Is Self Love and Self Acceptance Really Possible?

IS SELF LOVE AND SELF ACCEPTANCE REALLY POSSIBLE?
One in four people report not liking who they are. Self hatred and lack of self worth often go hand in hand. Maybe you can see that your low self worth is a problem, maybe not, but I'm sure you'd heard people banging on about self acceptance and self love being key to finding happiness and inner peace. I have been practicing self acceptance for a few years (and it is a practice). In this video I'll explain why I'm not a fan of the phrase 'self love', what leads to a perpetual state of low self worth and how ego and comparison work hard against our efforts to like ourselves. I also share with you a profound shift I had in 2022, that transformed the way I feel about myself.
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  • @sarahknott6184
    @sarahknott6184 Жыл бұрын

    Your genuineness shines ❤

  • @ryarya3291
    @ryarya3291 Жыл бұрын

    Hi, I am a 62yo woman with a complicated relation with self acceptance and I listen to many youtubers and I feel like telling you that I have a "gut feeling" that you are a very loveable person

  • @minjja
    @minjja5 ай бұрын

    I've just had a lifechanging moment of releasing shame of being introverted which I've had since childhood. After reflecting on myself I've realised that I was all or nothing thinker here and felt such a sense of unworthiness. Now I can see that life is about balance and that introverts are worthy and important to balance extroverted energy like Yin and yang. I feel like a brand new person and now I am laughting to myself too.

  • @JosephineValicenti
    @JosephineValicenti10 ай бұрын

    I love your work. I can’t listen enough to you. Thrilled to have come across you

  • @conniethornbury9464
    @conniethornbury9464Ай бұрын

    This is one of the most enlightening videos on self-love that I've ever heard. What a beautiful and earnest way to look at things. Thank you!

  • @cristin794
    @cristin794 Жыл бұрын

    I feel so cared for by this video. I don’t think you should undervalue “just” telling what happened to you and hoping it opens something in us. Isn’t that how “transmission” works in many sacred teachings? I’m going to think about what you said and just let it be. It feels too big to “do” anything about. Thank you. ❤

  • @sile8389
    @sile83899 ай бұрын

    For me what helped me was a free meditation app insight timer and doing daily self love and gratitude meditations. I know give myself love and compassion and instead of negative self talk I tell myself it’s okay. For years i never wore short sleeve dresses or spaghetti straps and I told myself why not. I know wear gorgeous dresses and I compliment myself in addition to getting compliments from others. I fully love myself these days.

  • @Tia-vj9ox
    @Tia-vj9ox Жыл бұрын

    Speaking your truths are huge gifts to all of us! Thank you so much!

  • @nancymik6508
    @nancymik650823 күн бұрын

    I feel like your are a sweet friend with an adorable accent ❤❤

  • @moustik31
    @moustik31 Жыл бұрын

    I thank you for creating this non-fatphobic space for binge eaters. You prioritise how we feel over how we look and this gives me a deep feeling of relief, like I'm shedding some pychological weight, that usually drags me down. Your words are impactful.

  • @anxiouscaterpillar
    @anxiouscaterpillar Жыл бұрын

    Really grateful for this

  • @charlareidbodyandsoul
    @charlareidbodyandsoul Жыл бұрын

    Hee hee hee... I was completely confused the first time I heard "Self Love", but no ick - just curious. Another wonderful video!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @IsaoSoichiro
    @IsaoSoichiro Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing ❤️

  • @wackyzacky42
    @wackyzacky42 Жыл бұрын

    This video was exactly what I needed right now, at my stage of the journey. It's opened up a whole new range of ideas to explore; I have a lot to unpack. Thank you so much for this!

  • @ellenmargrethelarsen80
    @ellenmargrethelarsen80 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for teling your story, yuu helped me❤🎉

  • @coquetscache
    @coquetscache6 ай бұрын

    Thanks!

  • @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you! Only seeing this now for some reason. Very kind of you ❤️❤️

  • @Ivyharlet
    @Ivyharlet Жыл бұрын

    🤯 Wow! Thank you so much. I'm tearing up over here after watching this. Shame/hating oneself vs giving yourself credit and understanding... also top down vs bottom up. It really makes sense. Hoping that I'll get there someday ❤❤❤

  • @jenniferballswitchhouse37
    @jenniferballswitchhouse37 Жыл бұрын

    Whoa! 😳 This hit some major truth spots. Always appreciate your insight from your own experiences. 😃

  • @leannewaters6907
    @leannewaters6907 Жыл бұрын

    Bless your caring heart Sarah for sharing this with us. Can only ever but share you lived experiences with us. But wow how you explain them to us. And the caring you show to help us experience the same . No words can express how thankful I am to you for your content. Really got something from this one today 💗

  • @lorriredmon8212
    @lorriredmon8212 Жыл бұрын

    I'm gob smacked by this video today! Just going to let this simmer inside and let it land. I feel your earnestness. For me, you sharing your experiences is the only way. No "perfect" words are necessary, just your truth. I know my bottom-up realization on self and all around self acceptance will come. I trust it because so much of what you've already taught me has come to be for me too. Thank you!

  • @julesyoung6571
    @julesyoung6571 Жыл бұрын

    Thanks Sarah, this one hit right to my being and aligns completely with where I have been trying to get to. So grateful for you making this.

  • @tigerhen7346
    @tigerhen7346 Жыл бұрын

    Here in Norway the term for shaming someone was: "she thinks that she is something". The gold standard being to think that you're nothing, i guess. Thank you for a relateable video. I am working on the bottom up part right now and feel that something is about to shift

  • @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    Жыл бұрын

    Wow! An insult to be ‘something’?! Maybe the Scandinavians are even more self deprecating than the Brits! 😯

  • @panchita0476
    @panchita0476 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities and uncertainties, it helps tremendously to see somebody go through hard times but finding the peace 🥰 Happy new year (better late than never) and wishing you the best in your life overall!

  • @coquetscache
    @coquetscache6 ай бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    6 ай бұрын

    Thank you! That’s very kind of you ❤️❤️❤️

  • @coquetscache

    @coquetscache

    5 ай бұрын

    You aren't wrong, it reappeared but the sentiment is the same.@@TheBingeEatingTherapist

  • @Andy-fy2kz
    @Andy-fy2kz Жыл бұрын

    Wow! Amazing video! I don't know if I am right about this but I feel you reach your freedom from expectations, Sarah! 😊 Amazing! Loving what you said about taking credits about the good things we do. Thank you for this video.

  • @cristinabock1310
    @cristinabock1310 Жыл бұрын

    Are we the same person bc same. When things go well I thank God! When they don’t I can totally be down on myself. Thanks for sharing, I never thought of it like that.

  • @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    Жыл бұрын

    Good to meet someone who relates. I hadn’t even noticed I was doing it before!

  • @alexlavatai845
    @alexlavatai845 Жыл бұрын

    Sarah thank you so much. You are my new spiritual teacher (I also love Byron Katie, Tara Brach, and Tolle). Can you make more videos like this, on spiritual content?

  • @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    Жыл бұрын

    I try to find a balance. I talk through that lens when I feel intuitively led to do so. Some people feel very alienated by the spiritual talk and I am reluctant to take on a role of spiritual teacher (although I’m very glad my content resonates at the spirit level). I hope this makes sense ❤️❤️

  • @hayleyprior5666
    @hayleyprior5666 Жыл бұрын

    I could not relate to this video more, I’ve been binge free for a while until this week when overwhelming feelings of shame and not feeling good enough or worthy felt too much. I’m coming to your workshop in January and I know this acceptance needs to come from within but I wondered if there were any books etc by Eckart or the other person who you’d recommend just for now? Thank you for this video and to the person who requested it ❤✨xx

  • @echoiswatching
    @echoiswatching Жыл бұрын

    sorry, i couldn't listen bc of my thoughts. let me replay it again thnx

  • @LiveLaughLoveMirna
    @LiveLaughLoveMirna Жыл бұрын

    My husband is 30 yrs old and became morbid obese within 4 years. He went from an athlete to obesity by binge eating. What’s hurting him the most now is sleep apnea. He is scared to sleep. Do you have any suggestions on this specific subject?

  • @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    @TheBingeEatingTherapist

    Жыл бұрын

    Hi Mirna, I can't comment on the sleep apnea as that is a medical issue and outside of my professional scope. Do you know what the cause of your husband's binge eating is? My approach is about looking at the root causes first and stabilising eating. Focusing on weight loss causes more binge eating for many people.