Right now, few minutes ago I was about to enter in an spiral of negative thoughts and emotions and feeling sorry about myself, the abilities I lack, the places I couldn’t visit this year and so on~ I was about to literally laid down and cry and this video popped up. Now I’m crying because I’m thankful to you 😭 I’ll have lunch now and workout, and continue planning for 2024 🏋🏻‍♀️ Thank you so much

@shanediegojansen3169

5 ай бұрын

@fabiannysrondon the best teacher in life is your own experience non of us know ourselves until we fail. Keep up the consistency of outperforming yourself even in the smallest of activities.

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

Wow! Good on you Fabian

@vcat417

5 ай бұрын

I think this is the time to tell yourself it was time learn something. As you can see for yourself it’s just the matter of perspective. P. S. What happens to you doesn’t define you , how you react to that does…

@smartfreelancer-dp2qd

5 ай бұрын

​@@thefutur hi. I have a question. I listen to almost all episodes of your podcast and I still dont have the answer to my question. What should we do about ai. At some point you said we gotta expand our expertise and be a good writer/ designer who can help brand raise awareness and just working on one specifix skill might not work anymore (ep 215) and you also mentioned if we are working in an industry that is possible to be wiped out by AI we have to change...but change how? To what industry? Even the programmers themselves are gonna get replaced by AI someday so even the computer science is not safe anymore...what should we do? Thx

@whereztheliepodcast1318

4 ай бұрын

Rooting for you! You got this!

36:01 D - Don't React A - Aware (Become become aware of your emotional state, the feeling) P - Pause (before you do anything else, pause and take a breath) P - Ponder (Ponder what options are available to you) E - Emotions (Choose the emotional state that works best for you that serves you in a path towards empowerment and growth) R - Respond (Decide how you want to respond)

@thefutur

4 ай бұрын

That’s it

@SUPRSPRDR

Ай бұрын

Let's create a better start to that list than 'Don't'. Highlight the behaviour you want to move towards, not the behaviour you want to move away from.

@jswizzlerizz

15 күн бұрын

​@@SUPRSPRDR how about D -disengage ?

18:21 | The 6 Steps are: (1) Decide, (2) Awareness, (3) Pause, (4) Pivot, (5) Execute, (6) Rewire. Hope it helps.

I just made my son cry before I put him to bed. It was a long day of grumpy disrespect from both of us. One of those nights where I wonder if I am crazy to keep building my business as a single mom. Then I watched this again for the 3rd time. Feeling hopeful for the last hour of my night because I choose to be. The power of choice is essential in my consulting work. I just need to be reminded by internet strangers like Chris.

@MrgoldenRose

Ай бұрын

You got this❤

@unschooling4creators

Ай бұрын

Thank you! Appreciate you

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🧐 *Embracing Change and Growth* - Exploring the reluctance to change despite dissatisfaction with one's current state. - The importance of letting go of an old identity to adopt a new, more aligned one. - Introducing the video's theme: mindset and intentionality in life. 01:21 🌍 *Perception and Emotional Influence* - The impact of emotional stateon how we perceive and interpret objective truths. - Example of interpreting a parking ticket scenario differently based on emotional state. - Emphasizing the subjective lens through which we view objective events. 03:12 🔄 *Transitioning to a Higher Self* - The importance of observing without judgment for personal growth. - How our emotional states can skew our perception and interpretation of events. - Anecdotes illustrating how a change in emotional state can alter perception. 05:05 🤔 *The Impact of Emotional State on Communication* - Discussing the influence of emotional states on how advice is received. - The difference in interpretation of the same advice based on one's emotional state. - Highlighting the role of self-esteem and confidence in perception. 07:09 🔄 *Platinum Rule over Golden Rule* - The Platinum Rule: treating people how they want to be treated. - Understanding and respecting others' preferences in communication and support. - The significance of adapting to others' needs for effective communication. 09:40 🧠 *Choosing Your Emotional Lens* - The choice between viewing the world through a negative or positive lens. - How this choice influences our interpretation of events and interactions. - The impact of gratitude and abundance mindset on personal perception. 11:54 🌱 *Practices for Positive Perspective* - Strategies for adopting a mindset of gratitude and abundance. - The importance of breaking negative thought patterns and establishing new pathways. - The role of meditation in achieving self-awareness and emotional control. 15:00 🗣️ *Nonviolent Communication and Self-Talk* - The significance of practicing nonviolent language with others and oneself. - How our internal dialogue reflects our external communication. - Understanding the origin of our critical inner voice and its impact. 18:22 🧭 *The Dapper Framework* - Introduction to the 'Dapper' acronym as a framework for emotional control and growth. - The steps of Dapper: Decide, Awareness, Pause, Pivot, Execute, Rewire. - Applying Dapper to everyday situations for better emotional management. 25:34 🤔 *Overcoming Identity Attachment* - Exploring resistance to change due to attachment to current identity. - The paradox of desiring change while clinging to familiar discomfort. - Emphasizing the need to let go of the known for growth and development. 28:07 🔄 *Embracing Personal Evolution* - The natural process of growth and letting go, illustrated through nature metaphors. - The importance of shedding old identities and beliefs to evolve. - Encouraging personal development by embracing change and new possibilities. 31:08 🎯 *Intention and Application for Change* - The critical role of setting intentions for personal growth. - The disparity between those who apply learned concepts and those who don't. - Encouraging active application of principles for transformative results. 34:08 🔄 *Refined Dapper Framework* - Refining the Dapper framework for emotional intelligence and growth. - Emphasizing the importance of non-reaction and awareness in personal development. - Encouraging practical application of the Dapper principles in daily life. Made with HARPA AI

@f4llenstarr

5 ай бұрын

Does the AI listen to the video and make this ? HHow does it work

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

I think so.

@warezit

5 ай бұрын

@@f4llenstarr the video Transcript gets passed to the AI for parsing 🙂

Thank you, Chris. Let’s f*cking go 💪🏽… start acting like the person you want to be, they’re already alive in your mind. Bring them to life IRL.

Honestly I was waiting for Chris reaction toward the suggestion for Dapper 😂😂😂😂😂 It's a really good hidden lesson in this video unrelated to the topic but it's important to learn about good way to give feedback without being too nice or too rude. Also loved how fast the Dapper started from the beginning of it, Very Smart move to summarize and remember everything.

I think post covid, a lot of people (including me) needed to hear this. Being in a funk, listless, kind of depressed. The only person able to pull us out of this is ourselves. We can reinvent, move forward, maybe take a different path, and do it with a positive outlook. Go with grace

New intention ➡ new beliefs ➡ new identity ➡ new actions ➡ new results ➡ new life. Repeat. I love this holistic take on personal development, and would love to see more content on emotional detachment. Happy new year to the Do Nation! 🎉

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

Happy new year Shakeel. Good to see you here. Planning something at ArtCenter for Jan 2024.

@shakeel.design

5 ай бұрын

@@thefutur looking forward to it, as always!

Chris gave me goosebumps and was like talking to me by saying, "You have so much to offer the world. Get up and chase your dreams to become the best version of yourself."

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

It was meant for you.

Thank you so much. I’ve only just been introduced to you guys. You’ve just reaffirmed my next steps. Really reframed getting out of my own way!

@thefutur

8 күн бұрын

Wonderful!

Yes, please a full video on Emotional detachment. Really enjoy this video.

Thank you Chris for sharing. At the end of the day, this is my takeaway. The golden rule always applies and works with quality such as kindness, caring empathy. The platinum rule is great to be applied for people who are still in search of themself, in vulnerable or negative state of mind.

Thank you. I needed this video. In one year from today I will come back this comment and update you guys on how it's going.

I don't know how I am just now coming across your channel but you have a beautiful way of thinking. I've been working towards these ideals for the past ten years or so and I am excited to add you to my list of mentors. Your contributions to society are creating ripples that reach far into the universe. Thank you.

25:38 ff The longest distance is the distance between your heart and your brain. ...you can understand things logically more...but your emotional state...gets into this scarcity mindset, this loss aversion quickly. ff explains how detachment is NOT a lack of care or compassion but taking a step back and looking at things with perspective. My take away: we can choose to be free and available for the needs of others when we remove the shackles of victimhood or negative thoughts from ourselves or "received/remembered" from others.

I heard recently from someone.....it's not a mistake, it's a state! You broke that down in such a relatable story that put so many elements in coherence. Brilliant. Respect. So grateful to find you. Sensei 🙏

Refreshing to hear when most self development talks by influencers nowadays try to instill the main character syndrome inspired by the ego. This is such a great and humble approach to do a deep dive on how we can be better for ourselves and those around us. Appreciate all you guys have done for so many years, and I'm excited to see where this pivot into new subjects leads you!

Both DAPPER meanings are on point. They’re just applicable at different stages in a “conflict”. Well done, both!

I've got nothing to do with design but this dude called Chris has been profound in my career called life

@thefutur

4 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏

Having friends that have these discussions and conversations is just golden

My own spin. 🙃 Develop a practice that leads to... Awareness (this helps to learn to respond instead of react) Practice daily (review the day to see where/when you reacted and replay how you will respond next time) Pause (when you catch yourself reacting, pause to take a breath so you can slow down to respond) Empathize (with where they are coming from, where you are coming from, and how you can...) Recognize (the common ground) Often times when people emotionally react, logic goes out the window unless you address the emotion. Sometimes it could also be a hidden emotion and not necessarily the one they show.

I lost my job (well... it was forced resignation) literally the first business day of 2024. This video is is perfect timing and I feel like I've been given this opportunity to start fresh in the new year.

@thefutur

4 ай бұрын

Best of luck.

@divineorder22

3 ай бұрын

I had the same experience happen to me in Decemberof 2016. It was the best gift that God could have given me. Don't worry or be anxious about anything. Focus on the greatest that is unfolding in your life and enjoy every day. Thank God ❤

We owe you so much Chris. Open and frank is exactly what most of us need.

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

That’s all I got. So good news.

BOOM!! The lense of empowerment not victimization!! ❤

It feeels like My story . Thankyou for sharing Chris 5:25 , even if it is not mine I totally agree

A comfort zone is like an addictive drug, change is a necessary factor for growth. This is a huge revelation for me, and I'm grateful for this video. Thank you Sir

Emotional detachment is something that I really struggle with, during periods I have serious mood swings and brain fog, please make a video which includes this ... That will be a life saver for me .. Thank you ❤

Yes, Mo, please make a video about emotional detachment

I really like how the other guy (sorry didn’t catch his name) summarises it. It makes it so succinct. I’m going to try dapper going forward.

Fun fact: 'Dapper' means 'brave' in Dutch so I raise my glass to all you dapper warriors out there!

@thefutur

4 ай бұрын

Cheers to that.

A video on emotional detachment with some actionable steps would be great! Thank you both Chris & Mo.

This is just what I needed today. I'm rewinding to catch the first DAPPER...

@GailNott

5 ай бұрын

18:20 Found it! Here's the first DAPPER. I vote for this one because I prefer single words in acronyms. 😁

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

Haha. Another one for Mo.

I’m so grateful the algorithm made me found you, thank you for all the amazing content you put out

@thefutur

4 ай бұрын

You’re very welcome. Welcome to the Futur

Love this Chris, very impactful and helpful, thank you

We don’t ever really get rid of parts, though. They always have a good purpose. They just need a better method and also whatever burdens they carry they need to be healed and let go of the lies they learned through painful experiences that make things so terrifying, so they can lighten up, and with the help of the core, find a new way of operating, eg the growth mindset that you are talking about (My perspective on parts is from IFS Internal Family Systems therapy which is all about the core and the parts, as explained by Richard Schwartz) Thank you for this video! Just found you recently and am really enjoying and appreciating what and how you share. Thank you! 🥳🙏💖

I’m so impressed and admire your wisdom and ability to articulate so well. I had a craniotomy last September so my whole last year has been humbling and my thoughts to words has been trying to say the least but just watching your ease of speech gives me hope that I can speak just as well. If I see you ever I want to hug and thank you. This is the video that gives me strength and the will to continue. Love it, keep up the amazing work.

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much. When you do, please give me a hug and tell me about this comment.

When I stopped at the pedestrian crossing at the rush hour, a traffic law enforcer instructed me to pull-over the car and show my driver's licence. After showing my PWD ID, driver's licence, I explained that the car in front of me got stuck when my car was already at the zebra crossing at the yellow light. With the cars at opposite direction starting to move before the lights turned red, I had to stop before they hit my car. The officer simply asked me to validate my ID address and clarified that there is no violation in running the yellow light (it's running the red that's a violation). Then he let me go and reminded me to drive carefully.

Yes please make an elaborate video on emotional detachment.

emotional detachment 🙏

Mo is the prince of DAPPER

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

He is.

Loved that you gave an example of J. Krishnamurthy, great person he was.

I have a graphic design and illustration degree but can’t seem to get a FT job, just bits and bobs of freelance work from reputable places. I make art & sing & direct a choir and Dj sometimes too and it’s been like that for years. I’ve been a lecturer before, I have skills but it’s as if no one can see it. I just want a remote creative job as I have worked in toxic microaggressive offices - I’m ready to earn from my talent Personal life is like the Sahara desert, you need money to be social. I’m trying to see the silver lining and not to spiral down but 2024 needs to change!

Please send me information on emotional detachment. Profound content. Wise and uplifting from men so young. Wonderful!

Chris I gotta tell ya - I’ve watched several of your videos, mostly about typography and design, which is one of my interests. Tonight I came across this video and I’m at a point in my life where this is really relevant. I’m only at the beginning but I really want to make this unusual comment / observation that I’ve noticed about you. It is about your personal “style” and I think it lends you tremendous credibility, in addition of course, to what you actually have to say. Sorry for the lengthy comment and please don’t mistake my meaning here, the way that you dress, the way you wear your cap and the glasses you choose, in almost all cases, in my mind, are indicative of a ‘poseur’ of a particular variety. Not you though. Not only do I respect your style, regardless it seems to be often imitated in some way - you positively RADIATE authenticity, in part BECAUSE of the particular style you choose to show to the world. Certainly it’s not only your style, your ideas and thoughts and experience in graphic design speak loud and clear in that as well. I really think highly of the rare individual who express themself as eloquently as you do in every way and I’m listening intently to what you have to say in this video. Not trying to flatter you here with any of this, just offering my opinion on what I can see, for whatever it might be worth to ya. You strike me as one of those rare and exceptional individuals, thanks and I hope you keep it up!

@thefutur

4 ай бұрын

Thank you.

I'd love a video on emotional detachment!

Yes a video on emotional detachment would be well received !

Start small and own it. Praxis! Reflective practice.

Yes please! Emotional detachment video please❤

I've been living in scarcity mindset for so long and didn't know I had chosen to not evolve......thnx for bringing it to my awareness!!! Will work on evolving from here on out.

@thefutur

4 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Holy cow! Okay one more remark - and my first over long one, regarding your personal style of dress, which was superficial and I hope you take in the spirit in which it was meant to be- comes nowhere NEAR the powerful message of your thoughts and words in this remarkable video. Chris, I just want to thank you for sharing your views and ideas on personal change and the views we tend to hold onto that inhibit us from taking the steps toward a new life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, you’re right up there with Watts!

Yes I’d love to see the emotional detachment

Yes please, do a video on emotional detachment. Can't wait to learn all about that.

I love both!

Whoa, so if I only learn to do what you were doing at 9 when I'm 30, I am literally 21 years behind in my growth curve. Especially if it's all about the mindset and this mindset only starts so late. Ouch!

Guys, you’re good! Mind is set up for the new discoveries, and is open for new opportunities. Hope to meet you ones to have a personal conversation 🤝 Thanks for sharing and for the effort💪

I need the ep abt detachment !!!

Mr. Chris Do, I so appreciate your contribution to my corner of the world. I relate. Thanks!

To observe without judgement is the highest form of intelligence. 4:31

“To observe without evaluating…” (

@theblackbookbasics

5 ай бұрын

Yes. Look up Dr. David Hawkins

@dfd4688

5 ай бұрын

@@theblackbookbasics thanks much… per your suggestion I am listening Power vs Force now and looking forward to learning more. Much gratitude 🙏 cheers

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

Observe without judgment.

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

Observe without judgment.

please do an exclusive video about emotional detachment

I need a class on how to explain things as well as Chris. I naturally do what he does with the parking meter but can’t explain it better than “don’t be an ahole they are just doing their job.” I wish I could learn how to be more tactful and understand how to show empathy better

@thefutur

4 ай бұрын

You hang around with more articulate people who practice non violent comments. It’ll up your game.

I'll be waiting for that emotional detachment video-please. I apreciate this discussion very much. Very timely for my recent state of mind in a new chapter in my life. Thank you, lots.

This is one of those videos I need to revisit every 3 months.

What would help people is, when an unsolicited idea is presented try to see it as a treasure and not a threat. Of course it needs to be evaluated.

I think that this topic is great! And the industry in which we aspire is a very difficult one. And we do tend to be very critical on ourselves. I think more of this theme is important.

Been talking about the platinum rule for almost 30 years I learned it from a very successful entrepreneur as a teenager and I learned it so long ago and for so many people not to even be aware that it exists always boggles my mind and I like seeing this guy speak on it because from the few years I've been following him I have a feeling of respect for what he does

@thefutur

4 ай бұрын

You are ahead of the curve.

I love both DAPPERs and will start my meditation session with it. Really nice video❤

Thank you for this video ❤

Yessss coach please 🙏🏽

Thanks for taking the time, both of you, for putting out the positivity yall are pushing.

I liked both DAPPERs! Thank you for this incredible episode! It made my day and set me on the positive and successful path in 2024!

This is just amazing, Cris you are the real superhero for me, thank you so much, May Allah bless you,

I love the humanity flowing through your analysis. Insightful and entertaining. That's no mean feat.

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏

Thank you for this video. So much value in this dialogue.

Needed this

Mo is slim AF. Lookin' sharp, my man! long way.....

Yes a video on emotional detachment would be great. This is a powerful lesson thank you!

10:12 is my perfect new years rez 2024

This was a phenomenal “workshop” for me. Thank you all for you being you and doing this work. ❤

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

Our pleasure!

Chris Money, I truely appreciate how much you give

You're addressing really important fundamentals here. I, for one really needed to hear this. Especially the idea of emptying the cup to have room to fill it. Made me realise that the fear of letting go is really holding me back. Would love the follow up video.

All the DAPPER"S are Great. Thank you very much. This was wonderful and right on time. ❤

@thefutur

3 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

YES PLEASE I'd love to see a video on Emotional Detachment. Much of what you touched on are things I've learned to get better at especially being intentional about what I'm going to say reactively and ask myself: "Will this get me the outcome I want?" and if not, being mature enough to rethink in order to have a higher probability of the outcome I desire. Additionally, speaking of letting go, just yesterday I literally had to let go of a toxic situation which was also something I prolonged for far too long. When I tell you the weight I feel that's already been lifted and the boost I have to really pour into myself to get my design biz of the ground in order to serve the people who need me most... gosh I feel so much relief and I should've done it sooner. Nonetheless, I'm here now and trying my best to show up. Thank you for this message Chris!

Year end fire drop. Awesome!!!

Thank you Guys so much for these wonderful videos , you have no idea how much this is helpful to me . 🙏

That’s great and very useful. Treat people as they want to be treated. Don’t treat them as you want to be treated. Metamorphosis component of the story is just wild. Thank you, Chris.

Yes to get rid of attachment/identity. This video is like psych 101.

Loved this. Thank you!

Inspirational… Appreciate you guys.

Abundance and gratitude

Also in for video on emotional detachment

This episode is golden!

I think both DAPPERS serve in different situations. MO’s DAPPER is applied in a ‘Growth Mindset’ or ‘Evolving Mindset’ if you will. CHRIS’ DAPPER is applied in a ‘Intentional Mindset’ after having gone through the work of rewiring the conscious and sub-conscious. It’s kind of crazy to see where both of them are in their journey in respect to their Personal and Professional healing/ growth. Either way, both very useful for different areas in life. Bravo.

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏. Way to point out the differences in our two beliefs.

wonderful, thank you Chris!

This was an amazing video and I watched it twice. And will probably review it more and more

Love your teachings , thanks The Futur team!

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

Glad you like them!

This is incredible. Thank you.

Beautiful video!

@thefutur

4 ай бұрын

Thank you very much!

Wow! Thanks for putting this in words and giving examples to make self regulation more accesible.

@thefutur

5 ай бұрын

Absolutely!