I knew the friendship was over when there was no favorable environment to share good news or challenges. When all conversations felt like walking on eggshells

@Nyumbazetumgt

Жыл бұрын

I agree

@ruthmemo4209

Жыл бұрын

Word

@gracemukami4557

Жыл бұрын

Same

@doreenonekalit9888

Жыл бұрын

Been there too

@preciouschemutai1321

Жыл бұрын

​@@Nyumbazetumgt😊

I knew the friendship was over when she kept speaking fear into a big goal I was about to execute

Rule to lending money :only lend a specific amount of money you can afford to lose.. as simple a that

My thing with friendships, I categorize people as FRIEND or FRIENDLY. We could be drinking buddies for years but I do not consider you a friend. You are a good time, but we are not friends. I have seen many people confuse the two and then get dissapointed when people don't meet their expectations. Also, throwing around this friendship tag explains why people are so quick to conclude a friendship is over over petty reasons

@wangarikariuki6522

Жыл бұрын

Yup! Co-sign on this. Many people confuse who's a friendly acquaintance and an actual friend

@nikkymwihaki1436

Жыл бұрын

I agree. I don’t put all my friends in one basket,that way I know who to go to according to what I need. The friend I call for mimosas at 11:00am can’t be the friend I’m being vulnerable with.That way,you avoid the petty stuff and you learn to manage expectations.

Okay, i know Lydia said no one likes introverts 😂 but let me tell you there is nothing better than being comfortable in your own tu little space.

@_patience_

Жыл бұрын

@Lydia K.M. Love to see it babes 🔥❤️

@maryritanjoki6794

Жыл бұрын

P1

@simplyatosh

Жыл бұрын

So True there is always something about enjoying your own company 😊

@kazmorich

Жыл бұрын

@Lydia K.M. I am soo introverted, I literally have only one friend a travel mate and we don't really meet that much, so this friendship conversation kept feeling so mentally tiring for me but I really enjoyed the show.

I knew friendship was over when she would react differently when i return back the energy and vibes she poses to me🤦🏽‍♀️

A friend sleeping with your boyfriend or your husband is the same. They both got to go. A husband sleeping with your friend is like sleeping with your sister. It matters WHO a husband cheats on you with

Great insights TMI. Here’s a suggestion, there should also be an episode of “I knew this truly my friend when… “

@missuniverse7961

Жыл бұрын

true, this would allow us to understand who we should categorize as friends

I totally see how Lydia and Jo's friendship is God-ordained. Its so deep and unique. More like a divine gift honestly. ❤️

@Lily_muthengi

Жыл бұрын

I love this duo

@TheGushy

Жыл бұрын

It’s truly beautiful….I was looking for this comment

I knew the friendship was over when they only show up for you when you are wining and ghost you when things are going wrong in your life.

@ichooseviolence2532

Жыл бұрын

Maybe you ask for too much??? Coz ladies wueeh!!

I knew the friendship was over when she was consoling my man after the breakup and them making me to be the bad without hearing my side of the story.... The betrayal still hurts

I feel like you guys brushed off that money comment so quickly but its valid. I guess it could be because both of you are doing well financially and rarely borrow from each other. Borrowing among friends shows you a lot about people's characters. It reveals a lot about patience, respect, and communication. My friend of 10 years+ and I had to decide we wont be lending each other money unless its really really really necessary cause it almost ended our friendship multiple times

@dorahmulinge3800

Жыл бұрын

I totally agree!

@imungukalevera8671

Жыл бұрын

Yes. Money issues are heavy. If the 20k you lent a friend was your last cash, it can really mess you up when they don't pay up.

@carolinewainaina4426

Жыл бұрын

It's weird how people hear different things This was one of the comments that took too much airtime and murugi said they would talk about it more

@ken4722

Жыл бұрын

@@carolinewainaina4426 and thats okay. we all interpret things differently as long no one is abusing the other, it expands a conversation

@carolmutua5266

Жыл бұрын

I agree. I work hard for my money and I budget it carefully. You can't just be playing games with my blood and sweat.

Ended a 20 year friendship due to disrespect and jealousy on her part. She was the kind of friend who would rejoice when things weren’t going well for me. And went ahead to make false allegations about my life. Good riddance to bitter friends. So much peace and positive energy surrounds me now.

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

Sorry about this. We hope you find the friendships you deserve.

I might as well qualify for TMI ambassador at this point. Always the first to tune in. Telling as many people as I can to subscribe... Crossing my fingers for that Uganda live experience🎉

@kirabozeridahsarah

Жыл бұрын

This is so true Shammah am here because of you. Big love

@shammahnomwesigwa7776

Жыл бұрын

same here, namesake!!

Personally, I firmly believe in that saying of if am not invited I will not go,if am not told I don't ask,coz I feel if I was really meant to be there,as in, am not an afterthought, they would have straight up asked me,or told me if I was meant to know! Let's be honest, if you are being ignored or excluded,someone is feeling some type of way about you...I am not one to force issues!!This is me matching the energy 👊

@ms.Waldorf

Жыл бұрын

This is the hill I’m willing to die on! Just like that saying “ if they wanted to they would “

@allymwash16

Жыл бұрын

This one I agree

I knew the friendship was over when she told me her hubby didn't want us to be friends anymore because I was at that moment,single..I had just gotten out of a 9yr abusive relationship.

@princessm2893

Жыл бұрын

😢

@LolaBugzy85

Жыл бұрын

Sadly women we will always choose a man over female friendships. That also shows she has a very insecure man.

@deborahmaangi40

Жыл бұрын

Why am I thinking that she was just hiding behind her hubby! Just come out clear and say that you wanna call it quits. Leave that hubby alone. It is not him who is his friend. It is you!

@wendywangarew6379

Жыл бұрын

I got the same vibe too

@anneodongo7966

Жыл бұрын

I can relate

Not everyone deserves a break-up conversation, they know what they are doing. Let it go and move on

@stellahwanyoike7865

Жыл бұрын

👌🏾👍🏾!!!!

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

True

@meganwambui8485

Жыл бұрын

True

@joankamau6669

Жыл бұрын

Spot on 👌

I knew my friendship was over when it became emotional draining where i was there for her kinda like I acted like her therapist but when I was emotional down she was always busy cooking, talking to the people around her and I had cut her off twice and she came back and asked what went wrong and i explained how i felt and she was so sorry and asked for another chance only for her to do just the same exact things where when she was emotional down she would even have airtime to call and vent but when i call when I'm emotionally down she would say she's cooking, she is talking to someone random person next to her and when I told her she tried her best to justify and I realized she will never change so I decided it was time for a "girl bye" moment.

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

We’re sorry you went through this

@gracejemimah3182

Жыл бұрын

@@tmipodcastke thank you

About cutting off communication with your ex boyfriend, we need to realize that some people are great humans on their own merit, outside of a relationship. You could have dated someone who had great connections (as a friend) with your friends. This is called adulting and we are not in high school

@surpeleisurpelei7501

Жыл бұрын

The issue is not the ex was a monster per se. They could've been soild and the breakup cordial. Ultimately, it boils down to which relationship outweighs the other in terms of importance. If it's the friendship, an honest conversation ought to be had on how to proceed. Most often than not, though, even the most cordial breakups need SPACE and TIME for both parties to move on. So, as the friend, centering onself and deciding it's now about you and how both parties have to remain your besties equally does not help either, as now you remain the one that keeps them stuck, reminding them of the ex they are trying to get over. Adulting is understanding not everything is about you and sometimes, you have to take a backseat; pick a side; allow matters to simmer down; people to heal.

Another one... I knew the friendship was over when I was sick and she was working in a certain hospital in Nairobi and my mum took me there. My mum asked her to check up on me before she left for her shift she declined. She was mean to my mum. My mum asked me" hao ndiyo marafiki wako?"😢😢 That and that moment I lost her number and she had the audacity to send me a congratulatory message on my wedding day. 😏

@kuiskitchen4356

Жыл бұрын

Maybe she had a bad day? Did you check with her after that?

@LolaBugzy85

Жыл бұрын

@@kuiskitchen4356 She actually told my mum she didn't have time she was in a rush. I was literally a few metres away from the reception she would not have died checking on me. Halafu huyu ni mzazi. How would you feel your mum being treated like that. Afadhali angesema let me talk to someone to check up on her as I am in a hurry. You treat my mum or even my dad like that I have no business being your friend.

Mine was a few years later than I should have, but it was over when I had the difficult conversation about how she did a hurtful thing and she said if she had to do it all over again she wouldn't change a thing 👀 🚮

I knew our friendship was over when i was the one was constantly checking out if we were okay. My friend was felt like am the one who needed her as a friend more that she needed me. It was emotionally draining.

@Aswito_MadamSports

Жыл бұрын

Girl, been there

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

Again with the one-sided relationships

Who is hitting anyone in this day and age? Also on moneyand friendships, we have a friend who never lends us money regardless what you need it for, we came to a conclusion that she doesn't want to cost the friendship over failure to pay it back, so we also stopped asking from her. It's totally understandable.

I think some friends use the words "Lend me money" but deep down they believe you should just give it to them. That's why some give you attitude when you ask to be paid.

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

So true!

This episode has made me really want to reevaluate my friendships 😭

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

Please do

For me feeling like am being taken for granted. The moment I start feeling like our relationship is not valuable to you. I am out. Being taken for granted is the worst feeling😢😢

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

So true!

I knew the friendship was over when it was only me who had to be understanding , support them, trust them but when it was my turn to receive that back I only got jugded .

I really appreciate this episode, You've literally voiced our experiences over and over and probably saved us from impending dangers with toxic friendships.

I finally put a finger on the one thing I totally couldn't figure out about your friendship. It is God-ordained. That's deep!

I knew we were done when a friend pretended to not have seen me twice even after waving at her like crazy

I love this; kindly do one more episode about friendships❤ Am really learning, happy to hear you'll do more of this🎉🎉

I would love to see also ..I KNEW THE RELATIONSHIP WAS OVER WHEN..😅😅we could share alot

This topic was so relatable💯friendship breakups😢. Appreciate the consistency warembo👏🏾👏🏾💐💐. Definitely TMIIII🎶

I am Lyd's mom when a friendship ends. You're completely out of my mind, to me you don't exist. So yes, we'll sit in the same room and I'll be completely fine with it. Completely at peace. We both deserve to here. Rightfully so. Truth is when i leave the room, I can't tell what they wore, make-up they had on or whatever. This comes with healing from that particular transition though. Infact you feel damn empowered after leaving the room😅😂😂 Healing feels so good you'al 😂😂😂

I knew our friendship was over when she tried to pimp me to her male friends...then I confronted her and she said she didn't do that

My best friend got drunk and started talking to me condescendingly infront of her boyfriend. She implied that am a hypocrite coz am introverted and I don't warm up to strangers as fast as her.

@nyawiish.2303

Жыл бұрын

Your best friend is a she?

@user-jz7rt7uo2d

Жыл бұрын

@@nyawiish.2303 Yeah. Am female too.

@emiendege

Жыл бұрын

Well this is alot

@ireneshikami5200

Жыл бұрын

Gosh am so so sorry ,hugs

I knew the friendship was over when she cropped me out of a celebratory post which 70% referenced a Project that I initiated and build up together with her and another lady. Anyway, we move ❤, we grow , we learn ❤.

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

This is brutal! We hope you managed to get credit for the work and we also hope you went ahead and found amazing friendships.

Thoroughly enjoyed this topic🤌🏽 I have truly laughed 😂😂😂I'm down for the friendship segment

These ads are so well timed😂😂Murugi talks of the former friend who said their ideal man was her man. Then an ad comes on😂It's like let's all just pause and internalize the level of audacity the friend had bc it's too shocking to move on😂😂

@ayumasore6931

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@norahkaranja4054

Жыл бұрын

People got a lot of audacity ...😅😅😅😅😅

I have been impatiently waiting for this ‼️

I don't know why this video has triggered me so much. I felt bad for losing a certain friend but this video makes her such a huge red flag😢gosh

so am 18 and i know maybe am still young and i havent figured it out but i felt the part where you guys were talking about the other persons character and values.....honestly sometimes friends guage themselves in situations( like you said fighting and all that)and expect you to be part of it!which at the end of the day drains your energy and you just dont feel like being part of whatever is going on.....idk if all ot this makes sense but i wish i would elaborate further...

I knew the friendship was over when I realized I was the one giving in a lot and most times calling, texting, looking for her while she never appreciated any of my efforts. 😂😂

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

One sided relationships are a no!

I knew the friendship is over when i was pregnant with my first child , she was pregnant with her second i was really excited we were going through the journey together, she gave birth first to a beautiful baby girl i visited encouraged her and what not tell me why when she came to see me and my baby her mood instantly changed, and she left my house a few hours calling to check if she had reached home i was blocked!!!

@user-jz7rt7uo2d

Жыл бұрын

That's weird.

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

This is strange…

I know my friendship is over when somehow I feel like a third wheel..nd when you want to outshine me in almost everything we do together rather than being neutral..I believe if we really friends we don't have to compete but embrace each others strengths nd weakens...

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

So true! Their win should be your win and vice versa😊

Love the conversation.... mambo ya friendships.. Wueh 😅

Ooooooooh l got triggered... I knew the friendship was over when l was really praying she shouldn't text me or call me.

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

This is definitely a sign to end things 🫠

It's definitely TMIIIII♪🎉❤

I knew the relationship was over when she took a loan which I guaranteed as a friend and she defaulted and ran away.

I knew the friendship was over when they were not there to support for my wedding literally no interest whatsoever.

oh yes! we definitely need a part 2 of this.

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

We do!

I knew friendship was over when i moved towns and communication ended. I know distance can do a number...but check up here and there should suffice you know

I liked the episode. So much to learn!

I always wait for the “It’s definitely TMI” part😂🥰

@bettymuthua9106

Жыл бұрын

Me you same whatsapp 😅

Been waiting for this one !

Thankyou for the commitment, actually my most serious commitment right is btwn this podcast and I ,we all in a while blown healthy rshp.

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

i knew the friendship was over when i could nolonger talk about my good moments or evn my bad moments. i was at a point i would block the amount of information i give.

@ivymboya7400

9 ай бұрын

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I loved this episode, just wow❤❤

Totally enjoyed this! Please keep the friendship series coming!❤️

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

Will do!

Unpopular question? What if this friend with no values same as yours is the one friend that really holds you down when you are low and there for your highs.. like thru thick and thin 😮. I think I'd keep them as one.

@Lavvvvvyyyyy

Жыл бұрын

That one's a keeper♥️

Jo, call Lydia, she is giving you details on her every move!😂😂

Am watching this talk and realizing that I have the best friendship circle

Hi, it would be nice if the podcast dropped on podcast platforms at the same time as KZread.

@_patience_

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, for babes who are on the go.

@ivymboya7400

9 ай бұрын

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This conversation came in soo handy

I knew the friendship was over when I brought up the conversation of the way she hurt me when I needed help and she always turned he back from my need ,,and during the conversation she said very mean things I was so hurt and that's when I let her go

I am like LYD once am done with you we can be in the same room but in different world as far as I am concerned.

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

Keeping it respectful but distant

Loved this ❤❤!

Yes please on the money and friendships episode

Some friends are seasonal and that’s ok. Some friends are like super glue and that’s ok. Learn to embrace both…

Love from Melbourne ❤️❤️❤️ u make my Wednesday evenings 😍

@kerenmaina5430

Жыл бұрын

Samee❤😊

Some relationships are just meant to be for good reasons. It's always nice to have at least one great friend in a lifetime.

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

So true!

@kazmorich

Жыл бұрын

Totally true! I don't like crowds myself. Others are just acquaintances but one or two real friends.

Waiting for finances talk. Thanks for this 😊

The refusing to pay back my money, is something that would make me cut someone off

My two role models,i love you both so much!!!!!❤

I knew the friendship was over when i had just lost my phone at an event we had gone for, i was crying and her very first instinct was to get her phone, record me crying and then post it on social media.

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

Friends who post their friends in compromising situations are the worst😡

I think alot of this could be avoided if y'all stop throwing the word "friend" loosely. Some are just family,acquaintances,collegues, school mates period,someone you used to know not FRIENDS.. When you throw in the label friends,you have expectations and when they are not met y'all start labeling them as Toxic friends..they warent friends in the first place hunnie!!

@soniatumusiime6835

Жыл бұрын

Right?

@kuiskitchen4356

Жыл бұрын

Louder 🗣️

@ms.Waldorf

Жыл бұрын

Your right!

24:06 PTSD😭😭😭😭😭 30:29☠️no pllllleeeeaassseee 35:07 Yessssssssssssssss‼️

The conversation i just needed to hear👏

@ivymboya7400

9 ай бұрын

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Please we need a full episode of friendship and money!

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

We’ve covered this in previous episodes but it’s a good idea!

I loved this 😁💖

“Sometimes in friendship you can tell when someone goes out of their way to exclude you from a plan” one of the reasons why I’m ending the friendship

@ichooseviolence2532

Жыл бұрын

Must you be included in everything just because you are friends with someone???

@ms.Waldorf

Жыл бұрын

@@ichooseviolence2532 what’s everything? I’m not included in anything!

@ichooseviolence2532

Жыл бұрын

@@ms.Waldorf do you include them?

@ms.Waldorf

Жыл бұрын

@@ichooseviolence2532 I had a side hustle so every time I got money I always want to spend time with her, or want to take her out but the energy is not reciprocated, I talked to her more than once about it. Actions speak louder than words!

@ichooseviolence2532

Жыл бұрын

@@ms.Waldorf most women never reciprocate energy even to their men. Y'all know just to consume

I knew our friendship was over when she accused me of robbing a piece of land that we had bought as a group....yet the land is intact.

😂😂😂😂😂How was kilifi? You've tanned!! Good night! This is a very good conversation, I value my friends alot. They are sisters I never had. They are Very supportive and fun to be around. Loved the conversation!! Great tips as well.

For some reason this episode is deep😢 can't wait for the next two💜

I knew the friendship was over when she was not truly happy when something good happened to me.

My friend pushed me because she felt entitled to my life!onces i refused to follow her orders😢. Thats day the friendship died it was toxic

You can tell the growth with Joan

😅😅Not me relating to the Michael and Paul wedding I cut Shelby off immediately when Paul met her before the wedding..

I knew the friendship was over the moment i got pregnant and after delivery our conversations become less also she started to make not so good comments about my daughter. I knew we were done been friends

i knew the friendship was over when me and my boyfriend did for her a service .. that she was supposed to pay for and she didn't pay half of the money. and later she says i am disrespectful for asking for it😊

Some of them aren't willing to take the truth in the most sweetest way Let's just say egorrr

I loved this♥️♥️

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

If there is a condition for the "friendship" to end, then it was never a friendship in the first place.

A proud in betweener and I must confess I love how u guys are just genuine with your friendship. Well most guurl- friendships nowadays ain't genuine, just fake and plastic bitches waiting for your downfall...

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

There are some really amazing people out there. It’s just a matter of finding people who’s values you align with ❤️

One friendship was over because she slept with the guy I was dating and acted like she was the victim, happened to me twice 😂😂😂. My other friendship ended when I realized that the messy thing she was doing to her other friends like talking negative about them she started to do it to me. And the same friend will be upset or bring me down if someone gave me a compliment. I didn't have the energy to have a conversation so I took my distance. Only to find out a few days ago that she is STILL talking about me even after she no longer have access to my private life.

Shadeee....lakini I still love you both

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

😂🤣

It's Murugi saying "Si nikikuuliza doh utanpatia?"😂😂😂

@lucynduta6272

Жыл бұрын

Direct translation from English 😅😅

Am in🎉

I never miss any of their episode❤❤❤❤❤....

@tmipodcastke

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@ivymboya7400

9 ай бұрын

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13:20 "coz you're with the husband sleeper with person "🤣🤣🤣

@ivymboya7400

9 ай бұрын

😂😂😂 kzread.info/dash/bejne/mpifqKNmcbfPhKg.htmlsi=lsUbZkJHjxKA8ntw