We weren’t supervised 24/7 and kids ask questions when they notice differences in their peers. Just simply educate them DO NOT GIVE GENITALIA CUTE OR REPLACEMENT NAMES THAT CANT BE KNOW AS GENATALIA. Just let them know it’s not ok to do or to let anyone do to them

@jenkupfer3236

3 жыл бұрын

We taught our kid the proper terms, but we generally call them “privates” because that’s what they are, private.

@beac8238

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. Teaching them also empowers them to report these inappropriate situations.

@user-pc9px7yz9j

18 күн бұрын

I agree! My mom is a nurse and gave me the bilogy lesson when it came to sex ed xD i think it was the right decision because the child then links it to their anatomy and how someone shouldnt touch their anatomy vs linking it to soemthing more vague that can carry a lot of spiritual and social burden or be mistaken for other appropriate interactions or maybe one's just between mom and dad etc ​@@beac8238

The delicate balance of teaching and scaring. They may feel dirty or untouchable for life. So difficult.

@anneshirley9560

3 жыл бұрын

They’re so young, they probably won’t even remember. I am surprised how many people are saying this is normal. I didn’t know that this happened so much with kids.

@josephinenelan4204

3 жыл бұрын

@@anneshirley9560 I remember the instances this happened amongst peers and myself when I was little. The talking to by adults why we don't do that. To say they won't remember? Some might forget, a lot will remember.

@bluevillsplash

3 жыл бұрын

@@anneshirley9560 it happens a lot. Many time it's innocent. But the silence 🤐 is why many abuses go unnoticed at that age.

@katelynbrown98

3 жыл бұрын

Ask anyone who's been abused or shamed. Kids remember way more than we realize.

@blueStarKitt7924

5 күн бұрын

​@@josephinenelan4204Yes.😞

Parents please realize that there are children who are sexual predators ,unfortunately because they have been abused .

@user-kp6we9qw7i

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. It is a learned behavior.

@DanielleVanfleet

Ай бұрын

Not exactly I was just exposed to tv when I was a child and then there was experimenting but I remember it wasn’t out of hurting some one.

@Zinnie988

Ай бұрын

Not necessarily, but it is learnt in a sense where these kids want to emulate what they see their parents at home and TV. They think, "hey mom and dad are best friends, they nap and take off their clothes. We can too because we are besties too." 😂🎉 It's the lack of boundaries with parents where the kids are made aware of naked bodies can hangout togather. Kids copycat plenty. Voila! Monkey see, Monkey do.

@Cammer92

Ай бұрын

Wrong. Neighbor girl and I did this when we were about 6 or 7. Playing “house” where I was dad and she was mom. I remember just being curious. I was never abused.

@Zinnie988

Ай бұрын

@@Cammer92 so parents need to be cautious what they do or display infront of the kids. Because kids are monkey see, monkey do from the day they are born till pubescent teenagers! Showcasing healthy relationships (hugs and kisses) for children doesn't mean you give them a sneak peak of tumbling between the sheets naked! Rolling back the openness I think has become more relevant today more than ever since the 1960s. Don't expect the school teachers to fix this problem and start to have conversations at pre-teen and earlier when the displays at home get raunchy. Such mindlessness that translates to pressure to perform, responsibility, doubts and hurt amongst some young adults. 🤔🤭

At first, i was like, thats normal. Then when she told the story, it sounded very disturbing. I wouldnt let them near those kids again

@blueStarKitt7924

5 күн бұрын

Yep.

My parents never allowed us to play in the neighbor's house or sleep in another house. Everything was always in my parents house and nowadays I understand why.

@user-so1wr2oh1t

3 жыл бұрын

Way too strict.

@icalotdonthide2646

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-so1wr2oh1t My kid, my rules.

@jeanniefelix6534

3 жыл бұрын

I'm the same way, it's dangerous out there

@user-so1wr2oh1t

3 жыл бұрын

Ya'll paranoid. It's terrible parenting if you're gonna be overprotective of your kids. They need to experience life. No wonder kids are such incompetent snowflakes these days.

@ne9835

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-so1wr2oh1t Lol

Where are the parents when all these young children are completely alone and unsupervised?

@meghan8020

2 күн бұрын

Oh sod off. She literally said she was at home with the baby.

@musicyak3471

Күн бұрын

You can’t be with the kids all the time as a mom of three. The kids were at a neighbor’s house that they trusted.

The fact that the boys dad was kinda 🤷 about it is giving me so many red flags

@7somekindofsomething

Жыл бұрын

Big time. Makes me wonder where this behaviour was learned from.. for the kids sake I pray not though.

I wonder if the neighbors kid is being abused. This is fishy

@enobongasanga7433

3 жыл бұрын

First thing that came to my mind! A kid that age, something HAS to be going on.

@xyzsame4081

3 жыл бұрын

Nonsense, they were "playing doctor" - only in prudish Amercica .......

@TB-rx1ue

3 жыл бұрын

@@xyzsame4081 doctors don’t pull down other peoples pants without consent 🤔 when I was 3, my doctor asked me if I wanted to undress and I said no (I still remember it!). Idk what doctors pull off your clothes 🤷‍♀️ I still remember it bc I thought it was weird that he’d even ask me to! Lol 😅

@vanessameske

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I thought. So sad.

@TravelsTTG

Ай бұрын

We don’t even know of this is how it happened

Very normal for preschool age.. less so for the 7 year old, which is why I wouldn't allow them to play over there again.

@Jane5720

3 жыл бұрын

Kind of old for this

@hurshrd654

3 жыл бұрын

This isn’t normal. This went beyond any normal stuff.

@luminous6969

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe the parents of the 7 year old never taught them about stuff like this. It's not his fault for not knowing something he wasn't taught.

@karmaGSD

Ай бұрын

Agree. I worked in a preschool years ago in a 3/4 year old class and there was a little boy and girl in the class who would expose themself to each other on the playground.

@youtubecommentator6023

21 сағат бұрын

It almost sounds like the 7 year old had already been exposed to pornography and was wanting to see something like it in real life. My husband was 8 when he was exposed to pornography and that exposure would later be the reason he started an addiction to it when he was just a kid. Though he never asked any other kid to see their private parts. So they should really be careful with their 7 year old going forward. Limit TV, limit internet use, talk to the 7 year old about how what he did was not okay, read him that book that the guy recommended, everything.

Brooke, you are right that you are suspicious of this situation. I don’t think you need to make a big deal about it with the other kids parents but don’t let your kids play over there again. At 7 years old kids really should know that this behavior is not ok, I don’t think he needs to be demonized but it feels really wrong. Let your daughter know that you don’t show your private parts to peers, and peers should not show you their private parts. Continue to have this conversation on a regular basis without shaming.

@MaxSujyReact

3 жыл бұрын

Playing doctor is something everyone I know did around that age. Not sure which country you are from but in Canada its normal.

@FranzVonGaart

Жыл бұрын

@@MaxSujyReact I think you might have gotten molested bud

I would be most worried about that 7 year old. Kids don't just decide they wanna see other kid's private areas on their own. And I would definitely have a sensitive conversation with the parents

@xhaltsalute

Жыл бұрын

Yes they do. Just gotta teach them not to.

@Yusheesan

11 ай бұрын

Yes they do. Kids are curious and they don't understand sexuality at that age. Parents have to teach them boundaries.

@TEM14411

3 ай бұрын

​@@Yusheesan kids repeat what they experience.

@JackMason-oq8lf

2 ай бұрын

Freud wrote a book called "Infantile Sexualis" which I noticed while shelving returned books in the school library where I worked in college. I found the title intriguing, and slowly read the text in spurts that summer. Basically, Professor Freud believed that infant children are sexual beings. And why not? Some instances feel "good" to a child and that child remembers. To anyone who ever put their daughter in a car's baby seat and noticed her jumping up and down, without provocation or instruction, she was as enthralled with that stimulation as any older masturbator. No one taught her that, she figured it out for herself. Stop putting her pleasure in the "Bad" bin. It's not bad, it's innate. Why teach her that pleasure is bad, pleasure is wrong? You are the one who's screwing her up, prodding her to feel guilty for innocently enjoying her pleasure. You're gas-lighting your own child, telling lies to your own child. The kid grows up with lies planted into her head. You, dear parent, are abusing that child, screwing up that child, perhaps for life. Think it through. What is so "wrong" about a boy and a girl seeing each other's pee- pee? Or seeing each other pee? How is that bad? Get a grip. It's not bad. It's natural. Don't make it dirty. It's not dirty, except in your mind. Leave the kid be. Stop lying.

@beaub152

Ай бұрын

I think its normal to have some curiosity especially as a child, they just need to be told how that can be very problematic in a way they can understand

A 5 and 7 year olds doesn’t sound too bad . Just children , a bit odd but sounds innocent it’s not like it meant to them what adults see that as just teach your kid that’s not good to do

@britboyrugby

3 ай бұрын

I’m thinking the same. He’s seven years old; not 13. There is nuance here.

@emmasmith7590

Ай бұрын

My cousin started off doing this to me between age 4-7 then when we became teenagers he took it further and started touching me inappropriately.

@blueStarKitt7924

5 күн бұрын

Yeah, but problem is that he pulled down her pants. That is not normal.

Show and tell is normal-ish and needs to be dealt with. Having her pants pulled down is another thing and a step up to aggression... as for under a blanket they were hiding knowing it was 'wrong' or at least not allowed. This needs to be addressed and no more unsupervised play. Sounds like the kids have been exposed in some way to this... sad

@dewwwd3431

4 ай бұрын

When I was 3 my mom babysat 3 girls one of them was 7 years older than us the youngest girl was my age. The older girl and my older brother both around 10 at the time got us to kiss eachother and showed us how to make out. And I don’t remember this part but they had us show eachother our privates. Well this exact same thing happened for months maybe even up to a year. We would touch eachother there and do the hands in each others pants while under a blanket. No one ever found out and it did a lot of damage to me growing up. Idk what happened to her because we moved but I’ve always watched to reach out to her. But then again maybe she doesn’t remember and I don’t want to bring that memory back for her.

@TEM14411

3 ай бұрын

This is learned behavior from being sexually abused. People need to educate themselves on things and be proactive in keeping children safe and identifying when other children are unsafe.

@dinosaursnack

Ай бұрын

Why were such young children all unsupervised in the first place? Did they think the 7 year old was watching these 3 year olds? Massive and avoidable parenting failure.

We did this when I was a kid and I turned out perfectly nor- well, maybe that's a bad example.

@takeastandorbeenslavedby-left

3 жыл бұрын

This is very normal, people have just gotten up tight and dramatic

@saribrown7156

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah i did this when i was around 7 with my neighbour who was a year younger who was also my bestie at the time. Its all about curiosity. Americans just tend to be dramatic when it comes to things like this.

@ParkerP29

3 жыл бұрын

@@saribrown7156 y’all weird

@saribrown7156

3 жыл бұрын

@@ParkerP29 Please tell me more. What makes a child’s curiosity weird?

@Scarface_445

2 жыл бұрын

Don’t agree there, an older kid doing this is weird with a younger kid.

....this definitely happens. Yea sometimes it's just little kid things, but the boy that I knew in this exact situation grew up to be really troubled and was from an unstable household

As a father to two small children I love hearing all this wonderful insight from JD

This call brings back memories to when I was in 3rd/4th grade my BFF tried touching me several times. I told others and she lied. Helps me realize that I need to do better with supervising my kids.

Handled this so well Dr John. Thank you so much for your content.

All the weird stuff happens in Salt Lake City 😂😂😂

@amnah10000

3 жыл бұрын

Those Mormons 😂.

@xyzsame4081

3 жыл бұрын

In the rest of the not so prudish world it is called playing doctor.

@rollingacresfarmstead206

3 жыл бұрын

florida would like to have a word

@DavidRamseyIII

3 жыл бұрын

@@rollingacresfarmstead206 haha

You’ve got a lot going on: “it’s Utah” - love that woman!

Man, listening to calls like these and being a teacher I'm sooooooo glad I don't have kids of my own

@nameunavailable1330

3 ай бұрын

“I don’t have kids, I just have yours.” Id keep my kids away from you too.

@andreaseriksson9225

2 ай бұрын

@@nameunavailable1330 And i would keep my kids away from you. So yeah, we all have someone we want to protect our kids from it seems :)

@meghan8020

2 күн бұрын

@@andreaseriksson9225ahhh and here we find the liberal mole, who feels entitled to receive a government wage to monopolise the influence of other peoples children while investing zero responsibility, sacrifice or heart.

I love how he talks about how great play therapy is. I grew up in play therapy for anxiety, SPD and other mental health issues. I always had so much fun. She had snacks, candy, and fun vintage hospital toys. It really helped me learn about how to express myself, and also helped me to talk to my parents.

Someone should be asking where the 7 year old learned this behaviour, he may have been assaulted himself.

Not a good thing, but normal. It’s best to supervise your kids. This is why my girls don’t spend the night with friends, family even.

All this seems normal BUT when she said "mommy and daddy may not love me any more" it set off the flag that maybe the 7 year old told the daughter don't tell mommy and daddy or they will get mad

Great advice ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

I went to a private catholic school and in first grade I was in a class birthday party over that weekend and I told all the kids we should pull our pants down. I don’t know why. We all did it and I got in HUGE trouble and the school found out and treated me like a jezebel. I don’t know why I even did it.

@kellharris2491

Жыл бұрын

It's insane how judgmental they are.

@rachelwyatt6030

Жыл бұрын

@@kellharris2491 it really is. My mom also went to catholic school her whole life and they’d call her a bastard and a bad seed because her parents weren’t married. Things haven’t changed a whole lot!

@lindac2554

3 күн бұрын

I hope you can let that go and not carry nor own their perception People judge wrongly all the time!! It sounds like they were way to harsh with you even abusively calling you a name As a christian i know if someone condemns me I don't listen to them as God does not speak to me like that ( thru people)

If more parents had these kinds of convos with their kids, less of this would happen; where a child/teen doesn't tell their parents they were abused ❤️ Keep reminding your kids, during daily "hug~puddles" that your #1 job is to keep them safe and that they can tell you _anything_ and you'll still love them!!

Watch your kids

And this is why my mother never let me have sleep overs. I had no clue why growing up, but in retrospect it probably saved me some trauma.

My 9 year old step daughter went through the same situation with a 14year old girl, 5 year old girl, 11 year old boy, 7 year old boy and 9 year old boy. They all blamed the 5 year old which I don't know how true that was. I was so worried about our 9 year old being dared to touch herself/others. She thought she was in a lot of trouble and that we wouldn't love her or be on her side. We just wanted to make sure she wasn't pressured or going to pressure anyone. Her mom was in shock. Problem is all of the kids are relatives too. I remember being in the same situation but I was the one who told.

@abcdfg4281

3 ай бұрын

That 14 year old should 100% know better, there is no excuse at that age. I hope she got help. It's absurd to blame a 5 year old.

@Sebster-jg1bd

25 күн бұрын

That 14 year old is federal😭

Easy enough, dont let your kids play over there. Is that easy

@genxx2724

2 жыл бұрын

Encourage them to play with someone else.

@nicolab2075

Жыл бұрын

Easy after the fact. I guess normally when this happens, parents don't find out.

I remember when I was 7, and I knew that was wrong for sure, even at 4 I knew that. This is a troubled boy

@andrewf.1598

3 жыл бұрын

You know that it’s wrong but don’t really understand why at that age, you just know you’re being naughty and breaking a rule

@kellharris2491

Жыл бұрын

I worry the 7 year old is being abused. This kinda acting out often has a cause.

@petrap1769

2 ай бұрын

​@@kellharris2491lol bs

@user-kl2jg9ve3v

Ай бұрын

No you didn’t 🙄

This type of stuff is normal to a degree

@7somekindofsomething

Жыл бұрын

This situation bends past the degree of normalcy though.

@VaughanMate

2 ай бұрын

@@7somekindofsomethingNormality*

@JudePi-jx7yo

2 ай бұрын

It's a lot more than a degree.

@user-pc9px7yz9j

18 күн бұрын

I agree. But when she said "mommy and daddy may not love me any more" it set off the flag that maybe the 7 year old told the daughter don't tell mommy and daddy or they will get mad

i agree with others. a 7 year old being this way is worriesome. this happened to me and my sisters but it was when i was about 3 and the neighbor boy was 4, my sister must have been 6. i had a child i babysat who was 7 and was very very strange towards his little sister and she would ask me not to let him and her sleep together. i often wonder what he’s like now…

@7somekindofsomething

Жыл бұрын

😢

Idk if I misunderstood but I feel bad for the girl… having your pants pulled down without your consent feels like you’ve been violated. My cousin used to walk in when others used the bathroom. I felt violated even if it was just someone opening the bathroom door during a private moment. It’s not ok, having someone pulling your pants down unless you wanted them to pull it down.

We did this when I was a kid - and more. And we turned out fine.

Does there really need to be a conversation about, "I'm not going to let my kids play with your kids anymore"? If you just don't let your kids go over, don't interact with the neighbors too much, does there really need to be a conversation that could potentially turn defensive and even agressive?

@Kurodarkness

3 жыл бұрын

I would say not having a conversation is more a passive aggressive, long-term stressful route, whereas having the conversation sets boundaries, let’s the neighbors know how they feel on this topic and is better for the long term. Quoting Dave Ramsey: “To be unclear is to be unkind.”

@strangeaslife

3 жыл бұрын

Direct clear communication is best whenever possible. That way the other family is aware and can address the issue if needed and also there is no room for in-between or crossing boundaries. Most importantly those boundaries can be clearly drawn in the conversation. Passive aggressive ignoring does more harm.

@Kurodarkness

3 жыл бұрын

@@strangeaslife Amen! Plus, then there’s not the awkward dance of making sure you’re not interacting with the neighbors (can’t go outside if you see they’re already outside). You said it very well.

@Lcshell

10 ай бұрын

Oh there absolutely needs to be a conversation! The other parents need to be fully aware of the situation and how inappropriate it was. How very awful it was for the daughter to have her pants pulled down by an older boy. Also the issue of not supervising these children-maybe Dad is just aloof about supervising but mom needs to know this.

“It’s Utah” 😂

I’m glad this call came in. This happened to me with my cousins when I was 6. It haunted me forever , even tho nothing at all happened , it just haunted me, maybe cause of my macho man dads reaction 🤨😩 he gave me a big whopping , and it just made me feel like I did something so horrible, my sister is 1 year older than me, and she always reminded me of that day just to bother me, I think I got over the trauma when I was like 15. I hope your daughter gets help, and I hope you guys support her and help her mentally. Yes John makes a good point, that 7 year old makes me nervous too, my cousins were my same age , 1 1 of then was a year younger than me….

@xyzsame4081

3 жыл бұрын

Let me guess - your cousins were male and instigated playing doctor and you got the whooping. That would be something to laugh about in later years - except for the parental reaction.

@marisolpooh1

3 жыл бұрын

@@xyzsame4081 yesthey were all males 😆 we never spoke about it again, we all have kids now and stay on touch, they are all jehova witness, and are great fathers/sons 😀👍 but yes I got the whooping ….

@JackMason-oq8lf

2 ай бұрын

Boys in 2024 are having sex.

@emmasmith7590

Ай бұрын

Wow I relate a lot. My cousin started off doing this to me between age 4-7 then when we became teenagers he took it further and started touching me inappropriately. The difference is mine turned into actual abuse and although I didn’t get punished, no one except my mother believed me. I was essentially exiled from the family. But I’m thankful for that now!

@emmasmith7590

Ай бұрын

I believe this behavior in kids must be dealt with early on. No one knew what I was going through until it was all over. It makes people carry shame, guilt and embarrassment. But kids must be taught early on it’s not appropriate and curiosity can be dealt with in a myriad of acceptable ways. We gotta do better as society/parents

I suspect one may have been the leader in this. It is worrying and we should teach our kids private parts are for private. And tbh most adults need that rule in their lives too

This feels like a situation that Shouldn't have taken a month to handle. They put this off for so long that to a kid this was ages ago now this conversation might open new wounds

How things change...in the 60's I played with mostly boys and I saw them pee in the yard or they lost too big bathing suit of brothers in pool, but sex or anything like that was years and years off. At least in our bubble. Today, kids grow up so fast.

@JackMason-oq8lf

2 ай бұрын

Today, 7 year olds have their own phones, their own Internet, their own links to porn. Parents need to grow up, and smell the coffee grounds.

@deb9806

2 ай бұрын

@@JackMason-oq8lf I heard someone at work yesterday say on her 12 year olds phone she controls what she sees, what sites she goes on, can shut it off after an hour etc and does. When she is punished only the phone calls work. Boss gave her a high five and wished more parents parented what their kids watched or saw on phones and tablets. Not like what TV show you are watching in my day or a magazine that was questionable.

Poor little kids I hope someone also talks to the 7 y/o boy, he did not know better

@brockb3692

3 жыл бұрын

Right. I don't want to shun or write off a 7 YEAR OLD. Talk to him and get him help.

@gettygarrettable

3 жыл бұрын

He may or may not have know better. Still needs to be talked to

I just ordered that book for my 5 yr old. Thank you john for the suggestion. I was struggling with how to introduce the topic of private parts and bad touch to my child.

The younger ones. It’s not a huge problem. The older one was the trouble maker. With that being said. That is learned behavior and something is going on in thag house

Was walking home from elementary school once and a boy walking the other way said If you show me yours I'll show you mine. Just shook my head and kept walking. Luckily that was it! Didn't tell anyone.

@thomasdoyle9748

Ай бұрын

I'm a female

I remember my old neighbor told me a story. She homeschooled her oldest boy who was around 13. Her other sons were around 6 and 8. Since her oldest son is homeschooled, so she invited her oldest son's friend (same age) over from church all the time, just to hang out. Her house has 2 stories. Upstairs is mainly for the kids. The floor has bedrooms, bathroom and play area. She told me the teen friend molested her 6 years old while the oldest son went to bathroom or something. I think she ended up calling the police. When I grew up, I was only allowed to have sleepover at my cousin's house. It's fun, anyway.

@emmasmith7590

Ай бұрын

My cousin started off doing this to me between age 4-7 then when we became teenagers he took it further and started touching me inappropriately. It’s a perversity that even crosses through family, it’s ruthless

Be careful of that 7 year old. No telling what he is doing to his siblings

@emmarose6590

3 жыл бұрын

He’s 7… I mean he’s still a child. yes be careful address and supervise but geez.

@MeloFloww

3 жыл бұрын

He is SEVEN YEARS OLD. Please stop.

@auemmjee

7 ай бұрын

​@@MeloFlowwI wasn't pulling down other kids'pants at 7...were you?

@abcdfg4281

3 ай бұрын

@@emmarose6590 That 7 year old boy has already traumatised several other younger children, which is not the child's fault as it is the responsibility of the parents to teach and watch their kid. However, 7 year old boys grow up, and if the behaviour that this boy learned (not respecting others bodily autonomy) is not corrected, he will do worse.

@emmasmith7590

Ай бұрын

My cousin started off doing this to me between age 4-7 then when we became teenagers he took it further and started touching me inappropriately. This should be taken seriously as this behavior, if left unchecked and marked as permissible diminishes autonomy and boundary setting for these kids. Why let it slide when the most responsible and caring thing to do is teach that it’s not appropriate to do. Curiosity doesn’t mean it’s okay to act on it. They need to be taught before they are old enough to be in situations where they can say no.

kids don't perv unless they were taught to. someone exposed them to this behavior.

@ryanschmoll343

3 жыл бұрын

False

@brockb3692

3 жыл бұрын

Agree to point, but being curious about body parts isn't pervy at that age.

@nicolab2075

Жыл бұрын

Not in my case. Just innocent curiosity.

The problem we have is to only look at the girl as the victim. This woman only cares about the daughter while she has a son that was involved also.

When I was in Kindergarten, a neighbor boy 3 or 4 years older than me forced me to show myself to him, and threatened me if I didnt. He was also doing it to our mutual neighbor friend who was less than a year younger than me. He then made the both of us expose ourselves to eachother, and we were caught by the other victims parents. He had scared us so badly that we didnt tell the adults why we did it, fearing what the other boy would do to us if we tattled. Once that boy moved away I remember apologizing to the boy who went through the trauma with me, only to find out he was a victim too, going through the same exact things I went through. Your kids might be afraid to tell, just like I was. I didnt tell my parents what actually happened until i was 17.

It’s a common thing that happens between very young kids . When I was 6-7 a friend of mine said she will show me hers if I show mine . It happened once . It’s stupid and can turn dangerous if an adult is involved . But I think the caller is overthinking it . Just educate your kids on safe touch and you are good to go

@kellharris2491

Жыл бұрын

This was worrying behavior for the 7 year old. I worry he was abused.

@Kilmarro

4 ай бұрын

I think that 7 is past the point where it is normal curiousity so no, I wouldn't call this normal. When the 7 year old pulls someone else's pants down if they said they didn't want to pushes it well past normal. I'm not saying that the child is being abused but it definitely makes you wonder.

@emmasmith7590

Ай бұрын

It’s worrying if it’s not dealt with. It’s irresponsible to let kids continue showing/touching… it’s teaches them nothing but lack of boundaries and perversity. Curiosity is not always meant to be acted upon. Parents must step in and TEACH at a young age about what is acceptable/appropriate.

THE KIDS SHOULD HAVE BEEN SUPERVISED NOT BE LEFT TO THERE OWN DEVICES.

Okay so, when I was younger my cousin who is a couple months older than me also told me ‘let’s show eachother’ and often tried to get me in the bathroom alone to do this. My earliest memory is about 4 going on til about 7. I got very uncomfortable and tried avoiding it when I realised it was perverted. Anyway- same cousin ended up grooming/touching me when I was 13 for about a year and so I truly believe this behavior is never innocent. It must be dealt with and is learnt because his Father also got caught groping my mother on two separate occasions.

@emmasmith7590

Ай бұрын

It always progresses if not dealt with. Which btw, only my mother and counselor believed me when I finally spoke out. Especially as a teenager it can be confusing and embarrassing to speak up which is why it took me so long. Finally one day after the abuse, I decided enough was enough.

Hah, I did this in preschool. Kids are curious!

@Shadowwind4

3 жыл бұрын

Me too!!!

@Shadowwind4

3 жыл бұрын

It was a good time

@bethanybrowne3803

3 жыл бұрын

7 year old is not in pre school though…big difference

@genxx2724

2 жыл бұрын

@@bethanybrowne3803 Sounds as if the 7-year-old is victimizing the others. He needs to play with kids his own age.

@cayk9444

6 күн бұрын

7 is not preschool…. Also forcing another kids pants off is not curiosity … wtf

This is literally normal in kids. Everyone has done it and the sky hasn't fallen.

@rebekahtyler7406

Жыл бұрын

Did you hear the part where the little girl said no and the 7 year old pulled down her pants? And then that the 5 and 4 year old went under a blanket and had there pants off with each other? I’d say that goes a little over the line of normal…

@firefly9838

Жыл бұрын

It's the internet people LOVE making a mountain out of a mole hill.

@7somekindofsomething

Жыл бұрын

@@rebekahtyler7406Exactly. People sweeping this stuff under the rug, I worry about their level of observation for their kids.

@TEM14411

3 ай бұрын

This is not normal. This is an indication of sexual abuse. It perpetuates because people choose to ignore/deny/normalize it.

A big issue tbh is that in modern society you dont have people and babies running around w genetalia out. So children grow up never seeing anyone elses genetalia. So when they diacover ir theyre kinda confused and currious. As a kid my mom let me run around naked with other kids and i had seen my brothers genetalia and other little boys just playing on the beach it was no big deal. Then i had a friend froma christian house whos sonw as currious and kept having me take my pants off.... i feel like limiting kids to normal exposure w other children in supervised situations leads to this issue as well.

Something for sure happened to that 7 year old, or that 7 year old has for sure seen something either online or a video or something.

Why aren’t we reading the book with the family?

I mean this is completely normal. Kids have curiosity. I remember in daycare when we were like 5 we wondered why our …. Would get hard and showed each other. It wasn’t sexual. It doesn’t mean any kids were harmed. It’s just curiosity

@tpeters85

Жыл бұрын

It might just be curiosity, but the 7 year-old’s behavior is worth a conversation with the parents, especially if he actually did pull down the girl’s pants.

@cayk9444

6 күн бұрын

But the point is FORCING another child’s pants off is not normal, how can you overlook that? Also, the child lied and manipulated, so no, it’s not normal

Very common behavior for this age. Main thing is to talk to your kids about it and monitor them around this boy just to make sure things dont escalate.

@amaragrace94

3 күн бұрын

No he pulled down her pants. And there is clearly no supervision over there. They should not play over there again. Full stop.

This is very common. I did it and others did it in my neighborhood. We all turned out just fine. No need to panic 😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃

@michaelkensington2494

Жыл бұрын

No way you are fine. And no way this is ok!!!!

@cayk9444

6 күн бұрын

It’s NOT fine, FORCEFULLY pulling her pants off after she said no is wacked up. I pray to god you don’t have kids if you are passing that off as “normal”

I feel the kid be getting hurt , or he's seen something accidentally at home. On computer, phone , or walked in on mom and dad. .

@amaragrace94

3 күн бұрын

Agreed.

Seems like the mom and dad already been talking to the little girl, so what did she need to know? That's ashame these kids get like this so early.

MAYBE OLDER, BUT AT 5 YEARS MY MOM NEVER LET ME GO WITHOUT HER, OR SUPERVISED. THEY WERE YOUNG, AND SHOULD HAVE BEEN SUPERVISED.

Sounds like the 7 year old needs therapy and the family needs help in order to prevent this again cuss at that age it can cary on to being serious when older its not right to be honest

I'd be calling the hotline to let the professionals figure out if 7 year old is safe. It was likely just curiosity, but I know too many adults who were abused as children and no one believed them.

@amaragrace94

3 күн бұрын

Same

I remember doing this with my friend when we were like 2-3. Definitely not 7.

This is perfectly normal, and not allowed. Like many other things. Don't make a big deal about it, just set clear boundries.

@emmasmith7590

Ай бұрын

My cousin started off doing this to me between age 4-7 then when we became teenagers he took it further and started touching me inappropriately. Boundaries are vital. At no age kids should be exposing themselves to others, this is only allowed because of lack of supervision. If parents allow this sort of thing when kids are young, they shouldn’t be surprised when things happen to their kids as they grow older. We must start teach it’s wrong.

@cayk9444

6 күн бұрын

Forcefully pulling another child’s pants down?

@KidCity1985

6 күн бұрын

@@cayk9444 have you been around kids? They are little beasts..

@cayk9444

5 күн бұрын

@@KidCity1985 I am both a parent and a teacher

@cayk9444

5 күн бұрын

@@KidCity1985 I would make it a big deal of my child or student came to me distressed that another kid forced their pants down, I’d make sure they felt heard about it and the other child’s parents were well aware of what happened. I think there’s a big difference between mutual exploration and it being forceful and manipulative, much different impact on the child

Yeah the pushiness kinda of it … kids will be kids but that bothered me

Me and a bunch of baby sitting kids did something similar when I was in elementary. We all showed our parts to each other, girls and boys and the baby sitter found out because one girl told us and every single one of us got spanked rightfully so. I don't agree with spanking but they had to do something. Everything we did was very inappropriate and we knew it.

Five year old three year old. Its gonna happen. But teachable moment about that its not right to repeat. Age 7 should know better, though.

Isn’t this normal? When I was like 4 and in play school this girl showed me her cat and I showed her my stick. And we laughed and said how weird each other looked. I thought this is just what kids do.

@JackMason-oq8lf

Ай бұрын

Didn't anyone play "Doctor"as a kid? With the "nurse" next door? From what I read in the news these days, it's kids who should keep mommie at home, away from all the co-workers leading her into temptation. The problem seems, mommie is keeping up with daddy when it comes to putting in extra hours at work. Hypocrites.

I'm 62, So in my young girl days we called it "playing doctor" and in the 60s it wasn't unusual...

my family always jokes about me being super overprotective I don’t let my kids go over to anyone’s house, party, or anything unless I’m there, their dad, grandparents or godparents watching them and they know what I mean when I say watching them (they take it very seriously) because kids are going to be kids they need to be supervised especially when they’re away from the comfort and safe space my husband and I have created for them. I refuse to to my children’s safety in the hands of other children or adults because I wouldn’t be able to sleep eat or anything if what happened to me happened to them . I’m scared that it’s going to be hard to let go when the times comes or even loosen the strings … I’ll cross that bridge when I get there ! These Parents handled this situation very well , you don’t expect children to do such inappropriate disgusting harmful things but children do what they see and hear (that’s what I believe) so my question is where did this 7 year old learn these things from I think the other parents (of the 7 year old) need to have a serious talk with him if they didn’t already .

Leaving a three year old unsupervised? Great parenting

@emptysoul5057

Жыл бұрын

I can't believe she did that. You just can't leave little kids at houses like that

@Shadowwind4

Жыл бұрын

@@emptysoul5057 do you want to get married?

@emptysoul5057

Жыл бұрын

@@Shadowwind4 someone beat you to it 😊

@Shadowwind4

Жыл бұрын

@@emptysoul5057 well then I wish you two a lifetime of happiness and memories. Do you have any single friends?

@emptysoul5057

Жыл бұрын

@@Shadowwind4 thanks 6 years down hopefully forever to go. Unfortunately I was a truck driver all my adult life so I don't have any friends besides old driving coworker buddies who were all 60 and older men. I'm going to find some friends though. Now that I quit driving.

Im still confused as to why its taken a month..

This is coming of age stuff. Most people did this growing up. I wouldn’t worry.

@rollingacresfarmstead206

3 жыл бұрын

"little sister, hits the stage. She cant help it, shes comin of age"

@cayk9444

6 күн бұрын

No, it’s not. A child shouldn’t force your kids pants off

Watch that 7=year old! 😒

This is normal

Who hasn't done this!? 😂

This is pretty normal for kids. Just sayin!

@grod805

3 жыл бұрын

This is not normal

@takeastandorbeenslavedby-left

3 жыл бұрын

@@grod805, yes it really is

@brookesmith1550

3 жыл бұрын

That scenario is definitely not normal!!!

My friend when she was elementary age told a boy she’d eat a potato bug if he showed the goods 😆

@genxx2724

2 жыл бұрын

“When my friend was in elementary school, she told a boy she’d eat a potato bug if he showed the goods.”

@ineedhoez

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

Kids do that. I wouldn't shame them

@cayk9444

6 күн бұрын

Please tell me you aren’t a parent. If your child comes to you UPSET that another child forced their pants off, you’d do nothing? That’s horrifying

Hey love the channel. With all due respect, and I know nothing about anything, but shouldn't the child's name be edited out of this? But maybe I am wrong and what I think was said to be their name is somehow ... Not...

It’s not a big deal, kids are curious about the opposite sex’s body. Just tell them their private parts are not for share or touched by others

When I was 3 my mom babysat 3 girls one of them was 7 years older than us the youngest girl was my age. The older girl and my older brother both around 10 at the time got us to kiss eachother and showed us how to make out. And I don’t remember this part but they had us show eachother our privates. Well this exact same thing happened for months maybe even up to a year. We would touch eachother there and do the hands in each others pants while under a blanket. No one ever found out and it did a lot of damage to me growing up. Idk what happened to her because we moved but I’ve always watched to reach out to her. But then again maybe she doesn’t remember and I don’t want to bring that memory back for her.

Something going on with the 7 year old. He's probably suffering. Someone needs to look into it.

Time to move

@genxx2724

2 жыл бұрын

It might come to that.

I dont know if ostracizing the 7 year old is the best way to do it because ultimately could the boy feel so much shame around it that he feels he needs to be more secretive. I can understand wanting to protect your kids but it feels like the boy just got nominated to be an outcast.

@makennazornes

3 ай бұрын

I don’t think it’s necessary to put your children at risk by letting them be around other children who you know to be potentially dangerous just so that the other child doesn’t get his feelings hurt. I don’t think anyone is saying this boy should never have any friends or be around other kids, but being assaulted is trauma, even if it came at the hands of a seven year old. And I, as a parent, would absolutely not keep putting my child in the presence of someone who created trauma for her when my job is to protect my own child, not some else’s.

Curiosity doesn't mean acting out! Boundaries not just fir the kids but also the adults around them. So parents need to be cautious what they do or display infront of the kids. Because kids are "monkey see, monkey do" from the day they are born till pubescent teenagers they take que from parents on what's ok! Showcasing healthy relationships (hugs and kisses) for children doesn't mean you give them a trailer or a sneak peak of tumbling between the sheets naked! Rolling back on the openness I think has become more imperative, necessary and relevant today more than ever since the 1960s. Don't expect the school teachers to fix this problem and start to have conversations at pre-teen and earlier when the displays at home get raunchy. Such mindlessness that down the line translates to pressure to perform, responsibility, doubts and hurt amongst some young adults. 🤔😮

What was the children’s book he talked about?

@Hellokitty7163

3 жыл бұрын

Some parts are not for sharing

@cooliipie

2 ай бұрын

5:58

I hate to say it but this mother sounds like someone who is super worried that something overly and what's the word I'm looking for over really bad happened at least and to me it sounds more like it was kids doing what kids do at those ages I'm not saying it's a good thing to happen or a bad thing or nothing I'm just saying this is the type of stuff that kids do because they are curious about themselves and it carries about other people I would say it is nothing to get overly upset about but I'm guessing the mom is probably worried that it could lead to more and I understand that so this is a tough one but at the same time I don't think it's one where you cut your kids off of being friends with the neighbors type stuff but that's only my opinion of course and I wasn't there and everybody can parent their children how they want to I definitely agree with that so good luck to you lady

@boxelder9147

2 жыл бұрын

That is a long sentence

@rogermarr9067

2 жыл бұрын

@@boxelder9147 well thanks for pointing that out grammar police I'll try harder next time just for you

@boxelder9147

2 жыл бұрын

@@rogermarr9067 do it for you!!!

There is this aire of over reaction to generations of silence (mostly conservative type) silence here. Nice to feel safe and keep communication open with kids/parents ... but if you spend any time traveling in the world ... this sort of playful curiosity permeates the human experience without restraint. Our modern society intermixed with poorly interpreted Christian values has created this sort of structure of bad wrong, dirty ... in the end will snap back so hard on the personalities of people. The number one priority of all parents is not safety ... it is balancing safety and life experience (risk).

PLEASE DO NOT INVITE THESE PEOPLE INTO YOUR HOME!!! THAT COULD MESS WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS FEELING OF BEING SAFE AT HOME. IF YOU PREVENT HER FROM PLAYING WITH HER FRIENDS SHE WILL NEVER COME TO YOU AGAIN INSTEAD HAVE THE OTHER KIDS COME TO YOU'RE HOME OR THE PARK WHERE YOU CAN SUPERVISE YOU'RE CHILDREN.

@paulcolburn3855

3 жыл бұрын

I would only have the parents come over if none of the kids are around to witness this meeting.

This makes my blood boil

I like this show, but I’m trying to figure out what this has to do with money being that this is part of the Ramsey clan. This seems like this should be a show in its own and not part of the Ramsey company.

@megzys

3 жыл бұрын

It needs to be its own show so that Dave can deal with money questions. Plus, this is a great show.

@feeshah822

2 жыл бұрын

I actually found this channel because of The Ramsey show. I had seen him as a guest on there. I think it’s kind of awesome he’s part of the Ramsey clan because as we know, sometimes it’s not a “money” issue. So if viewers of the Ramsey show stumble upon Dr show, it opens the door for mental therapy awareness/healing etc. Probably a way to be spiritually, mentally, physically, financially secure. 🤷🏽‍♀️

someone taught this to these kids. they don't come up with this stuff on their own.

@DavidRamseyIII

3 жыл бұрын

Actually i think they do. This story I’ve heard this story a lot and they can’t all be molestation victims

@lauvasquez7198

3 жыл бұрын

They do come up with it on their own. But older kids (7) should know better by that age. Our job as parents is to drill in their head about private parts are private. No one can touch or look.

@DarthFurie

3 жыл бұрын

Young children do exhibit these behaviors on their own when they're curious and trying to understand their bodies. But as they get older they should understand what behaviors they should and should not exhibit, learning that nudity around others is inappropriate, etc.

All relatively normal. Just start supervising your children if you are so concerned.

@cayk9444

6 күн бұрын

It’s not normal for a child to force another child pants off, wtf ? That’s very different than curiosity and kids choosing to “show” others