Not even rice and beans. Just water for breakfast, thoughts for lunch and sleep for dinner.

@Only2GendersCommonSense

3 жыл бұрын

And snack on head-scratching throughout the day.

@Ril014

3 жыл бұрын

💀💀💀💀

@christophermartin972

3 жыл бұрын

He can have a ketchup packet on his Birthday 🎂

@Kingeos0

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@briansmith5239

3 жыл бұрын

Don't forget prayers, can't have thoughts without prayers.

I got in debt just listening to him.

@KC-eu3vu

5 жыл бұрын

LOL!

@mattydazz

5 жыл бұрын

@@KC-eu3vu hahahha! true

@mistyb1u

4 жыл бұрын

🤦🏾‍♀️Messy!😂😂🤦🏾‍♀️

@julesharger2786

4 жыл бұрын

U got into debt because it was ur choice truth! It wasn't Dave's fault it was urs

@szqsk8

4 жыл бұрын

Noel Martinez 👏👍👏👍😆

Not married, living together, kids, massive debt, opposite financial goals, and can't even discuss finances. This relationship is broken before it started.

@mestyatbahlna9430

11 ай бұрын

And even he is raising a daughter that’s not his

@PoyTroy

3 ай бұрын

I can tell you now he only bought that house cause the single mommy told him they need it for her daughter. Dude is screwed

Get rid of the girlfriend. Start Air BnB'ing the crib or get a roommate. Get a side security gig. Adjunct teach criminal justice classes at the nearest community college.

@rayzala1393

4 жыл бұрын

@zadose GF is going to be a single mother if she runs so she's going to cling to anything she can get

@Originalman144

4 жыл бұрын

Nonya Buz they are both dead weight, that’s why they’re together.

@Vydio

4 жыл бұрын

I'd consider the house a bigger problem at this time.

@victoriagarcia5533

4 жыл бұрын

The girl needs to get rid of him.

@MP-nj1qy

4 жыл бұрын

Alan Butler I agree 100%. My house is 215K with 70K income, but I have two roommates who pay a total of $900. I can’t complain 😋

This dude just needs to be born again and start over literally.

@markg999

5 жыл бұрын

Be nice if it worked that way sometimes.

@Mcbaker12

5 жыл бұрын

mesidye Gold 🙌🏽😂😂😂😂😂

@cgasucks

5 жыл бұрын

If he had a reset button to restart his life he would've pressed it long ago.

@brianbest6097

5 жыл бұрын

Deeper question is if you had a choice would you choose to be born?

@NathanRyanAllen

5 жыл бұрын

How the heck was he approved for a home loan with over 200k in debt? Who issues these loans?!

Parents don’t always know what’s best for you. He could have went to community college and got the exact same job

@Columbus1152

5 жыл бұрын

If he wanted to be in law enforcement, he could have enlisted, gotten out and paid a premium as a vet, and had his education paid for, and gotten a salary while he served. Win win chicken dinner.

@Eugenepanels

4 жыл бұрын

you are right i have caught my parents giving me such bad advice before now i dnt trust them anymore

@greenearthblueskies8556

4 жыл бұрын

Or just graduated high school for his job.

@747-pilot

4 жыл бұрын

@@Columbus1152 Exactly!

@AT-lp8qg

4 жыл бұрын

same problem, first generation college. first i have to say i love my parents and i respect them, but when it come to financial matters, the best way is to avoid debt as much as possible. my parent "encourage" me to take a $60k/yearly tuition prestigious private university over a good public one that cover all my tuition. they and everyone i know also encourage me to take $25k-30k student loan debts as they are cheap government-financed debts. then my parents also encourage me to buy a new car as soon as I graduate, even offering me$5k for down payment. well i took their offer and use the down payment to buy $3k used car, and then rest in a saving account for maintenance. i took the public school, and graduate with 1/2 debt as compare to my peer. when it come to parents, love and respect them, but think for yourself.

"We are not willing to talk about marriage until we are willing to talk about money," -this is on point and the best advice i heard all day while having a morning coffee.

@sweetfayce18

2 жыл бұрын

That part

@turtleanton6539

11 ай бұрын

For sure 😊😊

Im so sorry Mike, im sure your parents didnt mean to give you bad advice, they just didn't know any better. We all make mistakes. Best of luck to you.

@boneyn3661

Жыл бұрын

His mom wanted to brag her her knitting club where her son was going to school

@turtleanton6539

11 ай бұрын

Faxx😊

Dave even tried to make him 3 years younger to help him lol

@marqusbrown9539

4 жыл бұрын

Fun guy!

@jayhenry3146

4 жыл бұрын

Max My god I heard Kawhi’s laugh over my own from your comment.

@ineedhoez

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@Krissy19986

4 жыл бұрын

Messy 😂🤣😭

@chazz256

4 жыл бұрын

@@jayhenry3146 Same

RUN, don’t walk away from the girlfriend. Once she graduates she will be making a very comfortable living on her own and won’t need you anymore. If she isn’t talking about her future with you then she doesn’t see you in it.

@Homeside301

4 жыл бұрын

PERIODT

@RLC2020

4 жыл бұрын

Spot on!

@angelaalston176

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

@rominacerati

4 жыл бұрын

boss 630 lol

@inthevault9603

4 жыл бұрын

Girlfriend out!😂

“I went there originally for finance, and I didn’t do good at finance” Story checks out lol

Dave - How old are you? Caller - I'm 31 Dave - How old are you? 28? Caller - I'm 31 Dave - Sell it all and deliver pizzas

@demarcoandrade4257

4 жыл бұрын

Walter White 😂😂😂

@pixari9649

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😭

@BridgeStamford

3 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭

@deborahblessed8541

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

That woman is gone a soon as she finish school.She doesn't want to talk because she has a plan,sry dude.

@mikenelson8377

5 жыл бұрын

Richard Graham that’s exactly what I was thinking too. Tom Leykis would agree with you.

@triad6425

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah it's sad but it's the nature of hypergamy. She will be itching for doctor in under 6 months after graduation especially if he trying really hard to get out of debt. Even the marriage option only has a 50% chance of working out but it's more like 30% since she will be making more than him.

@leniwash.dcarea6372

5 жыл бұрын

Just like MD's I have have DROPPED my clients RIGHT after they finished school. You also are 100% right- just saying and IMO :-)

@digitalbrand5510

5 жыл бұрын

Professionals in the medical field are notoriously bad with finances.

@EricSmyth2Christ

5 жыл бұрын

@@triad6425 more like %20 since she has a daughter with someone else

"I didn't do good in finance, so I switched my major." That says it all.. my god!!

@fabulouslifeinchrist1349

5 жыл бұрын

lol.

@bitcoinmaster3634

5 жыл бұрын

He should've switched schools not majors.

@jeffreystern5886

4 жыл бұрын

And a private institution to boot!

@Originalman144

4 жыл бұрын

He can’t even spell finance.

@greenearthblueskies8556

4 жыл бұрын

Bob Smith 😂

If she won't talk about money by 6 P.M. dump her at 6:15.

@avantiiresha6687

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha

@activelifeg5237

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

I'm a police officer listening to this and thinking, thank God I'm not in this much debt.

@ReddingRed

5 жыл бұрын

Many agencies wouldn't hire someone with such substantial unsecured debt. Becoming "dirty" when you're desperate to pay bills is a too common occurrence. It shows bad judgment in a big way.

@od4407

4 жыл бұрын

Dude I'm Police as well and same age.. this hurts listening...he needs to work for an agency that allows for a lot of OT or extra jobs...

@lifeaccordingtoatlas1852

3 жыл бұрын

@Paulsicles - same. Gives me anxiety just thinking of this.

He's doing everything wrong. Does whatever his parents wanted to make them happy and has an uncooperative girlfriend with some one else's kid. A ship doomed to be wrecked. He probably has self confidence issues.

@edwardroy3401

5 жыл бұрын

Agree...he's doomed...lost cause

@SigXman

5 жыл бұрын

But look at it from another perspective. He's a cop. What this cop needs is a really good drug bust with some cash on scene. Tada!!! Debt fixed

@senortigre0489

5 жыл бұрын

@@SigXman hahaha bro you made my day!

@fabulouslifeinchrist1349

5 жыл бұрын

@@SigXman lol. I can't even. And then free housing for life as an inmate. Debt problem irrelevant.

@C.G91

5 жыл бұрын

How can you have self confidence issues if ur a cop? They see and deal with a lot of crazy people. You gave to have a lot of confidence to deal with guns drugs violence on a daily basis

I pray he never pull me over in traffic. He is a ticking time bomb...

@leetraviusmckay314

5 жыл бұрын

Just stay away from Philly

@edgehodl4832

5 жыл бұрын

Best comment ever loooool

@bobbyb7672

5 жыл бұрын

@@edgehodl4832 Lol thanks

@ReneesKitchen

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@Columbus1152

5 жыл бұрын

Ralinebe 233- Yeah, your speeding ticket will be $252,000.00

As a woman I can honestly tell you that that girl is probably just with him because she wants to finish school and she needs a spot for her kid to live. She probably messed up her life early on and is trying to fix it which is obviously the right thing to do but this is the wrong way to go about it. She's probably using him I'm just being honest 😳

@johnlanier3616

Жыл бұрын

Agree

@bee12355

Жыл бұрын

You are probably right.

@marvilgalisa2251

Жыл бұрын

agree

@lj5673

Жыл бұрын

Yep, zero advantage for a man to get with a woman with kids.

@njpme

Жыл бұрын

I love when a woman can see their own BS.

"We're not willing to talk about marriage until we are willing to talk about money"

How did he secure a home loan with his debt to income ratio? $252K in student loan debt is nothing to sneeze at. These predatory loan schemes have got to stop.

@ramboxlegacy14

5 жыл бұрын

He could The minimum credit score for an FHA loan is 500, so maybe he has around there

@daniel-vn4ql

5 жыл бұрын

he probley used the GF to secure the home loan.

@harrisonwintergreen1147

5 жыл бұрын

Lenders love government employees. Stable careers & predictable paychecks

@freesoftwareextremist8119

5 жыл бұрын

I know someone who is unemployed and got a 15k car loan...

@kathrynjones5688

5 жыл бұрын

Steuern sind Diebstahl lord lol

Mike. My dude 2 things. 1. Quit listening to what others are telling you what you need to do. 2. Dump the girlfriend and her kid. You asked her about her loans and she keeps side stepping. You will eventually be asked to carry their financial burden because "they told you that's what a man does"

@daniel-vn4ql

5 жыл бұрын

No he wont necessarily have to carry her loans. the only way he will have to carry her debt is if she drops out. or dose not get a job Its not like she is doing a stupid course. She is training to be a nurse. She will make good money. Just because the boyfriend is an idiot with money dose not mean that she should have to give up her dreams. The boyfriend can work with her to keep her to keep her debts down. get married to her and then use there combined income to dig himself out of debt. But if she is unwilling to keep her own debts to a minimum well they will have to break up.

@leniwash.dcarea6372

5 жыл бұрын

omg-interesting that a person said those words to me directly yesterday- "..that's what a man does" and I just thought 'that is such a 'stupid' thing to say. YOU ARE 100% CORRECT. Smile. I can only hope millions listen to the vid closely and then read your post. Amen. Namaste.

@edgehodl4832

5 жыл бұрын

Lightningbluemeanie, you just gave this guy best advice ever, I hope that's exactly what he does. Its common sense, but people have no common sense now days

@canman5060

5 жыл бұрын

I 100% agree.Mike , please act fast.

@hateisasignofenvy651

5 жыл бұрын

Typical mamas boy

An old family friend used to say.." Tell me the truth and hurt my feelings...and save my soul!"❤️

“How much debt are you in?” “I don’t want to worry about it so I’m not telling you” Do not marry this woman

Uncooked rice and beans bro. Without water. For two years. Problem solved.

@murphykorkoyah6940

5 жыл бұрын

Yep, unplug the stove and microwave. Can't afford it.

@xXLightningFan9864Xx

5 жыл бұрын

Murphyanho sell them on Craigslist.

@pannycakesbabycakes

5 жыл бұрын

Bahahaha uncooked rice and beans!! That’s funny!

@matthewwilliams9200

5 жыл бұрын

hey it expands in your stomach which helps

@LaSombraa

5 жыл бұрын

matthew williams How would you even pass.... that

If this police officer stops me, im running.

@3of11

5 жыл бұрын

jean lenor id this police officer stops you. $200 will probably make it all “go away”

@jeanlenor1858

5 жыл бұрын

@@3of11 🤣🤣🤣Your very bad..

@roserevancroix2308

5 жыл бұрын

He will take you down, son. Don't confuse he's financial decision-making with his job-potential. They are not the same.

@charlesg7926

5 жыл бұрын

RoseRevanCroix ok calm down tough guy it was a joke 😂

@brianbest6097

5 жыл бұрын

@@3of11 How did he get a job as a police officer with that much debt? From my understanding you can't be an officer if you have a debt because your easily able to be bought

1:07 "And I didn't do good at finance", foreshadowing if I've ever seen it

I can relate to this man who called. But unlike him, I ignored my parents and did what was best for me. Sometimes, parents don't realize the costs of the education and the house. I went to the state school and am still renting because that's what I can afford. After a while we need to be adults and do what's best for our well being

He should be single 🤷🏾‍♀️. If his parents influenced him to make bad financial decisions, imagine what a girlfriend/wife would do. Work on yourself first.

@MrDigztheswagking

5 жыл бұрын

Right

@moniquek5097

4 жыл бұрын

faggy maxwell what money? He has a ton of debt just to become a cop. Obviously he’s stupid. And can’t make decisions on his own.

@nancymorrison9978

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. We are attracted to what we are familiar with. Red flags everywhere with this dude.

@Originalman144

4 жыл бұрын

He never overcame his mother and now he’s about to marry the girlfriend who resembles the mother. He is in a fallen state. Definitely needs to be single and on his own for a while.

@bishopscore

4 жыл бұрын

That girlfriend will get this poor guy into more trouble. I can just sense it.

$250k to be a cop, wow. There are brain surgeons who went to school for less.

@iamthedr333

5 жыл бұрын

Lol brain surgeons spend much more in this economic time.

@dacokc

5 жыл бұрын

Seems like these schools are predatory..

@uniqwiab8679

5 жыл бұрын

iamthedr333 the income ratio is better than an officer.

@Originalman144

4 жыл бұрын

And housing a single mom and raising another mans kid. This guy is in a fallen state. He needs to forgive his parents for leading him astray. Drop the single mommy and get in a tiny room somewhere, be single, and pay off that debt.

@highlyfavored2434

4 жыл бұрын

He could join the military and also work as security on the side and sell the house ditch the gf

All of a sudden my 40k student loan feels like a stroll thru the park. God bless this man.

Never let your student debt get higher than your first year salary.

@HaywoodHomestead

4 жыл бұрын

That makes no sense. Stay out of debt period.

@elenaravenwood9851

2 жыл бұрын

@@HaywoodHomestead You need to understand that some people dont have the resource to pursue the career they want. Obviously they need to be smart on choosing which one is the good investment, and one year salary debt is very reasonable if you can get one. If not then you may choose to invest your time instead in that industry and just hope an opportunity come up for you to go up the ladder and do things you actually wanted to do. But then again, some jobs cant compromise on qualification, that's why research is very important.

@plsspayorneuter

Жыл бұрын

Dear Katelyn, Please tell me where I can order your crystal ball that tells you what your first year salary will be 4-5 years in advance of graduation. Sincerely, A recession grad

@lloovveellyy742

Жыл бұрын

I'm only in $21000: Student Loan Debt $17,100 & the rest credit cards. I told myself I would not go over $24000 of "intentional" debt. I've decided $0 of intentional debt is a much healthier option. I will NOT be going back to school after I graduate this year. Not worth it.

@fiecylick3981

11 ай бұрын

@@lloovveellyy742 at least your debt isn't as really major as others. Also is there some sort of interest rate on student loans? If so how common if you feel confrontable disclosing that.

This man is deep in a hole he can't get out of & he's taking care of another mans child? I really hope he reevaluates his situation after this call..

@j.vosier6786

5 жыл бұрын

Yep he should run

@lllllllllarose

5 жыл бұрын

suppeboy saaid Sometimes life is not all about money. If they’re in love they can fight this battle together, not to mention her gf would be a rn earning a higher salary

@thehermi

5 жыл бұрын

Maybe she doesn’t have debt maybe she doesn’t want to tell him her business cause they aren’t married maybe she like keeping finances separate. I know I would want his debt with his poor financial still attached mamas boy. Its fun making assumptions!

@geriroush8004

5 жыл бұрын

@@roserevancroix2308 I may have heard wrong, but isn't his income 70k, and hers 85k. How is HE taking care of HER.

@francistran432

4 жыл бұрын

@@geriroush8004, cuz he's housing her

Poor guy. Getting burned left, right and centre.

@marvinthemartian9584

5 жыл бұрын

Not getting burned, he's just dumb.

@kevinb8881

5 жыл бұрын

He's also burnt front and back!!

@marvinthemartian9584

5 жыл бұрын

@@kevinb8881 I especially liked the part where his mom, who never went to college, had him go to that school because she liked it. Maybe they had really nice houses around that school. 🤣

@kevinb8881

5 жыл бұрын

@@marvinthemartian9584 Stupid is is stupid does, LOL!!!

@braxxian

5 жыл бұрын

He was dumb lets face it. He spent $250,000 on an education he didn't need to please his mum, then spent another $180,000 purchasing a house to please his dad. Virtually all his debt came about because he couldn't say no to his parents. Now he is shacked up with some bird and someone else's kid. This guy needs to grow up real fast.

"Darling, will you marry me? i need you to help me pay off a half million in debt." She's already got a kid to support, so I'm thinking she may not want to do that ... The guy sounds like a nice guy with a good heart ... I feel bad for him.

His dying father told him to buy a house?? That was what his father was worried about? Weird family.

@Theinsomniac826

4 жыл бұрын

Yes that sounds very weird.

@lesryglrhfohser

4 жыл бұрын

nah i think it was probably just a conversation he had with him when he was alive, don’t think his father told him to buy a house on his deathbed

@regularity2556

3 жыл бұрын

@@lesryglrhfohser 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Marbles53

3 жыл бұрын

@@lesryglrhfohser Exactly! I don't understand why he would still buy the house. I'm pretty sure the dream was to be across the street from his son and nothing to do with the house. That dream passed along with his father. Shouldn't have bought the house.

@intimacy2138

2 жыл бұрын

@@Marbles53 Humans are emotional creatures. All of us. All of us are susceptible to our emotions.

This guy is a perfect law enforcement officer: Do what he's told, don't ask questions.

@JulioLopez-xz5kx

5 жыл бұрын

Lol

@Joseph-en7gx

5 жыл бұрын

Yup, scared to be fired, will make him do things he doesn't like.

@juliecramer7768

5 жыл бұрын

larrybud My son is a cop. Don’t lump everyone into stereotypes.

@brianbest6097

5 жыл бұрын

@@Joseph-en7gx Aren't we all like that? scared to be fired i know i am.

@MrFuchew

5 жыл бұрын

ouch

After Dave says “Your headed for bankruptcy,” I’m almost positive that the fiancé is planning an “exit strategy” after completing college!

Poor guy, he sounds sweet. His parents lead him down a terrible path.

Dave is the judge Judy of finance.. blood Raw!

@Ms.MD7

5 жыл бұрын

He's savage lol

@DarrenSemotiuk

4 жыл бұрын

One level higher -- I doubt anyone uses "Judy" as a cuss word in their homes, most people either love her or laugh at her and ignore her, but Dave, well, when you have somebody realizing how they are SICK OF BEING ENSLAVED TO DEBT then the other people in their life get sick of hearing about Dave pretty quickly! :-)

Do a load of overtime. Police make a ton of money doing overtime.

@CaseyMiddlecoff

5 жыл бұрын

Not so much after taxes lol

@Columbus1152

5 жыл бұрын

He said they don't offer OT, probably small town. Dude has to get rid of the house and the gf&kid, and step up his game

@topman8565

4 жыл бұрын

Why does the government make them pay taxes instead of paying them less

@gilbertgonzales7833

4 жыл бұрын

Chief of police.. Maybe in mayberry. A chief in a even moderately sized city is making 300 g a year.

@raydavies6236

4 жыл бұрын

@@gilbertgonzales7833 Not that much, maybe in CA. Our CHief made 170k + 65k in detail, and we have an NFL stadium in town. A fairly expensive state too.

He's banking on his girlfriend making bank. Sounds great, until she says she wants to stay home with the kids.

@marcusarelius

5 жыл бұрын

Or find another guy who doesn't have $252K of additional debt....

@dronetrucker

5 жыл бұрын

@@marcusarelius yup, she will upgrade

@charlesg7926

5 жыл бұрын

More like until she dumps him, leaves him with the debt, and finds herself a hotter or richer guy

@brianbest6097

5 жыл бұрын

Which is always inevitable :/

@thehermi

5 жыл бұрын

She’s a nurse and that’s a has a child and a good job and probably getting her masters. I bet she was doing just fine while he’s making crazy decisions then moved in the house to help him out. No wonder why she doesn’t want to take on his debt.

"...So how do you have $252,000 in student loans to become a police officer" DEAD.

@Iworkwithnitwits

3 жыл бұрын

He said he went to a private college because his mama wanted him to.

Growing up with my father, I've learned to do the exact opposite of what he advises financially.

@MiamiPush2theLimit

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@nevrock1

2 жыл бұрын

I can relive my life in a type of “chose your own adventure” scenario and am glad I did NOT do some of the things my parents wanted me to do. Would not have worked out.

@lvly5357

2 жыл бұрын

Going through this now. Every time I mention a bill “don’t worry about” while he worries about old debt that isn’t being paid off due to interest and late fees.

@AimeePoppinBabies

2 жыл бұрын

Same.

Buying a home to honor somebody dying smh

@xNamsu

5 жыл бұрын

I mean thats fine if you have the money, but clearly in his case...

@Vydio

4 жыл бұрын

I want to know who gave him a mortgage!

@urwifesmacho777

4 жыл бұрын

@@Vydio I know right no wonder we are heading towards another hard recession

@tomd1434

4 жыл бұрын

He was thinking with his emotions. People do really dumb stuff when they think that way. I know I have. He can sell it.

@ThaRedPitbull

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, his dad was wrong for that. If he really felt that way he should've left his son some money to get that house.

The pricks who approved his loans should be fired immediately and heavily fined

@roserevancroix2308

5 жыл бұрын

Their job is to give out loans. It's not their fault people can't pay back. They don't force anyone to do it. It's your own responsibility. Not the banks.

@cooleobrad

5 жыл бұрын

@@roserevancroix2308 Yes but many times they act in an extremely predatory way which preys on financially illiterate and irresponsible individuals. It's extremely unethical to offer someone like this a loan, even though it is ultimately on the individual to take charge of their finances.

@andyarcher335

5 жыл бұрын

Thats the name of the game, how they play you!

@mytravls

5 жыл бұрын

I have $0 loan. And +760 credit. Still can’t get loan in a lower interest rate.

@aura5944

4 жыл бұрын

They did that intentionally, what do you think is their occupation? In the job description working people who are already struggling dig a little deeper into the hole.

He shouldn’t even be dating someone if his parents dictate his life at that level in his 30’s. He isn’t even grown.

He's a perfect example of someone who shouldn't have gone to college. Love your parents but understand when to ignore their advice when they don't know what they're talking about.

@toddlavigne6441

Жыл бұрын

if he knew he wanted to be a cop why go to university and get a masters degree?

@esonon5210

Жыл бұрын

@@toddlavigne6441 peer pressure, not having a backbone, not really knowing what you want to do in life. The reasons are limitless/

Women love to talk, when a woman says she doesn't wanna talk, the future is NOT bright. I wouldn't bank on this marriage if I was him. An NP will be making about $100k, she'll get job and leave him for an MD lol . Sorry

@edgehodl4832

5 жыл бұрын

She is smart, with his financial situation, she is not gonna settle with him

@Kymv8382

5 жыл бұрын

Edge HODL Yep! That’s why she doesn’t wanna talk about it. I feel bad for the guy cause I don’t think he sees what’s gonna happen

@wingsandfins

5 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, that's probably going to be the case😞.

@Theinsomniac826

4 жыл бұрын

True

@johnnastrom9400

4 жыл бұрын

"she'll get job and leave him for an MD" -- she's got a kid so it will not be that easy. There are some MDs, however, who are complete beta males and might go for that.

His parents dreams for him were pipe dreams.

One of my favorite things about DR is that he tells people to quit playing house. He’s not shy about telling it like it is with relationships and people living together.

This one is heartbreaking. I’m glad Dave pointed out the issues between he and his parents. There’s more going on than just the money. Parents, potential marriage and of course money.

The police academy cost me $4,000.... My degree cost me about 15k at a local college. Wow $252,000. Good luck partner. You have to really hammer this debt.

He needs to leave the law enforcement job...with a Masters and the police experience, he has a legit opportunity to make money in the private sector..also drop the GF and her kid...not your bag, dude.

@cubswincubswinao

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

@ineedhoez

4 жыл бұрын

She needs to drop him... he has baggage

@mikejohnson3713

3 жыл бұрын

ineedhoez more the other way around

@eldritchpumpkinghost2968

3 жыл бұрын

@@ineedhoez I know this comment is old, but they need to dump each other. The kid is not his problem and his debt is not her problem.

He's just going to have to delete his saved game and start over on level 1.

I'm starting to believe that college debt is the source of all ills. Parents, please, don't push them to go, let them work and build up a bankroll first.

Kids take out student loans like they'll never have to be paid back 🤷‍♂️🙄

@triad6425

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly they are kids making a huge decision with no long term planning on their part or their parents.

@triad6425

5 жыл бұрын

No one would say or loud : "I plan to take out 200k for an English degree that has the average salary of 40k and will have a monthly payment of 2k a month for 10 years".

@kutie216

5 жыл бұрын

Chris Invests Exactly. Then they blame it on the government or the bank as if they didn't sign their name on the dotted line themselves. They don't feel responsibility for the money they borrowed. The banks & gov't should consider the student's success in high school like GPA, SAT/ACT scores, and extracurricular activities to see if they'll be able to succeed at the school they are planning to attend & if they don't qualify they should be made to apply for scholarships or attend a cheaper school in line with their abilities. I am a college student who luckily doesn't have any loans, but a majority students are oblivious to the long-term implications of their debt. Another problem is affirmative action, allowing lower standards for minority students hinders their success. These students take out loans to go to these schools and end up failing out, taking much longer to attain a degree, or never graduate. It is not a coincidence that AA students have lower success/graduation rates. I'm not saying they are less intelligent, but that MANY students at these school, both minority & majority, are at schools above their skill level.

@MJ-in2xt

5 жыл бұрын

It's almost like someone who's not 18 and has likely never made more than minimum wage is ill-equipped to make such huge financial decisions. But for some reason everyone older than them from their parents to their school, including their job and even their country, is pushing them to take out these loans. They're setup for failure from the start and by blaming them, as opposed to blaming this insane system that no other country allows to this extent, we are allowing this problem to continue.

@leniwash.dcarea6372

5 жыл бұрын

One person who did the paperwork for loans at the college always was smiling when the student signed the docs for loans....I wonder why...:-)

He did not get around to the $30.000 car payment and why did he get a masters in crime?

@mesidye

5 жыл бұрын

Yes, the student loans were his masters in CRIME 😂

@regularity2556

2 жыл бұрын

@@mesidye 🤣🤣🤣🤣

He didn’t know he had a relationship problem until this cal….

i’m a college student I went to a community college 😅 then went to a state university ended with only 2k in debt and I just paid it and i have one year left i was so scared when I was in debt it’s scary don’t go in debt guys be careful!

this guy is not telling everything.. his girlfriend goes to school and makes $89K a year and dont want to talk about finances until after school.. this does not make sense..

@edgehodl4832

5 жыл бұрын

It's clear as day, he is not part of plan in her future....once she finishes school, he is out, new guy, more financially stable, will replace him

@ariefraiser140

5 жыл бұрын

Have you ever tried working full time and going to nursing school full time? Not to mention she may have kids? When I was doing this I had no life and no time to do much of anything. On the plus side because I was going from work to school and had projects I had to complete on the weekends I had little to no idle time to spend money on recreation.

@edgehodl4832

5 жыл бұрын

@@ariefraiser140 no one is saying she is not a hard worker, she is. But she doesn't want to open up to this guy, its red flag, she doesnt plan her future with him, unfortunately.... that's why Dave adviced to figure out if they are in this together or not...

@ceecee8757

5 жыл бұрын

@@edgehodl4832 not to mention the girlfriend has free daycare--him!!

@saraashkir5793

5 жыл бұрын

@@ariefraiser140 Sooo that means she can't take 30 minutes every couple of weeks to figure out a budget and allocate her money?? Once a budget is set and you have a way to track spending, it's not much work after that. Nobody is saying she has to get a side hustle if she doesn't have the time for it. But she's "too busy" to even TALK about money. There's an issue here

I think before Mike even starts to think about the money situation, he needs to address the relationship side of this struggle. Either she wants him long term or doesn't. His financial plan is impacted by this relationship obstacle which needs to be figured out first.

@nchen09

11 ай бұрын

Yep. I wonder what came to be of this

He needs to dump the house, dump the lady, and get a side hustle, then grind it out. That's all he can do really.

When cops go to a domestic call, its usually about cheating or drugs are involved lol This cop just went along with what Dave said

Sell House...live in a $1,000 camper on a Wal-Mart parking lot. Pay 90% of income to Student Loans....live off rest of %10. Eat one pack of Ramen a day...drink tap water. Shower once a week. Panhandle in a used wheelchair at street corner as a side hustle.

Listening to others put him into a hole of trouble, unfortunately.

@roserevancroix2308

5 жыл бұрын

No, his personality-type and male-nature put him in trouble.

@evegreenification

5 жыл бұрын

@@roserevancroix2308 Exactly. You can listen to others without bending yourself into a pretzel to do their bidding at all costs. I see this person as an Igor type "YEEEES MAAAASTER"

@snark567

4 жыл бұрын

@@roserevancroix2308 Kids are raised to obey orders without questioning them, no wonder they can't think for themselves.

Parents can be toxic sometimes. Let your kids decide what they want to study. Don’t put your frustrations with your own life onto your kids.

@toddlavigne6441

Жыл бұрын

if you want to be a cop, do the exactly what is required to be a cop. I'm sure you don't need a masters degree in finance. Ironically, it was a bad financial decision.

“I didn’t do good at Finance.” Glad he told us, cos we were all wondering!

I truly feel for this man. Thank you sir for being brave and sharing your story. You have inspired me to get my act together ASAP.

Listening to you at work David. Preaching on a Tuesday, bless you.

I wish we can get updates on some of these older calls. I’d love to know where this man is at now. Hopefully him and his girl worked things out financially, got married, and started taking on this debt. We can hope.

@claudiaditrapani2689

Жыл бұрын

LoPiccolo exactly, i'd love to know if he made it! I differ re his girlfriend though, imo better they had separated.

School isn't what it was years ago....I'm 41 and when I was young school meant something. Today you need to really consider life circumstances. You want to learn something. Start a company importing pens or something from China, then try to go and sell those pens or whatever. Do that for one year you will learn more then ANY BA or MBA degree will ever teach you.

This guy blames his mom on college debt and then blames his dead dad on home, typical person who lacks personal responsibility , Girlfriend needs to run because he is about to blame her too

@y2ksierra

5 жыл бұрын

Big Red "she wanted this baby"

@alicelaybourne1620

5 жыл бұрын

I thought the exact same thing.

@MrTaketheshot

5 жыл бұрын

It is the parents fault. No 18 year old is gonna say no to there parents. No smart one anyway. He would have not gone to that college with out her Making him go. Your brain fully developes at 25-26 years old. An 18 year old knows nothing about anything. To tell me that an 18 year old is an adult in any other sense other than the law is ridiculous. It is his mom's fault.

@roserevancroix2308

5 жыл бұрын

Oh no, let's hope the single-mom with debt don't run away. She's a catch. Are you an idiot?

@granitemoss1451

5 жыл бұрын

@@MrTaketheshot That's a good argument on the school front, but a poor one to explain why, at 31, he bought a house simply because his deceased father wanted him to do so.

my heart goes out to him, AND he should NOT be dating anyone, he needs to focus on himself and healing the wounds that caused him to get this far into debt

Girlfriend and HER daughter living with you? tap water for breakfast

Dave always wants people to get rid of their house and that's not always the best option. Its a $185k house, if this guy rents, how much is he gonna actually save monthly, maybe $250 bucks? No way! I would get rid of everything else before the house.

@latsnojokelee6434

9 ай бұрын

Agree-rents could be more than his mortgage.

@latsnojokelee6434

9 ай бұрын

And he should try to get into a federal law enforcement job or a county job and get into the public service student loan repayment program.

Ugh, college will be the death of us.

@roserevancroix2308

5 жыл бұрын

....ooooor you could decide NOT to go, that works too, kid=)

@brianbest6097

5 жыл бұрын

All for that degree

@victoryismine2926

5 жыл бұрын

Scholarships are frequently unclaimed because no one applied.

@Random-vb8gk

4 жыл бұрын

Victory IsMine I was admitted to a 28/k year school which had an average gpa of 3.0 with a 3.75 GPA. I was also admitted to a 55k/yt institute which had an average req of 3.56 the 55k/yr offered me 22k off the 55 and the 27/yr offered me 14k/yr. Full rides aren’t given to anybody that doesn’t have an athletic ability most academic scholarships won’t even go past 50% unless we’re talking about ivy leagues/ top tiers.

@tenhundredkills

4 жыл бұрын

College is really only the death of you if: 1. You do nothing with your degree. 2. Choose a degree that has no marketability, i.e. most non-STEM majors. 3. Choose to drop out with student loan debt. I was an IT major in college and straight after graduation, I was making $40K. Zero debt, zero complaints about going to college. If I didn't go, I'd still be working at a local fast food joint making less than half of that!

My sister got me into debt. My brother wanted to marry and asked me to help him which I did with his weeding. Family can be the worst financial advisors..

Imagine not going to college but insisting your son goes to a private institution

@njpme

Жыл бұрын

Too funny

@Eveningbreeze721

11 ай бұрын

I think that's the problem. No knowledge about it themselves. Pie in the sky.

Sounds like a really nice guy. Hope he’s doing well!

The federal government has allowed and even encouraged people to take on debt they should have never been able to take.

@mph5896

5 жыл бұрын

Hulen Bryant The federal government is like a drunken sailor in itself spending money it doesn’t have

With a Master's in CJ and experience already being in an agency, he needs to: sell the house and apply to big agencies or federal law enforcement. There's no way he should be taking home 40k with those credentials. He likely needs to relocate to where the money is.

5:11 I disagree with Dave which is unusual… a single guy making 70k/year can easily afford a 185k home. 70k after taxes comes out to a little over 4K/mo. Mortgage on a 185k home is a little over 800-1100/mo depending on tax and down payment. So I’m not sure what he means by this statement…

@suellenfunk1898

2 жыл бұрын

Better than renting. He CAN afford it.

I listen to the show to feel better about myself. LOL

@senaitarts5772

4 жыл бұрын

s trav me too

@Elle-uy5bu

3 жыл бұрын

Same lol

"... I do have a girlfriend..." my heart sank a little "... she's living with me..." uh ohhh "...with her daughter." SPAGHETTIOOS

I don't understand why he can't afford a $185K house on $70K/year? If he gets rid of the house and rents I guarantee the amount he is saving per month on rent vs his mortgage is extremely minimal and he is building zero equity while renting. Dave is wrong to tell him to sell the house, he simply needs to get his income up and attack the student loan debt

@Dee-oq5ms

3 жыл бұрын

I was wondering the same, all the other stuff I get but he def can afford the house IF he didn't have all the other debt.

Mom guilted him into $252,000 in private university degree, and Dad guilted him into buying a home he should not have bought at this time. Wow.

The student loans are his mother's fault. The house he can't afford is his father's fault. It seems like the first thing he needs to do is accept responsibility for his own actions.

All I can think right now is that the education system has failed many many generations of people. This was so sad to listen to. I wish him the best

The issue is that most people get themselves into a big mess before they get to learn from a little mess...

Get rid of the single mother and her child . That's money being taken out your pocket. There no way I would ever take care of another man's child . This guy needs to get his priorities in order.

With some people - you can see the relationship is going to result in a divorce immediately yet they want to spend thousands on someone who isnt going to stick around.

Why are people buying house when they make no where near enough money to have one?

@KrazyKrzysztof

5 жыл бұрын

If he had no debt he can easily get a 180k house on 70k salary

@JesusisKing03

5 жыл бұрын

@Kertigen1 that's exactly what I'm asking!😯 who was the idiot that approved that home loan!

@oldtwinsna8347

5 жыл бұрын

nothing wrong with buying a house comparable to what you would be making rent payment on a reasonable home. don't pay for other people's mortgages

@JesusisKing03

5 жыл бұрын

@@oldtwinsna8347 the problem is that many people think that the mortgage covers everything and that's far from the truth. When you rent you're not responsible for many things but when you own everything is your responsibility. And that's why many people fail when they buy because they're not prepared for emergencies.

@oldtwinsna8347

5 жыл бұрын

renting isn't without risk over long term. leases expire and new ones rise with the market so after staying so many years in a rental you're now paying much more vs having locked in a determinable mortgage payment. one also has significantly more protection from eviction in the event of major financial difficulties with home ownership than with renting in landlord friendly states. only time I would be pro renting is if you aren't certain about long term plans to stay in one area, then it's a great idea as just look for fully furnished or buy lawn furniture and bail when the time comes up.

With a a master’s degree in Criminal Justice, he can pick up some adjunct work on the side at a community college in addition to contract security work.

Life lesson: Never buy a home or have a baby with someone you aren’t married to.

@kayf661

5 жыл бұрын

Its not even his baby! 😬

@Theinsomniac826

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Where is her baby daddy at? And when she graduates and starts making money she could go back to him and be a family again. That's not his kid so why is he letting her live there and her child too? She is using his resources to better herself. Once she gets stable she could use his resources to find a better man and use the excuse that she can't be with him because of his debt.

@SC-gp7kt

3 жыл бұрын

OMG yes a thousand times.

He is a police officer? He sounds very depressed. I pray he does not eat his own bullet in the near future.

Oh, he's going to be bankrupt? Well, too bad he absolutely CANNOT bankrupt those ginormous student loans. Those are for LIFE (unless permanently disabled). p.s. they can even garnish your Social Security when you are old. Modern indentured servitude is what student loans are.

@mannyjeanpierre4062

5 жыл бұрын

wow is that true. they can garnish social security???

@pinkpanda5696

5 жыл бұрын

@@mannyjeanpierre4062 Yes.

@angel0island0ninja

5 жыл бұрын

@@mannyjeanpierre4062 they can legally leave you with what they believe you should be able to live on

@larrybud

5 жыл бұрын

The difference is that nobody is forced to take out a loan.

@pinkpanda5696

5 жыл бұрын

@@larrybud True, but nobody is forced to take out a mortgage, car loans, personal loan, etc., BUT all of those are able to be erased/reduced/settled by filing for bankruptcy. Not so with student loans. It's an unfair playing field.

Dave cracks me up how he starts calm and collected then halfway through the clip he ends up blunt af. lol

Listening to this makes me feel better about my situation.

He's a liability NOT an asset. Sorry Mike. It's over!