We suffer more in imagination than in reality

@angramainyu4599

Жыл бұрын

10% of life is what happens to us. The other 90% is how we respond.

@aaronogden9900

Жыл бұрын

Another good quote I heard is worrying is a waste of imagination.

@jzen1455

Жыл бұрын

We also prosper more in imagination than in reality. The novel À rebours is about a guy who retreats into himself in the countryside and "travels" in his imagination instead of traveling in person.

@angramainyu4599

Жыл бұрын

@@jzen1455 but in the end it's not real.

@digidrum2003

Жыл бұрын

Wow....well said.

“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.” - Mark Twain

@marysalmon2367

11 ай бұрын

@@northside_adv Correct!

@rebeccamulkern1051

10 ай бұрын

This is so me, I love that saying, thanks for posting it, it will be my mantra

@SR_tooversatile

3 ай бұрын

Facts

@segoviaone

Ай бұрын

I hope my son has a chance to watch this video, but if not I hope that he knows that I cared to find it. Stress is a part of this world, and how we perceive it is a key to happiness.

The power of hobbies is so important. It makes you human. You aren’t defined your day to day job.

@Myworldmymind908

3 ай бұрын

Very well said

@laminage

Ай бұрын

You got that right. When applying for jobs, they always look at whether or not you say you have hobbies. That's very important because it shows that you try to have some sort of a life.

@ham7357

2 күн бұрын

@@laminageI’ve never been asked about my hobbies at job interview

"Never let the future disturb you - you will meet it with the same weapons of reason and mind that, today, guard you against the present...”

@DesertMoon

Жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@lisaaaa437

Жыл бұрын

Needed to see this comment. Thank you so much..

@DihelsonMendonca

3 ай бұрын

My present is terrible.

@licksnkicks1166

2 ай бұрын

@@DihelsonMendoncawhy?

"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." Marcus Aurelius. Keep up the good work brother!!

@Saber23

Жыл бұрын

I mean he’s done some good work but what has this actually explained to us about the modern world?

@ElitePhilosophy

Жыл бұрын

@@Saber23 His words are timeless. The more you go through life , the more the words start to make sense.

@MegaDysart

Жыл бұрын

​@@Saber23 what do you want, his comments on 21st century warfare and the 2024 presidential race? His writings were a unique insight into the private thoughts of one of the most powerful people in the world in his time, and we can learn a lot from how he was able to rationalize his feelings and thoughts to himself and deal with the huge problems and obstacles he faced. That's it, doesn't need to be anything more than that tbh

@Saber23

Жыл бұрын

@@MegaDysart I was talking about Ryan dude

@MegaDysart

Жыл бұрын

@@Saber23 oh yeah Ryan is kindof a tool

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU

Ай бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@elizabethwilliams6651

Ай бұрын

Yes, dr.andrew_james. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@patriaciasmith3499

Ай бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU

Ай бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@elizabethwilliams6651

Ай бұрын

Yes he is. dr.andrew_james

"For him who has conquered the mind, the mind is the best of friends; but for one who has failed to do so, his very mind will be the greatest enemy." Bhagavad Gita

@Saber23

Жыл бұрын

Stop quoting pagans

@Brian-mc7iw

Жыл бұрын

@@Saber23 🤣😅

@IPSITA1000

Жыл бұрын

​@@Saber23 shut up! It's Hinduism. Stop judging and mind your business. These lines were already quoted way back before Seneca was born. And it's hard fact .. just because you don't know doesn't mean you will criticize. This quote is much more real than your own life. I swear.

@alpha7827

Жыл бұрын

​@@Saber23 far better than your abhramic shit . Whole stoicism is based on hindu,buddhist, taiost philosophy

@roryogorman8219

Жыл бұрын

Pagans see a natural reality, unlike the fantasists who dream of resurrection and other such myths....avoid them.

"The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane." - Marcus Aurelius

NEVER say sorry to anyone who has wronged you. If your abruptness, harshness or candor was expressed to someone in self defense, saying sorry will only empower them to feel their behavior was correct and that it's okay to continue their behavior. Let them stew in the wrongness of their deed. Eventually when their heart is in the right place they will come around and apologize to YOU for their behavior. Don't worry. It's okay to stick up for yourself.

@py_a_thon

Жыл бұрын

Some people have difficulty with words(and/or their ego). And one can also express an apology through actions and implied speech. (Such as just being respectful, continuing a discussion or letting the water flow under a bridge to be forgotten about later). That is perhaps a bit more Buddhist rather than Stoic, yet I still enjoy the idea and see how many people often function like that.

@kpaxian6044

Жыл бұрын

This is what I have to learn.

@cindypappas253

Жыл бұрын

This comment was as powerful content as the video itself. You Ben are speaking directly into my life with your words. Thank you to you and our Ryan.

@kasban8672

Жыл бұрын

I need to internalize this. I have this exact problem in my marriage. I stand up for myself. It's not the right delivery that my husband expects and then the focus is on my apology to HIM lol. Tbh then everything goes to shit and I don't know what to do anymore

@janellentim

11 ай бұрын

So true. I had the thought come to my mind that. I’m not intentionally hurting anyone but rather I’m doing what’s best for me. If that means that I’m no longer friends with someone it’s not to be hurtful or spiteful but rather to honor myself.

God put this video on my feed when I needed it most. Thank you

@Actias1974

11 күн бұрын

Is the Google algorithm your God?

No amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen. - Alan Watts.

As a person experiencing negative thoughts, this really helps me out a lot. We hope to see more content like this.

@nimbusspacewagon

Жыл бұрын

You should read Ryan’s books. I can say in all honesty, they changed my life. Stoicism is the greatest choice I made.

@mateoben7120

Жыл бұрын

@@nimbusspacewagon I actually find stoic ideas as pretty obvious knowledge but the application of it in the mind is the most challenging

@isatukamara4245

Жыл бұрын

@@nimbusspacewagon qq❤

@marcdellorusso180

Жыл бұрын

Based on quotes that I’ve read, his books have that generic self-help vibe, but with borrowed ideas from stoicism. I’d rather read the original source material.

@nimbusspacewagon

Жыл бұрын

@@marcdellorusso180 It about making it more accessible to a modern audience. To each his/her own. A core tenet of Stoicism is that just because an idea was great once, does not mean it cannot be improved upon, or superseded by a new idea. Philosophy is about change, growing with the seasons, remaining present - By remaining adherent to an original text is one thing, but prejudging something as lesser because of a sense of "purity", well if that is the case, then one has missed the entire point of stoicism. But again, to each his/her own.

I’m going through a very bad moment of my life, I’m trying to keep going even if it’s hard man. Thanks for this video, it’s helping a lot.

@digidrum2003

Жыл бұрын

Same here....wife left us.....shit hurts so much.......I still love her.

@paulaboynton8299

Жыл бұрын

Me too.

@vpeak5762

Жыл бұрын

Sooo true...it is hard. One day at a time while trying to find the answers

@carlosarchuleta62

Жыл бұрын

@@digidrum2003 so sorry, I am thinking of you and sending peace to you

@digidrum2003

Жыл бұрын

@@carlosarchuleta62 Thank you for that.

0:00 - Intro 1:46 - Remember these mantras 2:39 - Choose how you respond 3:16 - Be mindful 4:07 - Shift your perspective 5:09 - Embrace your hobbies 6:45 - Be here now 7:38 - Everyone has to start somewhere 8:33 - Let it pass 9:11 - Keep going 10:00 - Don't have an opinion

@leahmoonbeamflower333

Жыл бұрын

Thank you ☺️.

@sg-zd8eb

Жыл бұрын

I’ll have an opinion if I want, you don’t get to tell me when to have one.

@leahmoonbeamflower333

Жыл бұрын

@@sg-zd8eb I don’t think any cares if you have an opinion, lol. Life goes on. Do you.

@sg-zd8eb

Жыл бұрын

@@leahmoonbeamflower333 you don’t think any cares? Please correct your typo.

@leahmoonbeamflower333

Жыл бұрын

@@sg-zd8eb nope 🙂🙂🙂. Deal with the typo. 😜

I needed this today. You have no idea, my man. Much appreciated. The universe responds once again. A van passed today with the words “open new doors” on it. My position at work is in jeopardy. 6 has always been my number and today it’s 6-6. God I want to be great…

Very true. Be the pilot of your body. Be the pilot of your mind.

I’m currently in the process of getting laid off from a company I’ve been with for over 10 years. It will be a drawn out process 18-24 months. I have 2 kids with the youngest being 1 month old. Your videos help so much with the obvious anxiety that comes with such a life altering event and makes me realize to shift my perception. This event is out of my control. I’ve tried my best. Do I drown in despair or do I view it as an opportunity to grow and take on the next challenge in my life. I’ll take the latter and thank you for helping me realize this. Your videos are truly invaluable.

@andicized

Жыл бұрын

Mind blowing I was looking for talks on recovery “God Grant me the the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference. This came on.

@transformationproject3583

Жыл бұрын

That's terrible im sorry. In a way im glad I never had kids. On the other hand perhaps id be further along because id have the pressure to support them. While no kids, I have gone thru what you are. A couple times. Only thing i ever found to help was keeping my debt and payments low as now im always expecting to get screwed. Im always thinking ill do plan B if A fails and vice versa. I try to not let it bother me but id lie if I said it didn't.

@queensun6059

Жыл бұрын

👸got laid off too. was crushed but it became one of the best things that ever happened to me. i regret 😪worrying, not letting go & not trusting the universe. no matter what happens: its a wonderful life ✨️ like the famous xmas 🎬movie shows us🤷.

@matthebert007

11 ай бұрын

I got laid off 5 times. 3 times of which, my wife was pregnant, and one of the times I was in the process of buying a new house

@transformationproject3583

11 ай бұрын

@@matthebert007 You just cant trust employers. then most of us will never be business owners. I dont know, just another day. My record is getting laid off 7x in less than a year by the same employer. It didn't end well cause i finally lost my cool. I wont give details lets just say I wont be rehired lol.

Im 60, if i could tell my younger self anything it would be don't worry. Thing is, my anxiety, and most people i know, have it worse now than ever. Its over silly stuff, it's almost like theres something in the water. Ive done therapy, councilling, and i resent the amount of time ive wasted, and continue to waste, feeling like this. I really dont have a stressfull life, i meditate, which eases it, but it is a pointless human feeling. Glad you enjoyed your visit here in England.

@jakemackenzie6550

Жыл бұрын

That something in the water comment, I agree. Suspect it could be the development of technology, smart phones and social media. A constant reminder of everything going on in the world, for over thinkers its not a good combination.

@fargranhammerheart

10 ай бұрын

It's definitely the internet/social media. There is too much information and opinions and it's spread too fast. It all festers in the imagination but once you go out in nature, or even just outside and detox from technology for even less than 24 hours you can start to feel better and you start to care less. My experience anyway

@spiritussublime

3 ай бұрын

It's watching the news a lot also.

I saw a homeless guy a couple weeks ago wearing a hoodie that said "YOUR ANXIETY IS LYING TO YOU." It blew my mind. Whenever the worry-gears start to turn I think of this expression

@11dra1

Ай бұрын

I like this. Thank you.

I don’t know how this appeared in my feed but I really needed this. Struggling with managing my emotions while raising three little ones and the stress of work and life. Thank you.

@dawna4185

Жыл бұрын

ya, the rat race ensures this struggle continues to keep CEO's rich.....it's a trap

@nerelada3963

Жыл бұрын

Keep going buddy

Listening to you, I realize I am a born stoic, but lost it. Rediscovering and integrating this philosophy in my life right now. Thank you. ❤

The power of Stoicism lies in the understanding that we don't control what happens to us, but we control how we respond to it. As Ryan Holiday beautifully articulated in this video, we have the opportunity to practice virtues like courage, temperance, justice, and wisdom in the face of life's challenges. By focusing on what's within our control and letting go of our need to have an opinion on everything, we can cultivate inner peace and resilience. In today's world of constant stress and anxiety, these Stoic teachings can serve as a compass for us to navigate through uncertainty and find tranquility within ourselves. Let's continue to learn, practice, and share these timeless principles to create a more mindful and resilient society.

@aarontours

Жыл бұрын

The problem I have with this idea of "control" is that using that word simplifies and misrepresents how the world works. No, we don't have "control" over much of anything, but we have a ton of INFLUENCE. Of course you can't "control" how people treat you, or if you develop cancer randomly, but you very well have a lot of influence over those things. Developing good relationships is a skill, a healthy lifestyle is a skill, and those skills (efforts) exert enormous influence on outcomes. Furthermore, it is very misleading to say we "control" our minds/reactions. Ask any therapist or psychologist about how outgunned the conscious mind is compared to the unconscious drivers of our thoughts and behaviors. Stoicism (like most philosophies and religious doctrines) seems to suffer from a sampling/publication bias: the people who get good results from it self-select to publish, evangelize, blog, etc.

@jamiewatts333

Жыл бұрын

Already posted this, but putting aside what this video specifically addresses, it can sometimes be ignorant and degrading to victims (especially in cases of rape) to enforce the idea that painful anger or despair is ALWAYS a choice. Trauma can be extremely complicated, and therapy doesn't always work. Furthermore, justice systems are mainly a social construct that can degrade and humiliate innocent victims and empower tormentors, a classic example being rejected evidence, corruption, and victim-blaming in rape cases. Even if a victim gets 'justice', petty compensation can't fix permanent injury or revive the dead - true justice is mainly a fantasy. It's not enough to simply 'glorify' stoic virtues and then promote attitudes that psychology victimize survivors of broken systems who don't conform to that mindset. People often try to simplify or belittle the pain of others out of a deep-rooted fear or misunderstanding of it.

@bkorodi1797

11 ай бұрын

We don't control anything, there is no free will. Our responses to events are based upon our genetics and and the life experiences we had before.

@bradfisher407

10 ай бұрын

Great share.

"He who suffers before is necessary, suffers more than is necessary". Seneca is the man. He just described my life in one sentence 😂. Thank you for these videos. I have subscribed to your channel and hopefully, some of these teachings will help me overcome my anxiety.

A big problem with life is that bad people work very very hard at finding new and worse ways to be bad people … meanwhile good people aren’t even aware that those thoughts exist .. and they aren’t prepared when wild animals act wild 💔

@Svjx

25 күн бұрын

Wow, so true! Thanks for this.

I believe this entirely. I live my life by these principles.

I have a trigger temper for things that are not fair. I have learned to hold it in to think it over. I am to the stage that I have acted to heavily protect myself from anything affecting me. There is no one or anything I can't walk away from.

Man, my mindset is a rollercoaster ride. I'm capable of such highs but such lows and I have no idea how I'll feel the next day. I come back to meditation and mindfulness at times and find some relief but routine and self discipline is something I've lost grasp of, it's like my energy has been drained by a vampire and I'm left snappy and skittish. I think loneliness amplifies my negative feelings, it's hard to stay positive.

As someone who's business just crashed, I really appreciate this video. It's strange how I'm not overly upset, because I can let go and start anew. Love the newsletter, too! TYSVM from the bottom of my heart.

@billyflanagan9657

Жыл бұрын

I'll pray for you

@hello-gx6oi

4 ай бұрын

Just as what Zeno did when he lost his goods

What a great video, I'm just learning about stoicism and I'm loving it. Thanks for what you do.

"We must see to it as nothing takes us by surprise. Well, I don’t know what’s going to happen, but I do know what’s capable of happening - and none of this will give rise to any protest on my part. I’m ready for everything." - Seneca The idea of premeditatio malorum helped me a lot to overcome unnecessary worry, especially about the opinions of others. It helped me to overcome my fear and start my youtube channel about philosophy! Thanks Ryan for this video!:)

Needed this today. Been a worry-filled week for me. This made it a little better.

There’s an old saying that Life is 10% What Happens to You, and 90% How You React to It.

@rosebud1958

7 ай бұрын

I’ve heard it very good saying❤💪😊

Excellent point about how hobbies are so necessary to enable rest in the mind. ❤

I’ve been struggling with feeling overwhelmed by the crowd of people that surrounds me. It only seems to get busier and more congested. I’ve been so negative about it. Thanks for this, it truly is needed right now.

Thank you. Don’t stop. Keep preaching the word.

You're so young to be so wise! Thank you for helping others! ❤

Cheers to taking our power back. ❤

Loved all the wisdom here and the daily emails help in a world of constant noise. I need to focus on stoicism more.

He who suffers before it is necessary, suffers more than is necessary

This is the best and most wonderful video I have seen on this platform in a while. Thank you! People always say, "how bad things are in the world, their life, the country," and I always tell them and myself that it has always been this way but a different time period, a different "problem" the country is facing, etc... what is important is your health, family, etc.. I try to focus on my family, loved ones, and myself, not what everyone else is or wants or does! I can't wait to watch more of your videos has a daily reminder 💓 😊

I’m am so so so so so so grateful for you Ryan Holiday! Thank you for being the man you are and for working so hard to teach peace and understanding while being human! 😂🎉❤ You encourage me and you make sense, somehow you ARE my friend. Thank you for teaching stoicism. ❤

Hi Ryan, I watch your videos regularly and I just want to thank you for this content! It always really resonates with me. Also, I really love how you film and edit your videos!😊

Ryan, thank you for these video's, e-mails and the books you wrote (and continue to write). I'm at a point in my life where I'm finally ready to start changing stuff I don't like about me. Your books and e-mails have been the gateway to my growth. Thank you.

Many thanks, Ryan. “Discipline is Destiny” has been my dose of daily pep talk to march consciously ahead when I don’t f*cking feel like it. Much gratitude. Keep writing 🙏🏼

I've been interested in stoicism for a while now, and this video gave me a fresh perspective on the topic. The idea of practicing self-discipline and rational thinking is so valuable in a world that often feels chaotic and overwhelming.

Perfect Timing....Thanks for being the ointment to my temporary scars & adding fuel to my fire 🏆

"Wherever you go, there you are". Yes, but changing your environment, or even some Feng shui at home, can work wonders

This is really good, this is the same thought process I have taught my children. I was told at a young age that "the outcome of your life is only 10% of what happens to you, and 90% how you react to it" I still tell my grown kids this from time to time. My mom has also always told me "you choose how you are going to behave, no matter what happens you can choose to put a smile on your face and press on. Good message, stay positive and smile no matter what and it can be contagious to others.

@montesa9136

11 ай бұрын

@DrewJ79 - LOL! Try that when you suffer from major Depression !!!

@DrewJ79

11 ай бұрын

@@montesa9136 I'm sure there are exceptions as there always is, but this logic applies for most people.

Though all your videos have value, this one is particularly good, Ryan. And it feels like you personally have crossed some sort of inner threshold. You feel more relaxed, more settled into yourself... something's a little different... and better. The journey continues. Thanks for including us on your journey and sharing your insights and understandings. You're doing good in the world and helping to make it a better place.

@whybotherha1021

Жыл бұрын

I know about him during mid covid era..and I bought his book. Really change my life.. and wherever i lost.. i will keep coming back here.. stoicism is epic..

Everytime I listen to your channel, I receive reminders, validation and a smile.

If we don’t worry we’re unprepared for the outcome. Worrying is good but over worrying or over thing is the beginning of anxiety

stoicism is the way

This is a life changing video and what I desperately needed right now. I sincerely thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏🏻

This video do I need to see again soon, as a reminder to where to keep my focus on. Its gold!

Thank you Ryan! Always appreciated by me.

This is part of the reason that ive given up all social media except KZread. And that might be on its way out as well. Being present is an awesome skill as it precedes focus and discipline thru lots of types of situations. Still working, but being able to "let go" and be present is life-changing

@glow1815

3 ай бұрын

Same here. FB or IG for me can cause stress. I do KZread only. Makes a huge difference in my day to day life.

I truly appreciate your videos. 😊

Thank you Ryan 🙏🏻 definitely what I needed today.

Really needed this! Thank you!!❤

Thank you for bringing this to us and making our lives better

You popped in my feed for a reason 💜

This is me today. I needed this video.

Nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so

@rosebud1958

7 ай бұрын

I love that. “whoever wrote it. It’s awesome if you did I don’t know it’s wonderful thank you.

@strangesightsinthesky

Ай бұрын

@@rosebud1958 Shakespeare.

@rosebud1958

Ай бұрын

@@strangesightsinthesky thank you kindly🙏☮️🌹❤️

Fantastic job all around!!!! This is a gift. Thank you

these videos have helped me get through a lot, thank you. ❤️

THANK YOU❤

Ryan, enthusiasm is not discussed, thank you for yours🙏🏼

So grateful to find you!

These truths hit me so hard it came out of my eyes

This video really helps me on what im going through with my life recently thanks man

Great job! Every facet of these videos is well stated, clear to understand, nice visually, and downright helpful.

Ryan, I watch a lot of your stuff. This was one your best compendiums of wisdom sharing I've seen. Thank you.

I really appreciate this!!! Thank you 💞

Perfect timing. I needed this.

Just started getting my daily stoic emails today, and I loved the introduction to stoicism. I definitely want to take a deeper dive gonna be buying some books this weekend 🤞🏽

I gonna play this on repeat today. I need these reminders. I always try to be positive, stoic and better but sometimes, there are things that happen in life that just so bad and uncontrollable. And now, my anxiety and negativity is eating me. Hearing these wisdom, I felt better. Thank you for this.

I really needed that! Thank you Ryan

This video needs a billion views. We’d all benefit.

This was great and it was very helpful! Thank you and I think I will sign up for your daily email! Thank you again!

Life changing! Thank you!

I so needed this today, thanks Ryan 🎯

Let me get this straight. I’m gonna listen to this kid. Tell me about anxiety and pressure. Wow.

I love this!

This was amazing. I plan on rewatching to let this sink in a bit more. I see some of these traits in myself already

Thank you so much for creating these awesome videos. So much good in them which has helped me navigate through this life. 🙏

Thank you for sharing such profound and inspiring content 🙏😌🌟

your videos have becomes more beautiful over the years. Well done and thank you!

I received my first Daily Stoic email today! Apropos to my life of synchronicity, it was absolutely relevant to a recent conversation and I sent the email to a friend. Fantastic ⚘🙏💕

I loved this video so much i needed to hear that again so won't forget that i have control over myself and i can be the change i wanna see in the world.. i also needed to remember that i can always retreat and find comfort within myself ♡ I'm gonna be happier if i lived in the moment and stopped letting external events change my emotions easily, but even those events are important for me to practice self discipline

Thank you for this video, I'm learning English with you and trying to understand how to live this life with less anxiety. It really helps!

I’m still new to Stoicism and there are good and bad days. I watched this on a bad day. Needed this. I watched this like game film and dissected the day. Can’t wait to journal tonight.

This is important! Many “productive” people look down on hobbies as “play” and a waste of time…as if we aren’t holistic beings.

You are a 💎 Gem in this world of Uselessness..🎉.. Please continue your good work, we need you 💪

Thank you for showing up in my feed. 🌟

Thank you for making this life changing tool so accessible 💙

Hey Ryan I really needed a video like this right now in the moment. Thank you.

This is my favorite video from you EVER!

You are such a huge help! I watch your videos all the time and it has helped me so much! I even had one of your books and didn’t realize it 😅 keep doing this please! 🤘🏻

Thanks again, man. That was a great reminder of the many things I had let slip by.

This came on my feed when I needed it the most.