Psychology Grad Student and Artist based in New York city. Life is to be lived urgently and intentionally.
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hi, How are you? I love your content. I analyzed your channel and found there are many problems. Can't you see the problems. You need to solve the problems very quickly. I can help you if you want. I will wait for your reply. thank you
I don't have an Apple laptop but I've noticed if I leave my laptop on it will go to sleep and will not easily wake up. The power button is lit but I have to keep pushing it until it goes out and then press it to start again. Sometimes it takes quite awhile for it to work. If I shut the laptop off then I have no problem getting it to start. So now I make sure to shut it down even when charging.
I am waking up now, I am 32. It’s okay it’s okay it’s okay
i love this for you. welcome to freedom! how's the journey going for? xx
Love your energy, you keep singing
I'm in the same boat as you, Sis like I just turned 31, been unemployed for 2 years now, like I'm frustrated and overwhelmed by my emotions 😭 😒 I'm from South Africa 🇿🇦
Hey Haular! I am Ugandan born in London as well and I want to move to NYC for a masters! Congrats on the move, so inspiring!!!!
I love your content
Social Media is false. You will become a full adult when you stay off of social media.
I'm in the same boat! Partying a lot in my 20's, avoiding any form of responsibility - after 3 years of trauma therapy I finally started sitting in the driversseat of my life! Yes when you are in your 20s you can make more mistakes and experiment but I have found that all the things that i put away I now can tap from. No matter how or what - the years we spent 'hiding' are still years of experience. For example you now creating a video that inspires young people to make the most out of their 20s and connecting with other 30+ people to show that the moment is now ;) All the best and thanks for the vid!
Thank you for this comment! I feel understood. I hid myself in pursuing a career and being a perfectionist, people pleaser. you can run and hid but the trauma is still there waiting for you. Even the act of hiding and running is a trauma response. Phew, it's a mad one. I think i need to start trauma therapy seriously. I'm so so glad, you're in a great place now. Thank you for the encouragement. I know it will all work out how it's supposed to. xoxo
This speaks to me so much. 🩷 Happy I came across your channel and looking forward to hearing more about your life and journey. 🌞
ahh Robin, thank you for being here. so glad this resonates with you. it really helps knowing we are not on this journey alone. I hope it's not too heavy for you. 😘😘
Thank you for sharing your story. Please let me know I can send you a nice African Handbag as personal gift to say Thank you for your bravery. <3
I loved watching this thank you for sharing. Also maybe try to explore and dismantle your beliefs on adult friendships! I find that the more I used to think like that, the more I would attract people that were closed off like that. But honestly I’ve made so much close amazing friendships in my adult life, I think you just have to find those people who feel confused like you. We all are. Just food for thought! You’re doing great :)
Hey lovely, thank you for being here and the encouraging words. That's so interesting, it makes sense though. I'm putting my best foot forward so will work on my mindset. Need all the tools. hope you've had a great weekend. xxx
Go to Sacred Vibes in Brooklyn. Or Sacred Botanica. We are a community of healers in NYC we have garden workshops and a conference coming up Oct 5 & 6. You can also go in the Apothecary and ask about herbal remedies for infertility. We have friends, community, & healing.
Thanks for this ms.nebraska. Will definitely check all these out ☺☺xx
from a late bloomer, I can assure you, it’s not too late to become the best version of yourself. I too woke up when I was 30 after my mom passing and becoming a single mom whilst in debt and broke! it’s only over the last couple of years that my life started to make sense again and I’m turning things around. Just a reminder that just because it’s taking time, it doesn’t mean it’s not happening 💕🫶🏽💕
Hey Lori. Thank you for dropping me and giving me the encouragement and motivation I needed. I really appreciate it. I've been following you for years on my psychology channel. I'm inspired by your work and what you've achieved. xxx
Your message speaks to me. I had just turned 31 this year. Last year, I had lost my job and remained unemployed for 8 months, despite actively searching. What little I had left was nearly gone, and I accumulated so much debt that I never thought I would have in my lifetime. I was finally hired just two months ago, and slowly have been working my way out of debt and desperately putting whatever I have left towards saving for a future, but it feels like an impossible task, especially while seeing so many people my age (and younger) starting families, traveling, and seemingly feeling so sure about their lives. What kept me going was this piece of advice: "don't aim for perfect, aim for progress."
oh darling, that must have been so scary! 8 months is a long time, I know. I'm so happy you've found a job, a great relief I'm sure. I agree with that advice, so good to have as a reminder. I'm gonna put this on my vision board. thanks darling. xx
@@justhau so important that you’re talking about this. So many of us are here, and it can be isolating. Let’s keep motivating each other and sharing what’s real.
Definitely resonates
It's so hard not to compare yourself to others. We all do it. I'm sorry you are struggling to conceive. You have a lot going on: this channel, school, making your health a priority, wife, trying to make new friends. Would it help if you got a part time job? Not for financial purposes rather just a chance to get out & meet new people & have it be something fun, not something for your career or for financial reasons. Just a chance for you to get out of your head put yourself out there. There has to be so many unique jobs in the city. As for the friends not calling you back or inviting you to other events forget about them, they weren't your friends to begin with. Keep your tribe small. I'd rather have 2 or 3 really good friends than 100 so-so friends. I know it sounds silly but I think it would feel good to volunteer, or work in a florist shop & create flower arrangements, or work at Sephora & give ppl suggestions on products. Would it help pay for all living expenses probably not, but it would give you a chance to put yourself out there, meet new ppl & maybe do something u enjoy at the same time 😉 without feeling like another day has went by & you don't feel like you got anything accomplished. I think us women pit enormous pressure on ourselves to cross everything off the checklist every day & if not we feel like a failure-BS. Right now I should be exercising before work & instead I'm being lazy on my phone 😂
I can totally relate to you. I would say write a list and prioritize those things. Pick one or two things off that list and start there. Trying to do it all will continue having you filling stuck. Income seems to be the most important so I would say start there and work on a second thing that would require you to get out of the house such as going to the gym and then that could lead into you meeting other people. So I would say to start there. Take it one day at a time and enjoy the process or journey. You will get there in your own timing. No more comparing your life to social media ok! People of all age groups have this problem. I just moved to a different city about 3 years ago and I felt that way. It takes some time but it slowly starts to come together. Letting go and enjoying the process and enjoying the journey will make the destination that much more enjoyable.
All solid advise, thank you for taking time to write this. I think when we are in the thick of it, we can't think straight and just clutch at straws. I'm realising structure is so damn important. Phew comparison being the thief of all joy. I'm getting off socials for a while so focus tbh, only staying on youtube to post and connect but i'm off insta. It's hilarious that despite being in the psychology field, I still fall into the social media comparison trap. Anyway, I'm letting go so I can breathe and rest. Will see what happens. :)🥰🥰
as a 20 year old, thank you for sharing your perspective
Ahh, thank you for being here. greatly appreciated. xxx
Also, you’re not alone! We’re in this together! This battle is internal we must remind ourselves of that! Enemy get out! You are not welcome here! You used your authentic power to share this with us! You are walking in your power. You’re saying things like catch up, late bloomer, etc. All I hear is no financial obligation that keep me tied down, new beginnings to continue creating the life of my dreams, and lightness to start fresh! Everything is perception! Shift yours!
Thanks beautiful. it's comforting and reassuring to know it's not just me. I appreciate your perspective, defo a great way of looking at the world. I'll try it!
@@justhau No problem at all, you are at a pivotal point in your process! Here are a few good reads to help you along the journey: Woman Evolve By Sarah Jake’s, The Seat of the Soul By Gary Zukav, 7 Spiritual Laws Of Success, A Return To Love By Marianne Williamson, and The Bible (change this based on your personal beliefs)! I literally carry these books around with me like my phone! Read them, then reread for understanding, then study them based on where you, then apply the principles to your life! Those habits and skills they taught us in school come into play right now! Learn, Study, and Apply! These will help you learn your spirit, your soul, and how to properly care for them! ❤️🤞🏾 It’s Catapult Season! 🧘🏾♀️🪷😇❤️
I paused after 1:23, I have been exactly where you are, actually just shortly over a year ago. When the circumstances are changing and you still feel a heaviness second to second, that is your spirit crying out for attention. We have an ego and a spirit. Our ego is moved by all things that we can perceive with our five senses. Our spirit, when recognized, only perceives love in all things, people, and places. It may be time to go within and start the journey toward wholeness. Because no matter how far you climb, unless you have an awareness of the higher powers at work, and wellness practices based on what you need, there will be this continuous longing feeling on the inside. Getting in-tune with source, your true self, will solve all of that instantaneously! Allow me to be a testimony, as I have been transformed by the renewing of my mind! ❤️🤞🏾🪷😇
Thank you for your vulnerability. I can relate being a late bloomer myself and being in a similar situation. You didn't do anything wrong. Just as you said, life be lifeing. This too shall pass.o
Phew 🥲it's not easy. Hoping for better for both of us. xxxx
I don't know why he's annoyed with your singing; you've got a great voice!
At 2:54 he said it was the fact that she wasn't getting ready, I think that's what was annoying him, not necessarily the singing...
lol. he loves it really. by the time we left the house in that video, I had sang about 10 songs!!! 😅😅the curse of being married to a musician 😅 Also thank you for the compliment. xxx
@@princesskaha story of my life, 🤣🤣i never leave on time... we joke that I might have dyspraxia because of my poor time management.
@@justhau I KNEW it!!! 😂😂😂 that's the same with my dad and mom all day!!! 🤣
I can't say that I'm a late bloomer except from the perspective of a recently retired woman who now has time for meaningful friendships and haven't been able to find that tribe you speak of. I have one close friend from high school but she lives 2 hours away and is still working. We get together when we can but I miss a more spontaneous connection with others. I've had some lunches and dinners with women I would like to connect with but so far am not feeling the kind of close friendships that I had hoped for. I'm a bit of an introvert and a homebody. I have 2 adult daughters and a 6 month old grandson I get to take care of 2 days a week so I have those connections but it's not the same as having a close girlfriend that you see frequently. My spouse of 40 years passed away shortly after I retired so being alone is much more pronounced than it would have been if he were still here. Making friends as an adult is difficult for many age groups so if it helps you are not alone.
Hey Patricia, I'm truly sorry for the loss of your spouse, and thank you for sharing your story. I can't begin to imagine. I'm so glad you have your children, that's so beautiful and I love how you phrased this "I get to take care of 2 days a week". It's a privilege rather than a burden. I love that. I guess life happens are friendships drift apart with distance and as people build their own family units. Are there any local groups / hobbies you can join to meet more people? honestly, it's comforting to know I'm not alone in this but also hope things change for both of us. xxx
@@justhau Thank you. I've had some thoughts about volunteering, etc. but frankly I'm enjoying not having much in the way of commitments. I love having my grandson nearby and want to be a constant on his life. I think it has also brought my daughter and I even closer which is a bonus. I hope you find people too. My one advantage is that I've lived where I do for almost 40 years so I do know a lot of people and just need to work a little harder to stay in touch.
Hi Hauthor, remember that everyone’s blessings come at different times. Just because you see others with things you desire doesn’t mean that they aren’t facing their own challenges. I understand how difficult it can be to make friends as an adult; I also moved from London to the US, and it hasn’t been easy. I’ve kept myself busy by exploring different hobbies and focusing on my professional development, much like you. Being a late bloomer can be frustrating,as it often feels like you’re behind. But I believe this is part of Gods plan for you. You might be surprised at how many people would love to be in your position. Though you may have doubts about your faith, remember that the almighty God (Jesus) never fails when you trust him. Everything will turn out beautifully for you. Don’t worry.
Heey Faith. thanks for the encouraging words. Where in the US are you? You're definitely right re: blessing, it can just be so hard when your blessing doesn't seem to be turning up. I've started exploring different hobbies / activities too now hopefully will meet like-minded people. It's funny, but keeping busy with work means less time for socialising. also I work from home which can be isolating but I am so grateful I don't have to do office / commute every day. On the whole, I'm happy that I am at this phase where I am self-aware and brave enough to do something about my life. Anyway, how are you finding the states? 🙂🙂
Hi Hauthor, I am also a late bloomer and the struggles you speak of are so relatable. I have so much to say but I don’t feel like venting. So I’ll just say you are not alone in the situations and emotions you have shared…. Love and light ❤️🙏 maybe let’s try to be thankful and grateful for what we have irregardless……..
Late bloomer club! I'm glad this resonates with you, it's not easy but better late than never. Definitely grateful for my life 🥰☺ Thank you for your kind comment. xxx
Thank you for sharing and being honest. I'm a late bloomer, too, and I totally understand being in the wait.
Hey lovely, glad this resonated with you. I hope everything works out for us. xxx
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I've been to NYC 2x, once when I was 15, & once at 19. Never long enough. I've always wanted to go back & stay longer & see & do more. I love learning about other cultures, cuisines & trying new things & NYC is great for all of those things. I also have a degree in Fashion, however; what those jobs pay I would barely survive on in NYC. At 36 I don't want roommates. I'm from Iowa it's in the Midwest. I used my degree for 7 years in Iowa as a designer (sewing & designing samples for customers & getting them ready for Production)& currently I'm learning a new trade as a Pharmacy tech. I was beating myself up for the longest time for not using my degree anymore, but now that I'm not in a creative job, I have more time to work on my own creative projects. We are all capable of being multi faceted. Why stick to the same profession for 40 years?
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. ❤
Love your style!
Thank you darling. I love to keep it simple and minimal. Xxx
This is so beautiful. I'm glad I found your channel ❤
Ahhhh thank you for being here darling. I’m so glad it. 😘😘
I want your hair! You edges are so full! Love that you are wearing your natural hair. You are inspiring me. Great content 🙏🏾
Ahhh thank you Marna! You can have you. Only you need to do is put olive oil in your hair. That’s literally all I do. Gotta love your natural hair, it’s all you have and it’s beautiful 😊😊
Your purple dress you wore out to lunch with your girlies was absolutely beautiful! Your style is very classic, reminds me of Megan, duchess of Sussex. Glad u found a neighborhood you like! I've heard Brooklyn is great for raising a family ❤
Oh that’s a big compliment, thank you! I keep my style simple and minimal. I think it’s because my brain is so busy, I want everything else around me minimal lol! Same with my house. We actually stayed in Manhattan for the time being. Still on the hunt for our neighborhood 😊. Btw, where in the states are you? Have you been to NYC?
I was getting a rash on my stomach every day after work on the days I would work. I worked in a hot factory 80 degrees daily inside & the last 2 years have been nothing but stress trying to figure out what is causing my severe dry eyes=$$$$, went through most of my savings (& moved) had 2 procedures that weren't covered by insurance & they cost almost $1600 & they didnt help my problem =super frustrating. I recently switched jobs less physically demanding & now I no longer get a rash on my stomach. My Mom was right, Moms are always right, so glad I didn't waste $$ going to a dermatologist. If u have allergies & you have to take medicine daily I highly recommend doing allergy shots, been doing them for 5 years now & I'm off my 2 daily nasal inhalers & allergy pill. They are an investment & time commitment, I get them weekly. I have 1 year of shots left, they have changed my life, I'm no longer miserable daily because of my allergies 🎉
Oh my god, sorry you went through that! I’m so glad it’s been resolved. It must have been so frustrating with insurance not covering it especially when you’re paying into it! I am so anti medication because there are so many side effects. Do you suffer from Hayfever? I get it so bad now, (never used to)!
I don't get hay fever but my Dad does. Never move to the Midwest. With the changing of the 4 seasons & being heavy in agriculture the dust & dirt makes everyone's allergies go crazy when the seasons change. Right now the pollen is so bad it looks like pieces of cotton floating in the air. Since you try not to take medicine I recommend this for your allergies (it's an old wives tale that ppl swear by in the Midwest), buy local honey (not processed from the grocery store) from the local Farmer's Market. Consume 1 Tablespoon of the local honey daily to help with allergy symptoms. Put in hot tea, yogurt, oatmeal, etc. If you Google it you will find lots of contradictory information on its effectiveness, but its still cheaper than allergy shots (the only thing that has worked for me), taking medicine daily, or going to the Dr every 6 months.
Welcome to NYC aka London’s cousin… I happen to actually like London I was there last year, and I have family in England as well. New York is a bit overwhelming for me and I’m a native - I’m actually looking to leave. I don’t mind visiting but it’s getting to be too much… I am interested in how you became a song writer. All in all I enjoyed listening to your story and I should probably be starting a KZread channel as well… one day I’ll make it on here lol. I would like to connect if possible. Looking forward to more content. Many blessings.
London is beautiful for sure. It’s cleaner 😆😆. Would you move to the UK to live? I think as we get older and we have kids, we would leave the states. Thanks for being here, I appreciate it. And definitely start that channel! It’s worth it just for documenting your life, sharing your thoughts. It’s helped me with my confidence. Re: being a songwriter, I’ve been at it for a while, trying to make it as a musician first, performing etc, then I found writing music for tv/film and it’s a great way to make a living, be creative and have your freedom. You can get into it independently or find a publisher to sign with who you sign a contract with and they help you get opportunities.
@@justhau Yes I would move to the UK. I finally uploaded one video - Although the video image quality needs some work… it’s a start! Thanks for the information.
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Living in NYC and attending NYU is super expensive. You must be a very good writer.
Both are definitely expensive. Gotta be good with money, have a job and / or wealth. I’m just lucky and good with my money, I never live above my means. 😊😊
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Very inspiring. I'm so happy for you to find your purpose. Peace 🕊️
I’m so glad! Took some time but better late than never. I hope you have found or find your purpose. Xxx
thank you for sharing! also you’re incredibly beautiful 💓💓
Sorry for the slow response darling. Thank you for your sweet comment 🥰🥰🥰. Xx
Im so happy for you! Usually after it storms there is a 🌈. When you were talking were you saying PTSD or PCOS? I assume the 2nd one since it's geared more towards women. You will be so much more relatable going forward in your life journey helping other women because you yourself have experienced it ❤ helping others is such a wonderful feeling. My friend I was telling u about prior her mother in law is from Africa & whenever she was in pain from female problems her mother in law told her to drink Raspberry leaf 🍃 tea. Something in the Raspberry leaves helps with female menstrual & pregnancy issues. Africans usually take the more natural route, & as $$$ as some medications are & they have all these nasty side effects, natural is more safe. So recently I've been to several specialists for dry eye disease, my eyes are getting worse, my vision is near perfect. I have to have eye drops made from my own blood at a lab, I'm on these super $$ Xiidra ($500 eyedrops for 3 month supply, no generic on the market, hence the crazy price), I use eyedrops from a Drugstore $18 a box, wear a sleep mask at night & put in special eye drops before bedtime. Do a heated eye mask in the AM & PM.The Dr thinks it might be my birth control I'm on.🤯 I'm currently on YAZ & I haven't had a period in 5-6 years. I struggled with PMDD (Premenstrual Dishorphic Disorder). I would get really depressed 2 weeks prior to my period starting, couldn't sleep for 2 weeks prior, irritable. Once I started started YAZ taking my period out of the equation stopped all my symptoms immediately. Now the Dry Eye Specialist thinks I have a hormonal imbalance because my eyes aren't producing oil on their own. When I don't take fish oil everyday I get bad headaches. She wants to put plugs in my tearducts so then my eyes will produce oil more naturally. She discussed the importance of eating healthy. Whenever I eat fish I swear it helps with my depression & my dry eyes from the Omega 3's. I can't wait to put this chapter in my life behind me. The stress of all of these medications & things I have to do everyday is a lot of work. I can't help but wonder if it really is the birth control or antidepressants I'm on that are causing me all of these issues. Or is there a hereditary component as well? Both Grandma & Great Grandma on one side of family have maculuar degeneration. Usually dry eye disease occurs in women in menopause, I'm only 36. The Dr said we will have to try one thing at a time to help us pinpoint what the issue is. The Dr does research & I told her I would gladly be her guinea pig if that meant getting discounts on checkups or procedures. Thank you for shining light on women's health issues, they are far more complicated than anyone realizes! ❤
Hlw, very beautiful videos 😊❤
thank you. :)
I also like your purse.
thanks hun, it's from Allsaints. I take it everywhere. 🙂
I don't like being first but I guess I am. I must say I really enjoy your vlogs. Short but lots of wonderful content. Very relaxing. I like the bars you unintentionally spat at the beginning where you said you were looking for something to eat. 😂 mind linking the spring roll recipe you said you got from IG? It looked delicious. Here's to your growth.
yey Nancy! thanks for being first darling and for watching. lol, i am always singing. I was singing Bob Marley's "Sun Is Shining". Here's the recipet: instagram.com/p/C47G4SDPSE5/?igsh=MTZlY25ybjhydGtyNA== xxx
Your makeup is stunning 😍 after a good cry session I put on a full face of makeup to hide the fact that I've been crying. Girl problems 😅
Hi! Just watched this post. My good friend is African American & she struggled to get pregnant. In between her 2 sons being born she suffered 2 miscarriages 😢 devastating. My friend struggles with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. It's more common in African Americans. Just wondering if this is what could be contributing to your miscarriages. Im so sorry for your loss 😢Your apartment is beautiful. I agree with what u said: "u can't be healthy all the time" 🙏 after all everything in moderation. Glad u are keeping busy. Have you ever heard of "Better Help" supposedly it matches u with a therapist online. See it brought up from other ppl I follow. Seems like it would be much more convenient especially living in the city, this is done through your phone or computer
Ahh Ashley thank you so much for this lovely comment. Honestly, it's such a hard journey. Very unexpected. But it has made me a different person, for the better. I've been finding out a lot about my health and working on it but yes, PCOS / fibroids are part of the equation. Thankfully, I've got some great doctors and insurance (America!!!!) so feeling hopeful and supported. really appreciate your kind words. I hope you're having a good week! xxx
I'm so glad you are getting answers! Once you find out what is going on with your health you can move on & be more aware of these issues & what not to do to help your condition going forward. So glad u found a good Dr you can trust, that is half the battle!
As a New Yorker, I also find NYC to be inspiring. I also find London to feel like home for me. My husband is British and we plan to live in London part time in the future!
There's so much life and character here. I hear you, London is great, a lot quieter than NYC. It's nice you have the option. xxx
I dnt make many comments on the pages I subscribed to, but I always give them a thumbs up. I came across ur page last month, and I enjoyed ur volgs, and I subscribed . You make me smile and think, u are a light, and u make my heart smile. 🥰
Hi Rena, thank you so much for watching and taking time to comment. I appreciate your support. So glad you enjoyed the video. You're comment is so affirming. I hope you've had a good week so far. xxx
HI SO SORRY YOUR GOING THROUGH YOUR TRIALS BUT DONT GIVE UP , IT S GOING TO HAPPENED FOR YOU I PRAY😇
Hi Melissa. Thank you for your kind comment. I'm definitely hopeful. xoxo
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thanks for watching Margaret. :)
@@justhau You’re welcome; God bless 🌸