How to SEDUCE YOUR Stubborn EX and make the find you irresistable AFTER NO CONTACT
How to seduce your stubborn ex and make them find you irresistable
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Scarcity creates value.
This guy is spot on. Did exactly these things with my ex gf. Went on with my life, stopped making her a priority. And she recently asked me if I wanted to meet up for dinner with her soon. The method works.
@decarrioturner
Жыл бұрын
I hope you said no. Can’t move forward going backwards.
@andreajones6840
Жыл бұрын
If he wants her back he will say yes to the dinner invitation😊
@richardthompson2563
Жыл бұрын
Super happy for you! Hey, how did it go???
@richardthompson2563
Жыл бұрын
Super happy for you! That's a great first move...I hope that continues to grow and repair your relationship! Keep it up, man!
@jacksongainey4678
Жыл бұрын
@@brandonmoskos9149 hey man, curious how many weeks of no contact it took for her to reach out?
My person shuts down and refused to communicate over misunderstandings. However, he felt as I don’t care nor treat him as a priority….he is so wrong. He is exstreamly hard headed. I hope he reaches out before it’s too late because I truly and deeply care about him and love him.
Ok at this point got a text/a video total breadcrumb. I waited several hours to respond and just made a short comment then said “Thanks for sharing”. I took them off of their pedestal was polite & respectful. Coach thank you for your videos. They help so much navigating the whole break up process. Stay Strong! God Bless
Material things fade away. The soul lasts forever.
Thank You for being here and doing what you do for us! We luv ya! Gr8 work!💐🌹💐💗❤️💗🙏😘
These are amazing tips!
Such a good video bro. Thank you ❤
Thanks for your wise wisdom as always.
BEST video of yours, by far.
I love your delivery!!!! What I am dealing with currently 😮💨 it’s so needed
I looooove your content ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️. WOW !!!
Dude! You are the BOMB!
I’m going through a break up. I needed to hear that
Appreciate the advice.
Trust me, he's on point! Who feels it knows it...
thank u for your videos great advice coming from the mans point of view
Keep up the great work
You’re appreciated Coach ! Thanks a lot ❤
Thank you so much. You are really helping me
It’s exhausting- I’ve done it all- now he calls & texts, I don’t answer at all- Point is, when I do respond- he does the same shit & I’m left wondering again - I’m done- let him call, text whatever- I’m waiting for someone I don’t have to play this hot & cold game with- it’s draining & a waste of time & energy- I’m satisfied with leaving him on read- Boy ✌🏽 BYE- but I do appreciate you & your videos…
Love your videos💯 ❤ thank you
It's so inspiring to listen to you! Thank you for your work and patience! My guy contacted by phonecall twice and came by for a second. Thinking back, I think he was hoping I would invite him in. I didn'i. It was after 9 pm. Met twice for a second after that. He smiled. But that's it...😕 I constantly think I should do something...🤦♀️
Love this, keep up the good work ❤
Been on and off with the mother of my child for 12 years. Feeling run so deep it’s hard to let it go, working on yourself is always the best option
@ronaldclaude1892
Жыл бұрын
Wow
@derrickmoon3296
23 күн бұрын
I learned women don't love the same as us. It's on and off for them. I'm tired of her games.
Mannn i needed to see this video 4 days ago 😩
My guy 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Love the Allen Iverson shirt!
Got my ex back coach blac - your videos has helped me out tremendously. Not only is she back, but she is in love. I sure know now Who she is to me, and she does too, lets Just hope this 8th time is the last time we brake up. 😅
@antonios2002
Жыл бұрын
are u being serious? because i’m on the 3rd breakup right now. would love to see revival…
@peep4674
Жыл бұрын
You still with her,?
@christoffervik9997
Жыл бұрын
@@peep4674 yeah Brother, realationship has never been better.
@peep4674
Жыл бұрын
@@christoffervik9997 I'm happy for you
@sholomobenyosef9659
11 ай бұрын
I’m so n my 3rd break up… I don’t know how I can respond if we get back together… for now I’m going to plan a life without her
ohhhhh ❣❣❣❣❣love it
I don't need to go back to my ex after what happened it hurt me to much and I will chose God to take care of every bad things they have done wrong into my life I already pray and ask God for justice that God whose the one to do judgment for I can't do nothing but pray my cry
Beast 💪
U validate how I was feeling since I been distance no contact now he wounder what I’m doin now I’m on to the games we spent holiday with his family but I knew he was expecting me to do the same thing again I did not were cordial but I’m not emotion after staying the holidays together when we was together he questioned me about saying I was just getting home in a message an notice a suite case in my car 🤦🏾♀️ after all that now u question me an inviting me out with family
4th breakup with same GF Great video! Brokenup with my on and off girlfriend of 3 years. This time she could not break up, but rather say she's busy, not return my calls, she's sick, here daughter is back from college and she has to be a mom for the summer, etc. Ad nauseum. Things were at a pinnacle of our relationship, but she hooked back up with an ex, or someone that is on and off. She gets my greatest gift...the gift of permanently missing me. We'll see how long it will take before she's back. Last time she came back, she cried in my arms, and has a fear of losing me. I think she has 2 goals, get me into the friend zone, or backup if things don't work out. Neither are happening.
@lucifer2b666
Жыл бұрын
Yeah that girls a snake. Drop her and get a woman who values and respects you as a person.
Thank you. I'm going through a bad breakup
Thanks for this great Video that arrives on time , i felt confused recently...I initiated NO CONTACT a month ago ( after i felt that my worth was not valued in the relationship ) , she reached out to me the other day wishing me Happy B-Day , few messages has been exchanged concerning my B-Day and Spring season coming but she didn't try to repair anything or to fix a date to meet up , as i didn't try to push anything neither, she withdrew from the conversation . Then i felt confuse , making me think that it was just a test ,first to see if i was going to respond and if i will try to fix anything with her , but i did not... Then the conversation stops , exactly like you said " trying to keep me on ice" to see how i will react .
@abdulmateenmaher6956
Жыл бұрын
Kudos to you bro. Keep it moving!
@decarrioturner
Жыл бұрын
Your feelings are confusing you. Move on.
Coach you are looking massive 💪 !!!
I’m meeting up with my ex tomorrow and I’m definitely using this techniques, he is already noticing me giving up and truly letting go
@decarrioturner
Жыл бұрын
So why meet up with him if you’re giving up and letting go?
@chisomoffor6877
Жыл бұрын
@@decarrioturner emmmm because I love him, giving up in sense of chasing and accepting the breakup
@andreajones6840
Жыл бұрын
Please don't listen to mr. Mood-setter he's being negative to everybody😊
@preciousnweze5790
Жыл бұрын
Update?
@chisomoffor6877
Жыл бұрын
@@preciousnweze5790 it went well , nothing really changed . I’m back on no contact , he wants to be friends but I’m stronger now in my no contact journey
I'm so sad that I hadn't seen you videos, or learned anything about breakups before my turn was here... I did so many mistakes... so many (I had my reasons), but yes, It would have been better to do what you teach :/ Now I unfortunately believe we can never be together again. Well well
Thank you so much Coach! You read my mind because I went no contact on him and he literally always comes back, so I needed this more than ever because it’s only a matter of time before he comes back..Only this time, I’m gonna be the one switch it up! Bahahaha 😈 Love you Coach! I’m so grateful ♥️🙏🏼
@johannesolofsson221
Ай бұрын
How long is the longest no contact for you? My ex gf wanted to be friends 1 week ago when she called and I declined it and said i want to date.. had hard suicide thoughts because she was a big part of my life what should I do? Stick to nocontact?
Yep I definitely don't want them back! HIS LOSS. 😅 Thought he could do better and the grass was greener only he didn't realize DIAMONDS are hard to find lmbo! 😂
Mirror ur ex vibe and focus on beautiful self .. spend time on ur body mind and soul and move forward to an amazing single life Hehe
So true, keep yourself busy ladies! You have better things to do. Great advice coach, thank you!
@derrickmoon3296
23 күн бұрын
In my case it's a stubborn woman that didn't realize what all I brought.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
@user-rm7mu6xg8v
Жыл бұрын
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
@mamunranamintu5759
Жыл бұрын
@@user-rm7mu6xg8v Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@user-rm7mu6xg8v
Жыл бұрын
@@mamunranamintu5759 Her name is Sylvia Regina White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@mamunranamintu5759
Жыл бұрын
@@user-rm7mu6xg8v Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@bigfifagamest
Жыл бұрын
im in the same situation as you man but we will get through it
So true texting for no reason !! I respond hours later …. Then he doesn’t respond . Just weird and off ! Stop texting me period …. I’m to old for the games and drag out .
Chase a cheque. Never chase a b#ch💯💯💯
Stop it with your biceps man. We are single out here…
@DeemMeBeautiful
Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@iamtheman4416
Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@chumilemlenzana387
Жыл бұрын
😅😅😅😅
Interested in a session
Thanks for the tip coach big admirer from england here just broke up with my ex well she left me im 42 she is 27 i thought i was too old for her her new guy is fat and 57 but he has horses which are her passion im going to keep doing me going to gym and only contact her regarding our child as i feel she is using him as a weapon to keep hurting me she keeps telling me he is asking for daddy all the time when she was the one who chose to leave i have been through some dark times recently your videos help immensley
can we have MORE of this???? Please coach blac. do a more deep video about how to act after no contact on a stubborn ex
@modest91
8 ай бұрын
This the one
✨✨✨thanx✨✨✨👑
Really appreciate your videos. Also you got my favorite player of all time on your shirt 🤣 anyways keep up the good work
Your videos are getting me thru this time I am going thru. It's been 2 1/2 months and no contact. I have to fight wanting to text him. I have been deeply hurt.
@Queenpeekaf
Жыл бұрын
More strength to you sis💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻cause it always works. Though it’s tough but it’s always worth it at the end…
@hiashamdin9820
4 ай бұрын
any updates? have they contacted you?
Hi🙋🏻♂️How can i could get in contact with you for a personal coaching, Coach Blac?
Wow he has all the answers and the answer on his shirt 👕💯
@derrickparker8746
Жыл бұрын
LoL
He ghosted me out of the blue. Everything was fine, no fights no arguments and he just disappeared. Its been 2 weeks now. I tried to call him but no answer. So now i stopped. I wont text him even if im struggling not to.
Exwife of two months already as a boyfriend… we share 3 kids and we communicate daily for the kids sake. She emotionally checked out a couple years ago so i highly doubt she’ll turn around… ive made changes and im a good looking dude too.
@jasminefirebrace2941
Жыл бұрын
Why did it take her to leave for you to change? Men see their woman emotionally check out and still continue their behaviour that made her lose interest
@terrodar19
Жыл бұрын
@@jasminefirebrace2941 100%. I ruined it myself… i had no idea how adapt to make her fall in love w me again. All she needed was to feel heard and understood.. i did NOT do that. its alright, im a much better man
I don't feel strong enough to not talk or text with him. I've spoken with him everyday for 13yrs without an issue. But he became friends with another woman secretly and now I'm out and he doesn't want to have anything else to do with me! OUCH! He even filed for divorce this month and I have to send in the response. I can't deal with all of this!
@justjamie83
5 ай бұрын
You deserve so much better!
Nothing wrong with new. If someone can walk away, especially many times, and you seen it was worse each time they came back….nothing wrong with embracing new
Question! 🙋🏾♀️ How do you get back your ex after a short term relationship?? Please can you do a video! Thank you! ❤
@Soksara
Жыл бұрын
Stop chasing, and give yourself space, think about you, and do what you want, enjoy! They will come back, if you let it be!
@izzy6810
Жыл бұрын
@@Soksara thank you 🙏
My mom has been telling me to do this with my BD all the time. I was just too kind and soft hearted to do that to him. Im gonna start doing this now since we’re back on good terms.
Oh my so tricky better I walking way quite than doing this awful techniques 😅😅😊😊this no balls game😂😂😂
Is there any difference in these methods if there was space requested at one point and then I did beg and pushed too hard in order to cause a break up?
Hi coach, we’ve been in nc for more then a month now after almost 4yrs of relationship. He contacted me a week ago for stuff I asked back and to get back some money/ refunds I did it fully got back for him. He first proposed to bring me back my stuff to my house then backed up when I told him I don’t have the full refunds yet, and disappeared again since a week now. What should I do ? There is still this unfinished business between us? Thank you
Ex was together for 6 years. He most def did all three. So I guess I gotta move on too.
How does long distance affect the request to see?
Coach, How do I make her come back even when I have to see her everyday
Coach, I feel so terrible. It's been almost 3 months since the breakup and I'm still so I love, waiting, doing NC, focusing on myself... and he jumped to another and then ANOTHER relationship. I guess I don't really know if he actually loves her, but I inadvertently saw some tweets about how he feels broken as hell, but in his main account he's all happiness with this new girl. I just wonder why can't he come back to me. I truly loved him, the kind of love that would cross the oceans swimming and travel through the desert with no water. I can't help but feel like maybe I didn't matter and the sad thing is that I can't even find a reason to hate him. I still love him and think about him everyday. I just wanted to express this somewhere. :(
I been doing no contact on and off for a couple of weeks now we both still live together…. So I been practicing while I’m at work but when I come home or whenever she’s with her reb she act like she hasn’t seen me all month we cuddled twice felt really good like I never left
The lady I’ve been with for a little over 3 years has walked away from me. Now the thing is she still contacts me and makes arrangements to meet up, why she walked away was she now has taken on a second job to keep her home that she was on the verge of losing. She works after her 1st job/primary and then both Saturdays and Sundays. The thing is I feel like a jerk because looking back she couldn’t find time to see me as often as I liked but now she finds time to work 7-8-9 hrs in her 2nd job. I still remind her and remind myself that she broke up with, so now I respond a day or so later and she’s not happy about it. I forgot to add I always let her initiate contact first. I hear from her and time from 1 day upto 9 days. We’ve separated a few times over the years and it’s all her not me and when she does this I go straight into No Contact and I stick to it this is why she reaches out and comes back but the thing is how do I get her to stay.
@Soksara
Жыл бұрын
Continue to build yourself, mostly spiritually (read more, don't let monkey mind to command, stop the thinking process with reading), work on your body too, keep the good shape. If it doesn't work 3 times, it's better to move on. There are plenty of girls, you just have to change your point of view in general. Don't waste time! Keep it up!
What if they have kids? How would you navigate the no contact ?
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I'm doing most of what's being said but she's got a rebound that doesn't even live in our time zone. We're in the US and he's supposedly in Korea. I told her that she needs not put all her eggs in one basket but she ain't listening when it comes to international dating
This is all very well but what happens if they are a dismissive avoidant. She has reached out 2 times now. About Once a month. I offered to cook here Sunday lunch, she said Ok good idea il let you know Sunday when I’m free. This was 2 weeks ago!🤷🤷🤷
What are other ways to take him off that pedestal
He texted me after 2 weeks of no contact saying he has sent money for me and i sent it back told him we shouldn’t be contacting each other because he is seeing someone else so i would not want to be a home wrecker by accepting money from someone else’s man behind their back cz that’s not something i would want my man to do im scared of Karma…….he got so angry told me to even burn his stuff he left in my house i don’t know if what i said drove him away and maybe he will never want to talk to me again….please advise
What happens if they constantly watch your media but not interact and you post because you’re living your life but also super aware they will see them. What’s the advice do I block contact completely or just continue to post ignorant?!
from your experience, how long does the initial "relief" stage of a break up last for (for the dumper)? I am currently at day 10 post break up with someone i was with for 18 months- we are long distance but were seeing each other three times a year (from 2-4 weeks at a time), and I was prepared to move to be with him (we had spoken candidly about this in the past. Long story short- i feel he got cold feet and has commitment issues that pre-date our relationship and go back to past relationships of his). I love him very much but i told him i didn't want to hear from him unless he changed his mind (he wanted to keep the doors open for talking, but i feel if i let that happen, he'd be contacting me regularly, prolonging the pain for me). So, I informed him of the no contact preference.
@modest91
8 ай бұрын
Did he reach out?
I’m emotionally ready to talk after no contact and the break up it’s been 15 days. I feel more level headed. But I wonder will my ex ever reach out to me?
@socol76
Жыл бұрын
It doesn’t matter if you’re ready to talk, don’t reach out . The only reason you should break no contact is if they reach out first . Trust me I’ve learned this the hard way .
I already messed that up 😂
I'm working on getting my ex back, we have met up twice during the 1.5 months of break up.. both of those times I had spent the entire weekend with her at her house, we have a wonderful time, we kiss, walk on the beach, hold hands as if we were together again, then when I have to leave back to my city, 450km away. she does not want me to go.. we talk for about a day after saying she misses me back and forth,.. but then she suddenly turns cold on me, and acts like nothing is going on again.. whhy is she acting like this? hot/cold behavior. is confusing me..
Coach ur good. I know all u are saying. Im.floored..goood.teacher..ima.get 2.sweatersa Make..dat..h wear dat..lol
Coach black has to much time passed if it’s been 18 months and you been sleeping together the whole time while he was in a rebound relationship … & he broke up w / rebound then they got back together 5weeks later now is it too late?
But if you have a rental and the people where dealing whit her now she is send there numbers to me so she has to contact me and on one mgs she said to me she is never even coming back she has no desire to come back
My ex said something I said changed things and he didn’t feel the same or love me anymore. He came back and we spent the week together and he said he tried but didn’t love me anymore after he lost his temper over his dog … wtf what is happening
My ex asked if he can used his key. But don't want to say why he wish to used his keys to my apartment. Your thoughts
You right about what you are saying but I'm the type of person that don't have the time to kiss a gown person ass it don't matter if its a friendship or a relationship people should just focus on Loving them self more that worry about people that always trying to come back after the new shit fall apart that's when you pretend to like them again you do everything to hook them back to you then you dump they ass and leave them hanging.
Will this work if live in the same house such as a ex spouse
how about situationship? is it work?
Just tell them you going to have to find a better way to contact me than a text message then don't respond. They an ex for a reason...effort or nothing especially if they didn't value you. Even with effort, make none
I don't know what is going on or what to do in my ex relationship because she came back but i ruined by begging her will she come back again ? But she is in a relationship now!! Its killing me.can somebody suggest anything to do please
@andreajones6840
Жыл бұрын
Now you have to do what he said you have to not contact her until she contacts you you have to start all over because you should not have begged her. Look at some more of his videos because he tells you exactly what to do😊 pray about it seek God for strength go out with your friends and family even go on a dating site to just meet new people you don't have to date anybody just meet new people somebody else to talk to.
What I don’t get is how does no contact work …. Don’t they forget about u… with me the more I don’t talk to him the more I care less and don’t want him back … I still don’t get how this works ?!?!?
If my ex wishes me a happy birthday, should I wish them one? there is basically a few days after mine.
Hyy its been a 2 weeks in a no contact, Still i didnt got any revert from her side. I am even not seeing her social status, bt she is continuously seeing mine.. what does this mean ?
What if they are long distance and said they wanted to figure out a weekend that works best for you to come see them but hasn’t solidified plans yet and still only texts every few days with limited convo? It seems like he always expects me to cart the convo??
@andreajones6840
Жыл бұрын
Don't do it girl keep busy with friends and family pray about it go on a dating site and just talk to other nice guys you don't have to go out with him just talk somebody else to talk to😊
@DeemMeBeautiful
Жыл бұрын
@@andreajones6840 Thanks. I absolutely hate dating sites I’ve been on and off for years and they really frustrate me. But I definitely will allow God to lead this area of my life and continue to pray to meet the right person sooner than later.
And if she saying go get a new person I am not coming back
Hi coach I went no contact,he insisted on third party,so I went no contact,we are in different states so its long distance connection,he send valentine's message I didn't respond,to this day he hasn't sent another message
what about ldr? when you can’t see each other in person
How soon should you kiss or sleep with them again if they have asked to go back out on a date with them? Should you just let them kiss you on the cheek for a few dates? Or keep resisting and say you don’t know if you want to kiss them or if you just wanna be friends. But then that might push them away?
@lucifer2b666
Жыл бұрын
Kissing is fine on the first meet. Sleeping with them just like in any new relationship should wait until you both trust and love each other. So 3-6 months of being together. Maybe shorter than that. Don't take the time as a rule. You just have to show that you value yourself and that you wont give yourself to anybody unless they are fully committed to you and respect you. I've always followed this in every relationship. I'm a man but this would apply even better as a women because women can be more justified in guarding themselves sexually. Make the person you're dating wait for sex even if you desire it yourself. It makes them desire it a whole lot more because you're hard to get. Definitely tease them sexually a lot if you think they are into it but if they try to get you to have sex, say you aren't ready yet because it's something important to you. It's up to you if you want to play a little hanky panky with hands at some point before the 3-6 months but absolutely don't do full blown intercourse or oral until you've locked their commitment to you. You don't just give your body to anybody unless they prove they're worth it. If someone demands sex or stops talking to you over that, they show they didn't really want you for the right reasons. If they respect your decision to wait, they're a good match. I've only had two women walk out on me over that. Both showed immediately after that I was their rebound by going back with their exes after dumping me shortly after I rejected their advances. It saved me a lot of heartache to not jump into bed with them. It's never put a strain on any relationship I've had. It only gained respect for me because it showed I was serious about wanting a long term healthy relationship with the person I'm seeing and not a quick hook up or fwb situation. I've done this trick in four good relationships and a few dates with girls that weren't so good. It really helps to weed out the bad people who don't value you as a person and only want you physically. This should help to get your ex back too because they obviously sexually desired you and still do to some degree now.
So should I not have him on block