Everything was accurate. I grew up with my parents fostering. Every child that came in we were excited and when they left we cried and smiled as we felt the other sides gratitude for us. Good and bad memories! One memory that happened 6 years ago was I was 19 and my little bro who was 5 had been with us since birth went back to his family. I remember telling my boss at work that day I’m going to the gas station to grab a drink. And I drove around the corner and cried my eyes out for 15 min. And a beautiful bird landed on my truck mirror and sang me a song. To this day I believe it was an Angel telling me thanks for being an older brother! We got really close with that family and what we didn’t know was the foster agency wrote a letter to the federal government and a while later some people came down and gave our family a letter and little wall mount saying our family was the foster family of the year in Canada! Since then we’ve been that family’s and my little buds close friends helping them out when their life hits a brick wall. Every foster family that does it for the love of humanity has a big piece of my heart and admiration.

@juniper_woods9508

2 жыл бұрын

Gosh maybe this is ignorant but sending a 5 year old back to his bio family after raising him since birth . Woukdnt that be like ripping his actual family away and placing him with complete strangers? Isnt that more traumatic?

I am a foster parent who's been struggling with how HARD it is to foster some days... This is exactly what I needed to hear today.

I had to say goodbye to my foster daughters a few weeks ago. Very difficult.

I’m not even a foster parent but this lesson of empathy helped me so much today

It's not easy to say goodbye to anyone you love.

I work for child protective services and it’s the most beautiful thing to walk along side parents from the moment where we come in and their life is a complete disaster with seemingly no hope to this transformation to a almost a new human being. Addictions, untreated mental illness, trauma, everyone has a story and I’m honored to walk along side parents through regaining a life for them and their children. An absolute thank you to those foster parents out there who take these children into their homes knowing it is always a goal for them to leave. True heroes.

I hope to become a foster parent some day. It’s truly one of my top life goals.

@evelyngonzalez6110

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@Mrs.Buttercup_

3 жыл бұрын

Me too! Hoping in 5 years I can start.🙏🏽

Wow so relatable for me. I'm a foster mom who still has my first newborn placement. I'm not ready for that pain but this was so helpful!!!

Dr. John was on fire here

Fostering is oh so hard! We’ve fostered for more than 4 years and haven’t got to experience reunification. I’ve had such a hard time with the whole forming a relationship with bio families! I want to be that super foster mom but it’s SO hard. No matter how much I learn about their past and their why I still just see the addiction take over. I still struggle figuring out the appropriate boundaries now that we’ve been able to adopt our girls. I’m scared to let bio mom be part of their life after so many years of hurt. Not only hurting them, but hurting us in the process. And the resentment because here I am dealing with all the aftermath of the trauma they caused! I love my girls and I love what fostering can offer. But man is it hard!

@kellharris2491

Жыл бұрын

Do you have a support group? Because it may help. You need people to talk too and get out this emotional pain. You also need a sounding board for your own thoughts. So look for a support group.

Wow, what a powerful moment.

Some relationships are worth the pain🤯. Sounds like sacrificial love to me.

Love this

My friends have had foster kids and even adopted from foster care, and I know each case is different, but honestly, there are some bio parents who one would be right to be scared of. One of my friend's children's bio dad did something that got him 30 years in prison and they were advised to change the kid's names so he could never find them. Another bio mom tried to steal the foster mom's car and later got involved in drug cartels and had to go to jail for her own safety. There are bio families that do just need some help and guidance, but I don't think this lady is wrong to be nervous about what she might bring on her family.

Do foster kids ever keep in touch with previous foster parents when they are adults?

@phil3924

3 жыл бұрын

I’m a foster parent to teens mainly and I am in contact with just about all of them. Many times they initiate the calls.

@Mrs.Rekkr11

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! My sister in law is in contact with her foster mom to this day. Long story short, she tried to adopt my SIL but the family stepped in and her grandmother took her. She now calls her foster mom, MEM (my extraordinary mom) and has more to do with her than her own mother.

@cathyosullivan718

3 жыл бұрын

What a lovely story!

❤️❤️❤️

Read the book Foster the Family

If this happens constantly your biological young children are going to develop emotional and bonding issues. Remember, we as adults are seeing this situation COMPLETELY differently than those young children. It can’t be healthy for them.

@nicolab2075

2 жыл бұрын

How do you know this? Is there research?