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For me the most painful piece has been realizing that he didn’t love me enough to fight for us. He just walked away. I never want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me, and isn’t willing to put in the work to make it a solid, healthy relationship. Glad I figured it out now, but it still stings.

@elinek5470

Жыл бұрын

I'm in that situation right now... My actions to make my mistakes and thus our relationship better, he became more distant. He's an avoidant and I somehow still think he's coming back to me - and everyone I love keeps telling me I have to let him go because he leaves me feeling like nothing... Like a failure... Like I'm not even a bit important :( guess there's some trauma bond in this mix as well. Don't wish it on anyone. It sure stings when they don't love or appreciate you.

@lizashby999

Жыл бұрын

You have expressed exactly the situation I found myself in after nearly 5 years. I had to bring myself to walk away but he made absolutely no effort to right things or, as you say, "fight for us" (words I actually said to him at our last meeting) It hurt me so deeply but thankfully my mindset has shifted after nearly a year and I am ready and able now to find someone who will treat me better.

@mimi-vh3qq

Жыл бұрын

The guy who used to take 3-4 hrs to respond to my day to day texts, responded to my text wanting to end it, in under a minute!

@cathymullane4451

Жыл бұрын

@@mimi-vh3qq same thing just happened to me.... it feels like a blessing to me now that l released him mentally. Level up your requirements for next guy. "We have to learn how to separate the way WE feel about them vs. the way they make US feel being in the relationship" (matthew hussey) 2 very different things.

@michellemelton9120

Жыл бұрын

Same situation, I know I deserve better but I’m having a hard time getting over this. Especially since he moved on so quickly without trying to work things out

1. Free the relationship in your mind. Let it go. Cleanse your space. 2. Find your peace. Grieve it. Forgive. 3. Flourish. Build your best life. 4. Finish that goal. 5. Focus on the new. Good advice in general for living whether it involves a breakup or not.

@Lileigh980

Жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

Well said

@tanaworkzigale

Жыл бұрын

Thanks he ignored me without reason what shall I do

@rezotydnic

Жыл бұрын

@@tanaworkzigale without knowing all the details it's hard to say exactly. BUT ignoring you is a message from him.

@aylex1974

8 ай бұрын

I'm in this process

The best revenge is to iive a good life (without them).

Never be afraid to walk away from an incompatible man. Realistically his loss is your gain! He knows and understands why you left.

@chanellover2143

Жыл бұрын

Well said

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

No one gets away with anything. There are always consequences. Karma always has an address.

@joannaplummer-os3xj

Жыл бұрын

@@sherriflemming3218 so soooo true!!!

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

@@joannaplummer-os3xj Hi Joanna. Thank you. I hope you're doing well. Women need to date like Power Rangers. May the force be with you! Date like a detective. 🇨🇦

@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858

6 ай бұрын

What if he walked out on me?! He thought *I* was incompatible with him! 😞 while I didn't think the same! I thought we had a lot of commonalities?!!

The lies, cheating and Betrayal was really tough. I even started questioning myself, what went wrong. I give my all to the point I left nothing for myself. This time, I will love myself more. 😢❤❤❤

@simplywicked

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. Unfortunately I'm going through that right now. Married 18 yrs and never knew there was a problem until he came home at 3am one night. Yep he cheated and destroyed us.

@nancygituma1898

Жыл бұрын

I gave him all the love a man could ask but what did I get in return betrayal

@drewpeacock7707

Жыл бұрын

@@nancygituma1898 same … 😢

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

Lying and cheating isn't your fault. How a man treats women is on him. People have patterns. It's spotting the patterns and identifying red flags when you meet. Hardball interrogate men. 2 questions that will scare 90%of men away. What does committment look like and mean to you? What does a relationship look like and mean to you? Trust no one until they prove it. The book 8 Dates is a great read. Asking a guy if he has any references from exes is another good question. Scares the heck out of them. Dating is not for fun if you want a partner. We are often attracted to the familiar . Someone who resembles our parents. Important to know what you want and have definate dealbreakers. People show you who they are. A great podcast with Coach Kenneth Craig. We are attracted to the familiar and Understanding attachment styles. Most men have an avoidant attachment.

@edemamansunu1544

Жыл бұрын

Genuine partners suffer most. It is well Dear.

Self care is the best medicine everything else will fall into place after that ❤️

@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858

6 ай бұрын

I hope so! I always felt like this one area of my life I can never really figure out! I know that I am beautiful/pretty, kind, intelligent and I think I'd make a good, responsible wife and mother just like I was lucky enough to expereince growing up with my own mother! However, it sadly always takes two. I also know how to cook well and keep learning new tricks in the kitchen so I really don't understand what happend with my last relationship. I loved/really liked a lot of what he was about! Guess it wasn't that mutual sadly.. I am almost 40. I just hope it isn't too late for me to meet the right one. He was only 9 months older and caucasian so I really didn't understand how he could so coldly leave my life...after what I thought was one of the happiest/happier times in our lives, at least in MY life... I was hoping it was his too!

@seemranhoro1572

6 ай бұрын

@@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 That's so sad to hear about you.... hope you find the right one ..♥️

@jeanholtz579

6 ай бұрын

I just ignore him. He knows he can't replace me. Too bad for him.

I bumped into him 3 months later. I acted im happy...free... peaceful.he was amazed! But in fact deep inside i feel horrible😂

1.Free the relationship in your mind 2.Find peace-do the work 3.Flourish in your best life with habits. When you’re growing you’re glowing 4. Finish that goal 5. Focus on the new

After a breakup, the best thing you can do is move on. Reflect what went wrong. Learn from it and ladies cut all contact. Do not follow him on social media. Nothing. Block him. Take your time. Do not rush into another relationship. See it as an opportunity to find new hobby's, working on your skills, career, making new friends... Do not take him back. Never. Waste of time. 95% chance for a 2nd breakup. I hate to say it, but a lot of Guys (especially when they know, you still care) will just use you for sex.

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. Well said. Don't allow them to come back. Close the door. Why would you want an ex back?

@kishoreburvin2931

Жыл бұрын

Pls read my comment and suggest me😢

@kishoreburvin2931

Жыл бұрын

​@@sherriflemming3218 suggest me

@kishoreburvin2931

Жыл бұрын

If a man didn't talk to me for couple of weeks bocz of his situation. And aftr dat he cme back to me means can I accept him or not...😢😢 but I can't without his cal and text. But he didn't 😢..can anybdy tell

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

@@kishoreburvin2931 Thanks for your response. I was looking for yours. ??? How can I help?

It's to much effort to have a relationship, do life for yourself.. Friends are under rated.

It's the forgiveness part that just can't go away. The betrayal was intense but am working on it . Thank you with this.

@MoiraiScarlet

Жыл бұрын

Forgiving someone after betrayal was especially tough, imo it's one of the worst ways to get heartbroken. Not only it tears the relationship down to the core but it can also be damaging to the person who received the treatment leaving them feeling traumatized and losing their trust with starting anew eventually. Take your time to recover and process the feelings. It may be painful, but once you get over it, you'll be a stronger and wiser person than who you already are. Just sharing a bit of my advice about forgiveness: Forgiveness doesn't mean you'll forget someone's misdeeds, forgetting is silly because you need that knowledge so the same thing doesn't happen again Forgive as a literal word, it is to let go and just let that person have what they took away from you. It just mean to let things be while slowly letting go of the pain and resentment you had no matter how painful it was. Think of this not because of karma, but think of this as a way to set yourself free from the pain. We can't let this person take more of our energy and time away from us. You deserve living a better life enjoying the things that makes you happy. Forgive others and yourself to be free. Don't let the past rob your present. I wish you love and healing!

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

Forgive yourself. Not every betrayal requires forgiveness and certainly you don't forget how someone treats you. Without trust there is no relationship.

I wished my guy the best of luck with his new relationship and I thanked him for setting me free so that I could finally meet the person in my dreams

@MaryGj

Жыл бұрын

That’s sad they jump up one woman to another one 😔

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

Many people cannot be alone. And rebounds or transitional people rarely work out. People have behavioral patterns.

Great! I think is important to never put a guy on the pedestal or make him the centre of your life. Let him prove his love over a period of time and invest himself a lot.

Amen!!! I went back to school, dyed my hair and started dating again. Boo yah!

For me it’s to journal, grief and chase a dream that was unavaliable for me during the relationship

In order for me to live my best life after a current break up; is finding peace and letting go. Forgiving has never been so difficult, especially, when your vunerability, kindness, and love have been taken for granted. When you come to realize that it was not love he had for you. You were only a pawn in his calculated plan, that is painful. But I refuse to allow the pain to keep me complacent.

I have made myself a promise that I refuse to ever want him back again in my life. Even if he becomes the most transformed human being alive on this earth, not even then. He had his chance and he made it clear that he does not know how to appreciate that chance. He wasn't even willing. And here I was all way into the water. Now I am giving love (even more 🫶) to myself for which I was looking outside, believing it is on the outside.

@teddygrahamm

Жыл бұрын

Ugh same girl, stay strong! It's hard because I just want a hug from him, and then I remember that I'm just attached to someone who isn't even who I thought he was and am disgusted I ever put up with him. The song Flowers by Miley Cyrus is so beautiful and healing, I recommend going to give it a listen💖

@luciadzingai9479

Жыл бұрын

That's a really positive way to move on Matt

Watching this, I realised I needed to forgive and let go of a friendship that ended abruptly. This is very helpful. I don't want him to suffer, because I know our friendship was good and I know he would be suffering. Letting go is the hardest part. I liked what you said about that relationship no longer being available, it is so true.

To live my best life post break up: reflect on the lessons, hold myself accountable and show gratitude for the experience.

Bro you're reading me like a book.... You've gotten me through a tough break up and now he's all over me but its no hard feelings I moved on and I wish him well... Sadly that brotha can't handle lol ....i love every word you're saying PERIOD PERIOD ON PERIOD

This method truly does work. Focusing on bettering yourself & working on yourself & just enjoying your life truly does make you a beacon that draws all the moths to your flame.

I’m in pain right now hopefully it can help me to heal from the pain😭i lost my energy I really don’t know where should I start.all I want now is to relieve the pain in my heart cause by man I trusted everything.

This is a tough one; my daughter is around a lot of "sports" types (high school version). She wasn't used to this at first; but they are big flirts. But, it doesn't mean anything. So I've tried to warn her how they are. How not to give one of these guys too much of your time. So now she frequents the location, not the guy. If it's football, if it's ice skating; make it about the event. That way the guy won't keep you from wanting to go to the places you like to go. I've been able to be a constant for her so she's not so affected by this stuff. That lightness your talking about; yep, that's the goal.

Update: Mat, following your thinking was the crucial thing to do in my (see below) case. Me and my M47 continued the comm, but I put away my emotions. And continued dating other people. The result? He asked me recently to move in together. I am happy, you know I am, but - I am taking my time to think :) Thank you, Mat, you're a real friend :)

Transform pain into something greater! Wow👍❤️ 1. Release 2. Peace 3. Grow 4. Finish that Goal (a book to write, a trip to take, a business to start) 5. Focus on the New

My deepest feelings do not often come immediately, so the grieving step especially is taking time. I felt that being with him improved me, so I miss him a lot right now. Thank you for these nudges away from repetitive rumination.

That is SO TRUE! as soon as I stop thinking about my ex, cleanse my space of him he calls.

Mind boggling. Every word makes so much sense. Appreciate the short video that's meaningful

I really needed to hear this today. Your words are a reflection of how I have been feeling and what I know deep down that I need to do in order to feel I have some control back in my life. I feel I’ve lost someone so close to me but more importantly I’ve lost myself and need to find the person I once was. Thanks for this

Matt oh My GOD ❤ this wisdom, the tone of your voice, the clarity you bring us, the intention you set in the message it is really powerful and aways on time! You are like an Angel giving us the best in ur word. Thanks a lot for encourage us all woman to be our best selves. Bless you. ❤

I really needed this and there was not better time than now. I choose to release, forgive, flourish, finish my goal and fully transform. Thank you for this ‼️I will need to have this on repeat for daily reminders.

Oh did I need to hear and see this! Thanks again Mat! 🙏🏽✨ Definitely a much needed wake up call! Seems like I’m on the right track with with Steps 3,4,5 focusing on myself but haven’t completely free the relationship and found peace quite yet but almost there. This definitely nudges it further along sooner and that’s everything! 🫶❤️ Much love and light to you and Irene always! ✨

Thank you for sharing Mat, you are amazing! 🥰 For me, healing and feel the pain (takes time) then self care and focus on positive and practice gratitude every day. A new project or goals helps a lot too, the last F”😉

Thank you! Love this video...very valuable insights and advice

Mat,Ive been following you sice years, and allow me to say:YOU ARE GLOWING,COZ YOU ARE GROWING. You realy are, We are very gateful for all ur care,wisdom and love we recieved from you. Looking forward to see more from you in the future. God blesd u 🙏♥️

Thank you for sharing your amazing advice sir Matt.. God bless your entire family ❤❤

Great summary, thank-you Mat, love your channel!

This is actually sage ek vice and I will apply it to my everyday life. Thanks for this empowering video. Please do keep them coming and keep on being you're amazing self.

Amazing! Love it! Thanks for the guidance!

Thank you for this beautiful video. I just had a break up. Right now I'm on the moving and healing stage. I told myself I'll make myself better.God bless us all.

Thank you so much for saying these things.

Thanks a lot for this video, Mat. 😇😇

I’m really staying positive when it comes to my love life. Mat I’m trusting you ❤❤❤

I really needed to hear this. There is a trip I have really been wanting to take. Thanks for this video.

I don't want anybody to regret missing me. I want them to be happy, really happy. Life is all about going with the flow. Wish peace for them and turn the chapter. ❤🎉

@aylex1974

8 ай бұрын

If he's not happy with why me, I have to deserve him, hell? If I don't provide him happiness, fun, make him laugh, change his life for better, make him grow spiritually mentally and financially, desire. why do I have to be around him? Love is let the person be happy even you know that that person doesn't choose to be with you. It hurts to see him go with someone else, but it hurts more to see that you're giving him hard time and not fun times checking his phone waiting for someone else who makes him smile and jumps of happiness because he saw that text. Making plans to make someone else happy when that specific person is in needed and you just watching how happy he feels with her and with you is only bored and a yes or no talk. Being indifferent to your needs but with others is available and happy. Is better to lose than living miserable.. creating fantasies in the mind

@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858

6 ай бұрын

Pathetic. They don't really care, so why should you?!

most important elements are to focus on these 5 F;s and do them!!! I am not getting over "someone" but getting over the past and many relationships.

Thank you so much Matt What an amazing way to handle a situation. I’ve not experienced a break up. But a end to communication. That is a negativity to these devices we use and distance mileage wise from the other. I needed to hear this today. Thank you deeply.

@srs1659

Жыл бұрын

Same here. Let’s not take it personally. We never know what’s on their plate. Keep walking!

Great video Ma, thank you.

I Love the music instrumental at the end...the message is invaluable❤

I really hope he is happy and content with whatever path he is on ❤ he is the one I love, I wish the best for the one I love.

Nice insights! Thanks much.

I needed this today. I'm not in a broken relationship but I feel off-kilter. He's almost perfect, everything I thought I'd never find again. He's a genuinely loving and caring person and lately I've been feeling sad. I realized that I'm going to cool this off for me. I don't want to hurt him but I don't want to feel sad. Maybe he's nervous about betraying his dead wife. She's been gone for 23 years. I respect that and won't interfere with his grief, which I think is what he's going through now that there's a possibility of happy-ever-after with someone else. I'm extremely in love with him but I need to know I'm the one he can love free of past memories. He can have them but I don't want them to interfere with our happiness. Anyway, thank you for this. The timing for me to see it was just right.

@srs1659

Жыл бұрын

I hope you feel better by now. The right person is someone who chooses to be with us. It takes courage to say no to someone who looks perfect for us but not right for us.

wow! I needed to hear this. i started to do some of it but now I have more of a direction. that you Matt. you are awesome!!!

Thank you Matt for your advices. They really help me. God bless you for your wise words 🙏

Thank u very much.i always see ur relationship channel.thanks

Dear Mat, yours is the best crying shoulder I (F 63) could have hoped for ... and you guess right, it happened today. I've realized this relationship was not what I needed. Although he IS my dream man (M 47). We are so similar that it is scarry - both Aquarians, born on the same day, both writers, philosophers, spiritual souls, midnight talkers, both with a mission to heal the world. And yet - with different needs regarding the relationship. I understood one thing - if I am in a relationship and feeling lonely, that's not it. It took me 6 months to understand, to decide to confront the issue, and to talk it through which I did today. Luckily he is a marvelous person, so we understood each other well. And very probably we will remain friends. This hurts, you know it does. But pain makes us alive, learning life and still kicking :) Thanks for being here for us :)

Thanks Mat for your advice and i appreciate that you are always so cheerful:)

Just found him cheating on our marital bed yesterday. I can't sleep the whole night. Been practicing calmness but am breaking inwardly. Thanks for your kind words

@Ryansara

Жыл бұрын

Are you a mountain person or a beach person?

@sherriflemming3218

Жыл бұрын

It's horrible. Did you kick him out? I hope so. You're traumatized.

What wise and valuable counsel.

I have listened to your channel andit has seen me through a divorce and an amazing new relationship which turned into a marriage. This video is excellent because it is very positive and will get the exact results desired. Just because it doesn't happen overnight doesn't mean it will not happen. I try to remain friendly with all of my sexes. Nothing more than a note on a Birthday or congratulations when I hear some good news about them. My ex finished a goal I put him on when we were together. When I told him my heartfelt congrats he asked if it was enough for me to take him back. . I am happy I had good advice.

I have always wanted you to do this video thank you ❤️

Wonderful Word’s of Wisdom… 🙌❤️

This really helped me. Thank you

I definitely appreciate you Sir. Thank you 🙏 ❤

Sooooooo true Matt.... every word!

Amazing explanation 👏

See I find that these videos work not only for personal life but for professional. I have recently been betrayed to and lied to by my boss. I find incredibly attractive and heaps in common but then he lied to me and that is something I'm truly devastated about as I thought this could be the real deal I might have a chance of finding my happily ever after. But now I'm finding myself in a tough spot as I know my employment may not be secured and its a job I absolutely love. So this will help me get over him and live my best life. Thank you Mat and all those reading to allow me to vent. Have a great day/evening and life your life the best you can and keep smiling.

Good one, Mat!

Powerful words Mat

It's been 3 years since we broke up for the 2nd time. I should never have let him dismiss me. He msgd this new year and I know he feels our connection. I was due to marry someone else but I couldn't. Every time I start something new he's there in my mind and then as if he can read my mind he msgs. I've even moved over 2 hours away. He's still there. I am flourishing and I'm focusing on my new endeavours but he's always there 🥰

Powerful words let's me try feeling heartbroken

i love your advice its real ,, thank you thank you

The most important element for my best life is finishing school and starting my career. I want to save money and get my own place and know I can rely on myself! From there I want to add in hobbies and goals to enrich my time when I’m not working: like writing, traveling, yoga/Pilates/martial arts. Just always learning more and more and having fun!

You are great 😊mat now my mind is totally relaxed

I cannot tell you how much this message touches my heart. Thank you God of Miracles!!! Amen 🙏❤🙌

Thanks for the advice, I recently told my boyfriend to give ourselves some time. Since we have been together for 2 years and I do not see the relationship moving further. Both of us have been divorced. He said that he feels not ready to get married, and he is not sure if he ever will. So I made the decision to let go. Thanks for your video. I want to have someone that will be there for me all the way. He told me that he did not wanted to be apart but he understands. I myself want someone that is sure of his feelings, and the love he has for me.

Things that help me move on from anything is just allowing myself to sit in the pain. After that, you have a clean slate! 😊

Great video

Needed this

No one talks about the pain you experience after leaving someone the aftermath could be worse than someone leaving u.

1) Free the relationship in your mind. 2) Find your peace. 3) Flourish.(Build your best life) 4) Finish that goal. 5) Focus on the new.

Thank you ❤

On my side its waw❤...whatta nice quotes❤❤❤❤

Thank you Mat!! So very much!! I'll let you know what happens, lol.

Needed to hear this

Thanks a lot, I experiencing right now. I don't know to start again but I watched your video and it wake me up. I asked myself, why I need to cry with him?If he doesn't care my feelings.

Awesome Matt, great tips. I can so relate to these tips. I had been through a tough divorce and I did the work of finding exactly who I am without the title of being a wife. Here are some things I have accomplished: 1. I published three books 2. I’m in my best body, I’ve lost over 30Lbs 3. I’m back into banking as a titled officer 4. My spiritual senses have been heightened, enlightened and unleashed. 5. I’ve been out of homelessness in a beautiful home I co-owned with family 6. I have written a vision and mission plan for my right person 7. I’ve upgraded my car 8. The compassion, grace, mercy, kindness, forgiveness and truth I choose to release into my life is beyond the realm of ordinary 9. More refreshing and enlightening, is the wisdom, knowledge and understanding in finding the peace I need in the world around me 10. At the end my ex husband keep saying if you were like this when we were together we would still be together. I smile because it takes us not being together for me to discover a newer, better version, and transformed version of who I truly am to say the least. 😘 😘😘

@angelyndibala5420

Жыл бұрын

Empowering!!!!

@joannaplummer-os3xj

Жыл бұрын

Love every word of that! Amen!!! ❤

@debbielightmillercurtisaut9631

Жыл бұрын

@@joannaplummer-os3xj thanks beautiful 🙏

My God. Your advice was God-sent at the right juncture. Thank you God.

Thnks lot bro ❤

7:57 oh gosh! This is so true. I haven’t been in the gym etc for years and I crave it. I feel it will shift my life since I’ve been single for 13 years.

Wow - I totally teared up at "Finish that goal". I have been trying to finish my doctorate for years - now I got dumped, this is the time to do it. Thank you 😊

@srs1659

Жыл бұрын

It took me five years to get my doctorate. If you have already spent years for it, just finish. It’s about time! You can do it! Bon courage!

Ah! I would love this in a pdf format 😊

Thanks Mat ❤️

I am not going through a romantic breakup but rather ending/changing a familial relationship that has cost me too much.

Good day to find this

He can't see the posts if he's blocked 😈😁. I love your videos and genuine from the heart approach 🤩

I Love This I'm Going Thru A Brake Up Now And It's Funny Because I've Been Doing All This & Posting On Snap He Still Watching My Snaps LoL 😂

This is accurate, very

You have an amazing voice, like from the 50s. Classic