ALWAYS RENT RENT RENT, NEVER BUY IN THE WOMANS NAME NEVER NEVER. ONLY RENT……

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

Rent is by far the better way. I need to make a video just on that.

@rickgalla3377

5 ай бұрын

Yes always rent , never build in thailand, never never

I like this big outdoor room. Good space to practice guitar, even when it's raining.

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

Yes. I hope to have something 1/4 or 1/2 this size. Would be lovely to watch the rain or enjoy a breeze

Robb why are you so concerned about trying to show the locals that Fawn isn’t a sex worker? She’s clearly not and they all most certainly know that. And honestly why would you even care what others think? This seems to be a real thing with a lot of guys over here. I can’t say this ever entered my mind with my wife. I guess I was pretty ignorant of all that stuff when I first visited here and have never had any involvement with that world. I get that a lot of guys here are involved with hookers as they are in many places in the world, but those are low quality expats who generally are pretty easy to pick out here. You aren’t one of those guys. Why would that be a default thought about your non hooker girlfriend? I ask this in earnest because I am absolutely fascinated with the psychology of this whole thing over here and why guys just seem to default to this kind of thinking here but never would in their own country. Even if the guy is older and married to a younger woman in the U.S., the default thinking wouldn’t be that she’s a hooker. A gold digger maybe. I get that. But a prostitute? What’s with that? The number of prostitutes even in this country is a fraction of a percent of the women here. Strong will I see as a hallmark of Thai women. My wife has a will of iron! The gossip thing is funny. My wife’s grandmother came and visited us last weekend for the first time. She saw the homes we own here and was immediately on her phone to her friends back home bragging and gossiping. My wife told her to knock it off! 😂 The old women here are something with the gossip! No upside in getting upset here. Always best to keep your cool with your lady. They can be a challenge at times no doubt. But you got to rise above that and just understand where they are coming from. Also as far as the whole saving face thing, which no Thai calls it that as you point out, I’d say nobody wants to be embarrassed in public no matter what country you are from. It’s all a matter of degree. Beware the tears. It can certainly be a manipulative thing. Experience talking here. These girls have it down to an art form! 😂

@smileoften-ft3hq

5 ай бұрын

It takes a lot of internal choice, effort and time to change the way one views the world and how one presents himself. Most will not make the effort to expand their mind.

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

@smileoften-ft3hq - I have found this to be overwhelmingly true. So many choose the path of lowest resistance.

@consulthai

5 ай бұрын

Bill , the grandmother is proud that the grand daughter has a good husband and good provider. This is natural, back home grandmother's act the same ,if it's gossip it's not malicious . People talk and Thai people talk about more mundane things than we do. You call it boasting , I call it kudos . It's pedantic and splitting words . Families are most interested in the welfare of immediate family . Some of us may worry about demands and that should be dealt with early in the relationship. Parameters which you set,not them . Other than that while there is understanding I say talk to your heart's content,no skin off my teeth!

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

Interesting timing on you mentioning the tears…..😐 555

@smileoften-ft3hq

5 ай бұрын

@@consulthai Your comment .... " Some of us may worry about demands and that should be dealt with early in the relationship. Parameters which you set,not them " ... is of value. I have noticed what almost seems like a need for many a foreign man to over analyse Thai actions and missing what could be considered normal action of the environment. If I would have any regret it would be not realizing more how much I do control the Thai relationship, how much more I must respect the fact that for many Thai these are people in a self sustaining mode with no financial retirement hope, thus results in some of their action towards a foreign man that gives them hope of future security. My choice is I focus a lot on empathy for the Thai.

My God. 700 ft2 is 65 m2. That's a medium sized condo. For the cost, just double it and have some room for you. I know you are looking to be compact but you would have a tough time to expand it when you realize it's not big enough.

@consulthai

5 ай бұрын

I agree that 65sq.m for a house is ridiculous. Especially when you fence a large block in a grandiose way ,the house will look kinda like a hut. Is that good for face,don't think so. Is that good for two people,like I imagine the kids won't move in,which maybe the reason for the size This is to be presented as a home over 3 years. How about when Robb is 63 and wants more comforts, another 3 years? So for another 3 years he'll be coinhabiting with low rent tenants. IMO this is gonna be 3 years of stress which will impact his pain levels . The story about the other guy he related is not common with him. Fawn's husband isn't lurking around and he is accepted by Khun Pa and wife as defacto husband . I'm afraid that Robb's gonna be subjected to resentments gossip or no gossip. Fact is that he chose this environment to live with Fawn. So then you got to understand how the society works there and try to blend in to a certain extent. A 3 year project for a 65 sq.m home is too long by any standards,especially when the father in law gets all stuff at local prices. Fawn will have to be defensive about this causing her more upset he already witnessed. It's a bad scenario from my perspective.

Slow or fast, Safety first. Always always always have money, home , car,etc in home country to repatriate and continue living without working. As you get old it’s very difficult to restart , difficult to get work, etc. anything leftover can be spent carefully, slowly on a trailer home you can tow away.(you keep your land, I keep my home and find a new lady ). Been there ,done that .i also thought my lady was different (3 times 😂). I wish you well.

@ratreer1523

5 ай бұрын

Ditto 😊

I think you're doing excellent Robb, having watched a good few videos I've really come to respect and like you sir. God bless from the UK

@resetwithrobb

4 ай бұрын

Thanks that’s really kind of you to say that.

Great show Robb! Stay cool 😎 kind and generous! It's 50 out in Bad Axe today!

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

I assume you have your sun lotion on then- 555. Back in the day I would have. Sometimes I maybe miss Port Austin a little bit. Maybe that partly why I like living in a small city here. Definitely some of that vibe

I'm very curious to know what a "map" of the gossip looks like. How or where or by whom does it start with and how does it end up to your or your wife's ears. Is it typically from the same source(s) depending on the issue/ drama? etc. I'd like to know and perhaps see a video on that. and perhaps how to navigate it. I've been to Thailand and will return and your insights are priceless and confirms much of what I know.

Always rent if it goes wrong you can walk away. Problem with most flang when they stop being the ATM the lady will go and find someone which will. Then the flang crys he's been scammed, but he gave her and family his money .

Man those villagers are going to drive you crazy eventually. If you really must build at that location then consider making an underground bunker where you can escape. Extra high walls could be smart too. Good luck, you're going to need it.

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

Yes, you are right - 555 Kuhn dusted done an excellent job finding a local steel shop to make all the steel for the wall, I will definitely talk about that in the future but he asked for some direction and I just said it needs to be tall and scary, looking and sharp at the top so people really don’t wanna climb over it. Everybody not an agreement understood what I was saying. Not one person pushed back and then that group was fine the vendor himself and both her mother and father, her mother and father.

Informative and insightful. Renting seems to be the best choice, validation that she really just wants to be with you. Then you can freely spend with her and create memories not material. No Reward for her to end the relationship. This way you are not worried about getting burned like that other dude. The part about the real husband across the street, watching his wife build a house with a foreigner, knowing the whole time they would both together take it from him. That is something I never even considered, loveless, ruthless, and heartless. Thanks for telling us this experience by that man, Robb. That can put a guy six feet under and they don't care. No worse than western women marrying with the premeditated idea that they will let the marriage ripen into a handsome divorce settlement even with kids. The whole idea of moving to Thailand comes with a whole set of potential risks, life is complicated, emotional minefield. Keeping my guard up but lonely as can be in the process because I have trust issues with everyone at 63 it seems.

Hi Robb, as a man, if you lose the ability to say no, they will bleed you dry until you are broke, & after that you get kicked out. Never spend anything in Thailand that isn't disposable income. Your assets are there to protect your future, not to be spent. Farangs don't make money in Thailand. We are only allowed in while we contribute ! Great video mate, Regards Tony

Love you Rob , sounds like i would be running , not building and buying

Good on you man! Gumdee for you! It's only money, and if you're happy about it, there's no need to justify. Feel good about it. These are folks you care about. It's a better spend that doesn't result in hangovers and a need for a new liver. I think you're a good person, trying to do good things. Good on you man!

Maybe I'm wrong but watching you looks like someone highly strung. You got competing thoughts in your mind. Remember how many times you stated what an excellent carer Fawn is and how helpful that is in your condition. Think about that house being built for your comfort to improve on your current abode . It may be on her land but you'll also live in it and as long comittment is both ways why let negative thoughts effect you? There are lots of bad stories out for all to see and lots of good stories by the silent majority . I think you got a good lady who deserves consideration. I think she already proved herself. You can drag out construction, drag out because you want to test her longer or lack of money or lack of commitment in your part? I bet the drag over years will cause tremendous friction arguments and irritation. You maybe half finished with the house but the relationship fully finished. Then you're older and back to square one. Make this one work !

@charliestoybox2099

5 ай бұрын

Totally agreed. Meeting Fawn and Rob for the first time she strikes me as a good woman. Definitely a good one for Rob.

🤔 what can I say I’ve built a wall around parents property I’ve built a shop - beauty salon / mini mart These I look at as good investments as a show of my commitment also it did not break the bank I’m very confident about my situation Next week it’s a lawyer meeting in udon for prenup 2 years in and honestly it’s probably the best relationship I’ve ever had with a woman Sinsod I’ve been told it’s not required I’ll probably just save face by giving something Judge your own situation

@smileoften-ft3hq

5 ай бұрын

I admire your discipline, immersion and confidence. Regarding relationship, I fully agree with the fact you go full in, they go full in with total commitment. Of course choosing a proper partner has minimum of a novelette to write here, however I believe you understand this. Interesting is you are going to Udhon, I see Udhon in my future and will be looking for good Udhon lawyer to do the same.

@singas2854

5 ай бұрын

@@smileoften-ft3hqchoosing the right partner is key for both parties Waiting and testing is also key from my perspective I think 2 years now any games from either side would have been obvious I can also be a little risky I am well away from retirement age so I’m not using precious funds so to speak thankfully my job allows me to visit Thailand multiple times a month life is good and getting better 🌹

Hate hearing stories of guys getting scammed.But love is blind.Every falang I've met says "it's different ".Been here with same girl since 2003 If was to ask her what she likes best about me it would be ATM card.But I'm no fool when she says how much do I love her I say I say same as you love me.But honest it's different 😂

if i had property in my name and we had kids together and she didnt want to be woth me anymore i would give her the house anyway for the kids sake, theres a good chance that way ide still be able to stay in touch with kids and remain amicable through my reasonability, of course not everyone can afford such a loss which is completely understandable.

Thumbs up 👍 Robb

HELLO, Rob. I've watched many of your videos, mate, and it's great what you are doing for all the people who watch your videos . I've been living in Thailand on and off 27 years now, and you share great on point stuff and a well-spoken gentleman:)

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

That’s really nice of you to reach out. Thanks.

@stefanofazio9089

5 ай бұрын

You're very welcome, Rob. I've experienced many things and many situations and I love how true you are and how you reach out to your followers and future followers:)

Hey Robb. I like watching your content. I just realised you’re in the Korat area?? By chance I’m here for a few days. If you have time for a quick hello would be nice. No stress if it doesn’t work for you. Cheers Trev (Melbourne)

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

Hey man I’m around. Just had dinner at Mayfair Park last night. Will be at the gym tomorrow (Friday and then coffee after). Email me. Resetwithrobb@gmail.com

Thanks Rob. Do you know if exists there's a sweet spot between the chaos, noise and congestion of the cities and the "everyone knowing your business" + nasty gossiping of these villages?

@HairyPixels

5 ай бұрын

In any city just rent a house in some housing development. You can also build in a remote area which you have no ties to.

@AlexofCharmCity

5 ай бұрын

That's the reason I like the suburbs in Chonburi and rayong close enough to the sea. But everyone is from somewhere else, even most of the Thais. People are friendly without being invasive.

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

@AlexofCharmCity -that does sound nice.

@svenw.6918

5 ай бұрын

@@AlexofCharmCity Yes, many nice "ready to move in" houses there for 2.5-4 Million Baht in gated community's where most people are on the "same" level. Village life would never work for me. Too much bullshit going on.

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

The city of Jo Ho near Korat comes to mind.

Interesting Robb. Cannot disagree but perhaps after 20 years here my perspective is a little different.

Even at home you have to know your limits which you do… keeping up with the joneses😊

Yes........

Every woman I have met in interest of a relationship will over time divulge their financial situation, at the same time not ask for any help, also they spend their money on you to the best of their capacity which can be a little embarassing as they do not have much. Any woman that asks for help directly, wants or demands a home built, you do any sort of finance, etc I would suggest 99% of the time is walk away. I lived on an estate and was not asked to pay for anything, I did pay electric and water, etc all through my choice. Funny on the shoes, surprised her saying I would buy shoes and looking at poor quality soles for 1,000 found some Addidas for 4,500 on half price ( her other daily shoes must have been 5 years old ) . I think she wants to admire them for another week before wearing them :)

It takes a long time for them to start to see that most of the villager BS is just a burden and they are crabs. But when it clicks its like a light bulb coming on. I've watched it happen and swing from the tears to "who cares what anybody thinks!" They don't grow up learning the old sticks and stones . . mantra. I think that is because the passive aggressive bullying, insults and gossip is part of the way of reinforcement of position in the Thai class and respect order. As you know you can't directly insult a person who appears to be above you in the order, so you must gossip them. And the person perceived to be above them can't call them out on it publicly because exposing another person's wrong doing or error is worse than the gossiping. When the realize they don't need to be part of that and it's actually a choice to just ignore it. That is when the light bulb goes off and the freely climb out of the bucket.

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

That’s very insightful. I I think you must be correct with all of that. Thank you for sharing. Thank you

I think someone else commented accurately that worldwide people are quite similar. Gossip happens everywhere, and even in an individualistic society like we have in the west---peoples' inner circles are quite smaller, but it's still prevalent. I can only imagine how it magnifies in a collective culture. It is what it is, and I'm glad it doesn't bother you. I'd like to segway that to a different idea though. Rather, something I'm curious about...Now I've looked at the stat's and there is a very small portion of the Thai population that are Christians. I'm wondering if you might know any, and if so- do you notice any paradigm changes that you can attribute to following Christ? When I think about the term Jai-Dee, I'm curious about why/how some Thais make choices that lead to that path while others don't.

@resetwithrobb

3 ай бұрын

Yes. And I would not be an unbiased source on that. My best Thai friend is a Christian and I know a few others. I tend to feel my friend is at least in some part so awesome because of faith but then maybe the worst person i know here claims to be a Christian too. Sort of embarrassed in that persons case.

Looking well for 60.............................

Fawn's inner conflict: I LOVE that handbag. I really want to take it with me. But, I don't want to take it out. I don't want to show off. There it is hanging in the house! I really want to use that handbag! 🤣

Are the returns on those rental increases based on 100% occupancy rate

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

Yes. Which she’s historically had. Some kind of housing shortage here maybe. Not sure. But excellent point regardless

Man, to each his own I guess but I don’t see myself building a home or marrying a single mother of some foreign land. I’ll die alone first……

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

Your sentiment is not entirely lost on me. If I was healthier……

Do not under any circumstances do a General Custer with your hard earned money. You stick to your plan, Robb. I'll admit, I'm at the other end of the planet and rely on sensible Robb. Common sense jumps oceans but mistakes drown. Stick to your guns, Robb. Peace and love, brother.

Birthday plans?

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

I have 2. I’ll be home just a week & a half after my boy’s birthday so we’ll celebrate that. For me- nothing special. Maybe have a dinner at a restaurant with a small group I the states. Here- I’ll take Fawn to 8 Bistro. Thx for asking.

The people saying negative things probably dont have a fraction of what fawn has.

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

No they don’t. Several of them are Giking- which is their business but then maybe they could spend less time looking down on others. I just very recently that from time to time they drive up dressed and with their makeup done to the 9’s and I know there’s nothing at the temple. Then it occurred to me and I asked Fawn. Yup- they were on their way to meet their Gik. Made me laugh. Again that’s okay - just funny for someone who’s so pious.

dont

*Promosm*

Let me guess, your girl's name is not really Fawn...could it be another Thai name that's difficult to pronounce or misconstrue?

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

It’s a hard pronunciation and it’s question tone. So, to an uninitiated foreigner it sounds like a question. This is exactly the case why many Thais have a western nickname in addition to their Thai one. This is a good reason for that at any rate, and not a deceptive one like scammers use.

These guys marrying sexworkers and paying for houses in the name of the woman they got to know not long ago, fascinate me. How have they survived in this world? How have they have avoided to draw the lines between the dots?

@resetwithrobb

3 ай бұрын

It does seem very crazy at times. And you do see many many, very crazy things here, honestly honestly, it’s staggering. In all fairness to those guys, and I was almost one of them, it can get very distracting having a very pretty girl doing everything you’ve ever dreamed about.

@pederricknell3685

3 ай бұрын

@@resetwithrobb I’m in the Philippines now and yesterday I talked with a countryman of yours. Nice guy, but his plans for getting female companionship sounded to me like heading for disaster. I tried to give him a hint, but I think he had already made up his mind.

@resetwithrobb

3 ай бұрын

@pederricknell3685 -yeah, good of you to try. I’ve done that more times than I can count and must guys, especially older guys like me, just don’t want to hear it.

@pederricknell3685

3 ай бұрын

@@resetwithrobb I follow Jordan B Petersons advice “if they don’t listen, stop talking”:)

@resetwithrobb

3 ай бұрын

@pederricknell3685 - so true. Just did that with a neighboring Thai. They didn’t want to hear from me so I fairly abruptly stopped and left and everyone was apparently happy.

Seems like you cant win with the gossip. You either doing too much or too little.

@resetwithrobb

5 ай бұрын

I would say that’s the nature and the purpose behind it. The villagers are never satisfied. They are NOT going to like the fancy stainless steel entryway I’m having built as I write this. Last night I got Fawn laughing about how not happy certain people are going to be -5555.

Why would we invest in what we cannot own? Definition of crazy!