Dr. Marks, besides the excellent advice, what I also appreciate how concise you are. Most of your videos are well under ten minutes. It really helps hold the attention.

@jrtama5

Жыл бұрын

Totally 👍

Signs you are afraid of failure: 1. Not actively pursing your goals 2. Perfectionism 3. Procrastination or other ways to self-sabotage Five ways to overcome this fear: 1. Broaden your definition of failure and success 2. Realize that failure is not always about you. There will be circumstances outside your control. 3. Don't focus on other people's endpoints. 4. Imagine the worst and prepare for it. Confidence to handle the worst will give you confidence to do your best. 5. Appreciate failure. You learn everytime you fail. Go ahead with what you know and fine tune on the way

@manasvibaheti3233

Жыл бұрын

Well summarized I just needed🎉

This video literally blew my mind. I never in my wildest dreams thought that this 6 minute video would somehow explain to me so much about myself. This somehow explains so much about my ADHD and anxiety. 🙏 Thank you

@jobunny919

3 жыл бұрын

Literally blew your mind?? I am so sorry for your injury.

This fear currently runs my life but with helpful videos like these I can practice implementing them every day until it lessens and becomes natural. Thank you

Love the concept of this channel! Also, your articulation and intonation are really pleasant to listen to. Hope you have a fun day today :)

@DrTraceyMarks

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks JE! That's a real booster for me. I appreciate it.

@pinkywinky7207

4 жыл бұрын

Do you have Major Depressive Disorder diagnosed?

My father criticized me constantly so I developed a compulsion for perfection and fear failing. I’ve begun changing my thought process by thinking what is the worse that can happen. Answer...not much in the vast majority of cases.

I used to enjoy writing stories. Over the years I began broadening my definition of failure and success to simply enjoying the act itself, and I can’t even do that anymore.

It's made me anxious, depressed and suicidal. And I've refrained from too much social interactions, where you could be judged. I'm scared of tomorrow. And the day after. I wish everyone a healthy healing process

When it comes to perfectionism, a thing that I find helpful is to think of the thing I'm doing as a first draft, or a work in progress etc.

Any books to recommend on how to loose the bad boys of sabotage and fear of success? Dr. Marks, what a lucky find you are!

@JohnM...

3 жыл бұрын

It's not really fear of success - it's a fear of the RESPONSIBILITIES that COME with success - you're scared you might not be prepared enough or capable enough. You're wrong- you are!

@Katie-vy5rd

Жыл бұрын

​@@JohnM... with all due respect without knowing her it may be difficult to say what she's exactly afraid of and why self sabotaging. I have a very complicated reason for some of my self sabotaging. But kudos to you for telling her she can do it! 😊

Thanks for this Dr. Tracey!

I have been loving your channel! It is such a positive viewing experience, with helpful tips. As a counseling student, I am learning a lot from you about how to carry myself in a professional yet genuine manner.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

That’s wonderful Carrie. I’m so glad it’s helpful for you. My later videos have been more on the psychiatric disorders than on self-improvement. This has been mostly by viewer demand. But no doubt you will still run into patients with bipolar disorder, depression or anxiety and even though A doctor may be prescribing their meds, You’ll still be helping them navigate through their day today.

@xcarriecatx

5 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks Yes, thank you for the insight Dr. Marks. My internship is coming this summer, and I am currently taking a course on diagnosing and treating adult psychopathology.

Thank you 4 making this channel. I've struggled with depression & anxiety for most of my life. Fear of failure is one of the ways its manifested.

this came right on time! I am about to start a new job fear of the unknown made me stay in an old job 20 plus years because I was familiar with it. so recently I decided to step out on faith and the anxiety and over thinking taking a toll on me

Thank you for your great videos Dr Tracey Marks. I find myself here a few times a week! I find your videos quite informative. 🤗

This was extremely helpful to me! I'm very charismatic goal-oriented and passionate about acting dance and singing but this summer I was diagnosed with dyslexia, GAD, and depression. Fear took over me completely and I found myself not wanting to move forward in pursue anything because of my anxiety and fear of failure. As of today I'm moving forward whether I fail or not! Thank you sooooo much! God bless you!🤗

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Oh wonderful Calvin. I wish you the best with your acting, dance and singing. None of those disorders have to hold you back from doing what you want to do!

Dr Tracey, thanks for your content. I love this one particularly because I definitely identify with all three signs of fear of failure that you mentioned. When I saw the title of this video, I was afraid it was going to be another video telling me to toughen up, as it will be another ‘failure’ as I fail to become brave as I “should” be. Turns out, I think your suggestions are really practical and kind, especially for people who are already critical toward themselves. I think fear of failure has a lot to do with our self talk when we don’t meet our expectations. I used to have really punishing, critical, self defeating thoughts that associate every little ‘failure’ with my entire self worth. I started avoiding more and more things. Soon, it felt like I was living half a life, seeing opportunities come and go, and I was paralyzed by fear from truly committing to anything. Eventually my self esteem became really low because I wasn’t doing anything in my life and I felt like a huge failure. It was only until I started practicing self compassion in these past two years that I learned to become more accepting and forgiving toward myself, and was able to see things from a different perspective. I’m now able to deal with ‘failures’ more healthily, and am trying to be more active in pursuing things that I care about. It’s still dead scary, but I want to try to move forward a little more. Thank you again Dr Tracey. I learned a lot from your channel. This is my first time leaving a comment. Just to let you know you have a viewer from Malaysia ❤️

Ok Dr. Tracey! you really pegged me on this one. Your video is right on time. I’ve struggled with this to some degree all my life but I noticed my fears became worse once I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease and I wasn’t able to consistently achieve even small goals. I’ve feared disappointing others ( by not being the old me) and I myself have been disappointed. It has all taken a mental toll on me. I don’t give up easy so I will find a way through this. I miss setting and achieving goals. I believe my whole mindset will have to be different. I believe I have to allow myself to dream again for starters. Somewhere along this 10 year journey of illness I became hopeless, but I want different. Thank you so much. 🌷

this is my life and ive know this abt myself since I was a teen. Now im 33 and finally started to work on the self-sabotage. It's super hard but I try everyday. Thanks for the info I appreciate you

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome. Keep pushing forward. You’ll get there. 😊

Great video Dr. Marks!

I love this woman, she helps alot and I appreciate her for it

I heard a phrase recently that helped me change my attitude. “You have permission to fail. You don’t have permission to quit.”

You are saving lives! Incredible. Thank you. 😊

Your videos are so helpful! My mindset feels much healthier since discovering a few of the therapist channels. It helps to do deep dives on a subject to find answers and keep from ruminating. Clarity is chef's kiss.

I needed this. Thank you!

@DrTraceyMarks

6 жыл бұрын

So glad Tino! You're welcome.

Thank you Dr. Marks! I've watched a number of your videos to try to understand what is holding me back creatively and I think this video hit the nail on the head so I'll be trying all five of your suggestions.

Thank you Dr. Marks

I literally only do amazing at my goals when I’m manic 🤦🏽‍♀️....it’s actually horrible.

@DrTraceyMarks

6 жыл бұрын

☹ That's why many people will like being manic. If it's not destructive it can be quite productive.

How do I began to seek counseling for mental illness? I’m dealing with complicated grief and guilt. It’s almost 3 years since I lost my husband of over 20 years. I still cry everyday. I’m stuck mentally. Can’t get out of bed. Don’t enjoy eating. I need to exercise, move my body. Despite this pandemic, there are things I could do I.e. walk at the park, there is a social distance line dance class (I was an avid line dancer before all this). That used to help going 3 times a week. Sometimes that’s ALL I was able to do all day. I feel hopeless and stuck. I watch your videos all the time and they really help by giving me a different perspective. Dr. put my on Zoloft to help with sleep, panic attacks and ptsd (I watched my husband die in the hospital). I was on about a year. It did nothing! I weaned off. I’m diabetic, so I’m aware to eat better and try hard to help my health. I’m just really stuck. I haven’t really had suicidal ideation but feel useless. I volunteer throughout the month, restricted right now but I do what I can. I had a little counseling from hospice right after he died but moved to another city. How do I start now to seek more help for myself?

@djones5636

3 жыл бұрын

I hope that since you wrote this, life has become better for you. I'm here because I have an all-consuming fear of losing my love...I'm so sorry it actually happened to you. I do hope you found relief from your grief.

i need to make an appointment with you bcus i swear on life you touch every topic i have dealt with & i feel more sane when i listen to you ... growing up raised by my dad & neglecting my issues i have been dealing with soul much more as an adult trying to heal now bcus of soo many layers ... it’s soo overwhelming i am so grateful to be here but now finding you & listening to how you explain things i feel seen & heard

thank you so much for your videos, they are so helpful!

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Margarita. 😊

Oh Dr.Tracey you did it again😄another amazing video that helps me have more insight to who I am and my problems.Your videos help me more then my own therapist.😁Your wonderful !!

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Oh I'm so glad Shorty love. Thanks for letting me know this. 🙂🤗

PTL Dr. Marks…thanks for the information; it’s very helpful, useful. I’m learning so much 💯💌!

I’m binge listening to these cuz they’re on auto play. Didn’t even want to listen but I was too lazy to turn it off I’m actually starting to feel pretty damn good

Great tips and reminder to challenge my own point of view on myself/my work - thank you!

I can really relate to this . I could relate to everything you pointed out especially the perfectionism and procrastination . I also could relate to having trouble making decisions . As someone with ADHD , bipolar and anorexia I can really relate /resonate to this video and I really needed to hear this

You're a godsend thank you. 💕

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Oh thank you so much Annette. 🤗

I like you so much! I've already seen so many videos from your useful channel! Good luck 🤗💙💛

I 💕 this channel!

Great topic! Thanks for the tips!

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome NaTasha. 👍🏼

I know this was a while ago, but these colors look great on you, Dr. Marks!

Thank you Tracey, its so Awakening that bring clarity to my confused mind and now made me ready to move ahead n face the challenges without fear of failure.

Many thanks for this video! I'll share it, hoping it will help others as well.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

You're welcome and thanks so much for sharing! 😊

Thanks. You help me so much.

Great video 👍🏽!

I'm literally about to go to an interview in 2 hours and it's something I've been praying for.. thank you so much I needed this perspective! 💯❤️❤️

@queenvic83

2 жыл бұрын

Update??

I was wondering why my comprehensive understanding is better and I'm able to not feel like it's hopeless...I have literally listened to everyone looking for answers and insights...Thank you so much for caring so much. You are helping me with some serious issues . My car caught fire and was in the hospital for I didn't know where I was and if the car was mine I didn't know

These videos are really helpful.

Great video thank u

LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!!! YOU HAVE HELPED ME SO MUCH!! Thank you X 1,000,000!!! I appreciate so much the work you do!!! 💗💗💗 Bless U!

I am fall in love with your Knowledge. U definitely very hard-working & intelligent

Great video!

Thank you doctor

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Evangeline

This really resonates with me to my core. From an early age, I was afraid of making mistakes. Now, I have a chip on my shoulder from all of the memories of how I let opportunities slip away.

wow! Nailed it..

Thank you so much 🥰😍🥰🥰

Thanks for this video here

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome Nightwing octopus. Thanks for watching.

Thanks a lot mam for this video. It's really helpful.

Oooomg this is so important!!!! ❤️ I wish I had this kind of information in my teens 😭😭😭 I've been practically taught to avoid failure by theory based planning and to not waste expensive resources, so I internalized this as everything needing to be perfect or I failed because I was being wasteful. I cannot figure out whether I have CPTSD or autism or ADHD or some combination thereof (my formal diagnosis is dysthymia and generalized anxiety, but I think they stem from something more fundamental, that this is a very superficial diagnosis, but SSRIs do help...), but it would help so much in deciding how to make the most productive decisions in my life 😢

I wish i could speak to u on 1 on 1 convo because u seem like someone who would understand me 100%❤😍thank u for existing❤❤❤❤, may Allah bless u in this life and the next

Thanks for this video, would like to know if you could talk about self esteem and how to improve self esteem, if you already have a video would you kindly point me to it.

Is fear of failure a close relative of the fear of rejection? I dreaded situations that arouse wherein sides or teams were to be chosen in social settings. An example would be gym class where teams picked. I was afraid I would be the last to be chosen. As it played out I was among the last to be chosen. I felt absolutely terrible. I started avoiding situations of that sort. I've never heard anyone talk the way you do. I surely could have benefitted from such advise many years ago as I am now well into my sixties. My hope is that young people today can learn how to cope with these devastating fears.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Thomas for your thoughts. Yes rejection is a kind of failure. You’ve failed to meet someone’s approval or meet their expectations etc.

This was a phenominal video!

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Wow thank you Dawn!

i appreciate your videos so much, do you read from a script?

amazing

Hi Dr. Marks! Amazing video! I'm codependant, bi polar, ocd and I just moved to a small town. I'm a big city girl and this town is a boring retirement town. I want to move to San Antonio, but I'm afraid to go cuz it's harder to get a good job there. After I get the money for a car and a place, I might move there.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Alright then. Even if you end up not doing what you'd like in San Antonio, you still followed your dream and that counts for something.

Hello Dr., would you make a video about panic attacks? Regards.

Dr. What is your take growth mindset? Video? Thank you.

I’ve never worked so hard in my life to fail so flagrantly as in my last job. Eventually, they gave me severance while I was on sick leave. I have no desire to try anything anymore.

Just a week ago I was so overwhelmed with the amount of academic work and the fear that the material would turn out to be even more difficult, that I couldn't get out of bed until afternoon... And still, I lost 1,5 week procrastinating when I could've started working and I'd be done in deadlines - instead, now I gotta speedrun it somehow. Every semester I tell myself to study regularly but it always ends up the same:)

I always fear of death of my loved ones. How to overcome? It is so hard to come back to normal. I imagine the incident and become fearful that had not happened

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Cognitive behavior therapy with a therapist can help

Well, right now i am avoiding my worry time because i think i may know the answer as to why i am so scared of change and why my OCD targets it. I am however afraid the thing i find isn't going to help me, and i'll end up sad. So i procrastinated well knowing i wouldn't have time to worry, thus pushing me back.

Feel the fear and do it anyhow, but to identify what to be fearful of? What do I know!

My confidence does not extend well to things that are specifically in someone else's control.

Can you please make a video on signs that the particular therapy or therapist aren't working for oneself or are even bad for you. Asking, because I had a therapy from hell, which I didn't recognize untill I was much worse that before starting it. Knowing what is ok and not ok would have helped me to break up that therapy sooner.

I really enjoy your videos; my questions is similar to what you addressed but a little different. How does one get over having to practice their religion without following all the rules? I like it mostly but i can't always live up to what is preached. Thanks

@DrTraceyMarks

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks Joseph. if you are talking about Christian beliefs, there is the element forgiveness and recognizing that no one is perfect. It's worth looking at where your guilt is coming from. Is it spiritual conviction because you’re not trying to do what’s asked of you or is it because people around you are judging you or are you being overly hard on yourself? These are questions you could ponder on

@josephjude1290

4 жыл бұрын

@@DrTraceyMarks thanks for the feedback

I did actually have a birthday party (for turning 16) where literally nobody showed up. NOBODY. You can imagine that did not help my budding depression 😔

Thank you for your helpful advice. I am the worst about fearing failure. My wife always tell me I'm smarter than I give myself credit. But I just don't see it.

@DrTraceyMarks

6 жыл бұрын

Hi Robert Salisbury! It's good you have your wife to encourage you. I hope some of the step I talked about can help you.

Hi, dr Tracy Marks. I wanna ask something. Can fear of failures lead to depression? Thanks

Does this same thought process apply to the fear of relationships?

@peggysullivan5396

4 жыл бұрын

Bryan Austin same

Definitely me. 🤔

Dr. Marks, do you do online therapy sessions?

Dr. Marks, I can't hold a job in fear of doing poorly. Does this ever go away? My last job last 2 weeks. I can't even get a job now because my resume looks like garbage.

I understand what is being said and agree with it. BUT there is no mention of the pain.. how bad it hurts. I can - and do fail over and over again and its not a problem for me... I just keep plugging along. BUT then there are things are very painful when I fail.. it doesn't work out. Those instances are the issue and that is the area where my life is frustrating

You talk only about the fear of failure but what about the fear of success too. I have severe fear of failure that I don’t attempt so many things like learning a new language because I don’t think I can learn it at my age.

Perfectionist actually fears Failure. ~yea that's true

If I had a party and no one showed up, that only means I have more food myself for the rest of the week!

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Omg that me wow

my life

Failure, ADHD, procrastination, underachieving and the list goes on. Is there any hope for me? Frustratingly no. I like to think i have something to offer the world.

01:22 I don't think I want to be things perfect to avoid things. I think I avoid things because I can't stand the long struggle with things not perfect. While playing music for example...even with friends, it's impossible to find it enjoyable enough and free of toxic perfectionism I have to deal with every single moment I'm playing

How could i be part of your email family? I want to receive the matrices/ forms in your previous videos

I used to have a PHD in Procrastinating 😆😵😂😉

My daughter has real trouble with this. She was traumatized by special ed teacher. She has no insurance, on autism spectrum and gad. She started DBT years ago but I couldn't afford to continue. I am disabled and she doesn't qualify for Medicaid. What can I do? In Augusta.

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

Search for some low cost clinics. In your area. I know someone who was only paying five dollars a session based on their income. these kinds of clinics are usually funded by nonprofit organizations.

10 kids is a huge crowd. The most I ever got was 4.

I was like that fearing fail now I don't care.

How to stop 🚫 an toxic relationship?

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

I did a video on toxic relationships kzread.info/dash/bejne/iqyotbiGYcbFeLg.html

Pls help me..im depressed..

@DrTraceyMarks

5 жыл бұрын

The help you need will require a trained professional who is giving you personalized help. You could search for a therapist in your area using psychology today website. Alternatively a lower-cost option is Better Help. They have real therapists but the difference is you can interface with them online. You can communicate via messages, phone or video. If you choose the messaging only option the cost is less and you can get a response every day. The therapists can also set goals, send you worksheets and give you personalized help. If you use this link you will get a 10% discount. betterhelp.com/drmarks