the real question is.... why is this in my recommended

@friendlyfire3412

4 жыл бұрын

Becouse you like us... Dont have boy-girl friend :(

@urethralinfection8311

4 жыл бұрын

weave snatched they know

@selinanewland8715

4 жыл бұрын

Bc KZread knows

@anhelicaeste695

4 жыл бұрын

weave snatched ...

@PGM82607

4 жыл бұрын

weave snatched lmao

me: “i’m over him.” recommended:

@bromieomiexx7958

4 жыл бұрын

Katherynnicole literally same

@wowdaisy4021

4 жыл бұрын

Yessss

@MikeOxlongOfficial

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@vulehalinh

4 жыл бұрын

Literally me

@gratedcheese

4 жыл бұрын

Katherynnicole hahaha

Old peoples might not know the science behind things, but they have experience. Which is priceless.

@madelynnstibbard3564

26 күн бұрын

It's like indigenous wisdom. They might not share their knowledge through quantitative data, but the things they have passed down for generations are just as rich in truths and insight about the world

Me watching this in quarantine because I’m sad and lonely.

@izzymartino6319

4 жыл бұрын

same sis

@hannahtamzar3921

4 жыл бұрын

Hahaha!!

@morganmurray3399

4 жыл бұрын

we all out here livin the same life ay

@skunktheshrink

4 жыл бұрын

@@riripenguin917 Suffering is subjective. What you are saying is like saying that one has no right to feel pain when they stub their toe while some women have to endure the pain of childbirth.

@coffeecatichino5332

4 жыл бұрын

Riri Penguin Just because you can’t understand it doesn’t mean that it’s invalid. Get over yourself. Somebody always has it worse, so only one person has the right to feel sad, lonely, or negative? Is that supposed to be comforting? I don’t think you’re aware of how harmful that mentality actually is. You have no idea what other people might be going through.

Set speed at 1.25. You'll thank me.

@elizabethsingam6665

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

@sukhmancheema9564

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks

@nicolekinda

5 жыл бұрын

Laura Nguyen thanks 😂😂

@mattathiasmacabees6416

5 жыл бұрын

Laura Nguyen how do you do that... How bout 1.5

@dontjudgehateme3421

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you

Men don't fall in love when they commit. Men commint when they fall in love.

@jigsaw10181

5 жыл бұрын

Billy Bones Brilliant, my friend.

@LibraNYC4ever

5 жыл бұрын

Billy Bones very true.

@semekiuzuio

5 жыл бұрын

The problem is Men can fake to commit.

@dubravkobogovic2174

5 жыл бұрын

She wasn't specific enough I think. Men fall in love when the the women commits to them, when they feel safe and taken care of and they let themselfs give in. Just as a woman has to let herself give in to her feelings

@brrrrr_1

5 жыл бұрын

True and agreed. Commitment is a sure sign of a man's already in love.

watching this because I'm single and sad and lonely.

@Koso07LoL

4 жыл бұрын

same

@shu8798

4 жыл бұрын

same

@ezraarriaga8974

4 жыл бұрын

^ yep 😪

@rosemachi5695

4 жыл бұрын

Me too😢

@modifidious7171

4 жыл бұрын

Same here. I thought this would aid my lack of understanding of relationships and how they work. Now I only see them as a mess of chemicals and timing, further alienating myself from a relationship and understanding of human coupling. I guess Rick from Rick and Morty was right. Love is jus chemicals, devote yourself to science.

I’m only 21 but what she’s saying resonates with my experience so far. Out of the girls I’ve dated, I’ve only fallen in love with one, despite some of the others getting really attached after we got physical. We guys don’t fall in love because you sleep with us or even because you make us wait to sleep with you. We fall in love because we enjoy being around you. Because you’re beautiful, interesting, smart, confident, (or whatever traits the particular guy values) and are someone we want to be a part of our lives. When we feel this way about a girl, we commit. At least, this is what I believe based on my experience so far.

@Traumatised311

Жыл бұрын

So here's s story I am 26 and kinda embarassed to tell that i like a guy who's 19 I don't like any guy who's 26 or even 25 n have many around me of that age But nobody's even half as masculine as he is Feminism is a lie Woman will pick a guy who would die for her over a guy who's just existing Some man said to me Women love men for what they can do for them not what they r And i agree

@bae5872

Жыл бұрын

i didnt know u spoke for all guys, thanks alex 🙏

@VeryAwesomeStuff

Жыл бұрын

@@bae5872 how did you get “spoke for all guys” from “resonates with MY experience”

@VeryAwesomeStuff

Жыл бұрын

@@bae5872 the use of the “we” pronoun is purely stylistic

@bae5872

Жыл бұрын

@@VeryAwesomeStuff YOURE THE ONE WHO SAID "WE GUYS" BRUH 😭

i love how she took such a complicated subject and made it so easy to understand

@gboard17

2 жыл бұрын

I'm trying to be a romance song writer. Hope you can enjoy a song.

@ahlamnasr9317

7 ай бұрын

​@@gboard17ؤ.. ش. كك. عغ @.

@MohammadKakora-fr1es

6 ай бұрын

eltern zeit

So should I inject some of that to my crush

@dimincamdirtokvlogs1497

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂 o pls iam dead now 😂😂

@Luxiferah

5 жыл бұрын

Unethical but understandable👏🏼 😂

@mrs.847

5 жыл бұрын

Yes see if he stays.

@memoryrinehart4452

5 жыл бұрын

Vas so pressin.

@infinite2382

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Grandma is so right. Never let a guy touch you until he says he loves you and means it. Let the guy develop a genuine interest and an strong emotional attachment and commitment to you before getting physical.

@julyol119

2 жыл бұрын

Tell that to my borderline ex. He was very much convinced he loved me and expressed that very convincingly. But really dude just needed someone to reassure him constantly and have someone to be insecure about.

@myparceltape1169

2 жыл бұрын

@@julyol119 I'm with you.

@morganamarianana3088

2 жыл бұрын

if it's only for personal gain and not some ridiculous morality nonsense then you're right

@frankiegunnz8066

2 жыл бұрын

F**k that 💩. Bad enough woman got all the laws on their side now ya want us to be "In love" 1st.... Naaaa!

@homeprincess142

Жыл бұрын

I am 18 ... n now I get it why ur grandma said this.,... I shud ve never let him touch me.... coz it's me at the end that fell in love with him n still can't get over him..... though he's not in love with me I guess......

youtube knows that i cried today over the person i fell in love with...

@VikeingBlade

4 жыл бұрын

how do you feel now?

@joedames7432

4 жыл бұрын

Me too

@cameroncolly1717

4 жыл бұрын

You slept with them too soon

@nandinithakur191

3 жыл бұрын

Awwww❤️

@nandinithakur191

3 жыл бұрын

Are u alrighty hope u r

She did a lot of work researching and she's good in a scientific sense. In addition I LOVE her presentation style. But as she says herself, all we really needed was her grandmother;)

@YUANXIAOXIAOA0090594

7 жыл бұрын

J JH BAHAHAHA grandmother should actually give a speech here

@SadeLife-uj5lw

6 жыл бұрын

There are too many wonders about the human brain. Personally I've been in a situation where I had to choose between 2 blokes who were getting close to me. Shortly after a stressed period to decide which one I' ll let into my life, I had a dream about a series of consequences on my life if I marry the one I truly love, which means my subconscious has probably done some analysis to let me decide, yet that feeling of (love) for him still lingers with no hope of going soon.

@GM-ct1su

6 жыл бұрын

Sade life that's cuz you're fickle and don't know what you want.

@naftalimwaura3673

6 жыл бұрын

Nice Video! Forgive me for chiming in, I would love your thoughts. Have you researched - Saankramer Love Trick System (should be on google have a look)? It is a great one of a kind product for falling in love with an amazing partner minus the normal expense. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my old buddy Taylor after many years got cool results with it.

@FoodNPlacesSF

6 жыл бұрын

Sade Life1015 Which one you pick?

I wonder how this work with cheaters.

@mrs.847

5 жыл бұрын

Nothing works with cheaters.

@muniraal-assaf6730

5 жыл бұрын

they are properly goin in too fast or just lying to their self and others that they are on something

@aman1245singh

4 жыл бұрын

Hormonal imbalances, haywire 😁

@mimmy131100

4 жыл бұрын

If someone cheats on you he doesn't love you completely or at all because he didn't really commit

@ReasonAboveEverything

4 жыл бұрын

Despina Georgiadou Despina Georgiadou Someone who cheats cheats because the feeling of being in love has ended. No more dopamine for them. problem is that that feeling will always end. They try to relive something that is not permanent.

Me: has a crush My science addicted brain: WHY IS THIS HAPPENING, I NEED YO KNOWWW

@MikhaelAhava

4 жыл бұрын

Hmm…

You end up learning, you can sleep with them the first day, or wait 3 months- regardless, if he wants to be with you, he will be with you. I waited 2 months to sleep with someone, I wanted to be committed- we broke up a week later lol

@user-jc8lz9fu1u

4 жыл бұрын

Brigette Nicole I definitely agree. From experience first hand. It doesn’t matter when you sleep with any one.

@VaivaPaula95

4 жыл бұрын

And I slept with my bf on our third date and we’re together 1.5 years later. Lol

@faveyess4471

4 жыл бұрын

Brigette Nicole can relate...

@leenoorhazellepcha3241

4 жыл бұрын

Thankyou girls ❤️ just saying these comments giving another side of the reality also makes me feel good 😅 Esp the fact that,” if Anyone wants to be with you, they eventually will somehow”

@Alice45894

4 жыл бұрын

I agree, if you're right for each other and the connection is there it won't matter how long you wait. Pfff all these people saying you should wait till marriage like they know best...

Don't know how I got here but, it's Saturday night, I'm a dude, single as F, and I need to shower bad... But the joke is on you society, the joke is on you... One of these days I'm gonna get my act together. Watch out ladies.

@rubyrootless7324

6 жыл бұрын

Santa Claus Good luck Santa.

@persassybedammed

6 жыл бұрын

get dem girls

@gretchennirvana

6 жыл бұрын

Santa Claus may you keep on laughing !!!

@MrNight-dg1ug

6 жыл бұрын

Santa Claus Ho' Ho' Ho'!

@peachu-chan2848

6 жыл бұрын

😂

Finally I found a Ted talk really interesting and clear !

@sophie4877

7 жыл бұрын

Pasi there are so many that come under that description though!

@alfreddadler8257

7 жыл бұрын

khazar made zionism cult system in colony europe with cia hypnosis media.

@mikesimmons852

6 жыл бұрын

I cringed watching her fumble for words

@T0mateMozarella

5 жыл бұрын

Watch esther perrel

@alexa4117

4 жыл бұрын

Hypnose you should watch the one I did it’s just as interesting ;)

I love this her talk because she doesn't only explain what happens, she also explained how they got to find the data.... it's important for understanding

KZread and I need to have a chat abt these recommendations lately...

Oxytocin got me f'd up.

@monasiamack5806

6 жыл бұрын

Lmfaoo

@responder2796

3 жыл бұрын

great comment

@preciousbees5721

2 жыл бұрын

Can’t take it back once it’s been set in motion

It seems like there is no one in the room

@emilian7052

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah lol

@teodora0131

4 жыл бұрын

There is

To fall in love you MAKE CHOICES!! You can feel attraction (physical attraction) but then you can decide to nurture it or ignore it. If you nurture the attraction by starting to FLIRT, WRITE MESSAGES, CONFIDE IN THIS PERSON, START TO ATTEND THE OTHER PERSON'S MESSAGES, START TO DREAM ABOUT SPENDING MORE TIME WITH THIS PERSON, WELL ALL THESE CHOICES will make you fall in love. Was it evitable? Yes, it was!! So it is never destiny that made you fall in love. You chased each other because of the CHOICES YOU MADE.

@brooklynpark333

4 ай бұрын

120% agree

No one: KZread: Here watch this after 4 years it was released

@sweetf3311

4 жыл бұрын

Despoina Krt cos everyone’s on lockdown and bonding

@morganmurray3399

4 жыл бұрын

Despoina Krt frfr

@embermbee756

3 жыл бұрын

Frfr

@forever12gems55

3 ай бұрын

7 Yr....

Your grandmother's really brilliant

@satyajeetshira8189

7 жыл бұрын

marylinda onyeasi not really. ppl go the extent of committing to have sex these days. thus we have at times single mothers.

@es7691

7 жыл бұрын

Satyajeet Shira that's when a man says whatever the woman wants to hear to get her into bed.

@satyajeetshira8189

7 жыл бұрын

Yea you're beautiful. 😂

@semekiuzuio

5 жыл бұрын

Lol yes. It is hard to decipher a man with a poker face.

@gabraliehannah3986

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah brilliant Granny

Great proof of how today's hook-up culture is influencing relationships. People often forget that falling in love is also a biological process. We go from romance to romance without truly ever committing ourselves to anyone. And then we wonder why so many people are single and lonely...

@DuyThangPro

2 жыл бұрын

Briliant ...

@AussieGirl235

Жыл бұрын

What makes you think “everyone” wants to fall in love or that everyone who’s single is “lonely” 🤦🏻‍♀️. Ugh people like you are unbearable

Who needs love when you can eat an entire bag of shredded cheese. Amirite fellas?

@Munsterkitteh

4 жыл бұрын

Bird Bird that just reminded me of my ex thanks

@coolgirl-hv7uc

4 жыл бұрын

Get help

@juanjaviermartinez-maravil9365

4 жыл бұрын

No sob

@maximusmilazzo5760

4 жыл бұрын

Yea... and play as many video games as u want

@RosemaryTurner2002

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly

Falling in love to the right person is the best feeling ever. That's why it is important to find one!

@angeljohn9680

Жыл бұрын

It;s easy to say that but never easy to find one lol

@ChiefJeyEf

Жыл бұрын

@@angeljohn9680 So true. Sadly.

@tiararoxeanne1318

Жыл бұрын

You mean if your love is reciprocated? But I guess it is one of the sign of the "right person"? That person love you back.

@angeljohn9680

Жыл бұрын

@@tiararoxeanne1318 it's kinda a 50% on that even if that person likes you back, that doesn't mean they are the exact right person for you yk

@mxrislyna

7 ай бұрын

right. love is complicated@@angeljohn9680

Take a shot every time she says ‘but there’s a catch’

Date and see if you are right for each other. If you sleep with a man too soon, you might end up with the wrong man or stay with the wrong man just because of oxytocin.

@Lindathemightywitch

6 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@joydot7620

6 жыл бұрын

yup

@BinhNguyen-kw8zm

5 жыл бұрын

if just kiss too early, is it okay?

@vintce6019

4 жыл бұрын

Oxytocin and Dopamine can either be our ally or enemy huh

@e.hadzhimincheva5405

4 жыл бұрын

Shez Shez Here is one amazing comment! You are good.

it takes two people to sleep with someone so if women are too quick to get to bed with someone that also means men are quick also.

@synchropandagirl

4 жыл бұрын

yeah but men dont get attached that way and women usually do. I mean do what you want but dont complain or be upset when the guy doesnt feel the same as you.

@uh2652

4 жыл бұрын

Mariah M i’m not upset lmao but just cuz they don’t get attached doesn’t mean they aren’t quick to get into bed

@harmonyfaith2342

4 жыл бұрын

I agree men can be quick to get into bed but from what she said, the hormones show that guys arent actually that interested in a girl when they do that because their testosterone is high and that blocks the oxytocin. And if they don't sleep with the girl then and become committed because he fell in love then his testosterone is low and the oxytocin is more in affect

@everyday9861

4 жыл бұрын

Stop comparing yourselves to men we women will end up crying in the end and not the men just learn and obey thats all

@everyday9861

4 жыл бұрын

@Ramiz Ali please meaning of MGTOW

the quote "I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once." has been derived by watching this

@zara_went_aesthetic1612

2 жыл бұрын

hard to not fall in love with Augustus Waters 😭

How about those suffering from anxiety/depression?? Can they ever love 100%...can they commit? How is love like for those suffering from either

@Ali-yy5bc

6 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression when I was 14, yet I found my soulmate the same year (friends at the time) 6 years later, we're still together and planned to get married once Im out of college

@MrNight-dg1ug

6 жыл бұрын

Alicia S. Damn

@anastazjamachl5902

6 жыл бұрын

Those are usually caused by dopamine imbalance, so it might make it a little harder but doesn't technically affect the other neurotransmitters that allow love to happen. You lose that excited butterflies feeling, but you can still love and commit in most cases.

@haleyriker9726

6 жыл бұрын

I have anxiety and depression. It was surprisingly easy once I found the right person. Your brain might be wired differently but you're not defective. You're perfectly capable of leading the kind of life you want. The trick is to know yourself and recognize that what works for you might not be what works for everyone else.

@zf5214

6 жыл бұрын

Haley Riker thank you for writing that :')

cortisol levels increasing makes a lot of sense because falling in love made me reach levels of insecurity, jealously, and rumination i had never reached before

@gboard17

2 жыл бұрын

I'm a song writer. Hopefully people can find some fulfillment in one of my songs.

@asmitaghorai7332

Ай бұрын

lmao, THIS!

We are so preoccupied with falling in love, being in love, having a soul mate that we do not question whether that person is really good for us and are we good for them. That is why we have a high divorce rate.

this video was great for my adhd. she got to the point every single time and was clear and concise. Thank you, Dawn.

According to Shakespeare? Love is a form of temporary madness!

@anthonytokar3961

5 жыл бұрын

It is.

@MikhaelAhava

4 жыл бұрын

It is.

@thee12th

4 жыл бұрын

It is.

@harrywang6792

4 жыл бұрын

It is.

@crunchyleaf5656

4 жыл бұрын

It is.

Did the study account for age? Testosterone levels drop with age too, and I can't imagine the average age of single men to be the same as the average age of married.

@flawsandfreaks2902

7 жыл бұрын

James Li I'm sure it did because not all single men are in their twenties and not all married or committed men are in their 30-40 and up

@syburd

7 жыл бұрын

The United States Air Force has an age-cap for participants. Somewhere from 17 years old to early/mid 30s, respectfully. The test was based only on this age group, I believe.

@ladybubble82

6 жыл бұрын

James Li I don't want to sound creepy but... you are so handsome!! 🤣🤣

@smoggy_surmises

5 жыл бұрын

I'm sure yes! Harvard knows what they're doing when it comes to these studies right, and controlling other variables in an experiment is basic procedure that even 5 year olds know.

@muhammadumair-si9qp

4 жыл бұрын

James Li well the level of hormones is relative.i mean there is a ratio like testosterone estrogen ratio in men and all that.hope it clears things

I loved him before we met. I felt his energy, I saw him in dreams. The feeling was mutual upon “meeting” in person. Don’t hold back on being physical to gain commitment. Love comes from a much deeper place, with a deeper purpose. Start with Self Love and be true to your calling if you want long lasting relationships (they are just reflections of you). ♥️

@ayahaidar7613

3 жыл бұрын

True, how long have you guys been together

@chloea2975

2 жыл бұрын

Couldn’t agree more. Getting physical while also being self-aware is probably the best way to not only protect yourself from any future disappointment, but to also enjoy the moment with your partner to the fullest!

This is a wonderful survey of so many people from different cultures, all ages over a long period of time which has made it fascinating and stimulating. What makes it even better is when people return weeks months or even years later updating their experiences and getting support for their growth or disappointment.

It’s 1am wtf am I doing here and why am I still up? I need to get my life together.

@alexmitzy

5 жыл бұрын

1 am is not late

@jumung2012

4 жыл бұрын

But here’s the catch

This scientific study proves that the rule in the Bible of only having sex after marriage, which is commitment, makes a lot of sense with our biological tendencies.

@susan6081

7 жыл бұрын

Yea those child brides are great experts on the intricacies of love.

@janeydoe3465

7 жыл бұрын

give an example of a BIBLICAL child marriage. Please if you don't believe in a religion, its your choice. But spewing lies and making baseless allegations against someone else's faith and belief is just preposterous. Especially when you can't even be bothered to study the said belief.

@susan6081

7 жыл бұрын

Google it.

@marelleclejon6694

7 жыл бұрын

I wasn't saying the children in the Bible were good at making marriage laws, or any laws whatsoever, I meant that God is just and made science to fit with his laws.

@jesusislord9755

7 жыл бұрын

Marellec Lejon Yes I would also like to point out that marriages that have Jesus Christ as the center of their marriage are a lot less likely to result in a divorce than marriages that do not have Jesus at the center of their lives. When someone receives salvation, God will supernaturally make two people fall in love with each other, two people who were truly meant to be with each other. I've heard of Christian married couples still feeling in love with each other even after being with each other for tons and tons of years. That's because their marriage is blessed by God because it's a God ordained marriage.

From my experience and what I heard from a lot of people throughout my life, the grandmas advice is 100% spot on.

Each person is not blessed to have a wise person in his/her life but as a workaround they have the oppurtunity to hear this wonderful and wise Ted talk.I wish I had known this much before.

I am afraid of falling in love because I can't think properly. I always do the effort for the relationship to work even if I didn't get the love I deserved. Why do we always neglect all the bad signs but rather only see the good in him ? I'm still glad it happened to me because it gaves me the greatest lesson in life.

@davidkoormann5262

Жыл бұрын

When you fall in love you get kind of addicted to a person. Dopamine levels rise as Dawn Mascara said in her talk. At the same time a part of your brain responsible for critical thinking lowers in activity, similarly to when you are drunk, which is also probably the reason why we have the phrase “drunk on love”. On top of that the threshold at which Dopamine gets released is much lower when in love causing you to build a romanticized image people you love and your surroundings when in love. In short our brain loves to love and like any addiction, we neglect or ignore the bad side of the addiction when having what we’re addicted to, like a loved one. I hope this helped.

@EchelonPandora

Жыл бұрын

It might be limerence

@chiarajackson97

Жыл бұрын

Same here!

@stregalilith

Жыл бұрын

@@davidkoormann5262 omg you’ve just described the entire decade of my 20s! 😂

@caitlinhiscock5317

4 ай бұрын

The best way I’ve found to avoid being treated in a way that is not the best is setting boundaries (even ahead of the relationship) and sticking to them even when you begin the relationship. After commitment or some predetermined amount of time, you can re-establish what your boundaries need to look like but in the beginning it really helps to see if someone can respect you right off the bat

THE T IS CROOKED, I CAN'T HANDLE THIS

@elianagrant8456

6 жыл бұрын

Lmao i thought i was the only one that noticed

@sarac9273

6 жыл бұрын

LOL

@DaKing-io9be

5 жыл бұрын

NO WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT?!?! NOW I CANNOT UNSEE IT

@evearcana2392

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂

@Relaxinghypnoasmr

4 жыл бұрын

I'm dead 😂😂😂 type a's watching Ted talks

Falling in love is easy and natural. We need a way to come out of this chemical state when love doesn't work. If there were a pill or hundred for that, a lot of pain could be saved.

Wait I'm so sad they ruined the relationship between those little rodents 🥺

@adithistar2189

2 жыл бұрын

OMG yeah😆🤣

@3sixgod36

2 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂💀

@guitarsoundsaround

21 күн бұрын

Ha, whenever people ask what spirit animal they are, or what animal they’d be if they were reincarnated. I didn’t want to be an eagle, 🦅 tiger 🐅 or bear 🐻 My only answer is a Canada goose - simply because they mate for life!!! Adding adorable prairie rodents to my list from here on.

It's amazing how we undermine the wisdom of our foreparents. Education today is all about getting a job where traditionally education meant the understanding of life and the acquisitional life-skills

Thats really interesting. But it also reflects my experience. If you go have sex with a girl to early it can lead to a drop of interest, while her increases fast. Sometimes in a speed where you feel that you can´t follow and get afraid by the plans she is already doing. But I learned from this mistakes. As said in the video take your time. Just keep dating for a while until you know that you love her. It´s an inherent advice not only for girls but man too if they want to stay happy with the girl. It gives you time to find out more about her and let the freshness of the first impressions sink in and really evaluate her character.

@OneOfUs0000

6 жыл бұрын

+Luke Jameson He's lying, Jinx is not a Jedi.

@jw2223

5 жыл бұрын

You're losing interest in women after you sleep together immediately because you don't see her as a nuanced true human being with different interests, values, emotions, ect... but rather an object or a prize, something to "win"... and similarly the women you chose are equally vapid to commit to you immediately, which likely means they are objectifying you in a different sort of way - maybe a paycheck, emotional validation, something to fill their loneliness....

So you mean...I could stop myself from falling in love by blocking these chemicals??????????? Sign me upp

@o_0264

3 жыл бұрын

I am about to block my oxytocin

@gboard17

2 жыл бұрын

I'm a song writer. Hopefully you can find some happiness in a song.

My boyfriend always says “ I just knew when I saw you smiling and when my heart skipped a beat“ ...

Long live her grandmother, her facts contributed to unravel the science of love!!

"Explenation point"

@nv8949

6 жыл бұрын

What’s wrong with that

@renee6559

6 жыл бұрын

its called an exclamation point

@RobJD

6 жыл бұрын

"Anadotal"

@senantiasa

5 жыл бұрын

I know she talks weird.... but here's the catch... it makes a lot of sense

Wow I am completely mind blown, this has solved all of my questions , great ted talk!

This seems true. I dated a guy a few months ago and in the beginning he was completely in love with me and he was very enthusiastic. He really seemed to be in love. But then because I was so in love I couldn´t resist to sleep with him after a very short time. And after like a month he told me he is very sorry but he just didn´t fall in love even though he was so enthusiastic in the beginning and he really thought he was in love. He seemed very confused with himself. He was super honest with me. While I wasn´t so sure about my feelings until we slept together it seemed that he started not being sure after we slept together. It seems like I just slept too early with him we should have built a deeper emotional connection. I will never do that again when I´m really interested in a guy. I will always wait from now on. But it´s so hard to wait at least for me when I´m strongly attracted to a guy I can´t contain myself.

@Iookeyman

7 ай бұрын

Maybe we should wait until a guy show his commitment or want to make a commitment with us.

Yes,when a man give you promise it means he falls in love with u.but nowadays man always lies about what they say

@spearmint4093

7 жыл бұрын

yeah so how do i know its for real

@renehenriksen1735

7 жыл бұрын

Yilia Li >>> Both genders do.

@jazminbaltierrra4327

7 жыл бұрын

>>>> there are more than two genders. >>>> actually, gender is a cultural/ social construct. Biological sex is another thing, but there's also more than 2.

@yogita7545

7 жыл бұрын

that was all i was thinking too....because people nowadays just lie for sex...dont they?!

@milygonzalezmora8861

7 жыл бұрын

i guess you have to wait for him to really commit instead of falling for promises

Such an interesting video. So the testosterone drop when men commit explains why you typically see that the population of commited men look less fit and older, less attractive in general. Yes it may be they have less time, less incentive to attract. But it is also a hormonal fight essentially

@BeaveHolio

6 жыл бұрын

It probably also happens so they can bond with their children.

@tijojose7966

6 жыл бұрын

Well that sucks for men. It means that when we’re finally ready to commit, we won’t be attractive enough to get married. 😱

@whatisinaname4313

6 жыл бұрын

so if a married man is still fit and doing the stuff that single people do then is he trying to attract some chicks with out the knowledge of his wife?

@chickensandwich8808

5 жыл бұрын

Well, thats not quite right. The drop in testosterone is only momentary where men who look less fit in the context you are describing is usually attributed to many factors both mental and physical. Though there is truth in the hormonal fight, especially with respect to imbalance, which seems to be more prevalent in our modern times. Perhaps its a mix of it becoming more understood as well as modern society generating these imbalances at a greater rate. Also our life expectancies are longer and thus this could be something that effects the averages that we base our statistics by.

@coltonlehnen6803

5 жыл бұрын

Im sure the drop isn’t so significant to affect performance because otherwise you wouldn’t see so many boxers and other athletes married

Science can't defeat 95 yrs of experience, maybe grandmother didn't know about all those terminologies but she knew the facts behind it

It’s a complementary spiritual energy vibration between two souls

This is one of the most beautiful Ted Talks I’ve ever seen! Thank you so much!

Wonderful video. Such an intelligent & well spoken individual ❤️ Great message.. your grandmother is simply a genius!

9 days to valentine’s and you see this in your recommended, interesting right? 😂

There are so many correlations happening in my mind throughout the talk between what she is saying and feelings I have in various life experiences. I'm happy I found this. Sad that I have to lose my test levels if I want to successfully raise kids tho...

@sakuranovaryan9261

2 жыл бұрын

That is a l for men ig..

@VeryAwesomeStuff

Жыл бұрын

Probably worth the sacrifice, rather have low T and a loving family than high T and forever alone

@stregalilith

Жыл бұрын

Yes❤what Alex said. And by the time you’re old enough to afford a family you’re T levels will gently and naturally decline…and you’ll welcome the peace and comfort and joy❤

Ur grandmother is truly brilliant. I wish I had come across this talk of urs long back.

I knew it! therefore i will never be friends with benefits or having sex again before the guy commits - the problem is - HOW DO I KNOW HE COMITTED? without him saying it out loud???

@asookhoo4907

7 жыл бұрын

JE ENN you'll know, don't worry. Also, you'd be able to tell by the way he looks at you and how much time he wants to spend with you. Don't rush love, it's a beautiful thing :)

@spearmint4093

7 жыл бұрын

evil eddy no i havnet

@spearmint4093

7 жыл бұрын

evil eddy stupid comment by you

@jaygee514

7 жыл бұрын

I think you have to have a talk with him about it beforehand. A KZread comment can only fit so much, so I will just point you in the direction of Captain Awkward eho has some excellent advice on many things. Search the archives. Good luck with things. As Captain Awkward says, "Use your words."

@spearmint4093

7 жыл бұрын

Faith Ryan Thank you for this comment. i thought and felt exactly the same way. its sad how people waste their life hating strangers on internet... they should rather try to improve their own lifes or the people they know instead of trying to bully. i almost laughed with sarcasm cause it was so silly he even commented in that way.

I was married for 6 years. I’m 29 now. I thought I was IN love. Maybe with the abuse it was clouded I don’t know. But with my now boyfriend, I feel like I’m making love, we stare in each other’s eyes, in each other’s souls, I don’t want to be far from him when he’s around me …. I feel so so so in love. I’m experiencing being in love for this first time. My ex was my first and I’m loyal and I thought ok this is the next step. Now that I know what it’s like to be in love I will never go back !

She nailed it and bravo grandma . We needed this .

I'm more ready to receive this information, than the first time I listened to this video. She's wise.

Broke up yesterday and found this in recommendations today.

To all the lovely ladies, do not stay with a man who does not commit. Was with someone for 9 years who not once said I love you or wanted any commitment but lied about it. To the men who are deciding, do not drag a woman you care about into that either. She will possibly resent you.

This is why I love science, give's me facts of every detail🤗🤗

YOU GO GRANDMA, MY GRANDMOTHER SAID THE SAME THING TO ME IN MY 20'S . I ALWAYS TAKE MY TIME IN RELATIONSHIPS.

I don't even know why this recommend to me but it was the best explanation since I heard alot of stories and sciences here! And also her granny is genius without even studying science lol😁i loved the presentation thank you ❤

This is entirely true! I have never seen anyone explain it so perfectly. Well done!

"Falling in LOVE" is a deceptive expression, which makes the understanding difficult of what "love" really is. This video is if fact all about ATTACHMENT or creating a BOND between individuals. True love, on the other hand, is the thoughts and deeds of benevolence in different forms. Love is healing, constructive and creative energy, coming from one source and directed to another. So you can add true love in varying amounts to a relationship, or not at all. It all depends on the both partners' will and capacity to give or show benevolence - and to receive it as well. If you've grown up being neglected of care, attention and acceptance, you'll probably have difficulties in showing love, or even to understand what love actually means. That's when you'll have to learn to love yourself to begin with, to appreciate the wonderful being you are born to be. To understand and to accept - to really feel - that you are as special and important as anyone else born to this planet. This is the way you learn to appreciate other people, too. I've written this on other videos on the tube, as well, but as it is so important I really want to bring forth and to emphasize this information.

@stregalilith

Жыл бұрын

Martin you are so right! Keep posting your wisdom, people need to hear it!

@aspirantchoudhary9332

3 ай бұрын

You did more healing than my therapist Thank you @martinwest2538

@martinwest2538

3 ай бұрын

❤‍🩹❤@@aspirantchoudhary9332

There's a reason why teenagers seem so madly in love.

@marialuisaaguadogaxiola8749

3 жыл бұрын

Because our hormones are either sooo high or so down

"Love is the state in which man sees things most of all as they are 'not'. The illusion-creating force is there at its height, likewise the sweetening and 'transforming' force. One endures more when in love than one otherwise would, one tolerates everything..." - FWN

This is some eye opening crucial research that is useful in making wise relationship decisions. Applaudable.. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Love is scary isn't it? You never know when it happens and when you fall in love, that person better catch you or else you'll break.

@karinaiwanova5655

Жыл бұрын

The most accurate definition of this thAng called love...

@guitarsoundsaround

21 күн бұрын

And shattered heart is worse than broken bones. The falling part is scary indeed. But it’s like those butterflies inside that give you a boost too! 🦋

Woow mind blown, great talk everyone needs to watch this

Now I think love is even more complicated then I used to think 😌.

I need the how to “unfailing” in love 🙃

@prathameshpawar1912

2 жыл бұрын

YOU FALL FOR EVERYBODY BECAUSE YOU MIGHT BE INSECURE ABOUT SOMETHING AND FIX IT YOU THEN YOU WILL LOVE YOURSELF AND TRULY LOVE SIMEONE ELSE

@Jennifer-di4nl

2 жыл бұрын

Time is the only cure

@us-zr1rh

2 жыл бұрын

Get an injection to block oxytocin as the same way they did to that male vole by injecting him an antagonist to lose the feeling of love ( that men get due to the formation of vasopressin).......:)

@Jennifer-di4nl

2 жыл бұрын

@@us-zr1rh where do I find this injection. Local pharmacy? Lol bet more people die of a broken heart than COVID

@gboard17

2 жыл бұрын

I'm a romance song writer. Hopefully you can find some happiness in a song.

when you think about this deeply you will realise this makes no sense

@samanthataylor1761

4 жыл бұрын

Lav explain.

@landunallmighty

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@cintiazoe9725

4 жыл бұрын

but why?

@Michael.De.Santa_3006

4 жыл бұрын

True. I don't know about the girls. But for guys, this is just bs

@dodododododododo8216

4 жыл бұрын

@@Michael.De.Santa_3006 why? Explain your point of view please

Judging from my experiences with men and love, I’d say this is pretty accurate in the real world

I've apparently been abiding by your granny's advice without realizing it! Also, the prairie voles are ADORABLE!!!

This really opened my mind to the science behind love

This was really usefull information. Would love to know more researches about it.

My major question is: what is the definition of commitment? Does commitment mean being exclusive aka a committed relationship, or does it mean being engaged? Marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper....a legal contract. A couple doesn't have to love each other or even like each other in order to get married or to commit. It is not physical or legal commitment, but emotional commitment that causes love to happen. The reason for commitment is the cause of love, not the act of committing.

@fatmaghorbel6579

6 жыл бұрын

exactly, I didn't undersatnd what commitment means? I want a simple meaning please....

@jot.5502

5 жыл бұрын

she meant emotional commitment obviously. as in choosing to want to be with that person alone. Which is why it didnt matter if they were married or just in a committed non-marital relationship. The testosterone levels were the same.

@CatarinaMaia

4 жыл бұрын

I think commitment doesn't necessarily mean exclusiveness.

@VeryAwesomeStuff

Жыл бұрын

It’s committing to make another person a part of your life, whether that means marriage or just a committed relationship, monogamous or otherwise. At least that’s how I understand it

@guitarsoundsaround

21 күн бұрын

I agree. *Emotional commitment is the most beautiful seal of love.* *I honestly would much rather wait until the timing is right.* *Falling in love is an incredible and amazing feeling! And it’s fun. Enjoy those moments and embrace them. I personally cherish that part.* *I truly and honestly do not want the one I’m falling in love with ~ to feel rushed in any way, nor feel pressured into marriage.*

🙋🏿I need to ask granny more questions

Thank you this was very helpful and informative 👍👍

This is how, in my 16 years of live, I learnt a lot by listening my grandmother and her stories.

@coolhotNerd03

Жыл бұрын

Lol same

@isla_vida11

5 ай бұрын

Both of my grandparents died sadly .. It would be nice listening to them

amazing video. i am fascinated with the neural activity in our brain and how this is the main source to impact, and control our behaviors. interesting enough is the fact that we possess more than 100 chemicals in our brain that impact our behavior but only three neurotransmitters are responsible for the state of being in love. Congrats to the speaker for this research.

@ivanperez3378

5 жыл бұрын

And what are the big 3 please?

@guitarsoundsaround

21 күн бұрын

@@ivanperez3378 It’s called the Love chemical.

Love is not understood, but felt. Interesting video!

I love the way you explained this xx

Absolutely loved this video. Thank you so much for this valuable information Dawn. Lots of love from an Australian 😀🇦🇺

Its a feeling like nothing you ever felt before, it’s beautiful ❤️

@Bulltardwin

5 жыл бұрын

Best drug I've ever had

How coll and funny! Loved! This now is my favory ted talk!

Bless your beautiful and wise grandmother! Happy thanksgiving!

This is really a lesson. And I also always think of what my gynecologist said, “abstain” (because I’m still young and should be focusing on self and study). Please take care of your sacred heart. It’s hard when you fall on love with a man after sleeping with him because it feel like you are not allowed to feel heart broken because he’s not you boyfriend.