this one's for the girls who have spent ALL NIGHT on your twist out...only to put a wig on

@TheStarPuppy

4 жыл бұрын

Don’t read meeeeee 😂

@1991-present

4 жыл бұрын

Yesss I felt this

@wahustarlet6798

4 жыл бұрын

😭

@camiltv1521

4 жыл бұрын

Yuka omg that’s me!!!!

@DeAndraB

4 жыл бұрын

I have been there! 😫

She did an entire video for almost 30 mins and I still see comments saying "you should just embrace it" and "you're being negative" smh I swear you walk someone through a process, hold their hands and speak to them like a small child and they will STILL not get it.

@YoshiSpeaksTruth

4 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏 I wish I could thumbs up this 100 times!

@meh9104

4 жыл бұрын

The Foreign Experience Even small children understand better. Lol

@ChichiMarie

4 жыл бұрын

Girl Yessss but They aren’t watching it that’s why. Just commenting. They want to be heard, they don’t want to listen 🤦🏾‍♀️

@LadyUnpredictable1

4 жыл бұрын

!!!!!!!!!! I mean come ON! This video was everything I needed and made ME happy and feel seen.

@trudytriad4574

4 жыл бұрын

@@meh9104 😂😂😂😂😂

I'm a white male. All my life I've been told I have perfect, thick, beautiful hair, and now over half of it is gone and I have a shiny bald spot on my head. I know our hair journeys are completely different, but man, you made me feel a lot of feels just now. I think you and fluff nugget are perfectly beautiful as you are, and I hope our society changes to accept that too.

@Susannah-Dean

Жыл бұрын

Monistat

@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds

Жыл бұрын

@@Susannah-Dean NO!!!

@Diamond-db3fx

Жыл бұрын

@@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorldswhy

@notveryrea1

Жыл бұрын

​@@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds *walter white fall*

@rebekahlikesmusic2723

Жыл бұрын

💚

4b here, I gotta say, the people who are the hardest on our hair is our own folk. I went fully natural 13 years ago at a white college and the ONLY people being nasty were black folk. My lessons are: 1. stop watching videos with women who don't have your texture. You'll just get frustrated. 2. Learn how to flat twist. 3. Protective styling is your friend. 4. Haters get this 🖕🏾

@TK-ix4cl

4 жыл бұрын

Randi C. Because black people look at it as embarrassing or unkept. White folks just glad it’s not a weave or wig.

@itsnotmeitsyou717

4 жыл бұрын

@@TK-ix4cl you need to think deeper abt why black ppl look at it that way when most bp have it. Where did that come from? And white ppl are glad its not a weave or wig but in the co orperate world dont they look at it the same way as the black ppl you mentioned? Only one state im aware banned natural hair discrimination and there are plenty of instances throughout the years of them finding even braids and 4c hair in a puff unacceptable in schools, same goes for dread locks. Yes there are some white ppl ok with our hair, most arent and thats a fact, i dont appreciate that ur comment implies bp are more against 4c hair than the ppl who made us be that way, same goes for the op.

@itsnotmeitsyou717

4 жыл бұрын

Well since most black are conditioned to see 4c hair as unpresentable, its only understandable some feel some type of way to see you embrace yours. That doesnt mean there werent white ppl at your college who didnt feel that way but some for the fear of being labelled racist would keep those opinions to themselves and their friends. Black ppl dont have to worry abt that so some will put their self loathing on full display. I dont think itll ever come to a point where most of us will become accepting of 4c hair just like so most of us still cant accept our features and darkskin. There is just too much conditioning and too many detached from our plight as a community.

@MrsDazl

4 жыл бұрын

@@itsnotmeitsyou717 been working in corporate for 8 years, I wear my hair natural in interviews and ive never had a complaint. Ever.

@leilanidru7506

4 жыл бұрын

@Randi C. I screen shotted this and wish I could like this a million times

“hair has never been just hair” A WORD.

@sirenenoire4091

4 жыл бұрын

auntie edna true. If it were then it wouldn’t be such a big and profitable industry.

@AllysseMarie

4 жыл бұрын

auntie edna a whole word and the closing prayer

@casuallym3

4 жыл бұрын

This was hands down the most hands down RAW TRUTHFUL TRUTH TRUEE 1000% rawest video On KZread . Probably because I relate to it the most. These natural hair girls on KZread are so full of shit tryna Act like natural hair journeys are not that deep. When she said , the she's had a more emotional fight than physical fight I felt that on deep level. I don't dwell on my hair as much no more but oh , I've been their I remember faking being sick to mom so that I wouldn't let me go 2 school with my natural hair. I remember Having to wear my natural hair at school I wore a hat and stayed in the consluors office so that no one saw me for the whole day. This video really spoke to me cause my hair looks exactly like hers too.

@sparksfly6149

4 жыл бұрын

I’ve seen so many guys, especially ones with straight hair, saying “it’s just hair”. Even “if you don’t like it, cut it off”. Like what?

@nickimurderedcardinmegan8933

4 жыл бұрын

Sparks Fly exactly and i always say if they cut it off and God doesn’t allow it to grow back then i guess it won’t be just hair then🤣🤣🤣🤣

“Stop watching any tutorials of any other texture.” Nothing but facts!!!!! I used to torture myself like that and only end up frustrated, emotionally drained, etc.

@NYCDoll217

4 жыл бұрын

Check out NappyFu she has 4c hair and is doing it! I don't have 4c hair but I follow most naturalista with 4c hair. They have the better hair health advice!

@thepookiestpookie9865

4 жыл бұрын

Omg its so true. I’ll watch videos of girls with straight hair who do cute braids and styles that I can’t do. And I always feel upset about it afterwards because I feel so unfortunate.

@heyyashleyyy2669

4 жыл бұрын

NYCDoll217 I love NappyFu she’s a game changer for ppl with 4c hair

@mynamehere492

4 жыл бұрын

It's true but hard. I've been natural on and off for almost 10 years and I can say that thin AND fine kinky hair is rare on KZread.

@nellacurls1

4 жыл бұрын

So trueee that just happened to me 🙄 I even cut my hair because I thought it was going to look just like hers 🤦🏻‍♀️😡

Growing up in Africa where this type of hair is normal and then moving to another continent for whatever reason is such a different experience. Back home I'm very used to going out with my Afro and getting complimented on it so you can imagine my shock when I start getting weird looks because of something that used to be my pride. Granted, my hair is a lot like Danielle's; moisture just never seems to get into it, it's kinda short but not really but it's not long either, the only difference being that it's hella thick which is both an advantage and a disadvantage, my hair, for a long time, was just hair. I've always loved my hair because it was the standard and I have so much respect and admiration for African-American girls or black girls in general who have been taught either directly or indirectly through society that the hair they were born with and have no control over is some kind of an abomination. It's so awe-inspiring to see people ready to challenge the set standards and find their own place as who they are rather than who they should be. In other words, great video. This is amazing and I love it.

@cielcanterville1834

3 жыл бұрын

That's very interesting, I've learned that black folk can struggle a lot with self hate for their features in some African countries so it's nice to hear a different perspective for once - which one are you from? If you don't mind me asking

@tonitoyobo3050

3 жыл бұрын

@@cielcanterville1834 I'm Nigerian

@catalayatern2251

3 жыл бұрын

In Africa there was a girl that got suspended for having 4c... Maybe that was a rare occasion cause I was 😲 shocked

@catalayatern2251

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/m3qsmtSGfZzddqg.html

@MsDiMera2

3 жыл бұрын

@@catalayatern2251 You are talking about South Africa which still has a large white population , which means you will still have white people as teachers and headmasters/ mistresses . I grew up in Zimbabwe ( right next door to South Africa ) in the 90s and there was still a large white population which has now decreased. If you went to a formerly whites only schools you would get white people opinions on your hair ; both in Secondary school and primary school my headmistress was white. In primary school the white headmistress preferred black girls to straighten their hair and that was part of the uniform ( Zimbabwean schools wear uniform) . In Secondary School I went to a Catholic school for A levels and the headmistress was a German nun but she was really chill and there was a list of black hairstyles that were allowed. You could wear it short and natural or relax it or cornrow it or get dreadlocks from form 1 to 4 but for those levels you could not add any extensions whatsoever to it or she it.Once you got to A level one of the privileges was that you could also get a weave or braids . I 've noticed that people from West Africa which had a minimal white settler population e.g Ghana or Nigeria tend to be more comfortable with their hair than people in Southern and East African countries where the white settler population was / for some is still huge and reluctant to leave after independence e.g South Africa, Kenya , Zimbabwe etc

OMG yesss. I wore my afro to the store and this women was like "is she trying to be a black panther or something" ....no I just came to get wine and some oreos 😭

@Amoore1991

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, that’s messed up. People are unreal

You should record audiobooks. Your voice is so inviting and soothing.

@claireann2129

4 жыл бұрын

500th like 😂

@kristinamarie111

Жыл бұрын

Right, I’m sitting here working and just listening to her is making me so relaxed 😌

Your voice has such a narrator like quality to it

@megabyt3s

4 жыл бұрын

Claire Bear yes it really doesss

@jessicabrown3186

4 жыл бұрын

Lool so true, I can literally listen to it all day. It’s so soothing and relaxing.

@Smoothjazz001

4 жыл бұрын

Claire Bear she’s actually a voice actor

@neosolrocstar

4 жыл бұрын

She said she was a actor

@i.dont.read.replies

4 жыл бұрын

She would be so perfect for audiobooks...she is so engaging!

im a 15 year old black girl with similar hair to yours and i needed to hear this so bad honestly i've always been natural but my hairs always been in braids so i never have to deal with it. It just always seemed so scary to show people my hair because everytime i saw someone with my hair they were always bald headed and had nappy hair which somehow made their hair ugly. So I hid it. This video inspired me to start becoming comfortable with my hair. So when I take out my braids instead of washing it and immediately putting it back into braids I will finally try that twist out, and if it doesn't go well I'll probably put it back in braids but that'll be a first step and that's ok. So thank you for this truly.

@blancam.bautista3329

2 жыл бұрын

@awesome smith how are you doing? I am proud of you for that brave decision ❤

"Why do you think self-love and self-acceptance is a sprint?" That.... that hit very deep...

To me “good hair” is healthy hair and that is all.

@mina-du6fi

4 жыл бұрын

unfortunately it’s not that easy for everyone there are societal beauty standards

@LM-ix7pk

4 жыл бұрын

milly agha then maybe it’s time to change beauty standards, don’t cha think? 😉 besides, black women are becoming the beauty standard. It’s the trend to darken your skin and have big lips.

@waviimse4567

4 жыл бұрын

Lmoa when you dont have that either T-T

@bissofly

4 жыл бұрын

@@LM-ix7pk black features are becoming more popular in the beauty world but not on black women

@jazlyncunningham7686

4 жыл бұрын

bisola alli-balogun I 100% agree, and it’s a shame

I am engaged to a man who loves silky straight long hair. I have short 4C sparse density hair just like you.We had a conversation about my hair and he told me he would prefer me wearing my hair in silky straight human hair extensions. I told him he had better got used to my 4C hair because I would NEVER wear ‘human hair’ and the closest I could get to that is to braid with extensions. I typically don’t care what people think about my hair, but I felt quite hurt that the one man I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with, the one whose opinions actually matter to me would think this way. I did my thing and wore my natural hair the way I wanted it. Some months ago, I was on a video call with him. I had just taken down a 1month old braid and had my natural hair in an Afro. And the first thing he said when he saw me was “Babe you look beautiful. Your hair suits you so well”. He’s said it a lot of times afterwards. What this taught me is that first, you have to accept yourself and your hair, and wear it confidently. Once you’ve done that, those that matter would fall in line, those that don’t will get the hell out. It can be challenging to accept hair that is constantly being projected as ‘inferior’ to others, but once you get to that point, no one will be able to steal your thunder.

@Harry4Potterfan

4 жыл бұрын

I love this comment!!!! I'm so glad things worked out and he grew to love your hair

@Cookincrazy

4 жыл бұрын

Yay! I’m glad he and you love your hair. And I agree 100% we have to be confident with it

@JassyJass95

4 жыл бұрын

This is beautiful! And I’m glad he learned to accept your hair, but moreover I am so glad that you decided to wear your hair as you please despite what he thought!

@danietodoroki3420

4 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad this had a happy ending. Rock that crown of curls sista 🙌🏾 🍯✨

@ArianneMcD

4 жыл бұрын

I needed to read this fr!!

I've been natural for over 10 years. I'm at midback length with blow-drying but it shrinks to a twa at my ears. I've accepted my hair as a part of me but I don't think I've ever really liked it. It only looks good in a pineapple or heat trained. I love having long healthy hair but the hassle of doing it and styles coming out terrible is miserable. My mom and other natural friends have a different hair texture but just don't understand. I almost cut my hair off last year because I was over it. I've decided I'm going to texturize it to keep the volume but make my life easier. I'm tired of being a political statement just existing and I'm beyond done with fake smiling like this is ideal. The toxic positivity in the community makes you feel crazy for being frustrated. Thanks for being a real voice in this ♥️

@Intellectualrigor

4 жыл бұрын

I have 4c hair. I still relax after being natural for 2 years. I'm OVER people telling people how to feel on this subject.

@leilanidru7506

4 жыл бұрын

There’s toxic positivity and there’s also toxic negativity too... negativity on our kind of journey is normal. That’s where toxic possibilities goes wrong, treating every natural hair struggle, frustration, and breakdown as YoU ShOuLd JuSt EmBrAcE it, and that’s wrong. The other side of the coin is just as wrong tho when u say that the existence and experience of a hair texture is a fake ideal. Ijs🤷🏿‍♀️ there’s not easy answers, I certainly don’t have any, and I’m not here to shame anyone or tell anyone what to do with their hair. I have 4c hair as well and sometime it feels like your damned if u do, damned if u don’t.

@ac12304

2 жыл бұрын

This resonates with me. The toxic positivity is horrible. And you hit the nail on the head with the "being a political statement". UGH! I'm going to experiment with straightening my hair.

When she said I SEE YOU 👀 i felt like she was looking right at me lol but I’m subscribed lol

@mylesanderson2861

4 жыл бұрын

@The Ballad Of The Queen 4a 4b 4c we all have the same hair some just have more nap than others 🤓

Can we also talk about the people who feel the need to talk about your 4C hair but have NEVER had the confidence to naturally wear their own! This is something I come across A LOT!

@indeeditiscirro

4 жыл бұрын

Sara Jones and the boys with 5A hair who only "prefer" girls with 3A hair Edit: oh gosh haha thank you for the likes! I haven't experienced the discrimination myself but I've seen it so much online

@iloveloveloveableful

4 жыл бұрын

@@indeeditiscirro Speak on it, sis!!!

@mynamehere492

4 жыл бұрын

@@indeeditiscirro 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 gurl! It's crazy. 🤯

@choclate39

4 жыл бұрын

And that’s a word !!!

@milesgs

4 жыл бұрын

Patchy Rye 5A I’m dead 😂😂😂😂😂😭

“its just hair” says the people whose hair is accepted in any social setting. which is why i make an effort to wear my hair OUT AND NATURAL 99% of the time. i dont pin it up for school or ANY professional setting. i take professional pictures with it, i’ve done interviews with it you name it. during sports i do mini twists but NEVER sacrifice MY HAIR for someone else’s standards. the only exception is safety requirements and military uniform regulations and EVEN THEN its in a protective style not slick back not straightened!!!!

@aniyahcampbell2890

4 жыл бұрын

At first I thought my hair was not perfect my hair is neck length and because my hair is soft it’s thin when flat iron but my hair usually looks full when blow dry I remember back when I was younger when ever I had flat ironed hair everyone would say my hair is soft I’m starting to embrace it more

@blkbarbie2671

4 жыл бұрын

Preach!!

@laetitiasales3527

4 жыл бұрын

Only people with straight hair are accepted everywhere. I'm white like a ghost with very curly hair (3b/3c hair) and when I do job interviews they tell me I should straighten it to look more "elegant and professional". It's insane. No one should change their hair to work.

@veghead05

4 жыл бұрын

🙌🙌🙌

@KJ-nv9uz

4 жыл бұрын

@@laetitiasales3527 Im not one to ever pull the race card, but thst would be the day.

i have 4a/4b hair and i’m still trying to learn to love it, in my school when i wore it natural it was seen as “unkept” and “messy” and when i wore box braids it’s seen as “fake hair” or “extensions”, people’s words started to impact me and i started to dislike my hair so i started to blow dry it because it was so hard to handle and so annoying and wasn’t like those other pretty girls with straight hair or pretty curly hair. i used a whole bunch of products and without realizing it my hair was breaking off piece by piece then in the summer my hair looked as if i did a big chop, it was so damaged and short but i didn’t care because to me my hair was ugly so i got box braids and let it grow then as soon as i took the box braids out i would blow dry and style and that was the same process for 1-2 years until i finally found black youtube channels explaining my hair explaining why i should love it explaining why it’s beautiful and should be beautiful to me, i wanted to start my natural hair journey but then school started and i had to get box braids, one of the guys i liked asked what i was doing to my hair and i told him and he said “oh it’ll look prettier if you straighten it or silk press it” “maybe it’ll make me like you” that hurt me a lot and i started to dislike my hair again, so i started blow drying and styling my hair AGAIN for a year straight. then i found a youtube channel talking about hair and i was wondering why my hair didn’t look like hers when we had the same hair type but hers was healthy and mine was curly at the root but then went straight at the ends. i know something needed to change so i put away my blow dryer and started my natural hair journey, i figured out my everything about my hair, got the right products (current still doing that now) and my hair is currently coming to a curly state, ive cut my damaged ends and my split ends and got a bonnet and just left it alone, currently my hair is semi healthy and i’m trying everything to get it thick again because it’s extremely thin but it’s got its curls. i’m learning everyday to love and value my hair because it’s mine. hair is never just hair, we go through mental and physical pain when going through our own journeys and it’s extremely difficult but we all get through it. time to time i do cry about my hair for hours because i’m just tired of it being so difficult and just “ugly” in my mind. i’m trying everyday to love and value my hair even more so it’ll get to it’s healthiest, fullest, best state. thanks for reading my natural hair journey ❤️.

@PhantomGirl888

5 ай бұрын

You’re hair is beautiful n so are u :)

This content and narration deserves an episode on Midnight Gospel

When she said "my hair is more a statement then a style" ..I felt that in my soul. At work a coworker (my own people) said oh you do that , I said do what?..she said do natural..I said "ma am I'm doing what God gave me". (end scene) ..I CANNOT

@blackgold4668

4 жыл бұрын

"I'm doing what God gave me." 👏👏👏

@FateOfTheElephant

4 жыл бұрын

I literally Lmboooo 😂😂😂😂 "MA'AM"

@AleySoundz

4 жыл бұрын

@JamericanDC1 They already are. Look up asians getting black hair texture.

@DanishThe1

4 жыл бұрын

Anna I had to go too your channel and see your profilepicture 😄 whatever you are doing, it works! I like your hair 😉

@Anna-ij3je

4 жыл бұрын

@@DanishThe1 heyyy thank youuuu LOVE❤️

“You need to embrace your natural hair” “It’s just hair” or “it’s just hair, it’ll grow back” Three of the most sentences I EVER HATED

@kynnedijohnson8693

4 жыл бұрын

Because it is people just show up how meaningless it is it’s not gonna be your whole life that u feel like this

@whatthe640

4 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU

@NekeishaWise

4 жыл бұрын

Me too 😫 can't stand when people say that mess

@iiiacvsixteen7336

4 жыл бұрын

Iol.. i too

@isaa.5187

4 жыл бұрын

I hate the "its just hair" thing. Hair is important and part of our identity.

"Oh shes strong shes a queen shes rebellious" "Um i actually just want ice cream"

I am 45 years old and I just went natural this week. I’ve been in corporate leadership for over a decade and have never worn it natural. I’ve been a little nervous to do this in the corporate world. You said things that were in my head but haven’t been able to voice. Thank you Queen. I appreciate you. I’m excited for this journey.

My bf was watching this with me and goes "she's freaking beautiful tho" lmao he loves the undefined look. He says it reminds him of peridot, his favorite crystal gem.

@XxAshaWxX

4 жыл бұрын

That's actually really cute

@neysaedwards-turnbull4494

4 жыл бұрын

🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 peridot is life ....I'm a garnet girl myself

@exox7534

4 жыл бұрын

Where tf did you find a man like that?

@raynebow5289

4 жыл бұрын

Your bf called Star beautiful, and his favorite crystal gem is Peridot? When is the wedding?

@NaquitaRandle

4 жыл бұрын

Ain't she tho?!?!? ♥️

4c hair is no joke and I hate when people try to undermine the amount of work I have to put in to style my hair. I definitely understand where you’re coming from 😩

@progress313

4 жыл бұрын

Lovinglouu yes girl it is a whole job 😂😭 We need our appreciation!

@nerdgurl402

4 жыл бұрын

Or they like to say we’re just being lazy when we talk about the time and care it takes

There's a lot of toxic energy everywhere. In the relaxed community, "why is your hair relaxed? Go natural, embrace your true self." Excuse me, you can have relaxed, beautiful and HEALTHY hair. In the natural hair community, "your hair isn't natural enough...you should buy these products"... I'm so done with it. As a black woman, people judge me bc my hair doesn't look black enough. If my fro isn't super gorgeous and my edges aren't slayed and I don't have all th3 amazing hair products...then I'm not black enough. Hair isn't just hair. It's used as judgement.

@qispies

4 жыл бұрын

You can't have healthy relaxed hair since it's chemically fried. You can have LONG relaxed hair. Healthy? no. Which is why you have to cut it for it to be healthy. Also length doesn't = health.

@3618499

3 жыл бұрын

Lillian Supo Adekola " IGNORE IT!.... Others can't hurt Us if We don't let them. Every individual's own hair belongs to Them, God intended it to. So, why does it matter what others are saying or thinking about Us? Just because some critics are insecure doesn't mean that We have to be. Remember that most people have some hidden or revealed personal issues (ex: Personality, Relationships, Body & Self-Image, Etc.) They're unable or unwilling to acknowledge or confront. Instead, they will seek out so-called ' flaws ' in others. They can't tolerate others with any real or perceived advantages over them, whether superficial or intrinsic. Ever heard the ancient proverb ' Misery loves company. ' ? Unfortunately, ' We the People ' of all backgrounds and demographics too often get played by the seemingly well-meaning advice from others with ulterior motives without realizing it. Even greater global Mass Marketing firms spends trillions of dollars exploiting and researching Our insecurities to achieve massive financial gain. Notice all of the giant commercial industries (ex: Automobile, Cosmetic, Fashion, Real Estate, Travel, Etc.) who profit by stoking never-ending lusts and pursuits ' for what only They can provide ' ? Full joy and maturity is fully achieved once individuals and groups stop seeking external validation from Others for Their own personal self-worth and validation. "

@chasejones7008

3 жыл бұрын

@@qispies That's only half true, relaxed hair has not been fried on a frying pan the hydrogen bonds in the hair were broken, so ofc healthy natural hair will always be stronger and healthier than relaxed hair but if it were actually not healthy at all then every person with a perm would have raggedy ends which is not true, you don't have to cut your relaxed hair off just to be healthy, but to have strands where the hydrogen bond was never broken

@afroclouds

2 жыл бұрын

@@qispies Worddd

@afroclouds

2 жыл бұрын

You HAVE to love your natural self if you want self love, not your processed self!!!

came for the hair, stayed for the personality , you my friend are something else and I like it !

@afroclouds

2 жыл бұрын

😄❤️

You have major actress vibes. Literal star quality. Like if I’d seen u for the first time I’d assume u were an actress.

@user-fc2xk3uv8y

4 жыл бұрын

She is an actress!!

@aprylljay

4 жыл бұрын

She's so beautiful... that bone structure

@ainaolajumoke1599

4 жыл бұрын

I actually thought she was an actress

@strudelh

4 жыл бұрын

@@user-fc2xk3uv8y in what show? Or movie, has she been in?

@MidnightPopRocker

4 жыл бұрын

This is literally what I thought the entire time. Like she looks like she can be one of those European models or even make a Disney princess out of her. This girl is definitely a character worth knowing

My 5 year old daughter said as soon as you came on screen "She's so pretty!" I have the same hair texture. Dreads are the only style my hair likes.

@bernishawilliams4014

4 жыл бұрын

Ebony I loved this. I almost want to cry ❤️

@ShaneCM

4 жыл бұрын

I immediately thought the same thing...it’s probably the reason I clicked on the vid. And I too have the same hair.

@anbillie

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah im.looking into dreads

@luvmeany

4 жыл бұрын

I got locs too! Best decision I've ever made, and I try to sell other 4c girls on it whenever I can

@luvyourlocks4485

4 жыл бұрын

I have locs too, been over two years now. Best thing I ever did and so liberating, definitely a self love journey.

I need to see you sis! Never stop making content for us sparse, low density, thin, dry, short-ish, 4c hair owners.

I’m lucky that I grew up Gen Z and as a young teen I had videos like this to see, I would get up 2 hours before school started to try and manage my hair just to end up crying and giving up and going to school in a horrible headband and the same ponytail every single day

I remember when I was combing out my 4c hair in front of my friend (a guy). Now don't get me wrong y'all, I'm trying my best to embrace its natural state, but I remember just casually saying, "My hair is crap" because sometimes natural hair can be frustrating. His response surprised me and I'm always going to remember it. He seemed genuinely confused and he proceeded to ask, "What do you mean? You have quality hair." 4c is hard to deal with, but never forget that this shit is QUALITY!

@dee1946

4 жыл бұрын

Candice Allen please tell me you stayed friends with him 😭🥺

@SakuraaaHarmony

4 жыл бұрын

My husband is the same lol every time I get frustrated with my hair and say I hate it, he’s always like “really? I love your hair” he’s such a sweetheart

@natu_illustrates

4 жыл бұрын

yall married yet- 🥺

I had a talk with one of my girls who struggles with her 4c hair. She got so frustrated she chopped it off three times. I figured I’d go buy her some products and send them to her to help ease the process of doing her hair. I want her and people like her and myself to look in the mirror and embrace how unique we are. It’s a struggle but I’m trying to see it more as self care than a chore. I know I wrote a whole paragraph but from one natural sister to another, you’re all so beautiful and I love you( didn’t hear it today you heard from me.) Stay safe ❤️

@michellepreston9799

4 жыл бұрын

Isn’t that part of the problem with 4c hair. Products don’t work on our hair the same way it does with other hair types. We aren’t patient enough to learn what works and what does not work for our hair. The frustration with trying to tame our hair is the biggest obstacle. We are very judgmental of what we perceive as hair that looks unkempt. I am guilty of that and I have 4c hair. It bothers me to no end to see matted clumped up lint filled hair on a woman especially 4c hair in that state of being.

@ashleynicole5969

4 жыл бұрын

This was so beautiful, thank you for writing this ! ❤️

@sneekz07

4 жыл бұрын

Ah this is like me! I grow out my hair until I can't be be bothered to deal with it anymore and then buzz it off. For me it's not about self hatred, I literally can not be bothered with the maintenance and tired arms! Good thing I have the bone structure to pull it off.

@indriadrayton1132

4 жыл бұрын

4c or in my case, 4lmnop hair, is sculptural. It can be put into so many cool designs and shapes. I love my hair, it's just A LOT 9F WORK!!!!

@betternow1906

4 жыл бұрын

To be honest my neice has 4c and got kinda like a buzz but faux hawk haircut and LOVES it! She's too young for braids and dose too many sports

I appreciate your honesty, and it speaks to the when the NATURAL HAIR MOVEMENT shifted to mixed and wavy textures

@noirblanque5324

3 жыл бұрын

You better not mean that “mixed” and wavy textures don’t/ shouldn’t have a place in the movement

@Kinglystateof

3 жыл бұрын

Nobody said they don’t have a place. What I’m saying is the intended purpose for the natural hair movement began with non ambiguous black women wanting to celebrate the hair texture they were told wasn’t pretty. Then as years went on it became harder and harder to find these youtubers because the algorithm only showed mixed people who’s hair texture and styles ARENT attainable for most non ambiguous black people strictly because of texture. It then moved to products catering to looser textures and many black people starting their own businesses because the movement didn’t serve them anymore . Erasure is a marketing ploy that’s been happening since madame CJ Walker

"if you have hair anything like mine" my hair is a 1b at best 😂😂😂 just a white girl who likes watching your videos including all your 4c hair videos.

@AKUBARIKI

3 жыл бұрын

Her hair is 4b. Why is she saying it is very kinky

@GeminiDayDreams

3 жыл бұрын

​@@AKUBARIKI If what you're taking away from this video is that you think she has 4b hair, you've clearly missed the point. And as much as the hair typing system is used in the natural hair community it's also one the dumbest things to happen to it. It's just another way to nitpick and discriminate against people of the same cause. Gatekeeping "4c" hair is ridiculous.

@AKUBARIKI

3 жыл бұрын

@@GeminiDayDreams Ooooooo🤦🏽‍♀️ it matters to know your hair type You will then look after it better accordingly. I have just realized that I am 4b. All along I was mistakenly following 4c youtubers and inadvertently causing more havoc to my hair Oooh and I know. She is still in angst about caring for natural afro hair.

@teekaybe4016

3 жыл бұрын

I have 3B/C type hair and I love watching hair videos of all hair types especially type 4. It's amazing how different and beautiful we all are.

@cielcanterville1834

3 жыл бұрын

@@teekaybe4016 Same, I'm 3A/3B and heavily mixed, but I'm so glad 4C girls are finally standing up for themselves and their hair - they are just as beautiful and deserving of appreciation as any other texture

It kind of sounds like she’s reciting a poem.

@evelyngray3943

4 жыл бұрын

I was dead ass about to say that

@Lisa-tj7to

4 жыл бұрын

She is incredible!! Best video I have come across on the 'interweb' today. Also so relatable because I share the same 4C woes. Le sigh

@nikkinyokabi6111

4 жыл бұрын

True 😂😂😂

@amrayabaptiste2933

4 жыл бұрын

Yes. She's very poetic. Love it. I wonder if she writes.

Now I was born on a small island and around me , almost everyone had the same 4c texture and we considered it beautiful , only since being exposed to insta and other apps i've learned that other places , think it's ugly. I actually started to believe it ,but the opinion of other people i dunno about my hair is lame , and i'm sorry that u ever felt as though your hair was less than the rest.

@siobhanclarke6263

4 жыл бұрын

This is my point I made too, luckily in the Caribbean the hair thing is not that deep as in the USA, with the advent of social media its changing though.

@yukisakamoto9818

4 жыл бұрын

That s so cool!Where were you born?

@Hopekayeny

4 жыл бұрын

Which island is this? I was born in Africa (Uganda) where we mostly have 4c hair but it was still viewed as ugly

@sandranannozi356

4 жыл бұрын

@@Hopekayeny i'm from Uganda too and I was just about to say this! my life goal was to grow my hair so i could relax it smh. glad i never did

@FineNaturalHairROCKS

4 жыл бұрын

This is so eye-opening. I'm so sorry that some people feel like their hair isn't beautiful.

I don't wanna sound weird but I just love how expressive you are and how you seem so authentic. Its endearing>~ Loved the realtalk and the insights that you gave on your hairjourney :3 Oh and you're gorgeous btw🙈

"We're just all gonna wait for you to subscribe real quick" and I immediately clicked the subscribe button as if I was sitting in the room with her giving me that STARE LMAO!!! I have hair EXACTLY like yours. Honestly, I only found peace when I shaved it. I'm growing it back out again but just knowing what type of hair I'll be getting is already frustrating. Thank you for this channel. i found someone to relate to. xoxo

If it were just hair, then there wouldn’t have been are still are so many laws/rules for it.

@betternow1906

4 жыл бұрын

If it was "just hair" I wouldn't have to spend $60,000 on two diffrent schools and take the state boards twice ✌

@memebryant1121

4 жыл бұрын

Better Now I need you to talk about this cause huhhhh

@betternow1906

4 жыл бұрын

@@memebryant1121 ?

@epic7224

4 жыл бұрын

That's only in America though. Other countries aren't that shitty. Facts. So yes everywhere else it's only hair.

@betternow1906

4 жыл бұрын

@@epic7224 shhh if women realize its "just hair" start taking pride in themselves, and learn to do it at home many hairdressers that profit off of girls insecurities will go out of business!

Say it again🗣It has NEVER been "just hair"! I hate that. I also hate "don't let it get to you" in reference to the hate.

"Your hair grows as slowly as your heart" - oof that got me ❤️

I love you so much! My hair is just like yours and I'm going to be honest I'm 28 and I do not feel all that attractive when I wear it out. I want to look grown and sexy😩 No style turns out right and I'm tired of wearing a puff! And to keep it real I'm probably never going to be happy with it until it gets long.( just venting). Thanks for the wonderful video.

@catalayatern2251

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your truths Lizzy I been feeling the same way. I want to feel my age but those puffs don't do justice make me look small

@onanefe7787

3 жыл бұрын

@@catalayatern2251 I feel you too except that I ONLY wear a puff. It's one of the few hairstyles that I can do with my 3c/4a type of hair that keeps them in " a clean shape". When I try to wear my hair out normally it always ends in tears beacause I somehow feel embarrassed. Even tho literally everybody loves my hair...except me

@srae7658

2 жыл бұрын

I've always been natural. Never had a perm. And I don't wear wigs (but I do wear an afro ponytail sometimes). I think we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to always wear all these styles. Like....do other ethnicities who maybe have straight hair change up their hair styles everyday? Or even every week? No! They wear the same hairdo until they cut it into a new style! So why so we feel bad about wearing a puff all the time or twists all the time? We put this pressure on ourselves I think. Also, 4c hair is definitely hair that you need to learn to love in its shrunken, not stretched state. And then just own it! Also, the longer 4c hair gets, the more work it is, as with any hair type. I like my longer hair but I don't like the extra work and time it takes.

She is speaking deep into my soul. No music in the background, no unnecessary fake enthusiasm. Just talking real facts. Sometimes Im like.. why did I have to he born with the hair thats literally on THE OPPOSITE SIDE OF THE SPECTRUM?? couldnt I get something in the middle? Or even second to last? Im tearing up writing this rn. Havent even finished watching the video Love the realness.

@antfactory1

4 жыл бұрын

It's not even about the hair itself. I love my 4c hair. I just wish it would fucking grow like the rest of the other hairstyles.

@tianalewis9723

4 жыл бұрын

I feel you girl

@veghead05

4 жыл бұрын

❤❤❤

@rubyreduxx

4 жыл бұрын

Its sad that we feel that way about the hair that grows put of our heads 😔 But starpuppy D is right... the journey will lead to knowing your self worth 100%

Yes, patiently waiting for the day when wearing natural hair isn’t a political statement... You’re one of the few creators I can watch for 20 min+. Thank you ☺️

@iateyursandwiches

4 жыл бұрын

Is it really 100% not a political statement though? Afterall, some of us did it to go against European beauty standards and encourage little black girls. Is that considered political? Just want to know people's thoughts. I did it cause I'm sick of relaxers and realized I had to do just as much work to have healthier relaxed hair as healthy natural hair. All with the benefits of no chemical burn risks, fewer protein treatments, and less $$$ provided I don't become a product junky like some people. Also, I wanted to start a general journey of self love and acceptance. That journey had to involved loving every part of me.

@felicitygomez7852

4 жыл бұрын

@@iateyursandwiches yes I transitioned for a similar reason. But I want my hair to stop being a reason for attention I just want it to be HAIR as that is what it is. I don't mean to compare myself but when a girl with a loose texture (straight) wears her hair in its natural state people think nothing about it. Why can't I do the same I don't want all this pressure for my hair to look perfect everyday.

@indriadrayton1132

4 жыл бұрын

@@felicitygomez7852 we feel the pressure because it is a cultural and political issue. 4c hair is especially condemned in the media. Remember Simone Biles? How she was made fun of for her hair rather than celebrated for her awesome gymnastic talents and fortitude? And by this was by her own people....us!!! Taking to social media to criticize her. I for one, am gonna give off my vibe, with Pam Grier attitude, in regards to my 4c lmnop hair. Check her out, right along with Amara LaNegra and walk with that. I had to break it down to a co-worker that this is BLACK hair, with that kind of emphasis. Hey people, ya'll deal with this. Not my problem. Try it out.

@kapparhotau181

4 жыл бұрын

Yea like we are not allowed to wear hair they way it grows out of our scalp like some other races can

@epic7224

4 жыл бұрын

It is if you don't live in America 😑

This is actually the first video I've seen from you and as a short as hell Asian woman with incredibly straight, fine, and low-density hair - I'm loving this content. Not exactly sure how I got here but I find it super interesting and insightful! Also, your voice is very calming :)

I’m 40+ and when I watch your videos, your struggles...nemesis’s match mine and I feel better knowing I’m not alone. So many thanks to you

I wanted to teach my mom how to take care of her hair, so today I also finger-detangled her hair too, she’s just sat there cute and quiet.

@jess9722

4 жыл бұрын

Unflipped Fedora I find finger detangling is quicker than using a wide tooth comb. Crazy stuff man

@TriniGirlNatural

4 жыл бұрын

That's really cute! My mom asks for by help also

@prinduplayzx

4 жыл бұрын

Jess that’s crazy! I feel like I’m tearing out my hair with my fingers, everyone’s hair is different☺️

@ellenkorang6670

4 жыл бұрын

@@prinduplayzx me too, I feel like my hair gets more tangled when I use my fingers 🤦🏾‍♀️

@indeeditiscirro

4 жыл бұрын

When I finger detangle, the shed hairs don't come out! I don't mean breakage, I mean the ACTUAL shed hairs with the white bulbs. What am I doing wrong?

If your hair is anything like mine, it grows best when it's braided moisturized and unbothered. I truly think constant manipulation with your hair hurts it's growth process. Get you some cool kinky texture wigs.

@neysaedwards-turnbull4494

4 жыл бұрын

Yes I was just about to say that .... I have three textures in the front and crown its 4a/b sides middle 4b back 4c .. When kept in and moisturized it just behaves so well Have you tried Chebe powder?

@stefanyxavier2144

4 жыл бұрын

Right? She's doing way tooo much

@michelleaj3853

4 жыл бұрын

Is there any protective hairstyles just for natural hair without adding wigs, weave/braids? I want to protect it with just my natural hair cause it’s thick enough. Sorry if it doesn’t make sense

@chergilles

4 жыл бұрын

Michelle Aj twist your hair

@michelleaj3853

4 жыл бұрын

Cher Giles thank you🙏 and if you don’t mind me asking, for how long should they stay on?

16:45 Okay I know I'm as white as a cloud, but holy fuck.. this seriously just made me realize that I'm taking out my PTSD on my appearance & feelings.. especially my hair. Girl.. you are a whole blessing... 🙏🏻❣️❤️❤️

You are so right about not being able to find real 4c hair videos on KZread. I have put in the search bar of KZread real 4c hair, true 4c hair, 4c hair and everything but that will come up. Normally curly hair girls will come up. Try to watch videos with hair like yours IF you can find them. I have felt everything that you said in this video through these 10yrs of being natural. I have resulted to just wearing mini twists or my fro because my hair won't do a twist out, nor a braid out. It took a long time to start embracing what I have and the stares. Hang in there everyone!

It’s difficult to love your hair when you try to love it through other peoples eyes. I went natural in the 90s. 4c hair when folks weren’t using that term. No KZread. No IG. Barely covered by Essence magazine. Before celebrities would openly admit that they were ALL wearing weaves. My hair fell out at 18 and I refused to put back the creamy crack. I grew out my afro. Wore it in a puff. Was called a pickaninny in church by my old aunt. Was asked by other (halfway bald relaxed hair) disgusted church member if I was planning to keep my (glorious) afro puff. I looked at her awful hair and walked away. And I learned how to love my hair. And it was a fight every step of the way. When it was first growing out it was difficult to manage. I figured I got relaxers since I was 8 and my hair no longer trusted me and was putting up a fight. When I was 18 one of the facts about 4c hair that I used with folks when asked why (repeatedly) I went natural. Because my hair is a natural cooling system. It was designed to hold water close to my scalp to cool me. My 4c hair is doing its job. 4c hair is beautiful because it comes out of my scalp. At 40ish I have shaved my head. LOVED IT. No more 6-8 hour wash days!! Now I am wearing locks. It’s just hair. But it is also my love journey.

@Mitzi73

3 жыл бұрын

Interesting post. I am not black but I have been watching a lot of 4c hair videos and I have concluded that 4c girls have to think outside the box and do what makes them comfortable. If doing a silk press will give your hair routine a break and let you move on with your life then so be it. If wearing your hair naturally or in braids will let you focus on more important things then so be that too. Spending 6 hours on wash day doing moisture and twisting gives you the privilege of saying I need to do what is best for me.

@Lmcv82

3 жыл бұрын

Love you

@mayaluney4358

3 жыл бұрын

Wow. I never thought a KZread comment would make me cry...thank you for sharing your journey and words. 🤎

@CosmicEremite

2 жыл бұрын

I dont understand the all day wash days...why does it take so long?

@rachelchanel7941

2 жыл бұрын

@@mayaluney4358 I almost cried myself. This was beautiful, and I’m so sorry she went through this just because she wore her damn hair out. As soon as I saw “back in the 90s”, I was like “oh no…” I grew up in the 90s, and remember how black women were about hair then.

“It has never been just hair” hit me hard

You've honestly touched my soul. I'm soaking your emotions like a dry sponge coming into contact with water.

I needed this. I don't have your hair. I have balding and extremely low density, fine, snappable, 2b hair. So while this doesn't apply to my hair specifically, it fits so much into how I have been in life. I am opposite in so many ways from what is acceptable in a lot of areas and this spoke to me soooo much. Thank you. Also as people said you have amazing presence and a wonderful voice, and you have a beautiful way with words and express things in ways I never could. Thank you.

Your personality is EVERYTHING

@FoxyChariot

4 жыл бұрын

Ti Michelle It really is. I’ve never heard anyone name their hair.

@sweethartia

4 жыл бұрын

Rey Parker I thought every natural girl named their hair

@katara6671

4 жыл бұрын

She is corny and cringy af

@chriskratt7665

4 жыл бұрын

^^ignore

Starpuppy: "It has never..." KZread: *well timed commercial* Starpuppy: "...been just hair"

@ThePhoenixx2012

4 жыл бұрын

ArtyAsh facts lol

@QueenOfTheCoast

4 жыл бұрын

😆

@ChrissyGotTheCoils

4 жыл бұрын

Lol

@Window4503

4 жыл бұрын

Lol gotta let it sink in...

@Minxs001

4 жыл бұрын

LOL!!

“i’m pre-mad” i felt tf out of that 😭

I am 48 years old and this young lady really spoke the absolute truth about how I feel in regards to my 4c hair. It was such a relatable video and I am learning to accept my hair at this point because it is so strong like she said and will always return to its tight nappy coil. I am tired of fighting it.

I hate the term "Good hair". Growing up a lot of the elder women in my family use this term when praising loosely textured hair (they still do it) and anything kinky or coily is usually put down. It conditioned my young mind that this is the case and it took me a long while to get out of that mindset. Good 👏🏽 hair👏🏽 is 👏🏽healthy 👏🏽hair👏🏽

@anissa2361

4 жыл бұрын

I hate that ish it literally pisses me off!

@janice184

4 жыл бұрын

amen!! some of my friends perpetuate texturism too (does that make sense?)

@TheLesExit

4 жыл бұрын

Ya this really needs to stop. I don't even think it is just elder women tho. Black women need to understand how much this hurts the self-esteem of young girls. I know it is all based on what they've been conditioned to see as good....but still...it has gotta stop.

@ericabelcher8760

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!!! Its ridiculous & its been extremely detrimental in every generation!! Smdh

@LaToyaEbonyHair

4 жыл бұрын

PREACH!! It gets on my nerves to hear the older women in my family speak that way about our hair. It took years for me to realize how ignorant it all sounded. I still have to check my mother to this day. Old habits die hard.

“my hair is more of a statement than a style” say it again for the eurocentric beauty standards in back 🗣

@kennedydumas6195

4 жыл бұрын

Mind, Body & Saúl thank u 😊

i subscribed when she was like "We're all waiting for you to subscribe" haha

@blackdivine6762

4 жыл бұрын

Me too

same here in brazil!!! i've been trying so hard to love the hair that society taught me to hate. it is hard, but i wont give up.

Is everyone surviving the quarantine? Is everyone eating? Watching good anime? Sleeping more than you should?

@thehamsterarmy2380

4 жыл бұрын

I watched the Promised Neverland in one night

@theblackconservativewoman9824

4 жыл бұрын

I’m currently watching host club.

@rhino8817

4 жыл бұрын

it's been a month where i am... whew we tryin

@krystolwatkins9384

4 жыл бұрын

I was watching bang bang con till 3 and had to get up at 5. I am tired.

@atypicallynormal4399

4 жыл бұрын

@@krystolwatkins9384 giiiiiiiiirl. I fell asleep during Epilogue 😭😭😭

"I'm not gonna rip & run through this hair. Cuz she will get mad and she will remember." Lol # facts

@donnav7412

4 жыл бұрын

I know this because my hair is PETTY

@reginagordon4246

4 жыл бұрын

She will lol my hair is the same 😂😂

@fuyukazemi

4 жыл бұрын

My hair side eyes me every time a finger even comes within a foot of her.

@EsPGoPo

4 жыл бұрын

@@fuyukazemi lol

WE HAVE THE SAME KIND OF HAIR!!!! I felt this video so much. 4c is always used as clickbait and when you click the video no one ever has the same texture as me so things never turn out how they should. Honestly I've never seen someone with the same kind of texture as me

Omg you are sooo pretty!!! I've been natural for 13 years and I still struggle with loving my hair. I liberated myself by not giving af anymore. Edit: I finished the whole video and I'm crying 😭😭😭. I really needed this. Thank you for using your platform to speak a truth that so many are too ashamed to say out loud. SUBCRIBED!!! 🙌🙌🙌💙💙💙

"Hair is not just hair" absolutely facts. I don't like people saying that our hair is just hair and most of them are those who have hair that is socially acceptable. Hair tells a lot about us and our stories. Hair represents power in most African cultures (In my culture, when the parents die the children and very close family members must cut their hair and be bald. This represents that we are in distress and mourning. Even when a child reaches a year old they have to have their hair cut to let the 'real' hair grow out which shows growth in a child's life and success) , I am a tswana girl (a Bantu tribe) from South Africa and we have a saying that "A woman's hair is her crown that carries her beauty". It took a lot of strength and courage for us to finally appreciate our hair and nurture it because of how we have been brainwashed that our hair is ugly, unkept, dirty and embarassing. Hair carries our identity, history, culture and heritage. So if you're going to say my hair is just hair then you're striping off my identity. You're just taking away the meaning and value of my CROWN!!! Imagine going through so much because of your hair and then after finally fighting off that brainwashed mentality then someone out of nowhere tells you that your hair is just hair. Have they experienced the struggles of having to accept their hair? Have they ever felt embarassed of wearing their crown in public just because someone might come your way and call you in a racial slurs? No I don't think so that's why you think that my hair is just hair.

@noirblanque5324

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly. So let people, no matter their texture, wear different styles from any different culture.

Yep, 4c HIGHLY DENSE hair it took 5 years and almost exclusively protective styles to get this bad boy past my sholuders... guuurrrl

@daisyx1002

4 жыл бұрын

Sunflow730 ... 🤣congrats. I can’t wait to get there too. Wish me luck 🙏🏾

@Pyricangel

4 жыл бұрын

Girl I SWEAR I’m trying so hard! And I love my hair but I have to do SO MUCH for it to grow.

@Dwhifwhidwhiqdn12

4 жыл бұрын

I don't have hair like that so is it actually harder to grow?

@Dwhifwhidwhiqdn12

4 жыл бұрын

@Arcane Raven Why?

@Sunflow730

4 жыл бұрын

@@Dwhifwhidwhiqdn12 4C hair is also very brittle... I have a ton of hair on my head but if I wear my afro everyday, it would break. Needs ton of moisture, and time to detangle, specific low porosity products and mostly an acceptance and love for your crazy wild hair.

I really love this video because for me it related to how hard it was to accept my visual impairment and hair. So thank you for reminding me that I don’t suck

“Oh no...I got the hard one...” 😂 This right here is the truth lolol

“Even if it’s long it’s still 4c so it’s going to be short in 20 minutes.” I felt that in my soul! Twist outs, Bantu knot outs, perm rod sets, they are all a NO if it’s not winter where I live. 🤨

@charmaineespeut4627

4 жыл бұрын

That's why you have to stretch it. Also shrinkage is pretty because it looks extra thick.

@diva2459

4 жыл бұрын

Especially in Texas

"Even if it's long, it's gonna be short again in 20 minutes" - truer words have never been spoken

*'Tightly coiled, fine stranged, low porosity, 4c, dry, easily snappable , highly sensitive and short hair'* Me: Ahhh yesss, I can soooo relate. Finally someone like me.

You have such a presence! Brilliant comedic timing! And also sooooo relatable. How I wish I had a video like this when I was growing up.

1. I think your hair is GORGEOUS. 😍 I think YOU are gorgeous. 2. I’ve been there. I went natural in 2010 (the first time) and the combination of trying to learn my hair while the people closest to me gave me the side eye, while trying to figure it all out can suck the fun out of it. It’s a journey. Once you find the products and techniques your hair likes, it gets better. 3. To see representation online I had to clear my history. Literally. All my browser history on social platforms and start over. Then I chose to consume images, videos, and publications that feed my spirit. I’ve realized that I needed to re-educate myself and seek out what I wanted to see...The algorithm is like a mirror into what you consume and put out....however, I do agree with you, 4c naturals aren’t as plentiful in tv or commercials (in their natural hair state anyway). I have a hair texture similar to yours, so I definitely seek to see women that hold similarities. 4. I’m happy that you keep trying even through your frustrations. *hugs*

@debrak04

4 жыл бұрын

Hey Toya! I'm a subscriber of you lol :)

@LaToyaEbonyHair

4 жыл бұрын

debrak04 Heeeeyy 👋🏾 ❤️❤️❤️

@MT-yx5cu

4 жыл бұрын

@@debrak04 me too ! Hi LaToya👋🏼

@LaToyaEbonyHair

4 жыл бұрын

SD Wind 👋🏾❤️

@brokegirlmagic8744

4 жыл бұрын

Subscribed today. Happy to see 4c content

Most people would ask me why I watch natural hair channels. I have thick blonde wavy hair,,, so literally the opposite of black natural hair. But I adore your channel, because its teaching me things about peoples experiences that I wouldn't have known of. Also your personality is absolutely incredible, I love being on this channel. So I wish everyone the best of luck with their hair journey :)

@iiiacvsixteen7336

4 жыл бұрын

wow

@TheStarPuppy

4 жыл бұрын

I’m so for it!!🙌🏿 once I fully embraced my hair, I started to watch all types of hair content! Hair is just amazing in general 🥰

@lolakleedorfer6502

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheStarPuppy that's amazing! And true, I love hair too, but I respect people w kinky hair especially, you really have to have the patience of a god taking care of your hair. And even if my hair type isnt anywhere near kinky hair, watching natural hair channels showed me ways to take care of my hair in more ways:) so thank you!

@LovelyElizabeth17

4 жыл бұрын

Same☮️❤️

@laurenlocd3180

4 жыл бұрын

iiiacv sixteen wow what ?🙄

Her energy is so purely sweet and radiant, seriously. Refreshing to see people like this actually exist in the world.

Tip: I used to think I had 4c hair (low porosity, fine strands, and always dry so always stiff and fluffy lol) turns out I needed some deep conditioner and watery-er products lol! Sometimes I think people mistype their hair on accident 😂 That was me! The learning process is soooo extensive but worth it 🙌🏽💕

@mylesanderson2861

4 жыл бұрын

I might be 4b my hair doesn't get super dry fast unless its hot outside. Drinking a lot of water helps too.

I felt triggered so I didn't comment until i watched the entire thing. We have been LIED to. We don't feel our hair is good because it is in our American culture that itn is not good hair. We don't know much about it because our previous people permed and altered our texture and didn't teach us HOW to care for our texture. Don't you think it would be NORMAL if we had proud ancestors to teach us how to care for it from a young age? You have PERFECT hair. It is beautiful and thick enough for your small head. I had 4c thick hair with thick stands thick hair for a big head, until an illness took it ALL away from me. Now I have a wig. Many wigs. CHERISH your hair.

@felisha209

4 жыл бұрын

Holla At The KI D yeah I did too. Title is a lot

@casuallym3

4 жыл бұрын

As much , as I loved this video , because a I saw a past version of myself Could relate to her mindset. I agree with everything ur saying as well. Danielle has seems to (from time to time ) to talk.think negatively about her hair on this channel. Even though she puts it in a '' joking tone '' I truly believe that why she has ill feelings about her hair. Your thoughts and feels towards something will always become ur reality towards it. I have the same , exact hair type , denisty and everything as her sp I comeplelety understand where's she's coming form but at the same time , You gotta give ur hair a positive space. Thats the only way to grow it . We hate to hear it cause it's sounds so cliche but there's no running away from it.

@YunaTakoyaki

4 жыл бұрын

Her hair isn’t thick that’s why she struggling

@soraya.e5482

4 жыл бұрын

HappieDae I think she should do styles to compliment her thin hair like mini twists, twist out, wash and go, or fluff to an Afro

@MsDedemc

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I agree that we were lied to about our hair. But I think still to this day, we have these "influencers" in our face with wigs, braids, and looser textures trying to tell us and show us what is "beautiful". That lie that the only beautiful healthy hair is long and thick has so many of us thinking, "Well, damn, I don't have that, so I ain't shit." So, we throw on wigs or braid up, all while neglecting our natural hair in the name of someone's else's beauty standards.

"My hair journey has been more emotionally difficult than physically difficult." I FEEL.

This video made me feel so seen, because I have the EXACT same hair you do. Thank you so much. For sharing this 🖤🖤🖤

"I believe in you." I broke down. You made me realize I've been in a state of self-loathing when it comes to my daughter's hair. Her hair has been like yours since birth, wholly unlike my lifetime relaxed waves. Until I started doing research, I had no clue about hair porosity or LCO. I just did her hair the way I'd seen other moms do hair as I was growing up. Rubber bands, braids, beads, and grease. However, that doesn't work when she's old enough to voice her opinion. She wanted more style options that her hair couldn't hold without heat or a texturizer. I told myself I only used them for her happiness and comfort, but looking back, I also did it so I wouldn't look "bad" or neglectful to others. This video made me realize that I have to love her hair as much as I love her as a person in order to give it the care it needs. I've been diligent in treating my girls as individuals and accommodating their differences for the best personal growth. Now, I need to extend that to their hair. I taught them to treat others how they want to be treated and now I must teach them to do the same with their hair. 2021's mantra: treat your hair how you want to be treated.

Alot of awkward black girls needed ISSA RAE... She's my age, and her representation is even more valuable..

Also it's so interesting how differently our insecurities manifest even with the same hair. Being 4C I've looked at you and wished that my edges were like yours, I have a big forehead so my hair starts way back which is one of the reasons I feel insecure with short 4C hair, but you have a nice and full hairline!!

@TheStarPuppy

4 жыл бұрын

We all have our journeys to accept and love what we’ve got. I know you’ll get there🙌🏿🌸

@patriciazandilencube4597

4 жыл бұрын

Hey! I have the exact same problem. Big forehead, thin edges and no volume in my hair. Twist outs look weirdly empty and... vague lol. I always do curly crochet braids to add some volume. And l hate it when people suggest that l don't like my hair. It's just that l didn't exactly get a winning combination here.

@moniqueloomis9772

Жыл бұрын

@@patriciazandilencube4597 🏆

That “you should love your hair” comment got me. If you’ve never combed your hair in the mirror crying because you don’t feel like you’re enough. Or your hair is “too nappy” or if you feel invisible with your real hair....stop. Even though I’ve embraced my natural hair, I still feel more comfortable in the world in a wig, weave, and braids.

I have straight long thick hair. I'm not here for the tutorials, I'm here for your amazing personality

I think the best advice you gave in this video is “normalize your texture” . I think making sure you follow and engage with people that look like you the more accepting of yourself you’ll become

“I thought I was done with this part... I have to embrace my body, again?!” Hahhaa ohhhh I FELT THAT! so refreshingly honest x

I can truly relate to this all the way. Transitioned in 2014 and my journey has been up and down still is. Nice to know other ladies get all the frustration.

I had to learn to love myself when I started my natural hair journey. The hardest part was having my hair out and people telling me “you should do your hair” “why you come outside looking like THAT?” I had to teach myself how to do my hair and take care of it. I had to learn to love my body. 2 years later my hair hasn’t grown much😂 BUT I’ve learned to love my hair ❣️

“Oh no, i got the hard one.” 😭😭😅 girl I said the same thing. I feel this 115%.

@JadetheGoober

4 жыл бұрын

Amaris Renae getting into natural hairTube in 2008 be like

@chocolatebeauty1688

4 жыл бұрын

I can relate

THIS VIDEO IS SO NECESSARY AND SO WELL DONE. SIS WAS NOT JUST SPEAKING FACTS, SHE WAS PREACHING.

@timespaceperspective701

4 жыл бұрын

she's not only intelligent but also spiritually/psychologically aware, i feel like she should be writing a novel or something, so expressive and interesting

Your hair is beautiful, my husband has 4c hair and each of are children have different hair types, and for each child some parts of their hair is different hair types to another part of their hair 😊and they are all beautiful. It's not easy but I love you saying we need grace, and I'm thankful they all love their hair and are proud of it. x

Girl, you are so beautiful!! My hair type is super straight and super fine, AND, I'm losing it (like it's thinning). Anyway, I'm happy I stumbled on your hair journey, it makes me feel... less alone.... even if we both have very different hair types. .... You're right about having a "beauty standard" for hair. The volume, the thickness, the shine, all that (which I lack)..... Anyway.... I think you're absolutely beautiful and I am on an emotional roller coaster with my hair...... and I feel like you feel that.....anyway. I found this video super positive, so thank you for making it

The one freedom I feel with the social distancing is my hair can just be whatever it is and I can style it however I feel works best that day. I don’t have to worry about the public opinion of others at all right now. I feel this, no two heads of hair are the exactly the same and hair constantly changes. My hair now is not exactly how it was in my 20s or 30s. I have more than one texture of hair. So the self acceptance is indeed a journey.

Lol I felt that stereotype part... I was so triggered! Definitely not the beauty standard 😭😭😭 first went natural and was soo hype till I started doing hairstyles on KZread n it ain’t look like my hair lol! I was like ummmm....😭😭😭😭So glad to have found your channel!

"it has never been just hair" that hit different. thank you for this video.