if you stay at home a lot, this video will make you cry...

Ойын-сауық

if you stay at home a lot, I made this video just for you...
Here's the background music I used in this video: • C418 - Subwoofer Lulla...
-Better Peter

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  • @Mico605
    @Mico605Ай бұрын

    Once you get an actual job and have to deal with people day in and day out. Trust me, you will appreciate those 4 walls of silence at home.

  • @skiesunder9998

    @skiesunder9998

    Ай бұрын

    Lmao,you're right

  • @MichelLedig

    @MichelLedig

    Ай бұрын

    Bro are u 65? Im a developer and my actual job is staying at home, people from my company are not even from my country lmao I am not agoraphobic and just watch the video by curiosity but what u said was straight dumb

  • @august8148

    @august8148

    Ай бұрын

    this

  • @mastermitser5693

    @mastermitser5693

    Ай бұрын

    Truth be told...

  • @ShortSegaa

    @ShortSegaa

    Ай бұрын

    its true brother but thats how the world catches us in the Rat race 9-5 trap. Drains you to make you not want to do more

  • @spaghettimonster153
    @spaghettimonster153Ай бұрын

    Agoraphobic for 18 years. I'm 35, and I just found out I might be really sick. I've never done anything or been anyone. Never loved or been loved. Please. Don't take your time for granted. Best of luck to you all.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Awh no cmon :((( i hope you recover if u are sick. U are somebody and u are someone already. Thanks for spreading love. Best of luck to u!!!

  • @valrose6083

    @valrose6083

    Ай бұрын

    Ooof that sucks!! I'm 32 and I have a history of agoraphobia, and same as you, I hardly went anywhere and didnt have my first relationship till 31. I just want to encourage you to not stop fighting it! I didn't leave my house from the ages of 19-23. Like.. at all. I then fought it enough because I was so depressed, I no longer cared about living, so why not try doing something before I off myself? Then I had amaaazing years from 23-27, which at that point the agoraphobia came back with a vengeance. I fought it and did well till I was 31~ now I'm slowly getting it again. I just found out recently I may also have adhd, not just depression and anxiety, and it explains why everything has always been so hard and why I'm always procrastinating. I have been to a psychiatrist and phycologist and am on B blockers to help my agoraphobia. it really helps! Everyday you fight for just pushing your self out there- even tho it's small steps, it's worth it!! And 35 is still pretty young, we both have alot of life left and many years to come~ why not live it starting from now 🥰💕

  • @moonvie4065

    @moonvie4065

    Ай бұрын

    I'm 23 and had such an extreme panic attack 2 years ago, my brain totally shifted and became agoraphobic. Very extreme agoraphobia. So much that I didn't leave my student studio for 1 and a half years. 22 square meters, 9th floor, 1 window, white walls. That's all I saw during this time and it felt like I put myself in an insane Asylum. I had to quit university and go back to my parents because it was just getting worse. I'm still at their house, typing this comment. I used to have friends who'd come visit me while I was and still am in this dark hole. They would ask me "How have you not gone insane yet?". I reflected a lot on that question and I came to the conclusion that I still have hope. Hope never left me. It's still there and that's the reason I keep going. Now I'm starting to try to go outside more and more, even though I still feel extremely anxious and that I think I'll lose control in public. I remember how good life was before and how bad I want it back. Anxiety is really tricky to beat when it takes over your mental. Hope and ignoring that voice in your head will be hard at first to master, but eventually you'll see the benefits. I hope you get better, including anyone who is having a really rough time with agoraphobia. One day we'll look back at those times and ask ourselves "Why was this such a big deal to me?".

  • @damla.k.

    @damla.k.

    Ай бұрын

    35 is a baby, get out!! Now

  • @Trysaratop

    @Trysaratop

    Ай бұрын

    I’m 34 and I think we are still very young I absolutely hate the outside world, I have been hurt, people are mean, the anxiety and panic attacks are trauma triggers. I wasn’t like this at 20, it takes a lot of beating down to just shut down. Also I suggest going slow by joining a hobby online group and slowly build up socialization on discord groups and attend a meeting.

  • @bro144
    @bro144Ай бұрын

    When home becomes your "comfort zone" it becomes so hard to get out of it but we must push ourselves outside of it and not become a prisoner.

  • @elisabettagiovagnoni7018

    @elisabettagiovagnoni7018

    Ай бұрын

    Right

  • @Pdfile420

    @Pdfile420

    Ай бұрын

    Even a simple walk in the park every day will help. Just do it consistently. It won’t completely like negate this feeling but it will definitely help

  • @xxxarimaxxx

    @xxxarimaxxx

    Ай бұрын

    Yes

  • @Kakarot887

    @Kakarot887

    Ай бұрын

    I took a drop last year so i stayed home for an yr know i m out of shape gained 16 kg and have social anxiety i m trying so hard 😢

  • @99alp99fila

    @99alp99fila

    Ай бұрын

    This is so true I used to be a baller as a kid and played football alot but my life changed when I went to a different country and I've been staying between 4 walls for so long and after sometime got social phobia and get weird feelings when outside

  • @laurecevillacarlos4093
    @laurecevillacarlos4093Ай бұрын

    I feel more alone socially than I am at home

  • @user-yh6sd9mr8h

    @user-yh6sd9mr8h

    Ай бұрын

    yeaa...it feels I don't belong there :"(

  • @geohatz4838

    @geohatz4838

    Ай бұрын

    THIS

  • @YAHAWAH14

    @YAHAWAH14

    Ай бұрын

    Same

  • @dariod.9164

    @dariod.9164

    Ай бұрын

    Me too but what i do is going to the forest and or Beach

  • @ShivamSingh-pq5en

    @ShivamSingh-pq5en

    Ай бұрын

    Hey ,man we are in similar situation if you find out the problem enlighten me​@@user-yh6sd9mr8h

  • @KaF-em8rz
    @KaF-em8rzАй бұрын

    Dont let ur attention span make you not see this masterpeice

  • @leanda2415

    @leanda2415

    Ай бұрын

    Fr

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    CAUSE TELL EM!!

  • @sodiumchloride5202

    @sodiumchloride5202

    Ай бұрын

    My attention span is not that bad because I am a book worm 😂

  • @Cosmic_Monster

    @Cosmic_Monster

    Ай бұрын

    My attention span is also quite long, I study alot. Exams coming soon

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Everyone here killing it, proud of you all fr. Yo cosmic u better get a A+

  • @bjwkusgxjdks
    @bjwkusgxjdksАй бұрын

    EVER since Corona.. I’d been stuck home man… ONLY school and home. Sometimes shopping or working out. 4 years man.. my peak years 15-19 I wasted on my bed. Which is why I turned into a lazy fuck. I will fix it this summer. Thanks for your message. Edit: Before telling me what my “peak years” are. You better understand you and I aren’t the same. Yes 15-19 are fucking peak years. They’re the years of socializing, years of physical and mental development. I missed the most essential years to develop my brain and my body. “Age isn’t just a number” My height has stopped and I could’ve developed emotionally, socially, mentally and physically. Not only is it harder to develop these things after 19. It means I wasted 4 fucking years. If you don’t care about wasting your years, be my guest. Don’t tell me I didn’t miss anything.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    ur Peak is whenever u Perform at ur peak, and that PEAK IS COMIN THIS SUMMER, YA HEARD IT!

  • @bjwkusgxjdks

    @bjwkusgxjdks

    Ай бұрын

    @@Peterwithanr Now I can’t mess it up! Thanks for your reply❤️

  • @Sumire-rere

    @Sumire-rere

    Ай бұрын

    15-19 were NOT your peak years. You have so much life left. Your brain isn't even done developing until age 25 and beyond that, you're still learning. 15-19 is just baby years. Don't be like those ppl who think anything past 20 is old age.

  • @ephsis7848

    @ephsis7848

    Ай бұрын

    im in the exact same boat man. what are you doing to change ?

  • @bjwkusgxjdks

    @bjwkusgxjdks

    Ай бұрын

    @@Sumire-rere Bro, 15-19 is the years people develop the most and fastest. Ofcourse they aren’t my peak. Cuz I wasted them. Got 19-27 now before starting my decline. Yes, after 27-35 is the peak in terms of accomplishments. After that the body starts becoming weak and slow. It’s a slow decline for the best man. However it’s still a decline

  • @JesterOfAce
    @JesterOfAceАй бұрын

    Whenever I go outside I never saw anyone my age. It's so rare nowadays to even see a single person like me outside.

  • @the_melodist_666

    @the_melodist_666

    Ай бұрын

    so true man

  • @erinour596

    @erinour596

    Ай бұрын

    This is so true I don’t live in a city I live in small town and there is no place TO meet people let alone people my age everyone that DOES go out side are way older than me and my dream to have a family, wife, children, someone to come home to is just impossible now these days

  • @dashaa6174

    @dashaa6174

    Ай бұрын

    If you don't mind me asking, what country do you live in?

  • @Pdfile420

    @Pdfile420

    Ай бұрын

    All I see is middle aged people and young children at malls

  • @WiseAsianGirl

    @WiseAsianGirl

    Ай бұрын

    Fr. Im 20 years old and all the people i see outside are old people and little kids. I feel like i will never meet the love of my life because he is too lazy to get out of the house lol

  • @5ravee5
    @5ravee5Ай бұрын

    I don't wanna stay at home, but sometimes you live in a country, a society and a weather that forces you to....

  • @thamalikasaha6037

    @thamalikasaha6037

    Ай бұрын

    are you from Bangladesh

  • @477RTE

    @477RTE

    Ай бұрын

    Are you from baghdad ?

  • @477RTE

    @477RTE

    Ай бұрын

    al karrada?

  • @5ravee5

    @5ravee5

    Ай бұрын

    @@477RTE bagdad yeah

  • @godthyfather

    @godthyfather

    Ай бұрын

    same spoke the words outta my mouth

  • @3laaAddinGdh
    @3laaAddinGdhАй бұрын

    Staying at home a lot makes you have a fear of going out and dealing with people

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    True cause we get used to it for sure

  • @coke8321

    @coke8321

    Ай бұрын

    agreed 😓

  • @frazyfrog

    @frazyfrog

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@sonwabiso_joy its not about you

  • @IdkAgain-de9eb

    @IdkAgain-de9eb

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@sonwabiso_joylucky bro i literally can't hold a conversation

  • @niganicsez

    @niganicsez

    Ай бұрын

    @@frazyfrog who's it about. the context of the video seems to generalize men so it is hard to really separate everyone from giving their input.. and I do agree with "Fear??" Although I will admit when I decide to go hermit mode for periods throughout the year. I become a bit less tolerant of people..

  • @yanvlog4029
    @yanvlog4029Ай бұрын

    I do not want to stay home, but I have no friends or people to hang out with and it is boring to go out without no one

  • @ladybird491

    @ladybird491

    Ай бұрын

    Go alone, you meet real people leaving your home.

  • @KarRotszZ

    @KarRotszZ

    Ай бұрын

    same man, since i'm not an adult yet, i'm still limited on what i can do by myself currently

  • @swoop2386

    @swoop2386

    Ай бұрын

    Well then maybe you’re the problem if going outside is somehow “boring” to you

  • @drago9606

    @drago9606

    Ай бұрын

    @swoop2386 really? Outside seems like a void. Everyone is pushing 40 and the few people you can interact with don’t want to interact. Sure you can run or ride a bike but ultimately going outside is hella boring without people to do shit with.

  • @vinsplayer2634

    @vinsplayer2634

    Ай бұрын

    If you go to school or have work, that's the best place to get friends to go out with.

  • @M0hh_
    @M0hh_Ай бұрын

    "I used to say home was my comfort zone, but staying at home too long becomes uncomfortable" this is so real, i'm glad i found this, i thought i was the only one struggling with this issue, i genuinely hate staying at home but it's too hard to let go you know? it's exactly like a toxic relationship.

  • @LorenaRadic-sk9il

    @LorenaRadic-sk9il

    Ай бұрын

    go find book hack your mind on borlest bro

  • @Oblisk
    @ObliskАй бұрын

    Main lesson taken from the video: “We rather stay quiet when we have a lot to say. We do nothing when we have a lot that we want to do. It’s harsh and we are harsh to ourselves.” Don’t be harsh on yourself. Don’t go against yourself. It’ll get better if you allow it to.

  • @j-us-t_be-in-g

    @j-us-t_be-in-g

    Ай бұрын

    What's to say when no one is listening?! And no...society makes us believe we have a lot to do.

  • @Oblisk

    @Oblisk

    Ай бұрын

    @@j-us-t_be-in-g in your world view, it may seem like no one is listening to you. And the amount of experiences you’ve had verify that for you. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t people who’ll listen. I had a similar worldview myself, and thought even my parents wouldn’t listen, and I self isolated myself. Like many of us, I turned to KZread as it was a feeling of connection with various creators that I was watching. Fortunately, I’ve learned a lot and got instilled better mindsets and was able to transfer that into my daily life. Like dominoes, day after day, I slowly transformed into a better person that I am now. And society does make us believe we have a lot to do. And nothing is wrong about that. Biologically, we have few simple tasks: eat, procreate, and survive. But what separates us from our primate ancestors or any animal for that matter, as Sigmond Freud states: there’s two motives that push us humans, “the sex urge and the desire to be great.” Or as Dr. Dewey rephrases, “the craving to be important.” It’s this literal craving, this itch to feel important that has made society what it is today. I’m not here to tell you that you have a lot to do, “a lot” is subjective in this topic. This is just food for thought. Hope you have a great day 🤝

  • @jeremywinston1

    @jeremywinston1

    Ай бұрын

    @@j-us-t_be-in-g”society makes us believe we have a lot to do”? there’s endless amount of things you can do: learn how to: draw, edit, math, code, speak a new language. Take a walk, write, read, train, run, meditate, dance and/or sing (or learn how to), travel (depends on budget tho), do a puzzle, go to the shooting range (i think that’s what it’s called, never been in one), watch a movie, go bowling, if you take a pet there will be a lot to do too, etc. It’s not that there’s not a lot to do, there’s a lot YOU don’t want to do (don’t take it as an attack).

  • @ricsansoroan3595
    @ricsansoroan3595Ай бұрын

    i'm 21. i turned 21 last feb. and i felt like after pandemic, i find it hard to connect to people. i used to be careless. i used to laugh a lot. conversational and friendly. and i can beat the talk without feeling awkward but after the pandemic and face people. i feel like, i'm a complete whole creature. i've lost my confidence. my smile. and suddenly i don't feel normal at talking and most of the time, i only wait for the conversation end. and i feel so cringe in human interaction. maybe, when i need someone to talk to, i never had the chance and just learnt to suit myself.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    I totally get what you're saying. The pandemic started when I was 15. And it changed a lot of things for me. Look what I'm about to say. You're either going to believe in it. Or the inner critic is going to make you not Believe in it. From our day to day life, our day to day thoughts. We get to develope certain beliefs on ourselves. Those certain beliefs become a filter to your life, and more than that a filter to yourself Use top seeing yourself the way used to see yourself. So you stop acting the way you used to act. And you think you lost your spark. But what really is that From what You did in the pandemic you developed a filter on ur self, Or an inner voice that tells you what you are and what you're not, what you used to be? And what you are now. The key is in Letting go of that inner Critic, And letting yourself be. Once u the truly set yourself free from your mind. You will notice that you're spark is Still here and never went away. Deep down, you still wanna laugh deep down. He still won't have fun deep down he wants to have conversations.

  • @PoPMichalpl9

    @PoPMichalpl9

    Ай бұрын

    Are you living my life? That's the perfect description of me but I'm 23

  • @comkioxd

    @comkioxd

    Ай бұрын

    It's just a change in your mindset and the lack of conversation during the pandemic that created your current outlook on yourself, you need to go out and if you have to, force yourself to talk to people again. Most importantly, understand that you're still the same person as before, you just need to create the same habits as before.

  • @atuja70

    @atuja70

    Ай бұрын

    i kinda feel the same, good that were not alone in this.

  • @Joseandnat

    @Joseandnat

    Ай бұрын

    @@PoPMichalpl9same me too

  • @atush7
    @atush7Ай бұрын

    when YT algo works perfectly .

  • @itstabularr

    @itstabularr

    Ай бұрын

    so real

  • @knightairsoftwarrior

    @knightairsoftwarrior

    Ай бұрын

    True man, kinda scary that algorithms kind of know who we are and what we’re doing. I feel so behind in life at age of 25 it is kinda scary I’ve been in college for since 2016 I have quit before but going back into to college with a better mind set and for something I really want that’ll benefit me in the future

  • @inthevortexx

    @inthevortexx

    Ай бұрын

    universe is an algo

  • @atush7

    @atush7

    Ай бұрын

    @@knightairsoftwarrior Just always remember bro that its not a race , we're only competing against ourselves and i hope things go well for you in the future.

  • @BringMeBackRonaldoAtRealMadrid

    @BringMeBackRonaldoAtRealMadrid

    Ай бұрын

    And we are gonna make it we can do this we can change our lives.

  • @MC-kk8xu
    @MC-kk8xuАй бұрын

    I'm 30 so I wouldn't say I'm old but I'm no spring chicken either. And I must say you and many other guys your age are so much smarter than I was at your age. There's something about your generation that I admire, a deep maturity and understanding of life I still haven't got. Great video bro. I got a lot from this.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Thanks man! This did make my day. I'm interested in seeing life from your perspective. Glad that I helped

  • @shafinrahman2199

    @shafinrahman2199

    Ай бұрын

    Completely unrelated but I just thought maybe that's why it's usually the younger generation that support Palestine.

  • @Pdfile420

    @Pdfile420

    Ай бұрын

    The general iq doesn’t even increase that much between generations. For eg I saw a study which said the avg iq during the 1950s was 99 and now it’s risen to 102 which isn’t significant enough. I feel like it’s because we’re more introverted in this generation which means we focus a lot more on these details.

  • @frazyfrog

    @frazyfrog

    Ай бұрын

    its more like the very early age realization of capitalism contradictions and impossibility to imagine a future

  • @hzy2k964

    @hzy2k964

    Ай бұрын

    "Spring chicken" 😂

  • @lilmoco2307
    @lilmoco2307Ай бұрын

    I think why being at home felt better when were younger is because we were at home LESS so appericitaied the time we would be there

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    ammmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm deeep

  • @sonicmoore6196
    @sonicmoore619619 күн бұрын

    People are draining and negative. Being alone is awesome and powerful!!! Trust me like Robin Williams said It’s not being alone that makes you sad it’s being around people that make you feel alone and sad. RIP Robin Williams 🙏

  • @anubex234
    @anubex234Ай бұрын

    finally someone who relates. I sometimes go to grocery stores just to have an excuse to go outside and have some social contact. I just turned 21, I'm so isolated and have no friends. Thank you for this video, really nice to see someone put my deep dark thoughts into words. Gonna try and take it one step at a time.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Im proud of you for commenting. Take it easy w ur self and u will do great!

  • @vulpes3018

    @vulpes3018

    Ай бұрын

    Maybe do boxing or some sport

  • @napabao7674

    @napabao7674

    Ай бұрын

    Your fellow 21 year old here ,same I can relate too 😢 I also just turned 21 2 months ago

  • @ladybird491

    @ladybird491

    Ай бұрын

    Why not go out for a beverage.

  • @TimmyHaastrup

    @TimmyHaastrup

    Ай бұрын

    I'm 20, 21 in September and have exactly same problem. I grew up in a very isolated neighborhood with few friends and always stayed at home most of the time spending hours on video games it really made me grow up having social anxiety and awkwardness it affected me in high school n now in college; can hardly make friends, zero rizz even if girls find me attractive, Been the only one in my own little world and have been working on myself this year trying to break out of my shell and slowly but surely It'll be all good.

  • @user-sf7cz2eb9q
    @user-sf7cz2eb9qАй бұрын

    I'm a 40 year old single dad of 2 and this young man just inspired me. Great video for all ages

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    means alot honestly- 40 pretty younggg im sure ur doing ur best to be a great dad. and that you already are.

  • @LiberalNehru

    @LiberalNehru

    25 күн бұрын

    Respect you uncle 💪

  • @elpelonloko1

    @elpelonloko1

    11 күн бұрын

    Same here brother, I’am 40, single,2 kids when my kids are not with me I’m all alone 100% and I don’t go out but I want to change that

  • @JJustJay
    @JJustJayАй бұрын

    I want to be free but I don't know how. I'm filled with anxiety and self-doubt and don't know how to get rid of it all. This life, this boredom, this emptiness is _suffocating_ . I don't know what to do. I feel so trapped. The key is *right there* and I can reach for it but it's like I'm holding myself back. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    you know what to do jay, Some part of the always knew all along, let ur self go man enough holding back. U are the key.

  • @TheBlackSamurai254

    @TheBlackSamurai254

    Ай бұрын

    Stop watching porn and get off social media it helps me to be present

  • @bedplanks1641

    @bedplanks1641

    Ай бұрын

    The anxiety won’t go away at first. You have to let that anxiety about what you’re doing consume you, and then do it anyway. Your legs will tremble, you’ll probably stutter and embarrass yourself. But it gets easier every time you feel that fear and do it anyway

  • @bedplanks1641

    @bedplanks1641

    Ай бұрын

    You know what to do, you said it yourself that you’re holding yourself back. The mind will tell you how you want to behave but you’ve gotten so used to ignoring it because it’s so much easier (short term) to numb your mind than dealing with that anxiety. If you say something or do something that you can barely breathe beforehand and your voice or body shakes after, that’s a great sign, keep doing things like that and get used to it.

  • @bedplanks1641

    @bedplanks1641

    Ай бұрын

    I don’t know if any of this helps or applies to you, this is what has helped me with my ongoing struggle with social anxiety. Best wishes and winnings for you 🙏

  • @444iris
    @444irisАй бұрын

    Once i get out of this household im gonna get out of the house a lot when i live alone and I'm free

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    I feel you, lets make it happen

  • @Tomaow

    @Tomaow

    Ай бұрын

    I hope we make it

  • @kidkid6600

    @kidkid6600

    Ай бұрын

    This.

  • @taylorharris424

    @taylorharris424

    Ай бұрын

    yo i got 7 months left til freedom rings, how long you got?

  • @444iris

    @444iris

    Ай бұрын

    @@taylorharris424 one year and 7 months but I want to make it less so I get out faster

  • @JoeyElEit
    @JoeyElEitАй бұрын

    He didnt lie.

  • @heavyfromtf2208

    @heavyfromtf2208

    Ай бұрын

    He lied

  • @theguyshetellsunottoworryabout

    @theguyshetellsunottoworryabout

    Ай бұрын

    @@heavyfromtf2208 je didn't akshually.. he talked at least about what I feel

  • @timothycrisp6575
    @timothycrisp6575Ай бұрын

    I’m 25. My home never makes me feel uncomfortable. Matter a fact, being alone at home is my favorite time. I literally only go outside because society demands that I do. If not for that I could be indoors for years with no issues. I’d just talk to myself a lot.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    ahahah i totally get you. tho from here to there in my case i gotta go out and be in nature. but i get ui talk to myself alot too just when im alone lmaoo. much love

  • @YouKnowMeDuh

    @YouKnowMeDuh

    Ай бұрын

    Gotta be careful with that. Another side effect of staying at home too much is that we tend to get a little crazy. Thought patterns, speech, mannerisms and such can transform little by little when we lack input from other people, which inevitably leads to us seeming "off" to other people because we havent actually been practicing social skills in a manner which is open to critique. Even going out to see the crazy world can help you reorient yourself, not just normal people.

  • @nolanrizzo3812

    @nolanrizzo3812

    Ай бұрын

    ⁠​⁠@@YouKnowMeDuh👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻wow awesome speech kinda sound like 5th grader wrote it. We don’t get crazy staying home. Most of know how to get out and be around people🙄. Gotta be careful being too dependable on ppl. If you’re one of those ppl who believe having tons of friends is cool. You have a serious problem my friend

  • @filazkeita2272

    @filazkeita2272

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@nolanrizzo3812You lack comprehension skills

  • @nolanrizzo3812

    @nolanrizzo3812

    Ай бұрын

    @@filazkeita2272 lmao 🤣

  • @ethuurz
    @ethuurzАй бұрын

    I was separated from the Army in 2017 and have been unemployed for the majority of the time since then. Finally in August this year I will be going back into the Army, my waiver was miraculously approved. The Lord God is good. I have been at home this whole time.. i'm still at home. I don't want to leave at all. But I know I should..

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Ey man god bless you. By having the chance to change and improve in it self its a blessing, you got this big boss! Lets get it!

  • @Personalinfo404

    @Personalinfo404

    Ай бұрын

    I got out in 2011 and thinking about going back lol

  • @Mere-Lachaiselongue

    @Mere-Lachaiselongue

    Ай бұрын

    at least you got in to the army, i was denied because of an abusive childhood

  • @Personalinfo404

    @Personalinfo404

    Ай бұрын

    @@Mere-Lachaiselongue you got denied because you told people about it. Sources, my childhood was the same, and I have asthma, again, they never found out about that either.

  • @MogMan763

    @MogMan763

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@Personalinfo404crazy😂

  • @OldSchoolL4D-zb2kt
    @OldSchoolL4D-zb2ktАй бұрын

    All thanks to inhumane and heartless people. You treat children with lack of kindness. You'll have isolated adults.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    tell em! most adults deep down are hurt children

  • @99alp99fila

    @99alp99fila

    Ай бұрын

    You think they give a sh*t they'll eff u up more that's the harsh reality of this world society doesn't no mercy.

  • @ItsMateus
    @ItsMateusАй бұрын

    It’s all in the balance, even the most comfortable position becomes uncomfortable if you stay in it too long

  • @Gamez4eveR
    @Gamez4eveRАй бұрын

    me, who is a hermit, at peace with themselves, and still has an active social life: I can't relate to this at all but this is good advice for those who need it

  • @eelboy9017

    @eelboy9017

    Ай бұрын

    I was thinking the same. Just turned 23. I feel that this video would resonate a lot with my friends. Who I feel are extroverts being held back by various things. But for me, I've always been very happy with solitude - and if I go out, I find it nice to say hello to everyone. But I can happily spend weeks and months alone without it really negatively affecting how I feel about things.

  • @ShxdowBoy_X

    @ShxdowBoy_X

    Ай бұрын

    Same

  • @sofie5192

    @sofie5192

    Ай бұрын

    this is very cool :) it hit for me, but hell yeah peace with self is noice af! good u figured that out!

  • @sournois90

    @sournois90

    Ай бұрын

    honestly youre right, do what you want. i just want to be happy, no matter if its staying at home a lot or going out a lot. maybe the problem is deeper? i just wanted to have friends tbh, and if we made some calls to play online or something i bet i would never feel lonely again. maybe id invite them over and vice versa, go to a cool place.. i took these things for granted when i was younger and now i see how missing those can be painful at least for me

  • @maskmarvin803

    @maskmarvin803

    Ай бұрын

    why'd you comment then? your words are flavorless matter

  • @sleepy1149
    @sleepy1149Ай бұрын

    It’s ridiculous how perfectly timed this was. My first year of college ended about a month ago, and finding a job has been difficult right now, which means I literally didn’t leave my house for a month. I started riding my bike every night during sunset (haven’t rode a bike in like 7 years) for the last few days now, and it’s absurd the mental benefit it’s had.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Yo I am a grown man and I can't balance myself on a bike. I definitely want to get a bike tho so ill try learn. Look at you man! with how you're feeling right now. I bet you know that You deserve to feel like that all the time. Even if you end up somehow going back to feeling bad, you know you can always get yourself out of it like u did before. Proud of ya

  • @orangeninja7680

    @orangeninja7680

    17 күн бұрын

    @sleepy1149 same over here but I just been taking daily walks when it’s nice outside so it’s been a great overall help for my mental health

  • @HappySourPuppy14
    @HappySourPuppy14Ай бұрын

    Wow, I really connected with this. As a child, I used to go out and do a lot of activities but then once I reached adulthood I got burnt out and just felt tired all the time so I ended up staying home, and it was so easy to use the pandemic as an excuse. I'm 24 now and I'm starting to pick myself back up and do things I used to love like going out and making art. I've also been dealing with the guilt of feeling unaccomplished but I just want whoever is reading this to know that it's never too late to start or restart something you love. Don't be scared about getting older either, life is a gift and we shouldn't take it for granted :)

  • @svagolandia9834

    @svagolandia9834

    Ай бұрын

    Please I would really like to talk with you about this and your art in more detail, do you have instagram?

  • @dufanes

    @dufanes

    Ай бұрын

    We're in the same position, bruh. 24, starting art. You, me, same page!!!

  • @nothingchanges014
    @nothingchanges014Ай бұрын

    Staying home is the RESULT of depression, not the cause of it.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Both feed onto each other. Remember . Nothing changes if nothing changes .

  • @a64738

    @a64738

    Ай бұрын

    Staying at home and cutting social contact have reduced my depression to almost nothing... Most people are woke idiots that makes you depressed.

  • @swoop2386

    @swoop2386

    Ай бұрын

    @@a64738you viewing them as woke idiots is what makes you depressed and delusional

  • @Leonardthe3
    @Leonardthe3Ай бұрын

    someone have to give bro a hug

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Glad u noticed bro 😭

  • @CaddRome

    @CaddRome

    Ай бұрын

    😭😭😭​@@Peterwithanr

  • @LuistationChannel
    @LuistationChannel25 күн бұрын

    I’m reading all the comments trying not to feel hopeless or to think something negative about the world of isolation and feeling stuck at a very young age.

  • @xenycx
    @xenycxАй бұрын

    this is what i call perfect timing

  • @coolsa4720

    @coolsa4720

    Ай бұрын

    theres a book hack your mind on borlest, go find it while it is still available

  • @Mr.Mercedez

    @Mr.Mercedez

    Ай бұрын

    Bro even had to put on the Minecraft music, like damn you tryna make me have a breakdown??

  • @xenycx

    @xenycx

    Ай бұрын

    fr. bro how tf i got 90 likes? this guy got popular good form him ⭐

  • @Ayyshaddy

    @Ayyshaddy

    Ай бұрын

    my eyes water of how real this is. Never cry but this hit home..i hope u understand

  • @aranara_song
    @aranara_songАй бұрын

    it's so difficult because as an adult most likely, you're out there everyday working a job you probably don't like with people you probably can't stand. you get to the end of the day and all you want is silence and to be left alone in peace and quiet. this is esp the case when you work any job where you have to deal with costumers, you're just done with life by the end of the day.

  • @savannah58
    @savannah58Ай бұрын

    This was so deep and so true. We get trapped in our inner thoughts and close off our minds by not interacting with the outside world. The mind is powerful and yet scary and controlling at the same time. Baby steps, start somewhere

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    proud of ya for the realization

  • @itsgivingjulia
    @itsgivingjulia19 күн бұрын

    How the algorithm brought this to me I have no idea, but I needed this. Firstly, thank you for making this video. I'm 17. I'm in my last year of highschool. I have zero friends, never leave the house unless it's to go do an exam or food shopping with my mum. I also do online school so I educate myself at home. I'm a girl with long hair and constantly joke about how I'm ''rapunzel'' due to this and never going out. I'm still on my learners (have to be 18 to take license test where I am + I don't have enough hours) and public transport is not close to me. I feel deeply lonely and want to get out of the house. You have inspired me to make next year the year I go out and meet people. Thank you so much.

  • @ForestWW
    @ForestWWАй бұрын

    I absolutely feel this on another level. 24, living at home with my father, who is nearly 66. Too expensive to move out meanwhile I work a lot and work hard, come home, and some days absolutely hate it because I’m so bored and I feel like I’m wasting my life away being home. Coped up with people that only watch the news, highlights all the negatives, turns all the lights off in the house making it dark then sleeping all day, and wants to do nothing but sit around and watch TV but then gets tired of being tired and complains more then goes back to the cycle. So I’m in my room doing nothing. Not everyone is good for you including family and sitting around all the time kills you slowly. Sometimes you just have to get out and do things even if you are alone. You have to be very careful on who you let into your life because some people will bring depressing energy to be honest and we can’t have that. Get out of the house. You live once.

  • @Neros_light

    @Neros_light

    16 күн бұрын

    The family thing was felt. Mine think I'm anti-social but I'm really not. I just don't enjoy being around lots of noise [nephews and nieces] and honestly? They're just not into the same things as me.

  • @napabao7674

    @napabao7674

    14 күн бұрын

    Your 24 have work so I assume you saved some money from your salary so go gym it might help..

  • @jesuslovesu4204
    @jesuslovesu4204Ай бұрын

    This is what im currently learning now in my Relationship with God. I made so many othrr things my comfort my satisfaction, and I forgot that The comforter lives within me, wherever I go! Guys Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. Dont try church or religion, try Relationship and let me know how it goes!😊

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    a deeper connection with god, the holy spirit that lives within us. i totally agree with you

  • @supersaiyanvaper5026

    @supersaiyanvaper5026

    Ай бұрын

    Amen guys

  • @GamerWelfare
    @GamerWelfare15 күн бұрын

    Stayed home for years during covid and now I am forced to go out every day to the office for work. Trust me I NEVER thought "shit I want to go outside". I can stay at home for years and never crave to meet other people. Guess some people are different. The silence and peace of 4 walls is what I want most.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    14 күн бұрын

    if you work a 9 to 5 for enough time home will be the SHINY place. if you stay at home alot and never do anything outside for enough time going outside will be THE SHINY thing that you wanna do. its all phases and based on how you currently feel. a balance is always the key. proud of you tho

  • @Jamesonn404
    @Jamesonn404Ай бұрын

    “Being around people make you know yourself more.” This hits hard. I used to be stuck at home because not only I wanted to do my own stuff, but I wanted to find myself. Instead, I was drowning myself in negative thoughts. Now, I've been going out lately, and this has made me know better who I was. I still struggle to just put myself out there and socialize, but I always try, even if I fail at it. This video was so touching. Thanks man. Keep up the good work.

  • @rei76470
    @rei76470Ай бұрын

    I used to play outside before covid regularly. After staying 2 years at home in lockdown, now I leave my home once a month.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    mmmmmmmmmmm. because listen you got used to it. first it was lock down force by them. but after that our brain plays a lockdown game on us at home even when we can go outside. you got this, how do u feel?

  • @rei76470

    @rei76470

    Ай бұрын

    @@Peterwithanr I'm actually used to it now. I don't feel like going outside anymore. But I'm planning to go outside regularly again after my board exams.

  • @Hunter_The_Baby_Christian
    @Hunter_The_Baby_ChristianАй бұрын

    I’m actually better off not going anywhere because, anytime I’m near ppl , ppl always avoid me, they give me sour looks. I get ignored a lot. I’m actually better off alone. And I’m fine with it

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    So thats the reason for ya which is a valid reason. But why do they even do that?

  • @Hunter_The_Baby_Christian

    @Hunter_The_Baby_Christian

    Ай бұрын

    @@Peterwithanr I wear a lot of black, but only because I’m depressed

  • @thesilvershota3091
    @thesilvershota3091Ай бұрын

    Damn I really needed this bro. I’m 18, have no life and no friends. It wasn’t always like this though. When I was younger I was pretty social and had a friend group, but life happened. I think this video helped me come to a realisation though. If I want to do something, then I should do it. No more procrastination. If I carry on this way, I know I’ll regret it when I’m old. Great video man. You got a sub from me!

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Yeah, definitely will regret it when you're old. But I think you just have to live your life in a way. That you feel like you're actually living. Even if you know the right mindset, it's hard to stick to it 'cause you wont always feel like it. But if you keep standing up for yourself and you keep just trying, you will be amazed from the progress that you are going to make Much love man glad i helped :))

  • @isaiahwalking

    @isaiahwalking

    25 күн бұрын

    Same here my guy.

  • @BensonWannabe

    @BensonWannabe

    11 күн бұрын

    Same age same feelings brother, ur not alone in this

  • @MistyMoonie
    @MistyMoonieАй бұрын

    I relate to this ALOT. Home is where you're supposed to feel comfortable and safe. And if you're being mistreated, it isn't a "home" anymore. Instead, it's a torture place where you're forced to be. I relate to this heavily

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Tell em! Thanks for spreading the message in the comments, much love

  • @ElectrostatiCrow
    @ElectrostatiCrowАй бұрын

    I have severe anxiety and other mental issues. My mind keeps thinking of the worst scenarios Even when I'm home i tend to get less work done. The past 7 years have went by in a blur I don’t know how my life will look in a few years I just hope I'll be a happier person then. 👍

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Just try to be happy today. Because you are always living in today in the future. You will feel that it is today. So the only way to feel happy in the future is to feel happy today

  • @sejalshinde6003
    @sejalshinde6003Ай бұрын

    damn this was so to the point 😭 never knew someone would talk abt this topic like who would even consider

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    🧍‍♂️🤝🧍‍♂️

  • @ayysweetstea9339
    @ayysweetstea9339Ай бұрын

    The World 🌎 Is Nuts i think People want to be Outside but are Scared of How they'll be Treated!. Live People Stay Blessed 🙌 Live!

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Tell emm bless ya

  • @Iuffycs

    @Iuffycs

    Ай бұрын

    I agree

  • @user-sb8hz1np5q

    @user-sb8hz1np5q

    Ай бұрын

    💯💯💯💯

  • @hellothere1973
    @hellothere1973Ай бұрын

    I feel like we are all dreamers as well and good in some way or the other. Probably extremely observant but probably have low self-esteem or imposter syndrome where we don’t believe that we deserve better for ourselves. This video was very helpful and I agree. Every word that you said perfectly described my experience. It’s been years. I want to do a lot but I hold myself back. Staying home you run out of things to do and you start to feel caged and extremely irritated and stagnant. You want to go out but you also don’t. Super complicated but for anyone reading, you do deserve good things. Love and most important love you. If you feel like you have no one to make proud, look at a younger picture of you and make that little girl or boy proud. You deserve it. You do! I love you ❤️

  • @redg9191
    @redg9191Ай бұрын

    Thanks for putting this out as 21 year old Ik I have a lot of potential to live a fulfilling life but the anxiety always kicks in everytime I want to interact with others so that analogy of earth is home and you see yourself in others and we’re meant for that helps. I’m gonna try and get out more now and stand up for your right to prosperity

  • @Sal_buckley
    @Sal_buckleyАй бұрын

    Thank you for making me feel less weird and that im not alone ,I don't what's wrong with me anymore, i swear i tried , a million times, every time i try to go back to my self again i fail , i cut off all my friends because i don't have the energy to talk or to hang out , i switched my studying to online 3 years ago , i think i lost my ability to socialise and when i do i feel it bleed me out and i stay numb and unmotivated for weeks , i trapped myself into a whole mess and i can't get out of it and blame it all on my busy online lectures even though i spend days and weeks just not doing anything and getting all my assignments missed. But i think its a sign i will give another try im only 18 and I'll try to save the rest of my teenage years

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Uk We are in a similar situation. I pushed most of my friends away, I stopped talking to my girlfriend. Because I legitimately feel drained when I talk to them. Doesn't mean it's bad for sure. There is and will be a positive outcome out of it if you use it right. Maybe they weren't the right people for you. And maybe you just need someone that when you talk to you feel energized. But let's not go away from the fact that you have to feel energized by yourself. And in some sense you have to protect your own Energy and not let others drain it. I would say go easy on Yourself and remove the sense of Urgency that you're always feeling. It's OK to live life slow. And once you start living your life slow. And go easy on your self you will actually get it fast

  • @Miraldine
    @MiraldineАй бұрын

    “Home is not Home anymore.” It hits.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    you already knoww

  • @cheriegoesrock
    @cheriegoesrockАй бұрын

    They say the older you get the wiser you get, but I just learned something from a 20 year old man. Thank you for a wonderful video.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Means alot to me. I know you would have alot to teach me too

  • @Anadd_ac

    @Anadd_ac

    Ай бұрын

    Based ❤, same

  • @2Ferst

    @2Ferst

    22 күн бұрын

    lol

  • @Arafat.888
    @Arafat.888Ай бұрын

    "Comfort is the worst addiction"

  • @ridhomaulana2627
    @ridhomaulana2627Ай бұрын

    Definitely can ralate to this. It's ironic that the last place I should be in is the only place I can call home. Thank you

  • @juli-fz7ep
    @juli-fz7epАй бұрын

    the home can either be peace or a cage

  • @tobe-you-tube6612

    @tobe-you-tube6612

    Ай бұрын

    Home isn't a cage.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    More of how u feel inside ot for sure not the home it self for most Of us we just jail ourselves in our heads. Much love

  • @Havetosucceed

    @Havetosucceed

    Ай бұрын

    ​@@tobe-you-tube6612 it's a cage for me

  • @tobe-you-tube6612

    @tobe-you-tube6612

    Ай бұрын

    @@Havetosucceed whY? ❤️

  • @Havetosucceed

    @Havetosucceed

    Ай бұрын

    @tobe-you-tube6612 sounds stupid, but I have very overprotective parents and really can't go outside, I can only go either to the gym or school or to do chores with my Dad, and I really can't go anywhere alone, or hangout with the the few friends that I have. I'm also 17 and a guy, and most people my age normally tend to have such privileges.

  • @abbasmahammed2514
    @abbasmahammed2514Ай бұрын

    Man this came to me at the right time, I resonate with each word you’re saying, it’s that good feeling you get when you know that you’re not the only one going through this, there are people out there and we can help each other come out of situations like these, thanks a lot

  • @Morrocanprincess
    @MorrocanprincessАй бұрын

    Many people these days are home A LOT! I go to restaurants with friends sometimes and all you see circling the parking lot is skip the dishes, Uber Eats, etc. People got so comfortable staying in especially during &after the 2020 fiasco. Nowadays no 3rd places like there was in the 70's, 80's , 90's and early 2000's and the 2010's... I remember when malls were full of teenagers having fun, being a menace, socializing...These days, -malls are practically DEAD. I drive around my city and its sooo quiet after work!!! The world has changed.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Yea out for 2 hrs inside for eternity lolll

  • @fernthaisetthawatkul5569

    @fernthaisetthawatkul5569

    Ай бұрын

    car dependency is also to blame for the growing trend toward teenagers staying inside!

  • @turquoiseheart948

    @turquoiseheart948

    Ай бұрын

    it’s all because of INTERNET.

  • @Slangh
    @SlanghАй бұрын

    I have always been good at entertaining myself. I've lived for my hobbies, gaming, porn addiction. Now I'm 33 and I know I've been serving something that's not constructive to me or my relations. "Home" has pulled me away from life. Some part of me hasn't grown up yet, some part has been neglected. Too much comfort kills. I'm glad that some people can see that at an earlier age. It's all really as simple as you said in this video. Thank you.

  • @Alesiloo
    @AlesilooАй бұрын

    I can't believe how much I feel identified with this. Congrats on being able to put into words a complex feeling that many experience.

  • @rapp8901
    @rapp8901Ай бұрын

    I wish socializing was that easy man

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    i hear you. what do you think about it?

  • @Erotivz
    @ErotivzАй бұрын

    This is amazing please keep making videos like this talking to us making us feel like we have someone to talk to like we’re on the phone with you I started crying a bit

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Ill be here every other day for ya dw :)). How are u?

  • @blakeward7982
    @blakeward7982Ай бұрын

    The part about being trapped by your own thoughts is scarily accurate. Personally, lines of thinking that require a long time / long train of thought seem to be most frequent outside of conversation. Not to disregard deep conversations / discussion , those are a whole different level - however you can know yourself more by being alone. Someone trapped in their own head is the jailer too.

  • @Prod.Christ
    @Prod.Christ25 күн бұрын

    damn i wish my brother saw this , he passed away due to alcohol poisoning and everyday he would spend every minute inside and drink and never really experienced the outside world and never got the chance the travel I pray that yall get thru whatever ur going thru because there is people who love and care about you, spend time wisely , and be positive , much love ❤

  • @Vikkzy
    @VikkzyАй бұрын

    I don’t find it hard enough to go outside. I just don’t have friends that i can go out with

  • @ChocoBunny
    @ChocoBunnyАй бұрын

    I didn't look at it as a prison, my viewpoint was, I was being preserved.

  • @leStripeZ
    @leStripeZАй бұрын

    Been grinding for the last 3 years really isolating myself and just noticed how bad it is.. this video is really good bro keep it up!

  • @julshrooms__
    @julshrooms__23 күн бұрын

    A lot of things you said encouraged me. Despite being introverted, i still crave the experience of being outside. I want to go out not because of people, but because of nature and scenery. I find it difficult to "fit in," and finding the right friend takes a long time. People in general can be problematic, and i always feel like they see me as this "weird person." But those are just excuses. I hope that I, and YOU can find the perfect community to bond with. These days are unpredictable, even if you stay at home, make the best of any moment.

  • @Purelax
    @PurelaxАй бұрын

    This video is so good that I actually almost cried because everything you said is so relatable. As someone who's always stuck at home playing video games and has online friends and a girlfriend, I developed a depression where I'm being unstable towards my online friends, but unlike my classmates, I enjoy being a part of my real-life friends, and I see the difference between me at home and me outside; it's like an alter ego of me. I'm glad I stumbled upon this video, and it really made me see myself as someone who must change in life because I'm already 18 but I still see myself as a kid.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    You are already on the right path, i've been in like 6 online long distance rs, and most oc my friends 8 knew them online, all of us here in comments relate to each other ngl. Fr my personality at home and outside isn SO DIFFRENT ITS CRAZY. but look at you figuring it out at 18 thats fire!! U got this

  • @imperify7671
    @imperify7671Ай бұрын

    i graduated high school a year and since then ive been spending almost all my time at home, it was nice at first but life starts to feel so monotonous and depressing, and it's made my social anxiety even worse

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    For real school also has its pros socializing wise. I feel u. Dont u have friends to go out with or are they just school friends. How are you guts?

  • @Netherite0_0
    @Netherite0_015 күн бұрын

    For real, I just had a minecraft lofi playlist on to study, and I thought it was still playing while I watched this... The sad minecraft music is so fitting. I hope good people find the way into you life, to all who are reading this. I watch many self-improvement videos, and am always curious to hear about the struggles other people have, and how to overcome them, as I experience anxiety sometimes, and I want to help and understand other people. 💕

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    15 күн бұрын

    for reall i will always have my minecraft safe space. i love that c418 track i use it on most my videos ahahah. im glad you came over here

  • @linkxx9954
    @linkxx995428 күн бұрын

    Covid during college screwed so many late Teens to Mid 20's. Because these were the defining years in terms of socializing. Its when you theoretically meet your lifelong friend group or future spouse. My college life wasn't "normal" until my senior year and by then it was kinda too late. At 24 i am just kinda lamenting what could have been.

  • @jeremywinston1
    @jeremywinston1Ай бұрын

    personally my home is my home and that’s about it. i don’t need social interactions, i speak with my friends on discord et cetera (they’re all very far from where i live). I like the “trap” i put myself in, i don’t have a reason to go out. I’m not depressed or scared of people outside, i just enjoy my house more than any other place. Part of it is definitely my Asperger’s syndrome.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    ammm i feel you. i mean i feel you. if its the play for now then it is the play for now. proud of u jeremy. i never heard about aspergers syndrome :o? what is it

  • @jeremywinston1

    @jeremywinston1

    Ай бұрын

    @@Peterwithanr it’s a type of autism. Its symptoms are a bit different for anyone, in my case i have these: - i kind of struggle understanding social situations, especially emotions. What i mean is that i can understand what someone feels but not why, for example i understand the concept of being in love but can’t feel it, or i understand someone being sad but not why that specific thing makes them that sad. For me death is just not being able to see someone for a long time so i won’t cry nor really understand why some people cry that much over it, for example (i will of course respect their feelings though). - i have a sort of repetitive behaviour. In other words when i for example like something, i won’t try to find something better typically. - i can’t stand the slightest change in routine. i have no problem with literally any possible situation as long as i know it’s coming beforehand, but if someone is suddenly changing what i expect the day to go like, it will really disturb me. - strong sounds are really painful - i’m clumsy (it’s an actual symptom 😂) - i have an amazing memory for anything i find interesting and forget really easily anything it doesn’t take my attention

  • @Kingofthenet2

    @Kingofthenet2

    20 күн бұрын

    I agree

  • @user-rk8bs1vx9c
    @user-rk8bs1vx9cАй бұрын

    The moment u turned emotional i got emotional ngl. Best video u made in my opinion thank u so much your content means alot to me. I appreciate you❤

  • @user-rk8bs1vx9c

    @user-rk8bs1vx9c

    Ай бұрын

    Not him trolling after it and making me laugh lol.

  • @freeza8442

    @freeza8442

    Ай бұрын

    Fr love that he adds humor to make us feel good too down 2 earth

  • @annedavi6971
    @annedavi6971Ай бұрын

    Wow, thank you so much for making this video! I´m someone who has been struggling with loneliness and social isolation for years. And pretty much everything u said really resonated with me, and I´m just so happy to see another person who has a similar exprience with being stuck at home as I do. I´m definitely coming back to your channel to check your other videos! Wish you all the best

  • @delairdelair5526
    @delairdelair552616 күн бұрын

    Thanks you so much for your words and honesty

  • @kxlllucid
    @kxlllucidАй бұрын

    i resonated with everything but it didn't make me cry because i've been processing this for a while. It almost feels like my entire life has been consumed by isolation, with or without many friends. It's really comforting to hear that im not alone with this struggle. thank you

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Much love ahaha, thank YOU!

  • @kxlllucid

    @kxlllucid

    Ай бұрын

    @Dymeon it’s only comforting to know that it isn’t an experience that im only going through. I’ve had phases in and out of it and im going through a breakup rn so im seeking a way out and this video found me at the perfect time.

  • @kxlllucid

    @kxlllucid

    Ай бұрын

    @Dymeon didn’t say i needed it it’s jus cool to know. it’s not that deep bro

  • @eli92
    @eli9220 күн бұрын

    It’s really all about finding a healthy balance. Which is easier said than done. The good news is once you have a schedule and you try and stick to it…..it starts becoming a habit. Which is good. Plan different things to do and try and stick to your plan. Sometimes you just feel like being home and you should allow yourself to do that as well. I’m a loner, I love being home. Sometimes I have to force myself to get out more. It is what it is. Don’t sweat it. Allow yourself to be.

  • @deraykrause4517
    @deraykrause451714 күн бұрын

    As an introvert, I cannot relate to this video. I love my house. I filled it with things I enjoy. I never feel trapped by it. It is my sanctuary. I do hang out with friends but most of the time they come over to my place cause I got all the best toys.

  • @thefuture4266
    @thefuture4266Ай бұрын

    I work 50 and sometimes 60 hours a week, being home is the only place I want to be

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    i understand. proud of u for being a hard worker.

  • @nou.5822
    @nou.5822Ай бұрын

    This video actually made me Cry, this has to be the most honest and down to earth video I've ever seen. Thank you

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    Cmonn most honest?!! Thanks for ur big kind words, hope ur having a good day :))

  • @EcomCarl
    @EcomCarlАй бұрын

    Such a relatable comparison! It's essential to recognize when home starts feeling like a limiting space and actively seek out new experiences for personal growth and fulfillment. Getting out, socializing, and exploring new horizons not only broadens our perspectives but also helps us reconnect with ourselves and the world around us. 🌍✨

  • @rodrigotovar848
    @rodrigotovar848Ай бұрын

    Thank you, really needed to listen to someone who understands

  • @maxinenavarro9584
    @maxinenavarro9584Ай бұрын

    I completely agree with you. When I stay at home for too long, I often reach for my phone and drown myself in the Internet to entertain myself. I did this enough times to realize just how much I have closed myself off to my family and inadvertently shut down any chances of potentially having an enjoyable conversation with them. I'm no one important but I hope you see this. Thank you for being vulnerable, thank you for speaking your mind, this really helped me realize that it's time I take matters into my own hands and start taking it upon myself to regain that 'sanity' and just live. Much love! Hope you're doing well :)

  • @bruh-ch3hb
    @bruh-ch3hbАй бұрын

    you described it so well 😭 literally toxic relationship. i know it's bad to stay but i CANT leave although i do want to do it? it seems so cozy but also it's slowly destroying me

  • @bruh-ch3hb

    @bruh-ch3hb

    Ай бұрын

    pandemic did this to me

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    @@bruh-ch3hb i feel you u know deep down u can you always can there is no i could have here thats alrd past. ig you gotta see the situaition not say its bad or good but just is as is. just a situaition. but we do make big games in our heads making it seem way bigger than it is and impossible i hear you. but you got this.

  • @makkachin9614
    @makkachin9614Ай бұрын

    This hits so hard, I turned 22 a while ago and I feel like nobody around me understands the things you talked about. I'm tired of hearing how it must be so nice for me, staying at home alone every day being able to do "what I want". I live in a small town in the countryside, don't have money to drive to the city. I can't even go outside for a walk, because there are some people I don't want to meet under any circumstances. The town is so tiny, I'd certainly meet them. Going on a walk here just gives me a lot of anxiety so the only option is to stay in my room day in day out. I'm tired of it, but I'm especially tired of how people think I'm living some kind of dream life. It's pretty much mental torture and makes you loose your will to live. The things you explain really hit the nail on the head, I'm an introvert and I do really enjoy being alone but no human interactions will make you feel drained and like you're not even living no matter who you are. So guys, please if you have the possibility take the initiative, talk to your friends first, go out to the bakery to buy something in person instead of opting for delivery, try joining a yoga class or just meet up with someone for tea at home! The first step is recognizing the situation you are in, staying at home too much isn't good for you. And by watching this video you already took that first step, it's only going to get better from here on

  • @Mr.L24123

    @Mr.L24123

    Ай бұрын

    I'm 20 this is so relatable. I wanted to comment the same thing .Because we are practically walking in the same shoes .We will make it mate .Just keep the faith.

  • @anomarie

    @anomarie

    Ай бұрын

    I'm turning 23 and its hard to get up and go out to do things by my own volition when my family members around me are quite reclused and seemingly distant, I'm worried for them but at the same time I don't think I can change them.

  • @gabemartinez210
    @gabemartinez210Ай бұрын

    I’m so happy I found this video , I been alone in my room for far too long now , trying to “become the best version of myself” and trying to “get work done” but it’s absolutely hell , especially alone. Being alone with my thoughts and not expressing them it’s the worst , especially when you start to have bad thoughts because of the work and discipline I haven’t achieved. I genuinely can’t do this alone anymore , you just opened my eyes to a lot of my problems and I appreciate you for doing this video ❤. Hope you find success with this channel and God bless you my friend 💪

  • @somerandomperson5009
    @somerandomperson500914 күн бұрын

    you've put what i've been feeling for the past months or for over a year so well into words, the younger me 2 3 years ago when i was about 14/15 thought that staying home is my peace and i don't need to find or explore more when i have my 'online friends' and comfort with what lied under that roof, in the screen. which over time has fired back on me in an awful manner, there's this social anxiety and a hardship when trying to talk to someone my age, this feeling that i've missed out on so much, the 'online friends' or anyone at all, to notice them doing things i'd been craving for feels wrong and jealous? and there's this feeling of inferiority against everyone that is felt. in short, this place that i thought would always be a source of peace has turned into poison, im just 18 and either way its not the end of the world of course, my college will be starting in a month or two so im looking forward to try my best and make more friends and fulfil the gaps. cause all i ever want now is friends in front of me that i could relate, talk to and hang out and do everything that i have missed out on and hopefully, it should all turn out to be alright.

  • @i.7081
    @i.708111 күн бұрын

    I’ve stayed home all throughout high school and I’m seeing this on my 18th birthday. It might be time for a change…

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    11 күн бұрын

    WOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOO HAPPY BIRTHDAYYYY YOOO :))))))

  • @GillesLouisReneDeleuze
    @GillesLouisReneDeleuzeАй бұрын

    I don't stay at home. But problem with going out is that other people don't go out, so it's still hard to meet people.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    if this video reaches millions we gon say our country's at this point and make friends lmao. i feel you heavy. lets first be the change and go out to encourage more ppl and push the message out more

  • @GillesLouisReneDeleuze

    @GillesLouisReneDeleuze

    Ай бұрын

    @@Peterwithanr Thanks. Yeah it would be cool to have some kind of a movement about genuine offline communication.

  • @zukosmancave
    @zukosmancaveАй бұрын

    it honestly gets to the point where you have to find SOMETHING to actively and productively do, you take the words out of my mouth man

  • @nobodyaskedbut...3292
    @nobodyaskedbut...3292Ай бұрын

    This is GOLD. A great reminder for a hermit like me. Thanks so much.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    I appreciate you much love :))

  • @BalancedBunny222
    @BalancedBunny222Ай бұрын

    I met my husband in 2020 and he was doing a great job pulling me out of the house, out of my comfort zone. He died just over a year ago, i have no car, no job, just a baby and kids. I slowly stopped texting everyone, i don't even want to go to the doctor..im so tired and angry and frustrated with messes around my home

  • @kader1034

    @kader1034

    Ай бұрын

    I just read your post and I can feel your pain. May your husband rest in peace. You need to stay strong. Don’t give up you can do it ❤

  • @BalancedBunny222

    @BalancedBunny222

    Ай бұрын

    @kader1034 thank you so much 💓

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    What.. im so sorry for your loss. He def was making ur world. I kniw that a part of u might feel that u didnt show enough or could have done more with him or what if he was still with me. All these thoughts will make u def stop texting people. And get in a shell. But he would be so proud of u and want whats best for you. He is within you all. And will live through you. You deserve to feel alive because remember u are alive. ❤️❤️ proud of u for being strong.

  • @BalancedBunny222

    @BalancedBunny222

    Ай бұрын

    @Peterwithanr yes that's exactly true. Those types of thoughts haunt me. I'm doing my best to stay positive and alive for these kids thpugh..thank you so much for the beautiful reply❤️

  • @WhiteStripesStripiestFan

    @WhiteStripesStripiestFan

    17 күн бұрын

    How do you survive??

  • @SherXP
    @SherXP16 күн бұрын

    Thanks for the honesty and optimistic vibes dude. I definitely agree that if you ever feel like going outside, or that you feel trapped inside, it might be helpful to try something new or go someplace new. Fresh experiences, perhaps even habits can do a healthy number on your health. I’d definitely take home over a lot of things, however.

  • @DJDOUBLE077
    @DJDOUBLE07728 күн бұрын

    This is what I call losing oneself or lost equilibrium. Mind, body, and soul work in tandem to create harmony/balance. This is very important because the abundance of distraction in our modern world combined with lack of human interaction can cause lack of focus. Exercise, education, maybe even a little meditation would make a world of difference when we struggle at any point in life. Hitting the reset button on occasion is needed. Just my opinion.

  • @ark7073
    @ark7073Ай бұрын

    That was very touching. I’m not sure what it was, but your words felt very organic, very real. I like the highly unedited, raw feeling you give off. Keep going bro, thanks for your words.

  • @FixelZX
    @FixelZX22 күн бұрын

    Thank you so much man. I've been at home for weeks because of being sick with a cough, and today I got to go outside for once because of my guitar lessons. Now I watch this video after having it in my watch later for so long, and now I feel like going to the rooftop right now, and just enjoy the cloudy windy weather.

  • @twotonepatek
    @twotonepatek8 күн бұрын

    I've been going outside by myself for the past 3 years now. Everything i do outside, whether it's gym or just walking around, i do it alone, surrounded by people who are hanging out with others. I turned 20 not long ago and I stopped going out, not because i like staying home, but because I don't wanna go out by myself for no reason, unless it's gym. I just want some natural long lasting friendships so i can hang out with them dawg... all I've been asking for for the past 3-4 years. Btw it is pretty easy for me to make friends, what seems impossible for me is to keep these friendships. At some point they just get tired of me and they go to others. Maybe my personality is boring, idk, and when they leave, they don't tell me why so idk where I went wrong... if i did. Best of luck to all of y'all habibiz

  • @BohemianHealing
    @BohemianHealingАй бұрын

    I was sick for awhile and became depressed, and hardly left home and got into a deeper hole. I found this video on the algorithm, which was a perfect video being that i been in that frame of mind.

  • @Peterwithanr

    @Peterwithanr

    Ай бұрын

    you are loved

  • @BohemianHealing

    @BohemianHealing

    Ай бұрын

    @@Peterwithanr awww thats so sweet! thank you 🥰

  • @user-bs9vi4xi6j
    @user-bs9vi4xi6jАй бұрын

    Ever since I got home schooled I've felt homesick.

  • @whizziethewise2924
    @whizziethewise2924Ай бұрын

    I miss waking up early before school, *as odd as that sounds for some of you* and turning on MTV 2 watching music vids as I make myself my pot of coffee and get ready for the day... as an adult I don't have that same mindset; it's like a matured in reverse and now I would rather just sleep in and pretend the world around me doesn't exist.

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