How to make peace with your belly fat | Susan Lieu | TEDxBellevueWomen

For years Susan was disgusted with her belly fat until her ancestors smacked some sense into her in a sweat lodge. Hear about how Susan’s experience in losing her mother to plastic surgery at a young age changed her perspective on beauty, self-love, and forgiveness.
Susan Lieu is a nationally-acclaimed Vietnamese American author, playwright, and performer who tells stories that refuse to be forgotten. A daughter of nail salon workers, she took her autobiographical solo theatre show 140 LBS: How Beauty Killed My Mother on a national tour with sold out premieres and accolades from L.A. Times, NPR, and American Theatre. Eight months pregnant, she premiered her sequel Over 140 LBS at ACT Theatre. Within one year, she gave 60 performances to over 7,000 people.
Her award-winning work has been featured at Bumbershoot, Wing Luke Museum, The Moth Mainstage, On The Boards, and more than a dozen universities. She has developed new work at numerous residencies including Hedgebrook, Vashon Artist Residency, Mineral School, and Millay Arts. Susan is co-host of The Model Minority Moms podcast. She is an alumnus of Harvard College, Yale School of Management, and Coro. Her forthcoming memoir, The Manicurist’s Daughter (Celadon) is her first book.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @user-ut6wg5sc8j
    @user-ut6wg5sc8j2 ай бұрын

    I think she's brave women, because she speaks about it. I'm delighted and uplifted that we have such person who can share a story like it😊 Thanks for it❤

  • @theresecharvet
    @theresecharvet2 ай бұрын

    Fabulous and inspiring talk! Susan rocks it! I'm sure this message is needed by nearly every woman in this country and beyond. Thanks for speaking it so well.

  • @Tychenyt
    @Tychenyt2 ай бұрын

    Susan is the best, and if you're triggered, that's on you. Happy international women's day!

  • @reactriot6968
    @reactriot69682 ай бұрын

    You’re body shape doesn’t matter. As long as you are eating healthy and exercising daily, then you should feel good about how you look, no matter what you look like.

  • @TheYellowRoseOfTexas
    @TheYellowRoseOfTexas2 ай бұрын

    Beautifully touching talk, it hit me hard. Thank you for sharing Susan

  • @thyha7556
    @thyha75562 күн бұрын

    THAT IS MY AUNTIE!!!

  • @VicFix
    @VicFix2 ай бұрын

    *There was a comment that made more sense than the entire video, voted to the top with 25 **-35 likes and they hid it! Every comment that talks about eating healthy and being active is deleted or hid-** what a close minded channel.*

  • @desmondlau1385

    @desmondlau1385

    2 ай бұрын

    What did it say?

  • @VicFix

    @VicFix

    2 ай бұрын

    @@desmondlau1385 Something that her mother died because of insecurities and surgery, not wanting to be healthy. And that not caring is not a victory. I forget the rest, but it was better than the tedtalk.

  • @georgiatserga4691
    @georgiatserga46912 ай бұрын

    thank you!!!!!

  • @AaronHalliday
    @AaronHalliday2 ай бұрын

    Culturally mediated abuse is still abuse. Just because something is rooted in tradition, or being tied to one's culture, or heritage does not make it excusable or okay. This doesn't get talked about enough.

  • @jls72
    @jls722 ай бұрын

    10:28 and after is everything. Thank you for your wisdom.

  • @clrobinson1776
    @clrobinson17762 ай бұрын

    It’s not about eating less, exercising more. I have a beautiful cousin who does the triathlon/iron man most years & based on what some of these comments say she should be very, very skinny. She trains all year round whether she does the triathlon or not. She is “Rubenesque” & again, beautiful. It’s her body. It’s the body of her family. And they are all very active people. Her grandmother is 96 has the same body type so she must be doing something right. (actually, most of those on both sides of my family live into their 80’/90’s.) Man, some of you are very judgmental & that says more about you than it does her. You’re buying into our society’s B.S.

  • @VicFix

    @VicFix

    2 ай бұрын

    Then why do you need 700 words to explain it? You only need that much explanation if it's a rationalization or an excuse.

  • @celestialcircledance

    @celestialcircledance

    2 ай бұрын

    Maybe , but so far you've only mentioned exercise and studies have shown that the diet part of the equation has more of a direct impact on weight .

  • @HkFinn83

    @HkFinn83

    2 ай бұрын

    If you can disprove the laws of thermodynamics there’s a Nobel prize waiting for you.

  • @clrobinson1776

    @clrobinson1776

    2 ай бұрын

    @@HkFinn83 Why you sweet summer child. Bless your heart. Back at ya

  • @konfusedkurage5245
    @konfusedkurage52452 ай бұрын

    Just today I was having some dark thoughts related to my body. This didn't cure me but made me think.

  • @superpoodlehead
    @superpoodlehead2 ай бұрын

    Beautiful! Glad it helped so much! Inipi ceremony is powerful! New age sweat lodge-not traditional Lakota/Plains Native-but it worked for YOU. That’s what matters most. Hugs to you ❤

  • @VicFix
    @VicFix2 ай бұрын

    Notice how all the highest rated comments (which also happen to contain logic) are hidden or pushed to the bottom, and the "YAY SKINNY QUEEN" type comments with almost no likes are at the top.

  • @ChauNguyen-rn9oj
    @ChauNguyen-rn9oj2 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing Lieu

  • @kathleen4083
    @kathleen40832 ай бұрын

    Shame can be debilitating and societal pressures to be skinny. Why do you think so many people are shooting up Ozempic despite the health risks 🫵🏻

  • @NayNayNugget.
    @NayNayNugget.2 ай бұрын

    This comment section is not it…..

  • @thedesk.9997
    @thedesk.99972 ай бұрын

    *TED TALK SHOULD LEAVE ALL COMMENTS VISIBLE AND NOT GHOST, HIDE, OR REMOVE ANYTHING THAT IS NOT VULGAR. HIDING COMMENTS THAT POINT OUT THE LACK OF LOGIC IN THE VIDEO DOESN'T HELP ANYONE IT ONLY HELPS TED TALK NOT LOOK SILLY FOR PROMOTING NONSENSE.* We come here to learn and improve, that's why even those who don't agree stay subscribed.

  • @AvalonResearch
    @AvalonResearch2 ай бұрын

    Apparently "yay skinny qween!" and "you go girl" are the only comments that don't get deleted on this channel.

  • @DaveEllis.
    @DaveEllis.2 ай бұрын

    As a former smoker I can agree with her logic. My parents smoked, and when my father wanted to change, and took a shortcut pill to stop smoking and then he got a treadmill in the living room, got on it and within 3 days he had a heart attack and died. So me and my mother sit on our porch and avoid physical activity and are proud how our family all smoke and sound like a hand saw when we speak, we've made peace with the problem and enjoy sharing sharing stories of our heritage and remembering my father. ❤

  • @dsm_796

    @dsm_796

    2 ай бұрын

    😂😂😂

  • @JugglinJellyTake01
    @JugglinJellyTake012 ай бұрын

    You come from a long line of women who likely had a mummy tummy (this is a proud and endearing term some of my friends use). Our food system is toxic pushing aside the fruits mother earth has provided in favour of the processed food that profit old men in board rooms yet advertised with by models. The 'unnarriageable' term is hideous and toxic, my take is it is about being the best parent you can and an even better grandparent.

  • @OAmorCura
    @OAmorCura2 ай бұрын

    Fantástico. Muito grata. Muitas bênçãos. Abraço do 💖

  • @CodyManners
    @CodyManners2 ай бұрын

    Remember being in shape is fatphopic 🤣

  • @lunaluna2065
    @lunaluna20652 ай бұрын

    Wonderful. Kindness within, kindness without. ❤

  • @hailey9997
    @hailey99972 ай бұрын

    absolutely beautiful story, I’ll start doing this too❤️❤️

  • @KitKat-lc7oe
    @KitKat-lc7oe2 ай бұрын

    Women need to hear this. I know I did. Perfect timing. Thank you Susan

  • @MarcinZagorskiPhotographer
    @MarcinZagorskiPhotographer2 ай бұрын

    Such a beautiful, heartwarming, positive message to all obese out there ! love it !

  • @joyfuljennifer4125
    @joyfuljennifer41252 ай бұрын

    Healing through body ✨️ feeling through for freedom for generations to come🙌🏻🫶🏻✌🏻changing my legacy ✨️ 💃🏼one moment at a time ✨️

  • @myenglishkart
    @myenglishkart2 ай бұрын

    Emotional explanation indeed

  • @bluefolder5182

    @bluefolder5182

    2 ай бұрын

    Emotional doesn't equal logical. Her mother died because of surgery, not wanting to be healthy.

  • @alessiamartino5261
    @alessiamartino52612 ай бұрын

    Ti ringrazio per aver condiviso questo speech, sto continuando a lottare col pensiero 'i'm not enough, no matter what' e ascoltare il tuo percorso è di ispirazione per continuare a migliorare, certo, mangiare bene e fare esercizio per stare bene, non necessariamente per essere magra

  • @thetravelingtrainer3518
    @thetravelingtrainer35182 ай бұрын

    Lift weights, eat healthy, hydrate, get good sleep. That’s how you make peace with being HEALTHY

  • @CatherineRozanski1963
    @CatherineRozanski19632 ай бұрын

    Incredible, thought provoking TEDxTalk...Thankyou Susan Lieu 💪🌟💎💖 xXx

  • @gibrankhan8232
    @gibrankhan82322 ай бұрын

    Nicely explained. It is also good for mental health

  • @Sunatovasabrina2438

    @Sunatovasabrina2438

    2 ай бұрын

    I love you very much ❤❤

  • @hjthebeliever

    @hjthebeliever

    2 ай бұрын

    You watched a 15 min video in 3 minutes 🩸🔥😹🔥🩸 You must have seen it before it posted.

  • @igolh11

    @igolh11

    2 ай бұрын

    but bad for physical health

  • @janetslicer3637
    @janetslicer36372 ай бұрын

    Most of these comments are still about body shaming! Stop it. If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all! These comments are the disappointment!

  • @aakuster

    @aakuster

    2 ай бұрын

    You're a disappointment

  • @aimless9187
    @aimless91872 ай бұрын

    By losing it

  • @terruwuism
    @terruwuism2 ай бұрын

    Statistically speaking you are normal, almost all girls are normal, and normal girls are very nice and pretty. As a normal man, I love girls. Girls with soft bodies are so beautiful and nice. Girls are so easy to love you have no idea.

  • @ChannSitha-xd5gk
    @ChannSitha-xd5gk2 ай бұрын

    💚💚💚

  • @user-si7sw7xy4n
    @user-si7sw7xy4n2 ай бұрын

    怎麼了 你們不認同和平

  • @Sunatovasabrina2438
    @Sunatovasabrina24382 ай бұрын

    Very you and god dealing

  • @user-si7sw7xy4n
    @user-si7sw7xy4n2 ай бұрын

    我希望你是很好的人

  • @desmondlau1385
    @desmondlau13852 ай бұрын

    So apparently anything is justifiable as long as you said it in a ted x format 😂

  • @bluefolder5182

    @bluefolder5182

    2 ай бұрын

    Not so. If it's in favor of women, it's not limited to a Ted Talk. 🤣

  • @thoregilhjulstad7111
    @thoregilhjulstad71112 ай бұрын

  • @ron.porter.10
    @ron.porter.102 ай бұрын

    Thanks for continuing updates. I'd rather trade the stock market as it's more profitable. I make an average of $30,100 per week even though I barely trade myself.

  • @astridvonderosten8494

    @astridvonderosten8494

    2 ай бұрын

    I'm in a similar situation where should I look to increase income? Do you have any advice? What did you do? Thank you

  • @user-dm2lo1iu4v

    @user-dm2lo1iu4v

    2 ай бұрын

    Well explained. Thank you for bringing up this video. Financial education is indeed required for more than 70% of society in the country as very few are literate on the subject, thanks to Mrs Olivia Harlow the lady you ones recommended

  • @JohnMcCain-qw4zl

    @JohnMcCain-qw4zl

    2 ай бұрын

    Alright, thanks for the recommendation, but how do I reach her?

  • @Dyk949

    @Dyk949

    2 ай бұрын

    Trading without professional guide.... Huh, I laugh you because you'll remain where you are or even make huge losses that will stop you from trading. This has beeb one of the biggest problems to new traders.

  • @douglasrodriguez250

    @douglasrodriguez250

    2 ай бұрын

    How do I join?

  • @armandocastillorodriguez1731
    @armandocastillorodriguez17312 ай бұрын

    Espero que el Dandy muy pronto pueda vengar la muerte de Diaz

  • @user-si7sw7xy4n
    @user-si7sw7xy4n2 ай бұрын

    品德

  • @aliensensum8663
    @aliensensum86632 ай бұрын

    With a white flag - I capitulate!

  • @user-si7sw7xy4n
    @user-si7sw7xy4n2 ай бұрын

    品德教育

  • @susanjacobs6461

    @susanjacobs6461

    2 ай бұрын

    Wtf😅😅😅😅😅😅

  • @Atty_KelseyK
    @Atty_KelseyK2 ай бұрын

    The reason we need a "Women" branch of Ted Talk is because women need to be able to make it about everything else but the problem and an obvious solution that might require effort and taking responsibility. Instead of responsibility we need rationalizing. Instead of common sense we need sad stories to make us tear up and in the end we need to not feel bad about the problem, and not feel any responsibility for ignoring it. The top comment completely unwound her entire dramatic story telling session.

  • @user-si7sw7xy4n
    @user-si7sw7xy4n2 ай бұрын

    台灣永遠堅持貧德教育

  • @paulfurtak1440
    @paulfurtak14402 ай бұрын

    Why am I still even subscribed to this is beyond me

  • @BasicFolders

    @BasicFolders

    2 ай бұрын

    OMG my mind was thinking this but I didn't articulate it. 👍

  • @strangersontheinternet
    @strangersontheinternet2 ай бұрын

    This certainly didn’t go to the right audience… if you don’t like being bigger, then change but don’t put others down just because they don’t want to adhere to your standards. Nobody actually cares about the health of other people, they just don’t like looking at bigger people. If it bothers you, keep it to yourself.

  • @BasicFolders
    @BasicFolders2 ай бұрын

    I disagree. I am in the same shape as she is, and it bothers me. The reason it bothers me is because I know I could do better. I could eat better and I could be more physically active. The day it stops bothering me I’m doomed. Not caring is not a victory.

  • @VicFix

    @VicFix

    2 ай бұрын

    Thanks for posting this again, I see they removed your comment when it got voted to the top. 🤣

  • @Papagajidomitas

    @Papagajidomitas

    2 ай бұрын

    Once i heard someone “Do not trust a man without a visible bicep vein! He lies for himself every day. He want to be in his best shape and choose to do nothing.” How true! This positivity bs is really misleading! They are just do not want to cause emotional distress and for anybody and that’s it. Heavy bullying is shameful, but notice someone is out of shape is evolutionary useful. Lazy people overuse the healthcare from the real ill ones. They selfish not giving their best version to their mates and undisciplined.

  • @motidivya

    @motidivya

    2 ай бұрын

    She never said to not care... She said to listen to your body.

  • @strangersontheinternet

    @strangersontheinternet

    2 ай бұрын

    If it bothers you then so be it. But this ted talk isn’t talking to you then…

  • @bekw4366

    @bekw4366

    2 ай бұрын

    She's not even that big though? I'm not her size though so idk maybe I'd feel worse if I was heavier like her? I think she looks pretty great :) obviously not model slim but idk she seems pretty average to me, maybe a bit curvy but who cares.

  • @t.o.o.smooth5870
    @t.o.o.smooth58702 ай бұрын

    Only if we also stop height and pocket shaming! 😛

  • @lillysmith4632
    @lillysmith46322 ай бұрын

    Or have some discipline and persistence and actually address your issues

  • @BasicFolders

    @BasicFolders

    2 ай бұрын

    HOW DARE YOU!!!! Logic isn't allowed within a 2 mile radius of this channel.

  • @lexiconwaffle
    @lexiconwaffle2 ай бұрын

    Believe women should be, find the truth. And, this is a horrible example but, shame is there to stop us being worse than we can be. Ted is undoing intelligence...

  • @giftedgreen2152
    @giftedgreen21522 ай бұрын

    Are we still pretending this isn't propaganda?

  • @ihebbendebba2978
    @ihebbendebba29782 ай бұрын

    15 minutes of pure copium yet cries the instant you tell her to put down the fork lmao

  • @SteveJones379
    @SteveJones3792 ай бұрын

    I have one word… “Salad”

  • @ZvilgantisKailis

    @ZvilgantisKailis

    2 ай бұрын

    Let's go further... "lifting weights"

  • @thecritter519

    @thecritter519

    2 ай бұрын

    Its not that simple incels, some people that workout and eat healthy have a little bit of a belly (genetic components) especially women because of the yk extra organ we got as well as carrying more weight in general as an adaptation for child rearing Your shallow minded and annoying

  • @SteveJones379

    @SteveJones379

    2 ай бұрын

    @@thecritter519 "You're" and yes, there may be a small percentage of women with the issue you describe, but the large percentage just need salad and back away from the table and sweets. Calories in vs calories burned. Simple, but difficult. Most just need to work on their determination.

  • @thecritter519

    @thecritter519

    2 ай бұрын

    @@SteveJones379 its literally not that simple Dont grammar police me on youtube im not writing an essay why would i care? Its not a small percentage of women. We all have a small bump that flattens back out as you go up the abdomen because of our uterus

  • @dsm_796
    @dsm_7962 ай бұрын

    She still wears clothes hiding the belly she’s telling us to accept.

  • @AK-gb9rp
    @AK-gb9rp2 ай бұрын

    Is this really what ted has become. Lmao

  • @raychen2900
    @raychen29002 ай бұрын

    LOL, how about try healthy food and exercises.

  • @felixofosuafriyie
    @felixofosuafriyie2 ай бұрын

    Why go under the knife? Why not rather hit the gym and make progress at your own pace like regular people do?

  • @fabianweber6727
    @fabianweber67272 ай бұрын

    She's a big deal alright

  • @callumbush1
    @callumbush12 ай бұрын

    Eat less!

  • @elfuturomio
    @elfuturomio2 ай бұрын

    👎👎

  • @user-jc6ki7vx3r
    @user-jc6ki7vx3r2 ай бұрын

    Yeah become even fatter, uglier and unhealthier, but no bodyshaming.

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