I had to cut my sister off today. The abuse and selfishness are too much. It's affecting my health. I need to protect myself. I'm tired of walking on eggshells and being abused

@abigailb9144

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Mine too. Once im moved out (thanks covid) we're done. Do you feel like people take you seriously when/if you talk about your sibling being the abusive one.

@creativename1235

2 жыл бұрын

@@abigailb9144 There is this girl who likes me and I like her. I'm a bit shy though so I never actually speak to her when I see her. I used to work on her site as a contractor but was transferred to another site. I once saw her at a bus stop at night back in January and the next day I passed by that same bus stop, the glass was smashed as if it had been kicked in by someone (because it was the lower pane). I feel like she tried to hurt me a couple times because I never speak to her when I see her but it's almost like she immediately regrets doing it and then keeps coming around me again. Do you think the abuse is a personal thing? Also if you don't mind, what examples of abusive behaviour did your sister exhibit? This girl seemed so nice and sweet at work but I'm concerned she has a darker side to her. She gets all nervous and fidgety when I'm near her though?

@sandraadao634

Жыл бұрын

Eu já meti a minha irmã andar a muito mais tempo,ela é uma ignorante.

@libramagyk

10 ай бұрын

I just had to cut mine off Wednesday evening 2 days ago I gave her an answer to a question she didn't like and she choked my throat with the scarf I told her I was going to leave and she picked up a shovel

@GMVK-eq8kt

8 ай бұрын

I have had to take a break from my sister, who was working with me in the family business! I know she does not mean to but she lies to cover herself and blames and makes up stories, mostly about me. I know she believes her stories due to the illness but I’m drained. Family and friends need just as much support as those with bi polar. Difficult illness. 😢

My mother, half sister, half brother and ex-wife were all afflicted by this. It was brutal being around that. Having to Constantly walk on eggshells around these people. I was always blamed for being the bad guy. I was constantly being accused of things I never did. I was always worried about which person am I going to get next, the lucid one or the mentally unbalanced one. It wore me out. It could never be fixed. Any brief good times were Sabotaged by this mania. I finally had to give up and let their mania win. I now live a life of selfishly guarded solitude and peace of mind, far away from mentally unbalanced people. Their mania was much stronger than I am. That rollercoaster ride of emotions has deeply wounded me.

@Aleksandra.DaGreat

2 жыл бұрын

I’m in tears. It’s been so hard! I buried my father last year and my mom is 62 and tired and, still very much in denial. She won’t help my sister. I’m tired. Sad. Angry and I can’t anymore. It’s too much. I tried to wrap my mind around all of this, I can’t.

@dr.l.thomas6804

2 жыл бұрын

I understand, im so emotionally hurt

@libramagyk

10 ай бұрын

I actually can't trust anyone with this disease... They are going to have to be willing to help themselves... I have PTSD... My mother and all of my siblings have bipolar disorder.. my father and I were the only two not afflicted by it... The mental and physical abuse that we have suffered is too much to endure... My bipolar mother actually withheld my father's life-saving heart medication to the point where he died... My sister drugged my mother and killed her... And my brother signed a DNR.. my other sister choked me with my own scarf because she didn't like a response that I gave... And when I said I was going to leave she actually picked up a shovel. I have no room left for this disease

my sister has just been diagnosed after YEARS of family members begging her to just go to the dr. Now that she is on medication, we are trying to get the dosage right because her mood swings are terrible. The things she says when she is off kilter are horrible and heartbreaking. she likes to bring up things from childhood, old grievances, etc. We have tried sitting her down to discuss things with her, but we keep having the same conversation over and over again. Its like she just doesnt realize that she is on repeat.

@chippyjohn1

4 жыл бұрын

My father is like this, he has been through so many hospitals and they can't give a proper diagnoses. He has schizophrenia/ bipolar/ BPD. I wish there was a parental licence, no child should have to go through a life of stress. My mother on the other hand is a narcissist with adhd, not kidding. So i got abuse from both parents.

@monkeymachine33

6 ай бұрын

I am in this exact situation. Everything you said is correct with my sister as well. She only talks about the past and old traumas and grievances and talking to her is like walking on eggshells

So we need to help the person???? What about the help for us!!!!!! Screw that, been doing it all my life.

When I was 15, my mother made me a prisoner in my own home obsessing herself over some kid. Took my phone from me. Made me lock the doors, close the blinds, disconnect the phone. Basically verbally threatened me like she was coercing a witness. But it’s ok because she’s bipolar. And what pisses me off the most is she never got in any kind of trouble for it. If I acted a fraction of the way she did, I’d be hauled off in handcuffs. When I finally confronted her about it, she went out of her way to deflect and convince herself she didn’t do anything wrong. Her excuse being “You’ve never felt love for a child”. So apparently, she’s allowed to behave however she wants and get away with it.

Distance and boundaries.

@shawngreen3476

6 жыл бұрын

I will never EVER take that pointless poison again, not to mention they kept wanting to switch things back and forth and give me blood tests up the arm which took 4 hourse sometimes for them to find a vein for medicines that won't even help me. All for no improvement. I literally just went in and asked them to improve my attention span, executive memory, and help with anxiety and sleep. instead, I have nothing good and all this I got was bad worthless shit. the psychiatric community is pathetic. And to boot, I now know just how truly pathetic, wothless, and inferior I truly am... Thanks doctors. and my reward was absolutely nothing but humiliation. I haven't talked to my parents in years over what they did to me. Now that we don't speak the only way me to force them to see the error of their ways is through blackmail pictures I've had from their phones.

Hi I'm bipolar 2 and was diagnosed at 57 years old. I always knew I was not fit to bear the responsibilities of having children and don't regret it.

Honestly there's not enough videos about dealing with people who have bipolar disorder. Look, most of us have problems and shit we're dealing with. I'm not gonna go out of my way to pander to your needs just because you're mentally ill and refuse to get treatment.

@StudyBlanca

2 жыл бұрын

Amen

@kyupified2440

Жыл бұрын

THIS IS SO FUCKING TRUE.

@libramagyk

10 ай бұрын

I am so f****** sick of the b******* like we have to walk on eggshells for them take your medication why do we have to keep being abused I am so f****** done I have PTSD from this shit

@beabeauty

3 ай бұрын

What if the bipolar person is getting treatment should family do nothing to be supportive?

Ugh...my bipolar friend is going to destroy our friendship with the constant hurtful things she says/does, cancelling get togethers, etc.

@sandraadao634

Жыл бұрын

Sim ,eu sou bipolar,e pôr isso faço uma vida muito solitária, já sei que não consigo ter palavra,nem para comigo , muito menos com os outros.Então ando sozinha.

@sandraadao634

Жыл бұрын

Ofensivas ,de que género , posso saber ?

I know people who are bipolar, but they refuse to get help.

@danbrown8431

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds familiar :(

@dizzybutterfly2787

2 жыл бұрын

Same :(

@ashatan4554

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly, and if they do it’s short lived and only when they’ve hit rock bottom which is traumatic for everyone.

@katejohnson2403

7 ай бұрын

That’s my sister

@marolorachidi6767

7 ай бұрын

My brother will fight u hard if u try to get him help, when he is okay n on the meds he feels unhappy n sick but happy when in maniac state so so draining

Honestly, what I'm hearing for families and loved ones is: conform to the bipolar persons needs *excuse me* "system" and eDuCaTe yOuRsElF. Well a lot of us havr and they still tend to abusr and mistreat us whether or not they are heavily medicated and then play the victim. Nah. It's a hard no from me.

@StudyBlanca

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I’m over my sister. I have no sympathy for mental illnesses if they don’t get help. Planning to cut my sister completely off. She’s dramatic, loud, can’t accept responsibility, always on defense mode, and overall crazy.

@abigailb9144

2 жыл бұрын

@@StudyBlanca right. That's the key. If they don't get help. If mine were trying to work through the trauma and swings, I'd work with get, but just blanket statement excuse for bad behavior "it's cuz I'm bipolar" doesn't fly. Not for me. I wish you strength and love in your healing journey, my dear!

@marymcwatters7606

2 жыл бұрын

My sis is bipolar and like I said help them with an arms length in between, because we also have kids that need us too. So , help but don't get to caught up with there emotions everything at arms length.

@ashatan4554

2 жыл бұрын

Yes it’s really frustrating when you’re the one putting in the hard work and they keep abandoning their treatment plans, abusing substances and then abusing everyone around them. At some point you need to save yourself I think.

@Calyrekt

2 жыл бұрын

It’s a little comforting knowing I’m not alone. Dealing with someone with BP is so taxing mentally/emotionally.

Dudeeeee! This is exactly what happened to me! I married my husband after knowing him for 6 days... and the next month I filed for divorce and he had no idea where that came from... I was diagnosed shortly after that and we have been trying VERY hard this Covid year to learn how to navigate this together...

This is a very thoughtful insight!

My mom has bipolar but I know there are underlying personality disorders. They just throw meds at her instead of treating these other conditions. I’ve had to cut her off because she is so toxic and mean

Yeah, It is always a rocky road, but you are absolutely right.

It's confusing interacting with people with this My brain retreats from their drama

@meganschutte1674

7 жыл бұрын

Laurie Grant - how's that ice cold heart of yours doing?

@lauriegrant8172

7 жыл бұрын

Same as yours Biatch

@meganschutte1674

7 жыл бұрын

Laurie Grant - oh so then it's not ice cold anymore? You have compassion for human beings with mental illness now? Good job! Yay I'm so proud of you! Cause it makes my brain hurt dealing with people who treat sick people like shit. Do you get annoyed at chemo patients "drama" also? Grow up and look up love in the dictionary and then figure out how to have it for other human beings. And "BIATCH"...how old are you 13? 😂😂😂 Jk don't bother trying to learn to love, you either have a good heart or ya don't. It's a natural trait. Bye!

@meganschutte1674

7 жыл бұрын

Laurie Grant - sounds like you picked the wrong profession then. Your bad. Don't sign up for shit you can't handle 👍🏻✌🏻 bye BIATCH

@lauriegrant8172

7 жыл бұрын

Don't help someone stop getting eviction Ok

I tried medications. They were awful, I felt everything was foggy, not real, numb.there are certain things that helps me to be more “ normal”.. like excercise, contact with nature, water... my dogs. However, bot always is like that😞. What hurts me the most is to cause disruption in the people who I love. Many times I think that a good solution for every one including me is to be apart, close but apart😞, that way, when I hace my ups or down, which they’ve told me, they don’t like either... I don’t disrupt them. I do have moments that are ok ... for others. My ups moments , it feels so good...like life is so wonderful, and I could climb the biggest mountain... to hug everyone, to do everything!!!... but also that can be overwhelming to others...😞 I am trying my best to gond balance... and it feels a victory when I can go longer periods like that... Until I chrash.. again 😞

@StudyBlanca

2 жыл бұрын

So stop talking to them. No one wants to deal with your crap.

@libramagyk

10 ай бұрын

I heard anti-seizure medication is the best it doesn't cause the brain fog please don't go through bipolar without medication,... You wound a lot of people without bipolar

@Hordified I know exactly how you feel. I've been through it, but don't hate him. Maybe we can't help them, but don't hate.

My sibling is 16 and has bipolar. I’m scared of him. He smokes cannabis which makes him worse. He can go from 0-100 in seconds. He isn’t diagnosed and won’t go get help.

@healthyplace

5 жыл бұрын

Hi 343elle. Have you talked to your parents and told them that you're scared of him? Since he's a minor and still under your parents' control, I'm wondering why they haven't taken him to a doctor to be evaluated. Amanda

@343elle

5 жыл бұрын

HealthyPlace Mental Health that’s easier said than done. He has control in this house. We’ve tried to take him but he will refuse to go and smash up the house

@healthyplace

5 жыл бұрын

In my opinion, no 16 year old should have control over the family like that. Because he's a minor, there are legal options that your parents can discuss with a lawyer so that he can be evaluated and get the treatment he needs. Hannah

I get the pleasure of watching my daughter fall apart with her bipolar live in boyfriend and she won't walk away. I feel so helpless and all I can do is to talk to her about bipolar, and how he needs help and how important it is to take care of herself. He found a a very kind person, pulls her heart strings and she feels guiltily if she kicks him out to live on the streets. He is noncompliant. ugh

@alexsung4159

11 ай бұрын

That guy needs to just give up his life

What do you do? Run. Everyone in my family is Bipolar. My mentally ill sibling has just destroyed their marriage while manic. ..caught in bed with someone by one of the kids. But luckily it's all OK bcse their just a victim. After they can't help being manic. I guess the problem is the family hasn't yet learned the "system". Maybe another 2 years. Sorry i think that if you are that bipolar you shouldn't marry.

@ROCKLIKEACOBB

10 жыл бұрын

wmnoffaith - I am sad to hear your story. I do know how tuff it is. it seems that even if you learn the system, it still is up to the person who is ill to comply with the system....if they don't, even the best plan put in place has zero value...just more empty words upon words.

@Picklemedia

9 жыл бұрын

Take a glance at wmnoffaith's previous comments before you take her seriously...

@StudyBlanca

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed or have kids.

In most cases, beneath the stable medication, if it is eventually achieved, is an unfortumate personality disorder that lingers and is very difficult to live with.

@meganschutte1674

7 жыл бұрын

coomadoug - yup. It sucks.

My brother has undiagnosed bipolar disorder but refuses to get help and it affects my moms house hold so much so i can relate

@lindamastropietro4429

Ай бұрын

How do you know he’s bipolar he’s never been diagnosed

My mother is bipolar. I go to court tomorrow because she assaulted me. I’m 16. I don’t know what to do anymore

@healthyplace

6 жыл бұрын

Hi Jo. That's a very tough position to be in. What kind of things have been going on with your mom? Amanda

@joannasmith3397

6 жыл бұрын

HealthyPlace Mental Health she went off her meds and she’s been in a manic episode for a while and she has been abusing my brother and I till she hit me and I called the cops

@healthyplace

6 жыл бұрын

Jo, you did the right thing. No matter what the situation, nobody has the right to abuse another person. I hope your mom gets the help she needs and that things go well for you tomorrow. Amanda

@carynmartin6053

6 жыл бұрын

Jo Laurens insist she get help and meds and don't back down

@joannasmith3397

6 жыл бұрын

caryn martin I wish it was that easy

My moms a lost caused I'm done with her I only hope my two little sisters learn why I grew apart

@healthyplace

6 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry it's been difficult for you. We tend to forget the impact a parent's mental illness can have on the children. (Impact of a Parent's Mental Illness on Children bit.ly/2D11ylF ) If you wouldn't mind sharing, what effect has it had on you? Amanda

@vernonroche7067

6 жыл бұрын

HealthyPlace Mental Health well I find myself emotionally drained her moments when shes hypo manic I don't even want to be around her shell get triggered and start an argument over trivial things not only that but her yelling and arguments last for about 2 hours then her mood for the whole fucking day would be hostile towards everything her parenting is falling through the drain she plays the poor me I'm the victim card her whole life she doesnt think critically when it comes to making good judgment she subconsciously seeks conflict in anything when she gets mad she says I DONT GIVE A FUCK IM THE PARENT IM THE ONE GOING THROUGH EVERYTHING SO I DO WHAT I WANT when she doesn't know her actions affects the family she we are in San Francisco right now and she be friends the worst kinds of people. I can make a list of all the crap I feel when being around her I love but I know I can no longer be connected to her at least she's finally meeting a therapist. I'm sick of her shit

@shawngreen3476

6 жыл бұрын

Just ask yourself, is what you are getting from these meds positive enough for the side effects? I considered having to see the psychologist each month to be almost as traumatizing as the stigma and side effects from the pills. He was a rude jackass I would never suggest anyone go to one of these destroyers of dreams with a phd.

@jovitarich7078

6 жыл бұрын

My whole family seems to deal with some kind of bipolar disorder. I have noticed that there is a lot of anger, frustration, pain, hurt, sadness, stubbornness and selfishness in those dealing with bipolar due to tramas, bad experiences, and painfulness that these people have gone through in life, but instead of taking classes to deal with those past tramas, these people use the bipolar excuse to suck the life out of families and friends. I myself still taking classes to deal with life and be able to take care of myself and not to burden other people who deserve to have a life of their own. I have become a very pleasant person to be around but I am tired of dealing with family members who do not want to learn the skills I am learning to be productive happy people.

@shawngreen3476

6 жыл бұрын

if the doctor visit and the meds only increased the pain and suffering what you are talking about means the parents deserve it. I personally didn't want to but I wasn't going to not make him pay for every last ounce of pain my father gave me. It caused emotional abuse and self-hatred but I am glad treatment worked for you though. People need to think before they do this and not get mad if their child becomes their worst enemy if it ends up completely backfiring.

@monctonmartyrs What in particular did she say in this video that made you comment about it? I don't necessarily agree with all of her teachings, but I am curious if you are talking about this video in particular, or something she commented on in her books?

A person that never swam, can't tell about swimming. They get mad at you from what they do to you. I just let it go, I really don't want to be a burden on you. I'm nobody

I not have facing idea what is life is biopolar

my fiancee is going thru this its hard on our whole family she wants to get married but the yelling at me over simple things and i mean yell its gotten to point were concerned we may have to move if it continues she also has anxiety her family abandone her we are all she got me one daughter and my two sons we want to help she has meds but refuse to take it anyone who been thru this please all welcome to share

if they are on medication are they OK / or is it still hard to deal with?

@healthyplace

6 жыл бұрын

Arleta. There is no cure for bipolar disorder. Medication can help manage mood swings for many, but that doesn't mean the symptoms go away. For many with bipolar, it is a daily struggle. In-depth information on bipolar disorder is here: www.healthyplace.com/bipolar-disorder Thank you, Amanda

@arlita894

6 жыл бұрын

Hi Amanda thank you for the reply, I have one more question is there more private way to get in touch with you? Thanks

@sandraadao634

Жыл бұрын

Minha senhora,temos dias que nem a tomar a medicação,ela faz efeito,parece que não estamos a tomar nada .

I'm just tired of it, sorry

I don't understand the running.. its sad to me..

@healthyplace

6 жыл бұрын

Hi Heather :) I'm not sure what you meant by "the running" but I do agree that the whole situation is sad for everyone involved. Like Julie said though, educating ourselves about bipolar disorder can make a huge difference. Please subscribe. :) Amanda

@ferdellharvey4428

2 жыл бұрын

I know exactly what she means by running...I had a fiance that was bipolar.

@dianefoster3059

11 ай бұрын

My husband just filed for divorce. :/

You lose many connections

i dont want to sell my space or intrest .

And my other Aunt Dianne Crawford Milroy started hitting on me on my left side of my body in the hair salon I'm sitting down there minding my own business she comes over so I hit on me on my arm and on my legs when I and you I just worked out like 2 days before so my body was kind of still for a little bit from exercising and she comes over there just hitting on me and she started saying hello hello can you hear me and come to find out she's bipolar too and she don't take no medication and if she's wrong about something she would never tell you she sorry she is sad that's what you get or you deserve it right now her granddaughter is in the hospital with leukemia and she still going around picking that post at the hair salon or either on the street and quite recently she started hitting on me I don't pay her no attention when I go down there to the hair salon but I know I got to deal with her if I want my hair done because I go to see my other on that I don't go to see her now and then that's when she said that one of her rages she's going to kick my brains out of my head which I highly doubt she ever will do she always has she always has a Snappy attitude all the time that's how I know she has about it sometimes at one time she even said to me she was going to get a tattoo on her behind and wanted me to go world she's totally weird and then she told me I need to get a boyfriend and stop being around all the time but it really isn't none of her business she don't even have a man herself telling me I need to get man and she even has how many boyfriends I've had and do I like men and asked me did I like women I believe my Aunt Dianne is gay or bisexual it was just totally weird for her to be asking me those questions and she met me after 2 years and she posed to be my aunt and I haven't seen her or my other family members in 31 years and then she comes up asking me am I gay or heterosexual and she likes to fuss and argue with people all the time and I think it's because her granddaughter is in the hospital with leukemia and that's the reason why she's acting that way she just goes around picking at folks when things go bad for her you should go around picking at folks for the hell of it her and her daughter and her son that's the very reason why bad things happen to her because she can't her hands to herself

Stay away from people who are bipolar or they will abuse you.

@lindamastropietro4429

Ай бұрын

That’s not a fair statement. Maybe you know someone who does that to you, but I don’t treat people that way and I have bipolar with PTSD and anxiety I do a lot for other people because that’s the way I am I give I don’t abuse

None of my parents or caregivers had any type of bipolar disorder but yet they are horrible people very abusive very neglectful self centered yet they don't have bipolar disorder other mental health problems yes not bipolar yet there horrible people my grandmother was bipolar apparently and she was not good either I also do know people with bipolar who are nice people but obviously society talks like all people with bipolar are bad and all people who don't have these disorders are good yah ok as if there are obviously way more terrible people out there then that it's not the disorder it's the person and the persons life and how they operate people got to understand that

@Hordified Don't hate him. Tell him over and over that he needs to get treated.

@sandraadao634

Жыл бұрын

E pronto, está o assunto encerrado 😂😂😂😂