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How To Stop Caring What People Think of You | 3 Simple Steps

How to stop caring what people think? Simple, use these 3 steps.
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In this video I share with you the simple way to stop caring what people think, and the three steps to claiming all of the approval you want.
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Ever wondered how you can stop caring about what other people think of you? It's pretty simple. Today we outline the way that you can go ahead and regain approval and validation for yourself. You won't have to worry about what others think of you, and you won't be obsessed with everyone else's opinion about you.
This video will explain how you can begin to feel great about yourself, and approve of yourself, and the things you must tell yourself on a daily basis in order to not feel the need of approval, and to completely stop caring what other people think.

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  • @simonwang4389
    @simonwang43896 жыл бұрын

    sometimes you gotta be selfish, because in the end there is only you.

  • @weza308
    @weza3086 жыл бұрын

    I always used to think "does this person likes me ?", but I ended up not giving a damn because you are amazing the way you are, and no one has the right to say that that's not true. There's people that are not going to like you, that's life. You just got to have confidence. And always think " I am worth it, I am powerful and I am amazing" that's how I stopped thinking of other people's thoughts about me. Hope this helped someone, have a great Monday !!!😄

  • @koachkartier915
    @koachkartier9156 жыл бұрын

    I dont give A FUCK what people think of me. Starting now!

  • @geovannygerman1939
    @geovannygerman19396 жыл бұрын

    I don't care what people think of me, oh my God I needed this so much, I've been hiding my true personality for a long time because I was afraid of hurting anyone's feelings, but what I've been doing is hurting myself for not being who I really am and seeking approval, but now I will turn into an asshole and feel good with myself, thank you I really needed this

  • @geovannygerman1939

    @geovannygerman1939

    6 жыл бұрын

    Traveler Trash thank you very much for the kind words, is always good to feel about oneself without caring if people will like you or not, but pretending to be someone you are not you only lying to yourself and that's what I was doing

  • @ceonna3362

    @ceonna3362

    5 жыл бұрын

    same

  • @wfmjovanamiljkovic
    @wfmjovanamiljkovic7 жыл бұрын

    My parents are hurting my feelings and exepting more from me than I can achieve, I want to just not take everything that much personal.

  • @dhawals502

    @dhawals502

    4 жыл бұрын

    Speak your heart to them... And be clear on what you will do. Take a stand for yourself... For what you want in life... Then you will value yourself and when you value yourself... The world will slowly start valuing you... That's how your start working on your pathhh. Peace and love!

  • @rojangameryt4377

    @rojangameryt4377

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yeah, they are thinking of your future better by hurting your present self...

  • @harshalMali111

    @harshalMali111

    2 жыл бұрын

    You should born in India. You'll find your parents are so gentle.

  • @eldante4139
    @eldante4139 Жыл бұрын

    I care a LOT less than I used to. I have anxiety and depression and used to take everything so personally. And sometimes that still happens BUT over past couple years I’ve had to find strength to overcome battles and to find a way that whatever happens in life, whatever people say, I can remain grounded and be able to keep going whatever. It’s not easy but you have to keep working at it.

  • @NGRjunk
    @NGRjunk7 жыл бұрын

    One day when I achieved my ultimate goal in life. I'll get up on the stage and mention this video for the audiences to watch. Thanks dude, this is amazing.

  • @mekomaxxing
    @mekomaxxing5 жыл бұрын

    i’ve tried this stuff and it honestly works super well. everyday i tell myself that i’m doing ok and i’m doing fine and i shouldn’t care what others think and overtime it’s work super well! sure i still need improvement and i have my moments but when it comes down to things i really don’t care about others opinions.

  • @sony3238

    @sony3238

    4 жыл бұрын

    Well I'm hopping ur doing even better my friend !! I'm starting as right now w this tons of bless from El Salvador ♡

  • @ajasajumi5342

    @ajasajumi5342

    4 жыл бұрын

    Keep going dear...Me too...

  • @alsfowafafwajg
    @alsfowafafwajg6 жыл бұрын

    I am so tired of caring so much about others. It's draining and i want to stop. Maybe at some point i won't care anymore.

  • @Dylan-eh1ue

    @Dylan-eh1ue

    6 жыл бұрын

    SeekerOfInnocence I’m to the point to where I don’t care what others say either like F it all it is what it is

  • @saradauchiha9151
    @saradauchiha91516 жыл бұрын

    from now i will never care about what people say and i will be myself and wont copy others or try to change my self . thanks for the video rafael thanks a bunch

  • @sunnychoc5
    @sunnychoc56 жыл бұрын

    I did until i realize that no matter what i did they would never like me. If i did good or bad, they still did not like me and worst....i did not like me. So i decided that me liking me was better because i have to be with me forever but in time i would not be with them.

  • @joseprado2872

    @joseprado2872

    6 жыл бұрын

    Kushina sameee

  • @mrsk8016
    @mrsk80166 жыл бұрын

    I found this video really helpful. I suffer with anxiety and over think and over analyse everything and am constantly worrying about other people's perceptions of me. I really want to be one of those people who doesn't care what people think so it's something I'm working to change 😊

  • @MyselfAMW
    @MyselfAMW6 жыл бұрын

    I do care a lot about that people thinks about me. And after watching this video I've realiced taht maybe I was trying to find approval in the wrong people. Thanks for such a nice video.

  • @michaelp5283
    @michaelp52832 жыл бұрын

    If people figure out you need their approval they'll never give it to you! Great point!

  • @amoney2570
    @amoney25706 жыл бұрын

    I think the best way to get over this is to realize that everyone is kind of stupid, yourself included. No one is perfect, every single person has bad qualities, good qualities, etc. we are constantly thinking higher up of others and making ourselves seem not as good as them so you want to impress them. This is the issue. If you just realize not to take humanity so seriously and that we all don't know what we're doing, it is easier to not care.

  • @Loveyourmotherearth
    @Loveyourmotherearth5 жыл бұрын

    I have bad anxiety and I get upset easily about what people tell me but this is helping me thank you so much

  • @nonyaloser633

    @nonyaloser633

    5 жыл бұрын

    Olivia Rodriguez same, it sucks

  • @Loveyourmotherearth

    @Loveyourmotherearth

    5 жыл бұрын

    @@nonyaloser633 but it gets better

  • @nonyaloser633

    @nonyaloser633

    5 жыл бұрын

    Olivia Rodriguez your right

  • @simonevans5248
    @simonevans52485 жыл бұрын

    The best way to be with people you don't like if you have to spend time with them is only speak if you're spoken to!

  • @5hadœwbånnedbyyou
    @5hadœwbånnedbyyou6 жыл бұрын

    In certain cases a lot of people need to care what others think of them. We refer to them as job interviews, therapy, parole boards for hearings, meeting parents of a future spouse etc.

  • @msbrownie8248

    @msbrownie8248

    6 жыл бұрын

    picture me trollin' ugh in context mate in context

  • @blackqweenmars

    @blackqweenmars

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yep if I want friends or jobs or anything I need to care

  • @ash_luscious
    @ash_luscious2 жыл бұрын

    I am not seeking approval from others Brainwash yourself with a different story I don't care what people think of me Don't need their approval I approve myself Hold this story in your mind 3 min a day atleast Sometimes no matter how Stay away reject their information Say " this is useless to me Keep applying steps =habit

  • @lilkerek1012
    @lilkerek10127 жыл бұрын

    I'm always thinking what people think of me. Even strangers. I just can't handle this anymore. This is ruining me. My mind is always full of: he didn't laugh at my joke, he ignored me, why he don't like me... but now I will try to work with myself:) Thanks for the video bro:)

  • @merneon9115

    @merneon9115

    7 жыл бұрын

    DreamzDraws I know exactly how you feel man, I've been going to the gym recently and I feel stronger than ever I highly recommend you to go to the gym.

  • @rehamadomay7899
    @rehamadomay78992 жыл бұрын

    just before I watch this video Im already doing these things and it's true, it really works. I don't really mind what other people think of me or I don't seek approval and be mindful and present at anywhere. I feel comfortable wherever I am and in everything I do. I feel free and comfortable.

  • @kuro-kuro127
    @kuro-kuro1276 жыл бұрын

    I’ve been struggling with what people think of me for years. It’s too the point where I’ve, what me niece explains to me... Lost myself. I couldn’t explain it, as I usually try to. But it felt so correct. Who am I? What do I do? Why? I barely even pay attention. Possibly hushing that other inner voice. That voice that wonders so much about the way other people see me as. Their thoughts. Their hopes. That I can finally keep focusing on my beliefs. (Something I need to remember as well) I’ll do my best to remember this information.

  • @Malik-yg8ls
    @Malik-yg8ls6 жыл бұрын

    This is the one video on the Internet that has actually given me hope of going back to school now that the summer is over so thank you

  • @onlygodcreates9500
    @onlygodcreates95007 жыл бұрын

    I agree a lot with the 2. At work, there's an old lady, just because we've had one single conflict, that seemed to never will get off of her mind, no matter how much i have helped her, she does not remember that but only the conflict. So just stay away from people like that! Mentally... because you might have to work or study with them. But you can control your thoughts.

  • @icequeen6756
    @icequeen67567 жыл бұрын

    honestly, I just don't care what other people think of me anymore. why? because I learned from myself including my friends or some people that I realized opinions or negative words won't matter to me because those words are not who I really are. since earlier, I had enough about my frustration from other people online so I tell myself to someone I love that "I am a Queen and a goddess. I am still the strong and most beautiful girl in the world and I don't care what people think of me or roast me in the comments no matter what! and I'm leaving those kind of people who put me down by blocking them".

  • @64Magick
    @64Magick7 жыл бұрын

    AVOID using negative words like; DON'T, CANNOT, NEVER, WON'T especially in affirmations or afformations.

  • @64Magick

    @64Magick

    7 жыл бұрын

    It's all good. You have good intentions, so thank U!

  • @nickyseccia3478
    @nickyseccia34782 жыл бұрын

    People must eliminate the thoughts and emotions degreenesses because thoughts and emotions are our worst enemy. Must always be a fluid mind

  • @yunggambit9446
    @yunggambit94466 жыл бұрын

    This helped so much man, I really appreciate it. I started a new college recently and when I got there I was so scared, but I just kept saying in my head that I didn't care what they thought of me, I then told some jokes and people started to like me, my social life hasn't been this good in ages, thanks alot!

  • @schuylercapita8099
    @schuylercapita80997 жыл бұрын

    This video changed my life completely, thank you for what you have done for me!

  • @riripurpletini
    @riripurpletini6 жыл бұрын

    omg finally something concise. other vids were too wordy and never really offered the 'how' part. thank you!!

  • @hnorto
    @hnorto4 жыл бұрын

    I'm watching this every morning from here on out. Your awesome.

  • @RafaelEliassen

    @RafaelEliassen

    4 жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoy it!

  • @brendadrew834
    @brendadrew8347 жыл бұрын

    "BE INDEPENDENT OF THE GOOD AND BAD OPINIONS BY OTHERS" as per a brilliant life coach here at KZread University! WHY? His answer...."because they could be dead tomorrow and it doesn't really matter what they say or think in the end"!!! Good enough reason for me! Good video...thanks for sharing!

  • @asuaiemmanuel7296
    @asuaiemmanuel72967 жыл бұрын

    Wow this is really awesome. For so long I've been doing things just to seek the approval of my parents and friends. Even when i do my best to satisfy them, i still have this thought inside me saying i need to do more. i really can't tell if they are unconsciously making me think this way. This have made my self-esteem low, but from now on i'm done with that. I'll start doing things to gain just my approval. Thanks a lot for this video.

  • @mozaalhamadi3335
    @mozaalhamadi33356 жыл бұрын

    I don't care what they say. I ROCK!

  • @curlygirl1354
    @curlygirl13547 жыл бұрын

    I'm actually really happy that I came across this video. It's so inspiring. I always kept my mouth shut, in fear of others opinions of me. I literally sometimes feel socially paralyzed. It's like something happens that you don't approve of ,but just in the midst of the incident... You stop yourself from speaking up. I don't even know where it started. I don't want to be like this, however, I do want to express myself openly without hurting anyone ,but I also realize my happiness comes first. It is still a work in progress. I want to come out of my shell and stop being timid ,but first I got to reprogram my thinking. This is going to be a long journey 😅

  • @sharonz2779

    @sharonz2779

    7 жыл бұрын

    Curly Girl I'm in the exact situation as you are. People don't understand how its like to not be able to communicate like others even when you have many things to say. It makes me look weird around people. I feel embarrassed whenever people notice how quite and unresponsive I am especially in collage. I pray that this is curable. Good luck

  • @curlygirl1354

    @curlygirl1354

    7 жыл бұрын

    vena rina thank you and good luck to you too. I also like to watch Infinite Waters by a guy named Ralph. He has great videos on how to come out of your shell and just be yourself. Something I'm starting to learn is you can't please everyone. You can either be hated for being yourself or hated for pretending to be something you're not. We'll get there lol it's not going to be easy but we'll definitely get there 😊

  • @tykaysiabrown8428
    @tykaysiabrown84287 жыл бұрын

    when you're an artist and you're very conflicted about this video. but I will still listen and learn from this video

  • @mrsemifixit
    @mrsemifixit7 жыл бұрын

    Quick tip, stop and realize that every person is thinking same thing about you and looking for YOUR validation as well. So remember that and it'll help

  • @lobostriker85
    @lobostriker854 жыл бұрын

    I get judged and hated on all the time right off the bat. People tell me I have a very intense look to me and it makes me look confrontational and unapproachable. Most people take one look at me and assume I'm a douche for my appearance as well as the fact that I mind my own business and carry myself with confidence. Understand that people are ignorant as fuck and will size you up immediately and if there is one thing they don't like about you they will just write you off and not even give you a chance to show them that their assumptions are wrong. People will believe only what they want to believe. Very small minded and conformist thinking. Freakin clowns.....I just laugh at them.

  • @RafaelEliassen

    @RafaelEliassen

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing! This video might help you a bit more actually: kzread.info/dash/bejne/mnt207OQqdScj5s.html

  • @nathangrant1111
    @nathangrant11112 жыл бұрын

    the thing stopping me from doing this is the really judgemental people, but i guess their opinions don’t matter

  • @AlchemyBC
    @AlchemyBC6 жыл бұрын

    I used to care, now I am 100 percent authentic. Mucho gracias!

  • @IainRayiru
    @IainRayiru5 жыл бұрын

    Just what I needed to see right now. Thanks!

  • @RafaelEliassen

    @RafaelEliassen

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you and glad you enjoyed the video

  • @vrstyle_2376
    @vrstyle_23766 жыл бұрын

    But remember theirs a difference between not caring and being ignorant

  • @ben10alienforceism
    @ben10alienforceism5 жыл бұрын

    Thanks bro it's inspirational what I needed right now i had best friends they kept telling me to do all their work and at a certain point I almost started to fear them because they started to create more problems and I have to clean up their mess and so I left them and was happier but they became so jealous and started to curse me wherever I go and at a certain one idiot who was my ex close friend started to scream at me for no reason and he started to tell how can u be happy after u left us I will not let u be happy like this. I left them because even though I cared for them when I was with them they never cared for me they only used me like an animal but after I left them they are jelous of my happiness I was afraid of them for a certain point but after watching this I finally feel a little lightness in my heart thanks for the video

  • @lu666ile
    @lu666ile5 жыл бұрын

    THIS IS GREAT I FEEL MUCH BETTER

  • @RafaelEliassen

    @RafaelEliassen

    4 жыл бұрын

    Thank you

  • @user-sc1he2rf9x
    @user-sc1he2rf9x6 жыл бұрын

    I worry about what people think of me and really enjoyed this video and wrote down the excercise and want to try it. Thanx alot keep'em coming!

  • @metawyrm
    @metawyrm6 жыл бұрын

    Surely it's a normal part of human empathy to care what others think of you, as you care about them. You don't want them to not care about you at all - people just get annoyed when they're not thought of in the ways they'd like to be thought of. eg. the classic 'no one understands me' line. To not care at all what people think of you would be to completely disconnect from other people. What most people mean when they say this is 'not care about the bad things other people think about me, only the good.'

  • @matthewmiranda5498
    @matthewmiranda54986 жыл бұрын

    My social anxiety is slowly killing me😭

  • @loneosama1

    @loneosama1

    6 жыл бұрын

    try doing meditation. it helps but atleast do it for a month 5 min a day to see a visual effect. I overcame my anxieties that way. Some anxiety will always be with you. You have to accept that fist god made us like that. But too much of anything is bad. So try and may Allah bless you.

  • @mynamehere45
    @mynamehere455 жыл бұрын

    I never care what other people think. I am An absolute Success

  • @xDerWahl
    @xDerWahl8 жыл бұрын

    This video was very satisfying for me to watch, because I started these steps by my self when I was 17. I did not feel very successful or attractive (no girlfriend etc.), till I kept telling my self to give a fk about what people think of me and that im a pretty cool guy (even if I did not feel like that, I kept on telling it to myself). Now a few years have passed, and I got to say: I feel self-confident, attractive and authentic. And people like it, so your video fits very well. I think these steps are very important to be happy and content in life.

  • @warfighter1988
    @warfighter19886 жыл бұрын

    This really helps me I have a spinal issue that causes my face and body to be under a ton of pressure the whole time which turns my face red I really am working on not giving a fuck about anyone to still continue my life and face the judgemental looks I see out of almost everyone

  • @kierarose3966

    @kierarose3966

    6 жыл бұрын

    ☺hope your ok

  • @warfighter1988

    @warfighter1988

    6 жыл бұрын

    Kiera Rose doing the best i can thank you for taking to time tp typ that 😁

  • @growandprosper8463
    @growandprosper84638 жыл бұрын

    your videos are incredible, always look forward to the next one. i used to always care what people thought, because i was convinced that the world revolved around me, then i realized everyone has similar insecurities

  • @addicted2myworld
    @addicted2myworld8 жыл бұрын

    Hmm yes... reject the negative opinions. I've never known how to deflect them! Now I do :)

  • @sohaibahmed226
    @sohaibahmed2267 жыл бұрын

    To be honest I have to be real with myself I do care. Like I care if I get called selfish greedy anything like that. It does get to me. I realized though that sometimes I have to confront these people like my older brother. But hey thats a helpful example at the beginning rich get richer poor get poorer.

  • @folatooreal8582
    @folatooreal85826 жыл бұрын

    I’m constantly reminding myself that I’m good and I don’t need anyone’s approval. It’s scary at first but to be honest I’m more scared of living of life approval seeking than not. And ironically that’s when you get more validations

  • @BeOutstanding
    @BeOutstanding3 жыл бұрын

    Great Content Thank You Rafael Brainwash urself Build conf I don't care. I just don't care I approve myself. I value own opin Block out some ppl Be you

  • @BLohr707
    @BLohr7077 жыл бұрын

    And starting now! Hell yeah I dig this.

  • @bigslimsanantoniotx6483
    @bigslimsanantoniotx64836 жыл бұрын

    Totally awesome i changed my story I am a great father n man etc

  • @mssummerrose1
    @mssummerrose16 жыл бұрын

    2:40 I'd rather choose the way (good) parents talk to their children by encouraging them... I'll from now on tell myself: "I am/you are good" "I can/you can do this"... "I can/ you can learn everything you need to know for what you want to achieve" etc. ... B/c it's not about not caring what others think, b/c they may have a point and it is also important not to create unnecessary negative vibes, but to create an inner circle of encouragement, and if you don't have ppl like this, create your inner support and be your own mentor and the best friend you could ever have

  • @vanissaberg5824

    @vanissaberg5824

    6 жыл бұрын

    Well said!

  • @chocobochick5390

    @chocobochick5390

    5 жыл бұрын

    that's good. Personally, I just say, "fuck it."

  • @darkhorse7564
    @darkhorse75647 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so so so much...this is exactly what i needed to hear..somehow..people seem to be wanting more and more..no matter how hard i try to change..i dont get credit..only more criticism. somewhere down the line i started to lose myself. i wanted some help in building myself up and then came up your vdo..and i know somewhere somehow it clicked. thanks a ton really!

  • @tobiasdraws2597
    @tobiasdraws25976 жыл бұрын

    Me: I don't think they like me. Person: It's not about what everyone wants. It's about what you want. Me: I WANT THEM TO LIKE ME!

  • @justinharris2054

    @justinharris2054

    6 жыл бұрын

    Tobias Draws the people you always try to impress and want them to like you are the ones who will never give a fucking shit about you. truthfully, harsh but truth. people can see you want which pushes them away and when you don't give a fuck that attracts them like fucking flies. keep ya head up and just don't give a fuck

  • @melissashives8191
    @melissashives81916 жыл бұрын

    I did care what people think me but not what they say so this will help

  • @nez4157
    @nez41575 жыл бұрын

    I sometimes care and i sometimes dont

  • @PhineaBlue
    @PhineaBlue7 жыл бұрын

    I'm usually helping people out when in need. It's also part of my job as an assistant. But it turned out that I'm doing all the work because everybody knows I won't let them down. They're actually just using me. I often tried to just say "No" or "I don't care, it's not my problem/job to do" but they won't understand since I'd always done it before. How do I start to not care anymore without everybody freaking out over that sudden change of my behavior? (...and just now I realize that, once again, I'm caring too much about other people. Oh my... :'-)

  • @PhineaBlue

    @PhineaBlue

    7 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much, I'll definitely work on it! :)

  • @emperorkang
    @emperorkang6 жыл бұрын

    way ahead of you....

  • @shayla9894
    @shayla98944 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for this, it really did help me❤❤

  • @RafaelEliassen

    @RafaelEliassen

    4 жыл бұрын

    So happy it did!

  • @okiyayboop3208
    @okiyayboop32087 жыл бұрын

    Oh my god i was thinking about grade 6 and high school everyday someone is calling someone a mean name I was scared 😳 but then I watched this then I realized who cares plus I'm always myself thanks buddy ✌🏼your an amazing KZreadr keep it up

  • @gabijapagojute1233
    @gabijapagojute12336 жыл бұрын

    My mind is blown 😱😱 Holy moly I finally understand... thanks so much 💖💖💖

  • @madeofamethyst
    @madeofamethyst7 жыл бұрын

    As much as I like the idea of approving of myself and that being enough, I do highly disagree with avoiding people that criticise or belittle you etc.. It would be much healthier to learn how to deal with negativity in a healthy way instead.

  • @jatinarora8776
    @jatinarora87762 жыл бұрын

    How Can just be yourself,and not care about people?I feel myself incomplete,crying for my past,stinge in the present,and hopeless for future. What can I do?

  • @lyricsvideozone9437
    @lyricsvideozone94377 жыл бұрын

    Thank u this helped me a lot.... Sometimes it happens to me when I go out with my friends (mostly some of them are fake) to talk to a girl... they would say jokes like "Look, he's talking to a girl" or " He will never get a gf " kind of things.... and this bothers me.... i feel like I want to punch them like shit (It's aint't about I never get or I can't get a girlfriend , because I had a lot of chances but I rejected them 'cause I didn't like them very well.... If she's not attracted to my, I usually ignore, but when I like somebody they reject me..... kinda bad feeling

  • @RaulMartinez-fi1sj

    @RaulMartinez-fi1sj

    7 жыл бұрын

    LyricsVideoZone If I may say so...sounds to me like you need to ditch some if those people you hang with. Those who do don't support you or even undermine or criticize you are not your friends.

  • @RaulMartinez-fi1sj
    @RaulMartinez-fi1sj7 жыл бұрын

    Outstanding in every area--BRILLIANT WORK!!

  • @RaulMartinez-fi1sj

    @RaulMartinez-fi1sj

    7 жыл бұрын

    Rafael Eliassen No--thank YOU. You've created a channel that truly stands out, & I'm certain is helping a great many people.

  • @andreasleonlandgren3092
    @andreasleonlandgren30925 жыл бұрын

    Self respect for the win

  • @shaolinsho7348
    @shaolinsho73487 жыл бұрын

    This somewhat works.

  • @BotondKuti
    @BotondKuti6 жыл бұрын

    Another musician here (aspiring, late starter, self-taught classical pianist). I loved the video. I realised I've been doing these things out of instinct I guess for over a year now, and I still feel that I tend to fall back in that trap if I I'm not careful. So I think I still have to keep on consciously reminding myself that there is simply no point to care and worry about others opinions as much as I used too. And the main reason I'm leaving this comment is to say that (for me) this can be insanely difficult and I'm still not sure if I should get some kind of self-control training or therapy help or not, because this is the biggest sabotager of my fulfillment. Performing ( on the piano (or for that matter anything in front of many people) is my main issue. How do you not care in that situation? When you are the solo artist of the evening? How do you not care if let's say you are in a competition? Or you just want to get in to a university? On the solo evening it builds or distroys your reputation. In the competition the jury knows their thing and likewise at the uni and you have high personal interests in getting trough there. So how do you deal with all those like a pro because that's a must learn for me ASAP. And also for me while performing, minor flaws or hand shakieness start generating insecurity and a mind battle which also distract me from expressing myself artistically on thelevel I know I could. How could I get to overcome this? I suppose the negative brainwash should be cured with the positive one but I feel like I need a customized brainwash because the standard one just isn't enough for everything and in order to feel confident and secure in these not everyday situations I need to understand the proper solution to be ready.

  • @perfectcelery

    @perfectcelery

    6 жыл бұрын

    Botond Kuti As a fellow musician I understand your feelings. Just wanted to suggest a video I found very helpful in this area in case it helps you too! m.kzread.info/dash/bejne/eY2skqaTe9fOXZs.html Obviously the 'work' theme is transferable. Good luck!

  • @kidsister316

    @kidsister316

    6 жыл бұрын

    you are not alone in this! you managed to succinctly put into words my experiences growing up playing classical piano - thought of performing brutal. my brother found success perfoming at CCM with beta blockers? i grew up and learned guitar, mando, flute, drums etc. and have had to learn to have fun and tend to perform out of the spotlight:))

  • @blackrosegarden1100
    @blackrosegarden11007 жыл бұрын

    Just what I needed to hear. Thank you.

  • @Polf1001
    @Polf10016 жыл бұрын

    How to know when to ignore criticism or when to put it into consideration and improve yourself?

  • @thewill4223

    @thewill4223

    6 жыл бұрын

    Polf Bubphavanich how does it make you feel, what thoughts come from it ?

  • @libera7161

    @libera7161

    6 жыл бұрын

    first you have to know yourself, when you have enough confidence, you know your weakness and if someone critices you, you have enough confidence to hear if someone is just being mean or if someone says the truth to you and wants you to improve yourself. Because if you're confident enough a critque will not make you feel bad, it will make you see what your possibilites are in becoming better and if someone speaks nonsense you will hear that too and know that you don't need (for example change you fashion style, or music taste)

  • @thewill4223

    @thewill4223

    6 жыл бұрын

    Libera I agree, confidence is the catalyst. It allows you to let more in without rejecting what others say outright. Well put!

  • @blackmane1993
    @blackmane19937 жыл бұрын

    thank you this really inspire because i do music and i be worry what people think about my music

  • @blackmane1993

    @blackmane1993

    7 жыл бұрын

    thank you

  • @brittskicks9800
    @brittskicks98007 жыл бұрын

    Helpful video! Thank you:)

  • @thinkbyproxy
    @thinkbyproxy6 жыл бұрын

    This video is moot to those with anxiety levels far and above normalcy

  • @fariajaved8236
    @fariajaved82367 жыл бұрын

    This is Amazing !

  • @lungisamsesiwe2693
    @lungisamsesiwe26936 жыл бұрын

    Thank you man its helpful i don't care what other people say now l will be myself. I will put off the musk thats true i think i was starting to have depression because of thinking about other in everything single thing i do in my life now i realise that i was punishing myself.

  • @Kazalex

    @Kazalex

    6 жыл бұрын

    I relate to this loads bro

  • @jeffy4326
    @jeffy43268 жыл бұрын

    Nice!! Loving the animated videos, this one is even better than the last. Great work Rafa!

  • @timstill152
    @timstill1525 жыл бұрын

    I like everything about this video except the "be yourself" because it is so esoteric and prone to interpretation. I cannot relax and feel okay about myself when I am held to the standard of "being myself" especially when I am already me. I know there are those who push themselves to convey something they find favorable to others in the hopes of gaining acceptance. I am one of them. But if you are unhappy, as many of us are, you will do whatever it takes to make people love you.

  • @andreasleonlandgren3092

    @andreasleonlandgren3092

    5 жыл бұрын

    Tim Still Word its hard

  • @moisturizer_7y932

    @moisturizer_7y932

    4 жыл бұрын

    man,don’t set limit to yourself. You can do everything you want bru

  • @timstill152

    @timstill152

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@andreasleonlandgren3092 Thank you man. Sorry it took me this long to say that.

  • @timstill152

    @timstill152

    4 жыл бұрын

    @@moisturizer_7y932 Thank you. God Bless.

  • @kidsister316
    @kidsister3166 жыл бұрын

    really needed to hear this insight today thank you!!

  • @oliviagenco6634
    @oliviagenco66347 жыл бұрын

    My parents have never really been the type to believe in me and it's really started getting to me. I want to be a surgeon later in life and I'm very smart, I had a 4.0 last year and I'm trying to get it back up. I'm at a 3.7 now. I have no clue why but my parents don't want me to succeed. It's who they are. It's crazy at my house. If there's one thing a 17 year old should be able to do it's focus on school. After that, a job and with that freedom with your money. I have none of that. My mom made sure my account from when I had a job was joined with hers so that she knew exactly what was going on with my money. Some of the money has gone missing and as the only person with access to my account I have my guesses where it went. I want to move in with a friend when I turn 18 in 8 months however, she's renting a place and I need to front-load some money to be able to afford the rent until I graduate and go into the military. They won't let me have a job. Apparently having me completely gone from the house messes with the family dynamic too much. I always thought that having a kid gone was a solution. They're incredibly controlling and restricting and I feel I am no longer free at all. . Uhhhh, I don't know what to do but it's good to know that there are people out there who care. It's going to be tough getting to the end of this road but I'm sure I'll be glad I did it when I'm in that operating room someday. Anonymous.

  • @fuckitweballin759
    @fuckitweballin7596 жыл бұрын

    I just grew up without people approving anything, so when I won a spelling be I Hated that feeling....I never want to be in that type of light. I want to be successful, but I want to be successful in the background where no one cares or even knows me

  • @Flamboyance00

    @Flamboyance00

    6 жыл бұрын

    emotional lesbian

  • @bellab.8402

    @bellab.8402

    6 жыл бұрын

    KS S what are you saying?

  • @kodexik
    @kodexik4 жыл бұрын

    I needed this . Thank you

  • @AbdulBasit-rv6su
    @AbdulBasit-rv6su4 жыл бұрын

    You just helped me alot!much love❤️

  • @RafaelEliassen

    @RafaelEliassen

    4 жыл бұрын

    I'm so glad!

  • @rustynorth1876
    @rustynorth18768 жыл бұрын

    that was really an amazing breakdown of this concept!! i thoroughly enjoyed your take on it and will forward the video to many of the friends and clients i help daily!! keep up the good work buddy!!!!!!!

  • @AngelAguilar-tu4bw
    @AngelAguilar-tu4bw7 жыл бұрын

    I wonder and somewhere I remember hearing that what we think people think of us is what we think of ourselves? I think that sometimes I do care what people think and somehow I know that that is wrong, but it is only that I care when I feel down. I should not care, but I am working on it. I also think it is because of what I put into my head. For example the songs that I listen to. The song stressed out by twenty one pilots for example says a line I care what people think. I think I need to stop listening to it, but I like to listen to that song because I can relate to some of the lyrics.

  • @AngelAguilar-tu4bw

    @AngelAguilar-tu4bw

    7 жыл бұрын

    Yeah, I am going to stop listening to music too and that is going to be heart breaking because I love music, but I am doing it for myself. Yeah there are other thing that are also wrong with music, but that is another topic.

  • @noiseydakota
    @noiseydakota7 жыл бұрын

    I think about it a lot. I try to please everyone around me and I always try to help people even when they are treating me like trash and I know deep down they dont deserve the help. I always care about what people think of me because I also try to fit in and you're helping me understand that isnt necessary. If you have any ideas for follow up videos on how to shut out the inner voice in one on one and party settings, that'd really help me (and most likely others) out

  • @huntastrash1884

    @huntastrash1884

    7 жыл бұрын

    Rafael Eliassen people at school call me a name that im very sensitive about im scared what they think and the popular kids might find out and spreaad it on social media im just scared

  • @theflash3868
    @theflash38687 жыл бұрын

    This and the stop overthinking video are so great and helpful! Thank you so much!

  • @theflash3868

    @theflash3868

    7 жыл бұрын

    But could you maybe summarise all the points in the description because I can't remember every point after watching

  • @semrawithailemichael185
    @semrawithailemichael1852 жыл бұрын

    I have always tried to fit in. Four and half ago, I came to England and I went to higher school for one year. Because I couldn’t speak English properly, I was struggling. Although it was difficult, I worked really hard to be where I am today. Now, this year’s my last year of college as I am planning to go university to study a pharmacy, but I don’t feel confident with my English. When I am having conversations with people, I think about what they’re thinking about my accent and if they say my English is good I feel good. I am always seeking people’s approval. Even though I have watched few videos about this, I still seek people’s approval. Please, give me some suggestions on how to improve this! Regardless my problem on seeking approval, your video was helpful. Thank you!

  • @domovancan

    @domovancan

    2 жыл бұрын

    You write English well, with only minor errors here and there. Don't worry, it's not bad at all! I wish I could speak YOUR language as well as you can speak English. ☮️

  • @foodadventurelife2030
    @foodadventurelife20306 жыл бұрын

    AMAZING ADVICE AND DEFINITELY EXCELLENT EXAMPLES!!!! Love it a ton!!!!!!!

  • @MicahOved
    @MicahOved7 жыл бұрын

    i want to thank you... thank you well done! greet video!

  • @nonyaloser633
    @nonyaloser6335 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, I have something at school tomorrow with the whole grade. All the boys make fun of me. Thank you, this will help.

  • @Amneso

    @Amneso

    4 жыл бұрын

    gl

  • @21HeartSong
    @21HeartSong6 жыл бұрын

    I really liked this video. Simple and practical. Good stuff. Thanks Rafael

  • @collazoseinos672
    @collazoseinos6727 жыл бұрын

    So much thanks for your video!

  • @Mrkris2111
    @Mrkris21117 жыл бұрын

    Fantastic video, thank you.

  • @epicfighter5273
    @epicfighter52735 жыл бұрын

    I chase my dreams I don’t give a fuck about what people say