Dr. Delony, you missed one important action...turn that laptop over to the police. They need the opportunity to track down these predators

@AustindGreen

Ай бұрын

I agree but she will eventually find another person who will give her attention

@pseudonym2839

Ай бұрын

@@AustindGreenAnd the parents should still continue to do that same thing

@YvesTissot5

29 күн бұрын

@@AustindGreenand it might backfire because it’s also illegal on her end.

@MXRacr777

6 күн бұрын

@@YvesTissot5NOT turning it into the police is the illegal part

@Dev-In-Denver123

5 күн бұрын

Nothing will happen have you seen all these youtubers catching predators?? Literally nothing happens and they’re SHOWING UP to meet..

Before she finished the story I already knew there was no father in the house.

Dads, dads, dads. They are so damn important and dont get the credit they deserve...when they are present

@llIlIlllII

2 күн бұрын

They do get credit any time they're present. The vast majority of men simply aren't present, even when they're still in the home.

Take her phone away, give her a flip phone for emergency contact, that simple

@wnm8888

Жыл бұрын

It’s not that simple. She will continue to act out regardless.

@wnm8888

Жыл бұрын

She needs therapy and parents that keep tabs on her.

The men who are asking her for pictures need to be reported for trafficking child porn. Maybe you can contact a branch of law enforcement that tracks them down. Sadly, when children act out sexually, it's often a sign that they have been compromised in the past.

@miketheyunggod2534

Жыл бұрын

It's not porn unless there's an implicit or explicit sexual act.

@mollynash2597

Жыл бұрын

That's what I immediately thought, she's been abused in the past.

@BhappyD

Жыл бұрын

@MikeTheYungGod 5 Images of nude minors are considered child pornography if sent to a legal adult, and it is a criminal offense to be in possession of it. I don’t think you understand what the term pornography refers to and is defined as. Look up the definition, and you will see that It does not have to depict sexual acts in ANY way, there just has to be sexual organs in view (the areas covered by underwear/bathing suit). And especially when it comes to child porn, ANY image or video depicting child/minor nudity is considered child pornography in the eyes of the law when it is being distributed to an adult. That child/minor does not have to do anything sexual or insinuate anything sexual in order for it to be considered child porn in the eyes of the law.

@aelh123

10 ай бұрын

@@miketheyunggod2534are you kidding ? Nude photos of a child is CP

@majorlagg9321

2 ай бұрын

@@miketheyunggod2534 Or if it's sent or displayed to appeal to the prurient interests. In other words, it;s intended to sexually excite others. A photo of a baby in a bath tub sent to grandma is not porn. But, the same photo sent to strangers who are sexually aroused by that would be porn.

That's a horrible situation, but I do have to disagree with Dr. John on one point. I'm an IT professional and I can tell you that any filtering/parental controls that don't involve the parent seeing everything the child is doing are 110% worthless. There is no "easy button" for keeping kids safe online, other than taking them off completely or supervising everything in person.

@cheekymonkeygirl3378

Жыл бұрын

I’m older than her and I do the same. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@bensondentalassociates8690

Жыл бұрын

Spot on. Most parents don’t realize kids are professionals at finding loopholes in parental controls. I was at my age

@leapinglaura7343

9 ай бұрын

Yup and I continue to wonder what's so damn hard about sitting in the same room as her (whatever child) while she did her homework, then the laptop's locked away. I glance over all the time as I'm reading my book and more importantly, they know it. I could glance far less often, because they assume my eyes are always there lol. They still enjoy their privacy, because I'm too far away to read. I can just tell what site they're on. My older boys are completely porn free and one might almost say they worship me for my diligence. :))

Social media shows girls, that they can make allot of money with their bodies. Until we fix that, this will continue.

@Feliciations

Жыл бұрын

Yep. 100% you nailed it.

@GhislaineMutombo

Жыл бұрын

It's not social media, that's just an app which you can use how you wish. It will only reflect a piece of who you are. She has issues at home.

@jones2277

Жыл бұрын

gotta tell all the fathers to stop consuming it.

@cptfreeman8966

Жыл бұрын

Sad part is most of these girls online be lying. The sex industry is predatory by nature

I had this happen with a client. I was advised to tell the parent to bring all the devices to the police. It is a criminal investigation.

I knew right away her father wasn't in the picture. She has no self worth and looking for male acceptance. Unfortunately I hope she doesn't learn the hard way and become another statistic. If I was this mother I would make it my full time job to keep her off the internet and get her into therapy again.

Calls like this make me glad I'm not raising kids nowadays.

@candyluna2929

Жыл бұрын

And calls like these make me worried. I have 2 under 2. You have it good.

@John3_16_

Жыл бұрын

I have four kids. It’s a blessing. You can’t protect your kids from everything. All you can do is try your best and do your due diligence as a parent.

@salma_Nella22

Жыл бұрын

@@candyluna2929 not all kids do this

@jeremyclee

Жыл бұрын

Not having a child out of wedlock with a convict helps a lot

@Helibeaver

Жыл бұрын

@@jeremyclee wedlock has nothing to do with it. Having kid with convict has everything to do with it

My first boyfriend was 42 and I was 18! Crazy, right?! We lived together about a year and he wanted to marry me, but fortunately I had the wherewithal to wake up one day and realize I had a lot of growing up to do. So I left. When I went to therapy a few years later, the shrink told me that my relationship with a much older man was because I wanted/needed a father figure. I totally rejected that information. Didn't believe it at all. But years later, I was able to tell myself, that was exactly what I was doing. I wanted to feel safe and protected. I also wanted to feel loved and beautiful. It's not healthy. I'm not sure how you would teach a young girl not to degrade and dishonor herself. A therapist could talk to her about it until he is blue in the face and if she's not ready to see and hear that, she won't. Maybe she needs to talk to women who have been there and done that. Maybe then she'd listen. I wish her the best. She is definitely going down the wrong road.

@Butterd4t4ss

Жыл бұрын

Now I know why I got rejected so much in high school (17/18) lol. So many girls went out with guys 30+ older. The idea was “the older the guy, the more mature” which is definitely not always the case. Now that I’m 29 turning 30, the thought of being with a 18/19 year old turns me all the way off. Barely adults and still in that teenage annoying phase. Glad you gained the self realization though. A 18 year old with a 30+ year old bf is definitely a red flag no matter how you look at it. The odd thing is that in todays Manosphere, they always bring up how normal it is that older men seek women in the 18-21 age range which seems so predatory to me. They’re adults sure, the beauty is there sure, but me being 29 almost 30, I’m not dating anyone under 4 years my age. Wtf is there to talk about with someone 18/19. I don’t even own social media lol. That would probably be a “red flag” to most young adults lol. Ridiculous. Kudos to you though . More men need to raise they’re daughters man and we won’t have young girls going thru what the mother in this videos daughter is going thru.

@9liveslisa

Жыл бұрын

@@Butterd4t4ss Exactly.

@jwlsngold5026

Жыл бұрын

This is a good idea, she could volunteer at a women's shelter for homeless or abused women, because that's the road this poor girl is heading down.

@Dennis-nc3vw

Жыл бұрын

@@Butterd4t4ss It's pretty messed up we live in a society that where we can freely demonize people who seek much younger partners as predators and exploiters, but can't even question same sex relationships. Studies show relationships with large age gaps tend not to last, but studies also show gays and bisexuals have twice the average suicide rate, and its definitely not due to "oppression" because this rate has remained steady for 20 years. Modern liberals bring up how homosexuality was accepted so widely in Pagan cultures, but age gaps were taboo in exactly zero cultures prior to Second Wave Feminism. As someone who likes 'em young but struggles between adhereing to sober morality and my own instincts society's hypocrisy really makes my blood boil.

@jones2277

Жыл бұрын

i always wanted to feel that, but i never sent nudes to anyone. and i never dated 42-year-olds. what causes some to act out and others not to.

I was bullied in middle school and high school, but for the most part I had good self worth. I encountered a predator in a chatroom when I was a teen, but I knew better. I never did this kind of crap. The mom needs to take away her access to the technology and get that kid into counseling asap. It's not a normal thing for a child to send nudes to strangers. The kid obviously has self esteem issues and lacks insight

I did this all the time. :-/ Taking away the electronics probably won’t fix it completely, and she will seek it in person which is probably worse… she needs her mom to show her that she is valued and to drill good values in her, and that will be hard and take time.

Depending on the state you live in, if a minor sends nude pics of themself online is considered distribution of child porn. This may be a crime.

@MrBrewman95

Жыл бұрын

It is a crime.

@dewilew2137

Жыл бұрын

It’s a crime in every state.

@nigelmcgill4916

Жыл бұрын

Yeah absolutely a crime in every state.

@jonahpeacock2561

Жыл бұрын

It is a crime but that is not very helpful unless you want your daughter in Juvenile detention and on the sex offender registry.

@firefly9838

5 күн бұрын

@@jonahpeacock2561 yeah these people would hand their children to govt prisons lmao... the prison industry will love making money off her.

This is why we need strong men. Weak men prey on vulnerable girls like this

@sheizzl18

12 күн бұрын

Sense the beginning of time. This is nothing new

@jseanruth5807

3 күн бұрын

I have to tell you that I appreciate your take on the need for strong men. I WAS one of those weak men but not anymore!

@ks41331

2 күн бұрын

@@jseanruth5807ummmm what???

@jseanruth5807

2 күн бұрын

@@ks41331 may be I need to explain that I never dabbled in child pornography or trying to meet up with minors but had some dysfunctional sexual tendencies. Let me guess, you have no vices at all and walk on water. Relax will you please.

The access given to kids at the schools is so harmful. I had on our restrictions at home but it was difficult to control what they did in school when they were in computer labs. The teachers don't watch them and, honestly, I don't think they care. One of our daughters found a hack to get around the school firewalls and she was talking to strangers online. We took care of that but if I were to do it all again, I would homeschool my kids. I just think kids today are being exposed to way too much and it's scary.

Taking away phones doesn't take away problems.

@janelleg597

Жыл бұрын

It takes away one problem. Access.

@furryplantsandcoins9070

Жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯 my daughter would barrow a friend's phone or just steal someone's phone! She was out of control! The lying and deception! She started cutting to fit in with kids at school. Then we home schooled her. Some stuff got better but some got worse! No matter what we did to help her she sure did demolish boundaries!

@vaska1999

2 ай бұрын

​@@furryplantsandcoins9070 Kids don't cut themselves to fit in at school. Cutting is a sure sign of serious psychological problems

@griffin8er845

Ай бұрын

@@vaska1999 maybe (and I hope) she meant cutting class. But you are right that girl needs some serious therapy if that’s not the case and is the former.

One of the ACEs questions is do you have a parent who is incarcerated. This poor girl's ACEs score is probably off the charts.

@carolinag8943

Жыл бұрын

Are you in my phycology class because that's exactly what we are learning right now this week 🤯 this is a direct effect of an ACE

Mom is faced with a cultural dilemma as well. Ppl will try and tell her its normal her child is exploring sexuality in this way. They will tell her she can’t be so restrictive or her child will resent her. But i promise her ur kid will only feel blessed. I think a perf example was how my mom never let me go to the mall with friends growing up til i was at the age to know whats what

Chris Hansen has entered the chat

Sometimes when I listen to these calls I can’t help but cry.

If your local police department is worth anything, they'll want to get any tips they can to track down these creeps. If you still have the computer, or any information on them, please give it to the police so other kids don't have to get hurt by the same people.

I really appreciate how you explained this. Thank you for always remembering that they are kids and they need their parents to do anything.

I’m a social worker in Arizona. I like the idea of family therapy with mom and daughter! However, at least here in Arizona, I keep encountering therapists that say clients have to go through individual therapy, first, before engaging in family therapy. The issue is when one participant (including children) say or indicate that they do not need therapy. Therapists will not continue therapy if children do not engage or refuse to. This becomes a barrier for family therapy. Don’t give up, mom.

@Jackaroo.

10 ай бұрын

Therapy isn't always the answer.

@zoraidaramirez7605

8 ай бұрын

@@Jackaroo.where did I say it “always” is?

Ooh that’s a good suggestion about the internet. I could see a relatively simple way where parents just use data plans for internet on mobile but as far as the rest of the house is concerned no internet.

Call your internet service provider and manually block these websites.

Ultimately, she needs a strong male figure in her life that can show her that not all men are the kind to seek gratification from exploiting young women/kids physically (digitally or not). If her dad is not in the picture due to prison, put another strong male figure in front of her (friend's dad, school coach, principal, anyone) someone that literally is the embodiment of a man (provider, role model, father). I would reach out to your school like DR John said to find someone that will willingly, through the goodness of their heart, help to be that figure. No matter what the mom does, she will rebel. The mother is taking away a source of freedom from the girl and more importantly a source of validity that is filling the void for something. Taking the internet away is only a band-aid. In two years, if the wound doesn't heal, she'll be free to continue her habits somewhere else. And then she won't have a mom she trusts or a dad in the picture. First figure out the why. Why is she doing this? (does she genuinely not know any better? Is it fun? Does she feel good about it? Does it make her feel good physically?) The tackle the how. If you go to the school accusing them of their laptops being the issue, someone is going to say "well control what your kid does on the machine". Which will only make you more frustrated as a parent. Lead with empathy. She needs comfort before discipline. tough question to answer John, well done as always. God bless.

@GabrielMartinez-sd8pc

Жыл бұрын

Comfort before discipline is what causes this in the first place.

@milananand6347

Жыл бұрын

@@GabrielMartinez-sd8pc punishment before understanding the motive of the crime only leads to further resentment. I said comfort. Not justification of ones actions.

@Kinksgalore

Жыл бұрын

She needs a strong male figure sounds like a creep.

@GabrielMartinez-sd8pc

Жыл бұрын

@@milananand6347 there is no comfort in disciple therefore my stance still stands

@milananand6347

Жыл бұрын

@@GabrielMartinez-sd8pc Then I'm afraid the only discipline you've understood is abuse. I'll agree to disagree to avoid a debate.

Dads are everything

This poor, sweet woman. What a tough spot, and what a deep pain she must be feeling. 💔

People need to be careful these days. there is so much human trafficking these days..

As someone who did this stuff at 15, you need to take laptops/iPads/phones to an IT person to block websites. It did give me confidence in my body, as an adult I know it was wrong but it was fun. I never said I love you to these ppl, so that’s concerning she’s getting emotional attachment

@dewilew2137

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. She needs attention from her father.

@rachelgee7894

Жыл бұрын

I bet she can get around those. She needs to go to a no tech school and have no internet access

@Mkay999

Жыл бұрын

How old are you? No tech schools don’t exist. Good schools in good areas provide kids with laptops/iPads etc.

@rachelgee7894

Жыл бұрын

@@Mkay999 not true at all. In fact most silicon valley CEOs send their kids to non-tech schools. What does that tell you? You can also write an exception for your student if it's a tech school

@sunshine3914

Жыл бұрын

@@rachelgee7894 Source?

Great advice, let your child see your struggles. Show them how you work through the confusion and chaos in our world. If you don't teach them, they are going to learn to deal with it somewhere. Wow this would have been so powerful in my life.

I agree with taking away the internet and going to counseling together. We aren't sheltering her because we're going to explain what's going on and give her tools to deal with this. We're not chastsing her either. She's got two years to protect her. That's two years that will never come back. Will she rebel at 18? Maybe. But two years is a long time in the world of a developing child. I was this girl. If I'd had a mom who did this, maybe I wouldn't have made some of the decisions I made that really messed me up.

These school laptop programs are crazy. I'm always surprised at what my son tells me his friends do on their school-issued laptops at school.

This was my daughters exact same story!! She lied and hid things from us. We had no idea what she was doing. I was hyper vigilant. She moved out at 18 and didn’t look back. At 21 she left me her baby at 3 days old. She still can’t handle adulthood at age 26

I’m two minutes in, and I already know this girl’s father is not in her home or in her life. This girl wants attention so badly. Edit: called it. Edit again: taking away this girl’s internet and laptop might be a short term fix, but by the time she’s 17-18 and getting ready to leave the home, all bets will be off. She’s going to rebel hard and it’ll be the same thing all over again. Just because she’s technically an adult at 18, doesn’t mean she has the emotional capability to deal with these predatory men. Most young women don’t. I didn’t until I was 28. I was sheltered as hell in my mother’s home, and I graduated at 16 and went buck wild. I had no idea how to navigate life while looking out for bad, manipulative, predatory people. I didn’t even understand that people like that existed. It was too sinister to comprehend. I learned the hard way, and I had to sacrifice my mental and emotional health for that lesson. I don’t want that to happen to any more girls.

@dewilew2137

Жыл бұрын

@Amanda Ross absolutely. You described it perfectly. Children, especially girls, who grow up without their fathers in the home (or even if he’s in the home, but he’s just emotionally distant and cold) need to be warned of these things in explicit detail. Letting sheltered girls who are starved for male validation out into the world is like directing lambs right to the slaughterhouse.

@razmiddle9410

Жыл бұрын

@Amanda Ross How's your relationship with your mom now?

Why turn the internet off? As long as they don't have the password to the routers or access to any computers! There are parental controls for a reason!

@sophiesto6122

Жыл бұрын

You obviiusly dont have a teen. We are both techies with 3 teens. It s a cat and mouse game. EVERY MONTH we need to revamp internet scurity!!!!

@jmac1221981

Жыл бұрын

It’s a more effective way to keep out the pedos, that her daughter is seeking out, if there is no internet. There are time u go scorched earth and with her daughter running full tilt into danger, now is the time.

@furryplantsandcoins9070

Жыл бұрын

@@sophiesto6122 actually I had 2 teenager daughter's! And yes my oldest daughter was doing that stuff. But like I said if they don't have the passwords for the internet or access to a computer then ya why get rid of the internet? And yes you will need to change passwords frequently!

As I listen, this mother is asking what her daughter needs. Why not ask your daughter these questions? Kids open up when they want to. But it’s important to keep the line of communication open with your kids. I told my mom everything bc I trust her and knows she loves me. It was me and my mom against the world (not me against my mom). She’s a tough love person and not easy to talk to but she always told me that I could tell her anything. And I did.

@jones2277

Жыл бұрын

come on, use some common sense. if they've been to therapy, she's obviously tried to talk to her daughter.

@Bluesnakes333

Жыл бұрын

@@jones2277 So Dr. Delony knows her daughter’s reasons? 😂my point is that only her daughter can answer that.

@jones2277

Жыл бұрын

@@Bluesnakes333 you're assuming her mother hasn't tried to talk to her about it. that's probably the first thing she did. that is why she's turning to a professional for help. no need to be so self-righteous.

@Bluesnakes333

Жыл бұрын

@@jones2277 The mother talked to her daughter and the daughter didn’t open up. Why do you think that is? THAT is a problem. Ideally, a daughter should trust & confide in her mother. That was my point in the beginning.

@jones2277

Жыл бұрын

@@Bluesnakes333 then just say that in your original post. you literally said "why not ask your daughter these questions" I'm saying, don't assume she hasn't.

I am glad I am single.

I was the 14 year old. If I was found out and the result was the Internet was taken away from my house, I would feel guilty and terrible and broken. I would likely self harm as self punishment. I hope the changes come with a huge amount of affirmation. She needs to know that she is beautiful and worth protecting.

@cptfreeman8966

Жыл бұрын

You sound like you needed or need therapy..

@cptfreeman8966

Жыл бұрын

It something you SHOULD feel guilty about.

@Audra94braun

Жыл бұрын

@@cptfreeman8966 why

@Audra94braun

Жыл бұрын

@@cptfreeman8966 we all need therapy this is a KZread channel for a therapist, but why should I feel guilty you never explained this?

I was 12, my parents never payed attention to me and left me at home. I was luckily smart enough not to send any pics.

Tell her what can actually happen from this action! Scare her!

@icestationzebraassociates2460

Жыл бұрын

I agree - it would be good for her to see a real story regarding what can happen. No exaggeration necessary. I just searched "14 year old kidnapped after meeting online friend" and tons of results are returned. No shortage of material here.

@Feliciations

Жыл бұрын

There are also legalities. She is making and manufacturing child porn. She could literally be arrested for it.

I feel for the mother. I hope mum and daughter are going to counselling. I hope things are better.

I am happy we did not have these apps when I was a teen because I would more than likely done the same thing.

Agreed. Even incarcerated dad needs to be consistent. His inconsistency in her life will give her stress and trauma

If you’re even asking that question you’ve already failed as a parent. Learn how to parent your child properly.

@vaska1999

2 ай бұрын

Well, it's a good thing that the mother is reaching out to a professional for advice and guidance.

@mollygrace3068

19 күн бұрын

That’s what she’s trying to do.

Have the parents shown her documentaries about online predators and how they operate?

For literally any parents who's children are 12-17: This could very well be you and you don't even know it.

@Impala75

9 ай бұрын

Exactly..I'm going through this mess now..smh

This was a really great call

Sounds like dad isn't in the picture and your daughter is running your household.

Oh my lord- I thought my 14 year old was the only one doing this! These kids are way too provocative

@Impala75

9 ай бұрын

You are not alone..These pedophiles are all over the internet..Watch out for tiktok..my 13 year old daughter was groomed.smh

@vaska1999

2 ай бұрын

Kids who do this are deeply troubled. To call them provocative is inane, stupid.

It’s really sad what’s going on. They are gonna take all the electronics from her and she will probably loose all her friends and won’t be able to make any new ones. She’ll be bullied for not being able to have tech and she won’t be able to connect with her peers. It’s her fault and it’s the only choice but Poor girl is going to have such a rough life going forward. She’s gonna be so alone and probably suffer with depression. Even when tech is gone she’s gonna start doing it in real life, she’ll probably sleep with a lot of people just to get that feeling.

@d.c.d.8985

Жыл бұрын

I agree except it’s not the child’s fault. It’s the mother’s fault. She has poor judgment (made kids with a jailbird) and is a bad parent. Instead of actually supervising her child online, she just blocks her access to everything. She’s a lazy parent and her child is suffering as a result of her being a bad mother. Nowadays it’s unpopular to tell the truth about single mothers. The fact of the matter is MOST of them are bad mothers whose children suffer because of their bad decisions and laziness. This is just another example. But instead people aren’t insisting that this grown woman be accountable, instead we are blaming her poor, helpless child who never had a chance with a mother like this one.

I don't necessarily agree with getting rid of the Internet in your home. Instead of getting rid of it, learn how to properly use the Parental Control features available to you. That's what they're there for. You can block sites you don't want them going to, or allow only the sites you specify. You can restrict what days and what hours they have access to the Internet. Take some time to learn the features available to you so you can control your child's access and get Parental Control apps that let you monitor everything they do online.

That’s crazy I’m going through the same thing and I’m younger I hate the internet and I’m really tryna look past the mistakes. But it could screw me over in the future, I don’t even care about being in a cell it’s abt what my friends and family will think 😕

That girl is asking for an emotional connection!!! You, the mother, have not given that to her, plus her father in jail. Sorry, but if she does everything he says to do, she will leave the house very early with the first guy who will promise something to her.

An absent parent and I'm assuming public school are definitely something that feeds into this. And I'm willing to bet that young girl probably doesn't even realize why she's doing this. It's most likely subconscious.

Another girl with major issues because she didn’t have a strong father figure. You ladies seriously need to do a better job of choosing men to procreate with

parents start teacbhing at a young age teach your daughters how to be ladies and dress approprietly and talk about how they are vulnerable by boys and these predators john spot on about standing up to schools i couldnt imagine having to go through this time w internet raising teens😢

Take her computer away…phone too. Time to be a parent. She is still a child. John is right…..get rid off of all devices.

Delony: Is she at least getting paid for them??? 🤔

@kellyeverett

8 ай бұрын

That’s sick she’s a kid and you’re a pedo

I remember my oldest doing these kinds of things. I'm so glad I'm done!! She was SO HARD! 🤗 to that Momma!

I did this when i was 12. Long story, police and everything. Men were 30 years old

This is shocking man i feel bad for the daughter and the mother

You don’t need to get rid of the internet 🤣 just take away her phone for good

"Save your daughter" says it all.

Thank you john. Parents get your kids the hell off the internet unsupervised. They should have extremely minimal access to the internet and no child needs to be on social media apps of any kind. I don't care how many of their friends have it and I don't care how mad they are at you for not letting them have it. Your job is to be a parent not a friend. And don't allow schools to tell you what you're going to give your child access to. If you decided not to give your kids internet access in the school wants to give them a device with the internet you say no. Be the strong parent she needs. Also nothing against this mom because I'm sure she is doing everything she possibly can but we have a fatherhood crisis in this country. An absent parent of any kind of devastated child but especially the absence of a father is a huge issue in this country and world.

Take all the devices away.

Yeah. When she was explaining what's going on I was thinking "daddy issues" I've known people like this.

Geez, she's already starting down the path to the h04 phase and the streets considering she is hiding this behavior.

@Mkay999

Жыл бұрын

Not at all. I started doing online stuff and got off on it instead of being in person with men.

She’s also probably selling your pictures.

I hope the teen has a father figure in her life cause shes crying out for love

Knocked another one out of the park

Utah schools spend less per child but we get pretty good test scores and stuff. But maybe that’s just because I live here. I got the highest score of anyone I know on the ACT. I just wanted to beat my brother, but man, did that pay off!

Call Chris hanson

At 14, it's too late. I witnessed this with my step-sister. They gotta get tougher. Either follow the house rules, or leave. About 20 years ago. By 17, she had turned her bedroom into a brothel. She chose to leave rather than follow house rules. She ended up living over a bar and serving drinks for a living. Most likely, this young lady started this many years ago, maybe at 8 or 9. Daughter is 16 now, very little a parent can do at this point. She can try, but at 16, daughter will sneak out.

@da---536

4 күн бұрын

absolutely

Call the police. If your city / state has not defunded them you might have a chance to see justice.

The only reason a teenager would do something like this is because they did not get the love and attention that they needed growing up so now they are seeking it out elsewhere, getting their worth validated by older men online. Good job, mom.

She's 16 and wants connection.

Blame social media and trending

Is she telling these men her real age?

A lot of people seem to be saying it happens when the father isn't around or they have a bad relationship, but in my mind it seems like it would and does happen anyway if they have access to internet, extended free time and maybe particularly if they go to girls only schools, don't interact with boys in clubs or other activities. Am I wrong? Especially during puberty when this type of development happens. Also comparing yourself to friends doing the same would do it. Or having no friends. If you are lacking peer connection going through puberty, do not interact with opposite sex in your normal life and are unoccupied with unlimited internet access, they will use the internet to find these things. Perhaps it is the element of having a male reliable presence that would curtail this, but any involved strict parent who has fostered respect could create this environment, no? I have always said if I have children they would have a basic no internet phone for emergencies and use a shared/monitored computer in a common room only. As John lists the alternative possibilities then being strict on those things might not seem too hard or impossible even if their strength or talent is IT based

@da---536

4 күн бұрын

teen girls want to be told how sexy and pretty they are period its up to parents both parents not to preach to them but instill don't lower itself to that level talk talk talk see who they hang out with no slurry friends

you dont have to get rid of the internet change the passwords

How did the parenting get so fucked up? If the parents had instilled self esteem in their daughter this wouldn’t even be an issue.

@da---536

4 күн бұрын

👍

The kids can still use cellular to go online

Revoke internet access to teenager. Didn't have to watch the video. Problem solved

@sunshine3914

Жыл бұрын

Lot more to it than that. You really should listen before commenting.

Its gonna hell on earth if she get human trafficked

Her dad is in prison and the only way she knows to "trust" relationaly the love of the opposite sex is through phone and internet.

304 in training

Get rid of electronics

@da---536

4 күн бұрын

what is that gonna do sit down and educate and talk to them. a father needs to talk about this shut with his daughters absolutely.

The writers of these questions and the actors calling in are quite creative.

@kellyeverett

8 ай бұрын

There not actors

I don't mean to take away from the severity of this topic...... it's bad...... but....... regarding the part when Dr John says about them being chidren, lacking the mental capacity/maturity etc etc............ why is that children are then able to decide they want to be a different gender? and to take hormones before their OWN bodies are producing hormones etc etc

@janelleg597

Жыл бұрын

Because people are morally bankrupt

@ineedhoez

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. I am liberal I fully agree.

@el676

Жыл бұрын

The progressive mainstream is filled with hypocrisy like that.

@anneshirley9560

Жыл бұрын

He'll never address this topic head on.

@NeccoWecco

Жыл бұрын

First of all, why are you taking this story and making it about gender identity? Secondly, The point of puberty blockers is to give the person time to mature and decide if it's what they truly want. It is fully reversible and they can still undergo puberty once they stop taking them and have children later in life. Why are you so concerned with childrens' healthcare? Kind of creepy.

Why do millennials and Gen Z expose themselves online like this?

This girl needs martial arts and self-defense classes! For one - it will build up her self esteem and the way she looks at herself [both emotional and physical]. For two - until she smartens up and gets a bit of maturity, she needs to be able to defend herself, because at the rate she is going - she will need this sooner or later. And if she gets lucky enough not to need it - it's an accomplishment that stays for you for ever! And good luck with trying to restrict her online activities! Where's a will, there is a way and she will find it, if that's what she wants. And gods forbid, she'll figure out IG, TikTok and Onlyfans and the fact that she can make money with that...

...it's gonna be hell on earth when you say no to her. But it's also gonna be hell on earth when she sneaks out to meet these guys and one day doesn't return. Or has a self guided abortion in your toilet. Or it goes wrong.

She’s going to seek male attention regardless unless mom helps with that validation/attention bc I think that’s what most girls are wired to do biologically. And bc dad isn’t there to show her how men are supposed to treat her she might not know she’s being manipulated or abused until it’s too late. Predators seem to be getting better and better at finding kids like this who need validation. I think if she takes tech away the daughter is always going to find a way. Mom needs to find a trustworthy, patient man to spend time with them bc moms judgement is better! Good luck Mom and be patient❤️

@da---536

4 күн бұрын

👍

Imagine giving your sex addict/confused teenager a laptop/phone no strings attached. Big brain move, let’s see if it pays off.

Histrionic???

@kellyeverett

8 ай бұрын

She’s to young to be diagnosed with a personality disorder

Cut the Internet

Most of the comments in this section ring to the same tune so I'm gonna give a different perspective - I did this when I was her age too... And turned out just fine lol. As long as she doesn't give out ANY personal info, I don't see any issue with talking to other teens online to get validation/ make friends.. because what the mother said is incorrect - right after covid and weeks after a new school switch she more than likely does NOT have any friends. Not a "best friend" at least. At that age, new school acquaintances just don't feel like they count. I had created a profile on the "Hot or Not" app strictly to boost my self confidence/ get immediate validation. My stepmom stole my phone to look thru it, found the profile and lost her top. The huge over reaction was bogus and I stilll haven't forgiven her for the insults thrown at me during that time / the refusal to hear me out when I was trying to explain why I was on there/ visiting video chat rooms like Omegle.

No more phone or computer alone. Simple. Hey her an Iwatch where she can makes call only while at school