the man who said he hated talking to ppl making a video on how to make friends is so goals

My introverted ass gonna watch this then be too scared to attempt it

@LordGarlicBread

Ай бұрын

Same for my dismissive avoidant ass

@yasminh

25 күн бұрын

real

ben singing linger at the beginning has my heart because ive been obsessed with that song for that last 3 days.

What to do to start to make friends with someone: -go get boba -go to bar (or a kava bar) -go to the art or reg museum -go to the aquarium -go ice skating -go to a farmers market -go pick flowers or take pics of them -go thrifting -go to a concert -go take a drive just cuz -go to an abandoned place -go to a poetry making or painting place -make TikToks -compare music taste -bark at men -scream at night in the woods -color printed paper or coloring books -make collages -become wolves -bake food together -paint each other or other challenges

@bloobat86

Ай бұрын

become wolves😭

@onlyonelove5628

Ай бұрын

Go to a library

@strawberrymilk5338

Ай бұрын

" bark at men" 😭

@aureorq

Ай бұрын

omg i love you

@rikiilvs_

Ай бұрын

bark at men?…

1:01 This Sabrina Carpenter reference made my day

@TreeFr0ggie

Ай бұрын

so realll same 😂😅

this. i'm currently in school and i don't have anyone that i actually feel connected to. everyone just does their own thing and hang out without me after school, and it's not like they hide it or anything i just know. i can't wait to go to college and just over. get a second chance, as i see it. find people that i actually have common interests with.

@bloobat86

Ай бұрын

this is so me rn😔

@CoolBabyGamerisCoolisMySister

Ай бұрын

yall wanna bmf like sure js onlineee but since yall listen to this podcast we have a little in common? idkk js reply if ud like to :) !!

@robynkwog6781

Ай бұрын

@@CoolBabyGamerisCoolisMySister yayyy i have telegram and tiktok ., that's it lol i would love to be your friend

@stani4067

Ай бұрын

hey i just gotta say i used to be just like you i had no friends no common interest etc. im now in college or highschool at new big school and i finally found people who i get along with. ive now learned a lot about making friends the past year. i used to be very closeted off from ppl and not open because i had lost hope honestly. but this year once i began being genuinely interested in others and talking more, making plans with them, thats when the shift happened and im now finally making friends. i used to believe i would never be able to but i did it so i hope things go well for u too

@aquerbus

5 күн бұрын

honestly i feel like its kind of the education system's fault sometimes, they pressure you to spend time with people you might not even like or make you feel like theres nobody that connects with you, but for me one thing that helped is that what u have in common is complaining about school and another thing was having friends you met elsewhere that actually share your interests (internet, clubs, childhood friends etc)

Ben singing "Linger" made my day

@On_Melancholyhill

Ай бұрын

real, lov the cranberries

immediately trying ur tips when i finish watching this episode

@Its_Alana-_-

9 күн бұрын

I 🖤 ur user istg

I needed this I totally have no friends

@riverrichardson1178

Ай бұрын

real 😭

@mars_bar.

Ай бұрын

u have a new one cause u like melanie ^_^

@aliaaaafr

Ай бұрын

pfp twins 🥰🥰

@_benevolentone

23 күн бұрын

real, unfortunately 😭😭

The way I immediately clicked😭im so lonely help

I’m just waiting for the day someone walks up to me and starts talking to me and we instantly become besties 😅

ben makes these videos because he truly cares about us mamas. thank you ben

*"Debby downer demmy dofus"* is insane LMFAO.

i feel like me and ben are legit the same person 😭😭 online is my social domain everyone loves me and it’s so easy to talk and as soon as i have to interact with a real person im just like nahhh it’s actually so hard to but ill def be using this

thank you benita for another honest tutorial! we are getting jeffrey epsteins number with this! 🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🗣️🔥🗣️🔥🗣️

@mrlunahour

Ай бұрын

⁉️

This one podcast came in clutch, because i’ve been struggling with these feelings for months

DRAMA - my bestfriend (girl) is in a relationship... they both love eachother and but the guy is too jealous of another guy. THEY BOTH VENT TO ME ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND EVERYTHING and ask about advices which is not a problem.. BUT THEIR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN TAKING A TOLL ON MY MENTAL HEALTH.. they both are my bestfriends and i cant just let them break up BEN WHAT THE FUK DO I DO!?!?

@sassyunibrow3765

26 күн бұрын

Hello, I'm not Ben obviously lol but you should tell your friends that they can't keep relying on you to solve THEIR own problems cause that's so toxic, relying on someone else to solve everything instead of communicating on their own. It's bad for them, their relationship, and on you. You should let them know what you're boundaries are and that they need to figure their shit out! (Obviouskh in a nicer way lmao) If not, nothing will change! I hope this helps💕

DRAMA: Okay, so basically, I have this friend (I’ve had since 6th grade) who gets super upset when you talk to someone she used to have a crush on (just crushes, no talking stage at all). But when I developed a crush on this guy, she would constantly call him ugly and annoying. However, I found out a few days later that she started liking him. A few days after I found out, I was talking about the situation to my other friends, and someone snitched. She texted me saying, “I don’t want a boy to come between us” and “Don’t like him like that,” and a bunch of other stuff. But I didn’t care, so I told her that, She then said that she was lying because she didn’t want me to be mad (I was a tiny bit), and we left it at that. Later, I found out they were talking, and I did some thinking. She's done this to me with every crush I’ve had since 6th grade (4 years). Now I like this new guy, but she’s liked him in the past. Should I tell her, or should I not, or should I drop her?

@emms_rep13

Ай бұрын

Drop her you deserve better

@robynkwog6781

Ай бұрын

(how do you still talk to her!??!?) if u really like this guy and want to be something more, I think what u should do is ~not tell her~ . she will just come in between you both like in the past but if u wanna prove a point about how bad she is ~you should tell her about him~ (this is only when u don't like him a lot and want drama)

@Am10903

29 күн бұрын

It’s really your choice if you’d drop the friend or not in my past experience I’ve had a similar situation and I kept trying to hold our friend ship and it ruined me inside so… don’t wait until it’s to late ⏰

@ilovelino.

28 күн бұрын

definitely drop her. and unrelated but MANA SAMA ‼️

how did you know.

y'all let's make this comment section a place to find friends 🌸 leave a comment if you want to

@kikiss236

Ай бұрын

YES pleasee

@Pen267

Ай бұрын

@Am10903

29 күн бұрын

Let’s make a gc 🎉

0:05 I love that song

DRAMA this girl at my school is writing fanfiction about kids in our school and it got sent around the school, it is genuinely the most terrifying thing ive ever read. also love ur videos sm ur one of my faves to watch been watching since 2019💗🫶

I just had a long chat with an online Fortnite friend through DM’s. He told me a lot of advice on how to make a friend bc I used to complain to him how he was the only one who talked to me. He lives far away so is tryna help me out from far away. I told him thank you for this because I genuinely had no one to talk to. So keep this as a reminder to just look out for people and talk to them even if you have never met them. I felt so much better after chatting with him. So being a good person really isn’t hard guys.

hey ben here’s my “drama” for the week! (i need advice mamas!!) i’m moving from a town i’ve been in for six years in a tiny catholic school with about 150 kids to another town where i’m going to a public school with almost 3000 kids and i know nobody😭 i’m kind of nervous about making friends and ik this video is LITERALLY ABOUT THAT but anything else helps thanks mamas😗 p.s. ily ben drama mama gets me through the week💖

@novemberparade1

9 күн бұрын

omg same… (except for the moving part but its STILL THE SAME FEELING!!!)

@emma-iy5iy

9 күн бұрын

@@novemberparade1 i wish you luck!!!!

@novemberparade1

9 күн бұрын

@@emma-iy5iy luck 2 u too!!

This was really intresting!! I always had this impression of you being this social guy who has no anxiety

I needed this tutorial😌

i switched schools a lot and i had one best friend then we switched schools and life went on. then in middle school the kids i chilled with never liked me so i floated around a lot (thats how it went) and then in hs the kids who didn't like me but pretended to be my friend respected me a little more but still never wanted to build that frienship. so i took what i could get and it was minimal. the best people were those that i met through classes and we chatted and weren't too close of friends but were close enough to learn more about each other than the friends i thought i had. then college hit.... there were a great group i met but we barely talk now. everyones caught up in their careers.

Thank u for this Ben all my old friends ditched me and I’ve been rlly lonely TYSM Ben♥️♥️

I’m currently in third year of my major. In Highschool I used to have a lot of friends and we still connect from time to time through messages. But since I left high school and went to university (which is three hours away from my hometown) I’ve been alone. I have two Highschool friends who are in uni with me but we are in completely different majors. I still hang out with them for dinner and walks if we are not busy. But mostly I’ve been alone, I have no friends who shares classes with me. I do my work all on my own and I feel it’s too late to have a friend or create friendships since everybody just made friends since first year and stuck together. Lately the loneliness is taking a toll on me, my grades are dogshit and I feel more sad than ever because friends will help each other out and I have no one to reach out to help me. I’m so close to dropping out and it’s the last thing I want to do. In the end it’s just fate and luck if you find a friend or not. I don’t feel bitter or anything it’s just so depressing Thanks for joining me Ted talk

I'm picturing Ben in his therapy appointments accidentally bursting out screaming like he does on the pod lol!

the way i was exactly thinking abt this when you uploaded 💀

@Remy2121

Ай бұрын

SAMEE

To anyone who also feels like this, know you are not alone. Blame it on being introverted or because of the pandemic, everyone has felt like this at some point in their life. You'll get better and always be yourself 😙

no because he's such a vibe

this episode made me cry because i have had a lot of friendship problems in the past omg

singing Linger and holding up a sonny angel is the best hook i’ve ever seen🔥

brooo i love bens energy, podcasts, videos, singing, and HUMOR I LOVE YOU BENNNNNNN❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

As a 15 year old you are SO RIGHT about the internet thing, even when I was younger it was much easier, however I have made genuine connections through the internet, I even adopted a cat from one of them lol you kinda gotta just let it happen (ik that’s terrible advice but I fr don’t know where I found these people, I just kinda did)

finally, the tutorial everyone’s been needing

The title felt a bit personal

I’ve been trying hard to be friendlier to everyone and start more conversations recently and it’s helped sooooo much. I probably have 2x as many friends as I did this time last year while still keeping the old ones ❤

Tip if you're in school- join clubs! I've made a lot of friends that way!

Me watching this knowing damn well I just made 2 new friends today 😭

from 2020 to now i literally have had no real life friends to me its really easy to talk in front of a large group of ppl but its so scary talking to somebody one on one especially to somebody i actually wanna be friends with cuz im so scared they wont like me but even after i talk to somebody i really like and i wanna be friends with i never actually become friends with them or hangout with after school like i could talk to everybody in class but when the teachers says pick a partner nobody picks me or when lunch time comes im the one sitting alone outside on ground so like what do i do cuz some ppl i actually have their snapchat and phone numbers but i never know how to reach out to hang out or some ppl i talk to sometimes but idk how to be friends with them

Ben I'm also visiting New York in the following week I really wanna meet you there and Mai Pham

Needed this so badly

bruh the way ive been thinking about this for the past 2 weeks and suddenly ben posts an episode of it is crazy

thank you so much for this omg 😭😭 i fr thought i was a lonely freak

This helped with my chronic pain.

this is actually so real I’ve been feeling this for so long

Thanks I needed this

I need this. THANK YOU BENNNN 🙏🙏🙏

DRAMA (sorry def longer than a sentence): i was at a tailgate with some of my friends, we were drinking, playing pong, corn hole ya know college things and then i see my RA walking towards me he doesn’t even say hi before he starts making out with me tongue down my throat. i immediately pulled away and he yells “what the f bella?!” he made out with me three more times at the tailgate (each time I had to pull away), I had to take care of him for the rest of the night (he started drinking at 6am & was blacked out for 12+ hours), plus he was on duty that night. so this happened back in October and he has a gf now (he has apologized to me a ton, don't worry!) it’s still so awkward between us because i see him almost everyday.

needed this ty mama

thanks ben you posted this at the perfect time💔🥰

Ik it’s a good week when Benoftheweek posts

@ash.a23

Ай бұрын

He uploads a new podcast episode every week, but yeah it does make the entire week better :D

i thought this video was gonna be him telling us how to find friends but no hes asking us for help

i needed this fr

Watching your channel is like immersing yourself in a world of fantasy and beauty. I am very grateful for your work! 🌟

why am i seeing this after becoming friends with someone yesterday i’ve been trying to be friends with for a whole year.

Im gonna try all of these ASAP cuz i actually suck at talking to people lol

I never had a friend group, I had individual people that I hung out with (most of them are friends from childhood) but they’re not friends with each other so we never hang out all together unless it was school related (as we used to all go to the same school). Now that I’ve graduated (in 2022) & moved out of my home state, I have no friends, a few people I hang out with but I wouldn’t call them friends yet - we just sit together at church or I see people at worship night. 🤷🏽‍♀️

wow I needed this

I just wanted to tell you I love your videos and I can relate to you sm Btw it’s my birthday today 🎉🎉❤️❤️

drama - my parents want me to do this therapy thing where i go there from 10:00-2:30 five days a week and i rlly dont want to because i wont be able to see my friends at school, but my dad said if i dont comply he will call the police on me and idk what to do. edit: i was wrong about the schedule, its every day from 9:00-3:30 😢

Ok imma spill.. ik no one will read all this but writing this kinda helps me deal with it 😭 In my country there’s two schools: Primary and High school, Primary goes for 7 years and high school goes for 6… I’ve just come from a school with 350 kids (everyone knows each other) and our whole grade has known each other for AT LEAST 7 years.. now I get to go to this amazing high school.. but the high school I’ve gone to is a private with a primary school connected to it. This means that most of my grade of 168 kids know each other as they went to the primary school altogether.. BUT ME? I went with a bunchhhh of boys (none of my friends went to my school) .. so basically I know no one at this giant private school where everyone already knows eachother.. and I’m in friend groups and stuff but.. I just can’t really connect with anyone.. and I guess that’s just where the primary to high school thing kind of annoys me because in primary school you get to year 6 and EVERYONE KNOWS EACH OTHER!! And it’s at that point that everything is also super harmonious and there’s no drama and now in yr 7 there’s WAY too much friend drama!

BEN?!?!?!?! why does it feel this illegal to be so early...am i the only one who really enjoys bens voice tho he has such a friendsy kinda voice if that makes sense

Drama: so I have this friend and they are into girls and all my friends thought i was gay when they first met me and then they thought me and my friend were dating even tho we weren’t but we just thought it was funny so I wouldn’t get that offended until they started like touching my back and arms weirdly and I don’t know how to ask them to stop without coming off as rude .

Why’d ben’s singing highkey good

HEY BEN!! my name is Mars and this is my drama !! so my friend's brother (in 10th grade) saw someone chewing on something and thought it was gum so he asked for some. it was CHEWING TOBACO!!?? but he's fine. (I think ?) I love ur videos and PLEASE NEVER STOP!!

As a person who’s become introverted I can see why I’ve become this way it’s kinda like Ben’s problem of moving away from the place and people you know. Now I know no one I hope fully this helps me make friends lmao

ben singing the cranberries makes me happy.

20:21 there is such thing as a cat cafe:3

@1.swiftie

Ай бұрын

GIRL you’ve been missing OUT 😭

*DRAMA* : I have a nineteen yr old friend who is friends with benefits with like a 30+ yr old guy... um, i mean, I trust her and I don't think she's getting manipulated but still... xd BTW Ben take your own advice: don't stress too much, life will bring you what you need at the right time, go to events/sign up at clubs/go to activities where u might find nice people or someone w common interests, and don't be scared to tell your friends how you really feel!! ("hey dude, it's been so long, let's do something together"). They'll appreciate your honesty and wanting to reach out, it's really all that matters :) And a situation is awkward only if YOU think or feel that it is, it's all in your head. You're a very funny and likeable person, don't be afraid to go up to someone and start talking (literally I go to someone and after a short introduction I ask them what their fav shows/movies are, it gives so much to talk about). And remember, it doesn't hurt to try, trying you'll only get either nothing or benefits. Good luck on your quest, you got this ;))

Why is Ben actually good at singing tho…

@Crystali949

Ай бұрын

FR

@Remy2121

Ай бұрын

LITERALLY LIKE HAVE YOU HEARD BARBIE JEEP BY HIM :0

@TheSecretLifeOfTay

Ай бұрын

@@Remy2121YA IT WAS SO SLAY

I lost a couple friends the day this is/was posted, Ben is a legend

I'm literally in school Saving this for later✌️🤠🔫❤️

@Rae1336

Ай бұрын

I hope you have/ had a good day. Good luck 👍 ❤

JAKE N JOHNNIE SHOULD TURN BENOFTHEWEEK EMOOOOOOOO

I have like three main friends thsts enough for me

The pandemic started a revolution of more isolation then ever. I was 19 when it started and now I’m 23 and I feel crucial years of my social growth were stunted. I’m finally starting to feel like I’m back in the world again but I only have a few friends, everyone lives in different states or countries,etc. I just downloaded bumble BFF cus honestly apparently that’s the way people meet now but ahhhhhhhhhhh. I think work and school are the places where people can make friends in real life the easiest

@wattw3900

15 күн бұрын

And hobbies. I’ve met people of all ages from acting classes and other random hobbies and it’s helped me grow a lot plus it’s fun

This just made my day😂

amazing cover 10/10

My only problem is my parents constantly telling me I don’t need friends and I’m better off alone… why the fuck are they like this?

Starting with linger is so real

Your character development >>

Please make a vid on the Kendrick and drake beef some of them allegations are wild

linger at the start💕💕😭😭

28:40 HELPPPP MEEE THE FACE BAHAHAH 😭😭😭🙏☠️

the only 2 people ik irl is my bsf and my gf (ive only met my gf like 3 times bc we go different schools)

needed this. my bff of 10 years got eloped yesterday and is moving in like 2 days and apparently can’t hangout with me before then

@leil4l0vs

29 күн бұрын

and i just found out

nah cus idk either

DRAMAAA: creepy math teacher... What do you do when you have a creep as a teacher? he is 55 and constantly looks at girls legs and chest and there is even a video of him looking at a girl's butt... (p.s I love ur vids!)

DRAMAA✨✨ There was this girl at my grandma's church, Charlotte. She had a granddaughter named Jackie, who had just started high school. She was like 15 or so. Anyways, she decided to sleep with their youth pastor, TOMMY, who is FREAKING 24. Anyways the church found out and charlotte, Jackie, and tommy left. Fast forward several months, my grandpa is dead, and we're setting up the body viewing. one of the first guests who shows up is charlotte, acting like nothing happened, being all cheery. It was awkward to say the least.

I love your singing ❤

0:03 WHY DID HE HIGHKEY EAT??

WAKE UP THE BEST KZreadR POSTED❤❤

20:03 I work in a cafe and if I get hearing loss by the age of 30 I blame it on the steamer and coffee grinder 😭

Fr it's hard now

wait yas i have the monkey sonny angel too

boutta use this video to get my friend crush

BEN PLEASE MAKE A VIDEO ABOUT THE DRAKE AND KENDRICK DISSES