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What about a situation where a mother in law has covertly undermined the mother of said children? Our kids actually told me and my husband about the undermining that had gone on for years. At the time we didn't think too much about it because we were all getting along. But since our kids have been on their own for the last 15 years and have struggled with various things, and with them becoming woke , we have been canceled. We have been accused of toxicity and abuse. I chose to stay home and raise my children and I loved it. I was very proud of the loving home my husband and I happily provided. We are devastated.

I believe that if your kids don’t respect you in their behavior, you shouldn’t mess with them. Just as I wouldn’t do in any relationship.

Substance abuse... years and years, since teenage years. Court ordered visitation with a psychopathic father who inflicted decades of emotional abuse. I fought the courts for decades but always lost. Now my child is completely unhinged. I fear for them and their little children. I grieve the loss of my beautiful child, who continues to make unhealthy choices and rebukes the idea of getting help. They have asked me over and over to stay away, and I respect the requests. Then they reach out, and the whole cycle repeats again and again. Another aggravating factor is family members who ask about them and can't comprehend the situation because they have healthy relationships with their adult children, so they press for me to do this and do that. They even go so far as calling my estranged child and guilt trip them into calling me! Now I feel bad over that, too! I most certainly did not ask them to interfere in the situation. I just would like to develop some stoicism like my mom had, so I could cope with this debilitating grief.

Thank you for such a spot on video. Having been cut off by my 19 year old whose life is a big secret is so painful especially when you know that drugs and risky relationships are involved. The worry and stress is indescribable.

What I would add as far as what a parent could do is work on themselves and see where they can take accountability in their part of the behavior of the child and the upbringing

dad told me to grow up. didnt have therapists back then. i set my sites on a better life. stopped blaming others, and got my act together. lots of coaches out there on doing your best.

12 min into this video and not really hearing sympathy for caregivers that try everything we can to keep the adult mentally ill from being homeless where the situation is that it's not safe to live with them.

Thank you for your support and guidance. Mine is the last scenario you speak of. No contact 3 yrs - no acceptance of diagnosis, no contact with anyone in my family. Your work helps me very much in addition to my regular therapist. 🙏

My 27 year old daughter suffers from mental illness. This thing has ruined her life so far. She was doing fine a few years ago. She had a job attended ,college was in a relationship, got married then all of a sudden she got very depressed tried to commit suicide more than once she deals with anxiety, low vitamin Deficiency, was diagnosed with being bipolar. She has lost everything her job, can't really attend college like she desires to also had to separate from her husband because he's not able to deal with all of this. He himself has a disability of being visioned impaired. She sees a psychiatrist and is on medication for it I'm a Christian woman. I trust in God for my daughter's healing. I just wanted to reach out to other parents that may deal with a child whether they are small or grown that deals with mental illness. I need help on what to do on how to cope with this.

My son has ADHD. It has caused my other son to blame and is now estranged from me. I'm deeply hurt. I've tried for years to help my ADHD son with no help, understanding or support not even from therapist.

Thank you for this. My trans son has struggled with bipolar their whole life - diagnosed in middle school. They talk to other family members but not me. I do get news updates but it isn't the same. Honoring their need for space and sending love every day. That's all I can do right now.

I am so very grateful you are offering this advice! thank you

You are so spot on about an adult child with MI .The pain of being a parent of said adult child with MI all the pain and wory and wondering . i Have learned to back of and let my adult child choose weather he wants to take hi9s meds or not the or not has landed him in a treatment facility so many times. This time 7/25/23 i do beleive he has a changed perspective and relizez he absolutly needs meds to

This was such good analysis and really helped me at this time. Having boundaries for ourselves even when they have cut us off is very good advice. We do send ourselves crazy trying to find answers. Other family members just think she is evil.

Thank you.

this is very helpful!!! thank you!!

Excellent video. Thank you.

Just found this video at a critical time with dealing with my 40 yr old daughter who has developed Borderline Personality Disorder over the last couple of years and is a completely different person and who also ended up having a baby (my granddaughter). At this point she is always volatile when communicating over-talking yelling and screaming We worry constantly for our granddaughter as she has no father around or family. We are so distressed and have been on the round and round hampster wheel for these couple of years. I am wits end. Thank you for your tips we definitely need to set more boundaries but at this point I don't know if I will even see her and my granddaughter any time soon. This has definitely affected my health.

Very professional meaningful information. Thanks