Your message speaks to me. I had just turned 31 this year. Last year, I had lost my job and remained unemployed for 8 months, despite actively searching. What little I had left was nearly gone, and I accumulated so much debt that I never thought I would have in my lifetime. I was finally hired just two months ago, and slowly have been working my way out of debt and desperately putting whatever I have left towards saving for a future, but it feels like an impossible task, especially while seeing so many people my age (and younger) starting families, traveling, and seemingly feeling so sure about their lives. What kept me going was this piece of advice: "don't aim for perfect, aim for progress."

@justhau

Ай бұрын

oh darling, that must have been so scary! 8 months is a long time, I know. I'm so happy you've found a job, a great relief I'm sure. I agree with that advice, so good to have as a reminder. I'm gonna put this on my vision board. thanks darling. xx

@elphaba1300

Ай бұрын

@@justhau so important that you’re talking about this. So many of us are here, and it can be isolating. Let’s keep motivating each other and sharing what’s real.

@valariogulah

Ай бұрын

Definitely resonates

@ashleymyers3100

28 күн бұрын

It's so hard not to compare yourself to others. We all do it. I'm sorry you are struggling to conceive. You have a lot going on: this channel, school, making your health a priority, wife, trying to make new friends. Would it help if you got a part time job? Not for financial purposes rather just a chance to get out & meet new people & have it be something fun, not something for your career or for financial reasons. Just a chance for you to get out of your head put yourself out there. There has to be so many unique jobs in the city. As for the friends not calling you back or inviting you to other events forget about them, they weren't your friends to begin with. Keep your tribe small. I'd rather have 2 or 3 really good friends than 100 so-so friends. I know it sounds silly but I think it would feel good to volunteer, or work in a florist shop & create flower arrangements, or work at Sephora & give ppl suggestions on products. Would it help pay for all living expenses probably not, but it would give you a chance to put yourself out there, meet new ppl & maybe do something u enjoy at the same time 😉 without feeling like another day has went by & you don't feel like you got anything accomplished. I think us women pit enormous pressure on ourselves to cross everything off the checklist every day & if not we feel like a failure-BS. Right now I should be exercising before work & instead I'm being lazy on my phone 😂

Hi Hauthor, I am also a late bloomer and the struggles you speak of are so relatable. I have so much to say but I don’t feel like venting. So I’ll just say you are not alone in the situations and emotions you have shared…. Love and light ❤️🙏 maybe let’s try to be thankful and grateful for what we have irregardless……..

@justhau

Ай бұрын

Late bloomer club! I'm glad this resonates with you, it's not easy but better late than never. Definitely grateful for my life 🥰☺ Thank you for your kind comment. xxx

I'm in the same boat! Partying a lot in my 20's, avoiding any form of responsibility - after 3 years of trauma therapy I finally started sitting in the driversseat of my life! Yes when you are in your 20s you can make more mistakes and experiment but I have found that all the things that i put away I now can tap from. No matter how or what - the years we spent 'hiding' are still years of experience. For example you now creating a video that inspires young people to make the most out of their 20s and connecting with other 30+ people to show that the moment is now ;) All the best and thanks for the vid!

@justhau

28 күн бұрын

Thank you for this comment! I feel understood. I hid myself in pursuing a career and being a perfectionist, people pleaser. you can run and hid but the trauma is still there waiting for you. Even the act of hiding and running is a trauma response. Phew, it's a mad one. I think i need to start trauma therapy seriously. I'm so so glad, you're in a great place now. Thank you for the encouragement. I know it will all work out how it's supposed to. xoxo

as a 20 year old, thank you for sharing your perspective

@justhau

Ай бұрын

Ahh, thank you for being here. greatly appreciated. xxx

I'm in the same boat as you, Sis like I just turned 31, been unemployed for 2 years now, like I'm frustrated and overwhelmed by my emotions 😭 😒 I'm from South Africa 🇿🇦

Hi Hauthor, remember that everyone’s blessings come at different times. Just because you see others with things you desire doesn’t mean that they aren’t facing their own challenges. I understand how difficult it can be to make friends as an adult; I also moved from London to the US, and it hasn’t been easy. I’ve kept myself busy by exploring different hobbies and focusing on my professional development, much like you. Being a late bloomer can be frustrating,as it often feels like you’re behind. But I believe this is part of Gods plan for you. You might be surprised at how many people would love to be in your position. Though you may have doubts about your faith, remember that the almighty God (Jesus) never fails when you trust him. Everything will turn out beautifully for you. Don’t worry.

@justhau

Ай бұрын

Heey Faith. thanks for the encouraging words. Where in the US are you? You're definitely right re: blessing, it can just be so hard when your blessing doesn't seem to be turning up. I've started exploring different hobbies / activities too now hopefully will meet like-minded people. It's funny, but keeping busy with work means less time for socialising. also I work from home which can be isolating but I am so grateful I don't have to do office / commute every day. On the whole, I'm happy that I am at this phase where I am self-aware and brave enough to do something about my life. Anyway, how are you finding the states? 🙂🙂

Thank you for sharing and being honest. I'm a late bloomer, too, and I totally understand being in the wait.

@justhau

Ай бұрын

Hey lovely, glad this resonated with you. I hope everything works out for us. xxx

Thank you for your vulnerability. I can relate being a late bloomer myself and being in a similar situation. You didn't do anything wrong. Just as you said, life be lifeing. This too shall pass.o

@justhau

Ай бұрын

Phew 🥲it's not easy. Hoping for better for both of us. xxxx

Also, you’re not alone! We’re in this together! This battle is internal we must remind ourselves of that! Enemy get out! You are not welcome here! You used your authentic power to share this with us! You are walking in your power. You’re saying things like catch up, late bloomer, etc. All I hear is no financial obligation that keep me tied down, new beginnings to continue creating the life of my dreams, and lightness to start fresh! Everything is perception! Shift yours!

@justhau

Ай бұрын

Thanks beautiful. it's comforting and reassuring to know it's not just me. I appreciate your perspective, defo a great way of looking at the world. I'll try it!

@only1dwill

Ай бұрын

@@justhau No problem at all, you are at a pivotal point in your process! Here are a few good reads to help you along the journey: Woman Evolve By Sarah Jake’s, The Seat of the Soul By Gary Zukav, 7 Spiritual Laws Of Success, A Return To Love By Marianne Williamson, and The Bible (change this based on your personal beliefs)! I literally carry these books around with me like my phone! Read them, then reread for understanding, then study them based on where you, then apply the principles to your life! Those habits and skills they taught us in school come into play right now! Learn, Study, and Apply! These will help you learn your spirit, your soul, and how to properly care for them! ❤️🤞🏾 It’s Catapult Season! 🧘🏾‍♀️🪷😇❤️

I can totally relate to you. I would say write a list and prioritize those things. Pick one or two things off that list and start there. Trying to do it all will continue having you filling stuck. Income seems to be the most important so I would say start there and work on a second thing that would require you to get out of the house such as going to the gym and then that could lead into you meeting other people. So I would say to start there. Take it one day at a time and enjoy the process or journey. You will get there in your own timing. No more comparing your life to social media ok! People of all age groups have this problem. I just moved to a different city about 3 years ago and I felt that way. It takes some time but it slowly starts to come together. Letting go and enjoying the process and enjoying the journey will make the destination that much more enjoyable.

@justhau

Ай бұрын

All solid advise, thank you for taking time to write this. I think when we are in the thick of it, we can't think straight and just clutch at straws. I'm realising structure is so damn important. Phew comparison being the thief of all joy. I'm getting off socials for a while so focus tbh, only staying on youtube to post and connect but i'm off insta. It's hilarious that despite being in the psychology field, I still fall into the social media comparison trap. Anyway, I'm letting go so I can breathe and rest. Will see what happens. :)🥰🥰

from a late bloomer, I can assure you, it’s not too late to become the best version of yourself. I too woke up when I was 30 after my mom passing and becoming a single mom whilst in debt and broke! it’s only over the last couple of years that my life started to make sense again and I’m turning things around. Just a reminder that just because it’s taking time, it doesn’t mean it’s not happening 💕🫶🏽💕

@justhau

28 күн бұрын

Hey Lori. Thank you for dropping me and giving me the encouragement and motivation I needed. I really appreciate it. I've been following you for years on my psychology channel. I'm inspired by your work and what you've achieved. xxx

I am waking up now, I am 32. It’s okay it’s okay it’s okay

@justhau

2 күн бұрын

i love this for you. welcome to freedom! how's the journey going for? xx

Go to Sacred Vibes in Brooklyn. Or Sacred Botanica. We are a community of healers in NYC we have garden workshops and a conference coming up Oct 5 & 6. You can also go in the Apothecary and ask about herbal remedies for infertility. We have friends, community, & healing.

@justhau

Ай бұрын

Thanks for this ms.nebraska. Will definitely check all these out ☺☺xx

I loved watching this thank you for sharing. Also maybe try to explore and dismantle your beliefs on adult friendships! I find that the more I used to think like that, the more I would attract people that were closed off like that. But honestly I’ve made so much close amazing friendships in my adult life, I think you just have to find those people who feel confused like you. We all are. Just food for thought! You’re doing great :)

@justhau

28 күн бұрын

Hey lovely, thank you for being here and the encouraging words. That's so interesting, it makes sense though. I'm putting my best foot forward so will work on my mindset. Need all the tools. hope you've had a great weekend. xxx

I can't say that I'm a late bloomer except from the perspective of a recently retired woman who now has time for meaningful friendships and haven't been able to find that tribe you speak of. I have one close friend from high school but she lives 2 hours away and is still working. We get together when we can but I miss a more spontaneous connection with others. I've had some lunches and dinners with women I would like to connect with but so far am not feeling the kind of close friendships that I had hoped for. I'm a bit of an introvert and a homebody. I have 2 adult daughters and a 6 month old grandson I get to take care of 2 days a week so I have those connections but it's not the same as having a close girlfriend that you see frequently. My spouse of 40 years passed away shortly after I retired so being alone is much more pronounced than it would have been if he were still here. Making friends as an adult is difficult for many age groups so if it helps you are not alone.

@justhau

Ай бұрын

Hey Patricia, I'm truly sorry for the loss of your spouse, and thank you for sharing your story. I can't begin to imagine. I'm so glad you have your children, that's so beautiful and I love how you phrased this "I get to take care of 2 days a week". It's a privilege rather than a burden. I love that. I guess life happens are friendships drift apart with distance and as people build their own family units. Are there any local groups / hobbies you can join to meet more people? honestly, it's comforting to know I'm not alone in this but also hope things change for both of us. xxx

@patriciateague8677

24 күн бұрын

@@justhau Thank you. I've had some thoughts about volunteering, etc. but frankly I'm enjoying not having much in the way of commitments. I love having my grandson nearby and want to be a constant on his life. I think it has also brought my daughter and I even closer which is a bonus. I hope you find people too. My one advantage is that I've lived where I do for almost 40 years so I do know a lot of people and just need to work a little harder to stay in touch.

This speaks to me so much. 🩷 Happy I came across your channel and looking forward to hearing more about your life and journey. 🌞

@justhau

28 күн бұрын

ahh Robin, thank you for being here. so glad this resonates with you. it really helps knowing we are not on this journey alone. I hope it's not too heavy for you. 😘😘