The “cut of what” made me crack up!!!

@marissawilson4644

Жыл бұрын

Honestly, they raised her that way. She was raised to be the responsible one and then guilt tripped into helping everyone else

@FlutterMouse

Жыл бұрын

@@marissawilson4644 oh 100 percent. It's parentification 101

@saintc7790

Жыл бұрын

That was worded SO well

Since I was a child, I knew they were doing Terry wrong. They were making some heavy financial decisions off of her dime, while simultaneously insulting her. Let’s talk about big mama was the real drama before ending up in the hospital. 👀

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

Right, Mama Joe and Her Chaperone rules is the reason why Terri and Max don’t get along. She told Max to go with Terri on her date with Kenny and instead of chaperoning Max helped herself to Kenny. Not once did Mama Joe say anything to Max about her wrong doing and instead she told Terri to get over it. Ahmad said Mama Joe said everyone has skeletons in the closet, So do her I bet as she probably use to be Max and Faith when she young for her to always excuse their behavior like nothing happened. Not to mention the way she laughed at Terri being on Husband #2.

@lrs1519

Жыл бұрын

I hated that scene at the party when max goes I just thought y’all could pay for it and we’ll pay you in installments. Man. Even as an 8 year old watching for the first time I knew that was effed up.

@kaylao.3326

Жыл бұрын

@@jakimsingletary164 when did Big Mama tell her to get over it? I never saw that part in the movie. That must’ve been in the series

@koolinwitk1789

Жыл бұрын

@@kaylao.3326 yea that had to be in the series i just dnt rememeber what episode

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

@@kaylao.3326 she didn’t say it on screen but behind the scenes possibly after the altercation between Terri and Max when Terri caught Max with Kenny red handed in his car.

I just rewatched it last night. Teri definitely had high-functioning depression and spent the entire movie asking her family for help to no avail.

Terri was honestly my favorite character because growing up, I felt her pain and saw that the family was doing her wrong lol. This was noticeable even when I was a kid watching this

@annie6891

Жыл бұрын

So I guess I wasn't the only one watching this way before I was supposed to 🤣. But I agree, even then I was on Teri's side, I always saw her as a victim of her family.

@russelladams7134

Жыл бұрын

I have mixed feelings about Terri. Yeah she paid for a lot of things but she thought she was better than everyone else. Terri was crazy trying to stab her husband with a knife but hell Miles cheated on her. In real life Vanessa Williams played a great role. All of them did great.

@annie6891

Жыл бұрын

@@russelladams7134 I mean she kinda was better than them ,🙈

@fans-ed1td

Жыл бұрын

That blows my mind bc as a kid watching this movie, I was too young to understand why Terri was the way she was. I thought she was just bitter but didn't really get it until I watched as an adult

@ms.bubs4fun506

Жыл бұрын

@@russelladams7134 Terri was better than them! They were grown and should’ve made better financial choices. Birdie literally married a dusty thug. Terri should’ve ghosted that family.

We all owe Aunt Teri an apology

@shanstube6358

Жыл бұрын

Not me , I’ve been defending her for over 20years … me and Teri needs an apology, we are tired !

@aariussutherland1548

9 ай бұрын

Terri deserves better

@badgyrl310

Ай бұрын

​@@shanstube6358💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 I have been #TeamTerri since the day I saw this movie in the theater. My biggest issue with this movie is the way her character was vilified at every turn. From constantly having her relationship mistakes thrown in her face to selling the house to defending her sister from what she was lead to believe was an abusive husband to then getting him out of jail. Taking in a relative no one else wanted to deal with and having that backfire because "she didn't support her man". She couldn't win no matter what she did. If there is ever a reboot, Terri deserves redemption.

Okay... So big mama had all that money stashed... But Terri was the one paying for everything?

@googleuser7454

Жыл бұрын

Yes. She probably felt that the rest of the family wasn't "ready" so she had Terri picking up the slack for years

@salliewalker4141

Жыл бұрын

She probably has it stashed so when something happens to her the family can still stay afloat 😊😊😊😊

@KikiW89

5 ай бұрын

Looks like She saved it to save her home Because that's what happened

@DrKb2935

2 ай бұрын

In the Soul Food series Terri developed anxiety bc she got with an immature man. Damon, who cheated 😒 on her, was an alcoholic, and when he was confronted, Damon abandoned Terri. 😢

This was so accurate, Teri didn't deserve any of the animosity towards her. People tried to make her out to be a stuck up snob when really she just wanted to be a responsible adult.

And what makes Terri situation more saddening and relatable is that in real life there are plenty of family members like terri that sacrifice so much of their time and finances to keep others afloat, instead of those others making better and more responsible decisions. Like Dave Ramsey stated it’s your family that’s most likely gonna keep you broke :(

I was also wondering why big mama let Terri pay for everything if she has money 🤔

@pashmina781

Жыл бұрын

That part!!! 💯

@simplyjuannie5128

Жыл бұрын

Stingy

@DWFIT

Жыл бұрын

She probably planned to leave it to them in the event she passed. Big momma was likely not working. Her money would have ran out quickly.

@alienunicorn4178

Жыл бұрын

@@DWFIT I still wouldn't let my eldest be the bank I would told the other kids to figure it out.

@DWFIT

Жыл бұрын

@@alienunicorn4178 At the end of the day that was Teri’s choice. I didn't see Big Momma telling Teri to fund Bird’s salon or pay for her wedding. Since it wasn't in the movie I'm going to say it didn't occur. Teri was likely helping pay some of her moms expenses out of love for her mother which is commendable. Teri had the power to say No to her siblings/ family. She chose not to. There are a lot of Teri’s in the world.

Lord…this hits hard. I became Terrie. I just wrapped my last Christmas gift and said, “this is the last year. There will be a lot of ppl mad in the months to come. Oh well.” Being strong is not a flex. It’s self disrespect. Draw boundaries early. Cousin Faith didn’t sleep with my ex. Somebody’s cousin did lol. I just don’t know the relation. I took the kids and left.

@kayc421

Жыл бұрын

Girl I said the same thing last year and it is so freeing.

People like terrie always have to help everybody isn’t supposed say anything.

Its easy to forget that Ahmad was just a child. Things are seen and handle from his point of view. He was put in adult situations and constantly conversations. Remember he didn't know the reason why his Aunt Terri was crying all of a sudden that day. It may have seemed like he was always in grown folks business, but as we all saw the adults were barely trying to hide their problems from any of the kids. Ex: Lem telling Ahmad about lying to his aunt, Maxine and Terri auguring over there comatose mother with, the whole anniversary altercation. He just wanted his family to get along.

@cicely2084

Жыл бұрын

It was quite sad. Too many Black children are parentified.

@notaytguru8214

Жыл бұрын

The plight of the black child, I knew what sex and credit were looooong before I had it 🥴

@magicbutterflyarmstrong9277

Жыл бұрын

That's how I felt when adults say "stay out of grown people business". I always remember (even to this day) saying "how do you expect me to stay out of it when you always put me in it." It's either being a middle child or being brought in the middle. Regardless, you can't win.

@Chitownhomestead

11 ай бұрын

​@@cicely2084huge facts.. I practically raised my brothers

@redwolf8135

9 ай бұрын

This is a common problem in the black community. Kids being involved in grown folk's business.

Terri had it right. “F that family” just wanna piggyback off the cheating point of the video because her being just looked at as the “financial support” is already too much. I get that time had pass between Max and Kenny but here you are, at an 11 year anniversary party to celebrate between your sister and your EX (who she messed around with while y’all was together) And you’re suppose to be happy while you just witness your cousin cheating with your husband. 2 of your family members got with the only two men we’ve ever saw you in the movie with. Chile, throw that whole family away.

Honestly, why did they blame Terri for Lem going to jail? It was BIRD who made a deal with him to get Lem a job. It was BIRD who accepted that bracelet. It was LEM who snatched her into that back room and bird was screaming while Lem was tossing things all over the place. And it was LEM who had that gun illegally. He got himself arrested. I always wished Terri would have gotten Therapy and cut off her freeloaders of a family. They were literally her abusers. Also, why did Faith, Miles, or anyone in that family think they were entitled to any of the money? Terri needed a refund for all the money she was giving. And why didn't bird get Lem some barber classes and make him a barber in her shop? I don't know why any of them thought they needed that money more than Terri or deserved it. Just greedy. Especially the sister having the nerve to financially volunteer Terry and miles in the kitchen. Miles should have stood up and said No. He married into the family but didn't volunteer to be their breadwinner. Especially among two other men who should really feel ashamed for not financially contributing. I bet they never even attempt to pay Terry back in installments ever. Vivica's character said 'maybe we can pay you back in installments'. With their carefree attitude about her money, you know for sure they were never paying her back. The woman was a lawyer, not a billionaire. Heaven forbid this was today with the cost of inflation and just prices in general. Terry would be flat broke and living like the uncle in big mama house. Atleast until they lost the house since for some reason, no one ever had money to pay for anything. Like, how did bird and lem live there rent free and not even pay utilities? Its utilities! All emotionally and financially abusive and they are teaching those children a terrible way to value family.

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

I couldn’t agree with you more, not to mention it was Lem who also broke the glass door of Bird’s shop and it was Bird who was crying hysterically after Lem stormed off after repeatedly throwing things around causing all of that in Terri taking action in protecting her sister. Yet she gets the full blame for their mistakes and no thank you for helping Lem get release out of jail and get his job back after she realize she made a mistake in thinking Lem beat up Bird. She needed therapy and let the family be after that last Sunday Dinner as soon as she got her cash from the Uncle’s TV. It would of been smart if Ahmad or somebody with common sense to say that that cash should go Terri after all she’s done for that ungrateful family (except Ahmad) in helping financially with no thank you or pay back whatsoever. That money could be their own pay back to Terri.

@notaytguru8214

Жыл бұрын

They blame her because she called cousin blimp but if my sister’s husband abused her I would’ve called the goons too 🤷🏽‍♀️

@Bakuru

Жыл бұрын

Terry shouldn't have called Blimp to retaliate. She tried to clean dirtyness with dirtyness. Bad move. Everything else you said though was completely true. When you see this as a kid, you look at it more like Ahmad did, where you see who's trying to do right as abstract as possible. Nuance and unsaid energies aren't noticed by a child. But when you grow older and actually understand everything that was happening, you see who really was the fxck ups and the victims. Now they all had their problems, Terri included. But she definitely was the most responsible, and everyone tried to bash her for it, while simultaneously leaning on it 🤦🏾 it's ridiculous. I get now why she wanted to sell the house. Cuz NONE of them could take it on, and she was tired of doing EVERYTHING. The only thing I would have done more if I was her was support her husband a little more. He had the means to pursue his dream, and wanted to go for it now while he actually had opportunity and it wouldn't cripple them. And she basically blew him off. Which is why he connected with Faith in the first place (not justifying his hook up though, that was ALL THE WAY fxcked up my guy 🤦🏾🤦🏾 WHY would he do that? He didn't even want to be with her for real 😵‍💫) But yeah, Terri didn't deserve the bullshxt she went through with them. At all

@SCI5JUNKIE

10 ай бұрын

Well u see Miles had stepped into some shit at that point.. Them family bills was the last thing on that niggas mind….

@waters228_91

4 ай бұрын

Well to be fair, it was a pretty bad move for Terri to sic the guys on Lem. Sure she was sticking up for her sister, which is fine, but what she should have done was to step in and listen to both sides of the argument. And sure it wasn't a smart move for Lem to pull out a gun on those dudes, but they were all ganging up on him all at once and he was only defending himself. What choice did he really have at that moment? So it was kind of her fault Lem was in jail. Had she just simply broke up the banter between Bird and Lem and take the time to learn what the situation was all about, it all could have been avoided.

Terri would have beaten her up. I do feel bad for Terry in this whole movie as I got older and saw the movie I realized terry wasn’t the villain and Maxine was

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

Yet Mama Joe called Max the strongest just because she’s a great cook like her and has family. Not to mention Max being Mama Joe’s golden child more than the Father’s. In reality it was Terri who was the strongest one with a successful career as a lawyer that would make partnership. Her career helped took care of the whole family especially Mama Joe’s estate in holding it down financially as they took her and her success for granted without no appreciation or a Pat on the back not even from her own mother. I wouldn’t be surprise if Mama Joe use to behave like Max and Faith before she settled down with the father (For her to say we all got skeletons, including herself) and became a woman of God. The Father low key thought of Terry as his favorite and like Ahmad understood her the best .

@shaquana12hyatt

Жыл бұрын

@@jakimsingletary164 I believe so too. My younger self Myles is my favorite and my oldest self terry is the favorite

@prettynblue

2 ай бұрын

@@jakimsingletary164 Yo, I just said this yesterday to my mother after watching this movie the other day. Terri was the strongest in the family, NOT Maxine. Terry beat the odds and became a successful lawyer and tolerated a LOT from her family. I personally wouldn't have token that much disrespect and would have cut everyone off.

@jakimsingletary164

2 ай бұрын

@@prettynblue That’s what she should have did the moment the money Big Mama denied having was hidden inside her brother’s T.V. and the moment Bird and Lem turned on her in blaming her fully in him going back to jail (Due to Terri sending her cousin on him) when they played a part in it as well. She should’ve said F*ck the family once again during the money discovery and told them to keep for themselves and that their all on their own in paying for Big Mama’s house and the bills to it while they spend the money wisely as she’s done with their ungrateful a**es.

I can't believe this movie is 25 years old now! I once read that Whitney Houston was originally considered to play Terri.

@whatsgoinontoday2371

Жыл бұрын

Uhh? news to me

@Boobalopbop

Жыл бұрын

She would have been great! Vanessa was great, but I really can’t imagine her having so much trouble keeping a man. Dumped for a sibling as a beautiful teen, cheated on with a cousin as a gorgeous and rich adult?? Not that Whitney wasn’t beautiful, but she was very skinny and with that frumpy wig they had on Vanessa, and the cold, arrogant attitude I think I could see it how she’s the type to get cheated on😬

@Ayla.a7a

Жыл бұрын

@@Boobalopbop You’re giving men too much credit there. Looks mean absolutely nothing when it comes to cheating. Beautiful women get cheated on all the time. Beyoncé comes to mind.

@Boobalopbop

Жыл бұрын

@@Ayla.a7a Yes, but consistently?? Her Highschool boyfriend with her SISTER?? Granted, in this story we only know of 2 relationships but I just don’t see Vanessa Williams as the type that just gets cheated on left and right. And Jay-Z is a rapper. Cheating is just part of that scene. I’m sure it was more than once.

@kathymcburnette4597

Жыл бұрын

@@Boobalopbop in real life, Vanessa Williams was cheated on several times. It happens. We have to be careful that colorism doesn’t cloud our minds.

What really bothered me was how big mama would remind Max “How strong she was” but Terri was the strongest one

@devantejackson5085

6 ай бұрын

Exactly 💯

Faith would have had to stay at Big Mama’s house. 💅🏾

Didn't Teri also pay for Ahmad's schooling or something like that?! Teri really had to go through TOO MUCH

Terri’s first husband was babyface… he and Miles were in band together that always took me out. This was my favorite movie in the 90’s. It is very triggering when I watch it present day. The pastor was out of control but never really checked for his actions toward the sisters. Kenny tried it with both sisters but was never called out for it. Faith was a trick and messy frfr. The whole story was wild but true in black family culture.

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

I agree, as I watch this more and more as an adult . Terri was more of a victim than a villain who did nothing but support her whole family financially through her successful career as partner being an attorney. All they do is take and take without no respect, love, support or consideration of her feelings while being betrayed by her own sister, cousin, husband, ex-boyfriend (Kenny) and her own mother. Shame on Kenny for entertaining Max and Terri’s strand relationship while fighting at the same without no apology from him or Max to Terri. Faith fast self getting too close to Miles and with that blow kiss hand gesture towards him at the end of her audition leading to them messing around later at him and Terri’s house. Mama Joe favoring Max more than Terri by calling Max the strongest and looking the other way at Max’s whorish and childish behavior while tearing down Terri for being on Husband #2 then laughing with Max about it in Terri’s face. Terri deserved better than all of them trifling asses and Don’t get me started on Bird and Lem doing Terri dirty at the end of the film.

@simplyjuannie5128

Жыл бұрын

Was that him sitting at the table during the flashbacks?

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

@@simplyjuannie5128 yes.

@theyearofgreatness

Жыл бұрын

@@jakimsingletary164I never caught that!

@missietgardendelight6029

Жыл бұрын

Mama Joe said Max was the strongest. Max was strong at ordering Terri around because she did not have the sense to say NO and stand firm.

Terri financed the whole family, their dreams, and their debts and was belittled for expressing her feelings and her pain, in return. Why did they feel it was OK to push the shady cousin into Terri and her husband's house? Why are they volunteering Terri and her money? Riddle me this: could this be part of the reason that Terri has to be careful with money and risk can't finance her husband's dream?

Terri was the best, my running theory is that Terri is big momma’s side child and she and Faith share a daddy which is why Big Momma keeps bailing out Faith and insists that she and Terry get along. The dynamics are messed up anyway but feels like it makes sense with that context, otherwise it’s just plain raggedy.

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

I was just thinking that, I bet Terri’s not The late Daddy’s biological Daughter as Momma Joe was probably messing around with The Daddy friends’, war buddies or Faith’s daddy (Momma Joe was Max) making Faith and Terri half-sisters with them both being light skin. Remember Ahmad quoted Mama Joe ‘s saying “We all have Skeletons in our closet”. I bet Momma Joe got plenty in hers including enemies (For Ahmad to say she never had none bullsh*t) and Terri’s paternity which is why Momma Joe treats her dirty (Like Lady Mae did Grace in Greenleaf in Grace not being Bishop’s) while making Max the untouchable golden child in being so called “The Strongest”. Max, Faith and Momma Joe mirror each other in being hoes and rewarded bad behavior 🤦🏾‍♂️. The need to do a sequel with everything out in the open 🙏🏾.

@FreyaEinde

Жыл бұрын

@@jakimsingletary164 Hard agree

@Mystiq81

Жыл бұрын

Never thought about this. Nice perspective.

"Hungry ass Freaky ass pastor" sent me to the moon shorty😂😂😂😭

Omg, I am so glad somebody did a video on this!! I have always been in favor of Teri, and never liked how she was treated by her sisters. That woman literally was done wrong and dirty throughout that movie, and she was the one that had the most to offer, and did the most to help everybody. And all they ever did was attack her, and belittle her. And even when she got cheated on by her husband with her cousin, they still were more nice to the cousin than they were her! They never did her right, and well she may have not always been the nicest person, they really headed to push her buttons a lot anyways, so nice for what?

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

I agree and I don’t blame Terri for acting the way she did in the movie. Everyone including Momma Joe did her dirty. It’s strange how Max was all nice to Faith later on but when she first came on at Momma Joe’s, Max was all shady and wasn’t surprise to see her . Than Max had the nerve to tell Terri to take Faith (Hoochie Mama) in because she can’t stay with her and her family. Max was projecting the whole time and trying to avoid her Karma because she use to be Faith in the past (stealing Terri’s men too) with it coming back on her. That’s why was she was nice to her and realizing her own past mistakes while blaming Miles fully for him and Faith fooling around behind Terri’s back making Faith look all vulnerable and innocent when she seduced Miles first. Mother like Daughter (Mamma Joe and Max) and Cousin like Cousin (Max and Faith) 🤦🏾‍♂️..

@whenyouwishuponastar6643

Жыл бұрын

Same!! I was so angry how they made her the villain for no good reason

This move does low key encourage the worst habits lol

I always felt that terry was mistreated by the family. Especially the mom …but believe it or not …it’s a lot of mothers out here just like that. The child that did well for themselves get mistreated . And lord if they have money .. if you ask and say no …you get nailed to the cross . You get to;d you think you are better then others. God is going to take it from you etc … if I was terry none of them especially my mom would of never heard from me.

@notaytguru8214

Жыл бұрын

My family 💯… The underachievers get treated like royalty

It must be hard to be the “successful one” or the most successful in a big family. You’re the one expected to come to the rescue whenever there’s a financial issue and most times, the family isn’t grateful for it… they just act like it’s your “duty.”

@IMissChele9

Жыл бұрын

It is, & makes it difficult to know if they’re just being nice when they want something or if they actually love you

@TwoFootMane

Жыл бұрын

Many families, as Mama Joe clearly displayed only see having children and keeping a man as SUCCESS- hence why so many become the bald headed step-child and don't F with own family like Aunt Terri should have cut their ungrateful asses off- it's such and dependent mindset

@khadhrikhan1549

Жыл бұрын

It even becomes a curse if you don’t pay attention

@MyAccountForCommenting

Жыл бұрын

You have to move away. I can't imagine what it would be like if I still lived back in my hometown because my lifestyle is worlds away from my extended family. I visited for NYE and soon after my cousin I hadn't seen for years started calling me and telling me I'm his favorite cousin. Within a month he was asking me to send him money. I said no and haven't heard from him since. Smh...

I think that a simple "thank you" is all Teri wanted to hear. It probably would have made a difference in how she reacted to things.

I never understood why Terri was hated. I really liked her character. She also has a right to be angry if she is paying for everything. So.. #teamterri

As a young kid my mom was always on Teri's side. she and bird were her fav characters. I thought teri was kind of mean and always angry. But now as an adult I absolutely understand her constant frustration. She was EXTREMELY underappreciated.

I like how Max also forced Faith to stay w/Teri as well. Max didn't want any karma of Faith taking Kenny like she took Kenny from Teri. Max was like Teri, Faith is staying w/you cause she's not staying with her, Kenny, & the kids. The family just forever piled on Teri. It also seemed when Teri came home and saw Ahmad at her house she didn't know he was staying. Max didn't even call Teri and asked if Ahmad could stay and hoisted Kelly off on Bird & Liam. Antagonized Teri saying she can't cook and she's the better cook. They say Max is the strongest. Please, she's the worst of the three sisters.

@badgyrl310

Ай бұрын

Max was my least favorite of the sisters. Couldn't stand her then, can't stand her now. Her constantly bragging about her cooking is because it's literally all she had going for her. If she's such a good cook, go to cooking school and become a professional chef. But that's work, and she'd rather leech off her sister while simultaneously disrespecting and tearing her down. I low key think Max was jealous of Terri.

They really were foul. Broke sister, man stealing sister and cousin, jail bird husbands, cheaters, etc. No arguments here. They did her FOUL, BUT she was also an ENABLER. I learned in my adulthood that if you expect it back or if you’re going to complain about it, it’s not a gift. Basically, don’t be a lender or a borrower, and stop being the bank for broke family members with expensive taste. Bird and her man would be flying to the court house lol 😂😂😂 Also, people really don’t understand diabetes. That type of food doesn’t cause diabetes. It’s how it’s prepared and how much of it you eat plus a long list of other factors.

@forthenostalgia

Жыл бұрын

One of the biggest lessons that I've learned is that if I can't afford to go without it, don't give it. Money can cause so much damage in relationships. Diabetes is tricky because it affects everyone differently. I have type 2 and I was able to get it controlled through a low-carb, low-sugar diet. I still indulge from time to time but find that it doesn't mess with my numbers too much. It's hard work managing it. You have to be extremely mindful of what you consume.

@queenla227

Жыл бұрын

@@forthenostalgia Exactly! Irresponsible people don’t understand the way money works, and those who have it feel the weight of being the financial caretaker. No thanks. I do too. I agree everyone is different. Mine isn’t like the extreme example Soul Food gave. I’m not obese or need insulin. I do not eat soul food often. I just saw a comment that blamed soul food for it, and it reminded me how little people actually understand about diabetes. Thanks for replying! 😊

Huey Freeman: We're gonna pause this for the benefit of all ya'll that never saw Soul Food. Soul Food is a movie about a big, humongous, black grandmother, aptly named Big Mama. Big Mama demonstrates her love by feeding herself and her offspring enormous amounts of pig lard. Then - get this - Big Mama's arteries are so clogged, they gotta amputate her arm. Robert 'Granddad' Freeman: It was her leg! Huey Freeman: Right, OK, whatever, leg. Then, she dies from a heart attack or another stroke or somethin'. And what does the family do after she dies? They get together for a Sunday dinner and eat the same food that just killed Big Mama. The *same* food. They didn't learn a lesson, nobody went on a diet, and that's the end of the movie. Robert 'Granddad' Freeman: Sunday dinners was my idea! They got that from me.

@Franklyn619

29 күн бұрын

Robert Grandad Freeman: God called her home

@nkotbsouth

16 күн бұрын

Y'all have me 🤣 up in here.

Even as a child, I felt sorry for Terri, and watching this in adult eyes, I can now relate to her. I got a high paying job and the rest of my family expects me to be the breadwinner for everyone else. They always try to "borrow" money for me, even for their own mistakes, and if I say no, I'm verbally crucified and constantly guilt-tripped. The worst part is that every time they "borrow" money for me, they say they will pay me back this particular day, and when that day actually comes, they either push it back another day or only pay me half of what they "borrow" from me. So I feel Terri's pain. It's fucked up how families guilt-trip you to sacrifice your life-savings at the expense of your own financial priorities.

I just wanna say Vivica A. Fox in the 90’s and early 2000’s was pure chef’s kiss. Loved to see it ❤❤❤

It's funny how this topic has been coming up lately. I saw this when if first came out and I NEVER thought Teri was a villain. In fact, she was my FAVORITE character. I thought the rest of the family was TRIFLING; from Big Mama on down. She thought it was so cute that Bird was running around with Lem and dragged Teri when she suggested Bird needs to focus on her business so she can repay her loan (You're already on husband #2). That's alright...I didn't see ANY of them turning down Teri's money. SMH...

Terri (and the nephew) were the only redeemable and likeable characters. Everyone else was a piece of work.

I've always thought Terri was done wrong, and Joan from Girlfriends

@notaytguru8214

Жыл бұрын

Pushover lawyers…

@aylanae4797

8 ай бұрын

Yesss my gawd.. so many people dogpill Joan

I can't understand why Teri kept her husband. He just slept with her cousin. I guess she had to forgive the cousin, and therefore her husband. I really think they should have split and she date other people until she found someone who matched her financially and valued her. Terri wasn't perfect, but she sure didn't deserve any of that.

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

They broke up but Miles still came to Sunday Dinner with them being friends. Faith is still apart of the family all according to Ahmad.

@TheElochai

Жыл бұрын

@@jakimsingletary164 They implied that that they were working it out.

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

@@TheElochai Ahmad said they broke up.

@koolinwitk1789

Жыл бұрын

@@TheElochai they wasn't together and then the series picks up on where they left on and they weren't together then either.

@quickmealswithtee

5 ай бұрын

Faith would have never set foot around the family again after what she did. Who’s to say she wouldn’t try to get Lem and Kenny next. Would Bird and Max be so forgiving if Faith slept with their husbands? I think not.

Yes to a “waiting to exhale” review😊

@forthenostalgia

Жыл бұрын

Im excited to do that one. I will have it out before/around New years. Thanks for watching!

@whatsgoinontoday2371

Жыл бұрын

Yayyy

Growing up is realizing this happens a lot more in the community than people want to acknowledge. Every family has a Terri

Teri was my favorite character. She was definitely taken advantage of. I will never forget the scene where they were all at the dinner table and Bird told Teri if she would’ve been worried about her own husband he wouldn’t be sleeping with Faith. Faith was about to get up and leave then Maxine told Faith to stay. Maxine was more worried about Faith than her own sister who had just got betrayed by her husband and cousin. It’s like Teri didn’t have the right to be human or something smh. Even at a young age I just wish I could’ve jumped in the screen and hug Teri. She always had to be the strong one. Even the strongest ones still need love. We’re all human.

@missietgardendelight6029

Жыл бұрын

Faith would never be allowed in my home if she betrayed one of my sisters by having sex with their husband. Definitely not within such a short time span when wounds are healing. Max should watch out, Faith would not having a problem seducing Kenny. Neither of the three set boundaries in regard to respecting family relationships.

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

@@missietgardendelight6029 exactly and I bet that was the reason why Max told Terri to take Faith (Hoochie Mama) in because she didn’t want her in her house. In Reality the reason was that Max knew if Faith had stayed in her house she would’ve seduced Kenny (as Max and Kenny couldn’t do it for weeks after the baby was born) as Max’s Karma for her stealing him from Terri when they were young. The moment after Ahmad revealed why Max and Terri don’t get along, Faith walks in the door which went downhill from there. Terri had to be the go to once again causing her to live the deja vu all over again as Max cheated her own Karma.

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

I agree on how strange that Max was all super nice to Faith later in the film , but when Faith first came to Momma Joe’s house Max didn’t even want her in her house. Instead Max pushed her onto to Terri by saying : Take the Hoochie Mama in because she can’t stay with me, Kenny and the kids. Why was that ?? Oh because Max was projecting her past of being a fast ass onto Faith (in taking Terri’s men) while scared that Karma was coming back on her. Cousin like Cousin. Max was all ride or die for Bird at her and Lem’s wedding about to beat up his hoochie Mama ex with The Sisters behind her and when Terri gets wronged by Faith and everyone looks the other way except Bird (telling Lem I can’t believe she’s here). Wonder what changed Max’s attitude towards Faith. Did Max realize her own past or was it because Faith just young in being bad as she was a lonely soul who needed love, if the 1st reason is true she should also apologize to Terri stealing Kenny. Terri deserve better.

@anthonyhollingsworth4349

Жыл бұрын

@@jakimsingletary164 Max was my least favorite character she was jealous of Teri bc she was well educated and was a career woman

When you think about it, it's kind of messed up that big mama had all that money, yet her daughter was paying the property tax. One thing I did like about the movie was the closeness that everyone had to Ahmed, including the in-laws. They all seemed to love him and spent time with him. If he needed anything, they all seemed to be there for him.

It wasn’t until I became Terry (minus my family messing with my man) that I realized she deserved better. 😅

I’m riding for Terri. 💅🏾

Now you know that the character name was “Cousin Faith” yet you called her “Faye” throughout the whole video. 😂 I definitely agree with your assessment of the family’s treatment of Teri. She was always expected to fund household bills, repairs, hospital bills, weddings, people business ventures, hobbies, etc.. She was never allowed to just be. Someone always came to her with their hands out. Teri definitely deserved better from her family!

@forthenostalgia

Жыл бұрын

I did 😂😂😂. They definitely took advantage of Teri and made everything her responsibility. Thanks for watching!!

@megamanxhunter

Жыл бұрын

That's what happens to some black families. When one of the kids is the most successful of them, the whole family expects and demands that person to take care of everyone. Teri is only a small window of this pattern.

"and she took it..... like a dummy"🤣 subscribed!

I always wondered was Uncle Pete in there watching a blank screen filled with money and who fed him everyday?! Like everyone had their own house he prolly came out when Big Mama died cause his ass was starving!

@ntashay2207

Жыл бұрын

Not starving 😂😂😂

@notaytguru8214

Жыл бұрын

Nah 😭😭😭😭

@Jingleball7734

5 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂STARVING

@marvaaba3929

4 ай бұрын

I’m dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Total sidenote. Did anybody notice that the name of Bird’s hair salon went from being called Bird’s in the movie to be in called Cut It Up in the series? Random thing I noticed. Also, can we mention how the casting for the series soul food was the best casting of a movie turn television show that has ever existed in life?!

@Natalie_11188

5 ай бұрын

Yes! I agree.

The first time I was like “okay Teri I know it hurts but we can’t change the past we must move on with our lives” but the second time I was like “so the whole family fake? It’s time to turn up Teri” and the fact big momma told her to focus on her man because she on her second was diabolical, she wouldn’t have been on her second if teri raggedy sister didn’t steal Teri boyfriend.

Imagine catching your husband cheating on the same night you have to watch your sister and ex celebrate their happy loving marriage. I would’ve snapped too.

She DESERVED so much better;

Terri's family did her dirty on every level. Damn 👀!!!

This is a Blackistan struggle love favorite! The Black male degenerative behavior was High along with the Mammy Muling rational 💔 Terry was my favorite! She had every right to remind they BROKE ASSES WHO THE REAL BOSS 😂

I still enjoy this movie all these years later lol but even as a kid I knew they did Terri wrong. As the oldest myself, who prioritized studying in order to have a successful career I see sooo many parallels between Terri’s character and my actual life. Great review!

I recently rewatched this movie and you're totally right about Terri. All I could remember about this movie when I was younger was that Vanessa Williams was chasing someone at a party with a knife. Now that I'm older, I can understand someone being so enraged after years of being taken advantage, and being constantly dismissed. Miles tried to say she wasn't fun anymore and it's like, DUH! Having so many responsibilities and worries will zap the fun out of you real quick! And her family was still on bullshit after Big Mama's funeral - they still welcomed the trifling cousin and cheating husband. Those two should've been axed! And they were always throwing her relationships in her face when they wanted to shut her up. When Bird was telling Terri she needed to worry about her cheating husband, I was like 'Damn'! That was my last straw. The abuse she was going through was making me sick.

I love this movie but it pissed me off how Max felt she could manage Terri's purse. But I know people who really act like one family members hard earned money is everybody's money. It was very unfair Terri never got an apology from anybody.

It felt really real. Like my oldest sister kinda takes care and of everything and as “the baby” I’m still often treated like a child and thus I sometimes act out like a child even tho I’m an adult in my 40’s

Terri should've gone no contact. I bet things would be different if she reached out to reddit these days. Edit: I think the throwing law school thing is to show some level of control or power, since she feels powerless, having to be gaslighted and treated horribly by the entire family could have made her develop some kind of complex that I'm not psychologically majored in to explain.

Maxine’s great relationship with her son was something small but I always loved. It embedded in me that one day I wanted to have that kind of relationship with my son if I ever had one. I do have a boy and yes…we do have this kinda of tight connection. Love this movie!!

@cicely2084

Жыл бұрын

Hopefully you have the same energy for a daughter. I’m not trying to be disrespectful, but Black mothers tend to coddle/love on their sons, but are rigid/and no nonsense with their daughters.

@daholyspirit2783

Жыл бұрын

@@cicely2084 right but it’s always awkward because for me it was kinda the opposite 🤷🏾‍♂️

The whole family are sociopaths 😂😂😂 from the nosey little boy to the devious grandma! The only ones you can relate to are Terri and Uncle Pete. And I really don’t blame uncle Pete for staying away from EVERYBODY

Just wanted to thank everybody for watching the video, liking and subbing. Yall are showing up and showing out and I appreciate you. I realize there is an issue with the sound, so sorry about that. Ill be paying attention to that moving forward. If you would like to request a movie for me to do, leave it below. Ill add it to the list. And yes, Waiting to exhale is currently in progress. ❤️❤️❤️

@TinaArtisTurner

Жыл бұрын

1. The Five Heartbeats (1991) 2. Vampire In Brooklyn (1995) 3. What's Love Got To Do With It (1993) 4. Light It Up (1999) 5. A Low Down Dirty Shame (1994) 6. How Stella Got Her Groove Back (1998) 7. B*A*P*S* (1997) 8. The Bodyguard (1992) *OST is undefeated!!! 9. Cinderella (1997) *With Brandy & Whitney Houston ofc! I am a 90s baby, and I obviously have love for that era (lol!) so just a few recommendations if you ever need some classic go-to's🤍😁

Chileee, this movie showed so much wrong within our families. Between physical and mental health, money issues, people who had no business getting married, lack of boundaries, sibling rivalries...#JusticeforTeri all day though LOLLLL.

Besides Terri and Ahmad having the most sense, their relationship seems partially founded on the fact he is a constant and bittersweet reminder of what could have been with Kenny and her. And how ironic that Terri blows up at Kenny and Maxine's anniversary party.

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

Who can blame her to snapping at Max and Kenny’s anniversary party that night when a women’s fed up. First Terri is helping celebrate an anniversary of her sister with a man she stole from Terri long time ago . Hours earlier before the party that same day Terri catches her 2nd Husband doing her cousin in her house. Can I say more ?

@notaytguru8214

Жыл бұрын

@@jakimsingletary164 ….AND they just had their 3rd baby and she still had none, plus their relationship lasted and she was losing her second marriage, I would’ve pulled out a hun instead of a knife 😩

Wow I’m so glad you made this video. I was too young to watch this as it came out but when I watched it as an adult I was like, WHY ARENT WE TALKING ABOUT JOW TERRI WAS DONE DIRTY BY EVERYONE. I always felt for her. She had not a single friend in that film and she just had to accept it. Very wrong. I still feel so strongly about this.

@solracshooter4769

Жыл бұрын

And all the resentment she had that she held in comes out, she wanted to prove to her family that she was good enough and a lot of times it came across nasty or rude but her even staying in contact after the way her family treated and used her is a strong I don’t wanna see cuz bye

@notaytguru8214

Жыл бұрын

Ahmad was her friend 🤷🏽‍♀️

That treated Teri like the family in the movie My Sister's Keeper were the parents had a second child so that that child could save the first child who was sick with leukemia and the second had to take her parents to court to fight for her personal bodily autonomy.

Not a counter for everything we learn Teri has paid for 😂 Every time you say “Faye,” it sends me. That woman’s name was Faith! 😂😂😂 I enjoyed this so much!

@MrBRich769

Жыл бұрын

Listen. One of my best friend's has a sister named Faith. For YEARS I thought her name was Faye b/c that's what her family calls her. I didn't know it was Faith until I saw her ID.

@niketv2847

Жыл бұрын

@@MrBRich769 😂😂😂

Terri was an ATM. Automatic Terri's Money. When you have your entire family depending on you for everything, it will take a toll on you.

Good Video🔥 I Haven't Seen Soul Food In Years But Teri Did Carry That Family But They Never Explained How Unhealthy The Food Was

@forthenostalgia

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching! Yes, Big Mama definitley shouldnt have been eating like that especially as a diabetic.

@PHSDM104

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like the film synopsis from The Boondocks.

@nikkicole54321

Жыл бұрын

@@PHSDM104nobody went on a diet. 😂

Let us all bow our heads and pray for Ahmad and his mental health one time

@forthenostalgia

Жыл бұрын

🙏🤲

It was a shame the way they did Teri. I knew it was a mistake when Faith came to stay with them. It was clear their marriage was suffering, so it was bound to happen. Very accurate breakdown of the movie. I enjoyed your commentary. You got me with that last comment, "May the plates be as low vibrational as they can get." Too funny. New subscriber.

I saw this movie the second week it came out in 1997 with my mom we left the movie theater so upset because after cousin faith slept with Teri’s husband and her sisters didn’t beat her ass I was so through with this damn movie 🤬

These movies hit differently rewatching them as an adult. Fun Facts: Brandon Hammond (Ahmad), Jeffrey D. Sams (Kenny) & Michael Beach (Miles) were in Waiting To Exhale. Mekhi Phifer (Lem) & Mel Jackson (Simuel) were also in Uninvited Guest. You should review Uninvited Guest.

@forthenostalgia

Жыл бұрын

I saw StruggleReviewTV do that one, she made me want to watch it. I had never heard of that movie.

@therealmarlonbellamy

Жыл бұрын

@@forthenostalgia I love StruggleReviewTV. It makes me watch movies that i overlooked. I watched Uninvited Guest for the first time on Saturday. It’s streaming on Tubi.

It's funny how old this pops off at The Anniversary Party of Max and Kenny like we said before Terry was originally with Kenny and then she confronts her cousin that sleeping with her current husband and said party after being thrown to the Wolves as the financial bearer of the burden I think this is why she never had kids cuz she's raising everybody else financially

@TamESQ

Жыл бұрын

I’ve heard of this. Some women (who may have wanted kids before) decide they no longer want them because they’ve spent a lot of their adult life taking care of others and they become so drained of it… that having kids is no longer a desire.

You omitted the scene when Maxine smashed Teri's bf who she ended marrying. And you already know what would've happened if Amahd wasn't with Teri. The same Teri that called the goons on Lem? The same Teri who went straight for the butcher block on her husband? Oh you knew..!

@forthenostalgia

Жыл бұрын

Haha!!! It would have been some slow singing and flower bringing 💀

As a kid and as an adult I empathized with Terri the most. Her family straight used her.

what's wild is how they never addressed the real issues their family faced in the movie lol

The 90's was nothing but struggle love normalization for black women.

Whether Terri and Myles werent happy for a long time they were still very much married. Myles and Faith were beyond wrong. I didnt agree with them still welcoming Faith.

This movie comes off different once you get older. Terri was getting straight used all over the place.

🤣😂🤣 I'm crying at the Pastor's prayer at the table. Loved the overall review btw.

@forthenostalgia

Жыл бұрын

Chile, i wouldve dropped kick that pastor. Playing with the Lord like that. Thanks for watching!

@fsumpter

Жыл бұрын

@@forthenostalgia 😂😂😂 you're most welcome.

@PoliticalAbstract

Жыл бұрын

That pastor was a creep and I’m mad that the family gave his predatory ass a pass. Smh I didn’t see this movie until last year, I’ve always known about it since it came out, even the tv show however I was six years old in 1997 so of course I wasn’t gonna see this lol but that family was a mess. That flashback scene where Vivica and Vanessa’s characters were at the skating rink and Kurtis Blow starts playing cracked me up. Big mama played favorites, she didn’t like Terri and I’m still tripping about her burning her arm and trying to use butter??? My maternal family is from Alabama and I’ve never heard of no shit like that.

@fsumpter

Жыл бұрын

@@PoliticalAbstract Same. Never heard that method either and I'm from SC. When I burned my arm on a heater I went to the emergency room. I was given some ointment but I still have the scar to this day. Yes the pastor was indeed a creep. I never thought about Big Momma liking Maxine more than Teri but now I kinda wonder.

@jakimsingletary164

Жыл бұрын

@@fsumpter I wonder if Mamma Joe was Max back when she was young (Ahmad said Momma Joe said everyone has skeletons in they closet including her I bet, never no enemies my ass) before marrying the father then became a woman of God holding the family down with Sunday Dinner. Momma Joe did Terri wrong in not appreciating her as successful attorney in holding Momma Joe and the family down financially. Pastor was a creep and I finally know what he meant when he said delicious legs 🦵under the I mean on the table. I bet he was referring to Bird I bet and How he kept on telling Momma Joe that her girls look good especially Baby Bird. Not to mention how he quickly wiped his mouth when he saw Faith then hugged up on her in a creepy manner as he introduced himself..