If a man ever hits you, leave. He WILL do it again. If a man ever cheats on you, leave. He WILL do it again. If a man lies to you, leave. He WILL do it again. Something my father said to me on my 13th birthday.

@jubimathew3169

Жыл бұрын

I only wish 😢

@lonesomebeetroot3376

Жыл бұрын

My ex fiancé cheated on me and I found out and immediately called my father. He told me to tell him a new apartment complex he would pay the first rent and I would love there and he would be there first thing in the morning. He flies oit 9 hours to move me: the funniest thing I think I’ve ever heard ; he said he wanted my lingerie: my dad was like “oh you think it would look good on you?l. And dried eight up

@anayarey

Жыл бұрын

​@@lonesomebeetroot3376 So your dad moved you?

@lucineideamelia9340

Жыл бұрын

Sabias palavras😮

@sharonbarker5751

Жыл бұрын

Excellent advice. Thank you:)

I grew up hearing my mother expressing how a woman should not accept or tolerate domestic violence so when I got married & had two children all was well..One day I had heard my husband yelling at my Mom & asked him not to disrespect my Mom. He then took off his belt saying what he intended to do to me.. Trust me I contacted an Attorney the very next day & filed for divorce. I never looked back. That was 35 years ago!

@dianalove539

Жыл бұрын

👏 the audacity of men sometimes :/ really love to abuse their power :(

@georgia8592

Жыл бұрын

❤

@sandrafernandez3839

Жыл бұрын

Good on you!

@stephaniewood1547

11 ай бұрын

Good for you!! ❤

@bizzlebop1987

11 ай бұрын

That's how it's gotta go. Because once you start allowing it it gets worse and worse. People say "why don't they just leave." Sometimes people are financially dependent etc so they can't. But a lot of times it's bc they have been being a used so badly for so long they fear retaliation because it's happened before. It's such a sick cycle. Good for you to have the courage and resources to do that for you and your family. No one deserves that

I'm so sorry for what you have been through. I am a DV survivor. My ex threw me out of a moving truck head first. All the bones in my face were broken, my jaw was wired shut for a year; had 3 operations on it. Had a closed head injury, was on life support, was in a coma for a month. Sandra, I am not comparing what happened to me to the horror you endured. Just know your not alone. Unfortunately, it happens way to often. I was fortunate in the fact that the hospital I was taken to was amazing hospital, Vanderbilt was an A1 trauma center, that saved my life. And beyond that, it was just a plain miracle. My head was bigger than my shoulders, and I didn't look human. Had lost skin to the bone. And I have almost no scars. I have very few deficits. I do live with pain, and some memory issues due to the head injury. But I did recover, and even became a DV counselor, public speaking and did fund raising for years. I am retired now. I wish you all the best. I know how difficult it is to share something so painful. Thank you for your strength. May you be blessed with all good and health and happiness. A fellow warrior, you are a warrior, not a survivor!!!!

@Somebody86

Жыл бұрын

No one person deserves to be treated like this. It breaks my heart that you and Saundra from this video. Lived through something so horrible. I pray for all the best for you two and other woman like you. I hope that other woman can learn from your stories and do something before it’s to late. I send you hugs and many blessings. True woman warriors ❤

@ellerbeerss1377

Жыл бұрын

I could not have finished editing my comment (up there) any better. So I agree w @Jacque727. TY both of u, both strong ladies. I a DS also. TY

@Jacque727

Жыл бұрын

@@Somebody86 Thank you. If it helps even one person, that one less person suffering.

@misstinahamilton5714

Жыл бұрын

You’re a miracle !!! I’m so sorry that happened to you 🙏🏽❤️

@lesleywright2823

Жыл бұрын

♥️

This is why I get frustrated when people say that healthcare in the US is the best in the world. No, US healthcare is the best in the world if you have money. If you don’t, they let you die.

@countrygirl6003

4 күн бұрын

True.

@sharonwong8280

3 күн бұрын

@LegalAlien100 - having money will buy you healthcare ANYWHERE, not just in USA. Many, many countries do not have ANY free healthcare. You have no idea what's it like.

@melliecrann-gaoth4789

3 күн бұрын

In many European countries there is free healthcare for emergency healthcare and cancer care. And also other care for e.g surgeries that are non emergency are on waiting lists.

@sandyschneider6792

3 күн бұрын

The hospital ER in FL (I will not name the hospital) let my niece’s fiance die when they were accosted at a gas station. He had no insurance 🫣🤬🧐🩺

@alessiat4528

2 күн бұрын

​@@sandyschneider6792 Omg the USA Is hello on earth. Money has more value than people, and that's you it's the most miserable country in the world.

My father told me, don’t stay married to a man who hits you, if he hits you once he’ll do it again.

I am a survivor of DV. The most dangerous time was when I was leaving him. I truly feared for my life. Please ladies, be careful in relationships. If you feel something isn't right, if you see red flags, get out.

@bernedettekuteyi3843

Жыл бұрын

OUR GREAT FATHER IN HEAVEN IS YOUR HEALER. NEVER FORGET THAT, MY COUSIN WAS MURDERED BY HER ABUSIVE COWARD HUSBAND

@gatanegra8815

Жыл бұрын

Or stay away from relationships altogether. It´s even better.

@thebohomom

Жыл бұрын

My best advice is DONT TELL THEM your leaving. I fled with my kids while my ex was at work

@flavia8504

Жыл бұрын

What if your partner lives in YOUR house and he just wouldn't leave?

@riggs20

Жыл бұрын

@@flavia8504 I would get out of the house if your fearful of your safety and then get a lawyer to help you evict your partner. Good luck to you whatever you do.

She would be a great candidate for the show "Botched". I spent 40 years married to a man who beat on me then turned around and call me ugly because he disfigured me!

This is why I live alone, safe and peaceful, don't need any man, take care of myself

@letsbefruitful5457

5 күн бұрын

I’m telling you 🙌🏾

@izzydeadyet7336

2 күн бұрын

I lived alone with my kids for years and it was peaceful after growing up with my crazy parents and then having 2 kids with an alcoholic man who was always getting in shit..I left when the kids were babies and never looked back.. until last year, me and my kids, now teenagers, got evicted and became homeless due to a two bedroom apartment now costing upwards of $1700 a month plus utilities, I knew I could no longer afford to be a single mom..no one wanted to rent a 1 bedroom or bachelor to three of us, we were screwed! Until their dad, who I’ve been separated from 14 years, offered to give up his place and split a place with us.. it was the only option.. he has a solid job and has been seeming to have calmed down a lot since we were together last.. so we found a 3 bedroom for $ 1900 and the kids and him get rooms and I take the living room.. as soon as I moved in with him, I had been on social assistance since my kids were born and working sporadically because of a health issue, they cut me off! I lost my ability to lay my part of the rent and my prescription coverage over night! So now I’m living with a man who I left because of domestic violence reasons, and I can’t pitch my part of the rent! He’s been stuck covering it and I know he’s Gina kick us out when the lease is up.. he barley talks to me and I really am worried for my safety sometimes.. I sleep on the couch and last week when I got up I found a giant knife on the chair behind my couch , I wanted to ask the kids if any of them left it there? Because he gets up and leave for work at like 5 am and I’m passed out there, it just freaks me out he could do something to me while I sleep.. I wish the government knew what position they put women in this way.. I’ve never been married to this man and we’re not a couple now! It was an emergency to keep my kids off the street!

@redbone8844

Күн бұрын

This because men become jealous and possessive leave them where they at

This has got to be one of the most devastating testimonies I’ve ever heard. Saundra, may God bless you🤗

@mickiepisces

Жыл бұрын

Amen and Amen 🙏

@Onelightoftheworld

Жыл бұрын

I love your comment! ❤

@australianwoman9696

Жыл бұрын

Sadly it's a common story. I know of other similar testimonials, particularly from Pakistan where it's common for a husband to mark their wives by burning them accross the face & upper body. This is a CONTROL measure. In order to prevent the wayward partner from seeking attention from other men. They want their partner to be submissive & obedient. There was even one case where a man strung up his wife by her feet. And proceeded to blind her, cut off her nose, lips & ears. It was the only case where a woman successfully sued her husband for battery. 😢

@jbissainthe

Жыл бұрын

@@Onelightoftheworld , such a gut wrenching story. I wish I had never seen this story, however, it’s people like me that can help spread awareness and hopefully dissuade other men from abusing the women in their lives. This is an abomination!

@Onelightoftheworld

Жыл бұрын

@@jbissainthe I agree!

I am shocked that she stayed at the bar untill it closed. And no one called 911.

@niloezhan910

Жыл бұрын

I thought the same😢 why didn’t anyone help at the bar and call the ambulance 🥺

@Jlove-hf9xw

8 ай бұрын

Me too. I'm like "Why in the hell didn't they call 911 to report the attack?"

@leratomusi4595

17 күн бұрын

20 years ago things were different and most people stayed away from domestic issues because the women always stayed

@Corinabs

14 күн бұрын

Don’t be surprised I asked for help directly from strangers and nothing no one helped even when they heard what was happening when it was happening aside from a gas station worker lol😅

@georgiayoung9124

7 күн бұрын

Who here is shocked?? Had two bar husbands…all their buds were bar buds. I get that part. What I couldn’t get was her going right back to bar all night then home. What?

There are charities that do plastic surgery for victims of domestic violence. I wish her happiness and love in this world

@karenmorente7589

5 күн бұрын

What charity helps with surgery after domestic or other violent attacks mains people

@MeowMeow-by8ub

4 күн бұрын

Do a google search. There are several. I just tried to post a list but KZread wouldn’t allow me to do it. Reconstructing hope is one , face forward Nikki Manaj mom’s foundation.

@sandrat3500

4 күн бұрын

Did you tell t his woman how to get help wiith surgery?

@MeowMeow-by8ub

3 күн бұрын

@@karenmorente7589 , my comment was removed. I don’t know that woman. A quick google search will show the charities that help people who are disfigured from domestic violence.

My parents were addicts for awhile and my dad was pretty violent... one day ny mom went to her mother with a black eye, asking "what do i do?? Hes the father of my children.." and my grandmother asked her "what if your little girl came home to you with a black eye. How would you feel? If you stay with that man, youre teaching her that this is okay." Thats what made my mom finally leave him... 10-12 years later and my dad is clean and has turned his life around. Them splitting up was the best thing that could have happened for either of them

Imagine if she was single, she would have been so happy 🥺

@Hllee6428

6 күн бұрын

Yes given what she's been through, being single would have made her happier.

There are 3 early signs of potential future violence: 1. a man that gets very angry at anything; that has an "explosive" mood, 2. a mini violence before the actual violence (a miniature push on your arms, for example), 3. a toxic behavior trying to put down the woman with verbal abuse first. Twice in my life I saw women near man like that and physical violence came next. Before I saw this happen, I had read these 3 signs in an interview with a psychologist in a magazine. If anyone knows any other sign, please write it here so more women can read about it. All the characteristics of a psychopathic personality applies here.

Poor lady. I’m glad she’s telling her story.

When she said "I had to really fight to want live again " hits home. Deep and powerful state.

If a man treats you badly, mental abuse, physical abuse.. Those are his problems. It is a horrific dynamic, every woman should be treated with respect! Thank you so much for sharing your survival, God bless you!

@elsiereyes3340

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. So sorry. May God bless you n ur family

@jeanamartin7311

Жыл бұрын

Amen, and don’t let a miserable man or abusive be your company that u keep… the misery is already his God bless u ❤

@red_words

11 ай бұрын

Yeah and stop having babies with ungodly men and then expecting nice guys to pick up the pieces.

@marydaniels9298

10 ай бұрын

An absolute survivor 🎉

@user-qu4ey5yy3f

6 ай бұрын

"Every woman should be treated with respect." Shouldn't every human be treated with respect? Some human's behavior is undeserving of RESPECT!

She has unfathomable strength. I literally can’t believe it. Her ex husband is a scoundrel and so is the medical system that made this even worse.

@KantoCafe715

Жыл бұрын

I haven't watched it all, but I could guess these injuries weren't from.the assault. Assault is terrible, of course. But that's not what can do this kind of damage.

@misstinahamilton5714

Жыл бұрын

@@KantoCafe715 It was a severe infection she got after he hit her. And medical neglect. It’s worth watching the story. Either way if he hadn’t assaulted her this wouldn’t have happened .

@helixmoore7636

Жыл бұрын

@@KantoCafe715 He is still 100% responsible

@janellejulianajoy

9 ай бұрын

​@@KantoCafe715Definitely his fault, 100% His abuse led to the infection.

@missKC19

8 ай бұрын

Scoundrel?! Wow! You are very polite!

This is just a horribly sad story. It is unbelievable that this lady went through this miserable experience. So glad her mother took her kids in. Hopefully she was more loving to her grandkids than she was to her own daughter. The best part about this is that she was able to carry on. She stopped drugs and pulled herself together.

@mekim4232

Жыл бұрын

Same with my mom, she is loving to my kids than ever was to me and I appreciate that a lot and in fact I think its the base of our mother and daughter relationship. I wish this lady all the best in life.

@alisongibbons590

7 күн бұрын

Yes being traumatized effects everyone especially young children . One of my biggest regrets in life was that I let someone hurt me I wish I would have left right away but for some reason I always thought that it was my fault . It's really never easy please be kind to on another

It baffles me how some people could be so self-centred and abusive, her ex was a complete monster. I'm also confused how no one at the bar called 911 when they saw her injuries.

@moooshie

Жыл бұрын

I guess they were just as much as evil as her ex husband was. They didn’t give a dam.

@juliehurst3846

11 ай бұрын

All lowlives couldn't help themselves

@juliehurst3846

11 ай бұрын

They are self centred so f leave them

@juliehurst3846

8 ай бұрын

Would have been all drunk couldn't help themselves, total scum,

@Jlove-hf9xw

8 ай бұрын

I'm confused too. Why in the hell didn't they call 911 to report the attack?

Don't wear the mask! Domestic violence for 27 years. Your story is so important and your life is so precious ❣️

@GD-xc4wg

6 ай бұрын

♥️

I was in similar situation. I thought him wanting to be around me all the time was a sign of love but it’s NOT!

Sandra what a strong person you are and your beautiful family is a testament to you.

Can we crowdfund to get her the very best therapy and corrective surgery available?? She has to be in pain and so, so traumatized. What an incredible beautiful courageous human. She is amazing. Survivors like this deserve our hearts.

@dorcasirizarry5494

Жыл бұрын

Maybe she has a therapist now & maybe she has good medical now? I would love to know because indeed it would be a great cause! I think it’s so kind that u want to help!! I wish I had $$, I would love to reach out to ppl in need too. I’ve had cancer on & off for 18 years so I now have nothing except 2 great sisters (& their spouses)who let me & my daughter live with them. I say that to show, if everyone had great family, less ppl would be fighting these fights alone! Thank u for your big ♥️ Let me know if u find out anything about her present situation. 🙏🏼

@dorcasirizarry5494

Жыл бұрын

@@chipmouse4921 Bless u for caring…sometimes being attached to the internet certainly gets a bum-rap for many good reasons but to think we all watched this story & our hearts were touched so we encourage each other, is an amazing thing!!! We don’t even know each other but love & goodwill blast thru the barriers of race, religion & borders of countries to be moved by 1 lady’s brave story & care & encourage each other…to me, that’s a beautiful thing!! Keep on believing everyone!! Love will find a way♥️

@conclavecabal.h0rriphic

Жыл бұрын

@@dorcasirizarry5494 I’ve tried looking and so far haven’t found anything…if you or anyone else that stumbles across this comment thread does please let us know!

@conclavecabal.h0rriphic

Жыл бұрын

@@dorcasirizarry5494 18 years?! Holy cannoli…that has to be rough going. Glad to read that you have two sisters helping you. Still, you’ve obviously been through a lot of suffering, pain, sleepless nights…I’m so sorry. I hope you are feeling better these days? 💙

@baecee5586

Жыл бұрын

Why?? According to her, she squandered the money she won in a lawsuit on drugs. Go ahead. Crowfund to get her money so she can afford drugs again.

Never stay in a relationship that you are being physically,mentally, or verbally abused. Leave quickly. You deserve much better. If you don’t love yourself you can’t love anyone else.💕

@moodmeditation4458

Жыл бұрын

They follow you and finish you dont leave for other males. Male instincts. So better be aware who you are getting close with.

@LKre-vi5oq

Жыл бұрын

Leave, but don't tell them. Get out, get safe, get a new phone, move across the country if you can, if you can't, find a safe place with safe people. NEVER TELL THEM.

@paulineveigas6976

Жыл бұрын

Well said👌👌

@treatpeoplewithkindness5466

Жыл бұрын

@L. Kre excellent advice .. it is important to plan a exit plan safely

@elizabethbathory6144

Жыл бұрын

@@moodmeditation4458 Avoid the male macho types...

I would love to hear her children's perspective on what they experienced through this all. As a parent and an ex functional addict myself I still struggle with self forgiveness to this day. My now adult daughter she's me as her hero but I always tell her not to say that because she should NEVER have endured this kind of childhood. Her reply was " neither should you, but you choose to beat the odds." I'm so proud of the woman she's become ❤

@marthastrayton

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤❤

@misstinahamilton5714

Жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

@misstinahamilton5714

Жыл бұрын

My mom wasn’t an addict but my dad was - but I witnessed horrific abuse against my mom from my dad and at times my dad beat myself and my siblings as well. I was always close to my mom but did harbor some resentment . Why did she not get us out of the situation so we didn’t have to grow up that way etc …. I educated myself as an adult on DV and other psychological aspects and it helped me understand tremendously. My mom and I had a talk a few years ago and it was the first time she said “ I should’ve never had you kids around that .” I had already forgiven her and let it go and she knows that. I think she’s a hero just like you are ❤

@natahliak7691

Жыл бұрын

@misstina hamilton Thank you for you input on this and I am sorry you had tough childhood. I'm sure your mum is so proud of the beautiful and intelligent young lady you've become. I'm happy that you have both moved forward from this. It definitely is not easy. Sending hugs to you and your mum. 😘

@misstinahamilton5714

Жыл бұрын

@@natahliak7691 thank you. And I’m proud of you as a woman and a mother 🙏🏽❤️

It’s stories like these that keeps me single… n happy

There is a special place in he'll for him.

I am so angry with the stinkin MEDICAL. They don’t care if a pretty young woman, if she’s poor, loses her face. But this lady is very strong and has beautiful, strong children.

I’m so glad I left my abusive ex. I thought he would kill me. Glory be to God.

I'm a survivor of domestic violence, and I thank you for sharing this so the one's who say, and I've heard this many times, oh she must like it because she stays, that is the most degrading thing you can say to someone. Why not ask how can I help you.

@maureenhuertas9264

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for saying that! I too am a survivor and that is one of the worse things a person can say. I was with my abuser from 14-28 😔 I knew nothing else and before I knew it, I was alienated from EVERYONE

It’s crazy all this happened from an infection from being punched.

@Mia-es1rp

Жыл бұрын

I thought I had missed something and had to rewatch the beginning again to hear what caused it...but wow I had no idea that was possible either.

@treewitch666

Жыл бұрын

@@Mia-es1rp she was lying in the street for a while, she doesn’t say what kindof conditions she was in but with open wounds in the street who knows?

@dorcasirizarry5494

Жыл бұрын

Well I think the drugs/alcohol made her not feel the pain so she was able to go home & sleep where other ppl would feel it immediately & would run to get medical help. It had a chance to get much worse during all that time. The rest of the damage seemed to happen from the lousy hospital that sent her home like that with a medicine she had an allergic reaction to. It sounded like parts of her face must have had long time periods with blood flow cut off to them so they literally died!! That had to have been why they had to cut sections off. I don’t think the drugs/alcohol had anything to do with the actual original injury but they kept her from running to a hospital. So sad 😞

@luvmyangels3

10 ай бұрын

I didn’t even know this was possible! Horrible how the medical community can be sometimes too. 😢

@drucshlook

9 ай бұрын

Internal bleed that trigger necrosis And of course a shitty ass doctor. But I think since covid people are more aware doctors are just like everybody else. 90% of morons and 10% of smart talented individuals.

You are such an encouragement, Saundra, thank you!

@tbong9293

Жыл бұрын

Agree!

You're a beautiful woman miss Sandra, and you are a survivor ! Thank you for sharing your story.

@jeanneratterman

Жыл бұрын

🥰💖🙏

I love how she has turned her mindset around “I’m not going to feel like that’s my problem anymore” very inspiring!

So glad you sued that Dr. He deserved it! You are so strong and brave. It has been a long struggle, but, you made it. So glad you are sharing your story about domestic violence 👏🏻❤. God bless you🙏🏻

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I wonder if the justice served and your ex husband got what was coming to him.

@carolhutchinson7763

Жыл бұрын

No mention of the police being called. He deserved to have happen to him what he did to her and it's a real possibility. I used to work with the homeless and have been told by ones who were in jail that they and others will beat up a man who beats up a woman or child.

@helensadeik400

10 ай бұрын

@@carolhutchinson7763hand to the public 🥵

@rebeccahughes7766

Күн бұрын

The justice system usually does nothing for DV and when there is DV they blame both parties and the victim is just as likly to get introubke for seeking help anymore if they do as the abusers. Self defence isn't allowed and the good old phrase she asked for it is still strong alive and raging in humanity.

No woman deserves that kind of treatment

@TheendofBabylon

Жыл бұрын

Not one .... smh

Its so horrific what happened to this woman. Her husband is evil of course, that doesn't even need to be said, but what just blows my mind is the atrocious behavior of the hospital, medical teams. The dismissal of her condition and casually condeming her to death is inhuman. My mother is a retired doctor and she has told me similar (thankfully rare) stories of such lack of empathy to patients, but they never cease to horrorify me.

I knew Sandra when I was a little girl!! We met her through our church I believe. So crazy seeing her pop up on my feed! I’ve only ever seen her with her mask on. It’s incredible to see her bravely telling her story❤️ Wishing her all the best! Thank you for sharing your story🙏🏻

@GD-xc4wg

6 ай бұрын

♥️

My mom was a victim of DV , very evil things were done to her including 2 miscarriages courtesy of my father, and this was in the late 1960's into the early ' 70s . The police did nothing.

She's so inspiring and beautiful inside and out

You are a survivor and beautiful.

You're amazing! You could've made many more horrible decisions, but you did wake up! Your candor, honesty and kindness is magnetic!!!!

Funny, I barely see her scars. She is so healthy and vibrant that I when I'm listening to her telling her story she feels like the beautiful woman she once was and will always be.

@VelvetyMoon

7 ай бұрын

Love this.

Wow !! The strength it took to survive all that and come out of it still able to smile is incredible !!! May you be blessed with a joyful life 😊

I cried hearing this story because I too survived domestic violence. Mine started from age 17-28. I am blessed I did not have physical scars or get into drug abuse like my abuser. I do have pain from being his daily punching bag and surviving what I believe were concussions from blows to the back of my head but I am alive! The trauma that still exists is in my mind because it’s very hard to be unaffected by someone constantly telling you no one loves you and you are a waste of air. I would say parents make sure you spend lots of time with your kids & show them how valuable they are! I put my whole life on hold to stay at home with mine. My Mother was always gone working, my Dad left us when we were little. Parents if your child is in an abusive relationship KEEP SHOWING UP, NO MATTER WHAT YOUR CHILD SAYS! They need you! Don’t ever walk away saying “ they continue to put themselves in that situation “. It’s very hard to leave abusers , not only are the women terrified ( as they should be), many times they don’t have HELP, or the abusers come begging for them how they CANT LIVE WITHOUT THEIR VICTIMS. If your abuser is the ONLY ONE giving this message of they need you…. so easy to believe it’s love. Maybe they will change. A big misconception about abusive relationships is that you don’t have great times with your abuser. It’s those great even romantic times that push you to keep enduring the bad times. Sandra thank you for your courage and honesty telling your story! I’m so glad your alive & healthy for your children & you learned that you have to face that trauma head on. There is no option not to feel it. This is why I am going to school for psychology to help victims of violence, like my former self. It is an epidemic and no one does anything. Everyday on the news you hear murder suicides of families because of abusers. These cowards think of only themselves. Mine was delusional. There is serious mental illness behind it, I’m sure of that. God bless the survivors and protect our daughters Lord. Heal our minds & spirits from all the trauma. 🙏🙏🙏❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

@somethingspecial1415

4 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤May God always bless and protect you,I'm glad to know that things are better with you now❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Her deformity was caused not only by her ex's violence but by the incompetence and negligence of the doctor who prescribed her those antibiotics. One thing leading to another: dv, addiction, medmalprac, depression, etc. 😮😢

I’m a little confused as to how punching can lead to such a severe infection. How does that happen physically? Also, why was that man never arrested? He should have gone to prison for a very long time.

@shannafranna3294

7 күн бұрын

Could have been because of the antibiotics. Also she was knocked out and laying on the street with most likely broken skin. Could have been bacteria or some type of pathogen that got into her wounds.

@thenewyorkcitizen

5 күн бұрын

and so should the doctor who gave her the wrong medication.

@monikaheron3851

4 күн бұрын

Yes & bartender who should have called ambulance & police

@mileysong1117

3 күн бұрын

She said she was on drugs...poor health etc..staph infection maybe ?

@rebeccahughes7766

Күн бұрын

Clearly you must be very young. The laws say one thing but they make sure specifically ro protect male abusers and make sure nothing fits those definitions and they will literally bypass everything into a nothing category. But then say he would be in trouble if that happend... The old saying she asked for it rages strong in America. The male that was pushed to be abusive is the real victim in the states. Rarely does anything occur in most places when thing like this occur. It's a phasade so men can self worship they have rules and laws so it all must be lies and claim everything is so great for women here and they are just the problem.

She’s a hero, honest and worthy! I know “victories” are coming her way. Her story is so poignant, so important. Thank you for telling it.

I was so touched when she says that I.will not say I forgive you but I will not focus on you.

I’m sorry this happened to you , you are a strong woman

Medical personnel has liability involved in this case

💜 I'm so sorry this happened to you.

I’m proud of Sandra for finding the courage to take off her mask and to share her story. I know that there will be someone who watches this, who will find their courage, as well. The courage to change is always within you. ❤

Thank you for surviving. May you and your children heal from all the pains you’ve gained. My prayers will go out to you and all those who are victims of domestic violence.

@GD-xc4wg

6 ай бұрын

♥️

Hopefully her ex husband was charged. I can’t imagine how he can get away with this

The USA sounds like a nightmare, like it's failing their patients who they are meant to protect and care for. Provide them with universal health care and let people get treated and not have to consider payment/insurance like this. She was failed by her parents, failed by her 'husband' and failed by the medical providers. I'm so glad she could face her trauma, and face her own actions and own up to them and grow into the beautiful and wise person she is today.

@yoyol4447

Жыл бұрын

They treat ppl who are known to be doing drugs like shit everywhere they go,is some kind of usa corrupt government operation that includes corrupt FBI and even churches.they say they do these fuck up things to addicts to help them and stop drug addiction and suffering but they just make it worse for them.hospitals and churches make money from government grants and insurances they have on these poor souls

@happyface3216

Жыл бұрын

@@Sc-dd6hb my dad lives in Canada (Alberta) they aren’t much better with their long ass waiting lists.

@Swordatmidnight

Жыл бұрын

Y’all only ever hear the bad. We have had excellent healthcare. My daughter had cardiac ablation without a the long wait times in Canada. She then had excellent care for her high risk pregnancy that cost $2,000 out of pocket and that was for 24 hour care for 2 1/2 months. The good is just never talked about.

@GoAskAlice23

Жыл бұрын

This was 28 years ago. Today, you can get a restraining order against anyone who has hit you immediately. The police take physical assault seriously.

@hbombstatic

Жыл бұрын

American here. Work's insurance is riculously expensive. I make so little working 30 hours a week that I qualify for the free insurance every American who does not have a high income is entitled too. It's been like this for decades now. Not sure why those struggling to pay medical bills don't sign up. It's literally free. Everything is covered and you pay nothing. Not Dr's visits, not medicine, not recommended procedures, nothing. Dental is covered too.

What courage she had. As a typical mom, we think of our kids

You found love, when you found yourself. Stay strong, you are beautiful. Sending you a BIG HUG !

That man should have gone to prison!! I am so happy that you got through all that. I hope your life is good now. You are an inspiration.

God bless you, 🙏I'm also Korean American & have been where you were once & luckily I survived!! I'm 50 now with 2 grown girls who are angels, I do feel lucky I got away from that life now I'm sober & happy 🥰❤️!! Love you Saundra🙏😇

I watch KZread on an Amazon Firestick and can't comment there. So, I jumped onto the laptop to tell you how proud I am to know you, Sandra. What a beauty you are! Keep going!

You are NOT a victim. You are a SURVIVOR and now an inspiration to all who experience pain at the hands of an abuser. Keep Strong and God Bless you ❤❤❤❤

@dianaray1470

4 күн бұрын

That is the corniest expression ever told. Of course she’s a victim. She’s also a survivor yes. But something horrible happened to her as well it’s called victimization. It’s ok to say the word. I promise.

Thank you for telling your story. Abused women need to hear this story. He could have killed you.

What a woman! Congratulations on Tom London surviving and being a good mother despite the awful circumstances you experienced. Respect and best wishes to you and your family from London, England.

Can I say , the accountability in this video is immaculate. She doesn’t just play victim, she becomes relatable with explaining the things she did in her downward spiral….im proud of her, cause to post this means she had a pair of pretty big balls .

You are a survivor, you are a star, you are a winner!!🎉 May God bless you all the days of your life!! ❤

I am glad you did not drive off the cliff... that would have meant: giving the power to your ex-husband and everybody that did you harm. But you prevailed. Beautiful story. You rose above it all. Congrats. Thank you for the inspiration.

@tbong9293

Жыл бұрын

We’ll said!

Saundra you are an incredible & resilient woman!!! Always be proud of who you are and all the hardships you overcame 💪

I'm a DV survivor also. Thank you for sharing your harrowing experience. We are no longer victims. Bless you.

Thank you for telling your story!!! ❤️❤️❤️

Praying for you & your family. Thanks for sharing your testimony with us. You're very special! Staying strong beautiful soul.❤️🙏

You're a survivor who has enormous courage.

I WATCHED MY MOTHER BEING ABUSED BY MY FATHER FOR YEARS. I KNOW THE SIGNS AND I SAW IT COMING A MILE AWAY WHEN I WAS WITH A SOLIDER. I DID NOT WAIT AROUND FOR NOTHING EVEN THOUGH I WAS NOT WORKING. HE DID NOT RAISE A HAND, THEN, BUT HIS WORDS WERE THE FIRST HINT AND I TOOK IT.

@hbombstatic

Жыл бұрын

Why are you screaming at us??

@MF-ty2zn

Жыл бұрын

What were the words?

@tj.4079

Жыл бұрын

​@@hbombstatic stop being so damn petty.

@hbombstatic

Жыл бұрын

@@tj.4079 It"ss not being petty. In this day and age EVERYONE knows that all caps is screaming. And there is never an acceptable excuse for ignorance. People have an obligation to learn etiquette, including online etiquette. That's why it is taught to children. Screaming, which is what all caps is, is unacceptable and rude. Pointing that out is not petty. It is absolutely necessary that ignorant people be made aware of their ignorance and that people screaming online be informed of just how obnoxious their typing is. You're the problem with the world today, way too lenient and laxadaisical. Eventually you will learn that if you give people an inch, then will take a mile. Every single time. You need to be vigilant against ignorance and immediately nip it in the bud when you encounter it. If you don't, it grows like a weed... Stop making this world a worse place to live in than it already is. And please. PLEASE don't breed.

@jeanneratterman

Жыл бұрын

Likely choices: possessive, clingy, sarcastic, demanding, critical, dismissive of feelings, controlling… add alcohol and drugs? Get outta there!

You beautiful lady are an absolutely gorgeous person with life full of dreams. I'm so proud of who you are and what you've become. Stay strong darling and continue to thrive in life.

When I was like 19yrs old my little brother who was 18 at the time told me that I don't understand what he feels for his 1 baby mama because I don't know what love is...and I just remember telling him love isn't supposed to hurt you in any kind of way love is supposed to support you tell you when your wrong and make sure your happy....thanks for your testimony!!!...

YOU POOR GIRL YOU ARE VERY BRAVE AND A BEAUTIFUL SOUL

Saundra seems like such an amazing person. She is able to talk so openly about the past traumas that she survived, and in such a friendly way. The inner strength that she has built up for herself is admirable.

A reminder to me, if a relationship doesn't feel right, stay single

@redbone8844

Күн бұрын

This

I feel so sorry for this amazing lady . How can anyone disfigure someone else . She is a brave , courages and positive person .

@morrisonscott702

Жыл бұрын

Hi 👋 how are you doing?

God bless you sweetheart❤

Such a brave precious woman she’s just amazing. I have so much love and respect for her!!!

@morrisonscott702

Жыл бұрын

Hello how are you doing?

Sandra, I admire your bravery. You are definitely a survivor.

She is still beautiful

This is so sad.. she seems like such a nice lady too. She didn’t deserve that and no body should go through that..

I also am a DV survivor.After being beaten several times, I got out. I feel for women that have no support system, because without it,, I would have stayed and died. You are so brave to face all your life's lessons ... Some women never get to that point because it's too painful and so they stay. I'm glad that you made it to that point. It takes a lot of courage to get where you are. Thank you for sharing your story, stay brave and continue being awesome, Sondra!

You got through this you strong survivor!! 💪 Sending love and prayers your way 🙏 ❤

My husband had been on a drunk for a few days and I felt sorry for him. So I was trying to feed him. ALL of a sudden, he reached out and hit me! POW! My glasses broke and because I thought I had a concussion, I figured I needed to get to the hospital so I walked downtown to the police station where the blood was running down My face! I'm pretty sure I looked pretty gruesome when I came walking in their door! They put me in a cell until they could get the time to drive me to the hospital. Where a very nice doctor stitched me up. It's horrible living with a facial scar from domestic violence! So, I can relate to this woman's story greatly. BUT, you know what, this is my history. My abuser is dead today. The BEST revenge is surviving. I'm not perfect. BUT, I have out lived incest and domestic violence. Like a little bird, if a child grows up seeing this type of thing happening in their childhood, they will think it's normal. So, please protect your kids from this type of environment. It's terrible to have them molded into believing that violence is an acceptable way for adults to handle their interactions with each other. I'll wear this face until the day I die. BUT, I have finally learned to accept myself for who I am. Warmest regards from Greensboro, NC USA.

What a lady.

@dianaray1470

4 күн бұрын

Amazing for sure.

The level of self awareness and self responsibility this woman has is astonishing. Just an awesome human being, brave to the core!

If u ever need a friend, I'm here

So amazing, so positive for everything you've been through. You're helping a lot of people, you really care about others and that's beautiful. Powerful message, thank you for having the courage to share.

@morrisonscott702

Жыл бұрын

Hello how are you doing?

Sandra, you are so strong…far stronger than you can imagine! Your story hopefully is a wake-up for women in a bad relationship! Bless you!

This lady is a survivor. Addiction is a disease and tough to get out of but she did it. She had a reason to self medicate- her life was messed up. Her face was never going to be right again and it is the first thing people see. But your exterior, is not the important part of a person. It is your heart and soul. We all turn into wrinkly old prunes, some more than others. But a good heart and soul lasts until Death. Be kind. If your words and action don’t improve the situation around you they should be kept to yourself. I’m glad she found the path to righteousness and family. So brave to tell her story. D. Violence is not love and everyone deserves love not pain. No one should be cheated on or lied too. This is not love. Thank you for sharing your story.

You are not just brave but a hero. Thank you for sharing this extremely important message. So happy you are a survivor. Drugs and Domestic abuse sometimes go hand in hand

NO MORE MASKS..YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL!! I HEAR YOU...THANK YOU!!

I was in 2 very abusive relationships and I praise you for having the courage to tell everyone your story in order to help another. You are such a strong, beautiful woman and you never deserved any of that. The one treasure you got out of that toxic man that you were with were your 2 absolutely beautiful children. The 3 of you are gorgeous (and handsome) beings! ❤

I was a DV survivor too. I am so sorry that you’ve been through so much. I admire how you did everything to pull yourself through. Stay strong and be safe❤️

Sounds like she was also a victim of malpractice!! If that so-called doctor had given her the correct antibiotics, she'd still have a face!! I wish her the best, so sad. Women...DON'T PUT UP WITH THIS!!! PLEASE!!!