How to overcome the pain of being left
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Her husband left her after thirty years of marriage. She feels lost. She wonders if her life is over. She doesn't know if she can ever be happy again.
In the first podcast in this two-part series, Dr. Joe Beam brought in his special guest David Mathews, Director of SparkOfLife.Org. David is an expert in helping people deal with loss - any kind of loss, including the death of a loved one. The principles he provided in that podcast "Life Feels Hopeless After My Spouse Left" laid the foundation for this program. In this broadcast, David and Dr. Beam discuss practical, doable processes to help her - and you - deal with the loss and find healing for her life.
That doesn't mean that she has to give up on her marriage. As Dr. Beam teaches in many podcasts, there is a process that can work to bring back the abandoning spouse and make the marriage good again. Even better than it was. Yet...it isn't a guarantee. It is an amazing process. If anything works, this will work. Three out of four couples who attend Marriage Helper's intensive three-day workshop salvage their marriages and develop them to be better than they were before.
Three out of four. But that's not four out of four.
The practical information you will hear in this podcast will help you find healing and grow on to a meaningful and fulfilling life whether your spouse comes back or not.
It's not magic. It takes work. But the result is again having a life of happiness.
If you haven't listened to part one "Life Feels Hopeless After My Spouse Left," we suggest you find that podcast and listen to it first. As you listen to this one, take notes, think through the power of the process you will learn, and then put it into action.
If your marriage is in trouble, take advantage of the free resources on www.MarriageHelper.com. If you need to talk with someone, call 615-472-1161 and ask about Marriage Helper's Certified Marriage Coaches.
If you would like to record a question for Dr. Beam to answer in a podcast, go to www.speakpipe.com/joebeam.
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Hurts most when you think bout all the amazing times you had as a family and the potential just thrown away cause one person got bored or gave in to someone else’s advances . Usually one of the two.
@sanlaw584
5 жыл бұрын
Spot on, that happened to me after 20yrs. I am still furious, he cut child support + then went on holiday with the girlfriend, he is living it up. We are getting divorced now. 😡
@rosettemarshall3024
4 жыл бұрын
@@sanlaw584 yes, I feel your pain. 20 yrs of my being married to a narcissist! The pain is almost unbearable. He wants us to go dancing...😡
@mjperfume1523
Жыл бұрын
He wants to go to Cuba next yr with her. I start talking about things that we did in the past and i. say we have a past whether u like it or not, but we Do have a past together
@mjperfume1523
Жыл бұрын
I was married to him for over 53 yrs, he was a strong thing in my life, i only did things for him
I just wanted you to know that I prayed to the Lord for him to show me the way forward. I laid in bed this morning and did something I'd never done before. I went through a bunch of Videos And saved them. Most of them are Videos that I have been afraid to listen to. Just because the pain is so bad. I got to this video and cried my face off.. the moment he said life will never be the same. I found a sense of peace that I haven't had for a long time. That is such a profound statement because life will.. never.. be.. the..same. I am a better, stronger person than i've ever been in my whole life because i've gotten the help that i've needed. I just hadn't said goodbye to all the old stuff yet. So before I Continue My List. I'm going to take some time and process all the things that I'm going to say goodbye to so that I enjoy the fact that my life will never be the same. Thank you so much for this one profound statement.. The Lord knew exactly what I needed to hear, and I am so grateful that he heard my cries for help and led me to this video.
I lost my partner of 15 years to another man. I’m so destroyed over this💔😔
Never apologize to an abuser❤️
Thank you very much, I feel hopeless, and painful, I'm fallow you ...my husband decided to leave our marriage and I love him too much.
My Husband of 20yrs walked out two days after our son came out of hospital from an ongoing serious illness, hooked up with a work colleague and is living a single life with a girlfriend while giving me and the kids crumbs.
@bokim1061
4 жыл бұрын
That's awful. I hope u begin to look after urself, eat well, stop drinking and smoking, lose weight in a healthy way, and sign up for spiritual class. Bide ur time.
@Annamelese
4 жыл бұрын
Sorry to about your situation! How are u now?
My husband of 24 years tell me he doesn’t love me anymore and I’m not meeting his needs. Walked out to pursue his affair partner who is 10 years younger. I’m still scrabbling to get out of the grief pit. Every time I think I’m out I fall flailing back into the hole. My husband who publicly tells people and posts regularly for 15 years on his FB of how he loved me and inconceivable that he could ever live without me. Blindsided me.
@bokim1061
4 жыл бұрын
I know uf feeling. U know, the best revenge is served cold. U take revenge on him by first getting urself in shape. Join classes and stick to them. Grow ur hair, do facial and start wearing make up. Throw out comfy clothes and start dressing younger. But first, start eating well and working out.
@rosettemarshall3024
4 жыл бұрын
Mine called me old and fat. He is older than me and as far as appearance, I could say a lot! Pure narcissistic!
@durandtgroenewald4278
4 жыл бұрын
Severe blow to your heart. 24 years a lifetime to pluck out of your chest in such a disrepectful in your face manner. Feel for you dear. Get that physical in shape. Persue what you always wanted (hobby/sport, etc) Get your mind of things filling with another. You are more than enough but we all make mistakes. Go on a camp with Star to make the lists as discussed and handle the process, work it through. Remember you are what you think so thoughts so NB. Also surround yourself with bubbly positive people not cry club and bitter people. All the best
@Annamelese
4 жыл бұрын
@@bokim1061 how can she do that when she is hurting inside, so many emotions are involved.
My mind is blown. This is amazing information
@MarriageHelper
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, Johnathan!
I found out my husband of 12 yrs, been together 20, was cheating on me and he asked to go dancing. He is a narcissist but it seems today many have these traits.
I have no one in this town bc theres so many lies that have been told about me, i dont have anyone to talk to bc everyone believes the two of them and they love to humiliate me!
I wish i could go to the workshops, but i have no way to get there😡
@kellyanna94
Жыл бұрын
There are virtual options.
My True Husband sat down with me and He looked at me and said Georgie I have to Down Grade because his friend had called me an Up grade.Which means he was going to leave me. Now I had problems with my back and my left ovary that turned out was Benine.Thank God I could not have any Love Making because of that.
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