In the Light Podcast LIVE Q&A: The Narcissism Episode

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Dr. Anita and her guest co-host, Danae Wheatley, LCSW-C are joined by Dr. Vanessa Abernathy, a clinical psychologist, relationship abuse survivor, and author of UNbaitable U: Keys to Triumph Over Narcissistic Abuse. They are answering questions about narcissism in relationships, families, and faith communities. This discussion was inspired by S7:E4 of In the Light Podcast - "The Narcissism Episode"
Listen to The Narcissism Episode of In the Light Podcast w/Dr. Anita Phillips at this link - womanevolvedranitaphillips.li...
Get Dr. Abernathy's Book, UNbaitable U:Keys to Triumph Over Narcissistic Abuse at this link- amzn.to/3I1uhIy
Vist Danae A. Wheately at: www.inolllc.com
Visit Dr. Vanessa Abernathy at: / vabernathypsyd
Visit Dr. Anita at: www.anitaphillips.com

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  • @DrAnitaPhillips
    @DrAnitaPhillips2 жыл бұрын

    So sorry for our technical glitch in this live. Dr. Abernathy’s video will eventually start working. Keep listening anyway - the info is worth it! 💡❤️

  • @masingitamabunda9300

    @masingitamabunda9300

    2 жыл бұрын

    Dr Anita your podcast, KZread videos are so helpful thank you so much, masingita from South Africa

  • @rhondadunn7161

    @rhondadunn7161

    2 жыл бұрын

    Good morning 💝 love you sister I appreciate you for the calling that God has placed upon your life this is my second day listening to you and I feel this very close connection in the spirit with you like a sister ,the messages that the Spirit of God is giving you are helping me to grow in the Lord so sister you are planting good seeds and our Heavenly Father and our Lord Jesus Christ is very pleased and I believe you are and is going to hear WELL DONE THOU GOOD AND FAITHFUL SERVANT 💝

  • @yoelbenyisrael9866

    @yoelbenyisrael9866

    2 жыл бұрын

    Shalom Dr. Anita Phillips! How are you, ma'am? I am an audiovisual transcriber with 4+ years experience. I'd love to offer my services to you, and transcribe your KZread videos for you. May you be interested in me doing so?

  • @denisejohnson1130

    @denisejohnson1130

    Жыл бұрын

    Amen

  • @wastedanalogues8991

    @wastedanalogues8991

    5 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much! God absolutely does not want us to be in abuse, and I tried for years to save him. Now I left him after so long of no getting any love, zero validation everything else with abuse, women helped me see the truth and I finally was released.

  • @N-LeeSonSay
    @N-LeeSonSay2 жыл бұрын

    People will weaponize your faith against. Wow!😱 When Dr Abernathy said that I felt it.

  • @Francie315
    @Francie3156 ай бұрын

    I have been out of a very toxic relationship with a narcissist for seven months now. And though the break no divorce from this person caused me some serious financial problems. I am still so grateful to God that he revealed to me who and what I was dealing with! My relationship was with a very close female family member. And I experienced, that what is written in the Bible is so true! Mother against daughter and daughter against mother. The children will offer their parents up for death. The love of one another will grow cold. I experienced it all! So grateful that I made it out alive!

  • @anitamorrison4238
    @anitamorrison42384 ай бұрын

    " ... and they're called BOUNDARIES!"

  • @Lala-ht8ps
    @Lala-ht8ps Жыл бұрын

    I know sister that got beat for more than 20 years but couldn't leave because she was told from the pulpit not to leave. Now ,years Gon by no longer in the marriage, but you can see the pain still on her. Lord have mercy.

  • @RuthDameron
    @RuthDameron2 жыл бұрын

    Bring it Dr. Phillips! Amen on your statement about abusive relationships! That truth needs to be spoken! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💜 I’m a survivor of domestic abuse. He was the assistant Pastor and then I dealt with the shame from the church because of my divorce.

  • @lovefelix1566

    @lovefelix1566

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sorry to hear that

  • @Erupt212007

    @Erupt212007

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@lovefelix1566 I hate to hear that, sending positive vibes your way.

  • @cynthiabeard2016

    @cynthiabeard2016

    Жыл бұрын

    Does it diminish you, your will

  • @cynthiabeard2016

    @cynthiabeard2016

    Жыл бұрын

    🎉

  • @anitamorrison4238
    @anitamorrison42384 ай бұрын

    I have been adking God about narcissism and the Bible. I can't believe I just found this. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

  • @apiffanyfulcher6628
    @apiffanyfulcher66282 жыл бұрын

    This was my awesome!!! I survived a narcissist 22 years praise GOD!!!

  • @apiffanyfulcher6628

    @apiffanyfulcher6628

    2 жыл бұрын

    Sorry, I meant I married 22 years a narcissist and the lord got me out…

  • @tangelajones8029
    @tangelajones80292 жыл бұрын

    I love Dr. Anita Phillips!! Thank you!!

  • @lesliemartinez143
    @lesliemartinez1432 жыл бұрын

    THIS WAS EXCELLENT!! I am SO very proud of my sister for stepping out and sharing this EXTREMELY timely all the time information! Her latest book totally expounds on everything discussed.

  • @cynthiabeard2016
    @cynthiabeard2016 Жыл бұрын

    Recognize the patterns and draw boundaries!

  • @cynthiabeard2016
    @cynthiabeard2016 Жыл бұрын

    Identify your buttons & even remove the buttons, especially those which are flammable.

  • @noah-jamesmarkham1903
    @noah-jamesmarkham1903 Жыл бұрын

    i love your podcast episodes it helps me bring the light out of me and keep god with me and also learn how to break the darkness and break the cycle !!!! i love this stuff keep on doing the podcast you're really helping people out !!!!! thank you Dr.Anita Phillips

  • @rayyjayy274
    @rayyjayy274 Жыл бұрын

    I left narcissistic abuse after 17 years and I am trying to heal all while being a single mom! Both my boys are from this relationship! My oldest son is diagnosed with high functioning autism I love Dr Ramani she has helped me so much!

  • @cynthiaowens7910
    @cynthiaowens79102 жыл бұрын

    Step up or step off!!!! AMEN

  • @sylviacrout5072
    @sylviacrout5072 Жыл бұрын

    One of the strongest mask I’ve ever seen and experienced!!! This is truly a way to see how conniving and deceitful the devil himself is!!!! I’ve always hear my whole life that the devil is in all shapes and sizes and Narcissism truly puts this saying into definition!!!!

  • @karlarhone5469
    @karlarhone54696 ай бұрын

    Thank you sooo much for unlocking the truth in your new book! I love you Anita. Your are so anointed, how you speak you can tell it’s only God who can give you the wisdom that you have. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @lauribailey580
    @lauribailey5802 жыл бұрын

    dr. anita, i saw you for the first time on right now media when you were speaking at the if conference hosted by jennie allen. i am so impressed with both your knowledge of mental health and also your passion for god. thank you for offering content that speaks to the needs of real people in this broken world.

  • @jmladygodsgrace2788
    @jmladygodsgrace278810 ай бұрын

    I need this 20 years ago! But thank God for it now.

  • @latosha4603
    @latosha46032 жыл бұрын

    This just started a massive change in my WHOLE life. I feel free!!! God blows me away!

  • @taniacole7153
    @taniacole71532 жыл бұрын

    I've learned some much thanks for helping me to share with other's and get these 📖 books 📚 thanks for being apart of my journey as I Learn to live a better life 😊 🙏 truly appreciate the blessings more than I can explain

  • @margieh4053
    @margieh4053 Жыл бұрын

    Awesome teaching.

  • @rhondabarlow860
    @rhondabarlow8607 ай бұрын

    Amen…..The declutter is beginning! Thank you❤

  • @Lala-ht8ps
    @Lala-ht8ps Жыл бұрын

    I wish they were here in Indy

  • @willietteslifestyle4829
    @willietteslifestyle48292 жыл бұрын

    You guys are about to make me cry. Thanks for speaking the truth.

  • @jstallworth6602
    @jstallworth66025 ай бұрын

    This was so helpful, thank you!😊

  • @sylviacrout5072
    @sylviacrout5072 Жыл бұрын

    EMPATHY is KEY!!!!! Because there is no such thing as empathy with narcissist!!!

  • @jlenyear
    @jlenyear Жыл бұрын

    This was just so helpful. It’s something that just isn’t talked about and can be so confusing and difficult to navigate especially as a Christian. I feel hopeful and empowered and once again reminded that I’m not crazy and that God does care.❤️

  • @jasminehicks2525
    @jasminehicks25258 ай бұрын

    This was so good!! I have been going through months of healing. Only if you experience this will you understand the depths of this.

  • @kimhobbs678
    @kimhobbs6782 жыл бұрын

    Powerful and eye opening!! Thank you ladies for this enlightenment. Please continue to do Gods work by reaching and impacting people lives to healing ❤️‍🩹 God bless 🙌🏾

  • @DDH30274
    @DDH302742 жыл бұрын

    Thank-you for contributing to my awareness and understanding. Before this video, I had No idea what I was struggling with. I will learn to set and practice boundaries and pray for my loved ones. Thank-you. God Bless You All. Sincerely ❤

  • @nicdpowell
    @nicdpowell Жыл бұрын

    This was spot on!!!! Just a fantastic conversation that spoke the truth! Freedom comes in speaking the truth!

  • @s.wilson6373
    @s.wilson63732 жыл бұрын

    Dr. Phillips. You are amazing. Thank you for this and propelling us to healing. I really really really wish you could be my therapist 🥺🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @victoriaogletree4669

    @victoriaogletree4669

    Жыл бұрын

    I know right, Dr. Phillip's will be with Pastor Nichole Cranks' conference Jult 11& 12?

  • @rebaadefope2795
    @rebaadefope2795 Жыл бұрын

    Knowledge puff up Love builds up ☝ ☝

  • @peacockrose9631
    @peacockrose96312 жыл бұрын

    I don't know how this popped up on my feed but I'm grateful ♥️♥️🔥🔥

  • @teresajoymarquez9375
    @teresajoymarquez93752 жыл бұрын

    I really need this not just for me but for my understanding to others too! Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Жыл бұрын

    Teach me

  • @stephanies.3198
    @stephanies.31982 жыл бұрын

    This was so great!!! Thank you 😀

  • @jocestr
    @jocestr2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for this episode!

  • @denisejohnson1130
    @denisejohnson1130 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much

  • @lorettavaughn3373
    @lorettavaughn33732 жыл бұрын

    Thank you ladies this is so needed🙏

  • @phyllispotts9892
    @phyllispotts98922 жыл бұрын

    This is such a wonderful discussion.

  • @stanleyumstead6035
    @stanleyumstead60352 жыл бұрын

    Thanks ,Thanks for this podcast 🙌🙏

  • @KrystalHaggans-tk4mq
    @KrystalHaggans-tk4mq Жыл бұрын

    This is good wish the convo was longer it’s much needed

  • @livdooley
    @livdooley2 жыл бұрын

    Such a phenonemal podcast!!!

  • @carolbrooks8613
    @carolbrooks8613 Жыл бұрын

    Married to one and they're also a minister as well...

  • @barbaragay2199
    @barbaragay21992 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Dr Anita!! Amen!

  • @shakiacurry1770
    @shakiacurry17702 жыл бұрын

    Thanks 🙌🏽💜🙏🏽

  • @sharris5812
    @sharris58122 жыл бұрын

    This was an amazing episode, full of wisdom and truth.

  • @reginab8145
    @reginab8145 Жыл бұрын

    Excellent presentation/podcast!!!

  • @jacquelinerobinson4447
    @jacquelinerobinson44472 жыл бұрын

    This was very informative and I’m very thankful for you

  • @stanleyumstead6035
    @stanleyumstead60352 жыл бұрын

    Oh My.......yes,Thank you!

  • @prophecy20121
    @prophecy20121 Жыл бұрын

    Great massage 🙌🏽

  • @karenmalone5113
    @karenmalone51132 жыл бұрын

    This is such a powerful topic!!! Thank you for creating this platform and exposing this level of truth‼️‼️🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @user-wk8ti2wq2n

    @user-wk8ti2wq2n

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hello Karen

  • @karenmalone5113
    @karenmalone51132 жыл бұрын

    Teach this‼️‼️🔥🔥🔥

  • @denisejohnson1130
    @denisejohnson1130 Жыл бұрын

    You guys help me so very much l cannot write in words

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Жыл бұрын

    Process,action

  • @charlesreed3039
    @charlesreed30399 ай бұрын

    That’s so True! God is Love.. he wants us to be in a holy relationship. Not an Abusive relationship.

  • @anastasiast.pierre188
    @anastasiast.pierre1882 жыл бұрын

    Dr Anita, hello from St. Lucia,in the Caribbean, where the entire society is pretty narcissistic. Would you do some research on slavery and the legacy of narcissism it has left on Caribbean society and culture.. St Lucia and the islands need help.

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @cynthiaowens7910
    @cynthiaowens79102 жыл бұрын

    That is the key.. Boundaries!

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Жыл бұрын

    Wow

  • @janinedelport5532
    @janinedelport55329 ай бұрын

    THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for talking about God not expecting us to remain in abusive marriages and the why - because this never covered properly. I firmly believe that God will not keep us in covenant with evil because that is what the person becomes. A person is also made to feel that even if you get divorced because of it l, that you would still 19:46 be committing adultery if you do meet someone else - I believe that God can bring us the person who will love us as Hod intended

  • @taniacole7153
    @taniacole71532 жыл бұрын

    Thanks sister the Holy Spirit lead me to your video so very grateful 🙏 truly helpful...and much needed...wow...thanks for always Using the scriptures to backup the counseling I love you as a sister in the body of Christ Jesus thanks again

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Жыл бұрын

    Truth

  • @barbaragay2199
    @barbaragay21992 жыл бұрын

    Hi Dr Anita this was best Podcast I ever had...I never knew about Narcissism I so appreciate all of you Thank you so much! God Bless you all I was married for years and experienced same thing Dr V. mentioned...I do have the ebook.

  • @melaniek3790
    @melaniek3790 Жыл бұрын

    I’m so thankful that I saw/ discovered you and your work last week in Minnesota. 🤯 Feeling my feelings… oh man… going to be working in that for a while. Blessings to you! Thank you! 😊

  • @cynthiabeard2016

    @cynthiabeard2016

    Жыл бұрын

    Core issue is antagonism.

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Жыл бұрын

    Working process

  • @AshleyMWilson
    @AshleyMWilson2 жыл бұрын

    Boundary dance 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Жыл бұрын

    Love

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Жыл бұрын

    I can feel my chest

  • @sylviacrout5072
    @sylviacrout5072 Жыл бұрын

    You have to allow yourself to see this is who they truly are. It’s very hard but don’t care anymore. YOU DO YOU….. OH YES THEY WILL!!!! Yes mam 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼. I may not be able to just up and leave at the moment, but God has my back. I talk to him constantly to keep me going. I know that the time is coming and God isn’t going to allow something to happen to me that I can’t handle. He will bless the true believers…. So now, I’m just waiting in his timing!!!

  • @AlwaysStampinVideos
    @AlwaysStampinVideos2 жыл бұрын

    SO GOOD! Thank you for saying and talking about things that other mental health professionals are not (for whatever reason) saying about narcissism. TYTYTY

  • @stanleyumstead6035

    @stanleyumstead6035

    2 жыл бұрын

    This is soooo beneficial ,I need to find a counselor in SC that takes Medicare :(

  • @sylviacrout5072
    @sylviacrout5072 Жыл бұрын

    PLEASE…..Could we bottle up the boundaries and make this a body spray?? lol 😂

  • @reginafreeland7339
    @reginafreeland73392 жыл бұрын

    This was so POWERFUL! Happy to hear this on the other side of being in a relationship with a narcissist.

  • @victoriaogletree4669
    @victoriaogletree4669 Жыл бұрын

    OMG!!! The minister who did my Mom's homegoing made me promise to get counseling to get my brother- he's lost saying the spirits won't let him talk to me, they hate me through him. Look, my Mom and my brother were narcissist. I dont want to do this. I almost lost ME trying to care 4 Mom who was bed-ridden. My brother had me put out the house and was living in shelters and hotels for 8 months until a door opened up for me. I am at peace now, in a nice apartment. Pulling my life together to work again. I will play this for the counseler I locate in Detroit, Mi. Sorry to be long winded. I forgive both of them. I want to move on!

  • @Lm-yo5lv
    @Lm-yo5lv8 күн бұрын

    I need the book. I don't have a Kindle

  • @tvcater1
    @tvcater12 жыл бұрын

    We are some beautiful people!!

  • @pholoso8884
    @pholoso88842 жыл бұрын

    I am happy the church is having such conversations, divorced parties are being vindicated. Once you leave let Christ do the work! don’t jump into other relationships.

  • @sylviacrout5072
    @sylviacrout5072 Жыл бұрын

    Yes you do have to do that for yourself…. However, the Narcissist doesn’t care to hear it. That’s the wrong way to start to a conversation with a narcissist because they will immediately turn it around on you!! I know from experience and living it daily until it’s time…..

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Жыл бұрын

    WOW

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Жыл бұрын

    Message

  • @sage8889
    @sage8889Ай бұрын

    🔥 🔥

  • @Lala-ht8ps
    @Lala-ht8ps Жыл бұрын

    How do you avoid situations when it is a spouse.

  • @robindavidson2700
    @robindavidson27002 жыл бұрын

    Auntie Dr. Anita, who are the authors of the books mentioned?

  • @cynthiabeard2016
    @cynthiabeard2016 Жыл бұрын

    Remove the debris!

  • @denisejohnson1130
    @denisejohnson1130 Жыл бұрын

    Share Share Share

  • @Erupt212007
    @Erupt2120072 жыл бұрын

    I have several narcissist in my family, starting with my Granny how do I heal from it?

  • @Lm-yo5lv
    @Lm-yo5lv10 күн бұрын

  • @Herc6969
    @Herc6969 Жыл бұрын

    ❤❤❤

  • @sharemeone
    @sharemeone2 жыл бұрын

    how do you go about looking for a therepist in Atlanta

  • @tsiongirmay181
    @tsiongirmay1812 жыл бұрын

    is IN THE LIGHTt podcast on youtube?

  • @latashaburnard7778
    @latashaburnard7778 Жыл бұрын

    Dr. Phillips, my interpretation = abuse is infidelity to the core principles and responsibilities placed on a husband as advised in the Bible, his/her vow to him/her before God and all that witnessed. Love your husband/wife as Christ loves the church. If it's mentally, physically, verbally, etc IT'S INFIDELITY.

  • @stanleyumstead6035
    @stanleyumstead60352 жыл бұрын

    how can a Minister "Not see" family as her Ministry outside of Church!

  • @stanleyumstead6035
    @stanleyumstead60352 жыл бұрын

    Married to a Elder who is critical, rigid,vengeful,attention seeking,non commitment to Christian Education. (Dir) Talked to pastor (female) told her in detail ,has not spoke to wife "Yet"

  • @Truthseeker0926
    @Truthseeker09262 жыл бұрын

    You all may be interested in my very unique story. I did lots of research only to discover I created a textbook Narcissist. A "Golden Child ". Because I've never met my biological mom and was raised by my father's wife, I over loved and over valued my daughter only for it to backfire on me. Book is now being written.

  • @tonyascreativespace3067
    @tonyascreativespace30677 ай бұрын

    scriptures make very clear! God is spirit! God very essence is divine pure love, beyond human vocabulary of expression! Any thing outside this is not of God!

  • @mikeyoung3381
    @mikeyoung3381 Жыл бұрын

    Get out side my sand box

  • @Lala-ht8ps
    @Lala-ht8ps Жыл бұрын

    Some of the pastors will take you well baby just keep on praying. Smh

  • @stephbell9775
    @stephbell97752 жыл бұрын

    Can your child be narcissistic

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