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@pratik2583

4 жыл бұрын

You produced this video... indeed you are successful!! Thanks for not letting the fear of failure come into ur way and henceforth won't come into my way as well

@ComFinEd369

4 жыл бұрын

I failed in my exams, now it's 8 years that have passed away, I want to re give my exam by fear of failure and fear of time consuming holds me back

@lisajohnson6351

3 жыл бұрын

Hang out with rich people who don’t know what to do with their money.

@reshmiali6035

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely empowering.

@theultimatereductionist7592

2 жыл бұрын

Way to avoid the galaxy in the room, dumbass: fear of failure is a fear of having wasted massive amounts of TIME (and effort).

Somewhere along the way we learn to avoid failure. Yeah, its called school.

@paulcasserly8918

4 жыл бұрын

Martin Jasiak Christ, you’re absolutely right. Carlin said it well, too. Matter of fact, I’m gon watch some Georgie now.

@UrbanNote

4 жыл бұрын

Lalalisa you should give ur self the freedom to fail. Personally failure has been the source of my depression and anxiety.

@JACk79457

4 жыл бұрын

Lalalisa I can relate. The perfectionism is what hinders me and makes me scared to fail. I know it’s good for lessons and learning, I’m still scared of it and was taught to become paralyzed by failure. I really want to get help.

@leylagolmohammadi9904

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@maryamm8379

3 жыл бұрын

Lalalisa school system of constant Evaluation is encouraging this fear of failure when it should do the opposite

I think the biggest fear I have that has been preventing me from doing my work is my fear of failing to reach my full potential... I have way too high of expectations of myself, but it's because I know I can accomplish a lot if I set my mind to it and stay disciplined. But the mountain of expectations is so high and daunting to look at that I scare myself away from even starting my work. Does anyone else experience this or is it just me?

@fitforfreelance

3 жыл бұрын

This happens to almost everyone! It helps if you practice confidence, realistic focus, and accountability to reach your goals. I talk about it in my fear of failure video!

@EyesHoleMedia

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely ... do you think you are a perfectionist? I am to a degree and that tends to kill my motivation. That is, if I can see what my goals look like in perfection, but I can’t see exactly HOW to get to that level, I shut down. And that makes no sense ... because: 1) virtually no one knows exactly how to achieve perfection without trying/failing 2) perfection doesn’t really exist in the first place ... if you see someone achieve perfection, chances are they would tell you that they have several criticisms of their work ... you see it as perfect because you can’t see the original vision in their head So I’ve been having some success with breaking down my goal into very small pieces ... there’s no pressure to achieve perfection with just a portion of the goal ... and give myself permission to work on it in a messy attempt to master that little aspect. Then I move to another. Starting a non-goal is much easier, and when you put the pieces together you are either happy with the result or you’ve gotten far along and can continue to hone it. That said ... are you sure you don’t have a fear of success instead??

@fitforfreelance

3 жыл бұрын

@@EyesHoleMedia I think it's a matter of breaking the goals down how you described. Maybe it's fear of success, but I suggest fear of success is not a thing. Why would you be afraid of it? I would consider it a fear of failure of advanced responsibility and capabilities

@EyesHoleMedia

3 жыл бұрын

@@fitforfreelance I understand your questioning the very idea of "fear of success" but it is very real. I am an extremely private person and every level of success almost guarantees an equal level of exposure ... a giving up of privacy. Just being on social media for my career is extremely uncomfortable but there is no way to avoid it in these ridiculously hyper-social times.

@fitforfreelance

3 жыл бұрын

@@EyesHoleMedia good point. Sorry it's like that. I'm wishing you well and that you have strategies that work for you ✊🏾

I think the best way to get over the fear of failure is to do it. Normally when people take action towards their fears they actually realize it wasn't so bad.

@unleashingpotential-psycho9433

5 жыл бұрын

@@MindNow hello friend :)

@RS-io6vm

5 жыл бұрын

amazingly outlook on how to learn to tie your shoe or ride a bike.

@Dan3333333335

5 жыл бұрын

Can confirm. After running for about 4 different leadership positions at my school and getting none of them, it paradoxically seems to bother me less the more I lose. What’s the difference between losing one and losing a hundred?

@shivam_bhalla

5 жыл бұрын

I totally agree although its easier said than done. I also just published a video on fear of failure which goes hand in hand for fear of rejection. Its also my first video, so I hope it can be useful to others!

@Tim-K.

4 жыл бұрын

Dr. Peterson once said, that when you encounter your fears you realize you underestimated yourself, because life is hard, but we’re as well.

This is exactly why I've never understood the logic behind a "failure is not an option" mindset. There is no success without failure. How can you expect to grow if you cannot accept failure?

@CASH-TO-THE-MERE101

4 жыл бұрын

JoanRudith 🔥🔥🔥 yet, there is no such thing as failures; only experiences over time..

@ShiroHimex

3 жыл бұрын

"we have to save the hostages without alerting the enemy to our presence. Failure is not an option."

@JoanRudith

3 жыл бұрын

@@ShiroHimex Good one!! Those are the only situatios where it make sense. Imagie treating every aspect of life as a life or death, hostage situation! LOL I know folks who do though!

@ShiroHimex

3 жыл бұрын

@@JoanRudith Yes, not every failure has major consequences. Me and your failures have probably only become funny stories with little to no consequences~

@JoanRudith

3 жыл бұрын

@@ShiroHimex I think I see your mother's failures. I'm sad for her.

Im still suffering from extreme fear of failure to the point that that I’m totally dysfunctional and started doubting myself and to perform any task if any. My biggest concern is that you don’t have indefinite amount of times you fail. People around ( workplace, university,..etc) are unlikely to have the patience to wait until you succeed. They will get frustrated and then desprate measures are likely to follow ( expelled from university, forcing you to resign, ..etc) That makes me totally uncomfortable with the idea of failing, and I try to avoid being in such situation as soon as I feel threatened by the failure. Very sad :’(

@helenmarshall3799

3 жыл бұрын

But what about the regret if you don't try? Read The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. If you think fail, you will fail. Ok, the path may not be straight forward and there will be set-backs but I believe you can achieve most things to a measure of success to feel you have done it. Better that, than not try.

@poulamighosh4080

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah same here. Trying for an entrance test. There are not indefinite numbers of times that i can try and Everything in my life cannot wait for one exam and the ensuing degree. So what happens if i fail to get my dream job? Will i be unhappy? Will i be looked down upon? Will the burden of regret be too heavy?

@sophiafake-virus2456

2 жыл бұрын

I relate to this, I have been paralysed for years by fear of failure, and now my life is nearly over.

@adityakaundilya9975

2 жыл бұрын

@@sophiafake-virus2456 i always say to myself "it is what it os".

''...you'll never get approval of everyone, so don't waste time, trying" Brilliant !!!

To get over the fear of failure, have the mindset that everything will be ok and start doing it with that mindset

@justapassingbycommenterrem5642

3 жыл бұрын

Mine's yolo f*ck it hehe

@beril0

3 жыл бұрын

The thing is that it's hard to find that mindset

@ryadh456

2 жыл бұрын

@@beril0 agreed

@peoduction6068

2 жыл бұрын

Lmao stfu the most basic thing

No one sees the process. The secret is hidden in the daily practice.

@PutYoRhymeOn

4 жыл бұрын

Yep, that's how the kids do it in school who seem to get A's without trying; they look around at 3AM, no one's looking, then crack out their pencil and paper

@r011ing_thunder6

2 жыл бұрын

@@PutYoRhymeOn ..no they just have good time management and paid attention and practice. Nobody is doing school work at 3AM.

@yoshikagekira7600

2 жыл бұрын

@@PutYoRhymeOn you got it completely wrong. everyone requires different amount of effort to get thing done based on their past learning and experiences. only few exceptions are like what u mentioned. don't generalize that thought.

@PutYoRhymeOn

2 жыл бұрын

@@yoshikagekira7600 both of you r/wooosh that was sarcasm

Video starts at 5:53

@SSCCGL-ph9eb

Жыл бұрын

Thank you

I have such a huge fear of failure, and dying without anyone knowing I existed. I always end up feeling like more of a failure though because I never try new things, resulting in me having nothing of importance to my life. I’ve been alive a while, and have nothing to show for it. God. Literally whenever I think of this crap I start sobbing, which makes it 10x harder to fix my problem..

@kristinakostadinova1836

2 жыл бұрын

In order to make yourself try something new without the fear of failure, then don't set goals for this thing (at least initially). You need this in order not to put labels of whether you succeeded or not - determining success would be impossible if you don't have a goal. Also, choose activities where "success" is very difficult to see or define except if you try hard to put some measuring system. For example, have a walk in the mountains, don't define how long or anything, just go there just as a hobby, literally, even if it's 5 min, even if it's 1 min. If you like it, continue doing it and before long the people will know you as "the hiking person". Then there you have something of importance in your life! Secretly your goal will be to just try new things! And if you just do it, without thinking about success or failure of the new thing, then you would succeed in trying new things and eventually find what inspires you the most. Then you can transition in being better at it etc. Other examples - try origami, without thinking how the piece will look like at the end, the important part would be that you tried to fold a sheet for a while! If you found the process nice, then just do it again. Or try gardening - get a few yoghurt cups, will with soil, get some seeds of a random herb, e.g. basil. Seed, water and just watch!

Sadly, most of us live in a society where failure is discouraged in the form of people lambasting us like we are the worst thing to happen in this world…. >. But I guess in the eyes of many, especially higher-ups, people who teach this will never be good teachers because they want factory-grown “perfect” people….. Oh, and I find it ironic that schools teach about great people, nevermind that most of them had failures too and not the perfect beings they love glossing over…..

@renehenriksen1735

5 жыл бұрын

School distorts everything…..

@avirakhairunisa8748

4 жыл бұрын

Its because theyre mad and embarrassed at their OWN failure thats why they inflict it on others.

~~~"ACTION is the foundational key to all SUCCESS."~~~ Pablo Picasso

@eduuklee9453

5 жыл бұрын

NO, action has to be well considered and ALLWAYS reflect your honest opinion and your real desires. just action for the sake of action is wrong as fuk, i bet picasso really wanted to make beautiful art, but all his well trained bad habits of action just for the sake of action converted everything he tryd to do automatically into his "special" art style. congratulations picasso you have successfully fooled yourself. he stood up every morning for many years to draw some despikable garbage just for the sake of action, on purpose. and that was his punishment because he grow into being unable to draw anythign else.

@mason4903

2 жыл бұрын

What are you doing here? Has you asked anyone on this in Vr?

The concept of "my own thoughts are external, I just hear them" is gold. Thanks!

"measure your success not by your ability to avoid mistakes but by your ability to show up and do the work, no matter what "

this is the best piece of advice i have gotten in a while, i constantly struggle with the fear of failure, i think about what others might say if i fail, i thought that if i failed it meant i was stupid but i was wrong, because if i am to succeed i have to accept that i'm going to fail but through consistency i can conquer ALL

YOUR VIDEOS NEVER FAIL TO HELP ME.....

@TheArtofImprovement

5 жыл бұрын

I'm pleased they help

Never fear to fail as " the more u sweat in drills the less u bleed in field"

@brianphipps714

3 жыл бұрын

Wow amazing that just hit home!

With overcoming failure it's the trauma that stays with it and prevents to overcome it

I need to start my own podcast and video logs but im extremely hesitant of fear of the unknown

I believe it comes down to your perspective, see failure as a lesson to be better.

I think I read some of the details you discussed in the book "The subtle art of not giving a f*ck."

Absolutely FANTASTIC video. I know you aren't going to care too much about your audiences response--and you're wise not to!--but this was genuine, honest, and very enlightening. Thank you!

Thank you Patrik for sharing these thoughts with me. I'm glad you never quit so that I could ponder on these today.

Thank you for this video. My job involves public speaking. I have fallen into a pattern of butchering my way through, with little prep, and then fall way below my own standards. When I finished my speaking today, a colleague said I did well, but my client told me how nervous and underconfident I sounded. About 12 hours later, I’m still sitting here disappointed and ashamed and guilty over my performance. There have been plenty of times I have butchered these moments and just let myself spiral out in shame and hide...and I realize failing to prep is part of that hiding. I am not new to my career which makes it more embarrassing that I’ve let this go on for so long, but I’m ready to practice to improve, instead of living out a self-fulfilling prophecy of failure because I don’t try to improve because I’m avoiding the pain of future failure. I had even changed my mantra from do your best to basically “do the amount that you can live with.” Maybe I’ve even fallen below that. I have been giving myself tough love all day and am ready to change and put the work in and show up, but I also came here for comfort and encouragement. Anything anyone can spare. Have a good day

@MH-lg1iu

Жыл бұрын

How has it gone since then?

@MegaHotdiggity

Жыл бұрын

@@MH-lg1iu I fell off the wagon and am back to my old ways of bumbling through, feeling guilty/incompetent, and repeating. I’ll re-watch this video and see if I can return to a good place

"Failure is not an option" is one of the things they constantly told throughout public school.

Hey Patrik.. I can't thank you enough for this video. I had been so much gripped by the fear of failure from the past days just because I didn't score well in a test. Your video was literally therapeutical for me.

good stuff honestly . ive never thought of my own insecurities that i think about as external thoughts . thank you . i'll practice reminding myself that they aren't me and that i have to do the work no matter what .

"Success demands failure" Great video...

The sphere of choice is the best technique I have found till now to get over my daily fears and anxieties. Brilliant technique.

i am struggle fear of being judge..i am weak, ,thats why when î see the first one who protected and concern about me i cant talk to him and say thank you for evreything i pretend that i never see him ..because my fear attacks me again.why my fear is stupid..failure is not option i know but sometimes i am lack of confidence ,for being my self i am only proud that i never gave up of my faith.. hopefully times come god will heal it♥️

This was absolutely amazing! The greatest things I learned and will put into practice are; The Sphere of Choice, control the controllables (the internals) & let of my hang ups (the externals). Success demands failure. And probably the most important thing; my success is measured by my ability to show up and do the work no matter what! Thank you so much for this! If I put in the work, which I will, it be game changing for me!!!

@ajmackey8901

3 жыл бұрын

@@jamezegg Life is good! Still working on controlling the controllables, but overall life is good! What about yourself?

It's so crazy to realize that our thoughts are in the external category as something we can't control. 🤯

It helps me to find examples of when I have done something others have been afraid of. If I can be brave then I can be brave now. Easier said than done. I also recommend tough mudder-the amount of fear you overcome is amazing!

That was beautiful, Sir The Art of Improvement. As cliche as it is to say, “I needed that.” Thank you.

I recently uploaded a similar video about facing fear. The recipe that worked for me was: accepting, questioning and challenging fear.

WOW! This is so insightful!! I thank you so much for making this video as it helped me so much! I have the same problem on fearing failure, paralyzing perfectionism, never starting or finishing due to fear, not feeling good enough and all those awful thoughts. I never thought about seeing them as "external" instead of "internal"! "I am NOT my thoughts, I am the one who hears them..." that is incredible. I never thought of that!

Thanks Art of Improvement. Your videos add a lot of value to my life. I keep seeing you in my suggested video feed, and I love it whenever I decide to put time towards your content. It's about time I actually subscribe. I'm excited to put the external/internal mental exercise to work the next time I feel fear!

This video was so helpful. It gave me a tool to use for evaluating my thoughts as external noise. Very liberating!! thank you!!

Do it no matter what! Excellent reminder, thank you 🙏♥️

You make it so simple. THANK YOU

These videos are great I can't get enough! Keep up the good work man!!

Thank you for this amazing video!

Thank you! I needed this, and I needed it right now.

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What a great video. Thank you so much encouraging me again!

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bro u nailed it !! thanks for this video means a lot

Thank you...sucks when you get the worst anxiety when this occurs.

Most of us just want quantifiable data and don't understand the value of psychological growth!

I loved this!!! Thank you so much for s2

Hey man , thanks this video really helps . I am an student of 10th satndard and you know I have been brought up in. A surrounding where if you fail , you are mocked for that for your whole entire life. My family members do it too whenever I try doing something they don't like , they just make me recall of my failure and how everyone just made fun of me . Thanks man . This really helped. I just hope you have a happy life ahead

thank you for this, it helped out of a dark place today

Great advice!!! Helped a lot! Thank you!!!

Thank you for this. I really needed it to sort out some things that have given me great anxiety.

Great explanation and advice! From my experience, I truly believe that if the situation is not out of our hands, we can overcome the problems that lead to a failure by a diligent planning and consistent practice! Thank you!

thanks for the insights. amazing work.

Wow such a great video! Very helpful and awesome content! Perfect timing. This channel is going to get a lot of subscribers.

I completely agree with the stoic philosopher Epic-Tities on the concept of things being outside or inside someone's bra of capabilites.

Thank you. I needed that.

Sir I absolutely appreciate your content. 👍🏽

The Sphere of Choice is something new to me. This is helpful. Thanks.

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THANK YOU SO MUCH! This helped me a lot :)

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Oh ! Screw it. Just do it. That is, take actions. Do it often and the fear of failure is certain.

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