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@kylebowman652

9 ай бұрын

Hold back: Feeling judged or lesser than, less attractive because of material things as criteria (money, car). My question though: these signs aren't only shown due to courtesy or via a subconscious habit, correct? @coachmelannie

@waynetech10

9 ай бұрын

Biggest struggle, specifically in regards to dating? Belief. Even when I was positioned perfectly, and open to the idea of dating, I simply didn't buy into the idea that she wasn't just being friendly. A lot of the key signs that something might be there could also mean she's just being friendly, such as using "we". "We" was/is code for "I want you to do this for me". I get the caveat that, yes, she may just be a toxic type, but a nice, friendly woman might still just see a guy as useful. Bonus points, if you have a pickup truck. It wasn't in the cards, for me, and that's okay. Better to play my position, than to be embarrassed, have my hopes dashed, or be accused of something.

@sickranchez6183

9 ай бұрын

Women fought for legislation to protect them from men. Now men don't bother talking to women because they can catch a life breaking felony on their record. My advice to men, move on and work on yourselves, women rigged the system and now want us to fall for the trap now that we've walked away.

@842king9

9 ай бұрын

This is the first of your videos that I've seen. Lovin your energy! We could be friends! My biggest struggle right now in dating is trying to hard. When I'm attracted to a girl I try to set up ideal situations and it totally comes across wrong. Women hate and punish try hard dudes. Try hard pretty much guarantees die hard results. Basically I just need the confidence to live and make moves in the moment instead of doing nothing in the moment and then setting up an ideal moment next week. Lol

@davidgalea6113

9 ай бұрын

a fish won't teach a man how to catch fish but a fisherman will.

In order to protect myself I ALWAYS assume that she is just being friendly.

@ELDynasty

9 ай бұрын

😂

@LifesAGambleLAG

9 ай бұрын

Same, im a pretty handsome dude and get a lot of attention but always leave the chicks looking at me like they were expecting more from our interactions.

@andrewcrossman2165

9 ай бұрын

Girls like balls don't get into your feelings, being bold get em wet

@crow3370

9 ай бұрын

I do the same thing

@jaxripper251

9 ай бұрын

Exactly because society has made women them that way with feminist movement

Summary 1. Talk over shoulder 2. Pupils dialate 3. Tells she miss you 4. Talks in 'we', 'us' 5. Does nice things for you repeatedly 6. Tries to keep conversation going 7. Laughs all your jokes 8. Always around 9. Does cow walk 😂 10. Makes eye contact 11. Ask for help

@467076

8 ай бұрын

All these "signs" can still mean she's just being friendly lol Number 5, 6, 7, 10 happens all the time, to which she's just being nice.

It's actually very simple, if you are tall, good looking, wealthy, confident, in great shape, smooth, funny, dress nice, and have a big house and nice car. She is into you and flirting, if you are just an average guy, she is just being nice.

@FERALDOG4

9 ай бұрын

FACTS

@kiwidiesel

9 ай бұрын

😂😂😂 And that kids is how I met your mother

@czpl1114

9 ай бұрын

I used to believe that

@TyVodd

8 ай бұрын

Sounds like a very red pill take. Materialism isn't everything. Look for women who don't only value material things.

@LTGDSP

8 ай бұрын

if you are below average guy, then they avoiding eye contact with you

Those 11 don’t always mean she’s flirting. Learned that the hard way.

@JJ-vp3bd

6 ай бұрын

whats flirting to you

The laughing thing is so true. I would tell a joke that is NOT very funny, but she would laugh like it's the best joke ever.

In todays day and age, a women needs to be much more clear about her openness to engage than these almost imperceptible “signs”. Too much risk, both emotional and potentially legal if we get it wrong. Men simply won’t take the chance. Those days are gone. Still I enjoyed your video, your message and mostly your positivity. 😊 Thx.

@467076

8 ай бұрын

Not even that I can get in trouble but deciphering all these "signs" is way to much work, and at the end of the day, I got better things to do. "Her flirting" my response, cool have a good day lol so I missed your 20+ signs, just thought you were being friendly.

Unless you want to get rejected just assume she’s being friendly

@KD-lj2pj

22 күн бұрын

Being single is the best Deal....Peace and quiet 😂😂😂

Masculine way = Have lot of Money , be Celebrity or Famous = all Girls are yours. I learned this hard lesson over past 34 Years, even as Tall 6.4 ft guy. I am done dating or trying getting or finding Girl, feels better.

@TyVodd

8 ай бұрын

If ur going the red pill way, why are you here? Christian dating, is not the red pill way, so you seem to be in the wrong place.

@larslevinberget9558

3 ай бұрын

In Northern Europe that's average...

@SquallSZ

Ай бұрын

​@@larslevinberget9558You don't live there hein

My biggest struggle was the fact that I asked a girl out and apparently was creepy because I looked like I had no emotion (I was scared) and that spread to the whole campus so that I was rejected like 90 times. As a result I am scared of being perceived as a creep and end up not asking at all.

@user-wc9cs9mz8u

9 ай бұрын

Just do the opposite of good and girls will like you 😊

@Nonesandiego

9 ай бұрын

It’s because from the moment she gets up in the morning until the moment she goes to sleep, even this “coach”, she’s been messaged by simps all day. Her phone is NOTHING like yours. If a women showed you their phone and social media messages, you’d want to give up. You should move on. Dress nice, go out with a couple nice looking buddies DO NOT LOOK at any girls. Ignore them completely. It will be hard for a few times. Why do you think they spend hours on makeup and outfits bro. Racking up attention from guys with no chance. Period. It is a drug for them. They wonder about the guy in the room that isn’t give them that and is confident. You HAVE to trust me on this. When you see her, picture 20 other guys standing next to her. Because that’s who is on that phone. Don’t be one. It WILL happen for you as girls are looking for successful guys and not the Chads that run through them and all over them. I am telling you from experience. Best of luck.

Misread the signs and end up with a felony, I wouldn't even bother.

Boo. Good info. Thanks for always being a positive person!

Your voice is hypnotic! It's definitely made for broadcasting/podcasting.

"BOO" You have a priceless cuteness with these bloopers.Thank You for keeping it real.

This is my first full video from start to finish. I am now subscribed. Thanks again!

I really like your positive energy and how you explain things. That goes along way. Keep it up and thank you.

I always assume that she's just being friendly. Sometimes if it's someone I know I say something to the effect of "oh you're such a good friend" or "I am so glad you are a friend" or something like that. And typically that pretty much sets the tone of the relationship. Frankly I don't want to get the smoke from an angry woman who was just being friendly and is now offended that I told her I was interested in her. The pain of suppressing feelings is better than the heartbreak of rejection and ridicule.

Some excellent advice once again. The fact that you see effort on both sides is a major factor to consider. The other thing is time. Genuine interest doesn't fade and being civil is the perfect ice breaker. A friendly hello is a good place to start but the effort is shared and doesn't just go away overnight.

@bryansolis3139

6 ай бұрын

Same advice once again

Thanks! Bless you Melannie Spreading Kindness hope it makes you smile today.

@CoachMelannie

9 ай бұрын

Thank you SO much for your kindness and support! God bless! 🙏

Boo. Wonderful wise advice.

Very informative.. Thank you 🙏

Your a great help an thank-you . Your flirt interpretation from women does better guide my day to day interactions with women , me being a single friendly person having to be careful not to be overly friendly . May God bless you helping others.

In this age, since women feel themselves "empowered" and in this age of "me too" where men who engage with women can see themselves on the wrong end of a litigation or charge of assault, it should be up to them (women) to make it unmistakably clear to make the first unsubtle move. No more clues, no more innuendo....women, you deserve this.

@DonTrump-sv1si

9 ай бұрын

Thank you! Exactly.

@Last_one_before_I_go

9 ай бұрын

@@DonTrump-sv1si You're welcome and you have my vote for 2024 ! ;-)

@FrostedSeagull

9 ай бұрын

Smartest Comments here. There are female US Lawyers who state this very point.

"Boo to you too." Hi, my name is James, and my biggest fear when it comes to meeting people (mostly women) is my shyness. I sometimes come strong out of the gate, but soon stall out just standing there feeling embarrassed. Any info you have would be Gr8 info. P.S. You are helping more people than you may ever know. Keep up the awesome work. Thank you so much.

great video

Hey Melannie, Your hat was very in style for girls in school in the mid 80s. It was an alternative for the girls who didn't or couldn't do the poofy teased high styles that were big then. I have experienced the "she kept the conversation going" then later asked me out. We went out but discovered we were too different. She actually became much more shy once we were out together in her hangouts for whatever reason. Also had the "talking over her shoulder" thing. She was a very attractive "friend" though we did go out once (& everyone stared at us together and guys asking me to pass them her #). She maybe was "in flirt mode" as she was doing the catwalk as well, but she told me about the guy she was dating she was going to dump and go with a different guy who she later got married to, & stayed married to as well. She was just flirty with a number of us guys. I also got the "she keeps looking at me" sign as well though from much older women I wasn't really interested in. Once, I did get the multiple smiles and repeated looks from a Shania Twain double looking woman. I was too nervous to speak (suddenly) which was my fault. The times where I wasn't, (& getting the looks etc) they turned me down.

@4932gb

9 ай бұрын

Hipster style is a turn off.

My biggest struggle is just I'm totally unable to talk to a girl I like and stay apparently normal. I loose all my self control, stress, sweat, blush, forget simple words and so on. I know the girl see it and of course things get worse. I'm often even too scared to walk to the girl and start to speak so I just walk away.

Your teaching is excellent.

My biggest dating struggle is I live in a very rural area, with very few women.

wow thank you for your good work,>>stay blessed

I’m done reading the “signs” I had 8 and got ghosted for no good reasons. I just didn’t get it. I’m done though I’m now 0-23 in my life. Women only give me signs for ego boost

Confidence, I am shy, I don't want to be rejected, nervous

@JJ-vp3bd

6 ай бұрын

any updates

You have such a loving aura, when I'm around such a woman I'm interested in, I pray that I 'get it'. True romantic reciprocal sensuous love is just around the corner for me.

Thanks!

@CoachMelannie

4 ай бұрын

Thank YOU! Have a great day!

I only just realized it, but you have a great kind of voice for radio. You should consider doing that kind of work.

Now I know women dont flirt with me

love the bloopers,

Boo. Awesome stuff.

your videos give me life!

I have zero confidence, but that apparently has served me well in the Me Too era. Still... I get very lonely sometimes. Id love to be there for someone.

BOO:) Great vid, I especially like the steps at the end of how to put the signs into context and determine if shes actually flirting! Greatest struggle was always my nature of being a dreamer and hoping, and (unknowingly) assuming that we would get together and putting pressure on myself to do well. For example I would get to know her and without already knowing if feelings were mutual, already picture us married building a life together. As a result I would try too hard, jump at any could-be-considered-good-sign i could see without trying to get the big picture, consequently brushing off some not-interested signs. I later realized that I knew how to move forward properly and read good signs (THX to all your amazing VIDS), but my rose-tinted glasses were messing with my ability to do it properly. Didnt think I was at first but I really was 'marrying her before marrying her' (a phrase that I truly understood after it fell apart). So now going into any relationship I may pursue in the future (single right now), I always remind myself to not assume that we will be together until we are officially established, and that to never ignore any non-interested signs and when seeing them, to not be discouraged and instead remind myself that you dont want to be with someone who doesnt like you back because it does me (and her) a disservice. Your channel has helped me discover and remedy my flaws SOOOOOO MUCH over the last year and a half! God Bless, Melannie:)

@reverenddarthbeavis

9 ай бұрын

sir just like me you are a hopeless romantic...and it sux i know coz unless she is? that wont work...keep a leash on the emotions and fantasies and work from reality which is HARD

My biggest struggle is to actually approach even after seeing the obvious signs or even the subtle ones!

I love the bloopers

We've been friends online for approximately two years but haven't actually met in person yet. We were talking a couple of years ago, and both said we like each other. We lost touch for a while, but I've been chatting a little bit lately, and she agreed to meet, finally. She seems excited. It may take her a day or two to respond to my messages, but she always responds. What's holding me back? Fear of her canceling at the last minute. Also, she seems to be a love avoidant. She's been hurt, badly, before, and she guards her heart. She said, "we need to hang out" when I get home from a seasonal job. I'm a love addict and have to be very careful to not seem needy. It seems healthier too because I don't have her on a pedestal. I feel like I genuinely care about her. I want her to be my best friend. If she's an avoidant, how exactly can I move things from friendship to romantic, I guess? Maybe talk more about the dynamics of a love addict and love avoidant and how to move things forward in a healthy way. Thank you for all of your videos, Melannie! They bring much needed peace and hope to me! Boo.

Love the hat mel❤gazzzzx

No matter how much I watch these kind of videos I still have no clue what is going on

Loved the content and tips in this video Melannie,,yay to great advice and boo to those who choose to be be nagative towards you on the internet, hope and pray you feel better soon too 🙏😊

I love your content

I love these videos. I have a very hard time with all this social stuff when I already know a girl, when I meet her at the train or something like that its kind of clear what each of the parties want but especially when you are close to people you have to read the signs first to not get embarassed. This is the part I struggle the most with and whenever I come across someone I try to remember the signs, watch 1-2 videos just because. 10/11 signs saying my intern wants something from me.....not sure this is necessarily great.....because it seems I feel the same way. Social stuff....I hate it ;)

kewl looking hat melannie

Boo. Thanks for doing what you do and give us men the female perspective

Good Advice

you're honestly so gorgeous xo

New sub. Awesome channel. Fun & informative. Love it :)

If a person does not want to be in a romantic relationship, then what exactly does being a friend mean? Friends do things together but I don't think this is what the person has in mind by being a friend.

@matthalo89

9 ай бұрын

Dude that’s what I’ve been thinking/saying for ages! I don’t understand it.

Wow 140k+ 😂 you go girl! There is a sucker born every minute.

Yea she was just being nice good to know

I can never really tell if a woman is fliting with me...sometimes, when she looks at me a little too long or smiles at me a lot, then i think she may be flirting...i try not to assume things about girls...but if a woman smiles at me a lot or touches me playfully, or goes out of her way to talk to me, then it's safe to say she's interested in me....

Shyness is holding me back

They are flirting but then when you make a move they tell you they was just being friendly.

No, no they don’t hate turning a guy down. If the guy is ugly, she’s just being friendly.

"Your heart starts to beat faster, as she smiles at you." Um - as she does...what? "The first thing you need to know is - girls hate turning guys down." Um, no...just, no. Girls have always delighted in turning me down. Most girls I encounter seem to absolutely love rejecting guys. Oh, well. Maybe, one day, I'll see a girl's eyes dilate. It's important to have something to live for, isn't it?

FLIRTING and BOO. The sign I'm gonna look for is whether or not her eyes dilate while I'm talking with her. To answer your question "What has been my biggest struggle in relationships? For me, it's been the lack of respect. I've actually earned their respect, yet there has been no reciprocation. So, all I have been able to do is work on me and my self-improvement. I've enrolled in and taken your online academy course and have patiently awaited the opportunity to meet a fine lady one day. Thank you for another good video. Please continue to have a great weekend and have a safe week ahead. May God richly bless you. 🙏

@CoachMelannie

9 ай бұрын

That's a great sign to look for! Lack of respect is a massive issue for relationships. You definitely deserve someone who treats you right! I'm so happy you enjoyed the video! Thank you for your kindness! 🙏

the signs and do nothing proves you can wait for another and not be too quick on the draw

I am widowed. What holds me back most is trying to get anything started with a lady . I'm not in a position to just meet women at all. Plus I'd rather to find the right woman. I have had one woman flirt with me, but she is a neighbor. I'm not interested in her in any romantic manner. I know it will take time to find the right lady. At my age, it's not easy. Being over 50:doesn't make it easy what so ever. Not many within my age group whom are single. My question for you Coach Melannie is how can an older person who is no longer in the workforce to find a woman to try to have a relationship with. It's been over 18 years since I was single. I really need some advice on how to get something going in the right manner and with the right woman. Thank you for your videos .

@nigelchew1890

9 ай бұрын

Learn to be happy on your own. Most women of our age have so much baggage, it's unbelievable. Otherwise,take up yoga, line dancing and go to the gym.

@kiwidiesel

9 ай бұрын

My suggestion is to just do you bro. The anxiety, uncertainty, cost and sheer drama of it all is time better spent being channeled into yourself in the form of hobbies, learning something new, improving yourself. I'm 45 and can pass for 37, failed marriage 6 years ago Ihave no problem with potentials from mid twenties to anything older but dam they all entitled and vain.

Remember that the signs can depend from woman to woman. I would recommend to use your gut feeling because even if she doesnt show so many of the classical signs she can still be in to you. Then she can show some signs but still doesnt have a romantic interest. As i said before. It depends. I'm a 30' female and theese are my signs of interest and attraction: 1. Closing up to you/touch you (subtile of course, depending on how well we know each other) 2. Prolonged eyecontact 3. Asking a lot of questions 4. Becoming happier and laughing more in your presence 5. Dressing up more/care more about my aperence + maybe using that expensive parfume I bought last year but in normal cases dont want to waste. 6. Becoming a bit awkward and clumsy 7. Getting a bit boastful and want to impress you. Its like: hey, see me and how fantastic I am! 8. Becoming soft and extra sweet to you. Making you favours and other selfless acts.

Danke!

@CoachMelannie

9 ай бұрын

I'm so happy you liked it! Thank you for your support!

I think she maybe is just trying to manipulate men, instead of being flirty or even just being nice. As an Uber driver, I meet a lot of people, even if they are or are not, they are usually just being manipulative and trying to get a free ride by giving the driver a poor rating and making fraudulent claims. This has made me realize that I can’t trust people, and I feel like I’m being falsely accused by people who just want a free ride and falsely accuse drivers due to a lack of respect.

BOO! My thing is, I give my attention to women and if they share personal stuff I feel awkward and start to think that I invaded her privacy.

Both of us feel like we can’t get a word in and be heard

I clicked this video and instantly realised its a mistake to care this much if a girl likes you just carry on showing her you care but dont be obsessed focus on yourself be there for her but never let her know you are craving her you wanna meet up? ask once and thats it dont force her to meet you do the oppisite of what she does to you that gives masculine energy dont bother texting nonsense you got a question ask it or call her and wrap it up make sure your texts arent dumb like wyd u up or something those convos dry up quick they only work when the girl says it

trust affects me the most!!!

Thanks

Love your Debbie Gibson hat. Great advise.

I love your voice and your the best pit shaver ever. I always giggle when I hear your voice.

good morning, good afternoon, good evening,good night.all your videos are good..Thanks a lot it's an honer

Thank and boo

What I feel is holding me is back is financial

It's been a minute since I last checked out these videos - noticed the lack of the usual background music. Sounds weird when you're used to hearing it all the time! Also - boo.

I always miss these signs being such a damn handsome man , it's hard to be humble when I'm perfect in every way! 😏

It's getting closer to Halloween; BOO!

I Agree

Every woman expressed themselves differently. I never assume. When a woman wants me, it will be unmistakable. Next thing I know- it's a relationship.

What's holding me back? I live in a small town in the middle of nowhere. Also, there are no sincere women left. Even if I socialise outside my area getting to know many more people, they just bait. Women weren't like this in the 90s when I dated or had affairs.

I would like to hear about a friend being secretly in love with a friend.. I have a difficult time being able to get around physically.. I love women but haven't had a girlfriend for about just over 15 years..

Yeah .. I had a co worker take me to a bar. She gave me those shoulders and we talked but I def had to set boundaries because we are co workers. We also danced together but no physical touch. We had a great time but def was some attraction there. We went as a group but I knew she wanted to just spend time with me. 👍

One social meet up group I attended lately, one of the guys there told me he sadly didn't get his very first girlfriend until he was 30, while he is happy about having a girlfriend now, he still gets kind of depressed and bitter and resentful over having been single that long. Feels he didn't grow up having a normal youth because of being single that long. Causes him to envy and feel resentment and feel bitter when he sees couples out there younger than him. He has the mindset that he feels if he had been born a woman at least an average plain-looking woman, then there is a guarantee he would not have been alone or single that long. Since women are always guaranteed attention or dating options because for all time women have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention. A lot of guys hate and resent how nature and reality dictates that men have to make the first move all the time and be the initiators and do the pursuing but unfortunately there's no other way. Yet people think men still have the better end of the stick in the dating world than women do, especially when men are far more likely than women are to be single that long, be alone or single longer, or to have a lonely journey, yes men and women each have different difficulties or different issues to deal with but being alone or single later than normal is normally never an issue or never a problem for women. He says he feels angry and mad whenever people and Society say that he should feel grateful that he has a girlfriend now and that he has no right to feel angry and bitter that he was single and alone that long. Or why get angry and upset about what didn't happen in the past. Well he has a right to feel how he wants to feel. Probably because women are just a guaranteed options and attentions for just existing and breathing or having a pulse but it's not true if you're a guy or a human male. Men have to learn all of these skills or behaviors or know how to talk and behave a certain way or act a certain way, women however since they play a passive role that doesn't require any learning or I just don't see how it requires any learning. But yeah I get very angry whenever people think men have it better than women do in dating

Merci!

@CoachMelannie

9 ай бұрын

You're very welcome! Thank you for your support!

Unless you look like a young Brad Pitt or Leo DiCaprio, she's being friendly.

Thank goodness “all woman hate me” It’s so easy to not be confused all the time. 60 years old now, never been in love. I’m 6’3” and muscular, great job, successful. I have tried everything. No kids, no girlfriends, no nothing. I just don’t understand!

@paultaylor8396

9 ай бұрын

lol, Look at Alaska men’s magazine 2020 cover. Looking for someone, but even that got me nothing. Yes it was the year of Covid and they didn’t advertise but I got a big goose egg Read the article and see the picture. I just don’t understand

I went to your masterclass video and it says "Because of its privacy settings, this video cannot be played here".

Stay single fellas, you will have much more peace in your life.

Hello ,just came across your video by chance, stopped and watched 😊, big like, wishing you a lovely day. Cheers from SWEDEN. P.S.Subbed2 ❤🎉

Boo to you too! 😃

Each girl has a different personality true literally. I know an ESFJ and INTP they are different

I believe that this woman who pursued me many years ago is trying again. In the beginning, she would run up to me in church (I would visit her church for another reason), throw her arms around me, and kiss me on the cheek. She did this on four consecutive weeks, and what did I do? Absolutely nothing. I have this blank expression (trait of epilepsy) but would kick myself each time it would happen later in that day. Now, many years later (around seven or so), I believe she is trying again but without throwing herself at me (I'm picking up on the body language you train on Melannie!) I thought of something to get her to smile and to hopefully get me to laugh along with me as I think that shis playful kinda scene would do. I have been trying to make myself more appealing and presentable for church each Sunday. So I thought of dressing up like James Bond with a tuxedo, bow tie etc and box of milk tray (uk tv add / 007 type) playing the catchy theme tune and presentinting her with the box of chocolates and a red rose. The climax to the add "all because the lady loves milk try." And hopefully in a playful funny way I win her over.???

Beautiful Voice

Boo. Nice hat, Melannie!

Doesn't matter because i can't stand any of them. I literally detest them now.

Im 44 years old and have literally NEVER have never seen a woman do any of these things except for maintaining eye contact which i dont deem flirty but normal behaviour. WOMEN ONLY FLIRT WITH THE TOP 10% OF MEN