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@feisalmohammad

4 ай бұрын

Who's this Lady? @ ?

As someone who worked in these types of places for years…yes it is cheating

@brianarc2

13 күн бұрын

Thank you for your field research!

@jasenblum9752

4 күн бұрын

Thank you for your cervix

@Lawdylawdy651

3 күн бұрын

So why do you choose to be an accomplice in cheating… have some dignity and leave it to those who feel it not cheating to simply get a lap dance. I personally wouldn’t but think it’s fine and wouldn’t mind if my wife got a lap dance

Omg I like m in the city !! I’m so happy to see she got this opportunity

I think she's French, she did mention working in Cannes which is conducive to this

It's like asking a bar tender if Alcohol is bad...

@1080pAdrenalinGaming

4 ай бұрын

agree

@magicalgibus3006

4 ай бұрын

Bro did not watch the video

@babalonkie

4 ай бұрын

@@magicalgibus3006 I did... but the point remains and "Bro" did not understand the multiple meanings... which means... you should not be allowed on the internet.

@magicalgibus3006

4 ай бұрын

@@babalonkie then you would've realised that she views it as cheating. Nice try lil bro

@Baalaaxa

3 ай бұрын

Any proper and honest bartender would know and admit that yes, alcohol is unhealthy and bad for you, especially when enjoyed in excessive quantities. But we all got vices, and functioning adults can still choose to dabble and enjoy those things for entertainment, even with the risks, and not have them negatively affecting their lives too much. Most things in life are not black and white, but instead add some color and flavor to our otherwise dull and dreary existence. Never did a little drink here and a little dance there hurt anyone.

Such a beautiful and informative video

Loved her personality! Great interview, people are always gonna have negative things to say about women who do this work, but fuck that! She's dope (:

@UmmEss

4 ай бұрын

You'd be happy to have your daughter get her bits out for 💰 would you?

I love the pure honesty girl 😂 you look so good! What’s your make up routine? ❤

We used to visit a Deja Vu location after late nights at work (prob back in the mid-late 2000s), and I was a smoker at the time. We had a lot of fun just blowing off steam and hanging out together, and our female coworkers would join us quite a bit. They enjoyed the camaraderie as much as we did. We went so often that the dancers would just hang out with us on the smokers patio from time to time. It was really fun to just talk and chill with them, and the dancers weren't just doing that so we'd spend money because we were pretty broke 😂

@jlongino51823

18 күн бұрын

I used to go with my guy friends just for the sit down time just hanging out because they were friends with a few of the ladies and bartenders. The cover was free. The drinks were free. It was never about anything sexual. I had a blast. No problem with drama or competition there! Loved the times we had together there.

She’s evidently got a lot of self confidence, she’s earning her own money, not bumming off the benefits, I say good for her. A lot of naff comments on here. I wish her well and this was a great interview, ❤

@YesItsMeDes

4 ай бұрын

agree with all of that

@iainmurphy7244

4 ай бұрын

Same here

'we are just dancers' - yet a minute ago she was describing her 'weird clients' who got her to do things that were definitely not dancing and were actually pretty much sexual fantasies xD yeah ... I don't think strippers being sex workers is a misconception by and large Great interview though :)

@samv2023

4 ай бұрын

@@Citizen876ix eh - I thought that part was understandable. If day in and day out the only men you met were the sort that went to see strippers, I think most people would have a negative skewed view of men. I think that's basically all she meant by it, and that she recognised it was a bias.

@samv2023

2 ай бұрын

Agreed

She’s so pretty ❤

I say that cheating is doing anything your partner wouldn't understand.

@tlanimasstool

4 ай бұрын

So calculus ?

@OKBoomer2k

4 ай бұрын

@@tlanimasstool that made me laugh so loud!!

@Sr19769p

4 ай бұрын

I changed the brake pads on my wife's car the other day while listening to Transformer by Lou Reed - got to stop cheating on her like that 😂. 👍

@OKBoomer2k

4 ай бұрын

@@Sr19769p you guys are killing me with laughter!!

@OKBoomer2k

4 ай бұрын

@@Sr19769p you guys are cracking me up!

She’s addicted to probably the worst thing - easy money. That and a whole mass of psychological issues that were not dug up. I wish the best for her but that’s one scary labyrinth she’s getting into

She said going to the strip club is considered cheating because there's a connection. But if she works there, technically she's building connections with the clients too. Is she cheating?

@johnybrokeit

2 ай бұрын

Good one! 😂

@notjustanotherbrickinthewall

Ай бұрын

I was thinking the same thing.

@enjoystraveling

10 сағат бұрын

I don’t think she’s working there anymore, I believe she said she was working there while she was studying for a different job

"Don't like men" Then tells us she dates a ex client lol 😂😂

@kirstyackah9853

4 ай бұрын

I dont like men but unfortunately attracted to them 😅

Expecting morality in a strip club is a bit like expecting water in a desert!!!

12:12 "is there anyone out there that has got any morals, that is not going to cheat or to flirt?" Ummm.... yes, yes there are. They just don't hang around in STRIP CLUBS.

8:30 thank you, "most strippers" (who talked about this in videos etc) deny it entirely although it's different for everyone but overall i think most would consider it cheating and that's why it wouldn't be an option to go to a strip club while in the relationship. and for me tho the problem (she said it isn't the first problem for her) is that the significant other looks at naked or half naked bodies.. like.. why do you need to make yourself horny or admire a strangers body when you got someone you hopefully love and admire at home? i just don't get it and never will. if you're single and even as a single woman, sure, go have fun but like.. in a relationship?? and if it's not communicated at all? although i really think it's weird to do it even tho you have a "happy relationship" bc it doesn't and never will match with my morals and expectations in a relationship. idk, maybe you guys see it differently or the same. let me know, i think it's a very interesting topic.

@lb9029

4 ай бұрын

Well that's all under the assumption that humans are monogamous animals, which I think, given the amount of people who cheat or are in poly relationships, we have enough evidence to say that that's not true. Another assumption here would be that love has a one on one relation to sex, which is also not something I believe in. It's very natural for people to have sexual fantasies that are not about their partner. In fact, if that were not the case, I'd probably find that a bit weird or even creepy. As for communicating this sort of thing: yes, it's obviously better to communicate these things clearly. And if you can't, you should work on that. But if you're unable to communicate (lots of people aren't great at it), and the net outcome of secretly going to a strip club once in a while is that you don't physically or mentally abuse your partner, that's probably a less destructive way, I'd argue. Of course, that's also a sign that you've got important issues you need to work on. It's just that there are a lot of people with issues, and a large percentage of them will never resolve them.

@crystaldenee765

2 ай бұрын

Why??? Because men like and NEED variety

@ELLImellicaramelli

2 ай бұрын

@@crystaldenee765 well my man doesn't and the majority is monogamous. but like i said, it's my opinion and my expectations and beliefs. i don't care what you do in your relationship. but people who think like this need to understand or tolerate that it's not normal aka a standard in relationships and don't need to be surprised when others don't find it normal.

800 AN HOUR. what is this world bruv

"We're just dancers", then why are you thinking going to strip club is cheating? Is watching dance changing? I think you have to accept striping is sex work, which is fine, no shame in that.

"I dont know why they dont go to a dominatrix" well, because you agree to do it too, but cheaper? 😅

If he wants to be called Daddy he is not submissive...

In the u, s, prostitution is illegal in most states. So a lot of people go to strip clubs and try and get extra.

❤

Cool interview. She seems fun and mostly quite sensible and smart, but her take on double standards on men and women doesn't quite make sense. There is a big difference in being a sex worker and a client of said services. It's like comparing a porn star to a porn consumer, totally different background and line of work. I'm sure male sex workers also get treated differently than average women.

Where’s the soap

Get your money!

“don’t have to be very attractive spends a lot of money on me” typical lol sorry

My husband got a lap dance on a guys trip, while I stayed home with our 4 month old. Its cheating. I didn’t think he would betray me like that. It changed the way I see him. I’ll never trust him the same as I did before.

@Baalaaxa

3 ай бұрын

Would you say seeing a burlesque show would be cheating? How about a twerk dance? An erotic movie? Any kind of suggestive content? I wouldn't count getting a lap dance as cheating, unless there was a massage, etc. included. Or some kind of relationship with the dancer. But I agree it would definitely be disrespectful towards you for breaking your trust and the boundaries of your relationship, at least if he knew your opinion about it, and if you had an agreement about such things beforehand. Those things need to be communicated about, because different people have differing views about morality. But trust is indeed a very difficult thing to mend, once it has been broken. Maybe you need to evaluate what kind of a man you've chosen to be your husband.

@stephmeisterm8

3 ай бұрын

​@@Baalaaxa then I guess you would be fine with your girlfriend gettinh a whole magic mike show just for herself

@crystaldenee765

2 ай бұрын

That’s so ignorant…. If your husband is taking care of his family and providing you need to count yourself blessed. It’s silly to even worry about something like that at all

@AuraKumo104

2 ай бұрын

​@@BaalaaxaAllowing another naked person to touch you is cheating period. Just because it's payed for doesn't make it ok. Getting a stripper to give you a naked lap dance is no different than meeting somebody on the street and taking them to a room for them to do the exact same thing. By your logic it's not cheating if a married person hires a prostitute because it's a 'service'. Payment or not it's still unfaithful.

@AuraKumo104

2 ай бұрын

​@@crystaldenee765so if a guy 'provides' for his wife he should be allowed to cheat on her? What kind of backwards logic is that? Literally the entire point of a marriage is you're supposed to be committed and not do sexual things with other people.

€800 p/h 😱..... I'm in the wrong game!!

7:52 Why the tounge out, Was that a lie?

She has some strange takes. Fair enough, married men, men with partners and so on should not go to strip clubs IMO…but does she still take money from those men?

Business woman 😅😅😂😂😂

I'm surprised she would be in a relationship with a client because now she's in a relationship with a guy who goes to strip clubs, which she said is cheating. Doesn't surprise me she has a hard time trusting people.

Romanian who grew up in France?

"spends a lot of money on me; doesn't have to be very attractive." usual, apologies

@sayunara

2 ай бұрын

what about it lol. it makes you feel wanted and taken care of

Ngl some of this feels like kink shaming and it's a bit rubbish to expose people's experiences ...

contradicts herself constantly, not a bad interview though.

shes very wrong on a lot of things lol, it absolutely is sex work, you are collecting money from people by dancing sexually. theres a reason its 18+, its absolutely easy money as well. you are dancing for a living and you said yourself you can sometimes earn £2000 in a single night. its absolutely easy money (which funnily enough sex work always is). you get paid very highly for dancing and looking sexy. (and she also said its easy for her to be on a stage naked) lots of contradictions going on here.

"If you're in a relationship you should not go to a strip club." OK, only dance/strip for single men and see if you can maintain your earnings. 🤣

meh

She’s crazy

There is nothing inherently wrong with stripping or sex work. The only problem is the stigma created by people's perception(which has its roots in religion). Our genitals are just another part of the body. Why can't we work with them just as we do with other body parts? All jobs are about selling your body after all, it's just a question of which part. 🤷‍♂️

This is the most self conterdictive video I've ever seen.

stripping bad, hope this helps.

An hour for 200? Where is this again?

wtf

I’ve never met a stripper that was very smart or that didn’t take a lot of drugs .

@iainmurphy7244

4 ай бұрын

To best of my knowledge, I’ve never met one at all. But I think it’s a fairly sure bet this interviewee is both very intelligent, well spoken and not under the influence of any drugs.

I have come to the conclusion that she's British.

@treavorwhitlock5606

4 ай бұрын

Dutch or I'm a laotia

@treavorwhitlock5606

4 ай бұрын

Dutch or I'm a laotia

@treavorwhitlock5606

4 ай бұрын

Dutch or I'm a laotia

@thandie67

4 ай бұрын

how did you come to that conclusion??? 😂😂😂

@donna6407

4 ай бұрын

Lol she’s french

Share this video with all the conservationists. She can being about change in people in a very positive way and i am not talking about how beautiful she is. Also very educative.

She needs help

Booooo 🫳💨🍅

The answer to the question about whether it is cheating for a man to travel to a club that exists solely to entice predominantly males to pay money to watch females (who the men are not married to) strip naked for their sexual pleasure.. comes down to either 1) each person's subjective opinion without God, or 2) some absolute moral standard given by the moral authority that created everything and defines what is right and wrong, i.e., God. If we go based on the standard that Jesus described in Matthew 5:28, then it would be "cheating" in God's sight if someone were to oogle at the naked body of a woman that is not his wife. Just because an urge exists does not mean that it is morally right (in God's sight) to act upon it.

@kaps121

4 ай бұрын

What a load of nonsense

@thesheeepjd

4 ай бұрын

" the standard that Jesus described in Matthew 5:28" That it is not a standard. It's just some words someone wrote into a book. You can agree or disagree with them, but a standard they are not.

@kaps121

4 ай бұрын

@@thesheeepjdI agree, people write lots of things in books - doesn’t make it correct

@Spratdragon

4 ай бұрын

I'm not basing my life around a book that's 1000s of years old. It's been updated before and needs it again.

Kinda sounds south african

@stellak.6095

4 ай бұрын

Nah, definitely French

@LS-fe4ob

3 ай бұрын

I copped that too

@grumpym0nk61

3 ай бұрын

we don't sound this bad

Amazing place😍😍😍😍

😂😂😂😂