Modern dating is like having to work overtime and not getting paid.

@johnfisher8401

Жыл бұрын

could you imagine dating in the 50s-60s? Must have been outrageously easy, married at 21 with a house and two cars working as a factory worker.

@VoiceOfReason919

Жыл бұрын

@@johnfisher8401 yet some still talk shit on us for having it easy

@ronmka8931

Жыл бұрын

@@johnfisher8401 seriously even getting a job to get those cars and the house was as easy as going and asking a manager for a job and they’d hire you on the spot. You used to be able to ask Women for marriage by meeting them for the first time. Holy shit boomers had it easy

@alaalfa8839

Жыл бұрын

Some real nice women who are not brainwashed by television, feel deep love for her partner, for his charisma and wisdom and humor and spending time with him, holding his hand, feel his masculine strength, his charismatic hands, legs, neck, hair that its not just about sex but the connection and intimacy falling in love is not just about having sex falling in love means that she loves him wholeheartedly and therefore she doesn´t think about other people. She wants him to be happy because happy people fall in love with their partner. As Sam Vaknin said Love is the ultimate addiction, healthy addiction, therefore Facebook doesn't want men to fall in love with their own wives, because Facebook wants his eyeballs to look at the advertisement instead of looking at his beautiful wife. Therefore happy marriages are great competition for Facebook advertisements because the guy or wife is more in love with the partner than with Facebook feed.

@user-360johnn

Жыл бұрын

@@johnfisher8401then you get shipped off to korea or vietnam

It's really quite simple: -Women are dating older more successful men. -Women are dating other women. -Some guys are dating multiple women at once whether the women know about it or not. -Alot of men have given up because they don't qualify as a partner anymore to ridiculously high standards. That's why there are twice as many single men than women. It's no secret that being an average normal man isn't good enough anymore, we have to become a somebody just to attract below average to average women.

@Muscaplays

Жыл бұрын

Or men THINK they don‘t qualify

@acornsucks2111

Жыл бұрын

Most women are chasing the high value men. Those guys got more trim than they can handle. Your average woman goes for the best, even if they are the third choice.

@workingshlub8861

Жыл бұрын

woman are getting more masucline and angry by the day......woman are turning into men and all men see is we cant get it up ED commecials....no connection ??

@pavlovsdogman

Жыл бұрын

Women aren't suddenly "turning gay" at a far higher rate than men. Women are more likely to lie in a study or poll where a stranger asks them if they are in a committed relationship. Women often think the guy they are getting booty calls from twice a week at 3am constitutes a committed relationship. Both modern men and women have been brainwashed by social media, porn culture and entertainment to see themselves as flawed physically, financially or psychologically. They're both acting insecure and selfish, we cant act like all of a sudden women are fucked up and that's the only issue at play here? Young men spending all day working out, avoiding relationships and listening to male "self help gurus" like Andrew Tate is a symptom of their obvious unhappiness and problems. We both suck but luckily the world doesn't need a population increase at the moment so it's not an emergency.

@jasonwillis4819

Жыл бұрын

Not in other countries. I am a King in South East Asia - here... not so much.

The worst thing that ever happened to relationships, was social media.

@andrewevans7992

3 ай бұрын

Actually its been the worst and best thing to happen, now we know most women are harlots and use men for their needs and advantages. No point in playing when they are extremely insecure manipulative losers

@jeffisaliar

2 ай бұрын

Happened to the human race.

@Tooldruid

Ай бұрын

It happened to both. They aren’t mutually exclusive.

@bdflatlander

Ай бұрын

And not just romantic relationships but friendships too. Facebook was a factor in the ending of a long term relationship with my best guy friend of over 30 years. He always had a toxic side to him and our relationship was having problems apart from FB but some of the things he posted on FB finished off our friendship. We haven’t spoken to each other in almost 2 years and I doubt we ever will again. I’m fine with that.

@perrycoffey5410

Ай бұрын

​@@bdflatlanderdamn sorry too hear this i can kinda relate too this

For me it's an economic thing. It's annoying to try dating when you still live with your parents in your late 20s/early 30s, which most young people still do because housing is unaffordable and rent is just as bad. And it's impossible to think about starting a family when you can barely afford to support yourself on your current salary. The boomers had the luxury of pursuing romantic relationships because their jobs paid them a liveable wage, housing/college was affordable, and they felt financially secure enough to plan for their future. Our generation was robbed of that.

@TheRubberStudiosASMR

4 ай бұрын

That’s exactly how I feel. It’s disgusting

@JackCarsonite

4 ай бұрын

That's likely a factor but not really. It's HoFlation and Hypergamy according to the stats.

@kaj7135

4 ай бұрын

@@JackCarsoniteYeah OP is partially correct. We need to stop downplaying how corrupted and incompatible most modern women are in relationships now. All they do is monkey branch to the next guy who’s hotter and/or richer. Their pair bonding capabilities are nonexistent these days.

@Lvl2600

4 ай бұрын

@@JackCarsoniteyes likely. Plus what you said.

@geelee2964

4 ай бұрын

Thanks to capitalism.

I’m 26 and my girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me in November and subsequently we broke it off. I found out soon enough the reality of single life particularly attracting women and how extremely difficult it is to find a partner or even get a date on tinder. Let’s face it, the world we live in now doesn’t support developing relationships as it did pre social media days. I work 9-5 Monday to Friday everyday at home and my own few friends rarely go out. Modern tech has completely destroyed human interaction and women’s perception of guys. Man, how I envy the people who got to experience being young adults in the 80s & 90s the last decades of normality.

@ShitBagSPC

Жыл бұрын

Yeah man it sucks. I’ve done some traveling a lot since being in the military. East coast, west coast, a couple of western european countries. Its just not looking good anywhere like the previous generation before social media 😅

@aim-for-greatn3z947

Жыл бұрын

As someone who is 35 and grew up before even AOL was a thing.... Let me tell you life was amazing in every way!! From good music and people!! And guess what life happens OUTSIDE! I come from a household of men were it's 10 of us. I co.e from a time where people with beeper were popular and house parties was the thing kids would do cut class to meet up at someone home. The good old days without social media and honestly women were approachable!!! You could actually walk up to a female and have a conversation and most were polite EVEN while rejecting you (granted) not all but most. In the beginning believe it or not social media was amazing because it was taboo at the time and when I started trying it out rejection WASN'T A THING!! imagine back in the day I had a 80-90% success rate on meeting women "ghosting" wasn't a thing!! To this day those were really the best time to be a introvert or even a extrovert so much was happening. Nowadays I feel sorry for the generation coming up, as a successful man to experience what a "normal" relationship looks like I had to travel overseas 😂 I know multiple languages so my experience varies. Good times good times! To this day me and my group of friends constantly talk about how good life was

@Birdsbees

Жыл бұрын

Literally.😢

@ronyolo8419

Жыл бұрын

Go out bro, it’s fun, you’ll meet dummies but there are cool girls too. Enjoy that shit, the world changes you gotta get over it.

@ronyolo8419

Жыл бұрын

@Falloutnewskyrim yeah that probably means you’re undesirable in some way lol. Fix it.

I am 28 years old and I just decided to stop looking for a romantic or sexual relationship with women, because at some point in previous years, I realized i was spending too much resources on it and i didnt see any good result except for some satisfaction and a lot of headache. One year has passed and I can not believe how peaceful and how many things I was able to do since I decided just to dont give a shit about sex. My income in one year just doubled up basically, I took some trips, bought nice things for myself, I built better relationships with my friends and family and grow up as an individual as never before.

@NotAfraidToQuestionThings

Жыл бұрын

I can tell you right now that by the time you are 35, you'll have them lining up to be with you.

@mikeybronny6579

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like your meeting the completely wrong kind of person. You should be able to focus on improving yourself and your relationships and financial success. While having the closest "friend/ life partner " right by your side. Have an open mind. I found my sole mate at 25, while she was 34. Now I'm 34 and wouldn't have enjoyed my accomplishments even half as much alone.

@parkservice6293

Жыл бұрын

​@@mikeybronny6579 unless you've been living in the East, it's a needle in a haystack to find somebody decent.

@gotinogaden

Жыл бұрын

@@parkservice6293 Needle in a haystack? That's at least worth a try. I can barely find someone to have a normal conversation with, without them acting like emotionally damaged member of The Adams family.

@parkservice6293

Жыл бұрын

@@gotinogaden to be for real, in this day and age there aren't many groups that call themselves boys/lads. Me personally I've not been in a group for around a decade, resultant of which now I have no real friends so nobody to talk to really. Luckily I'm good on my own.

I have a friend who is a firefighter in his late 20’s. He’s handsome, in decent shape, and has had a lot of attractive girlfriends. He desperately wants to meet a woman he can marry, but the girls always play games with him. They never seem to take the relationship as seriously as he does. It’s actually pretty tragic. He’s doing everything right that would attract a girl, but none of them are ready to settle down.

@awesomeness24158

4 ай бұрын

Tell me about it buddy.

@jwithersooon

3 ай бұрын

Maybe the dude could start by dating one at a time no fucking wonder lmao

@SurriSama

3 ай бұрын

​@jwithersooon The phrase "has had" is past tense and implies over a period of time in the past, not all at once.

@andrewevans7992

3 ай бұрын

@@jwithersooonapparently you can’t freaking read. Damn

@DaveHesterYUUUUUUUP

3 ай бұрын

Your friend has the same problem as me, we can't settle for 6's and only wanna smash 9's and 10's but those girls are all insane. Not one hot girl is a wife. That's why you always see dudes with these dog ass wife's 🤣🤣🤣

5 women think the man they share is their exclusive partner.

@KFrost-fx7dt

4 ай бұрын

Who says they're with men?

@nickbarber2080

4 ай бұрын

@@KFrost-fx7dt They do. Completely missing the point there.

@KFrost-fx7dt

4 ай бұрын

@@nickbarber2080 no, I don't think so. More women are gay or bi than men to start with, and women qre more likely to seek relationships than men including gay men. So there ya go.

@nickbarber2080

4 ай бұрын

@@KFrost-fx7dt I think you are letting your fantasies get in the way of the data.

@tobiasmccallum9697

4 ай бұрын

​@@KFrost-fx7dtI can confirm 4-9+ of them are with me at any one time, depending on how busy I am. I work between London and Bangkok, so it makes it easier splitting things :)

I stopped dating years ago after I realized I hadn't met an actual single woman in a very long time. Everyone had multiple partners in their phone.

@okaySam

Жыл бұрын

Underrated comment.

@timwidner8751

Жыл бұрын

This is my experience as well. Women date someone, talk to other guys behind their back, then leave for the "better" option. No loyalty anymore. I swear this is by design

@jkfd97

Жыл бұрын

@@okaySam It's the price you pay for continuing to date/marry in a conquered, feminist society. Accept you are going to share her with multiple men or don't date/marry at all. They are your only two options.

@user-ql2gr7pj5h

Жыл бұрын

Imagine trying to explain to your great great grandfather that your wife has a magic box with a password that can fit in her pocket which allows her to instantaneously and secretly communicate with any man on the planet 24/7

@fuzzytop4746

Жыл бұрын

One of my female friends who I now dread to even be around claims that she is a respectable traditional women yet she has already fucked 2 guys and has tried many more all the while claiming she doesn’t ever want to settle because she deserves the finest man. She is alright in appearance

Young men: “yeah, that’s accurate” Old men: “how could this possibly be? It’s shocking.”

@Wittgensteinien

Жыл бұрын

That could be anything, the Economy, usefulness of degrees, housing market. Lmao

@carljohnson6264

Жыл бұрын

As a 43 year old “old man” No, I see it, but I’m wondering why there are still so many “young men” simping to these girls????? And why do you go the gym for others , instead of yourselves???

@abyss5883

Жыл бұрын

​@@carljohnson6264 old men simp harder for younger women, including my father who is 10 yrs older than mother. Always been the case

@SG-mf1ss

Жыл бұрын

Because feminism and modern society have melted women’s brains. They have no idea what they want, and even if they think they do, nothing is good enough. This problem mostly stems from social media and it’s detrimental impacts all around

@stevegaines3590

Жыл бұрын

i'm 66 & i don't find todays dating marked shocking...i find it sad & aggravating...seems all women today are basiclly prostitutes....they only care about 2 things...how hot is he & how much money does he make .. ? that's it....& PS...they HATE a nice guy...& this problem is getting worse....

I was with my girl from 1994 until 2019. I have ZERO interest in being with another woman again because I don't want to restart a relationship. I've found the single life to be fucking awesome! I wake up in the middle of the night and play my guitars VERY loud. Nobody tells me to turn it down. I buy my RC cars and nobody asks why i spent my money on "toys". I have my Xbox and gaming PC's setup the way I want. I drive my M4 as fast as I want and nobody tells me to slow down. I'm 47 and living a teenager's dream right now

@bluemoon8498

4 ай бұрын

Good to know for people that never had gf.

@TheMusicmak3r

14 күн бұрын

🤘

23 never had a gf, date , 1st kiss, nothing. It just seems that girls have too many options, and I can't compete. Just look at a girls snap with 20+ guys trying to snap her everyday! I workout, eat good, go to church, and take care of myself financially. It seems like I will never be good enough. Im also scared that when I start making more money, it might be hard to tell which girl is genuinely interested in me.

@SeraphoftheRoundTable

2 ай бұрын

28 going on 29, and I am in the same boat as you. I will admit I am a romantic nut at times and wish I had a relationship, but seeing how people treat me through body language "your not important enough," even if you do all the right things just tells me not to care at all what everyone else thinks. I tried being a "people pleaser," and I am done doing so.

@broyout3586

Ай бұрын

I was in your shoes at 23. Then I studied attraction, seduction material (this was pre pua craze) and found value in it. Managed to conquer the (then) woman of my dreams at 26, she was my first girlfriend. It didn't last, but managed this feat two times after that. (studied more seduction/pua stuff in between, around the time 'the game' came out). There is a lot of trickery and some mysogyny in the pua material, but the way I did it was try to learn what resonated with my personality and reject all the rest (which was 90+%). YMMV and your way might not by my way. But there is always hope and learning to do. Good luck.

@ChudLite-vh6zk

17 күн бұрын

Brotha, if they aren’t interested during your youthful prime, they won’t love you after. Love just isn’t real for a lot of people.

@ckenned

14 күн бұрын

Learn a foreign language and travel. Even if you make an effort it will help. Passport bros are onto something.

Well, on my last date the young lady told me “men are obsolete, we have sperm banks now” with the most smug smile I’ve ever seen. That shocked me. After that remark, I decided to ask to split the bill & she absolutely Lost Her mind right in front of the waitress.

@aim-for-greatn3z947

Жыл бұрын

I do t believe this 😂

@who_we_are______5926

Жыл бұрын

Good job, the nerve of those whores.

@Sunday_Swagger

Жыл бұрын

@@aim-for-greatn3z947 I wish it weren’t true 😢

@Ottophil

Жыл бұрын

@@Sunday_Swagger well you kmow men should do? Ban abortions, that will make them wanna sleep with ya(this is sarcasm, legalize bortys)

@Brukis1

Жыл бұрын

Fake interaction go outside

Went on my first date in over five years a few months back. She seemed nice enough. But the week prior we were supposed to have the date, but she cancelled and we rescheduled for the week after. Because she was going to see family in Toronto.....seemed odd we even set up a date for that week then.....but ok. Cut to the date and I ask about her trip. "Oh it was good, saw some family friends and stuff" So I asked if she did anything exiciting. "Well I went to the club until like 4am one night, havent done that in years" "Oh? with friends?" "yeah a buddy was visiting from Italy so we met at the club and danced" "How do you know a guy from Italy?" "Oh I met him there when I travelled and we remained friends" "and he just happened to be in Toronto the same week you were?" "Yeah...." Soooooo what I gathered from this. She cancelled on me to go to Toronto to see this guy and they probably hooked up and all that. No thanks lady. Havent seen her since. But isnt it strange how every man I tell this story to is like "oh ok I get it". But every woman ive told thinks I was too judgmental? Even my own mom. Like mom, you really think shes in Toronto the same week as a random pal from Italy just as a coincidence????? Food for thought

@sloppyjonuts9162

Жыл бұрын

Most of these women look semi hot. And all they do is go to clubs drink all night and live for the weekend. Basically South parks version of parison Hilton. Lol

@AtheismF7W

Жыл бұрын

You are spot on.

@paulsan7058

Жыл бұрын

Smart guy

@ServingChrist

Жыл бұрын

Brother, don't expect women to understand what men deal with or to take your side. This includes your mother. They will blame the men, defend the women and it will always be your fault somehow. Your instincts are right, you properly realized you can ignore their opinions. You want to find a woman who will drop everything to run and meet you whenever you show up suddenly. Next time, if a woman cancels on you, tell her ok but you have a standing rule that she will now have to buy you dinner. Don't reward bad behavior. It will separate you from the other guys.

@mikegee8345

Жыл бұрын

They always tell on themselves

I'm a young man, and thing is we're only single because we don't have a choice. Constantly getting rejected, constantly getting ghosted, we've just had had enough of it so most of us gave up lol.

@richardy2071

4 ай бұрын

who says you have to stick to just america? There's a great wide world for you

@AustinHansen

4 ай бұрын

100% has been my experience. I’m into the idea of settling down, but girls in their 20’s haven’t been about it

@lukebackowski6167

4 ай бұрын

@richardy2071 has a good point. If you’re bent on finding love move to a nice Latin American country, learn Spanish and find you a Latina. You’ll know they’re good because they won’t be marrying you to move to the US

@jordanwiley1283

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for your sacrifice, you’ve made it easier for guys like me to get laid more

@cg3868

4 ай бұрын

@@jordanwiley1283better wear a rubber dude.

The problem isn’t being single, the problem is having to deal and being forced to feel like a loser because you don’t have a gf.

@michaeljeffery7466

7 ай бұрын

That's a big one, the stigma is unbelievable. It's mind-blowing serious the attacks on single men are.

@Itfuture-gg1yz

7 ай бұрын

@@michaeljeffery7466 its the internet and media, remove these 2 and stigma drops by 80% ,

@Tom-vq2hw

7 ай бұрын

Exactly. That's why being an in cell makes you hate the world

@yesyes3010

7 ай бұрын

Well, you are a loser, then. Btw, I have no girlfreind myselfe.

@user-kt5gd2yu7l

6 ай бұрын

I tell any single man I meet, "smart man!".

Hypergamy and feminism is a deadly combination.

@JohnSkyLey

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@MHKing03

Жыл бұрын

Feminism is just hypergamy disguised as morality.

@ThaiThom

Жыл бұрын

You got that right.

@Exalted_Example

Жыл бұрын

By design

@uncawaltsadventures1602

Жыл бұрын

Gonna kill us all at some point. Population declines will start impacting soon.

Yeah. As a 27 year old single guy in todays age, I’ve never felt more romantically alone. Haven’t been on a date for 4 years. Haven’t been in a relationship for 7. It’s sad to say but I truly don’t care anymore. It’s not worth the trouble.

@daniellove162

Жыл бұрын

I’m in my mid 40s and can’t believe how many attractive young adult females I see walking their dogs all by themselves and living by themselves. When I was young these type of women were NEVER EVER single or without a boyfriend. At the apartment complex I live, if you throw a little party, all the single ladies bring their dogs and no date it’s weird to me.

@lazygam3r183

Жыл бұрын

@@daniellove162 it's because a lot of them are dating "unavailable" men aka they are pining for a man who has multiple women and he isn't giving them a full fledge relationship.

@phil7574

Жыл бұрын

​@@daniellove162 They are all getting pounded by the same 10 percent of men.

@farmhandsj

Жыл бұрын

@@daniellove162 yup I commented the same thing. Social media has ruined dating. All the good looking women have some idea in their head that they are holding out for the rich and famous guy they are gunna meet on Instagram and get married to and instantly become wealthy. Good looking women only care about social media followers and climbing the social status ladder. Regular guys with regular jobs can look like brad pit yet have no chance of dating a really pretty women unless you have a bunch of fake pictures on the internet of you flaunting money and luxury goods you don’t even own.

@deafsp_ce

Жыл бұрын

Im turning 27 soon and ive never been on a date. I tried dating apps in my early 20s and that just lead to depression from the abysmal choices so i gave up. Dating has only gotten worse since then. Id like a long term relationship deep down but those dreams have died. Social media is cancer and ruined any chance of that happening.

I'm late to this party, but my god, in a weird way, it is comforting to know that I'm not the only guy that has given up on putting so much effort into a relationship that will be a waste of time.

@OscarUnrated

4 ай бұрын

fellas is it time to switch teams?

@Zooman0001

3 ай бұрын

@@OscarUnratedhey you calm down😂

@nuckels188

3 ай бұрын

@@OscarUnrated the technology exists. Someone's gonna have to take one for the team and go get some nice tits for the boys

@user-sp9em3qm6k

3 ай бұрын

And that’s why you will die alone your lazy

@JohnnyWilliams-hf8pc

3 ай бұрын

@@OscarUnratedabsolutely not god gave you two hands for a reason also he gave us a function that when you sit on your hand it goes numb😂2 plus 2 equals 4😆nah im just playing

I was married 15 years, everyone else saw she was draining the happiness out of me. She waited till I lost my job, and my now late father text me he had terminal cancer, she decided to walk out when I needed her the most. Now in my late 50's the first thing a woman tells me about themselves is that they are on their menopause.

@Taxcollector9955

26 күн бұрын

Then she truly never loved u

Basically dating apps and hookup culture, along with female entitlement have destroyed the dating system. A lot of women are seeing or in contact with multiple guys. So as a guy you can either enter an extremely competitive, toxic and brutal dating game, end up getting chewed up and spat out at the other end, or just forget about the whole thing. With the odds against men, I don’t blame anyone for staying at home, buying a PlayStation console, going off travelling, concentrating on careers etc etc. Chasing women is a mugs game. It is something that benefits women but rarely benefits guys.

@CommandoMaster

Жыл бұрын

U get rejected for any little thing as a guy. Women have delusional high standards due to social media, and they don't value any one guy anymore. Flake/ghost on u for no reason. Women have too many distractions. It's super easy dating for women. Very hard for men.

@norsketilbakeblikk3717

Жыл бұрын

But why does it benefit women and not guys? There are the exact same amount of men and women.

@CommandoMaster

Жыл бұрын

Attraction is not the same for guys vs girls. Girls have value based on looks only, which makes it super easy for them with social media and dating apps. Guys need to showcase their personality/social skills to attract girls, which is not possible with apps.

@Answersonapostcard

Жыл бұрын

@@norsketilbakeblikk3717 because the guys have to compete with all the other guys, the women just have to choose from an endless pool of men competing for the few decent ones left. It's a sweet shop for women. As a guy, the odds are not in your favour.

@Wittgensteinien

Жыл бұрын

@@Answersonapostcard Dudes need to tone down the thirst maybe?

In my Mid-40's, looking back on life, I've realized that the majority of problems, mistakes, regrets I've had in life almost always involved a women, girlfriend, wife, etc. Being single may be a blessing.

@PT-zz9ks

Жыл бұрын

Single men are less happy, healthy, make less money and are more suicidal than married men. That's what the studies show

@jschwartzmier

Жыл бұрын

I was thinking the same thing recently

@Partylikeits-br7bb

Жыл бұрын

Right, must be the females' fault and not the one common denominator's ...

@jschwartzmier

Жыл бұрын

Like the divorce laws in this country?

@ThisHandleWasTheOnly1Available

Жыл бұрын

What about having children?

"It doesn't make sense why there's a disparity between the sexes." No Joe, it makes perfect sense.

@cmdrdredd

3 ай бұрын

Men testing the waters and going on a few dates a month says he’s single. Women doing the same say they are not. Also I think it’s true that more men are unafraid to say they are single, while for a woman to admit that is hard because they worry about what their friends think more than most guys.

Just turned 28 and been single for 10 years. I’ve given up on dating since I’m either rejected or just a friend/brother. The last girl I tried to date put me in friend zone, was ok with it until we had a talk saying she wishes she could find someone like me. I snapped and told her off. That was 3 years ago. My self confidence and self esteem is down the trash. My depression makes it twice as hard to get back but there’s no point for me. I’ve accepted that I’ll live and die alone.

@derekmalunow8962

4 ай бұрын

You are not alone.

@dylananoell

4 ай бұрын

Don’t say that. Stay up man, this happens to fuckin everybody, or at least every man. I’d know. If she really felt that way she’d be begging to have you back. Now screw your head on right, get strong & get after it. We’re rooting for you. 👇🏻 Give this guy some motivation

@Matthew7.7

4 ай бұрын

Get your money up. Hit the gym, build a social group.

@kevinmurphy5878

4 ай бұрын

That's horrible man, I'm sorry. You're not alone and you can do it. Idk if my advice will be useful at all because idk 90% of the situation, but I'd say you have to approach everyone in person, not online, and that you just need to approach a shit ton of women to make up for the fact that 9/10 of them will say no. I have no money and I'm not super attractive and talking to people in person and being genuine has worked WAY better than I expected, but I also don't want to say "look it's easy." Could be different in different parts of the country. Just my two cents. I hope everything works out.

@officebear4637

4 ай бұрын

@@dylananoellshut up begging for likes as a facade to give some guy motivation apparently lmao you’re so full of it.

Not sure how this is surprising. Hypergamy + Social Media = Women are no longer limited to their local pool of men. The sexual market has expanded worldwide, allowing Becky from your hometown to be reached by Dimitri in Russia or Jacob in London or Ahmed in Dubai with a swipe on their phones. You're no longer competing with the popular college player, you're also competing with the millionaire sitting on his Yacht in Miami.

@user-ql2gr7pj5h

Жыл бұрын

​@Freedom Forever Yea that's realistic. Why is the response always "men need to do [x]" instead of the obvious answer which is that "women need to not be allowed to do [y]"

@MrDjjavad

Жыл бұрын

​@Freedom Forever I've been in the far remote village of Iran. The 304 there was using instagram to hook some rich dude somewhere else.

@user-ql2gr7pj5h

Жыл бұрын

@Freedom Forever You make me sick.

@blabla903

Жыл бұрын

@Freedom Forever I don't think that was his girlfriend, I think he's just giving an example of how there are hoes everywhere.

@alyssawoodman

Жыл бұрын

This made me laugh 😂

Girlfriend of 4 years cheated on me. Made me question everything, even myself. Really couldn’t care less for the degeneracy that people my age do (18-26), so I suppose I’m a part of that 63%. Just isn’t worth it. Low quality females, drugs, and lack of discipline make good dudes either turn bad or become disconnected from the world. Just my two cents

@marcusr3795

Жыл бұрын

Yep (21 m ) same I don’t want a girlfriend because most have been places doing things I never want to think about I’m truly disgusted and can’t be bothered playing detective constantly to find a reasonable partner. Some people say meet people in real life and all girls my age have phones with a ridiculous amount of men they’re talking to so it’s hopeless because they want to keep this after your commitment because they need a backup guy just in case.

@beauty_boss2257

Жыл бұрын

Being cheated on is awful but it's not like a majority of cheaters are women. Not saying it's just men either. Honestly a lot of people can just be straight up toxic, but Can we please stop blaming a whole gender when were hurting. Ive been cheated on too but instead of being bitter I'm going to live my best life.

@plaga5923

Жыл бұрын

@@beauty_boss2257 with all due respect read the room obviously guys cheat too but bros not gay he’s talking about a women rn

@quitpmoforgood687

Жыл бұрын

Facts.

@johnmike121

Жыл бұрын

Women cheat more and always will. Having dozens of men hit on them 24/7 is a major reason

48 years old. Single, never married. In my 20s and 30s, it was shameful. Now it’s a badge of honor. Almost every married man I ever met told me STAY SINGLE. I’ve been on a few dates; which were like awkward job interviews. Was accused of stalking/harrassment for just showing interest in women. I’m done.

@Taegreth

6 ай бұрын

In addition to everything else, I think a good portion of men these days are worried about approaching women because of your latter point. It can already be challenging to find the courage to ask a woman out, but worrying about being accused of being a creep, stalker or harassing them just amplifies the stress, the risk doesn't feel worth it.

@KTS_85

4 ай бұрын

“Awkward job interviews” is a great description. I got tired of the typical “I didn’t feel a connection” rejection response.

@royce1041

4 ай бұрын

Damn those video games and hot & ready 5 dollar pizzas

@user-ed6nv6ep8h

4 ай бұрын

37 years married,now single.Single is better.Hindsight,stay single.

@WideHarryCock

4 ай бұрын

@@royce1041I order Palio’s those hot and ready pizzas are shit

My son is 21 and chooses to be single. He is a very smart tall handsome guy but he just doesn’t want to deal with a relationship. He once took a girl out and she ordered the most expensive food on the menu and he was done with her after that. After a few more dates with other young ladies he decided he had enough. He just can’t tolerate certain things very well and would prefer to do his own thing. It’s a new generation for sure.

@jamessteele7102

4 ай бұрын

At least he had some dates by 21. Some young guys haven’t even had those crumbs. What has been done to young men is criminal.

@andrewevans7992

3 ай бұрын

@@jamessteele7102im 27 and never even kissed a girl. Im tall n good looking cause all i do is get stared at or they play games , but whats the point if most women my age already have kids and have a bodycount of 40+

27 year old. My five year relationship ended because she left me for a felon with criminal records. I guess he has something I don't. I recover after one year of pain. I may not have the risky behavior she liked about him. But I have $$$, my own house, healthy, I travel, my body is fit, I work in the aerospace industry. I rather be single. Modern women are a pain in the ass.

@PSYCHIC_PSYCHO

Жыл бұрын

Pain in the ass is IMMENSELY pleasurable for some 😂

@flux9433

Жыл бұрын

​@@PSYCHIC_PSYCHO Yes indeed i used to have sex alot and there was one girl that really liked to be treated that way later on i found out on the internet by real confessions that most woman can be pleasured like that 😅whild stuffs however she went to live with another dude i mean she was not naive she knew what she wants and she asks for it i felt alone afterwards without spending time with her but i wasn't that much attached to her nor she was into me that much cause that was my second and last long term relationship and the first one that i had was very difrent from the second one what I've learned is that the more she acts like she loves you or cares about you the more you know she doesn't i guess maybe it's just my view and my own personal perspective but maybe applies to many who knows

@emailitzs641

7 ай бұрын

Think of it this way you have something that’s too good for her, not other way around she chose a deadbeat just for bad boy and interest and she can change him, Get a girl traditional values drops everything for you. And have confidence knowing you’re a winner , you have goals and both of you connect. Can take time but when you find it you’ll know

@dolcevita014

7 ай бұрын

Where do you live??

@alejandrocastillo6011

7 ай бұрын

Trust me she was doing you a favor, she just didn’t know it. Imagine being married to that person

It's simple. A 9/10 man is telling 2 or maybe 3 6/10 women that they are in a relationship but really he's just ploughing 🤣

@spakkx

Жыл бұрын

dude dont tell everyone!

@longfeet14

Жыл бұрын

Don't forget women who lie to themselves

@kirerunte1046

Жыл бұрын

Ya a few men are sleeping with most women or most women are delusional, both answers work for me

@CaptainHammerFists

Жыл бұрын

This is it. Dating apps and social media has made this exact scenario so easy. A smaller group of “desirable” guys are sleeping around.

@bradbettis9210

Жыл бұрын

this is exactly it

I'm staying single i ain't dealing with anyone's bullshit

@johnpark7972

3 ай бұрын

I’ve hired many high end escorts and yes they are bought but they are more capable of having an intelligent conversation, prettier, and better in bed than many women on Tinder

@simpleuser0001

3 ай бұрын

That's the root of the problem.

@adampickard9685

3 ай бұрын

@@simpleuser0001 fuck em let society rot

@andrewevans7992

3 ай бұрын

@@simpleuser0001women are bringing the bullsht.. thats all they offer

@deebo1339

3 ай бұрын

@@simpleuser0001exactly right. Nobody can be agreeable anymore it’s always one way or the highway. People used to be able to compromise and negotiate and work through a situation that maybe didn’t favor them.

Chris Rock said it the best. The number one reason why your lady is mad at you, you're not her first choice. Women have plenty of Men tossing themselves at them. They have limitless options.

It's because harems are back. Women are okay with sharing the top tier best looking men. A modern woman would rather share Chad than settle for a Normie.

@josephstalin2829

Жыл бұрын

If you just talked to women and went outside you would realise that’s not true

@joane24

Жыл бұрын

Some women maybe, not the majority of women. It's a redpill myth that today the _majority_ of women is like that. Most aren't. Maybe if you look at the social media/dating apps and look at few hottest women or 'working girls' (Only Fans, etc.),but that's *not* the majority.

@rupert5066

Жыл бұрын

​@@joane24based and whitepilled

@FazeParticles

Жыл бұрын

@@joane24it’s a noticeable portion tho

@mr.goldenproductions_0143

Жыл бұрын

@@joane24 you only say this because women are incapable of being completely truthful about their own psychology. I don't even say this in a reproachful way, it is just an evolutionary necessity. To select the potentially best mate, you girls have to be brutally selective under the mask of female and maternal empathy you enact at the surface level. This is why one of the great tropes and concerns of men throughout and across civilizations and art has been the subject of female deceit. This is where it comes from, when it's not malignant (because malignant deceit will always have an element of conscious manipulation to it e.g.). To the point discussed: it is a major cultural trope, best exemplified in literature (Madame Bovary is a good example for this), that most women will prefer being the concubine to the king than the wife of the loyal and lowly shoemaker. So the initial argument still holds up in my opinion.

I'm in late 30s and have my own house with mortgage paid off, no student debt, no car debt, no debts at all. I tell this to any family member that questions my stoic lifestyle and all of them go silent and never ever ask me the stupid question.

@Jay-eb7ik

Жыл бұрын

Same. Monk mode is peaceful

@MomentswithDavid

Жыл бұрын

It’s cuz your not a 6 foot Chad

@memebro3181

Жыл бұрын

@@MomentswithDavid 6 foot Chads don't get into relationshits. They get what they want and move on to next option.

@bendover7841

Жыл бұрын

@@memebro3181 They get what they want. If they want a relationship, they get that too. While salty normies and uggos pretend they're "monks" or some sh1t. There seem to be more "monks" in the west now than there are in India and China combined.

@kaskynightblade8490

Жыл бұрын

I'm 6 foot and is not like I have magic powers or anything. I've had 2 sexual partners in my life (I'm 29). Sometimes I get glanced at, but they always expect from you to chase them like a rabid dog. And that sickness me so I just ignore them.

Every girl iv ever dated has requires constant arguing or they get bored. I got better things to do then argue. Sex isn’t worth it

@andrewevans7992

3 ай бұрын

Fr, they need constant attention and reassurance, its fucken annoying how needy and pathetic they are

I'm single by choice. As far as middle school I was interested in women. The thing is it always plays the same, the girls I was exposed to had one of these issues.a 1.) Sleep around with loads of guys 2.) Treat rejection as if it were a death sentence (i.e Tried to destroy me socially after being rejected) 3.) The ones who didn't try to destroy me wanted to be friends but then treated me as a boyfriend with all commitment and no benefit. 4.) Every girl I met cheats or is looking for the next guy, they don't stick around and chase for some fake perfect guy who they have no intention of bettering themselves to meet. 5.) Every girl smokes and drinks or does drugs or is on serious meds for psychological issues. Nothing worse than thinking all is well then getting an early morning call during a bipolar or mental breakdown. 6.) The ones who don't have any of the above issues now think that being feminine is beneath them but always expect me to be masculine. Fail once you're tossed out. And they always have a list which they never have empty. 7.) They take no responsibility for any action. (Not in terms of social norms or in legal matters) 8.) They blame me for things other men have down to them (and it's always the crappiest guys they choose and they KNOW they choose badly. But they still can't handle truths.) Then there's also the fact that in every relationship including my own parents, the woman always ends it in an explosion. They throw out the men, inhibit the children, and then immediately try to move some loser in. Then they go through constant relationships while their children suffer. My mother, aunt and grandmother all have cheated and abused the men in my family. The one time I actually liked a woman, it was a girl not even from tbe fricking country. Our current culture has made women infantile and entitled at the same time. They are no longer long term benefits, they are rendered parasites in relationships, useless in friendships, and toxic as coworkers. I don't want to feel this way but I have yet to meet a sane decent woman yet in the West. I will have to consider surrogacy to have children or move out the country just to find a woman that is at the least not a complete basket case. The fact that the west is the worst place to build families is just the icing on the cake since women almost always destroy their own homes for their own happiness anyway. The ones that stay together are rendered sexless marriages anyway, so women as far as I'm concerned hold NO worth as a man.

@davidd854

6 ай бұрын

I reckon you're from the US, I don't think you should generalize US women to Europe. US people are different.

@user-beepbopbeep

6 ай бұрын

@@davidd854 Fair enough, I can only describe the experiences I had thus far from the U.S. Im sure there are decent women, don't get me wrong but when small step can result in an explosive end to ones livelihood, that's not a game you want to play. Not legally, not financially, not physically, not emotionally. This is why I have considered surrogacy so that I can at the least insure I would be an actual part of my children's lives. As far as I'm concerned, here in the U.S, based on my own experiences, it's a dead end here. If you're looking for self pleasure and gratification, that's what the U.S is for, not for families, not for anything truly worthwhile in terms of long term plans or a healthy legacy.

@hanalala3164

5 ай бұрын

😂yeah right how many husbands out there destroy their marriage just to sleep with some seggs worker. Get real

@vam6677

4 ай бұрын

Holy moly bro chill out!! Yes a lot of girls suck but so do guys. Yes it’s harder to find people now unless u use apps. A lot of people have small groups and don’t branch out. I’m more introverted so I’ve experienced that I mostly gave up on making friends unless it’s by chance to focus on my studies. However you gotta let go of this pent up prejudice it’s just gonna shoot you in the foot. Women can be great and I doubt you dealt with someone with true REAL BIPOLAR TYPE 1. There is nothing wrong with drug use humans have done it forever as long as time, as long as it doesn’t affect their overall life a lot. I think you need to just drop some standards and predispositions. You might find someone who doesn’t match your check list but you get along great, not everything works out with everyone. Yes some girls pick terrible guys, but some guys pick terrible girls. Look in areas that have more down to earth people like jobs or stem stuff in school and I think you might do great. Go in with an open mind and don’t pre judge all women!!!

It makes perfect sense. Women share the top tier males.

@eddiewiggles9398

Жыл бұрын

That and some of the Younger women are with men old enough to be their father which skews the stats.

@Letsplay222

Жыл бұрын

@@eddiewiggles9398 Yeah, sugar daddies. Some of them even married.

@stockholmpublishings2937

Жыл бұрын

or the women are just lying.

@zacatkinson3926

Жыл бұрын

its overblown

@innavision1920

6 ай бұрын

@@eddiewiggles9398women with daddy issues seek sugar daddies, they don’t even think anything wrong of it

*"Social media was like a good experiment but it just didn’t work. I have a theory that technology should have stopped right around 1995. We could cure enough diseases, cars were good enough.. it was right around there, we should have just stopped, but we’re not. We’re gonna keep going and I don’t know where any of this goes.”* Bill Burr

@sp123

Жыл бұрын

I think 2008-2012 was a fine stopping point (GPS) the real issue is high speed internet

@jkfd97

Жыл бұрын

White genocide.

@humpteedumptee8629

Жыл бұрын

yea i thing 2010. but honestly i waouldnt mind removing most internet applications. and just keeping useful shit like messengers and gps.

@tadeolho3634

Жыл бұрын

no, the internet have knowledge important

@humpteedumptee8629

Жыл бұрын

@@tadeolho3634 so do libraries but there mostly used to rent old dvd's.

Growing up I had bad asthma and stopped breathing one day during dinner, that feeling of losing breath was peaceful and every time I feel scared to die alone, I think of that moment and realize once you get there it really goes silent and in the end you go alone even if you’re surrounded by family, you see pretty memories and then that’s it. So live your life

Early 30s crowd here. One of the most embarrassing things I ever asked close family members was asking my sister, "where do I even _go_ to find other singles?" She didn't even know. I don't do online dating because it is a market fueled by male loneliness. I still don't even know where to _go_ to even look. Most hobbies are pretty clear cut down the line of the gender spectrum so I usually only find guys where my interests lie. The worst part is most people still think a bar is the best place to meet. I'm not looking for another goddamn hookup. Why does everything devolve into hookup culture? Whatever happened to what my mom and dad told me to find success? Why the hell does it feel like my goddamn dogs give me more companionship than most women, let alone most people?

@Dan-sw8tg

6 ай бұрын

​@@Maskstohidemasksinteresting, mind to elaborate? You mean they died of in war etc before having one? 🤔

@John_B52_HEMI

3 ай бұрын

All men (except the top 10 percent) should boycott online dating sites.

@John_B52_HEMI

3 ай бұрын

You'll never find a woman who's as loyal as a dog. Women's love is only conditional love. When time's get tough, they bolt.

@andrewevans7992

3 ай бұрын

Most men feel like you do about not getting companionship from others cause they were and are treated like you, including myself so everyone is out for themselves these days, cant really blame others but i totally relate to your story. I extremely dislike people who go to bars regularly, its like they have no brain cells that those types of people who they attract are gonna leave them same way they found each other.

@jamesr3616

10 күн бұрын

Church

Chads have multiple girlfriends, and the women are in denial. Women are also dating older men as well.

@Wittgensteinien

Жыл бұрын

They are in denial, the most unbelievably crazy part of it to me is the mental backflips & rationalizations they'll make to continue seeing themselves as the victims at all costs. It's disturbing, our society is through because common-sense & clear thinking is dead.

Being told I'm a relatively attractive dude, now being 24 years old and having on one relationship with a 31 year old. Can just say no matter what the redpill community says. Something is seriously wrong, no amount of work on a guys end seems to matter. You can be the most interesting, built, financially stable and well off man. But since women have access to social media and can no longer pair-bond. They will "fall out of love" and leave you thinking they can do better. Not to mention the hive mind of other women who purposely find flaws in the guys they are with so they can ruin the relationship.

@nightshirt4716

Жыл бұрын

you probably arent remarkably attractive then, talking about that tiktok boy archtype

@Smolpantherbeby

Жыл бұрын

24 guy dating a 31 year old woman 💀

@A_Mind_For_Change

Жыл бұрын

@@Smolpantherbeby gave it a shot, even with the redpill ingested. I decided to play naive and hope things could work out, but her pairbonding was gone after having kids.

@Smolpantherbeby

Жыл бұрын

@@A_Mind_For_Change and a single mother?! Bro, ur young asf, please get some self esteem and self worth and do better. Or stay single, even that is 10x better.

@winstonwolf5706

Жыл бұрын

Are you still together? Were they your kids?

I have four friends who are in their mid 30s and are still single. 2 of them are definitely hooking up with a bunch of younger women. They tell stories about the bullshit lies they tell these women. The other two are some of the best dudes you'll ever meet. Had their hearts broken one too many times and moved on.

@andrewevans7992

3 ай бұрын

Might as well lie, everything that comes out a womans mouth is a lie. They love liars n players

As a man, I can confidently say the single life as a man is WAY better in western society. Too many women willing to cheat, lie, plan to marry to divorce to get money. “ Hot girl life “ hookup spree their whole 20’s away just to hit the wall at 30 and all of a sudden want to marry. Women who watch dating show series and come out of watching it thinking that’s normal behaviour and act like that in real life. Women who are willing to go out that are in relationships, just to hook up with a random and go back to their other like nothing has happened. We’re opening up into a new age where dating is the new pandemic. A lot of men like myself are realizing it’s easy to completely throw away your life away with modern women involved in it. It’s not worth it.

@John_B52_HEMI

3 ай бұрын

Well said.

I've been single my whole life until 32. I stopped dating Mexican, American and European women. I went to the Caribbean and found an amazing wife, you can find a good woman, just not in the States.

@23STEVO23

Жыл бұрын

it seems like a total mess over in the states, herein the UK, things don't seem that bad. we do have feminists here, but it seems a much worse problem over in america

@rayrayrun

Жыл бұрын

@@23STEVO23 what do you think about the christian value/family value is much more stronger there? And why do you think this is the case?

@primafacie5029

Жыл бұрын

Edddeee, I want haff

@HatchetHarry12

Жыл бұрын

​@@23STEVO23 nope the UK is Americas cousin. Australia and Europe is the same, maybe to lesser extremes than the States.

@wrfootball3847

Жыл бұрын

I found my life changed when I moved away from dating Western Women....too independent, feisty and too much competition. As soon as I dated non western like Asian, my hit rate sky rocketed. If you have POND1 with hot western women but tons of guys competing and POND2 with women just as hot and more lovely and traditional with less competition I decided to fish in POND2! Why less competition? Because the women in POND2 aren't out dating 5 men at once, meeting tons of guys drinking, clubbing, whatever. It's just a culture difference. Biggest advice to men, is change the culture of women you go for and your life will change, did for me.

It’s very depressing out there.

@tayzk5929

Жыл бұрын

Most men are happier not being with women thanks to the social revolution. They're making a rational choice.

@CraZy291

Жыл бұрын

Amen to that brother

@9770G

Жыл бұрын

For men.

@TrueLixe

Жыл бұрын

Only alternative is learning to love to be alone.

@Wittgensteinien

Жыл бұрын

@@TrueLixe Or you know.., become crazed with loneliness & go on a rampage.

This should scare the shit out of us as a society. Healthy children are born of families, and in order for life to go on we need men and women connecting with one another. Long term relationships and children are also some of the most meaningful and fulfilling endeavors in life, which means we're going to have a bunch of sad, lonely people walking around until they die.

@johjoh1203

7 ай бұрын

It should. But people don't think in any collective sense, be that society, family, or nation. Instead, it's just me me me and empowerment.

@oglocbaby520

6 ай бұрын

@@johjoh1203 I'm 33, American, and this genuinely concerns me. I think what we are seeing is the early stages of a demographic crisis or population collapse that will have transpired over the course of this century. I personally believe that social media AND dating apps are a huge cause of what we are seeing here. I graduated high school in 2008, by this point the internet and social media existed but it was nothing like what we saw a decade later. Things in this time frame were still normal, late 90s through early 2010s I remember people still socialized normally, they dated who was around them, etc. You can see a clear shift when dating apps emerged on the scene in 2014, there are a lot of stats to back this up. I also think instagram, only fans and others just added to this. We are now seeing the early stages of AI and you should expect to see this technology really take off over the course of the not too distant future. I believe that you will see a massive push for development in this field because the higher powers are fully aware that there is a demographic crisis. I am expecting a society where AI and automation takes over much of what a human can do right now. As time goes on, this technology will become increasingly more advanced. We will get to a point where a human cannot compete with AI. This could lead to something like universal basic income but I also have a feeling that it will be a very extreme society of haves or have nots.

@Atlas718

6 ай бұрын

@@johjoh1203 I would say its hard to be able to do that. Society grows bigger and bigger and ideologies change, communities naturally divide because opinions and values diversify. Currently most people care about their own communities, either it be 2-3+, big or small. And I can't really blame them for that. It is hard to fight for something that you don't even believe in. Let alone that people are struggling, they don't have the time and energy to care for everyone, jobs have been kind of rough and many still try to find their own meaning in life, especially during Covid, the effects still linger. People simply have their families (siblings, parents, etc.) some friends and they are apart of a community that shares their hobby or interest, I believe thats enough. Wanting to live a peaceful life and share happy moments with people you enjoy being around shouldn't be so negatively viewed. It is hard to have a collective sense when it comes to groups large as a society or a nation, because of such a polarization of opinions and values. But when it comes to smaller communities as I mentioned earlier, people are already doing that.

@bobronsons5780

4 ай бұрын

the family set up doesn't guarantee sht. If her mom is a feminist to ANY degree she is lost brother; even if her father taught her right

@theanonymspysandwich

4 ай бұрын

You know what kind of people consume and work most? Atomized people. That's what all of this is about.

Sounds like the girls are dating the same guys

@someone-ji2zb

2 ай бұрын

Most men cannot provide for a family on a single income currently. So while I believe it is deplorable for women to whore themselves out every single date with the top end guys; I also do not expect them to be too excited at the prospect of a guy who cannot provide for a family. Sadly it is the times we live in. The average man in the US, under 40, currently makes around 39k a year. It isn't feasible in most parts of the country.

Loyalty is dead in this country. The fact that your wife can divorce you at any moment and take half of your hard earned money is scary as shit. It's a complete turn off on dating for me, because i don't want to go through all the effort of dating, marriage, starting a family, only for it all to end with me having nothing but a broken heart

@cg3868

3 ай бұрын

Right there with ya man. It’s sad but it’s true

@Bathroomsteve

3 ай бұрын

I'm there too, seen it happen to guys around me. I worry for my best friend, him and his girl are good but you never know and would hate to see it happen to him.

@Alhaneef1444

3 ай бұрын

Its made on purpose by the government to create a week womenized society They got this "skit" from the communsit manifesto Women shouldnt have a saying in many things in life

@geoeconomics5629

3 ай бұрын

You do not want to commit to a 🙉 and I understand you

@AP-gv1ee

3 ай бұрын

THIS TIMES A MILLION

Honestly I’m done with modern dating. It’s all so shallow. I’ve learned that if I ‘chase’ women you’ll often keep finding ones you’re incompatible with.

@Answersonapostcard

Жыл бұрын

chase nobody, simp nobody.

If you’re a man from the States…you have to outsource. Dont buy local.

If your Mr Average you might as well prepare for a single life. Today’s women won’t settle for average.

The worst thing about this is that much of the reason many men would previously drive themselves to be their best in life is by virtue of having a partner or family that relied on him. Now that that's gone, and everyone just keeps telling them to work on themselves for eternity, it's no surprise that depression rates have skyrocketed and isolation is increasing. Go ahead and find that better job, make more money, find a new hobby, go to the gym, be everything that you could ever be. No one will be around to hear the tree fall.

@user-kw1hs4dn1g

Жыл бұрын

Funny how men have kids with women nowadays and don't want to work

@ladynottingham89

Жыл бұрын

The only sane comment I've read in this comment section so far.

@Nick-ij5nt

8 ай бұрын

Exactly, why work harder at my job? I only have to support myself so as long as I can do that why should I work harder?

@sumeriaanna8713

4 ай бұрын

This comment hits. We're told constantly to look inward, yet I suspect we'd be better off looking outward a little more. We need each other.

@jeffshultz6243

4 ай бұрын

Whoa

I’m a man almost 28 years old and I’ve certainly lost all interest in dating. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 1 year who I thought I was in love with and was going to propose to. She was very ungrateful and didn’t reciprocate anything I did for her. She was very toxic and had that mentality of “I am a woman therefore I am a prize and I’m not obligated to do anything for you because women are not your slave. If you don’t do certain things for me I can find 100 other guys that can”. Anytime she came over to my house I had food ready for her, I ran errands for her, picked up and dropped off her mail, taught her how to workout and eat healthy, would drive 30 minutes each way to her house to check up on her cats while she’s at work, fixed her car and put new brakes on it myself, bought her gifts, always treated her to going out to restaurants and bars, etc… One day I had worked a 12 hour shift and hadn’t really eaten anything. I called and asked her if she could make dinner ready for when I got home because I’m starving (I already had chicken washed, cut, and marinated in a pan with vegetables. All she had to do was put it in the oven). You know what she said to me? “Hahaha are you kidding me? I’m not going to let a MAN tell me to cook for him. I am not your slave. This isn’t the 1920’s where women are only reduced to being in the kitchen. Go find you another BITCH that will let you disrespect her and boss her around with your toxic masculinity” I was speechless. Like I’ve gone to great lengths to do everything for this woman and she thinks like that? Treats me this way? I ended it with her then and there. But even before dating her and these past couple of months I’ve done pretty well at getting girls. I have a good career, nice house, built physique, tons of hobbies, and a good personality with a big circle of friends so I always had options when it came to women. The one thing I keep realizing is that most women are opportunists. Meaning that no matter how good of a man they are dating, they will always leave and date someone else that has something that you don’t have. Oh this guy has a boat This guy always gets tables in VIP at the club This other guy owns a jewelry store This one guy has a lake house Etc… Girls have so many options due to social media and dating apps that they don’t see a need to be with one man. They are unable to pair bond and they know that they don’t have to put any effort in and still hundreds of guys will simp for them and provide them with everything. The average girl has the same sexual pull as a male celebrity. The other day I went out on a first date with this girl and she wanted me to take a picture of her next to my sports car so she can post it on her story (she has about 450 followers on IG). Later in the evening after we hooked up she had 100+ DM’s all from guys who are local asking her to go out for drinks or when they can go out for a date again. Meaning a lot of those guys she’s already gone out with or they are next in line. Yea no thanks. I don’t want to feel like I have to compete with over 100 men for an average girl.

@Mars-87

Жыл бұрын

Good for you bro this story put a smile on my face

@howtosnatch

Жыл бұрын

Did the ex ever try to come back?

@xtxschmidt

Жыл бұрын

It was an eye opener for me when I realized how much attention women get. Social media and all this tech absolutely annihilated dating for our generation. Frankly it seems sociopathic to me. I was out at the bars with some girls and they started talking about tinder, social media and guys. Oh my god literally a women nobody would look twice at has dudes simping every single day, all day every day. Money, gifts, trips, constant praise and attention, the endless compliments about everything they do, literally dozens of dms and messages every day with like a 2-6~ guys? What kind of world are they living in man. How is this sustainable?

@K.Marx48

Жыл бұрын

Dude you're wrong when you say they have tons of options, they have FOR NOW, and they feel omnipotent because of the power of their boobs and genitals, but with great power comes responsibility. Sooner or later they'll it a huge fucking wall sometimes as early as 35 and they will hit it no matter what before they even realize, at that moment it'll be too late, their power they abused instead of putting it to good use is OVER. Relax, they'll get it, it just takes time.

@whizkid235

Жыл бұрын

@@howtosnatch not yet. It’s been almost 2 months now since the breakup. I think she’s under the impression that she was the one that got a better deal by getting rid of me because of how misogynist I was and because I didn’t do enough for her 😂

Married people always jealous of singles and try to call us weird 😂

Dating is the #1 thing that have made me feel like the most epic loser one can ever be. When I don't bother with it I feel a lot better. Even good for the most part. For example my last experience was an absolute nightmare. Got really passionate about a girl and she wasn't into me at all. I don't know if that's even true though, because women aren't always honest and there's always the confusion you get from mixed messages. But, she didn't at least have the feelings on the level that I had. It was a nightmare to be forced to accept that I had to go on without her, while she's living her life with other men. I can sometimes still feel that self doubt from time to time. "What kind of loser am I if I can't even get the woman I want." I grew up with seeing relatives and family members being romantically successful. Especially some of my relatives are those kind of couples that were always that unit of those two. Couples that met in the 1960s or 70s and they're still together now! My father ended up getting divorced. But he at least had those good years with a woman he loved and they got three kids. When it comes to dating nowadays. I don't even have the mental energy for that. My hope is that I might get to know some woman organically, without needing to think of it as taking part in a competitive game. That's just depressing. Constantly overthinking your every move and it causes hatred, anger and resentment towards women to be a part of all the BS that's going on in modern dating. I want a woman to look at me like I'm a human being. Not try to get into the head of some idiot with a checklist containing 10+ points on what she's demanding from a man, while simultaneously not offering anything more special than all the other average women are offering. And perhaps even being a modern feminist who will mostly cause conflict.

Try being 41, single, and hoping for just a date. Forget it. Even with a decent job, decent looks, decent life, doesn't matter. You are written off.

@Mel-tw6qv

Жыл бұрын

I met my husband later in life. My parents also met late in life and this was very unusual for those times. I think around our age we all kind of assume everyone is married or taken.

@SirRobbins

Жыл бұрын

after 50, it could be better. People have given up on dreams at that point and then we have a chance lol

@fortheloveofnoise9298

Жыл бұрын

You have 3 amazing options. #1 Find a single mom who wants her child(ren) to grow up with a father. #2 Find an ugly girl who has a great personality #3 Find a woman outside of the U.S. (that is what I did, and am now engaged to a Swedish woman my age [28]) and now, i have no money...no job...im a deadbeat that lives in a garage....we like each other for who we are, not what we are or what we can give the other. She wont even let me buy her food on dates, sje pays for all her own things.

@user-ql2gr7pj5h

Жыл бұрын

@@Mel-tw6qv So you settled for a beta provider after you hit the wall? Poor guy. He got to marry used up sloppy 20ths.

@marcvslicinivscrassvs7536

Жыл бұрын

You can get a DATE. Women would be happy to eat on your dime. But any type of physical connection is probably not in the cards unless you are a Chad or a Tyrone.

One of the best phrases I have read: "Love is like a fart... If you have to force it, its most likely crap". I always feel so exhausted when I try my best to be in a relationship with a woman, its rarely ever rewarding. All the truly "happy" relationships I see around me seem to have manifested so effortlessly. This is the best way to live imo. If you meet the right person, it will flow effortlessly, if you don't, you'll be alone but at least you won't be in a toxic relationship... Imo, its better being alone than with someone who will drain your emotions and mental well being.

@colbalt95

Жыл бұрын

Stop trying. You're looking at this logically and emotional intelligence is designed to be illogical. I could explain to you the evolution behind it but you need to have at least one rotation dating four or more women to unlock the answer.

@gintonicx6

Жыл бұрын

@@colbalt95 Rotation of 4 women, do you have a job?

@johnsampson6387

Жыл бұрын

So true. If a woman truly likes you, she will make things very easy for you. It's not worth it otherwise (in my opinion).

@cosmicsea89

Жыл бұрын

I wouldn't say those successful relationships were "effortless", cuz there are sacrifices and compromise involved on both ends. I will say though, that the women have more leverage or steering power than ever before.

@DG4444everrrr

Жыл бұрын

A lot of people I know in relationships have cheated on each other at some point but are still together lol

I’m 21 and have had no success with women. I know I’m not ugly, I work out, and have a good head on my shoulders. It’s really demoralizing when you get rejected/stood up dozens of times. It’s also embarrassing when your family asks you about girlfriends. I’m worried that if I ever do find a partner I will be looked down on due to not having any experience.

@C63Bez

4 ай бұрын

Keep going bro don’t give up

@BlooCollaGal

4 ай бұрын

At least nobody's ever told you "eww you're short." Only takes a couple of those to kill your self-esteem.

@chibble3591

4 ай бұрын

@@BlooCollaGal sorry to hear that man

@Bogtog777

4 ай бұрын

Bro, I would spend the rest of my life in prison if a female said that to me. @@BlooCollaGal

@andrewevans7992

3 ай бұрын

Older you get the more experience women will have ans less you will have. Im 27 with no experience, its freaking brutal.

As a happily married 31 year old, here's my advice to young single men. NEVER try to "meet your future girlfriend" on a dating app, DM, or online-platform of any kind. Use common sense. If that's where you met her, that's how she meets men generally, which means she's going to be more prone to exploring that world constantly in the first place. Make meeting women a SECONDARY pursuit of social engagement. For example, you'll meet women at meetup groups for your favorite hobby, or at work, or at the dog park, or at the gym, or volunteering, or even at a church event. In other words, form a social life around frequenting places where people are generally pursuing their betterment and interests, rather than lazily slutting around online. You at least then have a chance to meet a woman that doesn't load up her DM's with a menu of 50 thirsty guys from 5 dating apps waiting to cheat on you the first second you're not around or the first moment she's mad or gets bored. And finally, DO NOT EVER go to a club or bar to meet women. Consider clubs/bars in the same category as dating sites/apps. They're both huge attractors for the sleaziest, sluttiest, least loyal women on earth. Seek out venues where you might find a single woman who uses her free time in a more wholesome way.

@Mindy.LeMinge

5 ай бұрын

Your 31. One day you’ll realize your in no position to give advice.

@user-ud7ko4cq1n

5 ай бұрын

@@Mindy.LeMinge OK, Boomer.

@jack-ci8je

4 ай бұрын

‼️‼️

@wrcz

4 ай бұрын

bars and clubs are for hooking up. everybody knows that

@nonamewillbegiven1217

3 ай бұрын

​@@user-ud7ko4cq1nisnt married

my generation is too poor to afford love It ain’t about happiness anymore It’s about comfort

@Toimeme612

4 ай бұрын

Probably.

@marylap6829

3 ай бұрын

The best love , the most important love is learning to love yourself and you can love others .. some from a distance , some up close .. just don’t confuse love with slavery.. be your own person and let others be who they are .. then you know for sure who your right person is.

@Zooman0001

3 ай бұрын

lol try survival.

Happy to know the younger generation of men is continuing to wake up.

Women are sharing the same men. It's just that simple. Women would rather share an alpha then settle for a beta. They will never verbally admit to this though

@VulcanJEDI

4 ай бұрын

Look at all the men recently divorced in Hollywood. If ALL those men can't keep a relationship, there is a problem. Women ☕️

Feminism changed relationships forever. I keep hearing how women are so strong and capable, I'd like just once in my life for a woman to ask me out. I know I've come across women that seem interested in me but not in a million years would they ever consider asking a guy out

The single life is so less stressful, modern women are hardwork.

@andrewevans7992

3 ай бұрын

You could probably build 5 businesses before finding a legit woman thats loyal

From what I remember, about 20% of men are going to be relatively undesirable, another 20% being single is normal depending on societal factors. I think 60% is an indicator that somethings wrong. But we might be in uncharted territory when compared to the rest of history.

@oglocbaby520

Жыл бұрын

I honestly agree with this, though the exact numbers may be off. There have always been young men who did poorly with the opposite sex. Look at any university and especially those in fields like engineering or the hard sciences, most of those are not players lol. Then you also have young men that are just quite undesirable, basically what you imagine when the term "incel" comes to mind (bad hygiene, obese, etc.). The thing is, the vast majority of men are relatively normal and otherwise potentially dateable. They don't have severe social issues, mental health problems, are not drug addicts, alcoholics, etc. I am convinced there is some very wrong with the current dating market but I believe there are many variables to blame that are collectively causing this.

@oglocbaby520

Жыл бұрын

I like to use myself as an example. I'm 33 now, white, 6'4" 235 with an athletic build and one of the fittest guys at the gym I go to, I go hiking a lot, etc. I'm taller and in better shape than the vast majority of men, for those over 30 I'm at a whole different level. Anyway, I've gotten a ton of rejections over the years and while some of them were from women that were hot many of them were from women that were completely average and even at times slightly unattractive. A few years back, 2019, I got this idea to try out a speed dating event from a guy I knew, I thought it would be interesting so I signed up. Anyway, there were about a dozen women around my age, late twenties through early 30s. There were no ugly women, but a couple that were legitimately fat and the rest were within an average range for women that age. Anyway, long story short I got nothing from the event and that experience really opened my eyes, this was back in 2019. Women around my own age that were single and actively looking did not think that a man their own age that was 6'+ and clearly in shape was not good enough to consider for a real date. They literally at face value rejected this, so it's not like they were filtering out for things related to compatibility, which happens after a couple dates. Granted, this isn't the best way to meet women but it's a fantastic example of what I'm talking about here.

@joane24

Жыл бұрын

@@oglocbaby520 Women aren't like computers, that you put a right code in, and you're guaranteed a success. Not only we have various preferences, but also it's mor actually more about a actual connection than what's on a paper/'bio'. For me, personally, you'd be too tall, I'm myself not too tall and don't like very tall men. Personal preference. Also, there's other factors: face, behavior, tone of voice, mannerisms, character/personality, scent - many of the preferences are actually unconscious, and vary across the individual women.

@oglocbaby520

Жыл бұрын

@@joane24 I totally agree and as a man you are NOT going to be every woman's type. However, the point I was getting at is that there is an issue with many women with how picky they are, which is preventing them from potentially getting into relationships with men that are acceptable. That's why I was using myself as an example with that speed dating event I cited. If women at an event like this, who are obviously single and looking, are deeming a man that is 6'+ and in shape worthy of the reject pile I would like to know what it is that they are actually looking for. This is the reason why they are single and looking, it's because they are far too picky. They want a guy that is 6'+, which is the minority of men, but then he is too skinny. They find a guy that is 6'+ and has the right body type for them but they don't like attire. They find a guy that has the height, body and style but he has some quirks that bother them. Do you see what I"m getting at here? I believe the biggest issue is that women have this perception of overabundance due to social media and dating apps, where they feel they can be incredibly choosey. What ends up happening though is they just end up perpetually single because they are programmed to believe they can find some perfect match, which in reality doesn't exist.

@joane24

Жыл бұрын

@@oglocbaby520 I agree with you that I also see this (worrying) trend, I see it actually in both women and men, though you're right it's probably more often in women, that they're not even willing to give a chance and actually see if maybe he/she has a great character and a relationship partner. It's like people seem to have this ideal in their head and anything less means automatically out. And I agree dating apps skewed many women's expectations, to something that doesn't even make sense in real life when it comes to forming connection and building a relationship. Which is really stupid, it's not how people in the past, and I'm talking now just my parents or grandparents generation, used to date and form families. It used to be you meet someone, you get to know them at least a bit and see if you both 'click', but it wasn't just based on some long checklist, but getting to know someone as a person. It's really sad and I'm sorry for those who have to date today, from what I see it's really hard, especially for men.

I’m 35 been single since 21

Society acting like being single is a bad thing 😂

@fuckakakaka

6 ай бұрын

cope

@andrewevans7992

6 ай бұрын

It kinda is if 60% of men are not in relationships and 30-60% haven’t had or gotten sex in theory last 10 yeara

@The.Harsh.Truths

6 ай бұрын

It’s a bad thing for the success of society. Married men have kids and work hard to support them. This pushes the economy forward and the new kids grows the population which is necessary for the Ponzi scheme of the western economy to continue without collapsing.

Men have realized that it is better being single than dealing with the roller coaster ride of a relationship

@fortheloveofnoise9298

Жыл бұрын

i mean...i am the rollercoaster...so..yea...lol (im a man) i am engaged to a very patient lovely woman!

@sreenivas6071

5 ай бұрын

​@@fortheloveofnoise9298give it some time, youll join the rest of us soon enough

More men need to understand that being independent is a great thing and nothing to be embarrassed about. I am 35 years old and have never had a girlfriend, I haven't had sex since the pandemic started and I haven't used a dating app or chased after a woman since that same time. I spent way too much time and energy on trying to chase women in my 20's which got me nowhere and I wasn't even getting rejected by women personally because I couldn't get to that point with them and it was soul crushing and caused too much depression and self hate towards myself until I turned my life around by hitting the gym, getting a better well paying job and most importantly doing skillful hobbies that I love that and have progressed at which occupies my time. Fast forward to now and I have bought my own house on a single income, I have some impressive PBs in the gym (not the greatest but I am chuffed) I play golf 3 times a week, I paint Bob Ross style, I have a little herb garden and succulents to look after amongst other things and I have to tell you that the moment I let go of women as something to be obtained in life my mental health skyrocketed and I am in an infinitely better place now financially, emotionally, health-wise etc why would I ruin my great balance by getting involved with a woman now? I don't believe in loneliness anymore, I thought I was lonely being alone but really I was just bored with nothing to do and once I started taking my fitness seriously, playing sport and doing fun hobbies my happiness went up the depression went down and "loneliness" was gone. It wasn't "loneliness" dragging me down it was a stagnating life bankrupt of activity. There is so much more to life than women and sex and it makes me sad to see so many brothers fall victim to the trap that our lives exist purely to chase women. I agree with the "go to the gym and take up hobbies" rhetoric we constantly get told but not as an end result to get women but as the end result to improve our health, our skills and our mental health. We don't need women we need activity

@danielwit5708

Жыл бұрын

Feel sorry for you

@Blaiyan

Жыл бұрын

Sounds great. And you sound happy too.

@klel4334

Жыл бұрын

lol cope, theres nothing better than a womans touch, plump, firm, supple, lmao. beta male

@klel4334

Жыл бұрын

@@MrDjjavad pure cope, beautiful women all around you, but you get none

@kawasaki_kid8704

Жыл бұрын

Cope

My friend was 24 and committed suicide bevause of this, constantly rejected tried his best but its too competitive now even unattractive women date guys way above them

@nickchkheidze9189

4 ай бұрын

that's because top guys date multiple girls and majority of the girls think they are in relship with this guy. In 6-10 yrs time these girls become cat ladies and nobody wants them. it's just sad reality. It's also motivational to become top guy and date 20 girls

@kevindimas253

4 ай бұрын

They like have their own level of inflation new requirements i see now are to be 6ft plus (this has been a thing) but now need to make 200k a year. I'm below 6ft and I'll never even smell 100k a year, sad yeah but I'll just have to live my live out as is. Plus I see these expectations from women who are average looking and below which is the interesting aprt

@beanteam2217

4 ай бұрын

I’m telling you the problem is the simps these days! Putting women on a pedestal!

@user-zc5lf9xb2g

4 ай бұрын

@@kevindimas253 I dunno about that , but in probability there's no profession in my country maybe apart from an MP or professional athlete who would earn that much. It's highly unlikely that would happen and maybe it's 0.000001 % . If that's the standard just forget about it bro . These internet guru clowns tell you it's easy . No it's not you need alot if experience and skills to run a successful business if your under 30 it's unlikely you'll have that .guys with way more exp and skills I know left their own business to work 9 to 5 because it's stable

@kevindimas253

4 ай бұрын

@user-zc5lf9xb2g exactly such a small percentage fit that criteria. I yeah I've slowly been forgetting and given up my dream of starting a family

Just let people be single man. You’re not obligated to procreate. Enjoy life the way you want to enjoy it.

I was married for 26 years and now all of a sudden she doesn't love me anymore. We are getting divorced and she tell me her boyfriend, who is also married tells her she is beautiful and sexy all the time. To me they are both pieces of shit made for each other. I will remain single and work on myself. She threw away stability and security for attention and validation

@jan-bean

11 ай бұрын

the fact that you can call your ex wife, who you shared 26 years of life with, a piece of shit now indicates you were probably never very great to her or loved her in a deep unconditional way. None of the men I’ve been with would ever call me that because they loved me in a profound way that a human being should love another in the sharing of such an intimate space. No man I’ve been with would stoop so low, even if I acted out, because their virtue isn’t dependent on how others respond to it.

@ANKET47

11 ай бұрын

@@jan-bean You forgot to take your meds?

@jan-bean

11 ай бұрын

@@ANKET47 No I just have found through life experience that the men who talk poorly about their exes usually were abusive and the men who move on and only talk respectfully aren’t. I’m not denying your ex did something awful, but I’m just confused on how people can go from spending 26 years with someone to seeing that person in such a black and white way with seemingly no nuance.

@MarquosXoloVanda

9 ай бұрын

​@@jan-beanyou're a bot

@solitary200

4 ай бұрын

She got the lifetime alimony

How does it work? Modern society is designed, not just to benefit women, but actually punish men.

@Austin123.

Жыл бұрын

Women also expect to be in a relationship and marry someone of 6 figures. But that is the 1% of men. So you have these women dating/marrying older men, and having sugar daddies than men who are still working their way up. Plus as you said, modern women and these feminist movement is causing many young men to refuse to date.

@jk8301

Жыл бұрын

@@Austin123. not six figures men, attractive men.

@lorzon

Жыл бұрын

@@jk8301 Like the meme says, 6 feet, 6 pack and 6 figures.

@1594simonsays

Жыл бұрын

this society ruined me. i used to really care and love people. not anymore, this is what they wanted

@Krelian4400

Жыл бұрын

Punish average men, the top tier men live like gods.

I’ll tell you why I’m done with dating, every single girl my age has an instagram that has some disturbing pics on it and they get hundreds and thousands of likes. Several girls I went to elementary school with have thousands of followers on their social medias and it’s like they are celebrities now. That makes me insecure af, knowing I could have a gf and she has all these guys liking her stuff and definitely sending her messages and sh**. F that, it shouldn’t be that way. All it takes if one message from a richer or better looking guy to win her over and she’ll just leave me like that. I don’t care about girls anymore man, there are definitely normal girls out there but they are so insanely hard to come across nowadays. Growing up everyone would just know each other in my neighborhood and that’s it, now you can reach out to anyone around the world and advertise yourself.

I’m a cat man. That’s where it’s at.

@Yumuura-ze5qp

4 ай бұрын

thats very based

@jiffpop5143

4 ай бұрын

na na na na na na na na na na cat maaaaaaan

@BlooCollaGal

4 ай бұрын

Toxoplasmosis

@nelsonhibbert5267

3 ай бұрын

Cats are too much like women for me to consider getting one.

@BlooCollaGal

3 ай бұрын

@@nelsonhibbert5267 yeah, they both give you brain parasites.

My mom truly believes that women are innocent. She believe it is always the guys fault. I haven’t dated since high school and I’m freshly out of college. Women’s expectations are insane compare to men’s. 12 inch you know what, abs, making a 100k plus a year and having already a house paid is not something anyone in 30s and 20s can provide. But if guys just want someone who is honest and genuine we’re the misogynists one.

@julesb2415

11 ай бұрын

I'm a woman fresh out of college as well. I never dated in highschool and never dated in college. I know tons of other girls just like me. I have yet to meet any girls that describe the standards/ expectations you describe. Every other girl I know just wants someone honest and genuine as well, including myself. So this broad generalization of what women want and expect is either anecdotal, meaning the only women you encounter or go after have these expectations, or it is a theory that because you do not meet these expectations and also do not have your desired woman, this must be the only thing women want. Good girls are out there, but they aren't gonna fall into your lap and it's not all of women's fault when we don't. Keep an open mind, women like that.

@Mattattaxk

11 ай бұрын

@@julesb2415 first off a lot of what you’re saying is mainly speculation. The statistics are supporting my experience though. There’s a reason why men are twice as much as single. I am not expecting anyone to fall in anyone’s lap. I am just saying what I have experienced and been verbally told. I don’t doubt the existence of any women that are good out there but I and other men who have told me their struggle cannot seem find anyone that is interested in anything long term and actually real.

@shanemacas-senn6347

11 ай бұрын

​@@MattattaxkTo be fair, what you're saying is also speculation. I also know a lot of women with high earning potentials who are looking for a serious relationship. Most of the qualifications that you listed aren't what they're looking for. Most of them want a genuine man who is willing to mature with them, not some hyper- masculine bro. Actually, most of them broke it off with their exs in college because their BFs were static in mindset. Women want someone they can grow old with (have kids, have a life, support them in their own career goals, etc). It doesn't necessarily come down to monetary means either. Support can be given in a lot of ways. Emotional support for instance is a desired trait. Maybe it's all speculation, but I can say from my own personal experience that there are a lot of women out there that those superficial characteristics are meaningless.

@mihaiapostol7864

7 ай бұрын

@@shanemacas-senn6347 "I can say from my own personal experience that there are a lot of women out there that those superficial characteristics are meaningless" this has been my experience too, if you're interested in women that simply want a partner to help each other grow & have children with, you'll find plenty. for the record, i live in europe.

@thepartydude

7 ай бұрын

This is escalating quickly, now women are looking for over 6ft dudes. Man I'm praying for something to happen, we need hard times to bring back the normality when survival is a thing. If a economic crash is a thing, men no longer pay OF or donations the women would low the standards and become more trad.

If a woman is a virgin or single it’s a choice for men it’s involuntary

@chrisstone2506

Жыл бұрын

*for certain men.

@mr.goldenproductions_0143

Жыл бұрын

@@chrisstone2506 For all men. Except maybe some religious people who abstain out of conviction. For the rest of young men, I don't think there's anyone out there who wouldn't want to get laid, or at least a real relationship with sex.

@chrisstone2506

Жыл бұрын

@@mr.goldenproductions_0143 But I can get laid if I want and I am in a relationship. It wasn’t granted to me because I can’t. I had the choice to make it happen and I did. Don’t put women in the power seat so much.

@bendover7841

Жыл бұрын

A good chunk of the religious population of the world is voluntarily celibate till marriage.

@fortheloveofnoise9298

Жыл бұрын

I chose to stay a virgin until I found the woman I knew I would marry...and I found her...but I am a very rare type of man...😂 I am ok looking now, but in highschool I was good looking, but I denied every woman (and a man) because I knew the personality wasn't right for me...that's all that matters, beauty fades and is meaningless.

I'm 40, divorced but we co-parent. I tried dating after the divorce but it was a headache. I am more at peace just working, and coming home and spending time with my daughter. I lost the will to "need" a woman in my life. Often times I found out, they brought me more problems or they talked too much, or they complained about small things in life that can't take seriously. I have female friends, but honestly being around women all day at work is enough for me. In my personal life i'm good with the peace and control over my finances. I don't like spending money......most women I dated, they always had a need to go out, do something, go shopping etc. My mom and my Aunts were from a different generation (the 50s/60s) and I admire them because they are loving but also pretty chill, they never demanded a lot of attention from people, but they loved being around family. Women my age, it's hard to find that. Social media really jacked people up mentally. But again not all women are like this, but I just don't want to search anymore.

I recently broke up with my gf because I realized after many relationships that I just prefer my own company. So much less stress. I don't get lonely. I still have my friends when I want to get social, and not having to worry about someone else's happiness let's me focus on myself. I tend to get my workouts in more, eat better, and don't have to comprimise. Some may say its selfish, and maybe they are right, but when I realize I enjoy my evenings by myself verses having someone next to me I am OK with it. Not everyone who is single is lonely. Some people are just deeply introverted. My favorite Friday nights are staying in my own company creating music and watching Bill Maher. To each their own. If you are traditional and need someone next to you more power to you! Seems like most of the comments here are people saying they don't trust women due to cheating in the past and trust issues. I've never had this happen, and you could say I've dumped some great ladies. But at the end of the day I don't like other's energy in my space. I've always thought there is something wrong with me for not wanting to be in a relationship and have broke hearts because I was ready to try it again. No more.

Women say they are dating because they don't want to look like a side piece. They know what it is truthfully though

I got broken up with a year ago, and I was heart broken. I checked my credit score the other day and it shot up 120+ points. It would seem society rewards me for being single.

@colbalt95

Жыл бұрын

Western Society punishes Good married men. Get your stuff together and get your passport

@fortheloveofnoise9298

Жыл бұрын

My credit score is 0

@trentonparrish1136

Жыл бұрын

My credit score just shot up too and I now finally have good credit! 🎉🎉🎉🎉

@kylefer

7 ай бұрын

The single get taxed more sadly.

@PermanentHigh

6 ай бұрын

​@@kyleferIt's hardly a difference

I am a senior Boomer and I can say unequivocally that dating also sucked back in the days before social media. I was trying to navigate the Los Angeles dating scene in the mid to late 70’s and it was very frustrating. Being in L.A. probably made it worse. I seemed to have this propensity for being attracted to women who were totally wrong for me, which led to one frustrating “relationship” after another. After a while, sometime around 1978, I started to just accept the idea that being single and unattached was OK with me and I stopped seriously looking for a committed relationship with a woman. I met my wife in 1979 because she was dating a good friend of mine. We got to know each other as friends for almost a year and I liked her very much - she was sincere and down-to-earth, in direct contrast to the women I had been dating. After her relationship with my friend ended by mutual consent she and I started hanging out more together and I gussied up the courage to tell her that I really liked her and was having a hard time thinking of her as just a friend. She felt the same way about me and we have now been married for 38 years. We were both tired of the LA dating scene and we knew that we had found our match so we both were very happy to stop looking.

@cattysplat

4 ай бұрын

My dad had similar stories. Most of the educated women he met in the 1970s were aggressively feminist. At school, at work and socialising, the hate and loathing of men who were not their boss was really strong. He met my mother who was only partly feminist, who became full time mother when we were born in her 30s (very old age for a woman at that time). Most of my dad's friends ended up divorced, some killed themselves as a result of losing everything.

@method341

4 ай бұрын

​@@cattysplatthat is quite sad but how do they lose everything? Shouldn't it be a 50:50 split?

I saw my grandfather get taken advantage of by his wife, my father get taken advantage of by my mother, I've seen many other men get taken advantage of by their girlfriends, a good deal of my aunts and uncles are divorced. I can understand why people, especially young men, would prefer being single than to being in a relationship. If the sacrifice is high and unappreciated, many men, or women, will not take that risk. This is then compounded by other factors like economics and compatibility. Additionally, when you're single long enough, you realize it's not that bad. It just is what it is. I can firmly say by what I've witnessed, it's better to die alone than to marry the wrong person. In some ways, I think a lot of young men are simply tired and fed up and the results is a kind of strike. They feel that since voicing their concerns, no matter how eloquent or polite they are, they will be dismissed: nothing ever changes. So, they move onto more productive pursuits.

I’m 38 and I stopped dating years ago. Women just used me for free food, drinks, shows, to do things for them and money with no intention of being intimate with me.

@andrewevans7992

Жыл бұрын

Yeah they just talk shit n when they get beat at their own game they cry online.. or ruin your life

@user-kw1hs4dn1g

Жыл бұрын

She owes you sex because you spend money on her? Funny how men say women sleep around too much but when a woman waits she's considered a user 😂

@Kelly-nt2rq

Жыл бұрын

It's weird that you only did those things for women under the hopeful expectation that they would be intimate with you. They didn't owe you sex because you spent money on them. What a disgusting mindset. I can see why you struck out and gave up.

@killertofu123

Жыл бұрын

@@Kelly-nt2rq Maybe he started out with good intentions, but then realized over time that he was being taken advantage of, which made him cynical. Who knows.

@alaalfa8839

Жыл бұрын

Some real nice women who are not brainwashed by television, feel deep love for her partner, for his charisma and wisdom and humor and spending time with him, holding his hand, feel his masculine strength, his charismatic hands, legs, neck, hair that its not just about sex but the connection and intimacy falling in love is not just about having sex falling in love means that she loves him wholeheartedly and therefore she doesn´t think about other people. She wants him to be happy because happy people fall in love with their partner. As Sam Vaknin said Love is the ultimate addiction, healthy addiction, therefore Facebook doesn't want men to fall in love with their own wives, because Facebook wants his eyeballs to look at the advertisement instead of looking at his beautiful wife. Therefore happy marriages are great competition for Facebook advertisements because the guy or wife is more in love with the partner than with Facebook feed.

Think about it Joe.....most men get nothing and the top guys are slamming side chicks.

@Mnaoke

Жыл бұрын

And it is accepted in our modern society for top guys to slam side chicks.

@toddjohnson271

Жыл бұрын

@@Mnaoke I think it's never changed probably...they control everything.

@tuinov6286

Жыл бұрын

​@@Mnaoke Top guys dont force women. Women want them.

@mrchonk316

Жыл бұрын

@@Mnaoke and why shouldnt it be? Nobody is forcing women to sleep with these guys they are attracting multiple women because of someting that women are attracted too, be that fitness money status or a combo of all of those. Either become one of these type of men or take a backseat and pick up whats left complaining about it isnt going to change it.

@stockholmpublishings2937

Жыл бұрын

but the side chicks are then lying since they're not in a relationship?

(1) Under 30 girls are with over 30 guys who were not part of this survey. (2) A lot of women are having sex but are not exclusive, and didn't want to put down "single" because that makes them feel like losers. So they say they're in a relationship. But that guy is with a lot of other girls. They're all picking the same guys on the dating apps and rejecting over 99% of other guys.

@fortencuales

6 ай бұрын

This is not adding up

@MJ-xl5jz

6 ай бұрын

​@fortencuales how does it not add up?

I'm 35 and haven't been on even one date in 12 years. It doesn't help that my student loan debt from a failed school required payments so high that I've lived together with my mother my entire life. Hopefully that changes this summer. Aside from the money issue (and I make good money now), I had to look back on the relationships that I *did* have and they all have one thing in common: high school. Everybody I dated I knew through or from back in my high school days. People that basically already knew me to some degree. I tapped that resource dry, there's nobody left. They all moved, became parents, got married, or died. I realized that because of that, I have no game. Absolutely no rizz at all. I literally don't know how to even flirt with somebody to show interest. My attempts at learning how have only pushed people away and caused larger rifts. It sucks learning this about myself so late. I've more-or-less resided myself to a life of being alone once I'm finally in my own place. I can't see it happening any differently.

This is a great comment section. Very relatable and true to what is being said. I feel very connected to your guy's stories.

@Kelly-nt2rq

Жыл бұрын

@SweetChick10101 we do not all want love.

@codywarhawk7099

7 ай бұрын

​@@SweetChick10101I'd rather women stay the fuck away from me.

@willspurlock4236

4 ай бұрын

this has got to be ironic

Their are no reasons for western men to be married. They give it up for free and you don't even need to commit to them. Just come off as successful in a financial/physical/social status format. Marriage is a contract that is horrible for men as well.

@tayzk5929

Жыл бұрын

and beta guys will pay for the alpha and single moms kids through taxes haha, institutionalized cuckoldry

@KD400_

Жыл бұрын

Yep the western women just give it up so easily.

It makes perfect sense. Young men are single in greater numbers because in this modern frivolous society they lack of the new essential requirements: image, status, money, mindless spending, superficiality... While being a good person, loyal, hardworking, funny, etc that's non important now. So many of young women are dating wealthier older guys that fit the requirements and can provide this things.

I'm 37, single, but then I don't even know when I stopped caring. I don't mind having no gf, what bothers me more is people not respecting that I'm single, but after a thousand times it just becomes a minor nuisance that I end up forgetting after a few minutes or hours later. I guess I'm attractive, some girls smile and blush when I'm presented to her by friends, it's a good feeling, but idk honestly why you guys care so much about not having a gf. I like being single, I used to care til a moment I just thought it's good the way it is. I guess it's when I started being proud of myself. I run (running my first half marathon soon), i lift, i study a lot of topics. I'd enjoy having a beautiful gf, but the fact of being broke fuks me up, I wanna have a slightly stable source of income, which i don't. Blame's on me. No heart feelings if girls don't want me. If I have a crush on someone (been quite a couple of years) and she doesn't feel the same, it's ok, I'll feel bad for some time and that's it. I guess the problem is putting too much hopes and pressure on having a relationship and what people think of you. Honestly I just try to keep my distance from these people, also social media. Just go be who you would like to be. Enjoy the struggle, i guess we as men we enjoy doing that sht. A lot of things I do are very cheap and i feel like I'm in better shape than many of people of my age. I'm in better shape than I was since i peaked in my 18s, not as strong but my cardio wasn't even 20% close. I'm 37 and i feel young. Don't lose your time with all the pressure of being in a relationship or getting laid, that would be my advice to my younger self. This pressure of being successful, or not being a loser, it's just a matter of how you feel. Hell, I was happy in one of the worst years of modern world, during covid I came back to running and lifting and it was like starting life over again.

Men have to do a lot to become attractive in the modern era. Work out, work long days, focus hard on money etc. But men don't really need all that. They can be quite happy at 45-60k a year. Women don't present a compelling case for all that effort. A look at your married friends and a few are happy, but most are miserable, sexless, trapped in their own homes. Single men can still date if they want, but if they don't, it's quite nice having all your money and time to yourself.

@jamisonbernhardt3310

Жыл бұрын

I might buy a new fpc carbine rifle. You know why? Cause I can. I might buy some weed to smoke while I study it. Cause I can....

@innavision1920

6 ай бұрын

Most men can live happy in a room with a mattress on the floor, a few essential items, and a fridge full of food while being able to do their favorite hobbies. If a woman entered the mix, all she has to do is be genuine and present, let him come home to a peaceful place, and he is fulfilled in life. Women on the other hand are constantly feeling they need more out of their situations. They may get what they want but are rarely satisfied. When a man comes in the mix, they want the most comfortable situation possible at your expense and to spend (your) money on things that serve no purpose, while they expect you to take them out on fancy dates regularly. If you do not check off every one of her 99 boxes, she is unfulfilled and will resent you for it.

@badart3204

6 ай бұрын

Idk, people say this yet dudes keep killing themselves. I’m unconvinced

@donnawinters3587

4 ай бұрын

I'm a woman and I have to do a lot to be attractive, I think it's part of being human. I get up every day at 4am for my workout, do my hair and put on light makeup, invest in a decent wardrobe & skincare, work long hours, invest for my retirement, etc. It's not just men who have to put in effort. I have to look out for myself in this life, and I think other women (men too) have the same mindset. If a man does not bring value to my life, I do not want him in it. I do love my free time as well

@PatronHall

4 ай бұрын

You do those things to *feel* attractive. Attractive women are hot right out of the shower. Any man who has lived with an attractive woman will tell you this. That's why our favorite outfit is a t-shirt and panties. Men are judged by much more than their appearance. It's not "fair" to either sex, it just is what it is. Women are sex objects, men are achievement objects. @@donnawinters3587

I'm 60 and stopped looking for a partner 15 years ago because it's impossible to find a woman who is sweet, warm, affectionate and nurturing. Instead, they are too "male" for my liking (cold, competitive, opinionated, etc.). And it doesn't help that the vast majority of women over 40 are overweight, have emotional issues, drink too much wine, and have unhealthy lifestyles.

@richardmorris7063

Жыл бұрын

I'm 66 & same here. Pretty happy by myself.

@karimabraham7535

Жыл бұрын

Lol my previous ex was 40, had emotional issues, drank too much wine, and had an unhealthy lifestyle 😅

@hoedemakerbart

Жыл бұрын

Move your ass to countries like Thailand or Philippines asap brother

@donnawinters3587

4 ай бұрын

I don't drink, am not over 40, and not overweight, but I am on the spectrum so I probably come across as 'cold' to my partner. It's something I have been working on but being nurturing does not come naturally to me. Keep in mind that I can't be the only person with this issue

I think it’s about not settling either. A lot of our parents peaked the divorce rates so I’m trying REAL hard to make sure before having kids

I am a single 29 year old guy who has never been with a woman at all. Like not even a relationship such as friendship . I have had several crushes, but I liked to better enact how the love story might play out in my head rather than talk to them in the real world. I mustered the courage to ask one girl out when I was 22 and she said no and that was it. Stayed away from all women. And relied on P””n till now. It’s boring at times. But it is what it is. I don’t want to have to pay for fake intimacy

1 word - hypergamy

@courtneyharris1006

Жыл бұрын

Yep

@FazeParticles

Жыл бұрын

Unchecked or unrestricted hypergamy results in a small percentage of men having access to majority of the women.

@sydneyrosenblatt8433

Жыл бұрын

Nods as a woman

@KD400_

Жыл бұрын

​​​@@sydneyrosenblatt8433 women r gonna have to lower their standards otherwise nothing will get fixed. And men need to level up too

@klimtkiller

Жыл бұрын

@@michael.di3 I see hypergamy as a spectrum, and due to cultural reasons, women have become much more hypergamous than what is natural. I think feminism plays a role in this.

Not only single but sexless. Only a few guys are running through most women

@WhySoBroken

Жыл бұрын

this is the problem. Women dont want men who are working on themselves in their 20s. But then when these men become attractive after years of hard work these same women are ran through by then and the men no longer want them. What real man would marry a girl who gave her body up easily? Modern woke culture will say this is wrong thinking but this is how men have always thought naturally.

This will truly end our way of life. If we can’t incentivize men to come back to the table it’s all over.

@mistergoodcitizen9914

3 ай бұрын

@@chronicblast5505 I’m well aware

@Stoddardian

7 күн бұрын

Good. This "way of life" should be over. The average man is nothing but a slave in this system.

Young women are dating older men. That is why