Work with Me: susanwinter.net/consultation/

I wish I was more obsessed with myself then people who don’t want me

@janiebutterfly5251

3 жыл бұрын

That is soooo true I'm sending you love and light and many blessings stay safe and well 🙏🙏🙏🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈💝💝💝💝💝💝💝👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼🤗🤗🌹

@armin38822

3 жыл бұрын

that's a great quote. We idealize some other person..is actually insane.

@Viv8ldi

3 жыл бұрын

Do you want to be a second Donald Trump?

@caitlincassidyy

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@lalhriatpuii6578

3 жыл бұрын

I don't want to be Narcissistic

this was in my recommended and i just want to thank my FBI agent for this

@tarasade3881

4 жыл бұрын

Lauren cacoon 😄😅🤔🤫

@AlluringTree

4 жыл бұрын

Lauren cacoon lol made me laugh nd I was just crying

@manojkumarhk5696

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@21Cauzzie

4 жыл бұрын

Haha that made me laugh

@nonodlamini

4 жыл бұрын

😂

”We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.” - Seneca

@annmurtagh5323

11 ай бұрын

Accurste

@MISS.RUTHNIE

11 ай бұрын

So true 😢

@rose7777

10 ай бұрын

So beautifully described 😊

@Heyitsvickkk

10 ай бұрын

Amen

@patrickmurphy1803

5 ай бұрын

Good grief !

I‘ve developed a crush on someone I barely know but I‘ve now realized that I fell in love with the idea of this person and not the real person and I‘ve been doing this my whole life. I‘ve never had a relationship and I think I finally know that this is the reason for it. I hope I can change this

@omaemou3202

2 жыл бұрын

i can relate so bad ! Did u find any solutions ?

@Marjo..

2 жыл бұрын

that sounds like limerance

@priyankajaiswal7756

2 жыл бұрын

Omg! I feel same

@briesummers2934

2 жыл бұрын

@x i love the way u expressed it si honesty. I really wanted to hear something like that the part where u said u r obsessed with the idea of them and not actually loving them. I mean it. This was one of yhe thing i needed rn.

@adatbh

2 жыл бұрын

How are you now ?

I would say 99.9% of the time the person that you're stuck on and put a pedestal on really doesn't deserve it once you get to know them

@anonymouslee4470

3 жыл бұрын

it is all about an alternate reality

@danhenney8825

2 жыл бұрын

Communication and honesty, if you can't do or receive both then it's not worth ya time or efforts. Keep busy be productive take time to heal. 😊

@jetpilot3714

2 жыл бұрын

Best statement on here

@ljubicab3885

2 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU,YES

@JustLIkerapunzel

2 жыл бұрын

I guess the though thing about this is that for me it is not even about this person, cause I barely know him. It's about the idea of being with SOMEONE who makes me feel the way I felt with that guy the few times we met. But the obsession started before I even met this specific guy who now is my extra trigger because before I just obsessed about yearning for romantic companionship. This video is simply not helping because I already have my passions. I already socialize a lot and share my hobbies. I can't add any more hobbies than I already have and I love them. But once you obsess over something it's hard to stop because you can be doing something else and while it used to be fun at one point, you still can't fully focus anymore on that.

mental obsession is a habit - and habbits can be broken. That sentence alone helped me a lot

@sahilhussain1081

4 жыл бұрын

How

@Nekole1

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this comment. It was helpful.

@oneoutoftheninety-nine.3314

4 жыл бұрын

Mines was when she said stop feeding them. Then they'll notice you.

@cozettem8226

4 жыл бұрын

@@Viv8ldi habit only has one b in it, its not like the word rabbit lol

@nanctruespc8247

4 жыл бұрын

Mental obsession is a habit and habits can be broken easily .if someone know how habits can be broken, as simple as shifting your sleep, meal ,or hobbies timings .,but this one is mainly emotional thing normally, which has to take some time (reaction time to the new case). Extrem pain ,but forever peace.

No one can hurt us . We get hurt due to our own expectations.

@Kai_The_Kai

Жыл бұрын

I’m a bit sad the guy I like didn’t tell me how he feels, I mean he yelled at my sister when she told him but he’s giving me mixed signals and I’m dizzy

@sugandhadogra1781

Жыл бұрын

@@Kai_The_Kai plz ditch him n stay away frm him

@Kai_The_Kai

Жыл бұрын

@@sugandhadogra1781 he rides my school bus and sits literally across from me, I really can’t 💀 He’s also pretty cute 💀

@sugandhadogra1781

Жыл бұрын

@@Kai_The_Kai then tie rakhi to him 🤣

@Kai_The_Kai

Жыл бұрын

@@sugandhadogra1781 can you tell me what that means? Am dum 🥲

From personal experience, a mental obsession over someone is a sign that I'm neglecting my social health. I've overcome this by meeting new people and attending hangout groups. In the end, it's as if the "crush" was a placeholder for better things to come. Thank you for this video!

@kalypso9256

2 жыл бұрын

Great advice and really true. It’s still not doing it for me.

@luviannie3872

Жыл бұрын

thank you for this. I’m going thru the same thing right now and i think it’s because i’m neglecting my social health too. i’m trying to get better but it can be hard sometimes :)

@elisglaze6077

Жыл бұрын

This comment put it all together for me. Thank you for your insight 🤍

@303machine

Жыл бұрын

True. If you are destined to be with this crush, it will happen, otherwise it is a sign you mentioned. It is a sign you are missing, want something and this crush is sign to improve yourself, look after your emotional/love life.

@anneshaganguly356

Жыл бұрын

Well, it's 1:43 am and I still can't sleep because I keep thinking about that one person. You see, it's easier during the day, I can keep myself busy but what about these long lonely sleepless nights? Moreover, I really don't want to use someone else to get over someone else. I mean yeah I try to make new friends but I feel like it's very forceful from my side while the other person is thinking that it's mutual. I don't want to deceive this new person (probably the person I'm thinking about did the same to me as well)

The fact that we purposely searched for this, means that we have the initiative to get better, and I applause us for it. May we truly achieved what we want in life, as long as it's not to hurt others but always of love. Even I, as typing this is still currently not really "fine", but I'm not just going to give up and let what let me down win. We're all in this together guys! 😊💕

@tanishadhawan9805

2 жыл бұрын

👏here's a little applause for us all Happy to read the comments and have someone who has similar feelings

@faeriedew6579

2 жыл бұрын

its honestly so difficult to live with and i dont know what to do.

@AlejandroW90

2 жыл бұрын

I never knew I was so obsessed until I thought about it. I messaged her despite her wanting space from me. And she has rightfully left me on delivered. I deserve this. I wish I wasn’t so obsessed, but I’ve never felt this cared for in my life by another girl. I feel depressed.

@0000song0000

2 жыл бұрын

God, i wish these videos were available when i was a kid... now i have 20+ years of experience as a serial-crusher

@AlejandroW90

2 жыл бұрын

Update on my situation: I have cut her off completely. I’ve realized that this girl doesn’t want me for who I am. Im now incredibly happy and I’m loving my life now :) it may seem impossible, it’s gonna hurt for a while, especially if you loved the girl like I loved mine. But believe me cutting her off is the right decision boys, especially if she isn’t giving you what you need to hear, or if there’s no communication. Stay strong boys!

Well, I’ve had big BIG crushes on people I NEVER thought I would get over. But one day, you realize you haven’t thought about that person in a while, and you feel amazing! Free at last!! It can happen for this person too.

@SHOTBYKARTI

4 жыл бұрын

Allyn true

@ebsss100

4 жыл бұрын

Is it just over time i should be over them?... I'm 25, i feel like i should be done dealing with this type of stuff

@richardalston3887

4 жыл бұрын

Back then,where was youtube when we needed it?

@thetechtron9465

4 жыл бұрын

How do you do that? It feels such a flaw in my own programming that I feel obsessed to spend time with them, get their attention but I know in fact I'm not even a secondary person in their lives and they have their own daily routines

@RobertaChannel1

3 жыл бұрын

It’s a relief to know I’m not the only one in this type of situation. I can’t stop thinking about my ex, and it’s so frustrating at times because he’s out there living he’s life, no trace of me, while even though I’m trying to live my life, he’s still present in my mind. We’ve been on and off back then, but it’s been more than two years already. We bumped into each other a couple of times, but haven’t talked in months 😩

Recognising that obsession is a natural response of my brain to an unresolved situation has actually helped me a lot. Because the only thing worse than my obsession is me bashing myself for being so obsessed.

@silvermine2033

2 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@pup56

2 жыл бұрын

True. Angry on myself for being like this

@rockonmuse

Жыл бұрын

This ☝🏻

@mssoiree67

5 ай бұрын

Me too!!

@marrileedn7941

2 ай бұрын

Over the past 40 years of obsessing over my first love, I have said that I need him exorcized from my brain!!!

Never stop doing the things that are important for you while your are in the middle of an obsession: school/ work/ holiday/ courses etc. The obsession will fade away; your achievements last forever and will make you feel so proud of yourself! Those are the positive things in the dark period of obsession.

@bvedant

9 ай бұрын

It’s hard when it’s a breakup because you also get depressed which makes you lose focus of goals and not want to have any

This comment section feels like a warm blanket. I now understand that I'm not alone in feeling like this. So thanks everyone.

@miss.vickies

2 жыл бұрын

you're so not alone!

@brilliantaksan

2 жыл бұрын

You too, thanks so much for commenting, i feel as if we care that we're all here, love you all

@melonie_peppers

2 жыл бұрын

I mean sure except the comment above you says "picture them taking a dump." Soooooo

@GauravSingh-ku5xy

2 жыл бұрын

@@melonie_peppers yeah I saw that. Have to say that's quite an extraordinary coping skill.

@melonie_peppers

2 жыл бұрын

@@GauravSingh-ku5xy Haha

Believe me, it's just a matter of time. Gradually, as more important things come in your way, you will get over the person, and that will be the best feeling :) You live only once. Don't waste it over someone who doesn't give a damn about you.

@charleswebster822

3 жыл бұрын

I Know Of a Great Relationship Restorer Who Can Bring Back Your Ex Within 2days Without No Daley

@charleswebster822

3 жыл бұрын

He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay

@charleswebster822

3 жыл бұрын

Text him on whatsap.

@charleswebster822

3 жыл бұрын

+2 3 4 8 0 8 0 4 9 4 1 4 1.

@bicobroadcast7901

2 жыл бұрын

I know I'm late but thank you for saying this I needed it 😎

Sometimes we create a version of a person that really doesn’t exist. It’s a fantasy of who we want them to be, it’s not the real person. We need to look at the real actions, if someone is not giving you security or solid answers that they want to be with you then the answer is NO. Absence is the best, as stated in the video once your energy is gone from them that’s when they notice. We need to stop giving our energy to the wrong people.

@teeahtate

Жыл бұрын

Good advice. The answer is no. You create a fantasy about a person that does not exist is I agree.

@dawnowens1951

9 ай бұрын

Happened to me. He didn’t give me any information about himself. So I went on a mission to find out who he is via internet. And I developed a massive crush. It took me a year and a month and @Susanwinter to help me recover.

@14U2ella7

8 ай бұрын

What if you’re obsessed with them for how they make you feel? (not directly, like, them doing things to/for you) For how thinking about them, being reminded of them, things about them makes you feel.. When you love things about them, and not just because of who you want them to be, but who you see them as/the way you see them? I’m sorry if this is confusing, I’m just talking about me being a K-Pop fan, obsessed with an idol and I’ve been trying to “not have him in my life” anymore.. But, and it’s hard to explain, a lot of things just remind me of him, too.. And sometimes, I just don’t know what to do when I see things that remind me of him or triggers me to think about him..

Here a year on from when I first watched this video, and let me just say I'm sending major love to anyone reading this that's going through a hard time or has major heartbreak right now, a year ago I felt like I'd always be sad and have this person stuck in my mind and it used to tear me up inside, now I barely think of them and am looking at my future, working away in college and aiming to get a better job. If I can do it anyone can! And most importantly TIME HEALS YOUR HEART, it may not feel like it now but you will stop thinking of this person and move on to better things :)

@zahrahpatel

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I really needed this. This is my first time going through a heartbreak and it’s a really tough one on me. My mental health isn’t so great either and this makes it even worse. I really hope I’m able to get over this soon

@muyumyah

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Brando for this... I really needed this reminder...you have just given me hope of regaining my sanity back... There's HOPE y'all 😊

@brandodenny291

Жыл бұрын

@@muyumyah I’m glad at least one person feels helped:) I promise though things will only get better and you will eventually feel like your old self again, that person didn’t define who you were and they certainly won’t define who you are without them ♥️♥️♥️

@mallyndab

Жыл бұрын

thank u so much for this update. Your message was so beautiful and perfectly said! Thank you for taking the time to share it. I'm sure that meant so much to so many people. Hope you got that better job!

@starcatcher3691

Жыл бұрын

Mine still isn't better and it's been close to a year! I am glad you got better after three months.

When you said," and you are probably not sleeping very well" I realized that I am watching this in the middle of the night because I can't sleep 😂😂😂

@dot7428

4 жыл бұрын

Lol same dude

@axelsalinas5845

4 жыл бұрын

Same :/

@LOVEAapjes

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@kingviper1148

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@mayankvermashubhamkaran4373

4 жыл бұрын

i slept rarely on these two months, even i cant eat properly.

I was trying to pay attention but I got distracted thinking about him 😂

@tarasade3881

4 жыл бұрын

Ada Edins 🤦🏾‍♀️ 😆

@tammy8028

4 жыл бұрын

Yip

@Iamchristaelaine

4 жыл бұрын

😭😂🎯

@yummyness7578

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@gemmacomb743

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha that did make me laugh because that happened to me aswell hahaha

I'm obsessing over a long-distance friend that most likely doesn't think of me at all. I feel like I'm going insane.

@user-xb1fk1ol9x

2 жыл бұрын

Same thing here

@marmary5555

2 жыл бұрын

I tried the method ignoring him and not feeding him the energy. It has the opposite effect: he keeps coming back. and it's very tempting because I do have feelings for the guy, I will never tell him. He is too full of himself anyways.

@user-xb1fk1ol9x

2 жыл бұрын

I guess you just need to accept that this significant person may not ever come out of your mind, embrace it instead but make sure he is the last priority, keep yourself busy and like in mental free time of you get what I mean, they can occupy that space. Until you willingly want to forget them, I'm still in the process I also still can't forget them so I just accept my thinking just to be , but other things are way more important.

@saurabhvimal1008

2 жыл бұрын

@@marmary5555 same but girl

@allergictohumansnotanimals5671

Жыл бұрын

happening to me rn and i have exams and a life to live, it's awful

The best way for me to stop obsessing about somebody else, was to start obsessing about myself. Knock them off the pedestal you put them on, and put yourself back there, because that is where you belong.

It takes 21 days to get into a habit. Stop watching their shit. Stop talking about them. Stop looking for them. Make room for the person who deserves to be in your life.

@peacejoy3629

3 жыл бұрын

But how to stop the inner voice that keep telling Me to "NO don't let him think that he WIN just do somthing " it's a distance relationship so social media is the only way to show and prove him wrong I'm stuck..

@vallymokhlis

3 жыл бұрын

@@peacejoy3629 yea but you're draining yourself by doing that. It's best to be mature and just block him on everything. It's tough to do so, but the best decision for yourself and your mental health. Constantly proving yourself to him is obsessive behavior as well. Break out of it and start bettering yourself hun.

@vallymokhlis

3 жыл бұрын

@@peacejoy3629 it doesn't matter where he is. Even if you leave and block him, he still wonders what happened to you. Flip the script and he'll be obsessed with you lol just don't get caught up in proving yourself to him. He's a loser, he doesn't deserve to see you.

@peacejoy3629

3 жыл бұрын

@@vallymokhlis yeah ..that's What i realized he don't deserve to know anything about me Thank you soo much for your advice and for ur time 💞🌸

@peacejoy3629

3 жыл бұрын

@@vallymokhlis But now is it normal to don't want any relationship ! and get to know someone ! I wanna stay by myself. Bcz I can't find a good match at an intellectual level . like they fake it *there Intelligence* bcs all what they want is reach my BODY and they're all normalize it . I want deferent. And my bff normalize it too she said* this is humane gurl , so you're not normal you are a robot ! * and keep telling me to spread myself around and be social and have conversations and then I'll have choices to pick the ONE ! But it's unfaithful for me and not loyal at all and kinda b***y thing and waste of energy. I think one person is enough we get to know eachother and then we be official . But she keep pushing me she made think I'm I an alien or what ! Like even when I do like a guy ( we at university in same class) and I feel he likes me back , all I do is make him think that YOU DON'T EXIST like I ignore hiim I don't why I do that 💔 ( and she done that she know someone they're together as couple but she has a crash on too other guys in uni and they text and I see her smile when she read there messages and I beeee shocked ! Like what are you dOinG and she normalized it *she said everyone do that * So mybe I'm the problem

“The only time someone notices you’re there is when you’re not there” .... wow, I needed to hear this right now.

@Christa-tl8jb

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true in every way shape and form.

@reyanaganguly7650

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

@jeftehilomen1688

2 жыл бұрын

Same

@danielcastillo6912

2 жыл бұрын

That’s why when you start getting over them, they start thinking about you more

@goldfish688

Жыл бұрын

@@danielcastillo6912 not true.

We're in no-contact but seem to be communicating through silence. I'm constantly reminded of him, seeing his name everywhere. It's like I'm grieving, crying everyday, I'm totally obsessed with him, but.........I just can't go back, I just can't. 😩💔

@AppleBottomJ

Жыл бұрын

I feel you

This is why so many people replace an "old"/lost/unrequited love with another instead of working on a better, stronger self. It's a lifelong lesson and not everybody can do it. You're strong enough to do this, focus on yourself, establish healthy boundaries, break habits that don't serve you. In my opinion, you don't need to set a somewhat distant goal in stone. Focus on the process instead.

This would be much easier to do if we weren’t in quarantine

@FelicityWilkinsonfelicity

4 жыл бұрын

pinterest can be ur new obsession maybe? thats mine

@alezt14

4 жыл бұрын

Yes exactly. I have never been obsessively thinking about somebody this much till quarantine hit us. My mind will always more focus to socialize when i have to be around many people so i will not think about that person. But i've been home for weeks so it's so hard to get my mind off that person 😭

@nidsosenginh

4 жыл бұрын

@@alezt14 this is really true. and it actually caused me to lose that person the fact that i was so obsessed by having him the way i wanted. I ended up pushing him away. Now i am obsessed even more because he wanna be friends for now. I think i inject also my negative vibes into him and he also lost concentration on things that probably are more important in his life e.g his work and himself. So now I am paying the price of him pulling away and downgrading me for now. He told me that we should continue to talk as a friend and not labeling our relationship right now until everything is back to normal again and that we could meet again. But i guess because of that I am even more obsessed and need his validation to reassure that he will stick with me and that we will work things out. But this is not healthy and I have been watching this vdo more than 3 times in order to understand that I have to let this obsession go and let things work out on its own. i am normally very independent but at this time I guess i really need attention and I overwhelm him with this

@zaink7037

4 жыл бұрын

The best thing to do is try and keep yourselfs busy 👍. I'm trying to find things to do physically. Sadly just a week before lockdown I heard the girl I liked might be married and has a child. Haven't seen her for 4 years since college but it really hit me and has left me emotionally upset. I'm trying to move on but I get these moments and dreams which don't help along with the subconscious overthinking and fantasy

@gkour9206

4 жыл бұрын

What to do if we are staying in same building and that too in this quarantine period. Seeing him happy with his wife now everyday. I am getting more obsessed

Everytime you think about someone you keep them alive energetically, you feed them.

@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006

4 жыл бұрын

I wonder how this works. I believe that everything is energy (from one of Nikola Tesla's sayings) but I can't it see as the way it is-- as just energy.

@Viv8ldi

4 жыл бұрын

@@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 Energy goes where attention flows?

@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006

4 жыл бұрын

@@Viv8ldi I can see it now when I think of it like that 😮 Thanks! That's a good way to put it.

@insomnia5491

4 жыл бұрын

shit ...

@fleurdelys6102

4 жыл бұрын

Galliano Marr thank you for this!! now I know how to stop thinking about someone

“In any moment on any given day I can measure my wellness by this question: is my attention on loving or is my attention on who isn’t loving me?” -Andrea Gibson

@idontgiveanf3713

2 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏

@lailak482

2 ай бұрын

Damn❤😂💯💯

opening up you're heart is the biggest mistake to do when you meet someone without knowing them.

I like it: focusing on achieving a goal that helps others, rather than focusing on a particular person that is not treating us all that special. I will remember and use that.

@SusanWinter

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you Donavin.

@azzykamp3003

5 жыл бұрын

Smart Boi

@johngallagher72

4 жыл бұрын

Same . It makes sense . ❤

@pinkfuture8275

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you...

@maldmc2873

4 жыл бұрын

you like a coach look at the big picture Its not just you we are to give and help another not sit an cry over somebody that don't care.

Stop thinking about the good times. REMEMBER the BAD! That's how you stop thinking of someone who hurt you.

@gwenwar7223

2 жыл бұрын

That also causes a lot of overthinking. Even when I think of the bad.

@CrystalDatingCoach

2 жыл бұрын

@@gwenwar7223 Stop Thinking. Start enjoying life. Loving yourself!

@CrystalDatingCoach

2 жыл бұрын

@CC VanAmeyden Why are you looking at a Picture of him at all?? He's and EX...move on. 😉

@nomdeplume2213

2 жыл бұрын

@@CrystalDatingCoach 🙄

@_baxa_8589

2 жыл бұрын

Wh if u were masochist?

i wish someone was obsessed with me as much as i obsess over other people 😭😭😭😭😭 it’s so bad

I always thought fantasy was harmless to me, even providing me with a substitute for what I couldn’t have. I recently realized how harmful and painful it’s been to be indulging in these feelings. Much thanks for your excellent advice ✨🙏✨

@teeahtate

Жыл бұрын

Yes, because it keeps you stuck in dream and you are not able to see reality.

I admire people who can understand that obsessively thinking about someone doesn't lead anywhere and it would be best to forget them. And there's me, who kind of understands this, but also likes the feeling of liking someone. So one part of me wants to forget, the other doesn't. All while knowing it doesn't make sense at all to continue thinking about literally NOTHING.

@wanderertatiana2498

3 жыл бұрын

You might 'kind of like' the feeling because you unconsciously feel you deserve to still be in pain or torturing yourself in some way. Think of the harm you're doing to yourself.

@amanimango

3 жыл бұрын

i waited 74 days for someone i was kind of obsessed with for a few months, realised they weren't worth it in the end. leave them when you can, you won't regret it!

@keyasaha5037

3 жыл бұрын

This is me...Bless u for explaining my situation ri8

@1chienandalou

3 жыл бұрын

Yes I get it. It’s a melancholia. I wish I could shed it but it’s the way it is..

@MrNickrandi

3 жыл бұрын

This is the real issue, the internal struggle in everyone who goes through that. A part of me wants to delete everything in my memory, totally forget the girl, moving on and not think about her EVER. Then there's this other side who WANTS to think about her because it's pleasing, it's a drug for my mind and it's almost unstoppable. I guess I'm not strong enough to let it go.

I feel like my obsession comes from fear and not being able to find anyone else, cus an obsession is always formed when a new attractive person enters into my life (few and far between) that likes me a lot and gives me attentention. I get excited and think I've found "the one", and then my anxiety of potentially losing the person if I do the "wrong thing" persists and changes me in a negative way. Then, they pull away and I plot even harder trying to find a way to pull them back in. I feel like if I can let go of this insecurity in myself, then I can finally be free. Redirecting my obsession seems to be like distracting myself from the real underlying issue that forces me to form that obsession in the first place, when it shouldn't even be there.

@TheyLoveCharky7777

2 жыл бұрын

Well said

@dansari0007

2 жыл бұрын

Amazing comment. I’m in the middle of trying to stop obsessing about this girl from my gym, I found her on IG and her blogs on KZread. I’ll try to stop watching anything about her and and get some new hobbies. 😒

@gwenwar7223

2 жыл бұрын

Same feeling

@aurielove9177

2 жыл бұрын

I’m the same way

@iconoclastic-fantastic

2 жыл бұрын

Story of my life.

I recently have this feelings for my co-worker. I soon realized after a while that she never even interested in me. Not in the slightest and that she actually grossed with the thought of me really into her. Then I try to get into my old hobby, which is drawing that makes me happy. Also planning on starting to make soaps, possibly for business. Things have never went so well for me in life. Like a great weight lifted. The key, I think is to find that spark in your life again. Kinda like the one you see in Disney's Soul. The idea that makes you alive, makes you feel happy even from the simplest thing. If we can just take a moment, and live every second for what makes us love ourselves, and not with some unhealthy obssession over someone who don't care about you.

I'm obsessed with my boyfriend when he doesn't text me I feel so bad and depressed but this was so practical thank you!

Somebody only notices you’re there, is when you’re actually not there..

@robertcollins5307

5 жыл бұрын

So true sister :)

@jeanettemunroe6759

5 жыл бұрын

Omg! That's what i needed! I know he senses my energy! I need to stop putting it out there otherwise he'll never wake up! Brilliant! Help me Universe. 🙏

@lunan6544

4 жыл бұрын

I believe the ignoring method does help.

@sifugurusensei

4 жыл бұрын

I disagree. I often do the Irish goodbyes at parties and nobody ever notices when I'm gone. At least I assume cuz the next day, people don't ever ask me where I had disappeared to.

@SURAJSHARMA-sr3yr

4 жыл бұрын

I didn't understand... Plz make me understand 😔

You’re running a loop in your mind... it feels like you’re achieving something but you’re not… That hit me hard like a ton of bricks just fell on me

@embrianne2286

3 жыл бұрын

Damnnnn son yeah

@SenemYucel19

3 жыл бұрын

It's like addiction really

@betterthanyhall1upp329

2 жыл бұрын

Wow i read this as she was saying it

@aurielove9177

2 жыл бұрын

So I’m a mf hamster huh?? :(

@minakalsi4232

2 жыл бұрын

@@aurielove9177 get out of the loop and focus on you 💓

When the cons outweigh the pros, remind yourself of the cons, deal breakers, disrespect, and toxic treatment that was put on you. It takes time to heal just take it one day at a time and do anything and everything that will make yourself happy no matter how small. Get out of that comfort zone and talk to other men/ women. You WILL be ok. Remind yourself ❤️

@ccodyskates

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@MistaB378

5 ай бұрын

I needed this

I was a big mess more than a month ago. Everywhere I went, all I could think about was him and I thought it was just in movies that you see other people as him but it also happened 😂. It was ridiculous and painful. I learned to take in the pain and continue my life with it. I experienced chest pains for more than a week after days of breakdown then numbness came after. I'm way better now. I still think about him most hours of everyday, but the feelings is starting to be less intense day by day. I made progress today by waking up and not thinking about him first. Thank you for this video. These are things that we sometimes know, but we still need someone else to slap us with it so that we can wake up.

@vtech822

Жыл бұрын

I'm with you, going through this exact same right now. My heart truly hurts right now

@rolansanchez7046

Жыл бұрын

I am dealing with this kind of situation right now and unfortunately I cannot work on my thesis I'm about to graduate in a few months and it distracts me from my goal I hate it.

@beyza-rt8xq

Жыл бұрын

how are you now?

@Jejegoing

Жыл бұрын

I’m good when I don’t see him but when I see him in college everything get worse😢

I've been obsessed with this person and I'm feeling terrible. I want to move on.

@challotmolf

4 жыл бұрын

Me and u we HV the same problem.thats why I am here.it will get better

@SHOTBYKARTI

4 жыл бұрын

DoN-Ent same bro

@lu-fg7ih

4 жыл бұрын

me too

@vaishakh6635

4 жыл бұрын

Me too, but i dont have time to go to gym, and the obsessive thought gets back again

@angyluzarmendaris2650

4 жыл бұрын

Same 😂

When you're depressed and have no passions 🙃

@alexaleuropa

3 жыл бұрын

Literally !!!!!!!!

@bapinzz

3 жыл бұрын

Ughhh me

@nm6857

3 жыл бұрын

LMAO true

@mickey1493mi

2 жыл бұрын

That sounds tough my friend. I hope you find something that helps you feel joy. May I suggest something simple as going on a hike in a beautiful remote area?

@LovelyCamie_05

2 жыл бұрын

Oh dang but I just hope that you will be alright real soon!

Yea I’m kinda obsessed with a guy at work , but I’m know it’s impossible to act on it so I’m kinda obsessed , but I’m learning that I need to come back to reality and just need to move on with my life and as said in this video focus on goals and other things that make me happy … Update : I decided to leave my job because I felt that mentally it was not healthy for me to stay there since I couldn’t have the person I wanted so I think I made the decision to leave although it was very hurtful I knew it was the best thing for me to continue with my life .

Been obsessed with a girl so much even knowing that she only sees me as a friend that I've started to become creepy. Even her friends have noticed it. I really needed this video

If u stop thinking about that person u stop feeding him/her and that's the moment they remember you

@osmanguney7324

4 жыл бұрын

esoteric bullshit

@fleurdelys6102

4 жыл бұрын

Osman Güney 😂

@iAmGratchet_

4 жыл бұрын

True. I’ve experienced this a couple times.

@cheedarcheese5811

4 жыл бұрын

Truest statement ever

@sofxo2718

4 жыл бұрын

Braden A vibrations

'When you cant physically act on it , all you're left is mental work.' Damn, preach🙌🏻

I've been trying for more than six months to get over this person! I couldn't! It's literally breaking my heart into pieces! It might be true that my mental obsession is his source of energy! But I really don't know how could I possibly deal with this!

I know the habit must be broken but I see him everyday at school and whenever I listen to some relationship songs i will always be reminded. This is too hard! 😭

Her voice has healing properties

@porcupine783

3 жыл бұрын

It sounds like smokers voice to me

@anesuk7016

2 жыл бұрын

@@porcupine783 😂😂😂🤦🏾‍♀️

@margaritakleinman5701

2 жыл бұрын

Yes it does. There's something comforting and reassuring about her voice.

@actfray

2 жыл бұрын

ASMR!

All those who are here after being left by their one sided love.. God give u peace and a real lover soon. For the time just focus on your smile. And smile for me please :)

@joanna6570

3 жыл бұрын

Amen :)

@aliibilli

2 жыл бұрын

💗

@mana-gv5ev

2 жыл бұрын

❤💔🙂

@shamanthhiremath5426

2 жыл бұрын

My eyes are in tears when I read this... Thank u so much!!

@abundantsunflower1107

2 жыл бұрын

Thank You honey, you too😊

It took me four months to overcome this obsession, I must say.....🤣😅it was not easy, I have learned to take a different perspective of things, started saying "yes" to my friends if they wanted us to go out. Eventually, I started meeting up with interesting people which I never thought that they exist. Even if you do not have a lot of friends, just decide to go out with them. The results are much more satisfying than obsessing about someone. Goodluck

@teeahtate

Жыл бұрын

I am you found a solution. Yes, the answer is to be social with your own friends. Love the right people who will love you the right way back.

@dawnowens1951

9 ай бұрын

Absolutely

Helping others and putting smile on their faces is a form of healing...

This was very helpful, I feel kind of embarrassed about thinking in an obssesive way but you didn't make me feel like a crazy person at all & your advice was very helpful

@oeu3669

4 жыл бұрын

g g makes the two of us

I have a very imaginative mind since childhood, i used to fantasize something that i know its impossible to achieve or have. When i become adult, this fantasizing continued and was reinforced when i read the book of Paolo Coelho, "The Alchemy" supporting that if we dream of sonething really seriously, the universe will conspire to give us what we want. Now i am an adult life is teaching me that there is an issue in my childhood, its rejection and abandonment, that was unresolved. I have discovered that my fantasizing is a way of escape to whats lacking inside of me. My parents failed to assure me of my self worth and self esteem is low. Thanks to your videos, it awakened me of whats lacking within me. Slowly i will reset myself to heal my childhood issue with the help from God.

@neerajak9319

4 жыл бұрын

Same to me

@elifdemircan1061

4 жыл бұрын

I am your 17 years old version :( same here

@fredericmoresmau9194

4 жыл бұрын

it was verarsche to hurt me...... they planned it, they executed it, they trashed me, then they created a wreck, and then they trashed me for being hurt..... planned out strategically executed and finished....... and then it was above all my fault....

@fredericmoresmau9194

4 жыл бұрын

perfect crime which turns out to be the fault of the victim.... WoaoW

@tammy8028

4 жыл бұрын

Paolo Coelho is a brilliant author. Veronica decides to die, a great book. It's not about suicide, not really, it's positive.

I definitely agree with the energy aspect of this , I feel like I am feeding them my energy with my thoughts , and as soon as I’m away from them they must feel it because they don’t feel that energy that I give them . So yes very brilliant fact !!

Replacing this obsession with any passion and habits is true! I did this and it worked! I used overthink about some one but then I distracted myself towards my study and daily routine! Just try to keep your focus in current moment, if you realized that you are thinking about " that" person then just try to observe the things and shapes front of you, observe their outline then slowly you will get back to your senses and this trick also worked for me

He met someone new. I guess my blockage was that: I was there for him when he was at his lowest point in life, encouraged him, pushed him to exercise, showed him to stay positive, etc. I did all that because I really liked him and his sweet words convinced me that we would have an amazing lif together. Now that his life is back on track and his confidence’s back, he abandoned me for someone else. I think my blockage is that he didn’t appreciate what I did for him. He took what he needed and left. I wonder why are some people like this... I learned my lesson.

@roj1288

5 жыл бұрын

Wow!!! I'm so sorry! I had that but the other way around...he was going through a tough time and I tried to help him. But he lives with his ex (he always said to me that they broke up because he considered her a friend but had no where else to live so they kept living together). Anyways, because the tough time he was going through I tried to be understanding but after a year and now that he is fine again I decided to talk things with him. His answer was that his life was with the other person and that he rather had me as a friend (of course with benefits)...so I decided to stop that relationship we had because it was going no where and I felt used and played around. He also told me that the other woman was still in love with him but he didn't want anything with her. I never met her but I would love to, just to let her know that I never wanted to hurt her in case the situation did. Because she knew of my existence as he told her once...

@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006

4 жыл бұрын

How are you doing now? If it helps any, at least you can leave peacefully without the regret that you were in the wrong and that you gave it your best. I still wonder why are some people like that... Why would they say one thing and mean the other? Surely they know that if it were them, they'd feel hurt and used too... so why do it to someone else?

@lordsith952

4 жыл бұрын

Avery K. Same 💔

@thegreenstache6163

4 жыл бұрын

Same situation, she just went and found a perfect replacement for me

@waarheidsgetrouwe288

4 жыл бұрын

They do this because we let them. We act like a doormat always welcoming them.

I don't sleep much, eat much or able to concentrate much I can't stop thinking about a guy who doesn't like me as much as I like him. Rejection hurts so much. I realized he was just leading me on and feeding his ego. He knew I liked him and never said at the beginning that he doesn't want a relationship with me of course he told me why but those reasons are strange anyway I'm avoiding him as much as I can but I still love him he does have some good qualities and we do get on pretty well despite everything. Well time to turn my attention to myself now. He'll notice for sure that I'm not around as much but it's his loss. He should've been honest with me before he broke my heart. 😔Thanks Susan good advice.😔

@sylviareta5065

5 жыл бұрын

Princess Vanessa a

@maiachew902

5 жыл бұрын

Went through the same thing yesterday. Hope you have been doing well

@asbjelasulejmani8585

5 жыл бұрын

Same situation. Just erase him everywhere. He may or may not realise what he lost

@shymultimedia

5 жыл бұрын

UGH, why do we women go thru so much pain, when we are just trying to LOVE?! I’ve been thru it too girl, Trying to swear off men but it’s hard. 😢

@ng5672

5 жыл бұрын

Same pinch... Why lead on when u r not clear in ur head first..?

I can’t even begin to express how perfect this video was

It's been more than half year and no fkn day passed without thinking about him

I realised whenever I have a crush/obsession on someone it usually takes the form of daydreaming about a future version of me that is skinnier, prettier, got her shit together, is living life the way I want to etc. I think I do this because I don’t feel like a relationship would be the best for me right now and I definitely have some insecurities about nobody wanting me as a partner. I can’t picture my current self with a partner, it has to be some ideal version of me that I will never be. This version of me will be “finally good enough” to enter into a relationship. I’m definitely going to take your advice on breaking the habit, but I don’t know how to refocus my goals when it seems pretty clear that this fantasy land is serving a dual purpose of relationship fantasy and “ideal future me” fantasy. How do I feel more satisfied with my present self? How do I stop this feeling of not being good enough?

@themodernotaku

2 жыл бұрын

By realizing you are the ideal you, and that somebody if not multiple will see that ideal you. It’s tough, it might be a process of putting yourself out there in a lot of situations but building that confidence will connect with others.

@itsme8580

2 жыл бұрын

Most underrated comment , truely.atleast for me.

@matetsutak751

2 жыл бұрын

definitely the same thoughts that I have

@user-fm8yc4hm1c

2 жыл бұрын

I have the same feelings. Thank you for writing this.

@mayadere

2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly how I’ve been feeling for the past few years. Thank you for putting this into words.

Start a relationship with yourself. I am having obsessive habits. Had them a lot. Love yourself. That's the best option for me. Hope it helps someone. Very helpful video thank you. Much Love all

@Ang.143

5 жыл бұрын

0th - The Rising Soul it’s the only solution!! The obsession is gone now because I chose myself finally! ❤️

@harshalsirsat7140

4 жыл бұрын

Lose yourself in the music the mom......

@harshalsirsat7140

4 жыл бұрын

@@serena4732 came here after breakup Call centre agent

@annakarinruisniemi3204

3 жыл бұрын

The Dark Light it works for me, until im in a relationship again

@rickygonzalez2356

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao I ain't worth the thought

your last advice is really awesome.. firstly we stop giving our energy to that person so that we move away from them

I wish people were more obsessed with me than I am with them

@xeizons

2 жыл бұрын

so true :c it hurts knowing no one isnt as obsessed with me too.

It's hard to do this when your in quarantine 😩😭

@kaitlynmadison.

4 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭😩😩😩😩😩

@cazramusic

4 жыл бұрын

You're so right.

@afreen9347

4 жыл бұрын

😿

@danneperry

4 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!! I can’t go outside and interact with other people, so my mind is stuck on them 😭

@lanaakhras4909

4 жыл бұрын

If u have that person on social media just remove them, don’t stalk them do something that will benefit you, study read a book just move them out of ur progress in life. Remember we are all in quarantine so you can choose to put ur focus on your goals or that person. I know what ur going through sadly :( I hope u pull through !

WOW. I REALLY NEEDED THIS. It’s a mental obsession that’s exhausting for me to live and exhausting for my friends to hear about! I definitely needed that reminder about not keeping them alive energetically. Thank u!

It’s odd, I’ve always heard of people getting this way with romantic interests, but I sometimes get this way about my friends as well. It’s kind of embarrassing and I try to hide it, but I think it’s cause I admire them so much.

@richardgrant2948

2 жыл бұрын

Hello Heather,, how are you doing today, how’s everything going Heather?

@arycutester

Жыл бұрын

yesss friends tooooo

I think I'm too far gone. Nothing excites me more or makes me happier than him but you made some good points to remember to help us pull ourselves up everytime the thought of him comes to mind

@starcatcher3691

Жыл бұрын

I totally get it. When I ask my heart what it wants it's to see him, to talk to him. I've always re found my passion again after three months of pain, but I am still thinking about him a lot. I hate it.

@JoaoVictor-iu6ls

11 ай бұрын

​@@starcatcher3691Here's the way I got over a past love: I did nothing, suddenly I met another woman who did care about me and in 8 months I totally forgot about the other one. Now I'm in love with this woman, but she doesn't show it back as she did in the past. At least I got a lesson, since I'll never put so much expectations on a girl as I did to get over other one. (Sorry if there's any english mistake)

This appeared on my recommended page... how did KZread know? 😳

@crownbritish2259

4 жыл бұрын

Omg same ahahahah

@55phe

4 жыл бұрын

jesskaitlyn right! Like yo 🙁

@JoelSmithR1

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. Same here.

@Djfr

4 жыл бұрын

jesskaitlyn because your phone is listening to you

@syrinesbaa6572

4 жыл бұрын

jesskaitlyn it’s AI , things you wrote down KZread or any social media app registers them and recommends stuff that are related to them.

I'm obsessing over someone that lead me on and when somebody better suddenly came back into their life, she completely went ghost. My flaw is that I always try to find what I did wrong even though people tell me I didn't do anything wrong. It's just a mental habit I need to break.

@KF7MGT

3 жыл бұрын

Me too my fellow human. Me too.

@shakerbee7349

3 жыл бұрын

Holy shit the same thing happend to me

@kayaluvanze8848

3 жыл бұрын

same i’m obsessing over the two people that hurt me

@akshayss4778

3 жыл бұрын

Same thing here

@SHVideografie

2 жыл бұрын

Same thing happened to me. Really stings.

I so needed this today. I know I need to let this person go but there's something holding me back. I thought to myself today that I'm letting my emotions overcome me and not thinking rationally. I know what I need to do and I just have to do it. I have to be brave and stop holding on to a "what if". I know my worth and HE is definitely NOT WORTH ME. Actions do speak louder than words!!!!!!

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2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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2 жыл бұрын

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I fell in love with a lovely girl at my summer job, but we had to go back home to different countries. The love was still there, and we tried to make it work by facetiming alot, but the spark faded on her end, and I tried to cope with the love I felt while knowing they did not feel the same anymore. I needed this video to help overcome my obsessiveness of thinking what future we might have had together, or about things I would have done differently.

The only way somebody notices you're there is when you're not there. WORD! Thanks Susan

It's like a hamster in a wheel. Constantly thinking about the person but you know it's not going anywhere. But the feeding energy is so true. You're good Ms. Susan!!!😇💜

@kaitlynmadison.

4 жыл бұрын

😇😇😇😇😇💜💜💜

Omg ,listening to this was already shifting my brain. Yeah,it's a habit. For me it was esier to stop useing alkohol and smokeing then this obsessive thinking about someone.

The KZread recommendation seems to know a bit much about myself 😅 but this video was sooo helpful

Anyone else watch this crying because of how frustrated they are with their own mind because you feel like you've lost your own mind and lost yourself just because of this one person that drives your heart crazy? 😓

Who else was stalking there crush on ig last night

@Diana-rr6wk

4 жыл бұрын

Me 😔

@Nicole-qo8ko

4 жыл бұрын

@@Diana-rr6wk stalking him in twitter and reading those conversation of him with someone makes me hurt so much

@Annapolisz

4 жыл бұрын

Oh yeah... familiar...

@luisafda.parras.4715

3 жыл бұрын

Me 😩🥺 and now i found out he has a gf

@aizahsyed5342

3 жыл бұрын

he keeps rejecting my request

Wish I knew this two years ago, just spend two years obsessed someone not available for me

It hurts to de-hypnotize ourselves, but it is necessary.

True story...I hadn’t heard from the guy i like and is often on my mind 😂 in two days. Was out running errands when this tall, handsome blonde comes into my line of vision. He very politely approached me and proceeded to apologize for bothering me but needed to tell me he thought I was beautiful and if I would be interested in going to dinner with him. I gave him my number and two hours later he left me a message wondering if I could go out the following night. I told him I was busy so we decided on next week. For the first time in a few weeks the original guy was nowhere on my mind 😂 completely gone. Literally 22 minutes after the new guy called me, out of nowhere the guy I like texts me, i was so so relaxed and laissez faire that I think he sensed it by some of his replies. I swear I truly believe this shift in energy thing. It had happened previously when I went on a date with someone new, had a lovely time and the very next day guy #1 is texting me. Put your energy elsewhere girls, whether it’s volunteering, a new hobby or saying yes to going on a date with a new guy, you never know who’s coming around the corner.

@itsgoodtobegood

4 жыл бұрын

Wow! It's just fascinating how this works..

@catherinethegreatsgroceryasmr

4 жыл бұрын

Did you get back w/ the old guy?

@lolacookie453

4 жыл бұрын

Catherine’s ASMR no, i let him know I just want to be platonic friends and that I wanted to just enjoy going out on dates with other men. He wasn’t happy and acted out for a couple of weeks but he still contacts me in an attempt to take me out on dates but I am enjoying dating new men too much. Still regularly talk to the tall blonde who is a pro rugby player but he lives abroad and although he asked me to be exclusive since our very first date I said no to that as well as long distance relationships are not for me. So I will see him whenever I travel to his country or he comes back, in the meantime we are getting to know each other without any pressure and I like it like that as I tend to run if things progress too quickly.

@catherinethegreatsgroceryasmr

4 жыл бұрын

Lola Cookie ok, cool. Interesting.

@lolacookie453

4 жыл бұрын

anonymous 20002001 ne dite pas que quelque chose c’est impossible. tout est possible dans cet univers

I can confirm from my own experience that this constant thinking of that specific persons keeps feeding them. I had the same experience in the past that as soon as I stopped thinking about the person for a while, all of a sudden she got in touch with me just as you experienced in on of your previous videos. Not that this is a magic way to get someone back but it is energy you are missing and could use for your own purpose and happiness instead. Your videos always seem to come right on time and are on the spot. Time to shift my focus back to myself. Thank you so much Susan.

@SusanWinter

6 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your commentary, BlueWaffles. Thanks for your note.

@catlady715

6 жыл бұрын

So true. In my situation I believe this guy continues his neglect of me b/c he knows he can get away with it. He knows I have feelings for him. He knows the second he calls I will come running. I know I need to change my mindset even though it's very difficult.

@catlady715

6 жыл бұрын

Meryl Lumboy-My situation is similar and I know it's difficult to really cut off someone you have feelings for. And, so funny, the same thing has happened to me in the past where I would delete his texts, tell myself I am done and then BAM he would contact me and I'd be back in his web...But soon after he would start w/ the same neglect crap. Like you I need to be firm w/ my decision to finally FINALLY be done w/ this nonsense.

@BlueWaffles83

6 жыл бұрын

Been there, done that got the T-Shirt. I know it is very hard to burn the bridge but we just have to. If it already starts out like this, while not even starting anything really, imagine if you ever catch that person how he/she is going to behave in a relationship. You are better off without him/her (for now) and we all deserve someone who reciprocates exactly the same interest we are showing. Be strong an stop hurting yourself by inviting those people back into your life. Don't hate them but feel pity with them for what they must have been through themselves to become like this. They need to sort out their own issues and we, why we are still hanging on to someone who is not good for us. Stop looking at the past and what could have been. Set them free and live in the present. You can't change them but you can take the right actions in your own live and do the work needed so you will attract someone who is worth your time and affection. Once you are there, the universe will work it all out - be it with a new partner or eventually the guy/gal you never quite got. Just believe in it. Be strong!

@catlady715

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you, BlueWaffles83. I want to print what you wrote and hang it on my wall to read and keep me strong. What really sucks is I have to see this guy at work. It makes the situation much more difficult but I am so tired of the games, tired of feeling used, tired of his broken promises and empty words, tired of feeling like crap.

Funny thing, when you said “coworker,” I felt understood. For almost a year, I was involved in a very intense emotional and physical affair with my coworker. He broke up with me many times, but he kept coming back each time. Then he has to move away. I tried to set aside goals and vacations to look forward to to distract myself, but lately I’ve been going through a tidal wave of depression over losing him, and I’ve lost interest in everything. This video is what I need to hear, and I hope I can get back on track.❤

"Unresolved goal" omg she's in my head

The good news is if moving on doesn’t wake them up to the extent you want, you’ll soon forget their asses anyway. Your life is now too fun to keep their memory

Find something that excites you. A passion, a hobbie, an achievement, a big goal, something that involves helping others, and put that as your your primary goal. 🌟 I love that advice.

Thank you so so much for sharing this helpful information! I've been struggling these past couple of weeks obsessing over my ex and it has gotten to the point where I had intrusive thoughts of hurting myself and so I've decided enough is enough. I've finally found my passion once again and just thinking about where I want to be in the next 10 years, really excites me. I'm now determined to reach my goals and become this independent, sociable, and kind hearted person like I once was before I've met my ex and I'm happy. 🌸🌸🌸

Ma'am I just want to say that I'm extremely grateful for this video. I was honestly dying from overthinking and pain I got from long distance separation. I feel so much better and I will do my best to focus on other things

This was very well articulated and very helpful. However, I think the final bit of advice risks compromising the whole attempt. It may be true that depriving that person of your presence will increase the chance they will miss you, but I think its a messy game to play. When you are succeeding in not thinking about them/not messaging them, you will have this underlying thought that you are only ignoring them SO THAT they will come to you. It almost increases the obsession because you are anticipating their return. Then, if they don't return, it just hurts and feels helpless. I guess its a double edged sword. But focussing on other goals and spending time DOING stuff that isn't thinking about that person is really good advice to interrupt the habit.

@bobate6030

3 жыл бұрын

Well said!

@brod2man

3 жыл бұрын

@@bobate6030 I wrote that during a period of infatuation with someone and can confirm the advice of filling your day with other activities which force you to disregard your phone is a good strategy. Smoking 2 cigarettes a day is better than 30.

@kmc7062

2 жыл бұрын

I agree. I was buying into this but she completely lost me with that last little nugget - a nugget of complete BS IMO. A crazy narcissist discarded me and I am certain is giving me no thought at all. The new rewards supply person is in place and as long as that is the case I remain completely eliminated from the picture. That said, the breaking the habit advice was excellent and she was correct about my inability to sleep. Need more work in those areas.

@DaTa-wm5yc

2 жыл бұрын

That is so true! I even get excited when I feel like I have let them go because I „know“ now they are coming back and then I get sad all over again, even more …how can I break this cycle 😭

@sagstar

2 жыл бұрын

I just went through what you described. It's a waste of time and energy, never again.

Scarlet Johansen won't reply to my emails so I've replaced her with learning how to play chess. It's not going too well.

@jessica76311

3 жыл бұрын

😂 good luck

@yourbffnat3602

3 жыл бұрын

She wants someone who is determined, don't give up.

@jessica76311

3 жыл бұрын

@@yourbffnat3602 😂😂

@yourbffnat3602

3 жыл бұрын

@@jessica76311 I'm glad you caught my sarcasm! 😂

I should've been able to tell way earlier, of course I want him closer! We're doing long distance...

You are so amazing ma'am!! Spoke the exact words I wanted to hear...recently, I have been obsessing over somebody & advises from you have really made me realise how wrong I am. Thankyou for helping. It really meant a lot and guided me to the path where I now need to be. Thanks a lot‼️

I think as soon as u give up all hope and let them go they can sense it and panic. Usually too late by then cos your feelings have gone already.

@waarheidsgetrouwe288

4 жыл бұрын

Yes lol with my ex if he was my ex and I was sad after few weeks felt better and honestly nobody knew this but when I shaved my legs because I felt good again he always began texting me.

@fleurdelys6102

4 жыл бұрын

Yahusha is Savior Melchizedek King of Kings wait did he text you again cause you shaved your legs I-

@waarheidsgetrouwe288

4 жыл бұрын

@@fleurdelys6102 hahah no he just always contacted me when I had done it very strange. Like when I was sad I didn't shave than when I finally felt better I shaved my legs and than he called again. I tested it when I found out and it was so ahahaha

@arionnamoss9785

4 жыл бұрын

Yahusha is Savior Melchizedek King of Kings that is such a cool superpower to uncover. I wonder what mine is!🤔

my mind knows you're right but my heart isn't on the same page

It's everything..my ex lives across the street,, I miss his smell, favorite foods, gestures, kiss, embrace, pets...I basically have to learn to live without him and it hurts like hell💔

Wow, thank you. This really helped me. There's no meaning behind the repeating thoughts. It's an instinctual reaction of the body, cured by focusing on something more interesting.

1) find something in your life that is more exciting than this person. A passion, a hobby, and achievement. A big goal, helping others. The only way to find your own happiness and your own groundness on things that are more tantalizing than your obsessions. We are creatures of habit.

@aehrmartinez7062

2 жыл бұрын

Good advice.

my youtube recommendation really went too far now

@astrophile_0721

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha 😂

This is such a great explanation. I think deep down anyone who's obsessive knows this, but sometimes we need someone to say it out. Thank you so much Susan!