My ex husband gambled away everything including his children’s college funds. John is spot on-callers wife has no idea what she’s in for

@snOags

11 ай бұрын

Sorry to hear. That's awful

@claremolony6050

3 ай бұрын

I am so sorry. I know that all to well. My dad committed suicide when I was 16 because he had a massive gambling addiction. I have experienced it first hand what it does to a family. It tears it apart. The gambling industry and the government do not give a f#@k about us families that have to live with someone who is or was a gambling addict. Something needs to change

My initial reaction when he spoke of "interactions with my wife" was you mean he still has a wife?!? Then I saw that he was only 25 but has lost $500,000 in sports gambling. Seems like the wife isn't too worried because he's making a bunch of money. She needs an eye-opener because it can get much worst and she's in as much jeopardy as he is. Wishing him well...

@fh1980ram

11 ай бұрын

Maybe the wife has her own little secret.

This touches home, I had an addiction in sports gambling for awhile I was ignoring my wife and my children and to the point where I watched games not for fun but for money and points. I one day just cold cut it all out everything. I even stopped fantasy football and everyone didn’t why. After that day I can see sports normal again and enjoy it and most of all I watch it with my family who my son loves soccer. I’m rooting for this caller think of your wife and tell yourself I can’t live without her and cut off the addiction it’s hard but doable

@kevinwilson3337

11 ай бұрын

Good You’re strong minded enough to beat this addiction because most people are not this fortunate

@oddatk

3 ай бұрын

this is currently me. i cold cut 6 weeks ago banned myself from the apps i was using. i racked up some debt because i was hitting parlays and overspending on my credit cards telling myself i would pay off the whole amount since i would hit for decent amounts like over 10k multiple times during the year. even with those hits i was still down pretty big because i would just bet bigger when i hit. i went on a massive loss streak and then eventually just borrowed money from my next check. i can see sports not being so unhealthy if i were to just straight bet but im not disciplined enough to just bet like that. i dont trust myself to come back to it. i felt my mood dependant on whether i won or lost during the day was changing. when i lost my focus at work was not there. i would sleep terrible on close wins. i would rather sweat games than do financially better decisions. i made money in stocks just to punt it on bets. so 6 weeks in, im hoping this can be permanent but every day is a battle. as of now i dont even pay attention to sports. my first website look of the day isnt espn anymore. my first app opening isnt a sportsbook. ive deleted those but there are still ways of betting sports. theres infinite ways. i just hope i can avoid these. my mood has been much better. my sleep better. paying off all my debt and im like 60% there. i know i can do this. ive been a degenerate for too many years. maybe i got tired of getting torched too many times. the fun isnt there for me anymore.

I dont have enough money to support an addiction😢. He's 25 and has lost close to $500,000.00? Wow🤑🤑🤑🤑.

@DentsuMatsuei

2 ай бұрын

You Must be a loser

@user-sw7ob2zk7p

2 ай бұрын

simple: He's exaggerating the truth

My ex gambled and stole 10k from a church... he had us almost homeless 3 times. No kids... thank God. I left him when he played his way through a year long residential program. Just couldn't do it anymore.

1. Money / paycheck 2. Day off 3. No hobby/ no activity When those three meet together, you go to casino, drugs etc. So from my experience, just get busy & religion or looking new hoby when you have a day off

@LeedawG766

11 ай бұрын

This is right, I made a comment to someone above this saying "get busy with something that matters more, wife kids etc and find a hobby like gym"

This guy is lying to himself. When he said “I’ll be out of debt in a few months”, I expected him to follow that with “when the Reds win the World Series”.

@Sourrpeachrings

11 ай бұрын

He's an addict. He wants to be out of debt in a few months. But if he doesn't stem the bleeding - his debt will only grow. This man seriously needs GA or his addiction will only get worse and worse. Because addiction never gets better - only worse or it stands still. Hoping he can find the courage to admit his issue and seek help through the steps. There is no other way.

@steakrules-mp2wf

3 ай бұрын

He does not sound high paid.

@wolvezy

Ай бұрын

Hes managed not to gamble for 2 weeks I don't think he's got it as bad as he makes out

From a man in his fifties who was betting 5K hands of blackjack at 17, I can offer some hope. Runaway gambling addiction is a sickness, but it's still not something you're addicted to in the true sense. You're more addicted when you're doing it. But from someone who had to stop doing a lot of bad things in his life, not gambling was the easiest. Just talking from a strictly behavioral aspect. You might jones to do it, but it's not a withdrawal kind of thing. It's not a true addiction like drugs or alcohol. It's a behavioral and mental flaw and if you stop doing it, that goes away, though your mental wiring might be totally different. It kinda ruined sports for me in a way. It's hard to watch an NBA regular season game sober with no money on it. Bet 30 grand on it and it's like a New Year's party at Leonardo DiCaprio's house.

@wolvezy

Ай бұрын

Not sure you actually understand what a gambling addict is tbh most of what you just said is bs

@bennylevine387

Ай бұрын

@@wolvezy Oh, is that what "wolvezy" thinks?

How did he even have over $100,000 to lose by age 25 lol

@closki226

11 ай бұрын

Loans?

@boredoreos

11 ай бұрын

Software Engineers make 150k right out of college at 21.

@MrBarrageman

11 ай бұрын

People out there making over $200,000 a year in tech, finance and sales right out of school

@closki226

11 ай бұрын

@@boredoreos my husband is a software architect. They do not begin at 150k without experience. While he does have a college degree his career blew up well before that. It’s a great paying job but you don’t learn it from college. I believe he’s in sales. Now THAT is where the money is at. Software people generally don’t value money like sales people.

@zenlife321

11 ай бұрын

😂😂

Dr. John was class act here. I suffer with severe gambling addiction and this stuck a chord big time

@Sourrpeachrings

11 ай бұрын

One day at a time. Just for today....

@LeedawG766

11 ай бұрын

Find something more important like wife or kids and get busy making it, not gambling it.

@drewdelaney4166

7 ай бұрын

Single as a 1 dollar bill. First step Is fixing myself. Unfortunately I don’t think wife and kids are in my future

@obclutch2747

Ай бұрын

@@Sourrpeachrings its hard. I want to quit. But I cant stop thinking about it

A few years ago those "skilled" games places started popping up everywhere around where I live. A guy who works for a utility company said that was about the same time that turning off utilities skyrocketed.

I'm rooting for the caller. Not everyone understands the seriousness of an addiction like this. They wrongly assume that he makes plenty of money to support a habit like this. At the rate he's going, he could be caught taking money from his work to support the addiction, so he'd lose his job, several years of freedom by getting prison time, and his marriage would be in shambles. That's what awaits him if he doesn't get help now. I'm praying for complete deliverance from this ever-tightening vice. God is able. A support group is a great place to start.

My SO and I never engage in gambling activities. However, I am bombarded with gambling ads whenever I'm on social media or youtube (including the ad in this video). How are individuals in recovery or seeking assistance expected to escape this relentless exposure when I can't? It's truly frustrating.

@cathyl7944

11 ай бұрын

Yes, people in recovery need to stay off social media and most websites.

Sounds like he married someone with good boundaries, John is right on the money, Spencer you should consider rehab, you can probably get into an out pt program so you can keep working.

Goodluck Spencer, I like shopping and can’t stop 🤣, I’m 30 minutes away from Fresno ☺️

@kingasif9265

11 ай бұрын

Lmaooo

Went to a casino once back in the day, put in $1 in a slot machine, got $20 back. It was sooo exhilarating, I immediately took my $20 to the bar and drank Heinekens until my friends were ready to leave. Never gambled again and very happy how I played my luck that night

Literally got a sports betting ad while watching this video. And I’m not even a sports better! SMH

Worst part about a gambling addiction is that it never truly leaves you

I was going to say Gamblers Anonymous too. I was going to say good luck too, but healing from addiction doesn't happen by luck. It happens through commitment to want to change and hard work with other people who understand and have overcome their addictions.

Those are rookie numbers. Looks at Australian gambling debt......

This man is not ready for GA. He keeps asking how to start the process - the answer hasn't changed throughout the call. Dr. John repeats his message from start to finish. This man is totally in denial, thinks he's "not that bad" to need GA, or thinks it's full of degenerates and losers and he's above them. He hasn't hit his rock bottom and in a year, he'll be 1 million in the hole. Maybe then he'll hit bottom. Hoping for the best for him but he's really not ready. He is calling because he's in debt and scared. Not because he thinks it's a problem. He thinks the debt is a problem. Not the actual gambling. I feel terrible for him.

@LeedawG766

11 ай бұрын

This is correct

This guy needs to give me his bets so I can bet the opposite.

@nhialor5321

4 ай бұрын

We don’t need punks like you in this comments. We’re all here trying to heal battling this addiction. Get lost A**hole

It's actually interesting that the ad to this video was a sports betting company advertising itself for me to join their platform.

With the explosion of sports betting apps, this will become extremely common.

I can relate. Its 2024 and time to take back control

@bennhenderson7898

2 ай бұрын

how you managing?

@jeffyeager4045

2 ай бұрын

@@bennhenderson7898 Pretty Solid I still play here and there but nothing like the way it used to be.

I make 5 and 10 dollar sports bets on nfl football games, I at the worst I Break even. The last three seasons I have won 220.00 to 300.00. But I get it, when I drink I can't stop. So I don't drink alcohol at all. For people who find it impossible to make a 5 dollar bet , the best thing for them is to not bet at all. For most gamblers if they make a wager of 20.00 dollars winning 18.00 plus their 20.00 back is not enough to walk away for the day. It's like me with alcohol they want the jackpot that doesn't exist.

Yeah he definitely casually mentioned to his wife “I gamble a little to much” not “I’m a full blown addict blowing all of my/ out money and I have 0 control over my actions and will eventually have us homeless if I don’t stop” that poor wife. I hope he comes clean and gets help

I can't even imagine his mind set...how is burning money a place of comfort...wild...

@drewdelaney4166

11 ай бұрын

It’s a addiction mental illness deep seated. It’s that we are addicted to hope and gambling is the grand escape from the empty black hole we feel inside of us. So we gamble to fill us up and feel like we are alive. Ptsd anxiety and depression and feelings of inadequacy lead me to compulsively gamble. However differing reasons for different peoples

25 years old, spent half a mill on sports betting, somehow not homeless

@user-sw7ob2zk7p

2 ай бұрын

HES LYINGGGGG

I am glad I never got into gambling. Sometimes my work takes me to Vegas, and even of I am staying in a hotel with a casino, I can't bring myself to throw even $10 away on a slot machine "just for fun". Unless you are highly skilled and treat it like a job, gambling on a regular basis will result in you losing 95% of the time. P.S. imagine what this guy could have in investments and assets if he'd not blown that money on gambling.

the fact that fanduel is the ad I get for this video is stupid man

Fresnooooooo..... my neck of the woods

I almost cried when I lost 25$ bet

Spencer, I know things are looking grim but don’t give up. Remember, 99.9% of gamblers quit before they win big.

@neisci

11 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂 you are such a troll.

@ufchighlights1

11 ай бұрын

😂😂

@Pops1020

20 күн бұрын

😂😂😂

Please help the homeless I really advocate for this group of people. I walked one day out of an event in winter cold months and this men with his wistful expression was looking at us shivering under a thin blanket seating in the corner of one of closed downtown stores. We couldn’t walk for few minutes as it was very cold and this poor men had to sleep through the night. I still think of that situation and wonder what happened to that poor undernourished , wistful looking men. I hope people judge less and help more. Some have billions and other get freeze bites or froze to death or die of hunger. What a world we live in.

great advice for not getting to this point.

WOW the statistics on how much money spent on just sports betting is absolutely horrific. 😮 I am a child of a dad who committed suicide because he was a massive gambler. This is an addiction that we rarely ever take about. Majority of suicides they believe now is related to gambling addiction. This is a huge society problem which the government promotes. In the Uk in 2018 the gambling agency made 14 billion pounds for the year and in that year they spent 10 million pounds on education purposes and warning about gambling. These governments are making billions of profit off the sickness of addiction to gambling. 30% of their profits come from gambling addicts. That is absolutely horrific. Australia has the highest rate of suicide by gambling and it has the highest rate per capital of losses in gambling as we have the most pokie machines. China is the worst in the world and I believe the USA is about the 7th in the world. This is an addiction that needs to be spoken about daily.

Poker is also very addictive, 3 x bracelet winner Dutch Boyd said 99% of poker players go broke and start borrowing.

Crazy that this videos ad is a sports betting ad

It’s true what they say you won’t stop gambling till that voice in your head tells you to and the whole gambling thing disgusts you to the core. I did 20 years or more and never ever heard that voice and that disgust till recently and I’ve been free from gambling for 2 weeks now and I’ve never felt better. In over 20 years I’ve never stopped so I know this is real

When you are gambling, the drive for looking after resources goes way beyond your regular wages, this addiction makes you believe you can do things that in normal life is just UNTHINKABLE, believe me, 100k is a reasonable number for a compulsive gambler.

I'm hearing alot of excuses

99% of gambler quit before they hit the big one

I lost 1000s on crypto and stocks. Gambling was a coping mechanism. Never again.

@Dr Jon I’m watching this video and draftking and FanDuel adds are running. Can you at least fix your add preferences for video as you are against this whole gambling business.

I feel like this is a fake call. The first clue was him reading off a piece off paper when he came on

Simple reality is [from ppl who been there], he just hasnt hit rock bottom yet. Majority of people need rock bottom, i know i did.

What in the heck... I got a gambling channel recommendation on the right side of the screen list of videos to watch! Not cool. I hate gambling and I can see how terrible is it for society and how badly it affects people.

Why does sports betting ads pop up on this video lol

If people weren't hungry, they would have more kids and hunger would return. Same for homelessness...survival rates would rise, more kids and homelessness would return. I get the point, but these are problems that can't be fixed by us humans.

In case you feel bad for all the tech workers crying on linkedin about layoffs, now you know how much disposable income they have.

Careful with that comment you threw out regarding how much $$ it would take to “end homelessness”. That is not accurate. I know it’s not the point of this conversation, but being that you’re high profile I just caution you about saying things like that. Some people hang on your every word, so be sure you can back up your statements whenever possible👍

It's only been 2 years already I'm down $150k in sport betting.

So young.

Sports gambling is profitable if you have self control.

makes sense, you lose $1000, so you spend $5000 trying to win it back, then 10k, 50k

only 10 billion to fix homelessness in America and 50 billion to end hunger worldwide? Both those numbers seem very small.

@TheFlyingZulu

11 ай бұрын

It is... 10 billion divided by 582,000 homeless people (estimated) in the USA and that only comes out to 17,000$. I guess you could put every homeless person in an apartment for a year with 10 billion. That MIGHT help fix the issue; if they could get in at least an apartment they could start working and providing for themselves... But we both know most people are homeless by choice because they make great money panhandling out on the street.

18:51

I commend the last caller for taking control and reaching out for help. Frustrating thing in the LDS/Mormon community, people are not fully truthful with their fiancés or spouses about their addictions and there’s not enough resources in the LDS community for addictions bc there is a belief that addictions aren’t really a problem. Church leaders aren’t equipped to help members with addictions either, have no counseling training or qualifications. Lots and lots of denial. His wife is only so wonderful at the moment is bc she has NO IDEA how bad the reality is. Not only that, he MARRIED HER WITHOUT HER KNOWING. He didn’t want to tell her beforehand bc of the potential there was to drive her away. I can’t even begin to express what a betrayal this is and I don’t think this has occurred to her yet. He needs a form of rehab, NOW. And he has the money for it so zero excuse. Without it, his marriage will not last.

500k??????? just put 5$ on the team u like and call it a day

Don’t be a quitter

Wish I had that kind of money

That’s why y’all need to learn about +EV betting

Only in 🇺🇸 we have the privilege 2 have all the excuses and no accountability, 2 be mess up’s smh 🤦🏽‍♂️ 😂😂😂😂😂

Gambling is awesome. Nothing is more fun for me than gambling. It’s exhilarating, exciting, and it can also be painful. But it’s something that needs to be kept in check and it needs to be done responsibly. And keeping it in check requires discipline. As a recovered drug addict and someone who’s a big gambler who has also lost hundreds of thousands of dollars gambling, I understand it. And gambling isn’t an addiction. You don’t suffer withdrawals from gambling impulses. Just don’t do it. Have the discipline to avoid it if you can’t afford to lose it. Walk in to the casino with cash you can afford to lose, and have the discipline to leave when it’s gone. Have the discipline to leave your debit cards at home. I disagree with what he says about discipline. He’s wrong, I promise you.

@blkndna1374

3 ай бұрын

That’s not how gambling addiction works..

@SEANPOL203

3 ай бұрын

You’re obviously not a gambling addict

@zeus4885

3 ай бұрын

@@SEANPOL203 I just went on a 32 hour gambling binge in the casino over the weekend.. I won $4K. But I didn’t leave. Not only did I lose what I won, but I lost what I walked in with. This happens to me every month when I get paid. That’s how I found this video. I have been through the gut wrenching soul sucking pain of losing everything so many times. I don’t have money to pay my bills. My family and friends all see me as a gambling addict. I don’t know how much I’ve lost over the last 5 years, but it’s easily more than $120K… I woke up this morning feeling the pain of losing and once again, the regret of not walking out of the casino up over $4K. 32 hours of no sleep, no food… just gambling in the casino for 32 straight hours, with so many opportunities to walk out with thousands of dollars but ended up walking out with zero once again. So you’re wrong. But I have also struggled with drug addiction, and this does not even compare. I have more of a discipline problem than an addiction when it comes to gambling.

@WickedxAngel

3 ай бұрын

Hahahaha. There will never be no shortcuts to fortune without an ultimate pay up . Goodluck 🤣

Once you’ve programmed your brain into a cycle of addiction, only professional help will enable you to deprogramme!

Dude just gotta place better bets. It's all math, profitbale if ur not an idiot.

this dude is not very smart. typical podcaster

LMAO

Nothing's more embarrassing than a grown man that needs a woman to manage his money SMFH absolutely pathetic!

The problem with gambling is when you have a wining week/month it doesn’t feel at all like an addiction, it feels good lmfao. Also spending money you’ve won feels 1000x better then spending money you earned. It’s very hard to control but the key is to only play for fun. Not to TRY to cover your bills. It has to be expendable extra income.